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Looks like I’ve bagged myself a girlfriend...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As in, to stay on Fab or not? "
Pretty much?... well basically the scene in its entirety?... it’s not something we’ve spoke about, I mean it’s not something that would just pop into your head? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament?  Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?"
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol"
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol"
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol"
Run now! while you still have the chance  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site"
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words? |
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words?"
Yes it can be difficult. Will you be happy if she wants to sleep with other people too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol"
Whoo-hoo, to the girl friend part, I too am not a nut case!  |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words?"
Were you sleeping with anyone on here anyway? Thought you liked your hand better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? "
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words? Were you sleeping with anyone on here anyway? Thought you liked your hand better "
I’ve not slept with anyone while I’ve been seeing her (not THAT guy)... kinda explains while I’ve been “self loving” so much? lol
As for taking her to a club?!... can you imagine??... “Ahh this has backfired hasn’t it?... shall we just stay for a little while anyway?”
Btw this girl has literally zero idea about my fab life... which again is probably my failing as I feel I’ve been a bit dishonest without technically doing anything untoward? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words? Were you sleeping with anyone on here anyway? Thought you liked your hand better
I’ve not slept with anyone while I’ve been seeing her (not THAT guy)... kinda explains while I’ve been “self loving” so much? lol
As for taking her to a club?!... can you imagine??... “Ahh this has backfired hasn’t it?... shall we just stay for a little while anyway?”
Btw this girl has literally zero idea about my fab life... which again is probably my failing as I feel I’ve been a bit dishonest without technically doing anything untoward?"
I think you need a little time before you suggest swinging, could be too much too soon. |
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words? Were you sleeping with anyone on here anyway? Thought you liked your hand better "
How do you know so much about the op?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just tell her you're taking her to a club. . 
Rotflmao.. I'd love to see that reaction when she sees the playrooms "
Yeah me too, when everyone waves and greats her like an old freind and she introduces him to her big dicked freinds. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words? Were you sleeping with anyone on here anyway? Thought you liked your hand better
How do you know so much about the op?? "
He did a thread last week about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words? Were you sleeping with anyone on here anyway? Thought you liked your hand better
How do you know so much about the op?? He did a thread last week about it."
He’s horrible anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words? Were you sleeping with anyone on here anyway? Thought you liked your hand better
How do you know so much about the op?? He did a thread last week about it.
He’s horrible anyway "
I’m an absolute sweetheart!... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words? Were you sleeping with anyone on here anyway? Thought you liked your hand better
How do you know so much about the op?? He did a thread last week about it.
He’s horrible anyway
I’m an absolute sweetheart!..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You'll have to come clean in the end. I'd tell her now so you don't waste anyone's time, if she doesn't want that kind of relationship.
But then, she may feel like that now but a few years into your relationship she may want to.
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You're not really any different to any single males in clubs etc, we all know it's not difficult to get laid.. The only difference maybe is you're doing more than one at a time(hell yes!!).. Think she may overlook this 'technicality'? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're not really any different to any single males in clubs etc, we all know it's not difficult to get laid.. The only difference maybe is you're doing more than one at a time(hell yes!!).. Think she may overlook this 'technicality'? Lol"
She's his gf; I don't think she would overlook him doing more than one girl at a time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament?
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck. "
Me either. It sounds like a total disconnect in communication and thus likely compatibility. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament? Seems quick, is she aware you think she is your girlfriend?
Yeahhh... she was giving it the whole making it “official” spiel?!... I’m not a nutcase lol
when she is giving you the "making it official spiel" that is your opportunity to say how you see your relationship developing. If that involves swinging for you now's the time to mention it. If it doesn't now's the time to leave the site
I really don’t know how to broach the subject?... “ah yeah about this relationship thing... you mind if I sleep with other people?”...
... I mean you’re right, of course you are but I’m just struggling with the words? Were you sleeping with anyone on here anyway? Thought you liked your hand better
I’ve not slept with anyone while I’ve been seeing her (not THAT guy)... kinda explains while I’ve been “self loving” so much? lol
As for taking her to a club?!... can you imagine??... “Ahh this has backfired hasn’t it?... shall we just stay for a little while anyway?”
Btw this girl has literally zero idea about my fab life... which again is probably my failing as I feel I’ve been a bit dishonest without technically doing anything untoward?"
Unless they met on here, swinging is not something couples often discuss in the early stages of a relationship.
If you like her, I'd leave here and give it a proper go.
Not telling her is only dishonest if you feel that swinging is something you are compelled to do. If you can do without it, then there's no need to mention it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament?
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck.
Me either. It sounds like a total disconnect in communication and thus likely compatibility."
Tbf we’ve been in a relationship for all of 10 hours?... forgive me for not rocking up to the third or fourth date in a pair of arseless chaps and nipple clamps? lol... I like the idea of just seeing how it goes for now and then obviously if things start to get a little more serious a decision will need to be made... I won’t be sleeping with or seeing anyone else until then tho |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"... and now in a bit of a predicament?
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck.
Me either. It sounds like a total disconnect in communication and thus likely compatibility."
Really? I don't consider this place a "big part" of my life at all. If I met someone, I'd just leave and close that particular chapter of my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament?
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck.
Me either. It sounds like a total disconnect in communication and thus likely compatibility.
Tbf we’ve been in a relationship for all of 10 hours?... forgive me for not rocking up to the third or fourth date in a pair of arseless chaps and nipple clamps? lol... I like the idea of just seeing how it goes for now and then obviously if things start to get a little more serious a decision will need to be made... I won’t be sleeping with or seeing anyone else until then tho"
Then I’d leave the site and do that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament?
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck.
Me either. It sounds like a total disconnect in communication and thus likely compatibility.
Really? I don't consider this place a "big part" of my life at all. If I met someone, I'd just leave and close that particular chapter of my life. "
To be fair whether you consider it a big part of your life or not isn’t related to my comment. I was answering the OP who felt it a big deal enoug to be a predicament and start a thread. He clarified in reply to me that it’s been only a ten hour thing so that probably tempers my response actually. But if it was me and it had got to the point of being girlfriend/boyfriend I’d have no predicament as I’d have been communicating with my partner ahead of this to know their views, we are all different after all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends if you were on here looking for fucks or if you identify as a swinger and it’s an important part of your life. It’s pretty unfair to expect a girl you’ve met outside of fab to step into this kind of world when she thinks that a monogamous relationship is what you want. If I met a guy in the real world any dating sites he was on previously would be gone, social media, snap chat, I’d shut all that shit down, might give him a crayon and some paper to communicate with, IF he’s lucky. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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" If I met a guy in the real world any dating sites he was on previously would be gone, social media, snap chat, I’d shut all that shit down, might give him a crayon and some paper to communicate with, IF he’s lucky. "
might be why you're single |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends if you were on here looking for fucks or if you identify as a swinger and it’s an important part of your life. It’s pretty unfair to expect a girl you’ve met outside of fab to step into this kind of world when she thinks that a monogamous relationship is what you want. If I met a guy in the real world any dating sites he was on previously would be gone, social media, snap chat, I’d shut all that shit down, might give him a crayon and some paper to communicate with, IF he’s lucky. "
now that sounds really scary. Do you keep them locked in a dungeon too and only allowed out at your whim |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament?
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck.
Me either. It sounds like a total disconnect in communication and thus likely compatibility.
Tbf we’ve been in a relationship for all of 10 hours?... forgive me for not rocking up to the third or fourth date in a pair of arseless chaps and nipple clamps? lol... I like the idea of just seeing how it goes for now and then obviously if things start to get a little more serious a decision will need to be made... I won’t be sleeping with or seeing anyone else until then tho"
That's how I would do it. You may find you like being in a monogamous relationship and don't need other people to have sex with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I met someone and they stated they wanted a swinging relationship with me I would end it immediately. I would want to establish our relationship with nothing hanging over it. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"If I met someone and they stated they wanted a swinging relationship with me I would end it immediately. I would want to establish our relationship with nothing hanging over it."
I think most people would. That includes most people on here.
I'm pretty sure that the discussion of whether or not you'd swing in a relationship is quite far down the line. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends if you were on here looking for fucks or if you identify as a swinger and it’s an important part of your life. It’s pretty unfair to expect a girl you’ve met outside of fab to step into this kind of world when she thinks that a monogamous relationship is what you want. If I met a guy in the real world any dating sites he was on previously would be gone, social media, snap chat, I’d shut all that shit down, might give him a crayon and some paper to communicate with, IF he’s lucky.
now that sounds really scary. Do you keep them locked in a dungeon too and only allowed out at your whim "
Nooo, just tied to the bed and keep a sledge handy in case they need their ankles tapped. |
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament?
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck.
Me either. It sounds like a total disconnect in communication and thus likely compatibility.
Really? I don't consider this place a "big part" of my life at all. If I met someone, I'd just leave and close that particular chapter of my life. "
Exactly.. Your past has no bearing on the present.. There's probably a lot of things we don't know about our partners and everyone is entitled to their privacy.. Its not like you are doing anything illegal.. As long as you've kept your dick covered and aren't bringing any 'surprises' into a new relationship then she doesn't need to know.. She's supposed to like you for who you ARE not who you WERE.. Good luck and enjoy and don't miss your us too much lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament?
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck.
Me either. It sounds like a total disconnect in communication and thus likely compatibility.
Really? I don't consider this place a "big part" of my life at all. If I met someone, I'd just leave and close that particular chapter of my life. "
Well then you wouldn't be posting a thread saying you were in a predicament would you. You'd just pack it in a nd leave, so no issue, no dilemma. Now if you posted a thread stating that you had a dilemma then it must be a big part or you wouldn't be in a predicament. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"... and now in a bit of a predicament?
Never understood how people get that far into a relationship while still hiding big parts of their lives. Now it will probably be a shock, good luck.
Me either. It sounds like a total disconnect in communication and thus likely compatibility.
Tbf we’ve been in a relationship for all of 10 hours?... forgive me for not rocking up to the third or fourth date in a pair of arseless chaps and nipple clamps? lol... I like the idea of just seeing how it goes for now and then obviously if things start to get a little more serious a decision will need to be made... I won’t be sleeping with or seeing anyone else until then tho"
Haha, 10 hours, OK, then conversation would be limited, most people nowadays don't reach boyfriend girlfriend status until they've been practically living together for 6 months! |
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