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By *ix-foot-two-stu OP Man over a year ago

Coventry

Folks I have a question about what to do with messages.

So as a bloke messaging women, the introductory messages I send out are either

1. Read + deleted OR read + replied not interested - fair enough - block them so they don't show in search results and I don't bother them again (~60% of the messages I send)

2. Read + replied interested (whoohoo! 1-2% of the messages I send)

3. Unread or unread deleted - can't blame women for not having the time to read messages when their inbox is stuffed (~30% of the messages I send)

4. Read + not deleted but no reply (~10% of the messages I send)

Scenarios 3 and 4 make up maybe 40% messages I send.

For scenario 3 should I message them again? The system suggests I shouldn't.

For scenario 4, when do I decide they aren't interested and block them? Or message them again?

Interested in input from woman and men on this.

Thanks for your help.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Dunno, cos I gave up sending preemptive messages about 8 years ago

*courtesy of the useless information department*

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By *ix-foot-two-stu OP Man over a year ago

Coventry

"Dunno, cos I gave up sending preemptive messages about 8 years ago

*courtesy of the useless information department*"

Still discovering the various methods of meeting people. Sending someone a message seems the most obvious.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Folks I have a question about what to do with messages.

So as a bloke messaging women, the introductory messages I send out are either

1. Read + deleted OR read + replied not interested - fair enough - block them so they don't show in search results and I don't bother them again (~60% of the messages I send)

2. Read + replied interested (whoohoo! 1-2% of the messages I send)

3. Unread or unread deleted - can't blame women for not having the time to read messages when their inbox is stuffed (~30% of the messages I send)

4. Read + not deleted but no reply (~10% of the messages I send)

Scenarios 3 and 4 make up maybe 40% messages I send.

For scenario 3 should I message them again? The system suggests I shouldn't.

For scenario 4, when do I decide they aren't interested and block them? Or message them again?

Interested in input from woman and men on this.

Thanks for your help.

"
For 3 maybe try again in a couple of weeks and make sure they're online when you send it. For 4 don't bother sending another 1 but I wouldn't block. I've had women ignore me on here and met them in a club and played.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Dunno, cos I gave up sending preemptive messages about 8 years ago

*courtesy of the useless information department*

Still discovering the various methods of meeting people. Sending someone a message seems the most obvious."

Most of the ladies that I have met off here have come through some kind of forum interaction first though, so it's not as if I'm going in blind so to speak

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By *ix-foot-two-stu OP Man over a year ago

Coventry

"I've had women ignore me on here and met them in a club and played."

I was thinking that. Not been to a club, yet. Thanks for the tips.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had women ignore me on here and met them in a club and played.

I was thinking that. Not been to a club, yet. Thanks for the tips."

4 sounds like the "maybe" pile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Send cock pics...

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't often send unsolicited messages but when I do I usually take no reply of any kind as a no thank you and leave it at that - but as Ace said most of my interaction on here is as a result of forum activity so I don't rely on the cold messaging so much.

One thing I know a lot of guys do is delete their sent messages after sending and use the "Notes" function on the recipients profile to store the message sent so they have a point of reference if there's a reply and know not to send again if they've already sent a message

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Minus 59% cant be bad.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Don't pursue people who have not created an ongoing dialogue - there are many more others here to find interest with instead. If messages show as read or unread, they'll likely look at your profile - so keep it great and updated.

I'm often slow with replies but it's a hassle when people seem to be chasing me up or there's an apparent pressure

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By *ix-foot-two-stu OP Man over a year ago

Coventry

"Minus 59% cant be bad."

I wish my universe was that skew whiff!

The tilde symbol ~ (shift #) means approximately

"I'm often slow with replies but it's a hassle when people seem to be chasing me up or there's an apparent pressure "

Yeah genuine enthusiasm could easily come over badly

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By *ix-foot-two-stu OP Man over a year ago

Coventry

"Send cock pics...

LOL the number of times I've seen women shouting DON'T SEND COCK PICS, it took me about 5 seconds after joining the site to realise that it's a really stupid thing to do.

And yet men seem to do it.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman over a year ago

Grangemouth

For 3 or 4 ALWAYS make sure they are online....i get that many messages(as do most women on here) that i only ever answer/reply to ones i get while online.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dunno mate all i know is if i ever do send a message id say 80% of the time i get one back i dont send awt special or wordy just see something funny and send unless its based on a forum thread

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By *ix-foot-two-stu OP Man over a year ago

Coventry

Good tips, thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't pursue people who have not created an ongoing dialogue - there are many more others here to find interest with instead. If messages show as read or unread, they'll likely look at your profile - so keep it great and updated.

I'm often slow with replies but it's a hassle when people seem to be chasing me up or there's an apparent pressure "

I’d concur with this

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Even with people I know I can take a few days to reply.

It’s not that I am not interested. It is just sometime non swinging life gets in the way. I spend a lot of time going to football.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women will usually look at your profile first, so if it’s unread, they usually looked and aren’t interested, or read, then pressed unread, because they were ‘Meh’ So, you’re better off moving on.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I would say message 3 and 4 again in a couple of weeks. I quite often leave messages unread if I am busy, or leave them undeleted -if I think the profile is worth considering.

And I actually prefer to look when people are offline so I don't feel pressured to reply and start a 'real time' conversation. I prefer a leisurely approach at first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Folks I have a question about what to do with messages.

So as a bloke messaging women, the introductory messages I send out are either

1. Read + deleted OR read + replied not interested - fair enough - block them so they don't show in search results and I don't bother them again (~60% of the messages I send)

2. Read + replied interested (whoohoo! 1-2% of the messages I send)

3. Unread or unread deleted - can't blame women for not having the time to read messages when their inbox is stuffed (~30% of the messages I send)

4. Read + not deleted but no reply (~10% of the messages I send)

Scenarios 3 and 4 make up maybe 40% messages I send.

For scenario 3 should I message them again? The system suggests I shouldn't.

For scenario 4, when do I decide they aren't interested and block them? Or message them again?

Interested in input from woman and men on this.

Thanks for your help.

"
look it's all about luck really analysing why you aren't achieving will not give you any answers because just when you expect it least the most attractive women will start messaging you

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By *ix-foot-two-stu OP Man over a year ago

Coventry

"just when you expect it least the most attractive women will start messaging you "

Nobody told me this was going to happen.

Excellent. I'll relax and wait then

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"just when you expect it least the most attractive women will start messaging you

Nobody told me this was going to happen.

Excellent. I'll relax and wait then

"
He's a liar.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know about others but if I have no meet posted I'm not looking there for have no interest in answering mail.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"just when you expect it least the most attractive women will start messaging you

Nobody told me this was going to happen.

Excellent. I'll relax and wait then

He's a liar.

"
cynic

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"just when you expect it least the most attractive women will start messaging you

Nobody told me this was going to happen.

Excellent. I'll relax and wait then

He's a liar.

cynic "
Realist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know about others but if I have no meet posted I'm not looking there for have no interest in answering mail."
omg you should have that in write up and if you have most men will read it and obviously not go there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to open all messages and not reply, but some men seemed to assume I was leaving it ‘open ended’ - unsure how me ignoring them is ‘open ended’ but ah well.

Even if I read messages, if I’m not interested and know I’m going to do a bulk delete I make them as unread again for a while

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

There is no best way. It really is just down to messaging the right person at the right time. There’s no scientific method. Just keep on keepin’ on

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By *ix-foot-two-stu OP Man over a year ago

Coventry

"There is no best way. It really is just down to messaging the right person at the right time. There’s no scientific method. Just keep on keepin’ on

Will do, thanks

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By *edoriartyCouple over a year ago

Peterborough

When I was meeting as a single guy I rarely sent first messages. Most of my meets came from women messaging first or a response to a wink or being in hot pics. In my experience messages aren't an efficient way to get meets as a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t bother messaging anymore. they just get deleted! I feel like they’ll message me when and if they are interested! Hopefully anyway!

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