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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them." Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. " But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. " Don't you realise most people respect honesty? Even if it hurts them. | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. Don't you realise most people respect honesty? Even if it hurts them." Honesty hurts less than lying in the long run too | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. Don't you realise most people respect honesty? Even if it hurts them."  It’s what I prefer most definitely. | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. Don't you realise most people respect honesty? Even if it hurts them. Honesty hurts less than lying in the long run too" 100% | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that?" Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. " If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on." Couldn’t have said it better myself. You are spot on. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on." definitely | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... " There is no nice way to break up with someone. Just be gentle with it. Honestly, she may be upset now, but imagine further down the line, when you've both wasted even more of your time. It's being cruel to be kind, in this situation. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on." Jackpot. Not for you maybe, but she would be able to move forward. Finding out the life you've been living is a lie can be so destructive, made even worse when you find out by yourself. Having the person come clean with you is far less humiliating and at least shows they respect you enough to tell you the truth, even if it's late. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on." That’s good advice. But I’m going over to her’s to put her Xmas decs up on Saturday. I’ve been seeing her for over a year now, we’ve had sex probably ten times, if that. That speaks volumes, right? She’s very straight laced and, dare I say it, can be a bit conservative and boring. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on. That’s good advice. But I’m going over to her’s to put her Xmas decs up on Saturday. I’ve been seeing her for over a year now, we’ve had sex probably ten times, if that. That speaks volumes, right? She’s very straight laced and, dare I say it, can be a bit conservative and boring. " You’ve got your answer there and need to be honest. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on. That’s good advice. But I’m going over to her’s to put her Xmas decs up on Saturday. I’ve been seeing her for over a year now, we’ve had sex probably ten times, if that. That speaks volumes, right? She’s very straight laced and, dare I say it, can be a bit conservative and boring. You’ve got your answer there and need to be honest. " So hard to do. I’ve actually broken up with her before and she was devastated... I also think she’s 35, been around the block and the facts speak for themselves. | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... " Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on. That’s good advice. But I’m going over to her’s to put her Xmas decs up on Saturday. I’ve been seeing her for over a year now, we’ve had sex probably ten times, if that. That speaks volumes, right? She’s very straight laced and, dare I say it, can be a bit conservative and boring. You’ve got your answer there and need to be honest. So hard to do. I’ve actually broken up with her before and she was devastated... I also think she’s 35, been around the block and the facts speak for themselves. " Meaning exactly? | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? " This sounds like advice I need to give to someone else I know.  | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? " In an empty way. The one thing I’ve never done in any way, shape or form is use her for sex. We just get on so well and I want her to remain in my life. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on. That’s good advice. But I’m going over to her’s to put her Xmas decs up on Saturday. I’ve been seeing her for over a year now, we’ve had sex probably ten times, if that. That speaks volumes, right? She’s very straight laced and, dare I say it, can be a bit conservative and boring. You’ve got your answer there and need to be honest. So hard to do. I’ve actually broken up with her before and she was devastated... I also think she’s 35, been around the block and the facts speak for themselves. Meaning exactly? " She’s an intelligent woman. She can tell the lie of the land. VM incoming when I can make it work x | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? In an empty way. The one thing I’ve never done in any way, shape or form is use her for sex. We just get on so well and I want her to remain in my life. " I have past guys like this still in my life but only through being honest with each other when things weren’t right. The friendship was made stronger eventually but it may not be for everyone. It’s a risk you have to take. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. If you value the one you've been seeing for a year as a person. Let her go. She deserves to find someone who does have that chemistry with her. You are just stringing her along and it's not fair on both of you. IdI'd rather someone be honest and tell me if the chemistry is not there, than give me false hope that we are going somewhere. Not only is it deceptive, it's humiliating too. I would suggest honesty. Let her move on. That’s good advice. But I’m going over to her’s to put her Xmas decs up on Saturday. I’ve been seeing her for over a year now, we’ve had sex probably ten times, if that. That speaks volumes, right? She’s very straight laced and, dare I say it, can be a bit conservative and boring. You’ve got your answer there and need to be honest. So hard to do. I’ve actually broken up with her before and she was devastated... I also think she’s 35, been around the block and the facts speak for themselves. Meaning exactly? She’s an intelligent woman. She can tell the lie of the land. VM incoming when I can make it work x " | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? In an empty way. The one thing I’ve never done in any way, shape or form is use her for sex. We just get on so well and I want her to remain in my life. " I didn't say you were using her for sex, I said you are using sex with women to fill a void. I bang on about honesty a lot but I believe that any relationship has more chance of success if all involved are truthful about what they want from day one. You've not done that but you can start. Tell her exactly what you want from her, if that doesn't coincide with what she wants you negotiate. Lying to her because you want her in your life is selfish and you know it. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. " Treat yourself better too, and stop deceiving other people. I concur with the sentiments posted by everyone else on this thread but the point is there’s a payoff for you currently or you’d already be treating people with respect. What’s the payoff for you? (Whether it’s ultimately actually doing you any good is a secondary question, but right now you’re getting something out of your behaviour and deception) Do you enjoy the deceiving in some way (at all?), a payback against others that have treated you badly, or is it better having someone than no one in a kinda actually I’m pretty darn lonely and can’t handle my own company low self esteem/self loathing way? There’s a myriad of conscious and unconscious reasons you’re in this pattern. Sounds like you need to do some work on you, for you - and only then will you stop hurting others (whether they know you are, yet, or not). Good luck. | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? In an empty way. The one thing I’ve never done in any way, shape or form is use her for sex. We just get on so well and I want her to remain in my life. I didn't say you were using her for sex, I said you are using sex with women to fill a void. I bang on about honesty a lot but I believe that any relationship has more chance of success if all involved are truthful about what they want from day one. You've not done that but you can start. Tell her exactly what you want from her, if that doesn't coincide with what she wants you negotiate. Lying to her because you want her in your life is selfish and you know it." That post has made me go and spark up a fag and contemplate life. Totally, totally right. Honesty is a rare commodity in the online dating world - hence the girl I met at the singles event being back with her ex all of a sudden. Maybe that was just an excuse? | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching.... "Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now. | |||
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"Treat others how you wish to be treated. Be open, honest with integrity. It's then up to them if they wish to carry on. It's just not fair to be like this to another person. "
Yup, that's the point - if you are deceiving her then it is nothing more than manipulation and control.
Tell her the truth and let the cards fall as they may - it is her free choice to say 'That deal's not good enough for me, I'm off'. | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? In an empty way. The one thing I’ve never done in any way, shape or form is use her for sex. We just get on so well and I want her to remain in my life. " Maybe , just maybe , you’ve got this all mixed up in your head , and you think a site like this offers you something more than cold and meaningless sex . It seems you are onto something that could be so much more than you’ll ever get from being in here or on any hook up site . I was where you are eight years ago . I had sex when I wanted it , I was single and free to frequent dating and sex sites . I thought it was what I wanted , but then I woke up and realized there is so much more than the empty , cold and meaningless sex I was having with women who were never going to more than just a shag . It sounds like she is much more than that to you , so why lose her over this ? She may want much more sex and may be enough for you if she gets all of your attention , so get out of this place and see how it goes . But do try and give her what she deserves , and who knows ? You may just find what you are looking for too . | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching.... "Battling mental health issues at the moment. Is anything to stop the walls closing in. My expensive car and my expensive flat mean fuck all tbh.... | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? In an empty way. The one thing I’ve never done in any way, shape or form is use her for sex. We just get on so well and I want her to remain in my life. I didn't say you were using her for sex, I said you are using sex with women to fill a void. I bang on about honesty a lot but I believe that any relationship has more chance of success if all involved are truthful about what they want from day one. You've not done that but you can start. Tell her exactly what you want from her, if that doesn't coincide with what she wants you negotiate. Lying to her because you want her in your life is selfish and you know it. That post has made me go and spark up a fag and contemplate life. Totally, totally right. Honesty is a rare commodity in the online dating world - hence the girl I met at the singles event being back with her ex all of a sudden. Maybe that was just an excuse? " Maybe. I'm never totally sure if you're being serious but I'll assume that you are. The most difficult person to be honest with is yourself though. :mummode: stop smoking you'll ruin your health  | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? In an empty way. The one thing I’ve never done in any way, shape or form is use her for sex. We just get on so well and I want her to remain in my life. I didn't say you were using her for sex, I said you are using sex with women to fill a void. I bang on about honesty a lot but I believe that any relationship has more chance of success if all involved are truthful about what they want from day one. You've not done that but you can start. Tell her exactly what you want from her, if that doesn't coincide with what she wants you negotiate. Lying to her because you want her in your life is selfish and you know it. That post has made me go and spark up a fag and contemplate life. Totally, totally right. Honesty is a rare commodity in the online dating world - hence the girl I met at the singles event being back with her ex all of a sudden. Maybe that was just an excuse? " I agree with most of the comments on here. But I also think you are actually a decent bloke. Even to post this knowing you’d probably invite a bit of stick by doing so is bloody brave! You should tell her though, it’s only fair x | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now. "
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.  | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Battling mental health issues at the moment.
Is anything to stop the walls closing in. My expensive car and my expensive flat mean fuck all tbh.... "Well there u go...trying too run from yr inner worries. .smothering them with women things and cars.... Just take bit time to look within..daily. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship. "Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work. She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Battling mental health issues at the moment.
Is anything to stop the walls closing in. My expensive car and my expensive flat mean fuck all tbh.... "A wise woman once told me that you can't really love anyone else until you love yourself. Took me a long time to work out what she meant. I hope you are getting help for your mental health issues. You sound so lonely | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me. "Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though? | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... Ok. Delete your profile, tell this woman that you're not relationship ready just now, stop using sex with women to fill a void and take some time to get your head together. What you're describing is no way to treat people. Do you truly feel bereft? In a sad way, an empty way? In an empty way. The one thing I’ve never done in any way, shape or form is use her for sex. We just get on so well and I want her to remain in my life. I didn't say you were using her for sex, I said you are using sex with women to fill a void. I bang on about honesty a lot but I believe that any relationship has more chance of success if all involved are truthful about what they want from day one. You've not done that but you can start. Tell her exactly what you want from her, if that doesn't coincide with what she wants you negotiate. Lying to her because you want her in your life is selfish and you know it. That post has made me go and spark up a fag and contemplate life. Totally, totally right. Honesty is a rare commodity in the online dating world - hence the girl I met at the singles event being back with her ex all of a sudden. Maybe that was just an excuse? I agree with most of the comments on here. But I also think you are actually a decent bloke. Even to post this knowing you’d probably invite a bit of stick by doing so is bloody brave! You should tell her though, it’s only fair x" Agreed. I need some stick to be fair.... | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?"No. She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately. "And she’d be right to. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
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"31yo has just messaged and told me she’s going for a morning swim (she’s in Sri Lanka). I’ve said I hope it’s going well. This shit is dark... " Lol u love it obviously. Whats the saying.. Don't blame the player..blame the game. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to. "She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about? | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about? "No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her. I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth. "As in that you've been playing away? | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth. "So you’d rather string her along with false hope & lies? Not a nice thing to do. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth. "Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not.. You said u battle mental health... So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
As in that you've been playing away? "I’ve got a whole other girlfriend... who wants to settle down. It isn’t the first time. I’ve cheated on every girlfriend I’ve ever had. More than one has cheated on me. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
As in that you've been playing away?
I’ve got a whole other girlfriend... who wants to settle down.
It isn’t the first time. I’ve cheated on every girlfriend I’ve ever had.
More than one has cheated on me. "Go to bed!! | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
As in that you've been playing away?
I’ve got a whole other girlfriend... who wants to settle down.
It isn’t the first time. I’ve cheated on every girlfriend I’ve ever had.
More than one has cheated on me.
Go to bed!! "Good shout. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
As in that you've been playing away?
I’ve got a whole other girlfriend... who wants to settle down.
It isn’t the first time. I’ve cheated on every girlfriend I’ve ever had.
More than one has cheated on me.
Go to bed!!
Good shout. "Good boy. Mwah xx | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to. "Boomerang might come back but you've still got to lift your hand to catch it? Try keeping your hands in your pockets? S | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care. "You said it bud.. 
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .  | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. . "Great advice... From a bloke who lives in Ashford .... | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford .... "And it starts again... You literally do yourself no favours. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
And it starts again...
You literally do yourself no favours. "Lol im bored tho and..you can't educate stupid | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
And it starts again...
You literally do yourself no favours. "I don’t need “tucling in” either. Least of all from some bloke from Kent. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
And it starts again...
You literally do yourself no favours. "No favours for sure. You got hurt, never got over it, now you hurt everyone else. Like I said before. Got to love yourself first. It comes across like you love yourself too much. But you don't do you. It's just a never ending circle of shit | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford .... "Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!! | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!"We’ve danced this dance before. I’m being more polite these days than to revisit it. God speed x | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
"I sign Ashford Intl, chap. I don’t live there for good reason | |||
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I’m playing nicely now, so will tone it down... "Good shout out . We can all give you advice, but you are going to do what you are already doing haha. I'm off to bed. Night OP | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
I sign Ashford Intl, chap.
I don’t live there for good reason "Bed I said!! Speak to you tomorrow xx | |||
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"Well that escalated quickly
I’m playing nicely now, so will tone it down...
Good shout out . We can all give you advice, but you are going to do what you are already doing haha. I'm off to bed. Night OP "Not going down that road. I’ve been there before, nothing I’ve said tonight breaches forum rules. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
I sign Ashford Intl, chap.
I don’t live there for good reason
Bed I said!! Speak to you tomorrow xx"Chat... immediately. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
I sign Ashford Intl, chap.
I don’t live there for good reason
Bed I said!! Speak to you tomorrow xx
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"Please take the advice from a man from Chelsea..... Stop now before the forum police get you....." I’ve kept it polite tonight, no? | |||
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"Please take the advice from a man from Chelsea..... Stop now before the forum police get you..... Please listen to Rudey!! "He’s a true fab guru. He doesn’t live in Ashford, either . | |||
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"Please take the advice from a man from Chelsea..... Stop now before the forum police get you..... Please listen to Rudey!!
He’s a true fab guru.
He doesn’t live in Ashford, either . "He’s the main man in NYC | |||
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"Please take the advice from a man from Chelsea..... Stop now before the forum police get you..... Please listen to Rudey!!
He’s a true fab guru.
He doesn’t live in Ashford, either .
He’s the main man in NYC "No I’m the only guy in NYC on Fab.... I feel like I’m the last of the Mohicans sometimes.... | |||
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"Please take the advice from a man from Chelsea..... Stop now before the forum police get you..... I’ve kept it polite tonight, no? Here is the problem...... your politeness can be construed as a personal attack..... You’re a single male so admin has no problem banning you from the forums after any report.... So please go to bed because I like reading your threads and posts.... If you get banned again, I’ll be stuck reading kiss,snog,avoid, and if I suck cock does that make me bi threads until the end of time....." Otherwise you can read my eminent, powerful wisdoms. I’m trying not to get into arguments tonight. Your posts are top value, chap. Keep it up. Beddybise for me.... | |||
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"Please take the advice from a man from Chelsea..... Stop now before the forum police get you..... Please listen to Rudey!!
He’s a true fab guru.
He doesn’t live in Ashford, either .
He’s the main man in NYC
No I’m the only guy in NYC on Fab.... I feel like I’m the last of the Mohicans sometimes...."Exactly | |||
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"Please take the advice from a man from Chelsea..... Stop now before the forum police get you..... I’ve kept it polite tonight, no? Here is the problem...... your politeness can be construed as a personal attack..... You’re a single male so admin has no problem banning you from the forums after any report.... So please go to bed because I like reading your threads and posts.... If you get banned again, I’ll be stuck reading kiss,snog,avoid, and if I suck cock does that make me bi threads until the end of time..... Otherwise you can read my eminent, powerful wisdoms. I’m trying not to get into arguments tonight. Your posts are top value, chap. Keep it up. Beddybise for me.... " Best news all night. Kissy kissy xx | |||
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"Please take the advice from a man from Chelsea..... Stop now before the forum police get you..... Please listen to Rudey!!
He’s a true fab guru.
He doesn’t live in Ashford, either .
He’s the main man in NYC
No I’m the only guy in NYC on Fab.... I feel like I’m the last of the Mohicans sometimes...."One who comes with many wisdoms... | |||
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"I think you’re extremely lucky that you’ve got a lot of constructive advice and even sympathy in this thread. You must be a decent bloke. It sounds like you’ve got a lot of growing to do. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot? You owe it to these women and to yourself to be honest about everything. You’ll feel a million times better for it in the long run, even if it feels like a car crash initially. " I can’t disagree with any of that. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship. "I agree with this. Telling them you've cheated will give them trust issues. Think of a different way to put them off you forever. Good luck. x | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. " Just be honest with them, it's not rocket science  | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
We’ve danced this dance before. I’m being more polite these days than to revisit it.
God speed x "Indeed, my only point was the pot should not call the kettle black - many people would rather live anywhere on the planet than sarf London so I don't think you have any basis to go crowing about where you live! I think the whole of the south east is gross, I can't wait to escape again. You started a thread explaining how you are deceiving and manipulating a bunch of women as 'source' to feed your own need, so when someone in Ashford or Aberdeen calls you out on it, you need to take it on the chin IMO, not turn round and put them down. You are stealing these women's lives under false pretenses and you need to stop that and maybe get professional insight into your own angst instead. That's not a personal attack, that's just me reflecting back to you what you've asked for comment on because I find human psychology fascinating, and I think those women need you to feel bad enough about your behaviour to make a change. And then find the right help for yourself - or at least, as someone suggested, a happily swinging fwb who you can relate to in honesty. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
We’ve danced this dance before. I’m being more polite these days than to revisit it.
God speed x
Indeed, my only point was the pot should not call the kettle black - many people would rather live anywhere on the planet than sarf London so I don't think you have any basis to go crowing about where you live! I think the whole of the south east is gross, I can't wait to escape again.
You started a thread explaining how you are deceiving and manipulating a bunch of women as 'source' to feed your own need, so when someone in Ashford or Aberdeen calls you out on it, you need to take it on the chin IMO, not turn round and put them down.
You are stealing these women's lives under false pretenses and you need to stop that and maybe get professional insight into your own angst instead.
That's not a personal attack, that's just me reflecting back to you what you've asked for comment on because I find human psychology fascinating, and I think those women need you to feel bad enough about your behaviour to make a change. And then find the right help for yourself - or at least, as someone suggested, a happily swinging fwb who you can relate to in honesty."You need to get over the sarf London thing. It seems to be a peculiar snobbery/fixation of yours. Meanwhile there’s a three bed house on the market for £700k just down the road from me... Where do you live again? | |||
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"The one you’ve been seeing over a year is probably hooked on you by now, the more you push her away the harder she’ll try and pull you back, so being a dick head to her isn’t going to work, will probably just intensify her feelings. You could be honest with her in a nice way, say that although you have great affection for her you’ve realised that your feelings aren’t romantic anymore and you think of her as a sister. See what she does with that information, you aren’t blowing her off, you’re giving her a semi honest answer. The one from up north you can just say your life and career is the capital and you can’t move and you have no time for a relationship right now. The one who blew you off for a date only stings because you probably aren’t used to being blown out, that feeling will pass. " Most of that is true tbh. Time to have a serious word with myself in the mirror. | |||
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"Do you like yourself OP? Do you think you don't really deserve to be happy? Is it all superficial, using women to make you feel better? An ego boost kind of thing. You seem like a decent bloke but self destructive. The quick hit of feeling wanted by these women doesn't last long then you feel guilty again. You do deserve to be happy. Stop beating yourself up. Let the boomerang lady go. " No, I don’t like myself much at all. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
We’ve danced this dance before. I’m being more polite these days than to revisit it.
God speed x
Indeed, my only point was the pot should not call the kettle black - many people would rather live anywhere on the planet than sarf London so I don't think you have any basis to go crowing about where you live! I think the whole of the south east is gross, I can't wait to escape again.
You started a thread explaining how you are deceiving and manipulating a bunch of women as 'source' to feed your own need, so when someone in Ashford or Aberdeen calls you out on it, you need to take it on the chin IMO, not turn round and put them down.
You are stealing these women's lives under false pretenses and you need to stop that and maybe get professional insight into your own angst instead.
That's not a personal attack, that's just me reflecting back to you what you've asked for comment on because I find human psychology fascinating, and I think those women need you to feel bad enough about your behaviour to make a change. And then find the right help for yourself - or at least, as someone suggested, a happily swinging fwb who you can relate to in honesty.
You need to get over the sarf London thing. It seems to be a peculiar snobbery/fixation of yours.
Meanwhile there’s a three bed house on the market for £700k just down the road from me...
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
We’ve danced this dance before. I’m being more polite these days than to revisit it.
God speed x
Indeed, my only point was the pot should not call the kettle black - many people would rather live anywhere on the planet than sarf London so I don't think you have any basis to go crowing about where you live! I think the whole of the south east is gross, I can't wait to escape again.
You started a thread explaining how you are deceiving and manipulating a bunch of women as 'source' to feed your own need, so when someone in Ashford or Aberdeen calls you out on it, you need to take it on the chin IMO, not turn round and put them down.
You are stealing these women's lives under false pretenses and you need to stop that and maybe get professional insight into your own angst instead.
That's not a personal attack, that's just me reflecting back to you what you've asked for comment on because I find human psychology fascinating, and I think those women need you to feel bad enough about your behaviour to make a change. And then find the right help for yourself - or at least, as someone suggested, a happily swinging fwb who you can relate to in honesty.
You need to get over the sarf London thing. It seems to be a peculiar snobbery/fixation of yours.
Meanwhile there’s a three bed house on the market for £700k just down the road from me...
Where do you live again?
£700k? A 2 bed flat near me is £500k. That house sounds like a bargain. "
Funny that, isn’t it.
And yet we’ve just heard that many people would “rather live anywhere on the planet” than south London.
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
We’ve danced this dance before. I’m being more polite these days than to revisit it.
God speed x
Indeed, my only point was the pot should not call the kettle black - many people would rather live anywhere on the planet than sarf London so I don't think you have any basis to go crowing about where you live! I think the whole of the south east is gross, I can't wait to escape again.
You started a thread explaining how you are deceiving and manipulating a bunch of women as 'source' to feed your own need, so when someone in Ashford or Aberdeen calls you out on it, you need to take it on the chin IMO, not turn round and put them down.
You are stealing these women's lives under false pretenses and you need to stop that and maybe get professional insight into your own angst instead.
That's not a personal attack, that's just me reflecting back to you what you've asked for comment on because I find human psychology fascinating, and I think those women need you to feel bad enough about your behaviour to make a change. And then find the right help for yourself - or at least, as someone suggested, a happily swinging fwb who you can relate to in honesty.
You need to get over the sarf London thing. It seems to be a peculiar snobbery/fixation of yours.
Meanwhile there’s a three bed house on the market for £700k just down the road from me...
Where do you live again?
£700k? A 2 bed flat near me is £500k. That house sounds like a bargain.
Funny that, isn’t it.
And yet we’ve just heard that many people would “rather live anywhere on the planet” than south London.
I’ve honestly never heard such BS. "I like living here but I can think of many other places I would live first. I’m a costal girl so anywhere by the sea as long as it’s sand and not pebbles. | |||
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"What you after bud...what is it yr searching for with these ladies..if none do it....meditation. .find what yr after inside...u seem to be searching....
Yes, meditation helped me detach from someone a few years ago and it was the best thing ever and we have a great friendship now.
Buddy I would let them all go..but don't tell them u have been cheating..that will just cause them great insurcurity.(.I know I spelt that wrong lol)..and that will make future relationships hard for them....they only have one prob thats you...just let them down..say your a dick ..it you..dont give them problems to make u feel better. ..then consecrate on u for bit....be honest in next relationship.
Saying I’m a dick doesn’t work.
She’s like boomerang. The harder I throw her away, the harder she comes back at me.
Would that be the case if you were honest about the reality of your behaviour though?
No.
She’d tell me to foxtrot Oscar. Immediately.
And she’d be right to.
She would be right to. You've held on to her for your own needs. Not hers. You don't want to lose her in your life and are willing to fill her with false hope in order to achieve this. It's a pretty shitty thing to do. You know it's a shitty thing to do. You need to put her first for once, because what you are doing is toxic to you both, but she's completely blind to it at the moment. There is a way that you can break it off and not get back and that is to say no if she tries. You are not helping her by dragging her on this rollercoaster. It will break her in the long run. Do you really want to do that to someone you care about?
No, I really, really don’t want to do that to her.
I’m too cowardly to tell her the truth.
Come on..u sound like u need alot of attention and thats why u play..one fucks u off its cool got more attitude..u truly dont care or u would finish it ..coward or not..
You said u battle mental health...
So thats yr problem. .not the women..there like a car to u..they come and go...u need to sort u..before u end up with 3 kids totally unhappy and fucking up everyone around ya...time to grow the fuck up son.
Nope cars are something that don’t answer back, and something I can chop in when in need to.
Definitely avoiding the kids for now (I’ve already had the experience of stealing’s someone wife and kid, living in his house with his wife and newborn baby, he had to rent a flat up the road. There’s a painful tee shirt I’ve bought and don’t want to buy again).
Does that make me a prick? Probably.
I don’t care.
You said it bud..
I mean the...you don't care bit....and u said it all when u said ..you have been cheated on....aarrhhh you never got over that did ya..lol little boy hurt..she wanted someone else's winky..ego popped...
Your just a hurt little boy..lol
Lets hope they on here and u don't know and they read this...lmao.. u need tucling in..don't forget ya bottle. .
Great advice...
From a bloke who lives in Ashford ....
Said the man in Hither Green lol.....
Right, I'm out!!
We’ve danced this dance before. I’m being more polite these days than to revisit it.
God speed x
Indeed, my only point was the pot should not call the kettle black - many people would rather live anywhere on the planet than sarf London so I don't think you have any basis to go crowing about where you live! I think the whole of the south east is gross, I can't wait to escape again.
You started a thread explaining how you are deceiving and manipulating a bunch of women as 'source' to feed your own need, so when someone in Ashford or Aberdeen calls you out on it, you need to take it on the chin IMO, not turn round and put them down.
You are stealing these women's lives under false pretenses and you need to stop that and maybe get professional insight into your own angst instead.
That's not a personal attack, that's just me reflecting back to you what you've asked for comment on because I find human psychology fascinating, and I think those women need you to feel bad enough about your behaviour to make a change. And then find the right help for yourself - or at least, as someone suggested, a happily swinging fwb who you can relate to in honesty.
You need to get over the sarf London thing. It seems to be a peculiar snobbery/fixation of yours.
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" Meanwhile there’s a three bed house on the market for £700k just down the road from me... " But as you said 'My expensive car and my expensive flat mean fuck all tbh....' I could buy a lovely farm up North for 700k, that would be much better value for money in my book lol, I hate cities - though I did see some pretty smart houses at the back of Kensington High Street at the weekend, I would't mind one of those for a weekend pied a terre!! | |||
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" Meanwhile there’s a three bed house on the market for £700k just down the road from me... But as you said 'My expensive car and my expensive flat mean fuck all tbh....' I could buy a lovely farm up North for 700k, that would be much better value for money in my book lol, I hate cities - though I did see some pretty smart houses at the back of Kensington High Street at the weekend, I would't mind one of those for a weekend pied a terre!! "Sounds nice. Look, I probably overreacted. I grew up in SE London and get sick of hearing it slagged off. It’s gentrified now, don’t you know?! | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. " Well that makes you a bit of a bounder and a cad, as you are aware. Be better, be honest x | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. " you're just confirming how many women here feel about men anyway | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. " To quote 1 of my favourite Bands. Well, I'm running down the road tryin' to loosen my load I've got seven women on my mind, Four that wanna own me, Two that wanna stone me, One says she's a friend of mine Take It easy, take it easy Don't let the sound of your own wheels drive you crazy Lighten up while you still can don't even try to understand Just find a place to make your stand and take it easy | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. " So you're stringing her along until you get something better. I really don't think anything more needs to be said does it. And was this the girl you'd decided was going to be your girlfriend after meeting her for about an hour? Or am I mixi g you with somebody else. | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. " If you view them as friends I guess I'm glad I'm not your friend. So basically you're just lying to everybody to manipulate yourself a better life. Doesn't sound very rewarding to be honest. | |||
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"Probably time to bring this to a close. Thanks for all the advice - mostly be more honest - which deep down I know is what I should be doing anyway. Ta muchly x " Ah -you can't get off that lightly -the lynching hasn't even begun yet -come back and face the mob this instant! | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. To quote 1 of my favourite Bands. Well, I'm running down the road tryin' to loosen my load I've got seven women on my mind, Four that wanna own me, Two that wanna stone me, One says she's a friend of mine Take It easy, take it easy Don't let the sound of your own wheels drive you crazy Lighten up while you still can don't even try to understand Just find a place to make your stand and take it easy " I thought you looked like an Eagles guy. | |||
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"Probably time to bring this to a close. Thanks for all the advice - mostly be more honest - which deep down I know is what I should be doing anyway. Ta muchly x " Fair play to you brother. That is a pretty impressive haul in 11 hours. Have you got CFP exemption? | |||
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet? "
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. "Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright | |||
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright "He was stinking rich though & a legend! I assume all the girls knew the score & they had honesty as opposed to lies and sneaking! | |||
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright
He was stinking rich though & a legend!
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright
He was stinking rich though & a legend!
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright
He was stinking rich though & a legend!
To be fair, that could also be describing Jimmy Saville. "Not in my book. | |||
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"We just get on so well and I want her to remain in my life. " That sentence says it all. It seems you're more worried about how you will feel if she isn't in your life than how she would feel beimg told the truth so that she can make her own choice on whether you're worthy of being in her life | |||
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright
He was stinking rich though & a legend!
To be fair, that could also be describing Jimmy Saville. "That’s my new name for you. I’m going to adjust it in my phone. | |||
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" Forget about Thursdays date. Tell the one up north that long distance relationships don't work for you. Stop stringing the other one along if you can't see it going anywhere. Or have a chat with her and see if she's happy with a friend's with benefits type arrangement, because I think that's how you see it? Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet? " Probably. Maybe that’s it. | |||
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright
He was stinking rich though & a legend!
To be fair, that could also be describing Jimmy Saville.
That’s my new name for you. I’m going to adjust it in my phone. "Now then now then. | |||
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" Forget about Thursdays date. Tell the one up north that long distance relationships don't work for you. Stop stringing the other one along if you can't see it going anywhere. Or have a chat with her and see if she's happy with a friend's with benefits type arrangement, because I think that's how you see it? Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet? Probably. Maybe that’s it. " There's a lot of pressure on people to meet someone and settle down. It gets harder as you get older I think, especially if your mates all have. I knew someone who went almost into panic mode when he was late 30's, having numerous girlfriends, fucking them about. He saw it as his last chance to be able to do that I think. He's married now but he didn't meet his wife down the pub shall we say!! You seem like a nice guy deep down OP, I hope you do the right thing | |||
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright
He was stinking rich though & a legend!
To be fair, that could also be describing Jimmy Saville.
That’s my new name for you. I’m going to adjust it in my phone.
Now then now then. "I’m adding that ring tone. | |||
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright
He was stinking rich though & a legend!
To be fair, that could also be describing Jimmy Saville.
That’s my new name for you. I’m going to adjust it in my phone.
Now then now then.
I’m adding that ring tone. "Ping it to me when you get a second. You know where I am . | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... " That smart, gorgeous, accomplished, professional woman didn't really fall for the real you though, did she? Tell her, then take some time away from all this. | |||
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"I think if you don't see the women in your life as friends then you need to stop seeing them. Trouble is, I do view them as friends. Especially tonight’s. Love her to bits and would like to just be a mate but she wants more. And I’m lying to her, because I’m still trying to meet new people. But you said you treat your friends better than the women on your life. If you want to be just mates why aren't you just mates? Why can't you tell her that? Fair question. Honest answer? I’m too scared to tell her. There, I said it. How do you tell that smart, gorgeous, accomplished professional woman, whose told you she wants to be in a relationship with you, that you've been doing the dirty on her for the last year or so? She doesn’t know I’m trawling around on here either. If she did, she’d be (rightly) mortified. I need to stop doing this because it’s a bloody lonely and soulless existence. The only people I can look to are my friends... That smart, gorgeous, accomplished, professional woman didn't really fall for the real you though, did she? Tell her, then take some time away from all this. " | |||
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend. "You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have  I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then? | |||
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?"This is true....you may end up with a plastic fairy lodged up your arse. | |||
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?
This is true....you may end up with a plastic fairy lodged up your arse."Or feel the pressure for a sympathy shag, which is going to make things worse | |||
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?"Yes that’s the plan. Very difficult to know how to bring it up. It’s such a weird one: we get on more like friends, but have hardly slept together. It should be great on paper but there’s just something missing. Surely she must also be feeling that on some level. It just doesn’t feel like a relationship. In my defence I haven’t been using her for sex, which is the usual thing guys are accused of doing. | |||
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" Do you feel like this because you're approaching 40 and not settling down yet?
There’s only so long you can go on with playboy behaviour. Say it’s not true!!! Hugh Hefner did alright
He was stinking rich though & a legend!
I assume all the girls knew the score & they had honesty as opposed to lies and sneaking!
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?
Yes that’s the plan. Very difficult to know how to bring it up.
It’s such a weird one: we get on more like friends, but have hardly slept together. It should be great on paper but there’s just something missing. Surely she must also be feeling that on some level.
It just doesn’t feel like a relationship. In my defence I haven’t been using her for sex, which is the usual thing guys are accused of doing. "A single friend of mine asks the blokes she meets (after a while if she feels like she's getting feelings) straight up if they are officially an 'item'. Seems like a plan to me, at least they both know where they stand. After a year, is it taken for granted? Does someone have to raise the issue still? I don't know how it works these days!! | |||
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?
Yes that’s the plan. Very difficult to know how to bring it up.
It’s such a weird one: we get on more like friends, but have hardly slept together. It should be great on paper but there’s just something missing. Surely she must also be feeling that on some level.
It just doesn’t feel like a relationship. In my defence I haven’t been using her for sex, which is the usual thing guys are accused of doing.
A single friend of mine asks the blokes she meets (after a while if she feels like she's getting feelings) straight up if they are officially an 'item'. Seems like a plan to me, at least they both know where they stand.
After a year, is it taken for granted? Does someone have to raise the issue still? I don't know how it works these days!!"I think it just becomes an unsaid assumption after a while. We have never really moved beyond going out for dinner, drinks after work etc. She’s only been over to mine once and I have stayed at hers a few times. | |||
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. To quote 1 of my favourite Bands. Well, I'm running down the road tryin' to loosen my load I've got seven women on my mind, Four that wanna own me, Two that wanna stone me, One says she's a friend of mine Take It easy, take it easy Don't let the sound of your own wheels drive you crazy Lighten up while you still can don't even try to understand Just find a place to make your stand and take it easy I thought you looked like an Eagles guy. " Please allow me to introduce myself I'm a man of taste. | |||
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?
Yes that’s the plan. Very difficult to know how to bring it up.
It’s such a weird one: we get on more like friends, but have hardly slept together. It should be great on paper but there’s just something missing. Surely she must also be feeling that on some level.
It just doesn’t feel like a relationship. In my defence I haven’t been using her for sex, which is the usual thing guys are accused of doing.
A single friend of mine asks the blokes she meets (after a while if she feels like she's getting feelings) straight up if they are officially an 'item'. Seems like a plan to me, at least they both know where they stand.
After a year, is it taken for granted? Does someone have to raise the issue still? I don't know how it works these days!!
I think it just becomes an unsaid assumption after a while. We have never really moved beyond going out for dinner, drinks after work etc. She’s only been over to mine once and I have stayed at hers a few times. "You can't run any relationship on unsaid assumptions. You have no idea how she sees your relationship and she certainly has no idea about how you see it. | |||
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?
Yes that’s the plan. Very difficult to know how to bring it up.
It’s such a weird one: we get on more like friends, but have hardly slept together. It should be great on paper but there’s just something missing. Surely she must also be feeling that on some level.
It just doesn’t feel like a relationship. In my defence I haven’t been using her for sex, which is the usual thing guys are accused of doing.
A single friend of mine asks the blokes she meets (after a while if she feels like she's getting feelings) straight up if they are officially an 'item'. Seems like a plan to me, at least they both know where they stand.
After a year, is it taken for granted? Does someone have to raise the issue still? I don't know how it works these days!!
I think it just becomes an unsaid assumption after a while. We have never really moved beyond going out for dinner, drinks after work etc. She’s only been over to mine once and I have stayed at hers a few times.
You can't run any relationship on unsaid assumptions. You have no idea how she sees your relationship and she certainly has no idea about how you see it.
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. To quote 1 of my favourite Bands. Well, I'm running down the road tryin' to loosen my load I've got seven women on my mind, Four that wanna own me, Two that wanna stone me, One says she's a friend of mine Take It easy, take it easy Don't let the sound of your own wheels drive you crazy Lighten up while you still can don't even try to understand Just find a place to make your stand and take it easy I thought you looked like an Eagles guy. Please allow me to introduce myself I'm a man of taste. "I knew I couldn’t be the only Ora fan on here. Shall we go to an Ariana Grande concert together?! | |||
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?
Yes that’s the plan. Very difficult to know how to bring it up.
It’s such a weird one: we get on more like friends, but have hardly slept together. It should be great on paper but there’s just something missing. Surely she must also be feeling that on some level.
It just doesn’t feel like a relationship. In my defence I haven’t been using her for sex, which is the usual thing guys are accused of doing.
A single friend of mine asks the blokes she meets (after a while if she feels like she's getting feelings) straight up if they are officially an 'item'. Seems like a plan to me, at least they both know where they stand.
After a year, is it taken for granted? Does someone have to raise the issue still? I don't know how it works these days!!
I think it just becomes an unsaid assumption after a while. We have never really moved beyond going out for dinner, drinks after work etc. She’s only been over to mine once and I have stayed at hers a few times.
You can't run any relationship on unsaid assumptions. You have no idea how she sees your relationship and she certainly has no idea about how you see it.
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"I feel like that right now. Thursday’s date has blown me off. I was excited about it... met her in person at a dating event last week. I’m 35, she was 28, so I guess that made me feel younger. I was on a date with someone else tonight (at a winterville in Clapham) who I’ve been seeing for a year or so, but not been honest with, because the chemistry isn’t there. I’m also dating a 31yo who lives up north and wants to settle down. I guess I lie a lot. Thoughts? I know it’s not cool. I treat friends far better than I treat the women in my life. FAB, so your worst. To quote 1 of my favourite Bands. Well, I'm running down the road tryin' to loosen my load I've got seven women on my mind, Four that wanna own me, Two that wanna stone me, One says she's a friend of mine Take It easy, take it easy Don't let the sound of your own wheels drive you crazy Lighten up while you still can don't even try to understand Just find a place to make your stand and take it easy I thought you looked like an Eagles guy. Please allow me to introduce myself I'm a man of taste.
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?
Yes that’s the plan. Very difficult to know how to bring it up.
It’s such a weird one: we get on more like friends, but have hardly slept together. It should be great on paper but there’s just something missing. Surely she must also be feeling that on some level.
It just doesn’t feel like a relationship. In my defence I haven’t been using her for sex, which is the usual thing guys are accused of doing.
A single friend of mine asks the blokes she meets (after a while if she feels like she's getting feelings) straight up if they are officially an 'item'. Seems like a plan to me, at least they both know where they stand.
After a year, is it taken for granted? Does someone have to raise the issue still? I don't know how it works these days!!
I think it just becomes an unsaid assumption after a while. We have never really moved beyond going out for dinner, drinks after work etc. She’s only been over to mine once and I have stayed at hers a few times.
You can't run any relationship on unsaid assumptions. You have no idea how she sees your relationship and she certainly has no idea about how you see it.
True.
Hopefully we can just agree to be friends and there’ll be no need to go into further (potentially hurtful) detail. "Well, I hope it all works out for the best for all concerned. | |||
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"Thanks for the advice guys. I wasn’t sure whether to start this thread but it’s funny how the honesty of random internet strangers can put things into perspective. I need to sort things out. Some difficult conversations coming up this weekend.
You're helping her put her Christmas decorations up you said, didn't you? To me that's quite a boyfriendy thing to do, it's supposed to be a happy time. Not sure it's a great time for the kind of chat you intend to have I know there isn't really a good time btw, perhaps you should see if you can pop round before then?
Yes that’s the plan. Very difficult to know how to bring it up.
It’s such a weird one: we get on more like friends, but have hardly slept together. It should be great on paper but there’s just something missing. Surely she must also be feeling that on some level.
It just doesn’t feel like a relationship. In my defence I haven’t been using her for sex, which is the usual thing guys are accused of doing.
A single friend of mine asks the blokes she meets (after a while if she feels like she's getting feelings) straight up if they are officially an 'item'. Seems like a plan to me, at least they both know where they stand.
After a year, is it taken for granted? Does someone have to raise the issue still? I don't know how it works these days!!
I think it just becomes an unsaid assumption after a while. We have never really moved beyond going out for dinner, drinks after work etc. She’s only been over to mine once and I have stayed at hers a few times.
You can't run any relationship on unsaid assumptions. You have no idea how she sees your relationship and she certainly has no idea about how you see it.
True.
Hopefully we can just agree to be friends and there’ll be no need to go into further (potentially hurtful) detail.
Well, I hope it all works out for the best for all concerned."Thanks again . | |||
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