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"Some people are busy others just talkers there is little you can do about that apart from telling them if they are not serious or can't make time for you than its a thanks for your time and bye. " Very true, I think I am more annoyed at the amount of effort I and others put in researching the mail I or we get from our profile or advertised meet request. Trying to speed read the many messages, deleting the ones that obviously don't match needs, responding to the ones that do... phone calls, the who what where when how etc..They give you an impression they are super excited to meet you fairly quickly...then they are not available. Hence my comment...the idea of booking fee...maybe fab could organise it. You see someone you like, make an arrangement to meet, pay a small fee. If you don't turn up or change your mind. You lose your fee..simples Stops the time wasters | |||
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"Fab will never organise a "booking fee". Its against site rules to ask for money." 
I'm fairly sure it would be against the law as well. | |||
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"If your messages are as long as your opening thread have they reached the end yet " I think it’s more likely that there is a correlation between length of messages and likelihood of meeting. I much prefer to build up a picture of prospective meets before setting a date. I think the OP seems the same. | |||
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"I don't think a booking fee approach would work, nor would Fab ever endorse it, and in fact if you tried to do it for yourselves, you'd potentially be in breach of site rules and liable for a ban. Reply Agree with a perhaps..The idea of a booking system would deter those who just playbgames at the expense of genuine people who, book baby sites, book cabs, book hotel rooms, turn up at clubs waiting for non appearing meets...If it comes to fees, then perhaps fab could build that into there platform much like silver and gold members have that option.. Juxtaposition The thing is you're looking for a very specific dynamic of which, as I'm sure you're aware, there are a lot of ill informed participants out there - a lot of whom may be very good at talking the talk, but when it comes to walking the walk don't have what it takes and so back out. Reply The ill informed you mention of have already been exposed in the research, the ping pong memos, the telephone calls, the who what why when where and how conversation to establish the genuinely experience, the dynamics of people. Of course there are this who have read books, know the language, but by asking deeper questions it soon becomes apparent who is not experienced, a wannabe. Juxtaposition That said not being free within the space of a couple of weeks isn't always possible for some, especially within your target age ranges where they're likely to have family responsibilities etc - so maybe you need to change your thinking and expectations around that - as others have suggested rather than you setting the dates, ask when they'd be free and come to a mutually agreeable date/time "Reply.. As mentioned in my earlier reply and by another person..The event has been posted, dated area scene etc in the meeting/event listing...Eg. date 30/11/18..post code, type of play/scene..club meet/gangbang/your place/our place/dogging etc etc..that's established, so if someone replies to the advert they have already know what's on offer Then they write to you to see if they meet your needs requirements. .emails are exchanged..questions asked..The ping pong..that leads to phone calls..and as mentioned the who when why how's why where are established..and agreed.. The person who already said yes to the meet presses a confirmation button on fab...If that person then fails to turn up of change their mind, wishes to pull out..It's highlighted..and fab make the money.. That fee system much like the silver, gold membership process.. | |||
"So you have spent ages researching the people who message you, reading all their messages of Hi how are you, wot u into then, sorting out all the wannabes, the plain fruit cakes, the ones who haven't read your profile fully and bingo you get messages from one's who are exactly the type you believe you would like to meet Now the fun starts, here's my mobile number, can we have more pictures, what are her limits, boundaries, does she take anal ( for some reason it's always anal ), is she ok for bondage, you are interested so don't mind a little ping pong of messages. Where when why who what how etc etc etc They ask may I speak with her, just to confirm she is real/willing and you agree, pass the phone a little convo starts, Not a long convo because you don't want to spoil the excitement, everyone is happy phone passed back to me Ok..I ask when can you come round to meet...ummmm ( the damn pause ) well let me look in my diary .. I can't make this week, or the next It's gone from super excited, she's damn hot to well I can't make next week or the week after..I wouldn't mind if it was just one person writing to me for a meet but it's 3...all super excited blah blah blah.. So..from now on I think I should start a PayPal account..a booking fee of sorts..then they get it back after an actual successful meet. That should sort out the time wasters.. " So they are coming to you? Would you be available tomorrow of you were going to theirs? S | |||
"JuxtapositionING response.. I don't think a booking fee approach would work, nor would Fab ever endorse it, and in fact if you tried to do it for yourselves, you'd potentially be in breach of site rules and liable for a ban. Reply Agree with a perhaps..The idea of a booking system would deter those who just playbgames at the expense of genuine people who, book baby sites, book cabs, book hotel rooms, turn up at clubs waiting for non appearing meets...If it comes to fees, then perhaps fab could build that into there platform much like silver and gold members have that option.. Juxtaposition The thing is you're looking for a very specific dynamic of which, as I'm sure you're aware, there are a lot of ill informed participants out there - a lot of whom may be very good at talking the talk, but when it comes to walking the walk don't have what it takes and so back out. Reply The ill informed you mention of have already been exposed in the research, the ping pong memos, the telephone calls, the who what why when where and how conversation to establish the genuinely experience, the dynamics of people. Of course there are this who have read books, know the language, but by asking deeper questions it soon becomes apparent who is not experienced, a wannabe. Juxtaposition That said not being free within the space of a couple of weeks isn't always possible for some, especially within your target age ranges where they're likely to have family responsibilities etc - so maybe you need to change your thinking and expectations around that - as others have suggested rather than you setting the dates, ask when they'd be free and come to a mutually agreeable date/time
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As mentioned in my earlier reply and by another person..The event has been posted, dated area scene etc in the meeting/event listing...Eg.
date 30/11/18..post code, type of play/scene..club meet/gangbang/your place/our place/dogging etc etc..that's established, so if someone replies to the advert they have already know what's on offer
Then they write to you to see if they meet your needs requirements. .emails are exchanged..questions asked..The ping pong..that leads to phone calls..and as mentioned the who when why how's why where are established..and agreed..
The person who already said yes to the meet presses a confirmation button on fab...If that person then fails to turn up of change their mind, wishes to pull out..It's highlighted..and fab make the money..
That fee system much like the silver, gold membership process..
"Wow so if people change their mind they get charged?! Force them into fucking when they don't want to. | |||
"So you have spent ages researching the people who message you, reading all their messages of Hi how are you, wot u into then, sorting out all the wannabes, the plain fruit cakes, the ones who haven't read your profile fully and bingo you get messages from one's who are exactly the type you believe you would like to meet Now the fun starts, here's my mobile number, can we have more pictures, what are her limits, boundaries, does she take anal ( for some reason it's always anal ), is she ok for bondage, you are interested so don't mind a little ping pong of messages. Where when why who what how etc etc etc They ask may I speak with her, just to confirm she is real/willing and you agree, pass the phone a little convo starts, Not a long convo because you don't want to spoil the excitement, everyone is happy phone passed back to me Ok..I ask when can you come round to meet...ummmm ( the damn pause ) well let me look in my diary .. I can't make this week, or the next It's gone from super excited, she's damn hot to well I can't make next week or the week after..I wouldn't mind if it was just one person writing to me for a meet but it's 3...all super excited blah blah blah.. So..from now on I think I should start a PayPal account..a booking fee of sorts..then they get it back after an actual successful meet. That should sort out the time wasters.. " If you want to meet right now, there and then, maybe it’s best you put that in your opening message so the women who can’t meet at the drop of a hat don’t waste your time or theirs. I’ve been called a “time waster” on another site because I told him I had to wait to get my shift times before arranging. Some of us have commitments that come before sex. You just never know. | |||
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"I must be a time waster because meeting people on here is my least priority in life. Family, work and social commitments along side people who I see regular will always be my priority so it can often be weeks or months before I can even do a social as some on my friends list will confirm. That's life. If you want a booking fee I suggest you go to a site where you charge for your time. Because I for one wouldn't be happy on any site that does that yep you must be...because you would have read, the advert, gone through the process, decided the who what why when's were not for you and already decided you couldn't make it...be of accepting the meet..so why reply to this post wouldn't you..so why bother replying with such a negative troll like mindset Adsm" If anyone looks like a troll here it’s you. Do you honestly think Fab would ever do a booking fee feature? Ridiculous. | |||
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"Some good replies..but hey..It was an idea to help people make more responsible decisions. Of course things do happen in peoples lives that force them to change plans, here's the thing, when you hit that booking of an airline ticket, that train ticket that cinema ticket, that theatre ticket and you cannot attend how many times did you get a refund..even a full refund..that's it, it was only an idea. Enjoy your evening...Warmest Adam" That's a fair point. It would help if a hotel was booked and they cancelled. Unless you meant Fab got the money in which case it wouldn't help. 
Can re-sell tickets to concerts if you can't make it. Ooh now there's an idea. re-selling meets.  | |||
"Some good replies..but hey..It was an idea to help people make more responsible decisions. Of course things do happen in peoples lives that force them to change plans, here's the thing, when you hit that booking of an airline ticket, that train ticket that cinema ticket, that theatre ticket and you cannot attend how many times did you get a refund..even a full refund..that's it, it was only an idea. Enjoy your evening...Warmest Adam That's a fair point. It would help if a hotel was booked and they cancelled. Unless you meant Fab got the money in which case it wouldn't help.
Can re-sell tickets to concerts if you can't make it. Ooh now there's an idea. re-selling meets. " | |||
"I must be a time waster because meeting people on here is my least priority in life. Family, work and social commitments along side people who I see regular will always be my priority so it can often be weeks or months before I can even do a social as some on my friends list will confirm. That's life. If you want a booking fee I suggest you go to a site where you charge for your time. Because I for one wouldn't be happy on any site that does that yep you must be...because you would have read, the advert, gone through the process, decided the who what why when's were not for you and already decided you couldn't make it...be of accepting the meet..so why reply to this post wouldn't you..so why bother replying with such a negative troll like mindset Adsm If anyone looks like a troll here it’s you. Do you honestly think Fab would ever do a booking fee feature? Ridiculous." Ooh I've never been called a troll before  . And you removed the post why is that OP? I can assure you I'm not a troll but its a damn right ridiculous idea that would put a lot of decent people off fab. And it does happen. One previous meet of mine it took us about a year to finally hook up due to stuff in each of our lives. It's not instashag of that's what your after I suggest you do a meet now rather than all the phone call etc etc | |||
"I must be a time waster because meeting people on here is my least priority in life. Family, work and social commitments along side people who I see regular will always be my priority so it can often be weeks or months before I can even do a social as some on my friends list will confirm. That's life. If you want a booking fee I suggest you go to a site where you charge for your time. Because I for one wouldn't be happy on any site that does that yep you must be...because you would have read, the advert, gone through the process, decided the who what why when's were not for you and already decided you couldn't make it...be of accepting the meet..so why reply to this post wouldn't you..so why bother replying with such a negative troll like mindset Adsm If anyone looks like a troll here it’s you. Do you honestly think Fab would ever do a booking fee feature? Ridiculous. Ooh I've never been called a troll before . And you removed the post why is that OP? I can assure you I'm not a troll but its a damn right ridiculous idea that would put a lot of decent people off fab. And it does happen. One previous meet of mine it took us about a year to finally hook up due to stuff in each of our lives. It's not instashag of that's what your after I suggest you do a meet now rather than all the phone call etc etc "and im still waiting waaaaaaa waaaaaaaaaa waaaaaaaaa  | |||
"Some good replies..but hey..It was an idea to help people make more responsible decisions. Of course things do happen in peoples lives that force them to change plans, here's the thing, when you hit that booking of an airline ticket, that train ticket that cinema ticket, that theatre ticket and you cannot attend how many times did you get a refund..even a full refund..that's it, it was only an idea. Enjoy your evening...Warmest Adam That's a fair point. It would help if a hotel was booked and they cancelled. Unless you meant Fab got the money in which case it wouldn't help.
Can re-sell tickets to concerts if you can't make it. Ooh now there's an idea. re-selling meets. "Thats almost a bit kinky. You've just been bought on ebay and your re booked fate is sealed. Who will it be. | |||
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