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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Today while driving someone tried to jump off a motorway bridge, he was being held by in my opinion some very heroic people.
He struggled and got half his body free just as I was driving up to the bridge, all I can now see is the chaps face the anger as he tried to fight his way free of those holding him.
It’s made me feel crap and physically sick to say the least, also because I know what it feels like to want to die (in my past).
I’m stunned and don’t quite know how to process it all.
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Oh gosh that’s awful... I am so sorry you had to witness that.
I can only comment from the other side of the page where motorway suicides are concerned, my father was a truck driver, and although it never personally happened to him I have known his colleagues and heard his stories of what can happen when they do jump. Some harrowing stories that have lead the drivers lives to change mentally forever, leaving their jobs in the process, the grief they suffered for the victim who “chose/accidentally” their vehicle to jump in front of.
I can only have sympathy for anyone who has the courage, and yes I mean courage, to take their own life, it cannot be an easy pill to swollow (and yes suicide has touched my family like many others) we can only accept and try to understand their motivation to do this and we all have questions and guilt... why didn’t they ask us for help, why would they take this option, but only they know what’s in their mind and why they truly believe this is the only option.
I do hope the situation you were in today had a better outcome that so many other and that person received the help they need.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve just been onto the local news for that area, the man has been detained under the mental health act.
So I hope now he starts to get the help and treatment he needs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh gosh that’s awful... I am so sorry you had to witness that.
I can only comment from the other side of the page where motorway suicides are concerned, my father was a truck driver, and although it never personally happened to him I have known his colleagues and heard his stories of what can happen when they do jump. Some harrowing stories that have lead the drivers lives to change mentally forever, leaving their jobs in the process, the grief they suffered for the victim who “chose/accidentally” their vehicle to jump in front of.
I can only have sympathy for anyone who has the courage, and yes I mean courage, to take their own life, it cannot be an easy pill to swollow (and yes suicide has touched my family like many others) we can only accept and try to understand their motivation to do this and we all have questions and guilt... why didn’t they ask us for help, why would they take this option, but only they know what’s in their mind and why they truly believe this is the only option.
I do hope the situation you were in today had a better outcome that so many other and that person received the help they need.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have seen things you people wouldn't believe..... "
so have a lot of us, but for those who haven't, it's a distressing experience and it's relevant to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t bottle it up and talk about it for as long as it takes for you to come to terms with it and you have made a good start with this thread
It’s helped me with more than one traumatic experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep talking about it OP. It’s the best way to help you rationalise the incident. It doesn’t matter who, friend, family partner or professional, but talking it out does help massively. Previous points made about the person now getting help should help also, and amazingly due to the heroics of others, no one was hurt. X |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
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I'm sorry that you had to witness that and that it has clawed at some old wounds. As others have already correctly stated talking about it helps a lot. I am a trauma management counsellor and can attest to how something as simple as talking it through over a cup of coffee or tea can really help.
Time will soften the effects and you will come to terms with it. Don't bottle things up. The person that you witnessed will be getting some help and you need to focus on yourself.
Stay strong and I hope you soon put this behind you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP I can imagine that was really distressing to you. Perhaps try to look at it another way, that today you witnessed a very poorly man being saved. You got to see first hand the heroic efforts of other humans, and tonight that man is in a safe place and hopefully receiving treatment.
I don’t know if that will help but just my thoughts.
Definitely talk about it though x |
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"Today while driving someone tried to jump off a motorway bridge, he was being held by in my opinion some very heroic people.
He struggled and got half his body free just as I was driving up to the bridge, all I can now see is the chaps face the anger as he tried to fight his way free of those holding him.
It’s made me feel crap and physically sick to say the least, also because I know what it feels like to want to die (in my past).
I’m stunned and don’t quite know how to process it all.
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Wow, that must have been a hard and shocking thing to witness.
Even in something as disturbing as this you can find some positives.
This person was saved.
They are now hopefully receiving help.
It shows there are brave people who stepped up to help save this guy.
It has given you the opportunity to count your blessings and acknowledge how far you've moved on , from when you felt the same way.
Feeling shock is natural.Ride it out.Hug of support to you x |
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By *ob_2017Man
over a year ago
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That is an awful thing to witness, especially if it brings up painful memories, but you have to take solice in the fact that it wasn't successful and help should be provided now.
Whilst this isn't the thread for it, I couldn't post without addressing this:
"I have seen things you people wouldn't believe....."
Attack ships on fire off the shoulder of Orion. |
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Suicide decisions are almost never made on a whim. They are a result of a long process... ruling out of any other valid options... dead ends explored and found to actually be dead-ends... no glimmer on the horizon... after a certain point the descent can be a bewilderingly fast process. If you are in the immediate vicinity and/ or close to the victim it is a confusing and extremely unsettling experience. The Shock carries on for a long time. Eight months after the suicide of a close family member it took a family doctor to gently explain to me that I hadn't started mourning yet... I was still in Shock.
For those left holding the cold hand of a dead loved one it is a confusing messy catastrophe which no-one ever sees coming.
It always the wrong questions which are asked. The "Why?" the "How could they?" and the "Didn't they know how much they were loved?". Those are the wrong questions to ask (though we ask them anyway... again and again). You have to ask questions like "For how long did they wake up feeling so awful every morning?" ... the gradual coming to the understanding that it is almost never a "single" thing which suddenly flicks a switch. It is a long gradual descent into a private Hell which is sank into so gradually that for those close friends and family there is seldom any real sign of the extent of the trouble. Until the day of the catastrophic mess.
Nothing looks or feels the same on any day after that - ever. |
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Driving home in 1995 from working in east end of London, I was on A40 A417 north ring road of Gloucester, 5 cars in front of me a guy did exactly what you experienced today, he jumped off an over head bridge in front of an oncoming car. Horrendous |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"OP I can imagine that was really distressing to you. Perhaps try to look at it another way, that today you witnessed a very poorly man being saved. You got to see first hand the heroic efforts of other humans, and tonight that man is in a safe place and hopefully receiving treatment.
I don’t know if that will help but just my thoughts.
Definitely talk about it though x"
Exactly this. Very well put |
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