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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered??? |
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On the forum men frequently complain their messages aren't answered even if its a no thanks. There will always be some who can't help but respond rudely. Report them, block them and delete their message.  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I rarely send completely unsolicited messages but when I do, whilst a reply, even a polite no thanks, is always welcome and accepted with good grace, I also understand and appreciate why some don't reply and accept that if they don't it's the equivalent of a polite thanks but no thanks 
If a lot more adopted that stance there would be a lot less butt hurt around here |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered??? "
More guy's replying to not interested messages  just don't reply, I don't understand why they want the false hope of a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I delete my messages I've sent anyway so I never known. Doesn't bother me in any way how people deal with it.
Sometimes I reply to women who message me sometimes I just block them. |
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered??? "
My preference to a polite no thanks is a simple delete. We can see that the message is deleted and that should be all the hint we need - although there’ll always be some who cling to the hope that it was a bulk delete and try again.
But surely you wouldn’t say no to me OP!!!! LOL xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Auto response is a good idea. I just cant help but feel rude with a simple delete.... Like not sending thank you cards after my birthday "
Well, that's three of us. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Auto response is a good idea. I just cant help but feel rude with a simple delete.... Like not sending thank you cards after my birthday "
The only problem with auto-response is it would cure one problem (i.e. those that whine about no responses) but potentially move it on a notch to those that reply to the auto-response with a "but why?" message or worse still abuse - unless of course you also block, which brings it's own set of problems/whines.
As I said earlier the simplest thing would be for guys to accept that no response or a polite no thanks is exactly that and not find the need to moan about it or follow up with abuse.
Why they feel the need to do it is beyond me - don't think I've ever seen a thread from a woman complaining about no responses or often hear of them sending abuse in reply to a no thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered??? "
I thank those that reply with a no.  |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered???
I thank those that reply with a no. "
come on man, where's your dignity and self respect. |
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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago
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Im always super polite and thankful for messages recieved but I think I'm clear if they're not for me, yet the amount of times they come back with 'please give me a chance' is starting to piss me off!
Have some dignity gentlemen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd personally have no reply and take that as a response all day long
I only want positive messages in my inbox, waking up to 36 formally written rejection notices is no way to start the day off! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd personally have no reply and take that as a response all day long
I only want positive messages in my inbox, waking up to 36 formally written rejection notices is no way to start the day off!"
Haha fair point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered???
I thank those that reply with a no. come on man, where's your dignity and self respect. "
Everyone has preferences, what I see is they've taken the time to read my messages out of hundreds or thousands, seen my pic and thought, not for me. They replied to let me know so I do a kind gesture back. It's not hard to be nice on my part, I just move on to the next. |
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For years I replied to all my messages but found it better eventually to largely deal with those people I'm interested in - i still send occasional no thanks, when they srem especially decent.
Always make a habit of reporting people with inappropriate behavior, as it helps fab improve the site for everyone |
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Its nice (not that nice) to get a clear no thanks rather than a deleted message and nothing. Means we should move on. Otherwise it could be from a mass delete and been unread, promoting further messages 'just in case'and wasting everyones time. |
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If the guy has written a nice message and attached a picture then I think it’s nice to send a ‘no not for me thank you’
But if the message is along the lines of how’s you? And there not even photo verified then I’ll just delete. |
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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago
Hitchin |
Unfortunately you can’t win sometimes.
I tend to delete most, unless the guy has made an actual effort, then I will send a nice reply with a gentle let down.
I don’t do private meets. I do state so on my profile, I don’t make exceptions, if anybody wants the chance to meet me in person I post up club meets whenever I go. So there is plenty of opportunity lol... sadly most guys chicken out on the club meets  |
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There seems to be alot ALOT of ego and denial on this site from guys.
Think of it in a pub/club night, and one that has LOADS more guys than usual in.
Not every fem you like is going to want to chat or fancy you.
Simples Sergae |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered???
I thank those that reply with a no. come on man, where's your dignity and self respect.
Everyone has preferences, what I see is they've taken the time to read my messages out of hundreds or thousands, seen my pic and thought, not for me. They replied to let me know so I do a kind gesture back. It's not hard to be nice on my part, I just move on to the next."
It's nice to be nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd rather a 'thanks, but no thanks' than nothing, but given the volume of messages women deal with here I can well understand a delete meaning the same thing. Wouldn't consider it rude, just managing time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's weird when the message is read and not deleted. I think deleting the message is hint enough. Volumes women get must be insane. I just count the cobwebs in my inbox lol. |
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I’m new to the site and still figuring it out. Frankly lose track of messages on all the social media sites . I started out answering everyone, but have stopped replying to profiles without pics. I just delete them. I’m not into cams or cybersex and finally posted that, but find I’m pestered for those things anyways, no matter if I tell them no. Those just get deleted as well. If someone takes the time to send me a nice message and pic ( not a dick pic) , I’ll generally chat with them. If someone doesn’t answer me, I just assume they aren’t interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered???
I thank those that reply with a no. come on man, where's your dignity and self respect. "
You’re barking up the wrong tree..... You think men on here have self respect and dignity?
That’s rich ..... men on here can’t figure out if they’re gay by having sex with men... |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered???
I thank those that reply with a no. come on man, where's your dignity and self respect.
You’re barking up the wrong tree..... You think men on here have self respect and dignity?
That’s rich ..... men on here can’t figure out if they’re gay by having sex with men..."
I know, I forgot all that stuff goes out the window on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered???
I thank those that reply with a no. come on man, where's your dignity and self respect.
You’re barking up the wrong tree..... You think men on here have self respect and dignity?
That’s rich ..... men on here can’t figure out if they’re gay by having sex with men..."
One guy I was speaking too who plays with both. If its a couple and the hubby wants to be involved insisted that he was not gay merely greedy... It was good enough for the Spartans lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered???
I thank those that reply with a no. come on man, where's your dignity and self respect.
You’re barking up the wrong tree..... You think men on here have self respect and dignity?
That’s rich ..... men on here can’t figure out if they’re gay by having sex with men...
One guy I was speaking too who plays with both. If its a couple and the hubby wants to be involved insisted that he was not gay merely greedy... It was good enough for the Spartans lol"
They didn’t last too long did they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I routinely delete my sent message box so on the rare occasion I actually do semd anything, I have no clue if it is read, deleted or whatever.
I'm in the minority I expect. |
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"I routinely delete my sent message box so on the rare occasion I actually do semd anything, I have no clue if it is read, deleted or whatever.
I'm in the minority I expect."
In the minority surely as no one else can be simply bothered doing it haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to respond with a polite 'sorry not my type' message but got fed up of the increasingly rude comebacks..
Nowadays I don't bother ...but I do have a disclaimer on my profile explaining why not...
So far it appears to be working |
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I would definitely prefer a “not for me” response....... I understand that life is busy though and that people get bombarded on here though, as well as not being everyone’s cup of tea.....so never get upset either way!
And if someone is rude there is always the block facility!! |
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
Lancashire |
Not for me replies are definitely much appreciated. I will generally thank the sender for their reply then leave myself a private note with the date and their response. That way I know not to contact them again and there is no ambiguity at all.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd rather no response. Then I can tell myself that my message just got buried. Yeah just meet them in a club and fuck them. "
To be fair I'm basing this on if I actually sent messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm all for politeness and like a "thanks but no thanks" message but totally understand the fact that woman on here probably get 100's of messages from guys.
So if my message just gets deleted it equates to the same thing. I think I'm to nice though and feel i need to reply even if it is a no lol |
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Some feel they are entitled to a reply,as its rude otherwise,it isn't
If they havent read my profile ,my single one ,i delete immediately.
I do reply to well thought out messages as they are so rare.
Many just don't reply,save the why not follow ups as people can't aleays take rejection.
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By *l6789Man
over a year ago
croydon |
Much rather just a no thanks than a read and leave although it’s obvious the same response. Anything other than a reply is a no to be fair, but it’s the ones that reply regularly then just stop that’s a bit confusing.
Much prefer the honesty avoids a lot of uncertainty.
But this is all just a bit of fun which some forget at times |
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered???
I thank those that reply with a no. come on man, where's your dignity and self respect.
Everyone has preferences, what I see is they've taken the time to read my messages out of hundreds or thousands, seen my pic and thought, not for me. They replied to let me know so I do a kind gesture back. It's not hard to be nice on my part, I just move on to the next.
It's nice to be nice. "
But it's more important to be important!  |
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"I used to respond with a polite 'sorry not my type' message but got fed up of the increasingly rude comebacks..
Nowadays I don't bother ...but I do have a disclaimer on my profile explaining why not...
So far it appears to be working "
Once upon a time, I would reply to every message, then would end up with a return message, some asking to be given a chance, others rude.
Either way, it soon got dreary.
I now have a 'disclaimer' and I simply don't reply to the majority of messages these days, especially when it's pretty obvious everything on my profile has been ignored.
A few well written, polite ones where the sender has made an effort, I do feel warrent a response though.
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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago
Fareham |
We try our best to reply to all messages even if a no thanks or not for us answer. Except for those who blatantly ignore our profile or are just plain rude and offensive. 9 times out of 10 we get a polite 'thanks for replying' so we feel any reply is better than none from those who take the time to read and understand profiles. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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I rarely send messages, it's not often I come across a profile that interests and attracts me and is looking for the same as myself.. I've had thank but no thanks messages it gives closure. I'm not worried if I don't receive a reply either.
To those that complain of inappropriate messages too many messages etc.. if it causes you angst grief enough to complain block that gender(s) and do the searching yourself.. simple.
If not you may find some mail in your inbox you'd rather not receive.
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To those that complain of inappropriate messages too many messages etc.. if it causes you angst grief enough to complain block that gender(s) and do the searching yourself.. simple.
If not you may find some mail in your inbox you'd rather not receive.
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Why should I have to?
I won't block an entire gender from messaging me, just because of a few idiots.
I have great conversations with people from the forum.
I've had messages from others where I've polity replied, there is no attraction but have ended up making a new friend.
I meet people at socials & clubs who may want to contact me.
I won't close my box to those opportunities, and I personally see the 'block all men' attitude as akin to victim blaming.
Women should be able to be on here without being subjected to abuse, that quite frankly is most often caused due to someone else's inability to read.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To those that complain of inappropriate messages too many messages etc.. if it causes you angst grief enough to complain block that gender(s) and do the searching yourself.. simple.
If not you may find some mail in your inbox you'd rather not receive.
Why should I have to?
I won't block an entire gender from messaging me, just because of a few idiots.
I have great conversations with people from the forum.
I've had messages from others where I've polity replied, there is no attraction but have ended up making a new friend.
I meet people at socials & clubs who may want to contact me.
I won't close my box to those opportunities, and I personally see the 'block all men' attitude as akin to victim blaming.
Women should be able to be on here without being subjected to abuse, that quite frankly is most often caused due to someone else's inability to read.
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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To those that complain of inappropriate messages too many messages etc.. if it causes you angst grief enough to complain block that gender(s) and do the searching yourself.. simple.
If not you may find some mail in your inbox you'd rather not receive.
Why should I have to?
I won't block an entire gender from messaging me, just because of a few idiots.
I have great conversations with people from the forum.
I've had messages from others where I've polity replied, there is no attraction but have ended up making a new friend.
I meet people at socials & clubs who may want to contact me.
I won't close my box to those opportunities, and I personally see the 'block all men' attitude as akin to victim blaming.
Women should be able to be on here without being subjected to abuse, that quite frankly is most often caused due to someone else's inability to read.
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Doesn't affect me if you choose to or not.. those that complain have a choice change something you can then control or don't and the inappropriate mail will likely continue.
We all alter our behaviour because of the actions of others, did you lock your doors when you left or leave the house ? Why ?..surely all folk would respect your wishes not to enter and leave your property ..in reality there are those who don't respect folks wishes on here and in the real world,
If it caused me enough grief to complain I'd alter something just like I lock my doors. |
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered??? "
If I get a message saying no thanks or any variation of that I always reply no problem |
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I would rather a "not for me" message.
I get winks all the time, to which I reply with a message, and often the message is never replied to.
I'd appreciate knowing they read the message and it wasn't for them. Then wondering if they ever even read it, or if I should send another, or am I being a stalker by sending another asking if they read it.
If its totally unsolicited then I dont mind if they dont reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d prefer a polite thanks but no thanks. I appreciate that a lot of women get lots of messages so not able to reply to all so I accept it and move on.
I’m not sure if people want some closure or feedback why they’re not going to get naughty with someone haha |
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To those that complain of inappropriate messages too many messages etc.. if it causes you angst grief enough to complain block that gender(s) and do the searching yourself.. simple.
If not you may find some mail in your inbox you'd rather not receive.
Why should I have to?
I won't block an entire gender from messaging me, just because of a few idiots.
I have great conversations with people from the forum.
I've had messages from others where I've polity replied, there is no attraction but have ended up making a new friend.
I meet people at socials & clubs who may want to contact me.
I won't close my box to those opportunities, and I personally see the 'block all men' attitude as akin to victim blaming.
Women should be able to be on here without being subjected to abuse, that quite frankly is most often caused due to someone else's inability to read.
Doesn't affect me if you choose to or not.. those that complain have a choice change something you can then control or don't and the inappropriate mail will likely continue.
We all alter our behaviour because of the actions of others, did you lock your doors when you left or leave the house ? Why ?..surely all folk would respect your wishes not to enter and leave your property ..in reality there are those who don't respect folks wishes on here and in the real world,
If it caused me enough grief to complain I'd alter something just like I lock my doors. "
I'm not complaining merely pointing out a fact, and it's causes me no grief, more amusement.
I am not looking to meet single men, anyone who contacts me will get the warning pop up.
If they then decide to carry on & message me, that's their perogative, doesn't mean I'll read it, or reply.
I've seen forum posts on several occasions from men, the usual 'no one replies' threads, from men who have contacted me previously.
If they'd read my profile, acknowledged the message pop up, then they wouldn't be the ones complaining.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Still think a Fab "thank you but no thanks" auto response "button" to messages would be a good idea, sort of disassociates you from the response. "
people would just complain about getting an automated message lol. |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish) |
We always send a reply, even if it is a "Thanks but not for us" message. It is just polite to do so.
I know we get miffed when we don't get any replies to messages so we can understand how others would feel. |
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By *ervertsCouple
over a year ago
halesowen |
It would probably help if guys actually read profiles before messaging, you could nothing but the words “single guys if we want you we will find you” or even just “no single guys” and they still message, and then wonder why they don’t get a reply. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"It would probably help if guys actually read profiles before messaging, you could nothing but the words “single guys if we want you we will find you” or even just “no single guys” and they still message, and then wonder why they don’t get a reply."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We always send a reply, even if it is a "Thanks but not for us" message. It is just polite to do so.
I know we get miffed when we don't get any replies to messages so we can understand how others would feel."
I always reply too. Can't remember the last time I had an 'abusive' message.
I think it's good that you have empathy for how other people feel. That's very unusual on here. |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
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"We always send a reply, even if it is a "Thanks but not for us" message. It is just polite to do so.
I know we get miffed when we don't get any replies to messages so we can understand how others would feel.
I always reply too. Can't remember the last time I had an 'abusive' message.
I think it's good that you have empathy for how other people feel. That's very unusual on here. "
Never had an abusive reply either. Empathy is always a good thing and it is good to know that you think so too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We always send a reply, even if it is a "Thanks but not for us" message. It is just polite to do so.
I know we get miffed when we don't get any replies to messages so we can understand how others would feel.
I always reply too. Can't remember the last time I had an 'abusive' message.
I think it's good that you have empathy for how other people feel. That's very unusual on here. Never had an abusive reply either. Empathy is always a good thing and it is good to know that you think so too."
Thank you like to think empathy is one of my attributes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always reply with “sorry, not for us. Good luck in your search”
If they get gobby we take it as a challenge to see How gobby we can get back before they block us.
Yes it’s childish ...guilty as charged ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would probably help if guys actually read profiles before messaging, you could nothing but the words “single guys if we want you we will find you” or even just “no single guys” and they still message, and then wonder why they don’t get a reply."
Plus one for that ....sick if hi how’s use (argh)
We normally reply out of politeness. Then after half a doZen messages they take the hump when we point out they didn’t read our profile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We always reply with “sorry, not for us. Good luck in your search”
If they get gobby we take it as a challenge to see How gobby we can get back before they block us.
Yes it’s childish ...guilty as charged ! "
Haha so would you say you win the battles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not interested in a no thanks message. I want my messages to be nice and friendly...although if I do get a no thanks, I always reply ‘no problem, happy swinging’.
No point being negative as you can’t please everyone and they didn’t ask you to message them. |
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My take is this. If a guy has made an effort but he's not your type, then a polite no thanks is a good reply.
If a no effort messaage is received then it deserves deletion with no reply.
It is annoying when I've followed their instructions with subject header and been polite and courteous then get deleted.but I am getting used to it. |
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If I get a Not for Me reply it’s nicer than either a deleted. Or a read and just left.
If a message is just deleted I tend to block the recipient so as not to repeat the process and bug them.
As for the whiners just block them. I dislike the whingers lots. |
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered??? "
No they don't instant delete and block.. My favourate |
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By *urlinaTV/TS
over a year ago
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I've learned through experience that in this environment it's better to ignore than to politely decline. In most cases extending the courtesy of a 'thanks but not for me' response is a good deed likely to be punished. |
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It's difficult, sometimes it's taken well, with a 'no worries, thanks for replying' or something along those lines, but some people just can't take a no! One guy lsdt week sent about half a dozen messages begging for a meet before finally getting offensive (and obviously blocked). Those people put you off bothering to reply at all.  |
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered??? "
I won't be answering anymore - too many can't handle rejection.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would always prefer a no thank you and I always say in my message if I'm not for you then no problem. It's a shame the whiners stop people responding but I understand why. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would much rather get a no thanks it thanks for looking than nothing I use my manners when messaging so it would be nice if the favour was returned but I do also understand women and couples get bombarded with messages so probably don’t have the time to reply to all of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally fed up of this too. I keep replying saying you look great, but not for me and all the best.
Either get multiple messages asking why, or nasty responses saying I’m uptight and frigid..... lol.
I’m now thinking that I’m not going to reply anymore and save myself the time. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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I'm happy to send a message weather she or they respond is out of my control, same as wether they respond with a no thanks or not, at the end of the day. I happy to have a simple civilised conversation as I would anywhere else.
I know this is a sex site but if every single lady or couple thinks that the only reason that I massage is to hope that some sane chance we may end up in a hot blooded romp, It would be nice if you are going to turn me down you could at least leave me a bit of pride, I'm sure you ladies have been turned down by men for the most stupid reason or not |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well the actions of some guys who can't handle rejection wouldnt stop me responding to the ones who prefer a reply. I can see from my own messages they outnumber the slapped arses, they will continue to be reported and blocked |
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With the amount of childish, desperate guys who can't take rejection like a man, and instead send abusive responses, it's no wonder some females are reluctant to respond with even a "thanks but no thanks".
And I thought we were all supposed to be adults on here? |
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"Unless the opening message is rude I tend to reply to messages from people I'm not interested in with thank you but not for me. This is usually appreciated but lately I have been getting unpleasant responses to my reply. Would guys rather be told no thank you or have messages unanswered??? "
If i get a not for me reply, i will sometimes send a thanks for at least replying, have fun message. Getting arsey isnt gona change anyones mind |
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By *ervertsCouple
over a year ago
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We had one the other day, single guy asking for a meet, which also seemed aimed only at the female half of us (rude!) and before I’d even had time to think hang on our profile says ‘no single guys’ he’d seen that the message was read and sent another message with just “??”
Blocked! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t take it personally and considering what I have read here they don’t know if I am going to be an arse with them or not but if anyone ever gets a message off me and you tell me no thanks my response is always no problem thanks for replying |
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"I don’t take it personally and considering what I have read here they don’t know if I am going to be an arse with them or not but if anyone ever gets a message off me and you tell me no thanks my response is always no problem thanks for replying "
Mine too. I'm glad I'm not alone on this! |
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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago
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"i am doing a q&a on my private messages at the moment .i ans honest as i can .dont care if get shit messages back part of fab
Can I see why you'd be inundated with messages lol"
well thank you kin sir kxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People love to brag about how rude they are to the men that mail them, and how they mess them about if they're not their type.
Yet cry a river when men do the same to them.  |
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Whilst I would always appreciate a polite "thanks but no thanks" message back, I also appreciate that ladies on here get tons of messages a day and sometimes can't physically reply to every one. I don't get rude or arsey if I don't get a reply, it's not my style. I just act like a grown up and move on. |
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over a year ago
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"People love to brag about how rude they are to the men that mail them, and how they mess them about if they're not their type.
Yet cry a river when men do the same to them. "
That's just unnecessary and shows a bad attitude. If I was the guy on the receiving end I would say they must not have many offers if they have the time to be so actively mean |
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"People love to brag about how rude they are to the men that mail them, and how they mess them about if they're not their type.
Yet cry a river when men do the same to them.
That's just unnecessary and shows a bad attitude. If I was the guy on the receiving end I would say they must not have many offers if they have the time to be so actively mean"
I agree. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"People love to brag about how rude they are to the men that mail them, and how they mess them about if they're not their type.
Yet cry a river when men do the same to them.
That's just unnecessary and shows a bad attitude. If I was the guy on the receiving end I would say they must not have many offers if they have the time to be so actively mean"
It's just posturing mostly, they wish they got so much attention. |
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This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. |
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed."
I understand the gentlemanly response to their "no thanks response" but that could create a vicious cycle of responses which is another good reason to have a Fab auto no thanks button for messages, it would be unequivocal. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed."
Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there. |
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed.
I understand the gentlemanly response to their "no thanks response" but that could create a vicious cycle of responses which is another good reason to have a Fab auto no thanks button for messages, it would be unequivocal. "
No vicious circle, that's where it ends! |
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there."
For the same reason I received a message in the first place.
Being polite, especially as it happens so infrequently. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there.
For the same reason I received a message in the first place.
Being polite, especially as it happens so infrequently. "
I get the politeness, just think it is redundant. They're not gonna change their mind and will probably block you then too. |
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there.
For the same reason I received a message in the first place.
Being polite, especially as it happens so infrequently. I get the politeness, just think it is redundant. They're not gonna change their mind and will probably block you then too."
Why would they charge their minds? That's not the reason at all!
I guess that's the difference between you and myself. |
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there."
I get these types of replies quite often. They say it's because they pretty much never get a reply. So they're saying thank you for someone finally treating them like a human being and not just blanking them. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there.
For the same reason I received a message in the first place.
Being polite, especially as it happens so infrequently. I get the politeness, just think it is redundant. They're not gonna change their mind and will probably block you then too.
Why would they charge their minds? That's not the reason at all!
I guess that's the difference between you and myself. "
I know I'm just an arrogant prick who thinks it's their loss. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there.
I get these types of replies quite often. They say it's because they pretty much never get a reply. So they're saying thank you for someone finally treating them like a human being and not just blanking them. "
Yeah I can see that too. |
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there.
For the same reason I received a message in the first place.
Being polite, especially as it happens so infrequently. I get the politeness, just think it is redundant. They're not gonna change their mind and will probably block you then too.
Why would they charge their minds? That's not the reason at all!
I guess that's the difference between you and myself. I know I'm just an arrogant prick who thinks it's their loss. "
You may be an arrogant prick who thinks it's their loss.
As I said that's the difference between you and me! |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there.
For the same reason I received a message in the first place.
Being polite, especially as it happens so infrequently. I get the politeness, just think it is redundant. They're not gonna change their mind and will probably block you then too.
Why would they charge their minds? That's not the reason at all!
I guess that's the difference between you and myself. I know I'm just an arrogant prick who thinks it's their loss.
You may be an arrogant prick who thinks it's their loss.
As I said that's the difference between you and me!"
Yeah guilty as charged. You think women send thanks for no thanks messages? |
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"This being my second time on fab, I know how it works. Yes, it can get annoying when you spend time writing a message, only for it to be deleted. But I've always understood no reply means no interest. Quite simple, really.
If I do get a 'thanks, but no thanks' message I usually reply with a 'thanks for the reply', because they have taken the time to send it.
I have had on a rare occasions a nasty uncalled for reply from a 'lady', but just reported her to admin for them to deal with.
I just think if you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. Still don't get why men are replying to a no thanks message, the dialogue should end there.
For the same reason I received a message in the first place.
Being polite, especially as it happens so infrequently. I get the politeness, just think it is redundant. They're not gonna change their mind and will probably block you then too.
Why would they charge their minds? That's not the reason at all!
I guess that's the difference between you and myself. I know I'm just an arrogant prick who thinks it's their loss.
You may be an arrogant prick who thinks it's their loss.
As I said that's the difference between you and me! Yeah guilty as charged. You think women send thanks for no thanks messages?"
I think you were found out earlier today in a previous thread. Parsnip. |
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The Op actually likes to send that reply and I like the idea she likes it, however I'm not a fan of those who choose to be rude when's she's been honest with you, you can't please all of the people all of the time |
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"The Op actually likes to send that reply and I like the idea she likes it, however I'm not a fan of those who choose to be rude when's she's been honest with you, you can't please all of the people all of the time "
Exactly |
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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago
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well i [k] try to ans all that message and chat to many .however that is not an automatic mean i will meet you.its being polite .so because i ans ,i am a time waster cos i dont meet all.ha ha get a grip with the real world . |
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I think most people would like to know where they stand and hopefully in all good humour be able to understand the fact like a grown adult your not for them. I think a nice no thanks is the right thing to do. But at the end of the day you don't owe anyone a reply to a message you didn't ask for. It was them who chose to put the effort in to message you, you didn't ask that specifically of them (unless you initiated the conversation). So you shouldn't feel too bad if you don't make the effort to reply to something you never asked for. |
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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago
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thanks dont feel bad it is on my profile if any one took time to read it .ha it also clearly says dont like guys with big beards .[yes you guessed ]i get messages every day from hipster type .still reply as they been good enough to message even if did not read profile .its fab eh |
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