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over a year ago
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We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. |
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"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "
Spending it on my own this year. Not doing anything. By choice |
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"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "
There's a really fantastic thing to do. Well done you |
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"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "
Fair play to you for doing that.
A mate of mine has done voluntary work with the homeless on Christmas Day morning in the past, I’m considering similar. |
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Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them. |
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them. "
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices. |
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices. "
Oi. Whitey. Where my £100 worth of lottery tickets?  |
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.
Oi. Whitey. Where my £100 worth of lottery tickets? "
Check under your pillow. I’m like a beardy tooth fairy.  |
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices. "
91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities? |
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I had a painful break up one Christmas and did not want to see anyone I booked myself into a Hotel in Liverpool and spent Xmas day on my own. Not a situation I would repeat in hindsight. I was miserable as fuck. 
This year I have a friend who will be on his own coming to my Step Families dinner. I kind of wish I had take taken some advice at the time and not gone away. |
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I've volunteered on Christmas day before and found it moving but also uplifting. I don't anymore simply because I tend to work on boxing day so I enjoy the peace and sanctuary of a day on my own |
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I've done Christmas on my own and really enjoyed it!! In fact the who's going where arguments among my extended family in the run up to Christmas is pretty much the only thing I don't like about Christmas. This year they're all coming to mine... God help me!!  |
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices. "
This. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Last few years we have invited an elderly person into our home from the village nursing home for xmas lunch , games and then tea before taking them back in the evening. We got the idea from Bisto spare chair Sundays, We have met some lovely people and they really enjoy being part of a family for at least a few hours  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.
91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities? "
There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.
And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though |
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"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "
Well spend some time over xmas doing voluntary work - a lot of people really need help at Christmas |
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I've got my mum and sisters and a lot of friends to see, bit it's the people that aren't here I miss and it still makes it feel lonely. It's my third one since my dad died and the last two have been crap without him, and I've got an ex from 10 years ago that I always miss a bit at Christmas. I don't still pine over being with her, that ship sailed long ago, but we had an amazing Christmas together back then and I've missed her on that day ever since.  |
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.
91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?
There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.
And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though "
The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.
91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?
There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.
And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though
The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion. "
Shouldn't have expected anything different really |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't do Christmas so no different to being on my own on any other day, except the tv is shittier, usually  ... Have a feeling some git might want me to leave the house at some point tho |
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I’ll be on my own this Christmas, kids are at their dads this year, usually I would go to my mum and dads but this year for the first time ever, they’re going to my sisters and we don’t get on. I’m hoping someone will swap a shift with me and I’ll get to work Christmas Day instead, of not..it’ll be me and the dog |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.
91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?
There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.
And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though
The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion. "
This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is? |
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.
91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?
There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.
And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though
The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion.
This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is? "
Because if what you are actually doing is just alleviating totally justified social isolation, then it would not be a good deed. It would actually be a bad deed because you give them a reason not to improve themselves. |
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By *abs..Woman
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.
91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?
There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.
And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though
The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion.
This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is?
Because if what you are actually doing is just alleviating totally justified social isolation, then it would not be a good deed. It would actually be a bad deed because you give them a reason not to improve themselves. "
I don’t get why helping someone is massaging their own ego? And why is it a saviour complex? You don’t base doing good deeds on whether or not a person is going to improve themselves. That’s not really what it is about. I think you miss the point of helping a lonely person. |
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them. "
This is my problem, out of a sense of duty I've invited my awful father, no one wants him here, I cannot explain how obnoxious he is to be around (personal hygiene issues aside) but I just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. We're all dreading it. |
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I do community outreach work with the elderly. The vast majority of them are amazing people (kind, generous, empathetic, talented, I could go on), but, their children and sometimes grandchildren are responsible adults with lives, and they suffer social isolation given their decreasing mobility and independence. Although we don't do work on bank holidays, we can be their major or even only social outlet during the week (it's not all we do, of course). Some are childless, some have children who have moved far away, some had children who predeceased them.
To suggest that loneliness is a personal fault is ridiculous on its face and something I find personally affronting. For most of these things, it's very much "there, but for the grace of God, go I." |
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.
91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?
There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.
And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though
The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion.
This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is?
Because if what you are actually doing is just alleviating totally justified social isolation, then it would not be a good deed. It would actually be a bad deed because you give them a reason not to improve themselves.
I don’t get why helping someone is massaging their own ego? And why is it a saviour complex? You don’t base doing good deeds on whether or not a person is going to improve themselves. That’s not really what it is about. I think you miss the point of helping a lonely person. "
As i say, I reject the premise that you are helping them. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Some of my family like to help out at similar events. I wonder why the majority of people are there in the first place. I know quite a few elderly people whose children hate them. In most those cases, it's deserved, in my opinion, and I struggle to muster any sympathy for them.
In many cases it may simply be due to getting older, parents dying, siblings not being close, not having children etc.
Britain in 2018 is an increasingly lonely place, where everyone hides behind mobile devices.
91% of people born in 1946 have had children. Most would have had brothers and sisters too, but i appreciate they might have passed. Are we really saying that the majority of people there are comprised from that 9% group as opposed to people from the 91% that have anti social personalities?
There are any number of reasons people might be on their own, not just at Christmas but any given time, and those reasons will vary from simple circumstance, to choice, to being aged and not having family nearby, to yes even *some* who are there due to anti social personalities.
And yes in some cases it's incredibly sad, in others it's just a fact of life for those concerned - I take my hat off to anyone that goes out of their way to help those in need or show them some love though
The operative word in my statements was 'majority'. The research overwhelmingly shows that personality is virtually static after age 30. So if you know someone who was an unpleasant person in their 30's, then the highest probability is that they will still be an unpleasant person in their 70's. The people that are 'helping' them usually have a saviour complex and are indirectly massaging their own ego, whilst temporarily relieving the social pressures that might turn that person into a fundamentally better human being, one that other people naturally want to be around, rather than pity. In my opinion.
This post makes me sad. ‘Indirectly massaging their ego’ is such a negative way of looking at things. It’s not a crime to feel good and if doing a good deed gives you and them pleasure then I’m not sure what the issue is?
Because if what you are actually doing is just alleviating totally justified social isolation, then it would not be a good deed. It would actually be a bad deed because you give them a reason not to improve themselves.
I don’t get why helping someone is massaging their own ego? And why is it a saviour complex? You don’t base doing good deeds on whether or not a person is going to improve themselves. That’s not really what it is about. I think you miss the point of helping a lonely person.
As i say, I reject the premise that you are helping them. "
Which once again tells us all we need to know |
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I've got my daughter Xmas eve night but then she's going to her mum's for the day in the morning so I'll be on my own then.
I've provisionally booked a hotel for the night but I can cancel up to the 24th without penalty if something comes up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I tend to spend Christmas day alone.
There are a few dates around December that bring back too many memories. A day that should be full of joy and giving simply tears me apart. "
Then come to Lynton! Your more than welcome xx |
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I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ... |
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"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ... "
I want to say well done but that sounds patronising. I think that's a great idea though.  |
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"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ... "
That sounds lovely. Christmas spirit indeed!
I'm sometimes on my own on the day for a variety of reasons. But I celebrate on a different day and am not faced with chronic loneliness, which is an entirely different thing. |
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"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ...
I want to say well done but that sounds patronising. I think that's a great idea though. "
It really is a genuine offer |
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"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ...
I want to say well done but that sounds patronising. I think that's a great idea though.
It really is a genuine offer"
I think it’s s lovely offer xxx |
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"I'm usually on my own at christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ...
I want to say well done but that sounds patronising. I think that's a great idea
It really is a genuine offer
I think it’s s lovely offer xxx"
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Well will wait and see ...if only a couple of people takes me up on it it will be a result really though. (I am a lot of fun) |
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"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see.
Spending it on my own this year. Not doing anything. By choice "
You're in prison, aren't you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be alone again and will quietly enjoy.
Close the door to the world, eat, drink and watch lots of TV and movies. "
This is exactly what I’ll be doing although I will speak to family on the phone.
I really enjoy spending the day alone |
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By *im2006Man
over a year ago
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Xmas is lonely another one on my own but you just remember goid oned you had previously although think everyone wants bit of company to break up day but still enjoy seeing other people and kid's enjoying there day |
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"I'm usually on my own at Christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a Christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ... "
..I've posted this as a meet on my profile to save me bumping this up |
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"Last few years we have invited an elderly person into our home from the village nursing home for xmas lunch , games and then tea before taking them back in the evening. We got the idea from Bisto spare chair Sundays, We have met some lovely people and they really enjoy being part of a family for at least a few hours "
Love this idea |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"I'm usually on my own at Christmas as I don't have family...but on a happier note I am more than willing to host a Christmas dinner and such here at my home for anyone else who may be alone ... I'm a great cook and very sociable, can cater for for 10/12 if anyone is in the slightest interested ...
..I've posted this as a meet on my profile to save me bumping this up "
Aw that's lovely |
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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago
LONDON |
"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "
Im spending Xmas on my own this year. I planned to spend it with my ex-gf but she cant keep her temper. So Im better off... if I allow myself to put up with her crap it will affect my self esteem |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see. "
My only concern with this is why is it suggested that just widows are lonely? Anyone alive can, and are, lonely at one time or another ... X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are very lucky where we live that the community centre is putting on Xmas and Boxing Day meals for those on their own. I’ve invited people from work I know are on their own at Christmas but I do get sad for them, it must be a lonely time if your a widow with no family or family you don’t see.
My only concern with this is why is it suggested that just widows are lonely? Anyone alive can, and are, lonely at one time or another ... X"
Too true, the was a good article on it on the BBC news site a few days ago |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't have a partner or children so Christmas is a bit of a non event for me.
I'll work for a few hours in the morning for double pay, have Chrismas dinner with my sister and her family ( who I see a handful of times a year ) then come home in the evening on my own.
Which suits me just fine.
I'm happy in my own company and luckily don't suffer from acute loneliness like some.
I make myself busy and appreciate the time I have to relax.
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"I don't have a partner or children so Christmas is a bit of a non event for me.
I'll work for a few hours in the morning for double pay, have Chrismas dinner with my sister and her family ( who I see a handful of times a year ) then come home in the evening on my own.
Which suits me just fine.
I'm happy in my own company and luckily don't suffer from acute loneliness like some.
I make myself busy and appreciate the time I have to relax.
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Very similar to mine, except I do the family thing before so the day and the week is mine. |
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