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What’s in it for me?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So, you offer to perform a sex act for soneone, with nothing in return. What do you get out of it? Do you let people do things for you in a selfish way? I mean how many pms have you had when it say ‘suck you off (or lick you)? I want nothing in return...etc’. And you think, what they must get out of it.

My point is, do you enjoy pleasing people sexually or is it all in a way to get something for yourself?

Or are you quite content on watching and knowing someone is having a wonderful time?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like pleasing people. I get pleasure from knowing that they are having fun but I don't expect anything in return.

If they offer willingly then great

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By *ultrySiriWoman over a year ago

Arundel

I had someone contact me in the past who would barely ask for anything for himself. In fact he kind of avoided the topic. I felt it was all out of balance and it didn't go any further.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get pleasure out of giving pleasure. Seeing someones reactions, hearing there moans etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I much prefer to give oral than recieve. The pleasure is in what I'm doing for someone else which makes the ensuing fuck (or just wank!) so much hotter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m a very selfish and inconsiderate lover.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With a partner I love it. I love making them the centre of attention because I know it will be reciprocated one day.

With a fab meet I'd want a bit of give and take, like I want it to feel like we both got all we could from it. Both physically and mentally so I guess I wouldn't meet someone who only wanted to please me because that physical side of me giving pleasure wouldn't be fulfilled for me.

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Yes. I enjoy giving very much. I get immense satisfaction from pleasuring a chap.

With an almost stranger? Hell no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just love my partners to enjoy themselves, sounds daft perhaps but if that was the only outcome then that would be enough for me. A contradiction in words? I do get a lot of pleasure from giving it so I suppose you could call me selfish

I certainly would never expect anything in return but would never refuse and I would enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love to look in a girls eyes as i make her tremble uncontrolably

Getting that in sinq that i can control when she cums the making her push thru once she does to give me more and more that is my pleasure i feed off it the look in her eyes during and after is pure magic and at that point i get much much more out of that than cumming myself its my pleasure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would neither offer nor accept that from a hook up to be honest. Would do nothing for me if it wasn't mutual. Different with a partner though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With my fab partners there has to be something in it for me. It works both ways though. I don't like one sided, and i am a little offended if the guy tries too hard to please and isn't bothered about cumming himself. It has to be mutual and equal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would neither offer nor accept that from a hook up to be honest. Would do nothing for me if it wasn't mutual. Different with a partner though. "

So it’s more about the person than what your actually doing? I get that.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

As a woman I've had a lot of sexual encounters with men who are happy to give very little in return even though I'd wanted them to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get pleasure out of giving pleasure. Seeing someones reactions, hearing there moans etc "

Exactly this

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By *oney to the beeWoman over a year ago

Manchester

"So, you offer to perform a sex act for soneone, with nothing in return. What do you get out of it? Do you let people do things for you in a selfish way? I mean how many pms have you had when it say ‘suck you off (or lick you)? I want nothing in return...etc’. And you think, what they must get out of it.

My point is, do you enjoy pleasing people sexually or is it all in a way to get something for yourself?

Or are you quite content on watching and knowing someone is having a wonderful time? "

A lot of guys offer this service though so they must get something out if it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some submissive men have offered this, because they say it is the denial to their own needs they seek.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for your answers guys.

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By *uxomBloomsWoman over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

I never quite trust it, someone wanted to meet me recently just to buy me a sexy outfit, he said he would get enough pleasure just seeing me try it on. It just didn't feel right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It can be nice, me and mr are both like that and together for us it just works. Not sure I’d like it with a random meet though x

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By *lex46TV/TS over a year ago

Near Wells

My pleasure is always making sure the other person is happy.

I prefer giving oral than recieving and I want to give them happiness.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS over a year ago

Cornwall

I get pleasure from giving pleasure

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