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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah so last night didn’t go so well, in fact it was shit!
Started off I picked him up first before picking up another two colleagues.
Whilst alone and after he said I looked nice I complimented his shirt and immediately said I’m so attracted to you, then quickly changed the subject. Reason I said that then at the start of the night was so he knew I was attracted to him and later when he sees other guys coming on to me and me turning them down he wouldn’t think shit they’re better looking and she turned them down so I’m not gonna approach, or if I engaged in any flirting with guys, he would know that ultimately it was him I was interested in.
Anyway walking to the first venue and couldn’t have asked for a better arrival, guys outside the bar were leering and making comments towards me like fucking hell, think one person said you are gonna pull tonight, the guy I fancy was just laughing and steering me inside. Like I was in tight leather trousers and had a white almost see through lace vest on and my boobs looked amazing so naturally get attention.
The bollock came when he had been chatting to one of the guys that’s been off for 3 weeks, I later went for a fag with that guy and he said guy I fancy had just told him that he’d recently started seeing someone, not dating someone, seeing someone!
That was it then I was in a stinking mood. He was trying to talk to me but I wasn’t really engaging, he said to come outside so we did and I said that **** told me he was seeing someone and he said well it’s really really new and I jokingly said my heart is broken! He said shut up, no I said yeah, how many months have you known I fancied you and he was like what, I know we flirted a lot but I just saw work people as friends, I didn’t know you felt like that. I said yeah well doesn’t matter now I’ll find someone else. He said yeah you won’t struggle to pull, I said yeah I know!
Night went on and we went to a different bar, he said to one of the other girls that I’m seducing him with my boobs, then later said to her I can’t stop staring her she looks fantastic (she told me this at the end of the night) We were dancing in our group and his were a bit wandering over me, and was holding my face to talk in my ear and just mega flirty. We met up with another centre that was on their works do and another pt who was his friend seemed to take a shine to me, after we left guy I fancy showed me a text on his phone that his friend had sent saying about me, she is fucking hot.
Was just more of the touchy feely holding my hand to walk to the different bars then he went to meet up with his brother and friends and me and two others went home cos we’re working today.
The other girl told me the comments he said about my boobs so I messaged him saying ***** told me you liked my boobs so have a picture tire cos you won’t see them in the flesh. I sent him my profile picture and he messaged back a couple hours later wow what I would do to have you in my bed right now with the  heart eye emoji, and that is all I have to report! I messaged back saying aww I would have had a spoon with you as well but that was sent at 7am and don’t think he’s woke to see it.
That is everything. I feel rather deflated, I suppose I have to leave now and try dating sites but I also want to have a good Xmas and don’t really want to be stressing about dating politics, texting is he gonna text me back kind of bollocks so I’d like to leave it till the new year and extend my stay till after Xmas. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi Annie.... Not commented on this before.... But that doesn't all sound as bad as you might feel
1. He's certainly interested and thinks you're hot
2. He's talking to other people about you
3. You didn't do anything daft after hearing he was seeing someone.... By the way... Us blokes.... The dating/seeing thing... We don't really ever know when the transition happens. He might have just been saying he was seeing someone to feel better about himself
Keep upbeat and maybe grab a cheeky Latte with him Monday to talk it over x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s time to move on.
What’s for lunch?
Are you cooking a roast?
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Nah I’m working today so going to my nans for one of hers when I finish!
Definitely time to move on. Can’t believe he said he didn’t know till last night that I was properly interested in him. It was bloody obvious!! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Move on Op. In the nicest way, you're going to be breadcrumbed for a bit because you're hot but that's about it.
And stay on fab if you want to - give yourself a fair chance at dating though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s time to move on.
What’s for lunch?
Are you cooking a roast?
Nah I’m working today so going to my nans for one of hers when I finish!
Definitely time to move on. Can’t believe he said he didn’t know till last night that I was properly interested in him. It was bloody obvious!! "
Again.... Sorry to use the excuse but us blokes sometimes need it written down and then tattooed on us to notice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don’t really want any comments about there still being hope with this dude, unless it can be backed up with actual psychological experience of men and what goes on in their minds!
Comments about drawing a line I think I need to hear. |
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"It’s time to move on.
What’s for lunch?
Are you cooking a roast?
Nah I’m working today so going to my nans for one of hers when I finish!
Definitely time to move on. Can’t believe he said he didn’t know till last night that I was properly interested in him. It was bloody obvious!!
Again.... Sorry to use the excuse but us blokes sometimes need it written down and then tattooed on us to notice "
Are you serious? If you can't spot the signs of a woman being into you. You really do have a problem. Had to stop seeing a FWB because I could tell she was developing feelings. Harsh of me but I'm just not looking for a relationship and think it's wrong to play with people's feelings. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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Your boobs are amazing but you bought them, I know you're proud of them and you're flattered that others like them but a guy that wants you because you have great tits isn't the guy you want.
It's a shame no one was texting to say how amazing your personality is, or how they were captivated by your smile or, lost in your eyes; all of these things are you and not bought and paid for.
And, finally, you sound stunning, this guy may not of aloud himself to be that big-headed to think that you'd be interested in him. Whilst we might notice a woman's boobs, guys often can't see what's staring them in the face. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s time to move on.
What’s for lunch?
Are you cooking a roast?
Nah I’m working today so going to my nans for one of hers when I finish!
Definitely time to move on. Can’t believe he said he didn’t know till last night that I was properly interested in him. It was bloody obvious!! "
Nothing unsaid is ever obvious, I have been known to wonder if xxxxx fancies me when she couldn't answer because she had my cock in her mouth. Men are stupid, they don't pick up on hints EVER! |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t really want any comments about there still being hope with this dude, unless it can be backed up with actual psychological experience of men and what goes on in their minds!
Comments about drawing a line I think I need to hear. "
To me that sounds exactly like the start of things!
Don't take his lack of immediate lack of action as a negative, people take time to process these things.
See how things go and don't rush! In the non fab world things can build slowly and please try not to over think this.
He was talking about you to other people, obviously wanting you to know. He may well have thought that you were out of his league.
The important thing now is that he knows. If he wants something to happen he will act
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"It’s time to move on.
What’s for lunch?
Are you cooking a roast?
Nah I’m working today so going to my nans for one of hers when I finish!
Definitely time to move on. Can’t believe he said he didn’t know till last night that I was properly interested in him. It was bloody obvious!!
Nothing unsaid is ever obvious, I have been known to wonder if xxxxx fancies me when she couldn't answer because she had my cock in her mouth. Men are stupid, they don't pick up on hints EVER!"
Very very true! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you are over thinking things. I would just take a step back and just see how things develop . You can drive yourself crazy thinking ." Did this mean this or did this mean that " . Good luck hun xx |
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Im a bit confused but it don't take much lol
You told him he liked you but he told done one else then you he'd started seeing someone (I think seeing is less than dating personally) but then spent the evening flirting with you and telling people you were seducing him?
The last bit does sound like he only waned you there for sex though.
But it's out there, I'd move on and make it clear you have. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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On the previous threads I'd said business and pleasure are a bad combination.
You had your chance to say something months ago and fannied about...you told him last night after you knew he'd started seeing someone else.,everything is third hand he said she said ..
I don't know your motives for sending him pictures of you topless later in the evening or his for replying.
Two choices
Move on.
Or
Hang around and hope he splits up with his new lady.
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I wish I could post a meme of the Predator  
I'm kidding, I'm guessing he's likely battling a dilemma in his mind now between you and the other girl, you can wait out and see what he decides, or start looking elsewhere. Hard to do when you've got feelings going on though. |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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Annie he sounds like a dick.
You laid your cards on the table, all this talk about blokes being thick and not getting the flirty shit. Haway man, you’ve told him out right plenty times. And last night you couldn’t have been any clearer.
It wasn’t happening.
When he’s lying in bed alone with the hang over horn and sees your tits from a safe distance he’s brave. He’d be like all those other dicks on here who are full of talk and then bottle it at the last minute.
You’re worth more than that, time to spin on your heels and show him your arse this time girl.
Good luck to you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a girl I fancied told me they fancied me then I wouldn’t have let anyone else have an opportunity to try!!
Then if said girl then sends me pics of her boobs then you wouldn’t have been sleeping alone.
Move on....he just likes the attention. |
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Personally I think if someone isn't going to put in effort so I'm not in any doubt whatsoever where I stand, it's not a good start to a relationship even if you do start dating.
You told him to his face that you fancy him. The only thing you know for sure is he likes your boobs, wants to shag you and is seeing someone.
Walk away. Unless you believe that you deserve someone who is all in and has no doubts that it's you that he wants, you will keep being swayed by the half in kind.
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"It’s time to move on.
What’s for lunch?
Are you cooking a roast?
Nah I’m working today so going to my nans for one of hers when I finish!
Definitely time to move on. Can’t believe he said he didn’t know till last night that I was properly interested in him. It was bloody obvious!!
Again.... Sorry to use the excuse but us blokes sometimes need it written down and then tattooed on us to notice "
This is very true and now it's been made clear to him little light bulbs may well be going off in his head....all is not lost. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know you, or the preceding saga. It reads me like you should have put yourself on a plate for him a loooong time ago.
He's been reading confusing messages and wondering what ifs, thought 'fuck it, I'll keep it simple for myself' |
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I can see both sides - he could be shy/not confident enough (but is that really the guy for you anyway?) or he could be a bit of a prat who's just playing games.
Either way, concentrate on a dating site now and let him pursue you if he really does want something to happen. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"God what an anti climax, for you and us!!! I think it's time you moved on now, I can't believe he wasn't aware that you liked him after all this time. He's either thick or well, I don't know!
I don't think sending him pics of you was a good move because now if he does ask you for a drink or whatever you'll be thinking he's only doing it because my boobs are so amazing, not a great basis for the start of a relationship!
What have you learnt from this? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are never any guarantees. Sometimes the timing isn't right, and we just get on with our lives. And that's all we can do.
Despite being a guy I have no better answers than anyone else. Because there are no such thing as crystal balls.
I offer only one thought, if it helps...
Never close any door.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will say this as politely as possible....
The more you chase this guy... the less respect he will have for you...
He already told you he doesn’t mix business with pleasure but you sent him a picture of your tits...
Be prepared for every male co worker to see that pic also... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t really want any comments about there still being hope with this dude, unless it can be backed up with actual psychological experience of men and what goes on in their minds!
Comments about drawing a line I think I need to hear. "
If he wants you it will be for sex only. He knows you fancy him and thinks you're a sure thing (as you sent him a pic of your boobs) so will want to see them in the flesh.
Treat him as you would any other work colleague and write him off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am fairly confident that if he had been dating you and someone had made a move on him, you would have flattened the village.
The fact he didn't fall into your carefully planned trap is much kudos to him. If you had your wicked way with him, you'd feel like shit finding out later that he was dating. He would also have been yet another arsehole man who took what he wanted from you.
As men are often told on here, move on. |
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"I will say this as politely as possible....
The more you chase this guy... the less respect he will have for you...
He already told you he doesn’t mix business with pleasure but you sent him a picture of your tits...
Be prepared for every male co worker to see that pic also..."
Ouch - yes I'm not sure that was wise  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gonna miss your fab tits and fun forum posts, if you go.
But if you do please try in future to keep in mind that men are simple creatures who like to flirt a bit, but if that flirtation doesn't get to first kiss in about an hour, then you become a friend who plays at flirting, especially if the situation is in the workplace.
Waiting months for 'the right time' is always a mistake.
Men are stupid! Fact. We will almost never respond to a hint, if he doesn't invite you out then invite him.
Whatever you do, I wish you the best of luck and happiness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bugger! Didn't mean to delete.
Sounds like he's had loads of opportunity to get with you, bloody fool he is! Just think of all the available single males at your feet now.
And you can always fantasise about pushing his g/f off a cliff!
But it may not last, and you may get your chance.
My fwb found a g/f. part pleased, part gutted, part concern because I knew her, and knew she was a psycho, couldn't tell him because how much of a cunt would I look. Anyhoo, lasted a month before he ditched her, showed me the messages and demands,I was like I wanted to tell you but didn't want be that bitter bitch, tbh he said coming from anyone else, I'd think that, not from you though.
Then he said it was doomed from the moment they had sex and he couldn't stop thinking of me, then he said he would compare her to me in other ways.
Now he's back in my bed, and we are becoming official after xmas at some point, I know some people will be shocked, but oh. Well.
Anyhoo, your in his head, it won't be her face he sees when he's balls deep in her believe me
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Anyway walking to the first venue and couldn’t have asked for a better arrival, guys outside the bar were leering and making comments towards me like fucking hell, think one person said you are gonna pull tonight, the guy I fancy was just laughing and steering me inside. Like I was in tight leather trousers and had a white almost see through lace vest on and my boobs looked amazing so naturally get attention.
Hi Annie!
Sorry to say but this is the paragraph that immediately got my attention!
If I was next to the ONE guy I really wanted and fancied, I wouldn’t see it as an advantage that other guys were let letching and seeing me as a sex conquest!
I think, often wrongly, guys put women they find attractive into two categories - those they want to date and those they want to shag! I think you’ve firmly put yourself in the second category with him - and you cemented that by sending a picture of your tits!
We all know (and joke) that a lot of guys date/have relationships with ‘good’ girls (those who dress and act a little more discreetly) - who often turn out to be a disappointment in the bedroom - and then end up on here looking for excitement! Frankly - they don’t want to be constantly worrying about all their mates and every other guy trying to get into their girlfriends knickers!
We know you don’t ‘sleep around ‘ as we’ve known you for years - but imo the way you dressed and acted didn’t suggest that - so every guy there saw you as a potential fuck - not a potential girlfriend!
I know it’s shit - I know it’s unfair - but imo it’s the way things still are - even in 2018!
It’s for this reason that I have two very distinctive looks/wardrobes - my ‘real world’ look/wardrobe where I try (and fail) to look attractive but sophisticated - and my fab/swinging club wardrobe which tends to be all out sex siren (as I WANT to sexually attract guys then!)
The world of real world attraction/dating/seduction/attraction politics is a fucking stupid world my lovely - but I think you may need to learn to play it a little better if you want that special guy who’ll love you as well as wanting to shag your brains out! |
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"Anyway walking to the first venue and couldn’t have asked for a better arrival, guys outside the bar were leering and making comments towards me like fucking hell, think one person said you are gonna pull tonight, the guy I fancy was just laughing and steering me inside. Like I was in tight leather trousers and had a white almost see through lace vest on and my boobs looked amazing so naturally get attention.
Hi Annie!
Sorry to say but this is the paragraph that immediately got my attention!
If I was next to the ONE guy I really wanted and fancied, I wouldn’t see it as an advantage that other guys were let letching and seeing me as a sex conquest!
I think, often wrongly, guys put women they find attractive into two categories - those they want to date and those they want to shag! I think you’ve firmly put yourself in the second category with him - and you cemented that by sending a picture of your tits!
We all know (and joke) that a lot of guys date/have relationships with ‘good’ girls (those who dress and act a little more discreetly) - who often turn out to be a disappointment in the bedroom - and then end up on here looking for excitement! Frankly - they don’t want to be constantly worrying about all their mates and every other guy trying to get into their girlfriends knickers!
We know you don’t ‘sleep around ‘ as we’ve known you for years - but imo the way you dressed and acted didn’t suggest that - so every guy there saw you as a potential fuck - not a potential girlfriend!
I know it’s shit - I know it’s unfair - but imo it’s the way things still are - even in 2018!
It’s for this reason that I have two very distinctive looks/wardrobes - my ‘real world’ look/wardrobe where I try (and fail) to look attractive but sophisticated - and my fab/swinging club wardrobe which tends to be all out sex siren (as I WANT to sexually attract guys then!)
The world of real world attraction/dating/seduction/attraction politics is a fucking stupid world my lovely - but I think you may need to learn to play it a little better if you want that special guy who’ll love you as well as wanting to shag your brains out! "
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So to summarise, you fancied the guy but instead of making a move you left it for months and in the meantime he met someone else.
Lesson learned for the next time.
Also fair play to the guy for a) telling you he had met someone else and b) not trying it on with you anyway.
Onwards and upwards.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you still like him, sounds like he's made it clear theo their is nothing serious. Fight for it, unless you've got a shit personality, I don't know you sadly, then I can't see how you won't win. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Annie are you okay, are you okay Annie ?
(Apologies if someone has done this further up the thread, but I’m not scrolling through to check)
No, but I've now got the song stuck in my head!"
My work is done. |
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Ms Wilkes, I guess it was half a success and half not. You know for sure he finds you attractive. You also know for sure that he probably doesn’t see you as girlfriend material. It’s possible that you’re ‘too hot’ for him.
Stay on Fab. It’s a good place as any to scream into the ether plus I would really miss your stories and your take on life.
Try to calm down the obsessing about him. It’s likely to not go much further than the bedroom. Chalk this one up to experience and show your cards a little earlier next time xx |
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"Anyway walking to the first venue and couldn’t have asked for a better arrival, guys outside the bar were leering and making comments towards me like fucking hell, think one person said you are gonna pull tonight, the guy I fancy was just laughing and steering me inside. Like I was in tight leather trousers and had a white almost see through lace vest on and my boobs looked amazing so naturally get attention.
Hi Annie!
Sorry to say but this is the paragraph that immediately got my attention!
If I was next to the ONE guy I really wanted and fancied, I wouldn’t see it as an advantage that other guys were let letching and seeing me as a sex conquest!
I think, often wrongly, guys put women they find attractive into two categories - those they want to date and those they want to shag! I think you’ve firmly put yourself in the second category with him - and you cemented that by sending a picture of your tits!
We all know (and joke) that a lot of guys date/have relationships with ‘good’ girls (those who dress and act a little more discreetly) - who often turn out to be a disappointment in the bedroom - and then end up on here looking for excitement! Frankly - they don’t want to be constantly worrying about all their mates and every other guy trying to get into their girlfriends knickers!
We know you don’t ‘sleep around ‘ as we’ve known you for years - but imo the way you dressed and acted didn’t suggest that - so every guy there saw you as a potential fuck - not a potential girlfriend!
I know it’s shit - I know it’s unfair - but imo it’s the way things still are - even in 2018!
It’s for this reason that I have two very distinctive looks/wardrobes - my ‘real world’ look/wardrobe where I try (and fail) to look attractive but sophisticated - and my fab/swinging club wardrobe which tends to be all out sex siren (as I WANT to sexually attract guys then!)
The world of real world attraction/dating/seduction/attraction politics is a fucking stupid world my lovely - but I think you may need to learn to play it a little better if you want that special guy who’ll love you as well as wanting to shag your brains out! "
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"Anyway walking to the first venue and couldn’t have asked for a better arrival, guys outside the bar were leering and making comments towards me like fucking hell, think one person said you are gonna pull tonight, the guy I fancy was just laughing and steering me inside. Like I was in tight leather trousers and had a white almost see through lace vest on and my boobs looked amazing so naturally get attention.
Hi Annie!
Sorry to say but this is the paragraph that immediately got my attention!
If I was next to the ONE guy I really wanted and fancied, I wouldn’t see it as an advantage that other guys were let letching and seeing me as a sex conquest!
I think, often wrongly, guys put women they find attractive into two categories - those they want to date and those they want to shag! I think you’ve firmly put yourself in the second category with him - and you cemented that by sending a picture of your tits!
We all know (and joke) that a lot of guys date/have relationships with ‘good’ girls (those who dress and act a little more discreetly) - who often turn out to be a disappointment in the bedroom - and then end up on here looking for excitement! Frankly - they don’t want to be constantly worrying about all their mates and every other guy trying to get into their girlfriends knickers!
We know you don’t ‘sleep around ‘ as we’ve known you for years - but imo the way you dressed and acted didn’t suggest that - so every guy there saw you as a potential fuck - not a potential girlfriend!
I know it’s shit - I know it’s unfair - but imo it’s the way things still are - even in 2018!
It’s for this reason that I have two very distinctive looks/wardrobes - my ‘real world’ look/wardrobe where I try (and fail) to look attractive but sophisticated - and my fab/swinging club wardrobe which tends to be all out sex siren (as I WANT to sexually attract guys then!)
The world of real world attraction/dating/seduction/attraction politics is a fucking stupid world my lovely - but I think you may need to learn to play it a little better if you want that special guy who’ll love you as well as wanting to shag your brains out!
Popcorn time....."
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"Anyway walking to the first venue and couldn’t have asked for a better arrival, guys outside the bar were leering and making comments towards me like fucking hell, think one person said you are gonna pull tonight, the guy I fancy was just laughing and steering me inside. Like I was in tight leather trousers and had a white almost see through lace vest on and my boobs looked amazing so naturally get attention.
Hi Annie!
Sorry to say but this is the paragraph that immediately got my attention!
If I was next to the ONE guy I really wanted and fancied, I wouldn’t see it as an advantage that other guys were let letching and seeing me as a sex conquest!
I think, often wrongly, guys put women they find attractive into two categories - those they want to date and those they want to shag! I think you’ve firmly put yourself in the second category with him - and you cemented that by sending a picture of your tits!
We all know (and joke) that a lot of guys date/have relationships with ‘good’ girls (those who dress and act a little more discreetly) - who often turn out to be a disappointment in the bedroom - and then end up on here looking for excitement! Frankly - they don’t want to be constantly worrying about all their mates and every other guy trying to get into their girlfriends knickers!
We know you don’t ‘sleep around ‘ as we’ve known you for years - but imo the way you dressed and acted didn’t suggest that - so every guy there saw you as a potential fuck - not a potential girlfriend!
I know it’s shit - I know it’s unfair - but imo it’s the way things still are - even in 2018!
It’s for this reason that I have two very distinctive looks/wardrobes - my ‘real world’ look/wardrobe where I try (and fail) to look attractive but sophisticated - and my fab/swinging club wardrobe which tends to be all out sex siren (as I WANT to sexually attract guys then!)
The world of real world attraction/dating/seduction/attraction politics is a fucking stupid world my lovely - but I think you may need to learn to play it a little better if you want that special guy who’ll love you as well as wanting to shag your brains out!
Popcorn time.....
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"Anyway walking to the first venue and couldn’t have asked for a better arrival, guys outside the bar were leering and making comments towards me like fucking hell, think one person said you are gonna pull tonight, the guy I fancy was just laughing and steering me inside. Like I was in tight leather trousers and had a white almost see through lace vest on and my boobs looked amazing so naturally get attention.
Hi Annie!
Sorry to say but this is the paragraph that immediately got my attention!
If I was next to the ONE guy I really wanted and fancied, I wouldn’t see it as an advantage that other guys were let letching and seeing me as a sex conquest!
I think, often wrongly, guys put women they find attractive into two categories - those they want to date and those they want to shag! I think you’ve firmly put yourself in the second category with him - and you cemented that by sending a picture of your tits!
We all know (and joke) that a lot of guys date/have relationships with ‘good’ girls (those who dress and act a little more discreetly) - who often turn out to be a disappointment in the bedroom - and then end up on here looking for excitement! Frankly - they don’t want to be constantly worrying about all their mates and every other guy trying to get into their girlfriends knickers!
We know you don’t ‘sleep around ‘ as we’ve known you for years - but imo the way you dressed and acted didn’t suggest that - so every guy there saw you as a potential fuck - not a potential girlfriend!
I know it’s shit - I know it’s unfair - but imo it’s the way things still are - even in 2018!
It’s for this reason that I have two very distinctive looks/wardrobes - my ‘real world’ look/wardrobe where I try (and fail) to look attractive but sophisticated - and my fab/swinging club wardrobe which tends to be all out sex siren (as I WANT to sexually attract guys then!)
The world of real world attraction/dating/seduction/attraction politics is a fucking stupid world my lovely - but I think you may need to learn to play it a little better if you want that special guy who’ll love you as well as wanting to shag your brains out! "
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"Anyway walking to the first venue and couldn’t have asked for a better arrival, guys outside the bar were leering and making comments towards me like fucking hell, think one person said you are gonna pull tonight, the guy I fancy was just laughing and steering me inside. Like I was in tight leather trousers and had a white almost see through lace vest on and my boobs looked amazing so naturally get attention.
Hi Annie!
Sorry to say but this is the paragraph that immediately got my attention!
If I was next to the ONE guy I really wanted and fancied, I wouldn’t see it as an advantage that other guys were let letching and seeing me as a sex conquest!
I think, often wrongly, guys put women they find attractive into two categories - those they want to date and those they want to shag! I think you’ve firmly put yourself in the second category with him - and you cemented that by sending a picture of your tits!
We all know (and joke) that a lot of guys date/have relationships with ‘good’ girls (those who dress and act a little more discreetly) - who often turn out to be a disappointment in the bedroom - and then end up on here looking for excitement! Frankly - they don’t want to be constantly worrying about all their mates and every other guy trying to get into their girlfriends knickers!
We know you don’t ‘sleep around ‘ as we’ve known you for years - but imo the way you dressed and acted didn’t suggest that - so every guy there saw you as a potential fuck - not a potential girlfriend!
I know it’s shit - I know it’s unfair - but imo it’s the way things still are - even in 2018!
It’s for this reason that I have two very distinctive looks/wardrobes - my ‘real world’ look/wardrobe where I try (and fail) to look attractive but sophisticated - and my fab/swinging club wardrobe which tends to be all out sex siren (as I WANT to sexually attract guys then!)
The world of real world attraction/dating/seduction/attraction politics is a fucking stupid world my lovely - but I think you may need to learn to play it a little better if you want that special guy who’ll love you as well as wanting to shag your brains out!
Popcorn time.....
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No real reason as the reply was honest but people on here get very sensitive about things |
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"I don’t really want any comments about there still being hope with this dude, unless it can be backed up with actual psychological experience of men and what goes on in their minds!
Comments about drawing a line I think I need to hear. "
Draw it... Etch it... Do whatever you need to, but step away from your phone lady!! You've flirted with him... You've told him you think he's attractive... You've tarted yourself up and pretty much laid yourself on a platter for him, and he didn't bite. You've also forgotten that he's not a Fabber (who is accustomed to seeing or having naked pics thrust into his face on a daily basis), and you've sent him a pic of your tits. He will only ever see you as a sexual object now, so you can expect to be treated as such, and while he might give in and fuck you sometime, you've lost the higher ground and the ability to make him see you as a sweet, loving person. Draw a line under it, chalk it up as a mistake, try to get your interaction back to a respectful professional one, and just pray that (as someone previously suggested), he doesn't pass your photo around to the other blokes at the water cooler!!
How's that?? Is it the kind of thing you were hoping to hear? I think I may have been channelling my Mum at one point...  |
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"Your boobs are amazing but you bought them, I know you're proud of them and you're flattered that others like them but a guy that wants you because you have great tits isn't the guy you want.
It's a shame no one was texting to say how amazing your personality is, or how they were captivated by your smile or, lost in your eyes; all of these things are you and not bought and paid for.
And, finally, you sound stunning, this guy may not of aloud himself to be that big-headed to think that you'd be interested in him. Whilst we might notice a woman's boobs, guys often can't see what's staring them in the face."
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"I don’t really want any comments about there still being hope with this dude, unless it can be backed up with actual psychological experience of men and what goes on in their minds!
Comments about drawing a line I think I need to hear.
Draw it... Etch it... Do whatever you need to, but step away from your phone lady!! You've flirted with him... You've told him you think he's attractive... You've tarted yourself up and pretty much laid yourself on a platter for him, and he didn't bite. You've also forgotten that he's not a Fabber (who is accustomed to seeing or having naked pics thrust into his face on a daily basis), and you've sent him a pic of your tits. He will only ever see you as a sexual object now, so you can expect to be treated as such, and while he might give in and fuck you sometime, you've lost the higher ground and the ability to make him see you as a sweet, loving person. Draw a line under it, chalk it up as a mistake, try to get your interaction back to a respectful professional one, and just pray that (as someone previously suggested), he doesn't pass your photo around to the other blokes at the water cooler!!
How's that?? Is it the kind of thing you were hoping to hear? I think I may have been channelling my Mum at one point... "
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If you were going to tell him that you were attracted to him ( properly attracted ) then the staff 'do' is not the best time.
Any sensible woman wouldn't accept a come on from a work mate on a Xmas night out that involved drink.
You know ....... someone looking at and commenting on your boobs isn't really a special reserve.
I wish it had gone your way but you know what they say.
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Ok so damage control?
I’m not embarrassed that I said I was attracted to him. Neither about sending him a picture. Just wouldn’t want anyone else to know I’d sent them.
I’ll just front it out, I’ll just say I’m sorry I find you attractive, I’ll try not to in future. |
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"Ok so damage control?
I’m not embarrassed that I said I was attracted to him. Neither about sending him a picture. Just wouldn’t want anyone else to know I’d sent them.
I’ll just front it out, I’ll just say I’m sorry I find you attractive, I’ll try not to in future. "
Guess this shows the difference between fab and the real world, on here most of the blokes would drag their ballsack over 10 miles of broken glass just for the chance to hear you fart through a walkie talkie! |
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"Ok so damage control?
I’m not embarrassed that I said I was attracted to him. Neither about sending him a picture. Just wouldn’t want anyone else to know I’d sent them.
I’ll just front it out, I’ll just say I’m sorry I find you attractive, I’ll try not to in future. "
I would not say a thing, just smile, say good morning, and carry on as if nothing has happened. I think that is the consensus on what to do after office parties go astray anyway, I think most of us have been there at some point! |
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"Ok so damage control?
I’m not embarrassed that I said I was attracted to him. Neither about sending him a picture. Just wouldn’t want anyone else to know I’d sent them.
I’ll just front it out, I’ll just say I’m sorry I find you attractive, I’ll try not to in future.
Guess this shows the difference between fab and the real world, on here most of the blokes would drag their ballsack over 10 miles of broken glass just for the chance to hear you fart through a walkie talkie! "
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"Ok so damage control?
I’m not embarrassed that I said I was attracted to him. Neither about sending him a picture. Just wouldn’t want anyone else to know I’d sent them.
I’ll just front it out, I’ll just say I’m sorry I find you attractive, I’ll try not to in future. "
You don't have to say anything. You've done nothing to reproach yourself for.
Certainly don't say that last line.
Just get on with life like nothing happened. Cos really you know ...... it's happened a million times last night but just once to you x |
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"Annie he sounds like a dick.
You laid your cards on the table, all this talk about blokes being thick and not getting the flirty shit. Haway man, you’ve told him out right plenty times. And last night you couldn’t have been any clearer.
It wasn’t happening.
When he’s lying in bed alone with the hang over horn and sees your tits from a safe distance he’s brave. He’d be like all those other dicks on here who are full of talk and then bottle it at the last minute.
You’re worth more than that, time to spin on your heels and show him your arse this time girl.
Good luck to you
Lex"
He doesn't deserve you OP. He should like you for you, not for your great tits. |
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"Ok so damage control?
I’m not embarrassed that I said I was attracted to him. Neither about sending him a picture. Just wouldn’t want anyone else to know I’d sent them.
I’ll just front it out, I’ll just say I’m sorry I find you attractive, I’ll try not to in future. "
Did you say you sent him your profile pic off here? I'd be wary now. Like someone said, he could be showing all the men at work your pic. If one of them is on here your secret will be out and they'll know you're on Fab. Not sure if you're open about that.
If it was me I'd act as though nothing happened. No more flirting just be business like and friendly.
Glad you're staying a while longer. |
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"Ok so damage control?
I’m not embarrassed that I said I was attracted to him. Neither about sending him a picture. Just wouldn’t want anyone else to know I’d sent them.
I’ll just front it out, I’ll just say I’m sorry I find you attractive, I’ll try not to in future.
I would not say a thing, just smile, say good morning, and carry on as if nothing has happened. I think that is the consensus on what to do after office parties go astray anyway, I think most of us have been there at some point!"
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"Ok so damage control?
I’m not embarrassed that I said I was attracted to him. Neither about sending him a picture. Just wouldn’t want anyone else to know I’d sent them.
I’ll just front it out, I’ll just say I’m sorry I find you attractive, I’ll try not to in future.
Did you say you sent him your profile pic off here? I'd be wary now. Like someone said, he could be showing all the men at work your pic. If one of them is on here your secret will be out and they'll know you're on Fab. Not sure if you're open about that.
If it was me I'd act as though nothing happened. No more flirting just be business like and friendly.
Glad you're staying a while longer. "
Not my profile on here, just meant the picture that’s my avatar straight off my phone, has |
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"It’s time to move on.
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Exactly what I was gonna say. She told us the other night he has a date tonight, so it was always gonna end that way...
Knew that she won't be leaving either ... You never will Annie, will you |
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Probably get abuse for this ,but ,although i feel sorry for op (been following the threads )i also feel sorry for the woman hes seeing .
He sounds a dick and im hoping for his girlfriend's sake she doesnt find out about it and the pic.she hasnt done anything to deserve it .Both op and her deserve better than him |
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"It’s time to move on.
Exactly what I was gonna say. She told us the other night he has a date tonight, so it was always gonna end that way...
Knew that she won't be leaving either ... You never will Annie, will you "
It’s gonna be hard to leave here for good I’ll be honest. I always need advice with something or other. I don’t want to start dating over Xmas purely cos last Xmas I was all bummed out about that other guy I was meeting and it put a real downer on my mood. I’m alright at the moment, not messaging anyone, no one on the cards, don’t want to get in the head space of worrying about what some guy is thinking so I’ll jump into dating in the new year. That’s probably a time where single guys who have had a shit Xmas being single will consider finding a girlfriend.
I will go but you will all be missed I’ll tell you that for nothing. |
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"It’s time to move on.
Exactly what I was gonna say. She told us the other night he has a date tonight, so it was always gonna end that way...
Knew that she won't be leaving either ... You never will Annie, will you
It’s gonna be hard to leave here for good I’ll be honest. I always need advice with something or other. I don’t want to start dating over Xmas purely cos last Xmas I was all bummed out about that other guy I was meeting and it put a real downer on my mood. I’m alright at the moment, not messaging anyone, no one on the cards, don’t want to get in the head space of worrying about what some guy is thinking so I’ll jump into dating in the new year. That’s probably a time where single guys who have had a shit Xmas being single will consider finding a girlfriend.
I will go but you will all be missed I’ll tell you that for nothing. "
That's a really good way of looking at it to be honest.
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"Probably get abuse for this ,but ,although i feel sorry for op (been following the threads )i also feel sorry for the woman hes seeing .
He sounds a dick and im hoping for his girlfriend's sake she doesnt find out about it and the pic.she hasnt done anything to deserve it .Both op and her deserve better than him "
I found out today off one of the other guys, he told him last night he’s only been speaking to her so far, was the first date today so hardly an established relationship. |
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"Probably get abuse for this ,but ,although i feel sorry for op (been following the threads )i also feel sorry for the woman hes seeing .
He sounds a dick and im hoping for his girlfriend's sake she doesnt find out about it and the pic.she hasnt done anything to deserve it .Both op and her deserve better than him
I found out today off one of the other guys, he told him last night he’s only been speaking to her so far, was the first date today so hardly an established relationship. "
So hes aliar as said he was seeing someone ,
Your both better off with out him |
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"Probably get abuse for this ,but ,although i feel sorry for op (been following the threads )i also feel sorry for the woman hes seeing .
He sounds a dick and im hoping for his girlfriend's sake she doesnt find out about it and the pic.she hasnt done anything to deserve it .Both op and her deserve better than him
I found out today off one of the other guys, he told him last night he’s only been speaking to her so far, was the first date today so hardly an established relationship.
So hes aliar as said he was seeing someone ,
Your both better off with out him"
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"It’s time to move on.
Exactly what I was gonna say. She told us the other night he has a date tonight, so it was always gonna end that way...
Knew that she won't be leaving either ... You never will Annie, will you
It’s gonna be hard to leave here for good I’ll be honest. I always need advice with something or other. I don’t want to start dating over Xmas purely cos last Xmas I was all bummed out about that other guy I was meeting and it put a real downer on my mood. I’m alright at the moment, not messaging anyone, no one on the cards, don’t want to get in the head space of worrying about what some guy is thinking so I’ll jump into dating in the new year. That’s probably a time where single guys who have had a shit Xmas being single will consider finding a girlfriend.
I will go but you will all be missed I’ll tell you that for nothing. "
I still don’t think you should leave Fab my lovely - I think you should do as many do and have a forum only profile!
You’re a complicated girl - but on here you have people who genuinely care about you, ‘have your back’ and - essentially - dozens of wise old agony aunts abd uncles who can help you see situations from other perspectives!
If you’re going to try real world dating - that could be invaluable!
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I don't get why you're deflated. It sounds like it was a pretty successful night. He didn't know you liked him, us men are terrible at reading signals, especially from work colleagues, but he does now. The new woman ain't serious yet.
Now he knows you like him, he's open to it, was flirting, saying he'd like to have you in his bed.
But then you closed him down.
Sounds to me like you're now creating barriers to stop yourself possibly getting hurt because there's an actual chance he might like you back.
Drink next week to clear the air and chat should be the next move I think. |
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"If you were going to tell him that you were attracted to him ( properly attracted ) then the staff 'do' is not the best time.
Any sensible woman wouldn't accept a come on from a work mate on a Xmas night out that involved drink.
You know ....... someone looking at and commenting on your boobs isn't really a special reserve.
I wish it had gone your way but you know what they say.
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Staff Christmas dos have resulted in more colleague sex than any other night of the working calendar I would wager. |
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"I don't get why you're deflated. It sounds like it was a pretty successful night. He didn't know you liked him, us men are terrible at reading signals, especially from work colleagues, but he does now. The new woman ain't serious yet.
Now he knows you like him, he's open to it, was flirting, saying he'd like to have you in his bed.
But then you closed him down.
Sounds to me like you're now creating barriers to stop yourself possibly getting hurt because there's an actual chance he might like you back.
Drink next week to clear the air and chat should be the next move I think. "
Is it wise to have a ‘relationship’ with a work colleague in case something goes wrong?
I do think OP he is not worthy of you, he sounds like a right twonk.
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You've done the groundwork now let it be, if he wants you he will come to you. As men we sometimes get confused and dare I say scared when it comes to asking someone out. Let him come to you now and of he doesn't? He wasn't right for you in the first place! |
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Ahhh the final denouement Oh dear. Not quite what you'd hoped Annie  Sorry about that. Honestly though the biggest thing you've got to stop doing Annie is getting in your own way. You're still doing it now by pushing him away when it's clear you've finally got in his head.
There's nothing more intoxicating than knowing a person who's pretty sexy fancies you. That knowledge just swells and swells in one's mind and pretty soon you find yourself wanking and thinking about how fucking awesome it would be to be fucking that person. I don't doubt this is what you've finally set in motion with this guy. But fuck me you could've done it so much subtler so many months ago. Now. The way you've gone about it. I wouldn't be surprised if he wants to fuck you soon. But it'll probably be just for the sex. If you don't mind that go for it. But don't get hurt. It sounds like you've got too much emotionally invested in this guy to just have sex with him now.
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This was the aftermath of the work dude.
The way things are now 13 weeks on. He’s on all the dating sites and tells me in work how he’s not finding any suitable birds.
He still flirts with me or flirted with me but I didn’t entertain it.
I now don’t have any shifts with him as of last week cos I was only casual and they’ve cut all the casual receptionists across all sites as they no longer have day receptionists, people just scan themselves automatically so a little computer has taken my job!
I still do one shift a week but it’s a day he doesnt come to my building so I won’t see him anymore! |
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"Good to see you are over it all.....  "
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it. |
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it. "
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho. |
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho."
Ok so for all the space on the page for threads this annoys people cos I’ve bumped one of my old threads
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho.
Ok so for all the space on the page for threads this annoys people cos I’ve bumped one of my old threads
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"This was the aftermath of the work dude.
The way things are now 13 weeks on. He’s on all the dating sites and tells me in work how he’s not finding any suitable birds.
He still flirts with me or flirted with me but I didn’t entertain it.
I now don’t have any shifts with him as of last week cos I was only casual and they’ve cut all the casual receptionists across all sites as they no longer have day receptionists, people just scan themselves automatically so a little computer has taken my job!
I still do one shift a week but it’s a day he doesnt come to my building so I won’t see him anymore!"
Really sorry to hear about your job - that’s crap and I think it’s a mistake on the gym’s part! The great reception staff at my gym are part of the whole experience for me!
Glad he seems to be out of your head!
For what it’s worth - as you’re looking for exclusivity I think you’d do well to try a ‘serious ‘ dating site where the majority are looking for real long term relationships - but that’s your choice of course!
You could still stay on fab for the forums and socials - many do! |
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho.
Ok so for all the space on the page for threads this annoys people cos I’ve bumped one of my old threads
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No it's the repeated attention seeking behaviour that annoys people rather than taking up space with an old thread. |
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Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho."
Why should she? People bump. Old threads all the time. Some make a sport out of it but they don't get shit for doing it. |
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho.
Ok so for all the space on the page for threads this annoys people cos I’ve bumped one of my old threads
No it's the repeated attention seeking behaviour that annoys people rather than taking up space with an old thread."
I don’t think OP is attention seeking. There is no point in being awful to her, imo she has done nothing wrong. |
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho.
Ok so for all the space on the page for threads this annoys people cos I’ve bumped one of my old threads
No it's the repeated attention seeking behaviour that annoys people rather than taking up space with an old thread.
I don’t think OP is attention seeking. There is no point in being awful to her, imo she has done nothing wrong. "
People post threads for attention all the time. Usually the ones who complain about other people. |
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over a year ago
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho.
Why should she? People bump. Old threads all the time. Some make a sport out of it but they don't get shit for doing it. "
And he’s merely pointing out an alternative option, no need for him to get shit for doing that either. |
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho."
why havent you posted on the colin thread. Thats an old one thats been bumped. Who made you god and decided what could and couldnt be bumped |
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho.
Why should she? People bump. Old threads all the time. Some make a sport out of it but they don't get shit for doing it.
And he’s merely pointing out an alternative option, no need for him to get shit for doing that either."
You think that was giving him shit? Am I now giving you shit simply by asking a question? Sorry.... 2 questions I guess  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good to see you are over it all.....
Absolutely no need to roll your eyes at me.
The thread bump was for Lib, I told him I’d find the thread and bump it cos he wasn’t around and wanted to read it.
You could have just sent him a link to it instead of bumping it but hey ho.
Why should she? People bump. Old threads all the time. Some make a sport out of it but they don't get shit for doing it.
And he’s merely pointing out an alternative option, no need for him to get shit for doing that either.
You think that was giving him shit? Am I now giving you shit simply by asking a question? Sorry.... 2 questions I guess "
No I was just using your terminology “shit”. I don’t think he was giving her shit by saying what he said that’s all.
He called her out and you did him.
And no I don’t think you’re giving it to me either, it’s a difference of opinion that’s all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Old threads are bumped all the time, for lots of different reasons. This is the first time I’ve seen people complaining or drawing attention to the fact a thread is bumped though. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Old threads are bumped all the time, for lots of different reasons. This is the first time I’ve seen people complaining or drawing attention to the fact a thread is bumped though. "
I’ve been here for years and I’ve seen people moan about it in the past and some have been timed out for doing so.
All depends on the thread, content & intent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok but what was supposed to be an innocent bump that should have gone unnoticed by people other than the one I was bumping it for for him to read! It’s quite pathetic what it’s turned into. |
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"Old threads are bumped all the time, for lots of different reasons. This is the first time I’ve seen people complaining or drawing attention to the fact a thread is bumped though. "
True!
Don’t always see eye to eye with the op but I can’t see the issue with this - and I must admit I was mildly curious as to what was happening with gym guy! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"Old threads are bumped all the time, for lots of different reasons. This is the first time I’ve seen people complaining or drawing attention to the fact a thread is bumped though.
I’ve been here for years and I’ve seen people moan about it in the past and some have been timed out for doing so.
All depends on the thread, content & intent."
I’ve heard of people getting a time out for it if they bump lots of threads in one go or bump it to make a point at someone else. That’s not the case here though.
Threads are bumped all the time and there does seem to be an amount of negativity towards this one and I can’t really see why that would be. I speak as I find |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck, I just bought a new cravat too. "
Maybe time. He did say he didn’t know I was an option (didn’t like his choice of words there) but he said when we were out that we were work friends and how it would be awkward. If I don’t work there anymore, hey hey, he did ask if I wanted to watch the rugby over his today as he was having some of the boys round but I said I like to watch it in my house.
The main and most important thing he’s taught me is the height thing. This dude is about 5’8 and I always went for guys over 6ft until him. I don’t have a height requirement anymore which is amazing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck, I just bought a new cravat too.
Maybe time. He did say he didn’t know I was an option (didn’t like his choice of words there) but he said when we were out that we were work friends and how it would be awkward. If I don’t work there anymore, hey hey, he did ask if I wanted to watch the rugby over his today as he was having some of the boys round but I said I like to watch it in my house.
The main and most important thing he’s taught me is the height thing. This dude is about 5’8 and I always went for guys over 6ft until him. I don’t have a height requirement anymore which is amazing. "
So there could still be a chance? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck, I just bought a new cravat too.
Maybe time. He did say he didn’t know I was an option (didn’t like his choice of words there) but he said when we were out that we were work friends and how it would be awkward. If I don’t work there anymore, hey hey, he did ask if I wanted to watch the rugby over his today as he was having some of the boys round but I said I like to watch it in my house.
The main and most important thing he’s taught me is the height thing. This dude is about 5’8 and I always went for guys over 6ft until him. I don’t have a height requirement anymore which is amazing.
So there could still be a chance? "
she's left fab so we will never know |
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over a year ago
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"Fuck, I just bought a new cravat too.
Maybe time. He did say he didn’t know I was an option (didn’t like his choice of words there) but he said when we were out that we were work friends and how it would be awkward. If I don’t work there anymore, hey hey, he did ask if I wanted to watch the rugby over his today as he was having some of the boys round but I said I like to watch it in my house.
The main and most important thing he’s taught me is the height thing. This dude is about 5’8 and I always went for guys over 6ft until him. I don’t have a height requirement anymore which is amazing.
So there could still be a chance? she's left fab so we will never know"
No she hasn’t she’s posting on here now! |
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over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think..."
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying "
Was it something kinky? I'm sure kinky was in his user name |
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over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying "
Soul kinky? Something like that? |
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over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying
Was it something kinky? I'm sure kinky was in his user name"
Soulful kinky??!!! |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying
Was it something kinky? I'm sure kinky was in his user name
Soulful kinky??!!!"
I think that was it |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying "
Haha wait... it was Soulful Kinky! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying
Was it something kinky? I'm sure kinky was in his user name
Soulful kinky??!!!
I think that was it "
Yeah me too . Phew I can sleep now! |
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think..."
What on gods earth is a hippididdy thingy? Surely you just made that up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
What on gods earth is a hippididdy thingy? Surely you just made that up? "
And how the hell did I know who she meant!!?? |
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying
Haha wait... it was Soulful Kinky!"
Was he the one who always sounded really pissed off about life in general? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying
Haha wait... it was Soulful Kinky!
Was he the one who always sounded really pissed off about life in general? "
No, he was really enlightened and operating on a higher plane of being (was a bit pissy about swinging!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying
Haha wait... it was Soulful Kinky!
Was he the one who always sounded really pissed off about life in general?
No, he was really enlightened and operating on a higher plane of being (was a bit pissy about swinging!)"
His posts were soooooo long though. I only ever read the first few lines! He was alright though I liked him. |
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying
Haha wait... it was Soulful Kinky!
Was he the one who always sounded really pissed off about life in general?
No, he was really enlightened and operating on a higher plane of being (was a bit pissy about swinging!)
His posts were soooooo long though. I only ever read the first few lines! He was alright though I liked him. "
Ah ok! Probably not who I’m thinking of then! X |
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying
Haha wait... it was Soulful Kinky!
Was he the one who always sounded really pissed off about life in general?
No, he was really enlightened and operating on a higher plane of being (was a bit pissy about swinging!)
His posts were soooooo long though. I only ever read the first few lines! He was alright though I liked him.
Ah ok! Probably not who I’m thinking of then! X"
It is ..... He looked like a shirt and sometimes was behind a book. ......... it is it is him. |
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over a year ago
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"Can someone remind who the guy was posting on this but has also left now. It's really bugging me. He was a hippididdydippitty type from down south I think...
Omg yeah I can’t think of his name! How annoying
Haha wait... it was Soulful Kinky!
Was he the one who always sounded really pissed off about life in general?
No, he was really enlightened and operating on a higher plane of being (was a bit pissy about swinging!)
His posts were soooooo long though. I only ever read the first few lines! He was alright though I liked him.
Ah ok! Probably not who I’m thinking of then! X
It is ..... He looked like a shirt and sometimes was behind a book. ......... it is it is him."
Yes! He was behind a book |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck, I just bought a new cravat too.
Maybe time. He did say he didn’t know I was an option (didn’t like his choice of words there) but he said when we were out that we were work friends and how it would be awkward. If I don’t work there anymore, hey hey, he did ask if I wanted to watch the rugby over his today as he was having some of the boys round but I said I like to watch it in my house.
The main and most important thing he’s taught me is the height thing. This dude is about 5’8 and I always went for guys over 6ft until him. I don’t have a height requirement anymore which is amazing.
So there could still be a chance? she's left fab so we will never know
No she hasn’t she’s posting on here now!"
has she a new name then as it says op has left site |
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"Soulful is here in another guise. Watching
No way???? Prove it!!
And, yes, it was Soulful kinky I was thinking of.
It's not him. He wasnt 6ft 3 and lived in Bournemouth "
I’m not saying it’s me lol.
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Soulful is here in another guise. Watching
No way???? Prove it!!
And, yes, it was Soulful kinky I was thinking of.
It's not him. He wasnt 6ft 3 and lived in Bournemouth
I’m not saying it’s me lol.
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And profile is way way way to short for kinky hah |
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over a year ago
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"Fuck, I just bought a new cravat too.
Maybe time. He did say he didn’t know I was an option (didn’t like his choice of words there) but he said when we were out that we were work friends and how it would be awkward. If I don’t work there anymore, hey hey, he did ask if I wanted to watch the rugby over his today as he was having some of the boys round but I said I like to watch it in my house.
The main and most important thing he’s taught me is the height thing. This dude is about 5’8 and I always went for guys over 6ft until him. I don’t have a height requirement anymore which is amazing. "
The height thing is good news. Cock size next.
The fact that he called you an option- what a guy!!
Have you got your eye on anyone new? |
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"Fuck, I just bought a new cravat too.
Maybe time. He did say he didn’t know I was an option (didn’t like his choice of words there) but he said when we were out that we were work friends and how it would be awkward. If I don’t work there anymore, hey hey, he did ask if I wanted to watch the rugby over his today as he was having some of the boys round but I said I like to watch it in my house.
The main and most important thing he’s taught me is the height thing. This dude is about 5’8 and I always went for guys over 6ft until him. I don’t have a height requirement anymore which is amazing. "
no one should settle for being an option |
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over a year ago
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"I'm still puzzled as to how the op is still posting in thread if she's unlos
She has a new profile. Kitana. "
yes I'm on it now thanks just gets a bit confusing when everyone keeps requoting and adding on |
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over a year ago
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"I'm still puzzled as to how the op is still posting in thread if she's unlos
One does not simply leave Fab that easy. "
yeh it's like being an alcoholic not an easy thing to give up |
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"Fuck, I just bought a new cravat too.
Maybe time. He did say he didn’t know I was an option (didn’t like his choice of words there) but he said when we were out that we were work friends and how it would be awkward. If I don’t work there anymore, hey hey, he did ask if I wanted to watch the rugby over his today as he was having some of the boys round but I said I like to watch it in my house.
The main and most important thing he’s taught me is the height thing. This dude is about 5’8 and I always went for guys over 6ft until him. I don’t have a height requirement anymore which is amazing.
no one should settle for being an option"
Yeah it was when we were talking outside and I said I fancied him. He said he didn’t know I did, he said he knew we flirted a lot but didn’t know I was an option! |
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"Yeah it was when we were talking outside and I said I fancied him. He said he didn’t know I did, he said he knew we flirted a lot but didn’t know I was an option! "
And it's now March. |
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"Yeah it was when we were talking outside and I said I fancied him. He said he didn’t know I did, he said he knew we flirted a lot but didn’t know I was an option!
And it's now March."
I know, I’m in the friend zone. |
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"Yeah it was when we were talking outside and I said I fancied him. He said he didn’t know I did, he said he knew we flirted a lot but didn’t know I was an option!
And it's now March.
I know, I’m in the friend zone. "
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"Fuck, I just bought a new cravat too.
Maybe time. He did say he didn’t know I was an option (didn’t like his choice of words there) but he said when we were out that we were work friends and how it would be awkward. If I don’t work there anymore, hey hey, he did ask if I wanted to watch the rugby over his today as he was having some of the boys round but I said I like to watch it in my house.
The main and most important thing he’s taught me is the height thing. This dude is about 5’8 and I always went for guys over 6ft until him. I don’t have a height requirement anymore which is amazing.
no one should settle for being an option
Yeah it was when we were talking outside and I said I fancied him. He said he didn’t know I did, he said he knew we flirted a lot but didn’t know I was an option! "
I wouldn't treat u like that and I'm sure most of the guys on this thread wouldn't either ,your one sexy lady and any guy would be lucky u were interested in him and if he can only see you as another option then he's a dick and not worth your attention or sharing the same space ,find someone that actually wants to be with you because they crave you x |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm still puzzled as to how the op is still posting in thread if she's unlos
One does not simply leave Fab that easy.
Word.
Welcome back how was the break? "
Hello lovely, it was full of giraffes. This made me happy. Hope you’re well. X |
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