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Why is it more socially acceptable to be so rude about thin people?
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Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. |
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Its not.
My little sister is extremely thin, always has been and has my mums figure. She’s 15 and when she was 13 there was rumours at her school that she’s anorexic, just because she’s so thin! So she moved school because of the bullying. It’s awful |
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That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect. |
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect."
Nothing wrong with having a preference. But very much not OK to use negative language against anyone. Ever. End of. |
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"Because dweebs think if they run a thin body type down it will impress their target audience. "
Sad but true.
Personally even though I have preferences, I can still see beauty in people who don't fit them. |
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I've had it from both sides.
When I was younger I had the rifle cleaning jokes. I didn't find it funny.
Then when I wasn't very happy and started to comfort eat and put on weight, I had a cousin say to me, "I don't know where you're going, you being so fat."
This was coming from a cousin who was a size 24 for all of her adult life and was also overweight a a child. This was a cousin whose pain I could see in her eyes when she was ridiculed about her weight. This was the person who I would defend, the person who I would think of when someone was telling fat jokes and as a result admonish the joke teller.
I can't express the level of hurt and pain when she said that.
Not everyone fat shames.
It's never be me. |
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"Because dweebs think if they run a thin body type down it will impress their target audience.
Sad but true.
Personally even though I have preferences, I can still see beauty in people who don't fit them."
I hear you. My preference isms for a reply to my messages. Lol |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It isn't though, is it? I frequently see women shoot down posters who describe slim as negative - I'd agree with what Twisted said, it's a confused way of trying to get in with the "general" opinion. |
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect."
I wouldn't view someone stating that they wouldn't want to cuddle a stick as body shaming... Unless it was directed at a specific person. Its a preference (albeit a poorly worded one). No different than someone saying they won't meet shorter men, guys with beards, men/women the same age as their kids, taller women, people with tattoos/piercings, attached people, women with small boobs... There are hundreds of preferences people have in different combinations. It's how they express those preferences that may be offensive  |
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"Because dweebs think if they run a thin body type down it will impress their target audience.
Sad but true.
Personally even though I have preferences, I can still see beauty in people who don't fit them."
Unfortunately, it's not just a fat/thin issue - though that's a good example. You see it far too often on here where *some* people choose to describe their preferences by being rude and ridiculous (at best) or spiteful and shaming (at worst) about whatever the opposite to their preference is. Why they simply can't say 'I find xxxx attractive *because* ...' and list the positive attributes of their particular preference I'll never know - yet you still get people saying 'I find xxxx attractive because yyyy (the opposite to xxxx) is repulsive, disgusting' etc and then going on the attack if anyone has the temerity to object - ''cos it's my preference innit' - completely missing the point  |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with."
It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.
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"Because dweebs think if they run a thin body type down it will impress their target audience. dweebs lol not heard that in yonks"
Best one handed typing insult I could come up with mate. Didn’t want to drop my burrito  |
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For the same reason its ok to infer that beautiful people are ugly on the inside and rich people are horrible. Flatter the majority by insulting the minority. It works some of the time with some of the people. |
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It's not. When I was very thin people remarked on my bony body, but not in an abusive way. The only person making abusive remarks to me personally, when I got fat, was my husband.
On here I don't recall anyone calling me a fat doughnut eating cunt. |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's."
why couldn't they meet slim woman that's practically the same as slim woman are better is it not ?
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"Because dweebs think if they run a thin body type down it will impress their target audience. "
On the BBW threads it’s never long until some sycophant pops in and say “real women have meat on them*” or some other guff.
*Some do, of course, but petite women are no less “real”. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.why couldn't they meet slim woman that's practically the same as slim woman are better is it not ?"
I didn't mean all of them that's why I said it is usually.
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect.
I wouldn't view someone stating that they wouldn't want to cuddle a stick as body shaming... Unless it was directed at a specific person. Its a preference (albeit a poorly worded one). No different than someone saying they won't meet shorter men, guys with beards, men/women the same age as their kids, taller women, people with tattoos/piercings, attached people, women with small boobs... There are hundreds of preferences people have in different combinations. It's how they express those preferences that may be offensive "
How is it not? It’s not the same as saying I wouldn’t want slimmer women, if someone wrote on the forums I don’t want to meet hippos the place would be in outrage. I’ve been using these forums for over 10 years and it’s been a constant, you can body shame slim people but nobody larger. Do people think that slim people’s self confidence doesn’t get as affected? Because it really does. |
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect.
I wouldn't view someone stating that they wouldn't want to cuddle a stick as body shaming... Unless it was directed at a specific person. Its a preference (albeit a poorly worded one). No different than someone saying they won't meet shorter men, guys with beards, men/women the same age as their kids, taller women, people with tattoos/piercings, attached people, women with small boobs... There are hundreds of preferences people have in different combinations. It's how they express those preferences that may be offensive "
It's how each person reacts to the choice of words. My mum and dad called me tin ribs, my sisters called me skinny and a bag of bones. None of that upset me because they weren't trying to upset me. |
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"Because dweebs think if they run a thin body type down it will impress their target audience.
On the BBW threads it’s never long until some sycophant pops in and say “real women have meat on them*” or some other guff.
*Some do, of course, but petite women are no less “real”. "
I've had people tell me they like fat women because they are real women. It's a ridiculous thing to say. |
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect.
I wouldn't view someone stating that they wouldn't want to cuddle a stick as body shaming... Unless it was directed at a specific person. Its a preference (albeit a poorly worded one). No different than someone saying they won't meet shorter men, guys with beards, men/women the same age as their kids, taller women, people with tattoos/piercings, attached people, women with small boobs... There are hundreds of preferences people have in different combinations. It's how they express those preferences that may be offensive
It's how each person reacts to the choice of words. My mum and dad called me tin ribs, my sisters called me skinny and a bag of bones. None of that upset me because they weren't trying to upset me."
And they probably weren't trying to get a shag  |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"Because dweebs think if they run a thin body type down it will impress their target audience.
Sad but true.
Personally even though I have preferences, I can still see beauty in people who don't fit them.
Unfortunately, it's not just a fat/thin issue - though that's a good example. You see it far too often on here where *some* people choose to describe their preferences by being rude and ridiculous (at best) or spiteful and shaming (at worst) about whatever the opposite to their preference is. Why they simply can't say 'I find xxxx attractive *because* ...' and list the positive attributes of their particular preference I'll never know - yet you still get people saying 'I find xxxx attractive because yyyy (the opposite to xxxx) is repulsive, disgusting' etc and then going on the attack if anyone has the temerity to object - ''cos it's my preference innit' - completely missing the point "
It’s amazing how many people that make disparaging remarks about people with yyyy attributes then message people with those same attributes and try to make out they only say that stuff because they think they stand more chance with xxxx attributed people. I tell those people to get to fuck if that’s their attitude to any of the women on this site. |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.why couldn't they meet slim woman that's practically the same as slim woman are better is it not ? I didn't mean all of them that's why I said it is usually. "
I just don't get the usually thing slim woman are no better or worse than woman of larger stature.
By saying they can't get a slimmer fem so try for a larger one means your placing one group better than the other imo |
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It’s so knocking when you read ‘real woman have meat on them, or as I read on here the other day ‘ nobody wants to meet a bag of bones’ for girls like myself who would love to have curves and already feel less of a woman not having reading it affects the self esteem. I would never in a million years want to make someone bigger feel bad about their body so why is it ok the other way around? |
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect.
I wouldn't view someone stating that they wouldn't want to cuddle a stick as body shaming... Unless it was directed at a specific person. Its a preference (albeit a poorly worded one). No different than someone saying they won't meet shorter men, guys with beards, men/women the same age as their kids, taller women, people with tattoos/piercings, attached people, women with small boobs... There are hundreds of preferences people have in different combinations. It's how they express those preferences that may be offensive
It's how each person reacts to the choice of words. My mum and dad called me tin ribs, my sisters called me skinny and a bag of bones. None of that upset me because they weren't trying to upset me.
And they probably weren't trying to get a shag "
I'm going with definitely.
It was what we now call banter or ribbing. I have never been one to be offended by any insults aimed at me. That's when I know I've won. |
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"It's not. When I was very thin people remarked on my bony body, but not in an abusive way. The only person making abusive remarks to me personally, when I got fat, was my husband.
On here I don't recall anyone calling me a fat doughnut eating cunt."
Jesus.
Hopefully now an ex husband.  |
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"It’s so knocking when you read ‘real woman have meat on them, or as I read on here the other day ‘ nobody wants to meet a bag of bones’ for girls like myself who would love to have curves and already feel less of a woman not having reading it affects the self esteem. I would never in a million years want to make someone bigger feel bad about their body so why is it ok the other way around?"
But you know it's not true. People do want to meet you. My ex told me no one would want me, when I put on 7 stone. He ate his words when he found out I was seeing a 23 yr old ex marine who plays rugby.
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As others have said. Men are very shallow on here and think with their dicks.
They try to say what appeals to the majority and it makes them look silly.
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's."
Did you just say that guys meet BBWs because they can't get slim women??  |
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"It's not. When I was very thin people remarked on my bony body, but not in an abusive way. The only person making abusive remarks to me personally, when I got fat, was my husband.
On here I don't recall anyone calling me a fat doughnut eating cunt.
Jesus.
Hopefully now an ex husband. "
Yes. The words didn't bother me one bit. He was always verbally abusive; me putting on weight gave him something else to abuse me about. It would him up that I didn't react. |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.
Did you just say that guys meet BBWs because they can't get slim women?? "
Oh yes he did lol
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect.
I wouldn't view someone stating that they wouldn't want to cuddle a stick as body shaming... Unless it was directed at a specific person. Its a preference (albeit a poorly worded one). No different than someone saying they won't meet shorter men, guys with beards, men/women the same age as their kids, taller women, people with tattoos/piercings, attached people, women with small boobs... There are hundreds of preferences people have in different combinations. It's how they express those preferences that may be offensive
It's how each person reacts to the choice of words. My mum and dad called me tin ribs, my sisters called me skinny and a bag of bones. None of that upset me because they weren't trying to upset me.
And they probably weren't trying to get a shag
I'm going with definitely.
It was what we now call banter or ribbing. I have never been one to be offended by any insults aimed at me. That's when I know I've won."
We were talking about this the other day. If someone tries to insult me they've wasted their time because if its not true I genuinely don't care. If what they say is true I just think "well fair enough".
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"It’s so knocking when you read ‘real woman have meat on them, or as I read on here the other day ‘ nobody wants to meet a bag of bones’ for girls like myself who would love to have curves and already feel less of a woman not having reading it affects the self esteem. I would never in a million years want to make someone bigger feel bad about their body so why is it ok the other way around?
But you know it's not true. People do want to meet you. My ex told me no one would want me, when I put on 7 stone. He ate his words when he found out I was seeing a 23 yr old ex marine who plays rugby.
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Don’t get me wrong, comments on the forum don’t make me upset to the point I’m crying or anything but it knock my confidence. But anyway this isn’t really about me, it’s just not equal.
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.
Did you just say that guys meet BBWs because they can't get slim women?? "
Not all but I think in some instances that will be the case yeah. |
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Tbh I love all shapes and sizes and colours there is no favourite. As a skinny woman could show me somethink new and exciting whilst a short woman could show me somethink else exciting same with a tall or chubby. Point is there is always someone for somebody and no matter size or colour we are all beautiful and deserve the same respect giving to others |
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"Its not.
My little sister is extremely thin, always has been and has my mums figure. She’s 15 and when she was 13 there was rumours at her school that she’s anorexic, just because she’s so thin! So she moved school because of the bullying. It’s awful "
This, no matter what shape or size people need to show respect for others, and adopt social etiquette....behind peoples exterior you have no idea what they are feeling or what they are/have been going through. |
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I have very definite preferences but I would never be so rude as to insult anyone who falls outside of them. It's simply that some people are not very nice.. |
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Well it's predictable and quite sad, but not acceptable. Another thread has gone up re bbw. Within the first few messages comments re sticks, bones, more fun, real womem etc. All to gain favour with women who they think will meet them. Sad. Body shaming is never ok. Will it change? I doubt it. |
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect.
I wouldn't view someone stating that they wouldn't want to cuddle a stick as body shaming... Unless it was directed at a specific person. Its a preference (albeit a poorly worded one). No different than someone saying they won't meet shorter men, guys with beards, men/women the same age as their kids, taller women, people with tattoos/piercings, attached people, women with small boobs... There are hundreds of preferences people have in different combinations. It's how they express those preferences that may be offensive
It's how each person reacts to the choice of words. My mum and dad called me tin ribs, my sisters called me skinny and a bag of bones. None of that upset me because they weren't trying to upset me.
And they probably weren't trying to get a shag
I'm going with definitely.
It was what we now call banter or ribbing. I have never been one to be offended by any insults aimed at me. That's when I know I've won.
We were talking about this the other day. If someone tries to insult me they've wasted their time because if its not true I genuinely don't care. If what they say is true I just think "well fair enough".
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Exactly. I knew I was underweight, the same as I know I'm overweight. So what. It's funny though, that some men on here would look at me totally differently if I were still underweight, and would possibly be gagging to fuck me. |
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"It’s so knocking when you read ‘real woman have meat on them, or as I read on here the other day ‘ nobody wants to meet a bag of bones’ for girls like myself who would love to have curves and already feel less of a woman not having reading it affects the self esteem. I would never in a million years want to make someone bigger feel bad about their body so why is it ok the other way around?
But you know it's not true. People do want to meet you. My ex told me no one would want me, when I put on 7 stone. He ate his words when he found out I was seeing a 23 yr old ex marine who plays rugby.
Don’t get me wrong, comments on the forum don’t make me upset to the point I’m crying or anything but it knock my confidence. But anyway this isn’t really about me, it’s just not equal.
And awesome! "
I think some people think they have to appease us fat women, because it's not socially acceptable to be fat or obese. So they run down thin people to try to make us feel better about being fat. |
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I always feel a little sorry for anyone who has to put another person down for their physical attributes, if that is the only way to make them feel good about themselves or get laid they are obviously not in a good place. It's surprising how often it crops up on here.
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"Well it's predictable and quite sad, but not acceptable. Another thread has gone up re bbw. Within the first few messages comments re sticks, bones, more fun, real womem etc. All to gain favour with women who they think will meet them. Sad. Body shaming is never ok. Will it change? I doubt it."
When you’ve read one of those threads you’ve read them all. |
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Slightly off-topic.... But is there really any way to tell someone they don't match your preferences without it seeming insulting in some way?? Whether it's body-type, age, gender, sexual orientation, height... Whatever it is... Does anyone struggle to find the right words to put it in the nicest way possible without offending? |
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"Slightly off-topic.... But is there really any way to tell someone they don't match your preferences without it seeming insulting in some way?? Whether it's body-type, age, gender, sexual orientation, height... Whatever it is... Does anyone struggle to find the right words to put it in the nicest way possible without offending? "
Being a single man with no profile and no pics I struggle with this to |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"It’s so knocking when you read ‘real woman have meat on them, or as I read on here the other day ‘ nobody wants to meet a bag of bones’ for girls like myself who would love to have curves and already feel less of a woman not having reading it affects the self esteem. I would never in a million years want to make someone bigger feel bad about their body so why is it ok the other way around?
But you know it's not true. People do want to meet you. My ex told me no one would want me, when I put on 7 stone. He ate his words when he found out I was seeing a 23 yr old ex marine who plays rugby.
Don’t get me wrong, comments on the forum don’t make me upset to the point I’m crying or anything but it knock my confidence. But anyway this isn’t really about me, it’s just not equal.
And awesome!
I think some people think they have to appease us fat women, because it's not socially acceptable to be fat or obese. So they run down thin people to try to make us feel better about being fat. "
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"Slightly off-topic.... But is there really any way to tell someone they don't match your preferences without it seeming insulting in some way?? Whether it's body-type, age, gender, sexual orientation, height... Whatever it is... Does anyone struggle to find the right words to put it in the nicest way possible without offending? "
We just say we don't feel we're compatible. |
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"Well it's predictable and quite sad, but not acceptable. Another thread has gone up re bbw. Within the first few messages comments re sticks, bones, more fun, real womem etc. All to gain favour with women who they think will meet them. Sad. Body shaming is never ok. Will it change? I doubt it."
Madness isnt it. No ones ever said they've not had fun with my sticks and bones, and Im definitely a real woman, I had babies and everything 
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"Well it's predictable and quite sad, but not acceptable. Another thread has gone up re bbw. Within the first few messages comments re sticks, bones, more fun, real womem etc. All to gain favour with women who they think will meet them. Sad. Body shaming is never ok. Will it change? I doubt it."
To be fair, usually when I see comments like this on a thread somebody pulls them up on it, I don't see many getting away with it. And if guys think that will gain them favour, well I think most of us can see through that |
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"It's not. When I was very thin people remarked on my bony body, but not in an abusive way. The only person making abusive remarks to me personally, when I got fat, was my husband.
On here I don't recall anyone calling me a fat doughnut eating cunt.
Jesus.
Hopefully now an ex husband. "
careful White! You almost looked like you have a heart there |
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"It's not. When I was very thin people remarked on my bony body, but not in an abusive way. The only person making abusive remarks to me personally, when I got fat, was my husband.
On here I don't recall anyone calling me a fat doughnut eating cunt.
Jesus.
Hopefully now an ex husband.
careful White! You almost looked like you have a heart there "
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It's always men as well
Iv seen lots of men comment about 'real women' and wouldn't want a 'stick'
In their defence it's usually to boost a curvy lady but it's not ok
If I put a post up about feeling insecure I doubt many men would boost me by fat shaming
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"It's not. When I was very thin people remarked on my bony body, but not in an abusive way. The only person making abusive remarks to me personally, when I got fat, was my husband.
On here I don't recall anyone calling me a fat doughnut eating cunt.
Jesus.
Hopefully now an ex husband.
careful White! You almost looked like you have a heart there
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle. "
Let's swap then. I'll have your body and you can have the BBW threads... |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle. "
I'll take your bait. You wouldn't be considered average by a lot on here though you would be considered slim.
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle. "
I used to post threads in praise of average women and often got slated for it but I am neither slim or fat... you can't win on here  |
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle.
Let's swap then. I'll have your body and you can have the BBW threads..."
Or we have an all inclusive thread where women aren't categorised by body type? |
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle.
Let's swap then. I'll have your body and you can have the BBW threads...
Or we have an all inclusive thread where women aren't categorised by body type? "
By what then? Some men have opened threads stating they love all women and been lambasted for it.
Why out up adoration thread at all. We could stick to the show us your whatever threads and enjoy the show |
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect."
I see people getting pulled up on their comments, if they are disparaging about slim people too, in all honesty. Neither is tolerated by some |
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle. I'll take your bait. You wouldn't be considered average by a lot on here though you would be considered slim."
It wasn't bait. As we all know labels are open to interpretation. |
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle.
Let's swap then. I'll have your body and you can have the BBW threads...
Or we have an all inclusive thread where women aren't categorised by body type?
By what then? Some men have opened threads stating they love all women and been lambasted for it.
Why out up adoration thread at all. We could stick to the show us your whatever threads and enjoy the show "
Can we have a thread about ragey, beardy blokes from SE London? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle. I'll take your bait. You wouldn't be considered average by a lot on here though you would be considered slim.
It wasn't bait. As we all know labels are open to interpretation. "
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle.
Let's swap then. I'll have your body and you can have the BBW threads...
Or we have an all inclusive thread where women aren't categorised by body type?
By what then? Some men have opened threads stating they love all women and been lambasted for it.
Why out up adoration thread at all. We could stick to the show us your whatever threads and enjoy the show "
That's the thing. Everyone interprets things differently so they just get accused of ass kissing.
You can't win. |
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle.
Let's swap then. I'll have your body and you can have the BBW threads...
Or we have an all inclusive thread where women aren't categorised by body type?
By what then? Some men have opened threads stating they love all women and been lambasted for it.
Why out up adoration thread at all. We could stick to the show us your whatever threads and enjoy the show
Can we have a thread about ragey, beardy blokes from SE London? "
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle. I'll take your bait. You wouldn't be considered average by a lot on here though you would be considered slim.
It wasn't bait. As we all know labels are open to interpretation. oh come on you can't shit a shitter "
Really? I have "curvy" on my profile and get told that's wrong. Yet I have curves. I put average here and you're telling me that's wrong yet I'm in the average range of weight for my height. |
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle.
Let's swap then. I'll have your body and you can have the BBW threads...
Or we have an all inclusive thread where women aren't categorised by body type?
By what then? Some men have opened threads stating they love all women and been lambasted for it.
Why out up adoration thread at all. We could stick to the show us your whatever threads and enjoy the show
That's the thing. Everyone interprets things differently so they just get accused of ass kissing.
You can't win. "
No one needs to kiss arse though. We have thigh Tuesday, for instance, where people join in for others to drool over. I don't see kiss arsing or being pulled up for the odd dribble over a pic. |
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle. I'll take your bait. You wouldn't be considered average by a lot on here though you would be considered slim.
It wasn't bait. As we all know labels are open to interpretation. oh come on you can't shit a shitter
Really? I have "curvy" on my profile and get told that's wrong. Yet I have curves. I put average here and you're telling me that's wrong yet I'm in the average range of weight for my height. "
I had ample and large and was told, more than once, that I should have curvy. I don't even remember what I have ticked now. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle. I'll take your bait. You wouldn't be considered average by a lot on here though you would be considered slim.
It wasn't bait. As we all know labels are open to interpretation. oh come on you can't shit a shitter
Really? I have "curvy" on my profile and get told that's wrong. Yet I have curves. I put average here and you're telling me that's wrong yet I'm in the average range of weight for my height. "
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"That's not the impression I get from the forums to be honest. I'm very much in the middle weight wise, but seeing all these comments about not wanting to cuddle a stick ect, maybe some people need to learn to accept that people come in all shapes and sizes, and despite their own preferences they should learn some respect."
Yes there have been indirect comments about thin women and calling them a bag of bones but if you have seen those comments you should have also seen people comment that it is not acceptable to call women names based on weight and size.
I say indirect comments because usually the comment is about curvy or larger women and it included a reference to slim women. So the comments were not actually about the slim women.
As people have pointed out on other threads recently you can appreciate the one group without critising the other in the process of giving appreciation.
Example
All to often, men, will say I prefer a curvy woman to a bag of bones.....there was no need to name call the one to show your love of the other.
They should have just said they love curvy women since that is who they are talking about.
I do not think they mean any harm....more likely just trying to gain favour with the curvy women |
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle.
Let's swap then. I'll have your body and you can have the BBW threads...
Or we have an all inclusive thread where women aren't categorised by body type?
By what then? Some men have opened threads stating they love all women and been lambasted for it.
Why out up adoration thread at all. We could stick to the show us your whatever threads and enjoy the show
That's the thing. Everyone interprets things differently so they just get accused of ass kissing.
You can't win.
No one needs to kiss arse though. We have thigh Tuesday, for instance, where people join in for others to drool over. I don't see kiss arsing or being pulled up for the odd dribble over a pic. "
Maybe that's the way to go. All inclusive, men, women, any shape any size. |
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"Average woman is 5 foot 4 and 166 pounds
"I'm in the average range of weight FOR MY HEIGHT. "
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On dating apps generally, and on here, “curvy”, “average” tend to be euphemisms for anything from overweight - extremely heavy.
I’d expect someone with your body type to describe themselves as slim or athletic. |
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"Average woman is 5 foot 4 and 166 pounds
"I'm in the average range of weight FOR MY HEIGHT. "
On dating apps generally, and on here, “curvy”, “average” tend to be euphemisms for anything from overweight - extremely heavy.
I’d expect someone with your body type to describe themselves as slim or athletic. "
Is it really that big a deal? The point I was making wasn't specifically about my body, it was about women in general who have no features which are typically singled out for praise. We only really fit into all inclusive threads which to me is a good kinda thread, we can all celebrate each other and our bodies. Being different is good. |
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"Average woman is 5 foot 4 and 166 pounds
"I'm in the average range of weight FOR MY HEIGHT. "
On dating apps generally, and on here, “curvy”, “average” tend to be euphemisms for anything from overweight - extremely heavy.
I’d expect someone with your body type to describe themselves as slim or athletic.
Is it really that big a deal? The point I was making wasn't specifically about my body, it was about women in general who have no features which are typically singled out for praise. We only really fit into all inclusive threads which to me is a good kinda thread, we can all celebrate each other and our bodies. Being different is good. "
Not a big deal, but might explain why you find people are surprised that someone of your body shape describes themselves as average/curvy.
I guess being middle of the road generally just doesn’t prompt discussion in the way being exceptionally tall, short, thin, BBW, well hung etc. does. |
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"Average woman is 5 foot 4 and 166 pounds
"I'm in the average range of weight FOR MY HEIGHT. "
On dating apps generally, and on here, “curvy”, “average” tend to be euphemisms for anything from overweight - extremely heavy.
I’d expect someone with your body type to describe themselves as slim or athletic.
Is it really that big a deal? The point I was making wasn't specifically about my body, it was about women in general who have no features which are typically singled out for praise. We only really fit into all inclusive threads which to me is a good kinda thread, we can all celebrate each other and our bodies. Being different is good. "
Really? It doesn't sound like you are calling for an all-inclusive thread to me. You have the type of body that most men find the most attractive. Yes some men only like big girls and some men will only like really slim girls. And of course many men are open to many body sizes but will still have their preferences. And that preference is overwhelmingly your body type. So just be glad of that. Whining on here that nobody starts threads for you and you have no features "typically singled out for praise" is not a good look. Your entire body shape is singled out for praise every day everywhere. Do you really need a thread to make you feel good about it? |
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Bottom line is lots of men# will say anything to get a shag. Some blokes think that it's easier to get shags off overweight women if they praise them in comparison to thin women.
Cynical but broadly true I think
# I say "men" because the supply and demand factors at play on here means women don't have to talk shit to get sex. |
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"Average woman is 5 foot 4 and 166 pounds
"I'm in the average range of weight FOR MY HEIGHT. "
On dating apps generally, and on here, “curvy”, “average” tend to be euphemisms for anything from overweight - extremely heavy.
I’d expect someone with your body type to describe themselves as slim or athletic.
Is it really that big a deal? The point I was making wasn't specifically about my body, it was about women in general who have no features which are typically singled out for praise. We only really fit into all inclusive threads which to me is a good kinda thread, we can all celebrate each other and our bodies. Being different is good.
Really? It doesn't sound like you are calling for an all-inclusive thread to me. You have the type of body that most men find the most attractive. Yes some men only like big girls and some men will only like really slim girls. And of course many men are open to many body sizes but will still have their preferences. And that preference is overwhelmingly your body type. So just be glad of that. Whining on here that nobody starts threads for you and you have no features "typically singled out for praise" is not a good look. Your entire body shape is singled out for praise every day everywhere. Do you really need a thread to make you feel good about it?"
I wasn't "whining" about anything. I don't think I've explained my point well and I don't know how to without you taking further offense, that's not my intention.
I agree that most guys are attracted to girls my build. But those who stand out from the norm are generally treated with adoration which is more intense and often leads to the point of the thread where groups are pitted as one against the other which shouldn't be the case, we are all women. |
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It's similar to racism, nobody really cares about being racist to white people cos socially we have had it a lot easier throughout history.
Same with skinny people, sure being super underweight is really unhealthy but there's not an anorexic crisis, hospitals don't deal with millions of skinny related diseases every year. |
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"Average woman is 5 foot 4 and 166 pounds
"I'm in the average range of weight FOR MY HEIGHT. "
On dating apps generally, and on here, “curvy”, “average” tend to be euphemisms for anything from overweight - extremely heavy.
I’d expect someone with your body type to describe themselves as slim or athletic.
Is it really that big a deal? The point I was making wasn't specifically about my body, it was about women in general who have no features which are typically singled out for praise. We only really fit into all inclusive threads which to me is a good kinda thread, we can all celebrate each other and our bodies. Being different is good.
Really? It doesn't sound like you are calling for an all-inclusive thread to me. You have the type of body that most men find the most attractive. Yes some men only like big girls and some men will only like really slim girls. And of course many men are open to many body sizes but will still have their preferences. And that preference is overwhelmingly your body type. So just be glad of that. Whining on here that nobody starts threads for you and you have no features "typically singled out for praise" is not a good look. Your entire body shape is singled out for praise every day everywhere. Do you really need a thread to make you feel good about it?
I wasn't "whining" about anything. I don't think I've explained my point well and I don't know how to without you taking further offense, that's not my intention.
I agree that most guys are attracted to girls my build. But those who stand out from the norm are generally treated with adoration which is more intense and often leads to the point of the thread where groups are pitted as one against the other which shouldn't be the case, we are all women."
Come on now you’ve landed a few whoppers of compliments.
You can pack up your fishing line now. |
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"Average woman is 5 foot 4 and 166 pounds
"I'm in the average range of weight FOR MY HEIGHT. "
On dating apps generally, and on here, “curvy”, “average” tend to be euphemisms for anything from overweight - extremely heavy.
I’d expect someone with your body type to describe themselves as slim or athletic.
Is it really that big a deal? The point I was making wasn't specifically about my body, it was about women in general who have no features which are typically singled out for praise. We only really fit into all inclusive threads which to me is a good kinda thread, we can all celebrate each other and our bodies. Being different is good.
Really? It doesn't sound like you are calling for an all-inclusive thread to me. You have the type of body that most men find the most attractive. Yes some men only like big girls and some men will only like really slim girls. And of course many men are open to many body sizes but will still have their preferences. And that preference is overwhelmingly your body type. So just be glad of that. Whining on here that nobody starts threads for you and you have no features "typically singled out for praise" is not a good look. Your entire body shape is singled out for praise every day everywhere. Do you really need a thread to make you feel good about it?
I wasn't "whining" about anything. I don't think I've explained my point well and I don't know how to without you taking further offense, that's not my intention.
I agree that most guys are attracted to girls my build. But those who stand out from the norm are generally treated with adoration which is more intense and often leads to the point of the thread where groups are pitted as one against the other which shouldn't be the case, we are all women.
Come on now you’ve landed a few whoppers of compliments.
You can pack up your fishing line now. "
Why can't I make a comment without it being fishing?!
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What slim women have to remember is they will be contacted first, and when they say no, us fat women then get contacted.
That should be enough of an ego boost already. |
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"What slim women have to remember is they will be contacted first, and when they say no, us fat women then get contacted.
That should be enough of an ego boost already. "
The thing is this place is full of people making assumptions. A lot of guys don't mail because they assume that the woman's inbox will be over flowing.
It shouldn't be a case of getting a boost at the detriment of others anyway. I thought fab and swinging as a whole would be a lot more inclusive and accepting of all body types. People are people at the end of the day. |
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"Average woman is 5 foot 4 and 166 pounds
"I'm in the average range of weight FOR MY HEIGHT. "
On dating apps generally, and on here, “curvy”, “average” tend to be euphemisms for anything from overweight - extremely heavy.
I’d expect someone with your body type to describe themselves as slim or athletic.
Is it really that big a deal? The point I was making wasn't specifically about my body, it was about women in general who have no features which are typically singled out for praise. We only really fit into all inclusive threads which to me is a good kinda thread, we can all celebrate each other and our bodies. Being different is good.
Really? It doesn't sound like you are calling for an all-inclusive thread to me. You have the type of body that most men find the most attractive. Yes some men only like big girls and some men will only like really slim girls. And of course many men are open to many body sizes but will still have their preferences. And that preference is overwhelmingly your body type. So just be glad of that. Whining on here that nobody starts threads for you and you have no features "typically singled out for praise" is not a good look. Your entire body shape is singled out for praise every day everywhere. Do you really need a thread to make you feel good about it?
I wasn't "whining" about anything. I don't think I've explained my point well and I don't know how to without you taking further offense, that's not my intention.
I agree that most guys are attracted to girls my build. But those who stand out from the norm are generally treated with adoration which is more intense and often leads to the point of the thread where groups are pitted as one against the other which shouldn't be the case, we are all women.
Come on now you’ve landed a few whoppers of compliments.
You can pack up your fishing line now. "
Bit harsh!
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"Because dweebs think if they run a thin body type down it will impress their target audience. "
I believe it's this unfortunately ... because of all the BBW supporters posts its become the norm on here to berate, not even thin ladies but anyone who's fit or a healthy size. I've felt this and so has my extremely fit friend on here ever since we've come onto the forums |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.
Did you just say that guys meet BBWs because they can't get slim women?? "
No that bit was added to my original post if you read the top comment in the thread. I'm not here to slag off overweight people as I am only just on a healthy BMI range myself. I however do think that size shaming thin women should be just as bad a crime as shaming bbws, who I think are equally beautiful. |
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"Because dweebs think if they run a thin body type down it will impress their target audience.
On the BBW threads it’s never long until some sycophant pops in and say “real women have meat on them*” or some other guff.
*Some do, of course, but petite women are no less “real”.
I've had people tell me they like fat women because they are real women. It's a ridiculous thing to say. "
I've seen that BBW have better personalities ... BBW have more fun ... BBW are funnier and lots more in the forums so how is this not shaming a person who is slimmer or fairly fit, who obviously has no fun is boring with no personality? How are we meant to feel? |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.why couldn't they meet slim woman that's practically the same as slim woman are better is it not ?"
And implying they ‘settle’ for other body types.
There is no need to be negative about any body type. Some just choose to but the way I look at it is that it tells me everything I need to know about that person. They simply wouldn’t be a person that I would be interested in. In other words ... it’s a filter |
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"What slim women have to remember is they will be contacted first, and when they say no, us fat women then get contacted.
That should be enough of an ego boost already.
The thing is this place is full of people making assumptions. A lot of guys don't mail because they assume that the woman's inbox will be over flowing.
It shouldn't be a case of getting a boost at the detriment of others anyway. I thought fab and swinging as a whole would be a lot more inclusive and accepting of all body types. People are people at the end of the day. "
Swingers are not all built from the same mould and are as discerning about body shape and size as anyone else. I'm neither slim, average or a BBW and I have no interest in having my ego boosted by anyone from here.
Slim/average/voluptuous/BBW women on the forums all receive positive comments on threads, when they join in on them. There was one running earlier by Oreo. |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.why couldn't they meet slim woman that's practically the same as slim woman are better is it not ?
And implying they ‘settle’ for other body types.
There is no need to be negative about any body type. Some just choose to but the way I look at it is that it tells me everything I need to know about that person. They simply wouldn’t be a person that I would be interested in. In other words ... it’s a filter "
We don't know what men think before they message but I'm hazarding a guess that some/most/a lot maybe stop at the hot body pics first and try their luck, then work their way down the hotness ladder.
Maybe I'm wearing my cynical head today. |
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Now I'm going to contradict myself (after a little think about some one of men I've met).
I have met quite a lot of men who have met slim, average and hot women, so maybe some just want a woman, regardless of size and shape.
Those might be the ones who don't refer to women as bags of bones or BBWs though. |
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"I wouldn't view someone stating that they wouldn't want to cuddle a stick as body shaming... Unless it was directed at a specific person. Its a preference (albeit a poorly worded one). No different than someone saying they won't meet shorter men, guys with beards, men/women the same age as their kids, taller women, people with tattoos/piercings, attached people, women with small boobs... There are hundreds of preferences people have in different combinations. It's how they express those preferences that may be offensive "
I respectfully disagree with your first sentence. In my opinion it is body shaming. It doesn't matter if it's about one particular slim woman or all slim women. |
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"Well it's predictable and quite sad, but not acceptable. Another thread has gone up re bbw. Within the first few messages comments re sticks, bones, more fun, real womem etc. All to gain favour with women who they think will meet them. Sad. Body shaming is never ok. Will it change? I doubt it."
I did read that thread, and it's rare im one of the people who likes to get offended on other people's behalf, but I had to speak out as I can't take the sniping about size groups anymore. Ffs if any thin people do feel like they are missing out on cuddles then I will happily volunteer, as I am not sizest where cuddles are concerned! |
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"Well it's predictable and quite sad, but not acceptable. Another thread has gone up re bbw. Within the first few messages comments re sticks, bones, more fun, real womem etc. All to gain favour with women who they think will meet them. Sad. Body shaming is never ok. Will it change? I doubt it.
I did read that thread, and it's rare im one of the people who likes to get offended on other people's behalf, but I had to speak out as I can't take the sniping about size groups anymore. Ffs if any thin people do feel like they are missing out on cuddles then I will happily volunteer, as I am not sizest where cuddles are concerned!"
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"Well it's predictable and quite sad, but not acceptable. Another thread has gone up re bbw. Within the first few messages comments re sticks, bones, more fun, real womem etc. All to gain favour with women who they think will meet them. Sad. Body shaming is never ok. Will it change? I doubt it.
I did read that thread, and it's rare im one of the people who likes to get offended on other people's behalf, but I had to speak out as I can't take the sniping about size groups anymore. Ffs if any thin people do feel like they are missing out on cuddles then I will happily volunteer, as I am not sizest where cuddles are concerned!
What time can you get here? "
I'll be walking so I'll say just in time for Christmas |
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"I guess it's like assuming all models are "thick". It's just a way to make us feel better about ourselves. "
And beautiful people are all ugly inside blah blah. |
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Yep! Ever noticed when a thread started by someone who is having a bad day about how fat they are, the white nights in an attempt to make them feel better, tell them that they are 'real women'. Then the negative comments about slim women commence. |
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"Well it's predictable and quite sad, but not acceptable. Another thread has gone up re bbw. Within the first few messages comments re sticks, bones, more fun, real womem etc. All to gain favour with women who they think will meet them. Sad. Body shaming is never ok. Will it change? I doubt it.
I did read that thread, and it's rare im one of the people who likes to get offended on other people's behalf, but I had to speak out as I can't take the sniping about size groups anymore. Ffs if any thin people do feel like they are missing out on cuddles then I will happily volunteer, as I am not sizest where cuddles are concerned!
What time can you get here?
I'll be walking so I'll say just in time for Christmas "
Great. Maybe you can come round to my mum’s and show her how to cook an Xmas turkey. She royally fucked it up last year  .
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I've always been told to get a good roast dinner inside me or eat more. Nout I can do because I've been this stable weight for ten years... imagine if I told a larger person to eat less roast dinners the amount of bs that'd be thrown at me.
OP I agree it's always dismissed. Much like reverse racism - it's reverse sizism. One rule for one! |
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"I guess it's like assuming all models are "thick". It's just a way to make us feel better about ourselves.
And beautiful people are all ugly inside blah blah."
Exactly that. Gym fit guys are all too concerned with body image to be able to hold onto a relationship, hot women don't swing because they don't need to, and couples swing because their relationships are in trouble. Standard stereotyping. |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.why couldn't they meet slim woman that's practically the same as slim woman are better is it not ?
And implying they ‘settle’ for other body types.
There is no need to be negative about any body type. Some just choose to but the way I look at it is that it tells me everything I need to know about that person. They simply wouldn’t be a person that I would be interested in. In other words ... it’s a filter
We don't know what men think before they message but I'm hazarding a guess that some/most/a lot maybe stop at the hot body pics first and try their luck, then work their way down the hotness ladder.
Maybe I'm wearing my cynical head today. "
cynical but true,age and maturity makes you reflect on lots of issues, making public jokes of any kind at someone else expense is not nice. Men have a massively over inflated opinion of their looks and pulling power whilst women often have unnecessary body image issues. However this site does address this imbalance in many ways which is good. |
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Sadly a LOT of people are just ignorant, it makes no odds what it's about, they will be rude/offensive if they see fit.
You can't educate these types of people.
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Years ago i was in a work situation, working abroad with a group of about a dozen guys. We would all take the piss out of each other constantly. About everything and anything. I noticed one day that the main subject had been numbers of sexual partners and the age we'd lost our virginities at. I was taking alot of heat during this lol! Anyway i noticed one guy was immune to all this behaviour, a bit of an odd ball of the group. Around ten years older than the rest of us and a bit of a loner. That evening i asked the main protagonist why he never picked on this guy. Especially as after all the time we'd known him he'd never had a girlfriend, or anything like that. His answer. "You don't take the piss out of real spastics".
Maybe that's what makes it ok to say mean things about slim women. |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.
Did you just say that guys meet BBWs because they can't get slim women??
No that bit was added to my original post if you read the top comment in the thread. I'm not here to slag off overweight people as I am only just on a healthy BMI range myself. I however do think that size shaming thin women should be just as bad a crime as shaming bbws, who I think are equally beautiful."
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Coincidentally, there's this thread in the swingers chat:-
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/822079#message_18056690
More than one case in point on this thread
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As a morbidly obese person (call it what it is) I don't consider being called names body shaming. Similarly i don't see 'bag of bones' as an insult. I know I'm in the minority on that but I think the whole thing is just too 'politicaly correct' much as I hate to say that. I guess I'm just fed up of the thought police, the inventing of hate crime and people taking offence too easily. |
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"As a morbidly obese person (call it what it is) I don't consider being called names body shaming. Similarly i don't see 'bag of bones' as an insult. I know I'm in the minority on that but I think the whole thing is just too 'politicaly correct' much as I hate to say that. I guess I'm just fed up of the thought police, the inventing of hate crime and people taking offence too easily."
What does offend you? |
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"I'd reckon its ok because thin people have the energy to reply. However, larger people would get puffed out attempting to type. So, we leave them alone."
Irony comes to mind. |
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"Coincidentally, there's this thread in the swingers chat:-
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/822079#message_18056690
More than one case in point on this thread
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Ah yes, the usual suspects.
Real women.
Stick insects.
Skinny Minnies. |
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So because I am classed as slim, I should not feel any offence by the derogatory remarks on here, because the rest of society find me socially acceptable?
What utter bullshit!
Stick insect? Bag of bones? only REAL women have curves? Only dogs like bones? And I should just take it on the chin because I look after myself and my figure and I'm going to far because it is just PC crap?
Yeah right!
If that is what you really think male or female, and yes I have also seen plenty of women reciting these remarks also, either you have some huge insecurities about yourself, or your just trying to project them on others to make yourself feel better, pretty sad in my eyes if either is the case |
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"So because I am classed as slim, I should not feel any offence by the derogatory remarks on here, because the rest of society find me socially acceptable?
What utter bullshit!
Stick insect? Bag of bones? only REAL women have curves? Only dogs like bones? And I should just take it on the chin because I look after myself and my figure and I'm going to far because it is just PC crap?
Yeah right!
If that is what you really think male or female, and yes I have also seen plenty of women reciting these remarks also, either you have some huge insecurities about yourself, or your just trying to project them on others to make yourself feel better, pretty sad in my eyes if either is the case "
I don't think anyone said that, I certainly didn't. I think the general consensus on this thread has been that it isn't acceptable to make these type of remarks about anyone, whatever their body size. And plenty of people pull up posters on this forum for making derogatory remarks about slim women, just the same as they do when people are mean about larger women.
I think the bit about the rest of society finding slim women socially acceptable maybe came when someone complained there are never threads 'praising' average women. Different topic really |
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"So because I am classed as slim, I should not feel any offence by the derogatory remarks on here, because the rest of society find me socially acceptable?
What utter bullshit!
Stick insect? Bag of bones? only REAL women have curves? Only dogs like bones? And I should just take it on the chin because I look after myself and my figure and I'm going to far because it is just PC crap?
Yeah right!
If that is what you really think male or female, and yes I have also seen plenty of women reciting these remarks also, either you have some huge insecurities about yourself, or your just trying to project them on others to make yourself feel better, pretty sad in my eyes if either is the case "
I wouldn't mind so much if this was a body type I worked to achieve
If I could gain weigh(especially boobs and ass) I would
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"So because I am classed as slim, I should not feel any offence by the derogatory remarks on here, because the rest of society find me socially acceptable?
What utter bullshit!
Stick insect? Bag of bones? only REAL women have curves? Only dogs like bones? And I should just take it on the chin because I look after myself and my figure and I'm going to far because it is just PC crap?
Yeah right!
If that is what you really think male or female, and yes I have also seen plenty of women reciting these remarks also, either you have some huge insecurities about yourself, or your just trying to project them on others to make yourself feel better, pretty sad in my eyes if either is the case
I don't think anyone said that, I certainly didn't. I think the general consensus on this thread has been that it isn't acceptable to make these type of remarks about anyone, whatever their body size. And plenty of people pull up posters on this forum for making derogatory remarks about slim women, just the same as they do when people are mean about larger women.
I think the bit about the rest of society finding slim women socially acceptable maybe came when someone complained there are never threads 'praising' average women. Different topic really "
Ok, I will admit I might have picked up on that incorrectly but that is how it came across to me and I have tried not to reply on this thread until further comments backed up PC, some I will say has gone mad and others just want to see offence, but others do hide behind it to make themselves feel better, in the guise of trying to belittle others in what ever their size, which I do not agree with in the slightest either |
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"So because I am classed as slim, I should not feel any offence by the derogatory remarks on here, because the rest of society find me socially acceptable?
What utter bullshit!
Stick insect? Bag of bones? only REAL women have curves? Only dogs like bones? And I should just take it on the chin because I look after myself and my figure and I'm going to far because it is just PC crap?
Yeah right!
If that is what you really think male or female, and yes I have also seen plenty of women reciting these remarks also, either you have some huge insecurities about yourself, or your just trying to project them on others to make yourself feel better, pretty sad in my eyes if either is the case
I wouldn't mind so much if this was a body type I worked to achieve
If I could gain weigh(especially boobs and ass) I would
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If I could lose weight, keep some on my boobs and bum and lose the stomach I would be very happy. Unfortunately, boobs go first. |
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"It’s never okay to be derogatory. Most comments of this ilk are soon called out here. Unfortunately they just keep rolling in.
Funny what people will stoop to to try and get their bits wet.
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And that is how I see it. If a man runs other women down to try to make me feel better about being fat, he's wasting his breath. |
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"It’s never okay to be derogatory. Most comments of this ilk are soon called out here. Unfortunately they just keep rolling in.
Funny what people will stoop to to try and get their bits wet.
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Tbh never noticed it picked up on in all the bigger/fuller lady appreciation threads where it is very common and totally unnecessary... I totally get preferences and never ever have had a problem with them but any body bashing is disrespectful and shouldn't be tolerated by anyone. I understand that mist of the time it's just to get a shag but why anyone would find a rude disrespectful person attractive I'll never get my head around |
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"It’s never okay to be derogatory. Most comments of this ilk are soon called out here. Unfortunately they just keep rolling in.
Funny what people will stoop to to try and get their bits wet.
Tbh never noticed it picked up on in all the bigger/fuller lady appreciation threads where it is very common and totally unnecessary... I totally get preferences and never ever have had a problem with them but any body bashing is disrespectful and shouldn't be tolerated by anyone. I understand that mist of the time it's just to get a shag but why anyone would find a rude disrespectful person attractive I'll never get my head around "
The Fab sisterhood definitely pick it up and fling it back. Rightly so.
I’m glad they show their true colours. Means we can all avoid them.
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"So because I am classed as slim, I should not feel any offence by the derogatory remarks on here, because the rest of society find me socially acceptable?
What utter bullshit!
Stick insect? Bag of bones? only REAL women have curves? Only dogs like bones? And I should just take it on the chin because I look after myself and my figure and I'm going to far because it is just PC crap?
Yeah right!
If that is what you really think male or female, and yes I have also seen plenty of women reciting these remarks also, either you have some huge insecurities about yourself, or your just trying to project them on others to make yourself feel better, pretty sad in my eyes if either is the case
I don't think anyone said that, I certainly didn't. I think the general consensus on this thread has been that it isn't acceptable to make these type of remarks about anyone, whatever their body size. And plenty of people pull up posters on this forum for making derogatory remarks about slim women, just the same as they do when people are mean about larger women.
I think the bit about the rest of society finding slim women socially acceptable maybe came when someone complained there are never threads 'praising' average women. Different topic really
Ok, I will admit I might have picked up on that incorrectly but that is how it came across to me and I have tried not to reply on this thread until further comments backed up PC, some I will say has gone mad and others just
want to see offence, but others do hide behind it to make themselves feel better, in the guise of trying to belittle others in what ever their size, which I do not agree with in the slightest either "
The whole point of the thread is to try and open people's eyes to the fact that it's just as bad to insult a woman or man of slender figure as it is someone who is bigger, so tbh I'm not too sure why you are upset. |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.why couldn't they meet slim woman that's practically the same as slim woman are better is it not ? I didn't mean all of them that's why I said it is usually. I just don't get the usually thing slim woman are no better or worse than woman of larger stature.
By saying they can't get a slimmer fem so try for a larger one means your placing one group better than the other imo "
Absolutely.
Which makes his comment no better than those who insult slim women in favour of big women.
Any kind of body shaming is wrong.
I hate those “stick thin, no meat in the bones” comments, there is no need to put down others in order to praise your preference. |
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I've never understood why some people feel that to compliment xyz body type, they have to be negative about another. It's okay to have preferences, it's okay to prefer your partner(s) to be little, tall, large, small, anything in between, but that doesn't mean that the opposite is a negative thing. |
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"Same reason why people think it’s ok to say horrible comments about enhanced breasts. Apparently you aren’t a real woman if you have breast implants. "
I hate those threads too.
There was one where the guy called women with enhanced breasts “repulsive” I was shocked. |
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"I've never understood why some people feel that to compliment xyz body type, they have to be negative about another. It's okay to have preferences, it's okay to prefer your partner(s) to be little, tall, large, small, anything in between, but that doesn't mean that the opposite is a negative thing. "
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All this nonsense about body shaming comes down to people turning this place into Facebook....
If more people logged on looking for sex... this wouldn’t be happening....
10 years ago this wasn’t happening.... people were having sex like rabbits and didn’t have time for drama.... |
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"Oh never assume that people on here aren't having sex, there's thousands of fab meets happening every week"
Touché
Let’s just say the amount of people not meeting and just here to socialize has gone up...
The term I believe is arm chair swingers....
It’s akin to stop drinking but still going to the pub to drink soda...The owner of the pub won’t throw you out but he/she is not happy that you’re not spending money.. |
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Not spending money?? Soft drinks in pubs are fecking expensive, and given that drink drive limits are getting less and less pubs would struggle even more without the pepsi drinkers down there, spending money on food and nuts. |
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"Not spending money?? Soft drinks in pubs are fecking expensive, and given that drink drive limits are getting less and less pubs would struggle even more without the pepsi drinkers down there, spending money on food and nuts."
Ok I’ll bite.......
Here is the evolution , I have personally witnessed....
I’m on dating sites and sex sites....
When I meet someone from a dating site.. I’m a complete gentleman and expect to go on a date... this includes dinner/drinks and may end up with sex.... So I’m looking for more of a intellectual connection that can hopefully lead to a long term relationship....
When I meet someone from a sex, swinging, fetish site...I’m looking to fulfill a sexual fantasy only and if a friendship develops.. if not I have a great story to tell one day....
Now I realize people have free will to do as they please....because it’s their lives.
But I like to use things the way they were designed for.....
So yes you can use Fab however you choose...
But on the same token I could wear a tuxedo to my next doctors appointment.... It’s clothes right?
It’s a car right?
Again
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"I'd reckon its ok because thin people have the energy to reply. However, larger people would get puffed out attempting to type. So, we leave them alone."
Rude  |
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"I've never understood why some people feel that to compliment xyz body type, they have to be negative about another. It's okay to have preferences, it's okay to prefer your partner(s) to be little, tall, large, small, anything in between, but that doesn't mean that the opposite is a negative thing. "
Very very true! A brilliant statement |
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"I'd reckon its ok because thin people have the energy to reply. However, larger people would get puffed out attempting to type. So, we leave them alone."
You sir have clearly never engaged on a bbw thread where someone makes a derogatory remark about fat women, have you?! |
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The only way we can can the world around us is exactly how my friend puts it ... next time you see a body shaming comment of any description, don't be rude back but just draw attention to the rudeness so everyone else notices ... acknowledge within yourself that the person saying probably has issues themselves but being rude is not the answer!! |
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"Heaven forbid a guy makes a comment about a lady who is carrying extra weight, he is roasted in flames, yet it seems it's perfectly ok to call womenof a healthy weight things like stick insects. For the record I don't think bad comments on anyone's weight should be put up with. It is usually guy's that couldn't meet slim women anyway. As has been said they use it to try appeal to BBW's.why couldn't they meet slim woman that's practically the same as slim woman are better is it not ? I didn't mean all of them that's why I said it is usually. "
Oh that makes your comment so much better.....not! |
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"Not spending money?? Soft drinks in pubs are fecking expensive, and given that drink drive limits are getting less and less pubs would struggle even more without the pepsi drinkers down there, spending money on food and nuts.
Ok I’ll bite.......
Here is the evolution , I have personally witnessed....
I’m on dating sites and sex sites....
When I meet someone from a dating site.. I’m a complete gentleman and expect to go on a date... this includes dinner/drinks and may end up with sex.... So I’m looking for more of a intellectual connection that can hopefully lead to a long term relationship....
When I meet someone from a sex, swinging, fetish site...I’m looking to fulfill a sexual fantasy only and if a friendship develops.. if not I have a great story to tell one day....
Now I realize people have free will to do as they please....because it’s their lives.
But I like to use things the way they were designed for.....
So yes you can use Fab however you choose...
But on the same token I could wear a tuxedo to my next doctors appointment.... It’s clothes right?
It’s a car right?
Again
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lovely statement there, but this thread isn't about you is it
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"I'd reckon its ok because thin people have the energy to reply. However, larger people would get puffed out attempting to type. So, we leave them alone."
Why is there a need to make a comment like that? You’re being very rude. |
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"Not spending money?? Soft drinks in pubs are fecking expensive, and given that drink drive limits are getting less and less pubs would struggle even more without the pepsi drinkers down there, spending money on food and nuts.
Ok I’ll bite.......
Here is the evolution , I have personally witnessed....
I’m on dating sites and sex sites....
When I meet someone from a dating site.. I’m a complete gentleman and expect to go on a date... this includes dinner/drinks and may end up with sex.... So I’m looking for more of a intellectual connection that can hopefully lead to a long term relationship....
When I meet someone from a sex, swinging, fetish site...I’m looking to fulfill a sexual fantasy only and if a friendship develops.. if not I have a great story to tell one day....
Now I realize people have free will to do as they please....because it’s their lives.
But I like to use things the way they were designed for.....
So yes you can use Fab however you choose...
But on the same token I could wear a tuxedo to my next doctors appointment.... It’s clothes right?
It’s a car right?
Again
lovely statement there, but this thread isn't about you is it
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i have been little [size 6]all my adult life when i was younger had all the skinny jokes ect.dont get any now. and any of our fab girls on here are good in their own skin .and any dick head guys givin negative comments are just a bit imature for an adult swinging site . |
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"i have been little [size 6]all my adult life when i was younger had all the skinny jokes ect.dont get any now. and any of our fab girls on here are good in their own skin .and any dick head guys givin negative comments are just a bit imature for an adult swinging site ."
I'm 5ft7 and size 8 not thin just fit and the only negative in my life has been on here! Appalling from so called adults |
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This reminds me of tall n short
. Its ok for a shorter person to ask a tall person to get something off top shelf but not for a tall person to ask a shorter person to get something off bottom shelf  |
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"Being "average" is a bit hard to fit in around here. There are rarely threads for anyone just in the middle. "
As an "average" man i did consider putting myself as "fabulous" but frankly the amount of people who presume Chief is the male in our relationship astounds me anyway. They seem to think she is 5ft 11 and straight whilst I'm 5ft 7 and bi
Anyway to the topic, chief despite being curvy was shamed in a club(thankfully she didn't hear it) by a bbw lady who when she walked in said "well i felt great until she came in"
I had a quiet word but she alas couldn't grasp the issue. |
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"All this nonsense about body shaming comes down to people turning this place into Facebook....
If more people logged on looking for sex... this wouldn’t be happening....
10 years ago this wasn’t happening.... people were having sex like rabbits and didn’t have time for drama...."
Actually 10 years ago this was happening, the forums for me haven’t changed much at all, just the people have come and gone. |
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