As in someone only wants to swing in order to have sex with other people?
I think that's a pretty standard reason at the most basic level. Swinging involves sexual activity with someone other than your regular partner. The difference between that and cheating is your partner knows about it. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
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"As in someone only wants to swing in order to have sex with other people?
I think that's a pretty standard reason at the most basic level. Swinging involves sexual activity with someone other than your regular partner. The difference between that and cheating is your partner knows about it."
Ah -i get it -swings and roundabouts. |
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"As in someone only wants to swing in order to have sex with other people?
I think that's a pretty standard reason at the most basic level. Swinging involves sexual activity with someone other than your regular partner. The difference between that and cheating is your partner knows about it.
Ah -i get it -swings and roundabouts."
Yeah it is for some people. There are some who believe swinging is cheating anyway. Some who are bored silly of their sex life with their partner and think doing the same thing with someone else won't be boring. Some who think if they swing it will stop their partner cheating and any number of other reasons. Then there are some who get it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As in someone only wants to swing in order to have sex with other people?
I think that's a pretty standard reason at the most basic level. Swinging involves sexual activity with someone other than your regular partner. The difference between that and cheating is your partner knows about it."
Ok maybe i didn't detail that question properly... i'll try again.
Many couples say swinging is about being an enhancement to their already great sex lives, that they get joy watching their partner be sexually free, it brings them closer etc ect...
My question was meant to say, are there signs that either partner was in it for their own needs, that they say initially that its for excitment only, that its to be closer and experienece things together but in reality just use it to get the chance to fuck others without outwardly cheating so use the swinging word to cover?
Like if a guy is ok with his partner having 3sums with an added lady but will not even consider the other way around, is that a sign? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Swinging is about giving your partner sexual freedom within agreed boundaries. You should be the one who decides whether he can have sex with another woman not him.
If you are not comfortable with him having sex with another woman then he doesn't, full stop. Sounds like he has already made the decision that you can't have sex with other men and you have the same right to decide what he can do. |
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"As in someone only wants to swing in order to have sex with other people?
I think that's a pretty standard reason at the most basic level. Swinging involves sexual activity with someone other than your regular partner. The difference between that and cheating is your partner knows about it.
Ok maybe i didn't detail that question properly... i'll try again.
Many couples say swinging is about being an enhancement to their already great sex lives, that they get joy watching their partner be sexually free, it brings them closer etc ect...
My question was meant to say, are there signs that either partner was in it for their own needs, that they say initially that its for excitment only, that its to be closer and experienece things together but in reality just use it to get the chance to fuck others without outwardly cheating so use the swinging word to cover?
Like if a guy is ok with his partner having 3sums with an added lady but will not even consider the other way around, is that a sign? "
If a person is looking for signs then that to me is a sign in itself that they have doubts.
People play the way that suits them best but it needs to suit both people. If one doubts the others motives its time for a chat. |
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A question for couples: What are the signs that wanting to swing is just an excuse to cheat?
