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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you want to start your relationship in an honest fashion, I would suggest you tell her. Either that or delete your profile. If you continue to hunt for meets behind her back, when you are starting a new adventure with someone, you are clearly not going to last. A relationship built on deception, is usually doomed to failure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you want to start your relationship in an honest fashion, I would suggest you tell her. Either that or delete your profile. If you continue to hunt for meets behind her back, when you are starting a new adventure with someone, you are clearly not going to last. A relationship built on deception, is usually doomed to failure. "
Couldn't have put it better myself |
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"How do I or do I tell my new gf about me being on here and what I'm into"
I’d mention swinging to her casually and see if she’s up for it. If so, happy days.
I’d not, you have the following options (in no particular order):
- end things with her;
- make an honest go of it with her and delete your profile on here;
- continue on here without telling her.
It all depends on your moral views, and whether your are happy to be dishonest.
You are the only person who can answer this particular riddle. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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If I was you. I would get off the site either hide or delete profile.
Don't rush it. Sometimes the fantasy is very different than the reality and a lot of people can't cope.
I lost a great relationship doing what you have as it drove him a bit nuts.
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"If I was you. I would get off the site either hide or delete profile.
Don't rush it. Sometimes the fantasy is very different than the reality and a lot of people can't cope.
I lost a great relationship doing what you have as it drove him a bit nuts.
All the best "
But surely he should mention it to her first to test the waters and then make a decision on what to do next.
Let’s not moralise or project our own past experiences on his situation. There’s enough female profiles on here saying “hubby doesn’t know” etc.
Also plenty of females on here who claim to be single, are aged in their 30s/40s, but mysteriously can’t accommodate...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I was you. I would get off the site either hide or delete profile.
Don't rush it. Sometimes the fantasy is very different than the reality and a lot of people can't cope.
I lost a great relationship doing what you have as it drove him a bit nuts.
All the best
But surely he should mention it to her first to test the waters and then make a decision on what to do next.
Let’s not moralise or project our own past experiences on his situation. There’s enough female profiles on here saying “hubby doesn’t know” etc.
Also plenty of females on here who claim to be single, are aged in their 30s/40s, but mysteriously can’t accommodate... "
It's called having children in some cases. |
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"If I was you. I would get off the site either hide or delete profile.
Don't rush it. Sometimes the fantasy is very different than the reality and a lot of people can't cope.
I lost a great relationship doing what you have as it drove him a bit nuts.
All the best
But surely he should mention it to her first to test the waters and then make a decision on what to do next.
Let’s not moralise or project our own past experiences on his situation. There’s enough female profiles on here saying “hubby doesn’t know” etc.
Also plenty of females on here who claim to be single, are aged in their 30s/40s, but mysteriously can’t accommodate...
It's called having children in some cases. "
In some cases, yes.
But that may also be the case for single men, yet we are usually told that a single man who cannot accommodate is kryptonite on here... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I was you. I would get off the site either hide or delete profile.
Don't rush it. Sometimes the fantasy is very different than the reality and a lot of people can't cope.
I lost a great relationship doing what you have as it drove him a bit nuts.
All the best
But surely he should mention it to her first to test the waters and then make a decision on what to do next.
Let’s not moralise or project our own past experiences on his situation. There’s enough female profiles on here saying “hubby doesn’t know” etc.
Also plenty of females on here who claim to be single, are aged in their 30s/40s, but mysteriously can’t accommodate...
It's called having children in some cases.
In some cases, yes.
But that may also be the case for single men, yet we are usually told that a single man who cannot accommodate is kryptonite on here... "
Not everyone thinks that way. I know of a few single men who share custody of of their children, so don't accommodate. Just because some think like that, doesn't mean you have to mimic that mindset for the other side. If you don't like that some women judge, Surely you would just keep an open mind and not pre judge so as not to be like them? |
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"If I was you. I would get off the site either hide or delete profile.
Don't rush it. Sometimes the fantasy is very different than the reality and a lot of people can't cope.
I lost a great relationship doing what you have as it drove him a bit nuts.
All the best
But surely he should mention it to her first to test the waters and then make a decision on what to do next.
Let’s not moralise or project our own past experiences on his situation. There’s enough female profiles on here saying “hubby doesn’t know” etc.
Also plenty of females on here who claim to be single, are aged in their 30s/40s, but mysteriously can’t accommodate...
It's called having children in some cases.
In some cases, yes.
But that may also be the case for single men, yet we are usually told that a single man who cannot accommodate is kryptonite on here...
Not everyone thinks that way. I know of a few single men who share custody of of their children, so don't accommodate. Just because some think like that, doesn't mean you have to mimic that mindset for the other side. If you don't like that some women judge, Surely you would just keep an open mind and not pre judge so as not to be like them? "
That’s my point!
I’ve seen enough “profile feedback” messages from new single men where the women who respond dismiss them out of hand if they say they can’t accommodate - nobody ever questions why that might be the case!
As always on here, single men are hauled over the coals and accused of cheating when they might not be! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I was you. I would get off the site either hide or delete profile.
Don't rush it. Sometimes the fantasy is very different than the reality and a lot of people can't cope.
I lost a great relationship doing what you have as it drove him a bit nuts.
All the best
But surely he should mention it to her first to test the waters and then make a decision on what to do next.
Let’s not moralise or project our own past experiences on his situation. There’s enough female profiles on here saying “hubby doesn’t know” etc.
Also plenty of females on here who claim to be single, are aged in their 30s/40s, but mysteriously can’t accommodate...
It's called having children in some cases.
In some cases, yes.
But that may also be the case for single men, yet we are usually told that a single man who cannot accommodate is kryptonite on here...
Not everyone thinks that way. I know of a few single men who share custody of of their children, so don't accommodate. Just because some think like that, doesn't mean you have to mimic that mindset for the other side. If you don't like that some women judge, Surely you would just keep an open mind and not pre judge so as not to be like them?
That’s my point!
I’ve seen enough “profile feedback” messages from new single men where the women who respond dismiss them out of hand if they say they can’t accommodate - nobody ever questions why that might be the case!
As always on here, single men are hauled over the coals and accused of cheating when they might not be! "
It is one of the red flags. I never assume though. I do ask first, because it could be they also house share or just don't want peoe knowing where they live, for safety reasons. I think it's more that not as many men (I'm not saying that is all men mind) on here care if a woman is cheating, so have no interest in why they can't accommodate. It's not fair, but it's how it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, you present yourself as a straight guy on fab who wants to meet couples and women, but your 3 verifications you display are from men.... One thing to tell your GF is having extra fun outside relationship and another one about your sexuality. Good luck with sharing the news. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, you present yourself as a straight guy on fab who wants to meet couples and women, but your 3 verifications you display are from men.... One thing to tell your GF is having extra fun outside relationship and another one about your sexuality. Good luck with sharing the news."
It doesn’t matter.... on Fab he is still straight as a arrow.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, you present yourself as a straight guy on fab who wants to meet couples and women, but your 3 verifications you display are from men.... One thing to tell your GF is having extra fun outside relationship and another one about your sexuality. Good luck with sharing the news.
It doesn’t matter.... on Fab he is still straight as a arrow.."
And if you click on green arrow you discover a lot more about OP... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, you present yourself as a straight guy on fab who wants to meet couples and women, but your 3 verifications you display are from men.... One thing to tell your GF is having extra fun outside relationship and another one about your sexuality. Good luck with sharing the news.
It doesn’t matter.... on Fab he is still straight as a arrow..
And if you click on green arrow you discover a lot more about OP..."
Hmmm I’ll just say..... on Fab he is still straight... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, you present yourself as a straight guy on fab who wants to meet couples and women, but your 3 verifications you display are from men.... One thing to tell your GF is having extra fun outside relationship and another one about your sexuality. Good luck with sharing the news.
It doesn’t matter.... on Fab he is still straight as a arrow..
And if you click on green arrow you discover a lot more about OP...
Hmmm I’ll just say..... on Fab he is still straight..."
As I said - good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do I or do I tell my new gf about me being on here and what I'm into"
is your new girlfriend aware you're bi, that would be a good start and to be fair asking us isn't going to help you if you like her dump this life
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, you present yourself as a straight guy on fab who wants to meet couples and women, but your 3 verifications you display are from men.... One thing to tell your GF is having extra fun outside relationship and another one about your sexuality. Good luck with sharing the news.
It doesn’t matter.... on Fab he is still straight as a arrow..
And if you click on green arrow you discover a lot more about OP...
Hmmm I’ll just say..... on Fab he is still straight...
As I said - good luck "
Back to his original post.... I wouldn’t disclose anything until we are in a true monogamous relationship.....
This is when you both get checked for std’s/sti’s and stop using protection... then you owe it to her to be honest about your proclivities.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Be honest if you want your relationship to work. Too many people think it’s normal to lie.
Or delete your profile. It’s not a big deal. You can always come back on here if you split up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I was you. I would get off the site either hide or delete profile.
Don't rush it. Sometimes the fantasy is very different than the reality and a lot of people can't cope.
I lost a great relationship doing what you have as it drove him a bit nuts.
All the best
But surely he should mention it to her first to test the waters and then make a decision on what to do next.
Let’s not moralise or project our own past experiences on his situation. There’s enough female profiles on here saying “hubby doesn’t know” etc.
Also plenty of females on here who claim to be single, are aged in their 30s/40s, but mysteriously can’t accommodate... "
Am in my 40's and cant accommodate but it is nothing to do with being in a relationship, no mystery either i tell anyone who asks, so maybe not judge all books by the cover, he should be honest about what he likes and if she does then win win if she doesn't then he needs to make up his own mind is she worth giving that part of sex up for but honesty is best |
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"If you want to start your relationship in an honest fashion, I would suggest you tell her. Either that or delete your profile. If you continue to hunt for meets behind her back, when you are starting a new adventure with someone, you are clearly not going to last. A relationship built on deception, is usually doomed to failure. "
Staying active on here is just the road to failure for a new relationship. |
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"If you want to start your relationship in an honest fashion, I would suggest you tell her. Either that or delete your profile. If you continue to hunt for meets behind her back, when you are starting a new adventure with someone, you are clearly not going to last. A relationship built on deception, is usually doomed to failure. "
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"Be honest if you want your relationship to work. Too many people think it’s normal to lie.
Or delete your profile. It’s not a big deal. You can always come back on here if you split up."
I agree with your second sentence. Too many people *do* think its normal to lie when they first start dating someone, in case it puts them off or dooms the relationship. Its as if finding out the real nature of a person six months down the line is going to be better  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does she know you're not straight? I'd get that out of the way to
If a profile says straight then someone is 100% straight that's the fab law  "
You are right, silly me  |
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By *lsieWoman
over a year ago
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"If you want to start your relationship in an honest fashion, I would suggest you tell her. Either that or delete your profile. If you continue to hunt for meets behind her back, when you are starting a new adventure with someone, you are clearly not going to last. A relationship built on deception, is usually doomed to failure. "
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