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over a year ago
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so i posted about this before...
so you may have heard me say. me and my brothers girlfriend really dont like each other to the point where she wasnt inviting me to party etc (including christmas party)
they are getting married next year and although i will go to the wedding im seriously debating if to go to the party etc...
i still like my brother but not her. |
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"so i posted about this before...
so you may have heard me say. me and my brothers girlfriend really dont like each other to the point where she wasnt inviting me to party etc (including christmas party)
they are getting married next year and although i will go to the wedding im seriously debating if to go to the party etc...
i still like my brother but not her."
At the end of the day hes your brother you go for his sake and you learn to tollerate the fiance as best you can  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i had this with my ex i hated his brother with a passion but we were always civil to each other when he met his now wife things got even worse as there was a lot of upset with her when they got married i declined to go to the wedding i just didnt feel right going so stayed away |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"so i posted about this before...
so you may have heard me say. me and my brothers girlfriend really dont like each other to the point where she wasnt inviting me to party etc (including christmas party)
they are getting married next year and although i will go to the wedding im seriously debating if to go to the party etc...
i still like my brother but not her.
At the end of the day hes your brother you go for his sake and you learn to tollerate the fiance as best you can "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, I remember you posting before about this.
My advice to you after having to put up with in-laws I haven't liked for years is... be totally honest with your brother. Let him know you care for him despite not liking his, that's HIS (btw) life choices.
He maybe the happiest man alive for all you know. If the marriage goes off the rails days, months, weeks or even years later, at least he'll know you were genuine and you'll be there for him.
One last word from me: Interfering in-laws are not welcome in many lives. Have your say and back off... if a relationship is concrete, no pneumatic-drilling-in-law is going to make any dents |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you dont want to fallout with your brother...
make the effort...for him!"
That's pretty much the crux of it. No need to even tell him you don't like his partner, and if he isn't blind or deaf he probably knows it anyway so why confirm it. Let sleeping dogs lie and do what you must for the sake of your wider family. It doesn't sound like you'll ever have much contact with her family so they don't even enter into the equation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i might not go to the engagement party just for the fun of it...
This comment is so childish!"
yes it is but is but if everyone was invited to a christmas party apart from you (including other family members)... you would also find this funny
lets face i aim doing nothing to help her again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Life is too short for all this not talking to family members crap. I can't be arsed falling out with any of mine."
not even if one of them tried to fuck you over? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My daughter had a boyfriend her father and I couldn't stand.
She is now engaged to a lovely lad but to this day she doesn't know how much we disliked the last one.
At Christmas she said it was nice seeing me and Mark chatting away. I said different from Michael. She nodded and said a big difference and how different her life was.
I left it at that.
My point is don't let your dislike of your sister in law override the love you have for your brother.
It's childish and petty to keep up this level of contempt...don't you have other things to occupy your mind? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My daughter had a boyfriend her father and I couldn't stand.
She is now engaged to a lovely lad but to this day she doesn't know how much we disliked the last one.
At Christmas she said it was nice seeing me and Mark chatting away. I said different from Michael. She nodded and said a big difference and how different her life was.
I left it at that.
My point is don't let your dislike of your sister in law override the love you have for your brother.
It's childish and petty to keep up this level of contempt...don't you have other things to occupy your mind? "
no im i dont hav may problems.... so get bored. |
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"Life is too short for all this not talking to family members crap. I can't be arsed falling out with any of mine.
not even if one of them tried to fuck you over?"
Fuck you over to what extent? Some of your posts do sound childish as from what I'm reading it;s down to not being invited to a party?
I don't talk to any of my family. And it's not easy even though it was my choice. Be careful what you wish for, you could end up ostracising yourself from your own family because of your dislike of her. Is that what you want? Is it a risk worth taking? |
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