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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just interested to hear your thoughts.
If I've arranged a meet, I always have protection. More and more lately, I've had guys asking am I bringing some, I of course say yes, and they then say they won't bother bringing any.
I've no idea why, but that just annoys me. From my perspective, if I'm arranging meets, I have protection and bring it. Both parties do that, and we're covered.
Last guy I arranged to meet asked what type I had. Said he didn't like that brand, could I buy another brand! Cheeky fucker! Bring your own and we're covered!
How do you agree protection? Interested to hear your views.
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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Myself the lady should bring it for her protection as any random guy could put a pin hole in it so it brakes and gets a easy bare back.
I would bring my own or happy to pay for hers as for me it’s about safety.
It’s those bits people don’t think about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would expect them to bring whatever type suited them. If they forgot, then I have spares  "
I agree with this, they should bring what they prefer. I always have them and its an eye opener how many guys turn up without any. Maybe they think they'll get lucky and hope the lady has none and says oh well, lets do it anyway. I'm not sure what the thinking is behind not bringing any, bit rude I think. |
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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago
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I always bring my own and also carry none latex just in case, but it is a bit alarming when you turn up at someone's house and the first thing they ask you is did you bring condoms? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Myself the lady should bring it for her protection as any random guy could put a pin hole in it so it brakes and gets a easy bare back.
I would bring my own or happy to pay for hers as for me it’s about safety.
It’s those bits people don’t think about. "
What about if she puts a pin hole in hers? Trust at some point has to be agreed doesnt it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always bring my own in a fresh packet, then offer them the choice between mine or hers.
However if hers aren't in a sealed box, then we open mine.
If I'm in a particularly playful mood, I'll ask her to pick one box out of 15 and then open three boxes at a time then ring the banker  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd always bring some and would expect them to bring some too. I'd be pretty concerned if a guy showed up without having brought protection... Would make me wonder about his usual practices  "
I think that's my concern too. |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"Myself the lady should bring it for her protection as any random guy could put a pin hole in it so it brakes and gets a easy bare back.
I would bring my own or happy to pay for hers as for me it’s about safety.
It’s those bits people don’t think about.
What about if she puts a pin hole in hers? Trust at some point has to be agreed doesnt it. "
100% right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it’s a social meet then I’d probably leave the protection and hope that if something does develop then they have some, this is probably naive but I don’t believe in packing in the hopes of something happening as it’s almost like presuming that a date is going to put out first time round.
If it’s a sexual meet then 100% I believe it’s the males priority to come prepared, obviously he may not come prepared “enough” so then it’s good to have back ups just in case there is round 2/3/4.
But overall I’d say it’s down to the Male. |
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Always take with me on a meet, my responsability to look after my health and have regard for others.
Have had a joint profile where we clearly stated must bring own, but reckon maybe 50% didn't....ifijed them they got given one, but not asked back, if didn't like them they were shown the door...
Common manners and decency should prevail.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just interested to hear your thoughts.
If I've arranged a meet, I always have protection. More and more lately, I've had guys asking am I bringing some, I of course say yes, and they then say they won't bother bringing any.
I've no idea why, but that just annoys me. From my perspective, if I'm arranging meets, I have protection and bring it. Both parties do that, and we're covered.
Last guy I arranged to meet asked what type I had. Said he didn't like that brand, could I buy another brand! Cheeky fucker! Bring your own and we're covered!
How do you agree protection? Interested to hear your views.
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I always bring a burly guy |
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"Just interested to hear your thoughts.
If I've arranged a meet, I always have protection. More and more lately, I've had guys asking am I bringing some, I of course say yes, and they then say they won't bother bringing any.
I've no idea why, but that just annoys me. From my perspective, if I'm arranging meets, I have protection and bring it. Both parties do that, and we're covered.
Last guy I arranged to meet asked what type I had. Said he didn't like that brand, could I buy another brand! Cheeky fucker! Bring your own and we're covered!
How do you agree protection? Interested to hear your views.
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Always ask them to bring their preferred brand but we have them if they 'forget' |
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I firmly believe that we all should carry condoms, just in case we need them. I've always kept one in my purse since I was first sexually active and check the expiry dates periodically just to make sure they are still ok.
If a guy shows up without condoms then to me it shows an expectation of bareback sex. The meet goes no further as we are obviously not compatible on this level.
I have no preference on brand and no allergies so I don't mind whose condoms we use just so long as we use them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always have some I have latex sensitivities and usually discuss prior to a meet that I will bring my own. The are welcome to bring if they are latex free |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Myself the lady should bring it for her protection as any random guy could put a pin hole in it so it brakes and gets a easy bare back.
I would bring my own or happy to pay for hers as for me it’s about safety.
It’s those bits people don’t think about. "
Yep. I bring my own and never use theirs. However if they don't bring any at all it's goodbye. I'm not a free prostitute. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's everyone's responsibility.oh good can you provide mine for next meets, thanks in advance
Extra small it is then. "
damn you've been peeking havnt you |
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"We really don't see "I forgot" as a legitimate reason for not carrying any condoms to a meet. "
Had a guy recently running very late (apparently) who forgot condoms, apparently, and started demanding proof I was real.
Should've nipped into Boots before you were late and still over half an hour drive away, then!
That was the end of that prospective meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd always bring some and would expect them to bring some too. I'd be pretty concerned if a guy showed up without having brought protection... Would make me wonder about his usual practices "
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
"We really don't see "I forgot" as a legitimate reason for not carrying any condoms to a meet.
Had a guy recently running very late (apparently) who forgot condoms, apparently, and started demanding proof I was real.
Should've nipped into Boots before you were late and still over half an hour drive away, then!
That was the end of that prospective meet. "
Good on you for not letting yourself be intimidated. |
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"We really don't see "I forgot" as a legitimate reason for not carrying any condoms to a meet.
Had a guy recently running very late (apparently) who forgot condoms, apparently, and started demanding proof I was real.
Should've nipped into Boots before you were late and still over half an hour drive away, then!
That was the end of that prospective meet.
Good on you for not letting yourself be intimidated. "
He was asking for pictures of me at the agreed place. I sent him a picture of my hand on my skirt with enough background to show what he needed, then blocked him. Nothing identifying/ compromising, no wank material. |
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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago
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I say both as well. Heard some shocking excuses tho, worst was he couldn't afford them.. you get them free at any sexual health clinic (well up here in Scotland at least) so that's a total bullshit excuse. |
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"I say both as well. Heard some shocking excuses tho, worst was he couldn't afford them.. you get them free at any sexual health clinic (well up here in Scotland at least) so that's a total bullshit excuse. "
I was given a dozen freebies at my last check up so yes that's a bullshit excuse |
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"I say both as well. Heard some shocking excuses tho, worst was he couldn't afford them.. you get them free at any sexual health clinic (well up here in Scotland at least) so that's a total bullshit excuse.
I was given a dozen freebies at my last check up so yes that's a bullshit excuse"
I was only given three at my last test |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I say both as well. Heard some shocking excuses tho, worst was he couldn't afford them.. you get them free at any sexual health clinic (well up here in Scotland at least) so that's a total bullshit excuse.
I was given a dozen freebies at my last check up so yes that's a bullshit excuse
I was only given three at my last test "
That's a bit mean |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never carry condoms to a first meet....
It’s bad luck....
My first meets are usually at a hotel bar and if we have chemistry, we can move upstairs...
Now if we agree to have sex... I can go to the hotel gift shops and purchase some before we go upstairs.... |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
"We really don't see "I forgot" as a legitimate reason for not carrying any condoms to a meet.
Had a guy recently running very late (apparently) who forgot condoms, apparently, and started demanding proof I was real.
Should've nipped into Boots before you were late and still over half an hour drive away, then!
That was the end of that prospective meet.
Good on you for not letting yourself be intimidated.
He was asking for pictures of me at the agreed place. I sent him a picture of my hand on my skirt with enough background to show what he needed, then blocked him. Nothing identifying/ compromising, no wank material. "
Love your style.  |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
"We are all responsible! I once met a guy who claimed he would lose his erection if he put one on. I didn't stay much longer."
That can actually happen but there are meds that will counteract the effect, so still no excuse. You were quite right to call it off.
The "I'm allergic to latex" excuse is another one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand your reservations about performance being affected. But that does happen and I’m one of the unlucky few! Rather embarrassing when I was a lot younger, when it shouldn’t happen lol
Every brand and size tried, failing every time!
So it’s something I’m very up front about with anyone I encounter. Also because of this I prefer to play with the same person, for a longer period of time, rather than fuck every woman I meet.
Regular testing is a must also, for my own peace of mind. But also for anyone who might be willing to play but require proof.
I’m fairly new on here but understand there are rules and etiquette to play. This comment may even mean no play time but it is worth noting it does happen. It’s not for everyone but can be enjoyed in an open, safe and trusting environment, outside of a relationship when you know that’s the only person you’ll be with obviously.
Not everyone is a lying idiot on here, but do understand there are a lot of them. So tarring with the same brush may be the best solution for you. But you could be missing out 
Happy fabbing regardless |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has shocked me!
People actually turn up without any??!?
I must be so naive!
Mr P has to take own as he struggles to get regular over his cock.
(I’m a lucky girl- he’s got girth that makes me smile).
Still shocked people are so selfish sometimes
It’s the knock on effect people don’t think about
Mrs P x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Simple answer : the only person we can rely on when meeting randomers for sex is ourselves! So if we want to be protected then WE must be responsible for our own protection!
Yes. The other person SHOULD be responsible too, but you already know you can’t always rely on them!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This has shocked me!
People actually turn up without any??!?
I must be so naive!
Mr P has to take own as he struggles to get regular over his cock.
(I’m a lucky girl- he’s got girth that makes me smile).
Still shocked people are so selfish sometimes
It’s the knock on effect people don’t think about
Mrs P x
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What is the knock on effect? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always bring my own to a meet. Ultimately it's a matter of showing you respect the other person's health and also protecting your own.
That said, I do appreciate it when the lady I'm meeting also has condoms as it reassures me that she also takes care of her health. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always bring my own in a fresh packet, then offer them the choice between mine or hers.
However if hers aren't in a sealed box, then we open mine.
If I'm in a particularly playful mood, I'll ask her to pick one box out of 15 and then open three boxes at a time then ring the banker "
We buy boxes of 6 condoms per box. How often do you get through 6 condoms during the meet? Just asking
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always bring my own in a fresh packet, then offer them the choice between mine or hers.
However if hers aren't in a sealed box, then we open mine.
If I'm in a particularly playful mood, I'll ask her to pick one box out of 15 and then open three boxes at a time then ring the banker
We buy boxes of 6 condoms per box. How often do you get through 6 condoms during the meet? Just asking
Mrs"
One one of my meets we got through five ... DAMN good meet that was  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always bring my own in a fresh packet, then offer them the choice between mine or hers.
However if hers aren't in a sealed box, then we open mine.
If I'm in a particularly playful mood, I'll ask her to pick one box out of 15 and then open three boxes at a time then ring the banker
We buy boxes of 6 condoms per box. How often do you get through 6 condoms during the meet? Just asking
Mrs
One one of my meets we got through five ... DAMN good meet that was "
Ha ha still one short to open an unsealed box |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always bring my own in a fresh packet, then offer them the choice between mine or hers.
However if hers aren't in a sealed box, then we open mine.
If I'm in a particularly playful mood, I'll ask her to pick one box out of 15 and then open three boxes at a time then ring the banker
We buy boxes of 6 condoms per box. How often do you get through 6 condoms during the meet? Just asking
Mrs
One one of my meets we got through five ... DAMN good meet that was
Ha ha still one short to open an unsealed box"
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"Myself the lady should bring it for her protection as any random guy could put a pin hole in it so it brakes and gets a easy bare back.
I would bring my own or happy to pay for hers as for me it’s about safety.
It’s those bits people don’t think about.
What about if she puts a pin hole in hers? Trust at some point has to be agreed doesnt it. "
So what if she does? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always bring my own in a fresh packet, then offer them the choice between mine or hers.
However if hers aren't in a sealed box, then we open mine.
If I'm in a particularly playful mood, I'll ask her to pick one box out of 15 and then open three boxes at a time then ring the banker
We buy boxes of 6 condoms per box. How often do you get through 6 condoms during the meet? Just asking
Mrs"
Depends on how often positions change Always change condoms when switching from anal to vaginal as I'm a caring sort really |
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Assume that you will take whatever protection you deem appropriate - and insist that others comply with yours and/or implement their own choices.
Some people are afraid of getting caught with condom purchase stuff, including packets, where they are cheating, so it does influence some away from getting their own! |
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The safest bet is to bring your own, latex free would be the best option given some have latex intolerance issues and a lube to compliment them free of glycerin and parabins as these can be troublesome to some people too. |
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