I want to see if I'm the only one that feels this way.
I'm the husband. I'm in an extremely strong and loving, trustful relationship and we are new to swinging. It was a joint decision and we are both really excited to expand our sex lives. We had our first swap with a couple we have become good friends with. It was good fun, there was no jealousy and no real regrets.
My wife has a dp fantasy. And for a while it turned me on thinking about it. I think meeting a couple at a party or a social and taking it further that night is a real turn on. But meeting up with a single guy we have previously met for specifically dp is for some reason playing on my mind. I'm not sure if it's because I can place a face to the scenario or because he's single or something else.
I seem to find the idea of a natural progression to dp with someone at a night out/social /party totally fine if it happens then she'll love and I will enjoy helping with the fantasy.. But taking another guy up to a hotel room specifically for my wife to fuck or arranging to meet a single guy for a social for the potential of dp - I seem to feel weird about.
So in summery
meeting a couple and watching my wife fuck another guy while I screw a girl - Fine
Going into a play room and ending up forfilling her fantasy with someone we chatted with that night - fine
Meeting another couple fucking together and a a bit of dp involved - fine
Meeting up with a single guy for the sole purpose of dp - not fine
Is it just me over thinking?
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You're over-thinking. As long as she gets her dp, does it matter who with? What if the woman in a couple doesn't want to sit it out while she has her enjoyment. |
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Is there something about being concerned what the intentions of a single guy might be? As if perhaps you feel they might be in pursuit of your wife? Whereas in the other scenarios the male partners are safe, either because in a couple or because there’s been no premeditated arrangement, as you just happened to meet? |
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"Is there something about being concerned what the intentions of a single guy might be? As if perhaps you feel they might be in pursuit of your wife? Whereas in the other scenarios the male partners are safe, either because in a couple or because there’s been no premeditated arrangement, as you just happened to meet?"
Yeah think your right |
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"Is there something about being concerned what the intentions of a single guy might be? As if perhaps you feel they might be in pursuit of your wife? Whereas in the other scenarios the male partners are safe, either because in a couple or because there’s been no premeditated arrangement, as you just happened to meet?
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I think I know where you're coming from OP. Previously being half of a couple, dp was on our bucket list, but over time that changed as both of us ultimately felt that we would be simply 'using' someone for our pleasure. Even if that someone was perfectly willing to be used (we had plenty of offers!), it just didn't sit right. MFF was also dismissed for similar reasons. Later as singles we did have an MFF with a lovely mutual friend, but we were aware that she was very much outside of our 'bubble' and that as inclusive and sharing as we tried to make experience, the fact was that she didn't have our shared history and intimacy and was on the outside of it. It was still very much our bubble. I'm not sure what the answer is OP. Only you know how you feel and if it's something you can overcome, or even want to.
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I have never been married (it's only an expensive piece of paper that Daddy pays for), but if you dip your to into the ocean that having sex with other people involves, then you must suffer the consequences for the rest of your life..hahahah  |
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Your over thinking it, I would say talk it through then try it, some things you try and they don't work out, so you never try again, others you both like and you go back for more. You may also find your not too keen on being cock to cock and having his balls slapping yours, when you get there, its a weird feeling the fist time |
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You may well be overthinking it but humans aren't logical - we come with feelings. So if you're not comfortable with it, talk as others have said and if you're not ready - or it's not longer for you - then mothball it to see if you change your mind again. It should be fun, not a source of anxiety. |
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"I want to see if I'm the only one that feels this way.
I'm the husband. I'm in an extremely strong and loving, trustful relationship and we are new to swinging. It was a joint decision and we are both really excited to expand our sex lives. We had our first swap with a couple we have become good friends with. It was good fun, there was no jealousy and no real regrets.
My wife has a dp fantasy. And for a while it turned me on thinking about it. I think meeting a couple at a party or a social and taking it further that night is a real turn on. But meeting up with a single guy we have previously met for specifically dp is for some reason playing on my mind. I'm not sure if it's because I can place a face to the scenario or because he's single or something else.
I seem to find the idea of a natural progression to dp with someone at a night out/social /party totally fine if it happens then she'll love and I will enjoy helping with the fantasy.. But taking another guy up to a hotel room specifically for my wife to fuck or arranging to meet a single guy for a social for the potential of dp - I seem to feel weird about.
So in summery
meeting a couple and watching my wife fuck another guy while I screw a girl - Fine
Going into a play room and ending up forfilling her fantasy with someone we chatted with that night - fine
Meeting another couple fucking together and a a bit of dp involved - fine
Meeting up with a single guy for the sole purpose of dp - not fine
Is it just me over thinking?
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did your wife request him did she say it must be him and only him? |
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"I want to see if I'm the only one that feels this way.
I'm the husband. I'm in an extremely strong and loving, trustful relationship and we are new to swinging. It was a joint decision and we are both really excited to expand our sex lives. We had our first swap with a couple we have become good friends with. It was good fun, there was no jealousy and no real regrets.
My wife has a dp fantasy. And for a while it turned me on thinking about it. I think meeting a couple at a party or a social and taking it further that night is a real turn on. But meeting up with a single guy we have previously met for specifically dp is for some reason playing on my mind. I'm not sure if it's because I can place a face to the scenario or because he's single or something else.
I seem to find the idea of a natural progression to dp with someone at a night out/social /party totally fine if it happens then she'll love and I will enjoy helping with the fantasy.. But taking another guy up to a hotel room specifically for my wife to fuck or arranging to meet a single guy for a social for the potential of dp - I seem to feel weird about.
So in summery
meeting a couple and watching my wife fuck another guy while I screw a girl - Fine
Going into a play room and ending up forfilling her fantasy with someone we chatted with that night - fine
Meeting another couple fucking together and a a bit of dp involved - fine
Meeting up with a single guy for the sole purpose of dp - not fine
Is it just me over thinking?
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Lol you need a 5way |
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"I want to see if I'm the only one that feels this way.
I'm the husband. I'm in an extremely strong and loving, trustful relationship and we are new to swinging. It was a joint decision and we are both really excited to expand our sex lives. We had our first swap with a couple we have become good friends with. It was good fun, there was no jealousy and no real regrets.
My wife has a dp fantasy. And for a while it turned me on thinking about it. I think meeting a couple at a party or a social and taking it further that night is a real turn on. But meeting up with a single guy we have previously met for specifically dp is for some reason playing on my mind. I'm not sure if it's because I can place a face to the scenario or because he's single or something else.
I seem to find the idea of a natural progression to dp with someone at a night out/social /party totally fine if it happens then she'll love and I will enjoy helping with the fantasy.. But taking another guy up to a hotel room specifically for my wife to fuck or arranging to meet a single guy for a social for the potential of dp - I seem to feel weird about.
So in summery
meeting a couple and watching my wife fuck another guy while I screw a girl - Fine
Going into a play room and ending up forfilling her fantasy with someone we chatted with that night - fine
Meeting another couple fucking together and a a bit of dp involved - fine
Meeting up with a single guy for the sole purpose of dp - not fine
Is it just me over thinking?
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No you aren't comfortable with it so don't do it. Simple really |
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"I want to see if I'm the only one that feels this way.
I'm the husband. I'm in an extremely strong and loving, trustful relationship and we are new to swinging. It was a joint decision and we are both really excited to expand our sex lives. We had our first swap with a couple we have become good friends with. It was good fun, there was no jealousy and no real regrets.
My wife has a dp fantasy. And for a while it turned me on thinking about it. I think meeting a couple at a party or a social and taking it further that night is a real turn on. But meeting up with a single guy we have previously met for specifically dp is for some reason playing on my mind. I'm not sure if it's because I can place a face to the scenario or because he's single or something else.
I seem to find the idea of a natural progression to dp with someone at a night out/social /party totally fine if it happens then she'll love and I will enjoy helping with the fantasy.. But taking another guy up to a hotel room specifically for my wife to fuck or arranging to meet a single guy for a social for the potential of dp - I seem to feel weird about.
So in summery
meeting a couple and watching my wife fuck another guy while I screw a girl - Fine
Going into a play room and ending up forfilling her fantasy with someone we chatted with that night - fine
Meeting another couple fucking together and a a bit of dp involved - fine
Meeting up with a single guy for the sole purpose of dp - not fine
Is it just me over thinking?
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I think it's because you're feeling that you are not getting something "new" while your wife is. |
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"I think I know where you're coming from OP. Previously being half of a couple, dp was on our bucket list, but over time that changed as both of us ultimately felt that we would be simply 'using' someone for our pleasure. "
Some of them want to be used by you |
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"I think I know where you're coming from OP. Previously being half of a couple, dp was on our bucket list, but over time that changed as both of us ultimately felt that we would be simply 'using' someone for our pleasure.
Some of them want to be used by you "
Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused.
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"I think I know where you're coming from OP. Previously being half of a couple, dp was on our bucket list, but over time that changed as both of us ultimately felt that we would be simply 'using' someone for our pleasure.
Some of them want to be used by you
Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused.
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Could be a lot of things. Definitely not a case of him or no one at all. We just met a single man I actually like and that's a bit of a rare thing. I'm definitely not trawling for anyone on here.
If it does happen it's January at the earliest so time to think on it and see if it's something W is comfortable with. If it's not then I'm happy not to. It's also looking likely that it won't even happen then as it may be us and him with a partner so more of a full swap or a mfmf.
I prefer the idea of us still together with others. Same room, full swap is good but I'd much rather mfm or mfmf so we're still together. I'd not want to play separately at all and he knows that but I think a bit of worry and second guessing is normal. Just need to discuss it nearer the time and see how we feel.
Thanks all for the input 
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