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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago
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What is the most off-putting place you’ve been suggested for a social?
I insist on a social before going any further (though I’ve made a couple of exceptions). Yes, this is a sex site, but to me, the social aspect is as important as the sex itself. If my mind is not aroused, neither will my body. I’ve been told this is a load of hogswash and that I should not be on here if I don’t just want to be upstairs with my legs spread wide just waiting for any plonker who asks me if I want “sum fun xx” sorry, I digress...
But anyway, I enjoy the social aspect, and I make an effort. I will dress nicely- I always meet during the day, so stockings and stilettos are a bit difficult to manage, especially if I have to come back to do the school run straight after  but I will dress seductively and will try to look attractive. The price of the venue to meet for a social is irrelevant as I never expect other people to pay for me and I will always insist to pay for my lunch/coffee/drinks.
Usually I am asked to come up with a place- which gets tiresome. It is very nice to get a message saying “I know a charming little coffee shop/pub in x area, I’d love to meet you there...” and I have done in the past, which has been lovely for these gents to make the effort and research or make plans for a lovely social. 
But there’s been a couple of times lately that I’ve been chtting, things look good for a social, and I’ve said that I like having plans laid in front of me and I was given a service station to meet, and just now, McDonald’s! I am laughing, really... why would I want to leave the comfort of my sofa to make the effort and dress to impress to go to a service station or to a McDonald’s?
And people wonder why they don’t get any meets...
This is a lighthearted post by the way. I’m not expecting The Savoy or The Ritz. Just a bit of thought... I go to McD’s with my kids often enough! |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve never been for a social...I’ve been on my way to a social, but we turned back because we wanted to fuck 
pesky time wasters 
I’m the worst!"
so your why we get weekend wingers naughty couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve never been for a social...I’ve been on my way to a social, but we turned back because we wanted to fuck
pesky time wasters
I’m the worst!
so your why we get weekend wingers naughty couple"
Maybe so 
But to be fair...we turned back from the social so I could fuck the man I was meant to be having a social with |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn't suggest somewhere like a fast food restaurant or a service station for a social meet - would usually go for a coffee shop or a pub, or have even met in a park for a walk and a chat.
That said I guess a lot may depend on circumstance, distance travelling etc and availability of locations mid-way, not to mention the type of connection that has been built up - some see socials as a quick coffee and confirmation that the other person is who their profile suggests they are, so guess that's why somewhere like McD's may seem acceptable to them - wouldn't be for me though. |
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"I’ve never been for a social...I’ve been on my way to a social, but we turned back because we wanted to fuck
pesky time wasters
I’m the worst!
so your why we get weekend wingers naughty couple
Maybe so
But to be fair...we turned back from the social so I could fuck the man I was meant to be having a social with "
ah phew thats good ok then |
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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I personally wouldn't suggest somewhere like a fast food restaurant or a service station for a social meet - would usually go for a coffee shop or a pub, or have even met in a park for a walk and a chat.
That said I guess a lot may depend on circumstance, distance travelling etc and availability of locations mid-way, not to mention the type of connection that has been built up - some see socials as a quick coffee and confirmation that the other person is who their profile suggests they are, so guess that's why somewhere like McD's may seem acceptable to them - wouldn't be for me though."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a social in a little place that has a load of pinball machines. It was great fun.
I usually find a cafe or tea shop close to them. If it doesn't go well, at least I have tea. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I've met someone in a Costa coffee at a services station near me, my suggestion. It happened to be half way between out and convenient for him as he was travelling on the M1. I would draw the line at McDonald's though..... 
I prefer a nice pub but it would only ever be a coffee, I really can't stand the thought of having lunch with someone that I didn't fancy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The Mcd or service station idea isn't an option, it's cheapskate at best, a pub or decent coffee house is the best option simply because it offers both the chance of bailing if it's not what was expected, a hotel is presumptuous |
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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've met someone in a Costa coffee at a services station near me, my suggestion. It happened to be half way between out and convenient for him as he was travelling on the M1. I would draw the line at McDonald's though.....
I prefer a nice pub but it would only ever be a coffee, I really can't stand the thought of having lunch with someone that I didn't fancy."
This is true, though I’ve been lucky in the lunch socials I’ve had as in there’s been attraction etc, but yes, a coffee/tea/becerage of choice is always the best way to go.
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Usually a pub or cafe... Although I live in a seasonal area so a lot of businesses close for 8-9 months of the year.
I met my fwb on a beach we then grabbed take-out coffees from a nearby shop (the only place that was open) and took a stroll during which he gleefully tried to push me into the water twice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like to social at the gum clinic, if she gets the all clear then it’s jiggy jiggy time 
(Unless she’s really fit and only carrying mild std’s then jiggy jiggy may also occur) |
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I've had a social in maccies before. It was before work, and I needed a cheeseburger and strawberry milkshake and 45 mins. 2 birds one stone. That's where I was heading and if he wanted the social then, well, he could bloody well meet me there. |
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A cafe ..... its safe , if we both wish to meet again ....thats fine ., if not well thats fine too .... I like to meet articulate well mannered people ....you can tell a lot by how they present themselves .... I once met a man who swore and kept calling me love .... and nudging me.... definitely a no no for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is nice when the guy suggests somewhere to, seems to be rare. "
I always suggest the lady chooses so that it is somewhere she feels comfortable, and safe. |
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The worst place suggested for a social in my experience... ‘come round to my place’. Ah no!
The best social venue was definitely the arcade. Armed with buckets of 2ps and competitively collecting tokens. Makes both parties at ease. Gives something to talk about and guaranteed giggles. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"The worst place suggested for a social in my experience... ‘come round to my place’. Ah no!
The best social venue was definitely the arcade. Armed with buckets of 2ps and competitively collecting tokens. Makes both parties at ease. Gives something to talk about and guaranteed giggles. "
Oh I want to do that with you  |
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"The worst place suggested for a social in my experience... ‘come round to my place’. Ah no!
The best social venue was definitely the arcade. Armed with buckets of 2ps and competitively collecting tokens. Makes both parties at ease. Gives something to talk about and guaranteed giggles.
Oh I want to do that with you "
I’ll hold you to that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gym spa
Pool/snooker bar
Park near graveyard
Karaoke bar
Cinema
Bowling
I always do socials first so trying a different place every time not to get bored, and having fun whilst enjoying a drink gives me idea if I want them to take my clothes off later in my place or if we are both going home alone |
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"The worst place suggested for a social in my experience... ‘come round to my place’. Ah no!
The best social venue was definitely the arcade. Armed with buckets of 2ps and competitively collecting tokens. Makes both parties at ease. Gives something to talk about and guaranteed giggles.
Oh I want to do that with you
I’ll hold you to that x"
Those coin push fountain things are soooo frustrating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The worst place I would’ve thought would be somewhere that you wouldn’t use as a date location.
The best place I’d say would be an arcade or if you’re both into sports then something like top golf |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The worst place suggested for a social in my experience... ‘come round to my place’. Ah no!
The best social venue was definitely the arcade. Armed with buckets of 2ps and competitively collecting tokens. Makes both parties at ease. Gives something to talk about and guaranteed giggles.
Oh I want to do that with you "
Me too! I love the 2p machines |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone asked me to go for a walk along the canal with them once "
To be honest the social where I was the least nervous was when we went to a park and walked along the river chatting. I’m not great with the coffee/pub thing. All seems a bit false, if I met someone in a pub when I was out normally I’d be totally fine and my usual self. I just don’t seem to be able to on a fab social. It’s odd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone asked me to go for a walk along the canal with them once "
That's the sort of thing I'd suggest (I have a boat and like the waterways), which is why I let the lady choose... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a woman at a motorway service station for a social. It was a shitty location but it certainly didn’t have a detrimental impact on the time we shared.... weeks later we met again in entirely more comfortable and private surroundings |
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"I've had a social in maccies before. It was before work, and I needed a cheeseburger and strawberry milkshake and 45 mins. 2 birds one stone. That's where I was heading and if he wanted the social then, well, he could bloody well meet me there. "
Ha! Love it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Coffee shop. Pub. Might stretch to a shopping mall place to have a drink, that way I could shop afterwards but not McDonald's. Or their car/van. Deffo not a park. Urgh. Nature. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I treat a social equally as I would for a play meet in terms of detail/planning.
Coffee/cafes etc way too boring and not for me. I often take charge with suggestions or surprise someone. Some of my most happiest memories were socials.
I won't go into details in here just incase someone actually allows me to take them out on a social. Miracles can happen!
Food is always guaranteed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I completely understand this OP. I get so fed up with suggesting where to meet for a social that I've put in my profile that if a man can be bothered to suggest somewhere, then I can't be bothered to meet him. After all if he's so unimaginative/thoughtless at the outset, what's he going to be like in bed? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is nice when the guy suggests somewhere to, seems to be rare.
I always suggest the lady chooses so that it is somewhere she feels comfortable, and safe."
This is a cop-out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I completely understand this OP. I get so fed up with suggesting where to meet for a social that I've put in my profile that if a man can be bothered to suggest somewhere, then I can't be bothered to meet him. After all if he's so unimaginative/thoughtless at the outset, what's he going to be like in bed? "
I agree with you there x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the most off-putting place you’ve been suggested for a social?
I insist on a social before going any further (though I’ve made a couple of exceptions). Yes, this is a sex site, but to me, the social aspect is as important as the sex itself. If my mind is not aroused, neither will my body. I’ve been told this is a load of hogswash and that I should not be on here if I don’t just want to be upstairs with my legs spread wide just waiting for any plonker who asks me if I want “sum fun xx” sorry, I digress...
But anyway, I enjoy the social aspect, and I make an effort. I will dress nicely- I always meet during the day, so stockings and stilettos are a bit difficult to manage, especially if I have to come back to do the school run straight after but I will dress seductively and will try to look attractive. The price of the venue to meet for a social is irrelevant as I never expect other people to pay for me and I will always insist to pay for my lunch/coffee/drinks.
Usually I am asked to come up with a place- which gets tiresome. It is very nice to get a message saying “I know a charming little coffee shop/pub in x area, I’d love to meet you there...” and I have done in the past, which has been lovely for these gents to make the effort and research or make plans for a lovely social.
But there’s been a couple of times lately that I’ve been chtting, things look good for a social, and I’ve said that I like having plans laid in front of me and I was given a service station to meet, and just now, McDonald’s! I am laughing, really... why would I want to leave the comfort of my sofa to make the effort and dress to impress to go to a service station or to a McDonald’s?
And people wonder why they don’t get any meets...
This is a lighthearted post by the way. I’m not expecting The Savoy or The Ritz. Just a bit of thought... I go to McD’s with my kids often enough! "
I was in a mixture of laughing and stunned when a guy about a month a go suggested McDonakds or KFC!!!
Still shaking my head!
I’m with you- I need a man to suggest a suitable place. If you can’t organise a coffee and cake/ cocktail how you going to organise an orgasm?
K frigging C!?!?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I completely understand this OP. I get so fed up with suggesting where to meet for a social that I've put in my profile that if a man can be bothered to suggest somewhere, then I can't be bothered to meet him. After all if he's so unimaginative/thoughtless at the outset, what's he going to be like in bed? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I treat a social equally as I would for a play meet in terms of detail/planning.
Coffee/cafes etc way too boring and not for me. I often take charge with suggestions or surprise someone. Some of my most happiest memories were socials.
I won't go into details in here just incase someone actually allows me to take them out on a social. Miracles can happen!
Food is always guaranteed."
Yes- but if you don’t share pics we’re not going to turn up on a blind date are we? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is nice when the guy suggests somewhere to, seems to be rare.
I always suggest the lady chooses so that it is somewhere she feels comfortable, and safe.
This is a cop-out "
I prefer them to let me choose. I'd be wary otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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a pub or coffee bar would be the top options for me when meeting socially, service stations and fast food restaurants are definitely the other end of the spectrum. |
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"I treat a social equally as I would for a play meet in terms of detail/planning.
Coffee/cafes etc way too boring and not for me. I often take charge with suggestions or surprise someone. Some of my most happiest memories were socials.
I won't go into details in here just incase someone actually allows me to take them out on a social. Miracles can happen!
Food is always guaranteed.
Yes- but if you don’t share pics we’re not going to turn up on a blind date are we? "
What you like hey TeamPerve!
We are fellow 69ers, but it's what Cilla Black wanted. Surprise! Surprise! |
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"I treat a social equally as I would for a play meet in terms of detail/planning.
Coffee/cafes etc way too boring and not for me. I often take charge with suggestions or surprise someone. Some of my most happiest memories were socials.
I won't go into details in here just incase someone actually allows me to take them out on a social. Miracles can happen!
Food is always guaranteed.
Yes- but if you don’t share pics we’re not going to turn up on a blind date are we?
What you like hey TeamPerve!
We are fellow 69ers, but it's what Cilla Black wanted. Surprise! Surprise! "
I nearly was on blind date but got turned away just before I went on live - I was devastated  |
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"It is nice when the guy suggests somewhere to, seems to be rare.
I always suggest the lady chooses so that it is somewhere she feels comfortable, and safe."
I agree, I do make suggestions but ultimately need her to feel safe/secure. As most of my few meets have been with couples it is obviously less important.... |
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"What is the most off-putting place you’ve been suggested for a social?
I insist on a social before going any further (though I’ve made a couple of exceptions). Yes, this is a sex site, but to me, the social aspect is as important as the sex itself. If my mind is not aroused, neither will my body. I’ve been told this is a load of hogswash and that I should not be on here if I don’t just want to be upstairs with my legs spread wide just waiting for any plonker who asks me if I want “sum fun xx” sorry, I digress...
But anyway, I enjoy the social aspect, and I make an effort. I will dress nicely- I always meet during the day, so stockings and stilettos are a bit difficult to manage, especially if I have to come back to do the school run straight after but I will dress seductively and will try to look attractive. The price of the venue to meet for a social is irrelevant as I never expect other people to pay for me and I will always insist to pay for my lunch/coffee/drinks.
Usually I am asked to come up with a place- which gets tiresome. It is very nice to get a message saying “I know a charming little coffee shop/pub in x area, I’d love to meet you there...” and I have done in the past, which has been lovely for these gents to make the effort and research or make plans for a lovely social.
But there’s been a couple of times lately that I’ve been chtting, things look good for a social, and I’ve said that I like having plans laid in front of me and I was given a service station to meet, and just now, McDonald’s! I am laughing, really... why would I want to leave the comfort of my sofa to make the effort and dress to impress to go to a service station or to a McDonald’s?
And people wonder why they don’t get any meets...
This is a lighthearted post by the way. I’m not expecting The Savoy or The Ritz. Just a bit of thought... I go to McD’s with my kids often enough! "
McDs is just piss poor and guys wonder why they get no where |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I treat a social equally as I would for a play meet in terms of detail/planning.
Coffee/cafes etc way too boring and not for me. I often take charge with suggestions or surprise someone. Some of my most happiest memories were socials.
I won't go into details in here just incase someone actually allows me to take them out on a social. Miracles can happen!
Food is always guaranteed.
Yes- but if you don’t share pics we’re not going to turn up on a blind date are we?
What you like hey TeamPerve!
We are fellow 69ers, but it's what Cilla Black wanted. Surprise! Surprise!
I nearly was on blind date but got turned away just before I went on live - I was devastated "
Oh damn! Did not realise even after you been selected can get turned away last second. That would have been awesome if you was on it. I used to enjoy that back in the days |
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"It is nice when the guy suggests somewhere to, seems to be rare.
I always suggest the lady chooses so that it is somewhere she feels comfortable, and safe.
This is a cop-out
I prefer them to let me choose. I'd be wary otherwise. "
Wary about what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I treat a social equally as I would for a play meet in terms of detail/planning.
Coffee/cafes etc way too boring and not for me. I often take charge with suggestions or surprise someone. Some of my most happiest memories were socials.
I won't go into details in here just incase someone actually allows me to take them out on a social. Miracles can happen!
Food is always guaranteed.
Yes- but if you don’t share pics we’re not going to turn up on a blind date are we?
What you like hey TeamPerve!
We are fellow 69ers, but it's what Cilla Black wanted. Surprise! Surprise!
I nearly was on blind date but got turned away just before I went on live - I was devastated
Oh damn! Did not realise even after you been selected can get turned away last second. That would have been awesome if you was on it. I used to enjoy that back in the days "
Oh the shame lol |
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"It is nice when the guy suggests somewhere to, seems to be rare.
I always suggest the lady chooses so that it is somewhere she feels comfortable, and safe.
This is a cop-out
I prefer them to let me choose. I'd be wary otherwise.
Wary about what? "
If they insisted on somewhere I didn't know I wouldn't meet them. |
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"It is nice when the guy suggests somewhere to, seems to be rare.
I always suggest the lady chooses so that it is somewhere she feels comfortable, and safe.
This is a cop-out
I prefer them to let me choose. I'd be wary otherwise.
Wary about what?
If they insisted on somewhere I didn't know I wouldn't meet them."
If it's a public place in an easily accessible populated area I don't see the problem. A choice of venue can also give a clue as to whether you are likely to get on. If someone suggests one of my favourite places, I know that he's on my wavelength and likely to be a winner (as long as there is physical attraction /chemistry in person) |
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