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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

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By *isaB45Woman  over a year ago

Fabville

Good luck, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Does this mean you’re leaving the Moose Knuckle Crew OP and if you are,will it carry on without you ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I hope you find what you're looking for in the real world op

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Does this mean you’re leaving the Moose Knuckle Crew OP and if you

are,will it carry on without you ? "

Well you’re second in command so you’ll have to carry it on.

Remember we don’t stand for pack mentality bullying, that’s our main principle.

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By *he Mac LassWoman  over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ll miss reading you Ms Wilkes. You unknowingly make me bellylaugh. I think you’re awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I can empathise OP. I often feel the same way, if there was FabCuddlers or FabKissers I think I’d be mainly happy. I’m not a rampant sex person so can understand exactly where you’re coming from.

I think a conventional dating site might be a good option to try if this one isn’t working. We will miss you if you go, but do what’s right for you!

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By *eliWoman  over a year ago

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When are you next seeing gym guy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

It will be bittersweet to leave purely because I’ve been here so long and I do actually like the people on here. Even if I just stayed for the forums and hid my profile it’s basically what I do anyway. It makes you comfy and not pro active.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"When are you next seeing gym guy? "

See him every week in work but Xmas do is next month.

Definitely think real world or at least a dating site is the way to go.

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By *imiUKMan  over a year ago

Hereford


"It will be bittersweet to leave purely because I’ve been here so long and I do actually like the people on here. Even if I just stayed for the forums and hid my profile it’s basically what I do anyway. It makes you comfy and not pro active. "

I stay because I like the people.

I'm not a swinger, and this site helped me discover that and put me off swinging in general (I had fantasised about it in the past).

I'll hide my profile if I'm dating and would certainly leave if I started to date someone seriously.

I still go to socials and stuff though and I have really enjoyed them.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I’m not a swinger either and I don’t want to shag loads of guys and I ask myself wtf I’m doing here every day but I’m still here. It can be what you want it to be. Just hide your profile maybe for a while. I’ll miss ya if you go though. You’ve made me laugh many a time!

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman  over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

If you wanna use dating sites you do have to leave fab for some time because everyone on fab is on dating sites so they think you're on dating sites looking for a fuck.

That's how i felt and it worked for me o not be on here any more as a single fem.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman  over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You have to do what feels right. I hope all goes well with Mr Gym for you and wish you the very best of luck. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Good luck x

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan  over a year ago

Northampton

I also wish you luck and hope you find what you're looking for

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Good luck to you but I think you will find conventional dating sites are no different. Try the real world.

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. "

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

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By *loswingersCouple  over a year ago

Gloucester

I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve said that you’re on the wrong type of site op !

We’ve been on here the same amount of time as you have , and unlike you , we’ve had over a thousand meets , probably more . You could say we are the polar opposite to you .

But , you know we’ve always had a lot of time for you . Despite the fact that we are from opposite ends of the spectrum . Having said that we haven’t looked to meet for six months now !

Whatever you do , take care , and we will miss you if you go .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

"

Crap. A waste of who’s time. Yours? It’s not a waste of my time. Not everyone wants to fuck anything that moves or wants to meet lots of different people. Plenty of people on here want to just have one or two FWBs. I’ve heard some are looking for a relationship and some have found one! Why do people feel the need to tell people what they should and shouldn’t be doing on here?

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By *andybeachWoman  over a year ago

In the middle


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

"

She covers that in her third paragraph

I hope you find what you are looking for x

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By *imiUKMan  over a year ago

Hereford


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

"

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Can I perve all your pics before you go

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By *rightonsteveMan  over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve lost track of all your names over the years but I think Annie Wilkes was a good one to put men off. I’ll miss you if you leave.

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By *andonmessMan  over a year ago

A world all of his own

Totally understand your standpoint OP. Hope you manage to get everything you're looking for off of the site

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By *irginieWoman  over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

"

Don’t be ridiculous. People can and do use this site (other sites may be available) for many reasons. Loves have been lost and found, sex has been with or without strings, ropes and/or nipple clamps. Relationships of all sorts have been forged.

You don’t get to make the rules. Everyone of us has a reason for being here and must do what feels good for us.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Would you like to hand over the baton relating to men’s bum threads?

Miss you if you go xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

OP message me please....

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive. "

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green

The OP had even stated “I don’t want to swing”.

Remind me what this website is called again?

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By *irginieWoman  over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

"

It might be a great place to find a non sexually monogamous relationship though.

V x

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By *imiUKMan  over a year ago

Hereford


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

"

No, I'm not on here for a monogamous relationship, neither is the OP.

However, plenty of people have found relationships on here.

My point was that all it takes to find out why someone you are interested in is some basic social skills. If it is too much effort for you to employ basic conversation, that's your problem, nobody else's.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I wish you good luck OP x

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman  over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"The OP had even stated “I don’t want to swing”.

Remind me what this website is called again? "

I've never been interested in swinging, bringing another woman into sex is a turn off for me. I found what i wanted on here while single. Am on here as a couple coz i know i will find what i want to, i even go to swinging clubs to not swing.

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

"

you are not in the loop a lot of single women use this site because they can attract men that wouldn't want to have a relationship with them just NSA. They think they can lure them into a relationship though.

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By *loswingersCouple  over a year ago

Gloucester


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

No, I'm not on here for a monogamous relationship, neither is the OP.

However, plenty of people have found relationships on here.

My point was that all it takes to find out why someone you are interested in is some basic social skills. If it is too much effort for you to employ basic conversation, that's your problem, nobody else's."

I’m pretty sure the op is looking for a monogamous relationship to be fair .....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

"

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

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By *wisted999Man  over a year ago

North Bucks

Shame to see you go. We will always have The Year of TDF though. That was a crazy time.

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green

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By *ady LickWoman  over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Will you tell us who the 10 (or was it 6?) are before you go?

I think you'll be missed if you leave, your posts are funny even when they're supposed to be serious!

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

No, I'm not on here for a monogamous relationship, neither is the OP.

However, plenty of people have found relationships on here.

My point was that all it takes to find out why someone you are interested in is some basic social skills. If it is too much effort for you to employ basic conversation, that's your problem, nobody else's."

But the op is complaining that she doesn’t want to swing, and yet is on a website calling itself “Fab swingers”.

I’m not sure I can make the point any more clearly than that. If she no longer wishes to be a part of that scene, why not simply leave without the fanfair of a thread telling us she is l leaving?!

I’m also unsure why you’re swearing at me and attacking me personally....

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

you are not in the loop a lot of single women use this site because they can attract men that wouldn't want to have a relationship with them just NSA. They think they can lure them into a relationship though."

I’m rapidly realising the truth of what you’ve said.

Welcome to the matrix, I guess!

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?"

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"The OP had even stated “I don’t want to swing”.

Remind me what this website is called again? "

One here put it best in my opinion, we are all here for our own reasons. I for one aren’t on here looking to screw just ‘anyone’ with a pulse. I’m sure there are those on here that are though. I actually understand where the OP is coming from in her post and wish her nothing but the best of luck in whatever direction life takes her.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think . "

Ranty man is back I see.

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

you are not in the loop a lot of single women use this site because they can attract men that wouldn't want to have a relationship with them just NSA. They think they can lure them into a relationship though.

I’m rapidly realising the truth of what you’ve said.

Welcome to the matrix, I guess! "

you're now in the loop couples are probably for NSA.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?"

I remember that thread: the number of SM who had no intention of swinging was high. But who cares! People come and go; swing, stop, do 1:1 meets etc... Read the profile, if it meets your needs then message; otherwise move on.

Good luck OP; hope you find what you’re looking for

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think . "

Who has no business being on here? Why don’t you just get on with what you’re looking for and everyone else can do the same. I really don’t see your issue. How is it affecting you what everyone else is doing here?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Annie, I wish you lots of luck, good luck, not bad luck. And lots of nocturnal love.

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By *hamboy69Man  over a year ago

huddersfield


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

"

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think . "

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Ranty man is back I see."

Trust me. If I was ranting, your windows would be shaking, you wouldn’t need the website to hear me.

I’m less “ranty man” than “man new to fab, who isn’t doing terribly on here to be fair, but who doesn’t get the bias against single men and the evident confusion of some members as to what they are looking for”. .

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By *hamboy69Man  over a year ago

huddersfield


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

"

Exactly the above if that what was a single guy posting the same he’d be deluged with ‘look at me’ accusations. Only saying

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman  over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


" you are not in the loop a lot of single women use this site because they can attract men that wouldn't want to have a relationship with them just NSA. They think they can lure them into a relationship though."

I don't think it's that exactly. A lot of women aren't suited for relationships, for whatever reasons. I'd say many of us (and men too) come here as singles coz we have high sex drives and just want NSA sex.

And tbh it's ideal if you're independent to just have NSA sex and do your own thing within your life outside of sex. But people get feelings sometimes, i've had a few guys want relationships...some so they can swing and fuck other women without the hassle of being a single male, but a couple genuinely wanted a monogamous relationship and i felt the same way about them. Wasn't looking for love with them. But that's how all my relationships started, we had sex and eventually wanted more than that.

People get feelings sometimes that they didn't expect. I'd say most single people looking for NSA aren't really up for a relationship at all, probably been really hurt before and don't see relationships as viable or beneficial. This was me until i found my partner. Not even know how i ended up in a relationship with him lol but it happened.

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By *agneto.Man  over a year ago

Bham


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

"

Wait. Aren't you complaining that this site isn't a good place to find a monogamous relationship because it's a 'swinging' site but then also complaining that there are too many people that are looking for a monogamous relationship on here?

If that's the case, it might be a great place to look for one.

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway! "

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

Wait. Aren't you complaining that this site isn't a good place to find a monogamous relationship because it's a 'swinging' site but then also complaining that there are too many people that are looking for a monogamous relationship on here?

If that's the case, it might be a great place to look for one.

Touché..

"

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By *goutimouseWoman  over a year ago

kenley


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

No, I'm not on here for a monogamous relationship, neither is the OP.

However, plenty of people have found relationships on here.

My point was that all it takes to find out why someone you are interested in is some basic social skills. If it is too much effort for you to employ basic conversation, that's your problem, nobody else's.

But the op is complaining that she doesn’t want to swing, and yet is on a website calling itself “Fab swingers”.

I’m not sure I can make the point any more clearly than that. If she no longer wishes to be a part of that scene, why not simply leave without the fanfair of a thread telling us she is l leaving?!

I’m also unsure why you’re swearing at me and attacking me personally.... "

Why does it bother you that the OP has posted her intent to leave? You didn’t have to reply. The forum is full of all sorts of posts, plenty that I find dull or pointless or bat shit but I leave things be because why be unkind?

The only good to come out of the bitchy comments you leave all over the forum is that they serve as a warning to women to give you a wide berth.

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

Wait. Aren't you complaining that this site isn't a good place to find a monogamous relationship because it's a 'swinging' site but then also complaining that there are too many people that are looking for a monogamous relationship on here?

If that's the case, it might be a great place to look for one.

"

I imagine it’s mostly the female profiles looking for that.

I can’t speak for the male profiles, since I haven’t met any of the men behind them, but the enormous number of posts cricisiting single men for “only wanting one thing” etc. rather prove my point!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?! "

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" you are not in the loop a lot of single women use this site because they can attract men that wouldn't want to have a relationship with them just NSA. They think they can lure them into a relationship though.

I don't think it's that exactly. A lot of women aren't suited for relationships, for whatever reasons. I'd say many of us (and men too) come here as singles coz we have high sex drives and just want NSA sex.

And tbh it's ideal if you're independent to just have NSA sex and do your own thing within your life outside of sex. But people get feelings sometimes, i've had a few guys want relationships...some so they can swing and fuck other women without the hassle of being a single male, but a couple genuinely wanted a monogamous relationship and i felt the same way about them. Wasn't looking for love with them. But that's how all my relationships started, we had sex and eventually wanted more than that.

People get feelings sometimes that they didn't expect. I'd say most single people looking for NSA aren't really up for a relationship at all, probably been really hurt before and don't see relationships as viable or beneficial. This was me until i found my partner. Not even know how i ended up in a relationship with him lol but it happened."

I'm a strong believer in love at first site and fate. You meet someone and you just know... there's chemistry. Before I met my ex I was planning on travelling. Actually a month after our first date I was gone.... She asked me about my plans and I told her I don't don't want kids, I don't want a relationship, not settling down. Ended up being with her over 5 years. Someone can come into your life and completely alter it. You can't get much bigger than my experience. Won't make that mistake again though. Although it was an amazing 5 years that I will cherish.. It's just not my thing to settle.

I do miss the closeness with someone. It's not just about sex! as the OP said she just wants a cwtch, some closeness. Don't have to want to be or be in a relationship to want the feeling of being 'loved'. Although it may not be the love that changes lives, why can't 2 people just feel love without the love.... now that makes sense in my head lol...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

So many sweeping statements and judgement on here. It’s turned rather unpleasant.

OP seems to have arrived at a conclusion and is ready to start a new stage in her life. Instead of making it about yourself, or moaning about the site not meeting your needs; wish her luck or zip it. Namaste

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live. "

You’ve missed the point.

I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me?

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman  over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


" you are not in the loop a lot of single women use this site because they can attract men that wouldn't want to have a relationship with them just NSA. They think they can lure them into a relationship though.

I don't think it's that exactly. A lot of women aren't suited for relationships, for whatever reasons. I'd say many of us (and men too) come here as singles coz we have high sex drives and just want NSA sex.

And tbh it's ideal if you're independent to just have NSA sex and do your own thing within your life outside of sex. But people get feelings sometimes, i've had a few guys want relationships...some so they can swing and fuck other women without the hassle of being a single male, but a couple genuinely wanted a monogamous relationship and i felt the same way about them. Wasn't looking for love with them. But that's how all my relationships started, we had sex and eventually wanted more than that.

People get feelings sometimes that they didn't expect. I'd say most single people looking for NSA aren't really up for a relationship at all, probably been really hurt before and don't see relationships as viable or beneficial. This was me until i found my partner. Not even know how i ended up in a relationship with him lol but it happened.

I'm a strong believer in love at first site and fate. You meet someone and you just know... there's chemistry. Before I met my ex I was planning on travelling. Actually a month after our first date I was gone.... She asked me about my plans and I told her I don't don't want kids, I don't want a relationship, not settling down. Ended up being with her over 5 years. Someone can come into your life and completely alter it. You can't get much bigger than my experience. Won't make that mistake again though. Although it was an amazing 5 years that I will cherish.. It's just not my thing to settle.

I do miss the closeness with someone. It's not just about sex! as the OP said she just wants a cwtch, some closeness. Don't have to want to be or be in a relationship to want the feeling of being 'loved'. Although it may not be the love that changes lives, why can't 2 people just feel love without the love.... now that makes sense in my head lol..."

I know what you mean, why can't people just love and care for others without being in love with them? It is strange that we have to be in a relationship or related to people to love them. Well most people are like that. I get that people are reciprocal but they also have to be tied to someone to make it work.

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By *hamboy69Man  over a year ago

huddersfield


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

Wait. Aren't you complaining that this site isn't a good place to find a monogamous relationship because it's a 'swinging' site but then also complaining that there are too many people that are looking for a monogamous relationship on here?

If that's the case, it might be a great place to look for one.

I imagine it’s mostly the female profiles looking for that.

I can’t speak for the male profiles, since I haven’t met any of the men behind them, but the enormous number of posts cricisiting single men for “only wanting one thing” etc. rather prove my point! "

Exactly this I while I sympathise with the Op s predicament the above had a point and it’s nice to see a fellow fabber standing up for the single men on here

If I was to the post the same I’d just be an attention seeker

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm just going to avoid the ranty direction this has taken.

Annie you have made me smile and laugh often so I wish you good luck in whatever you decide to do.

We only get this one life, regrets don't keep us warm when we get old, and no one should ever forget to chase their dream....whatever it may be.

Be happy be lucky and I hope you find what your looking for.

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?! "

I'm not a swinger at all, and I very rarely sleep with someone new - I found good long-term fwb relationships on here, and far more men wanting to wine me and dine me than GS or POF.

If you only want to shag around I recommend POF, I know guys who do very well on there.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So many sweeping statements and judgement on here. It’s turned rather unpleasant.

OP seems to have arrived at a conclusion and is ready to start a new stage in her life. Instead of making it about yourself, or moaning about the site not meeting your needs; wish her luck or zip it. Namaste "

Hense why I've deleted so many accounts. Too much judging on here. People are to quick to pounce on someone who is feeling a bit down on themselves. This isn't an easy site for the self conscious people out there. I think people need a big reality check and stop looking down on others. As it's been said 'live and let live'... we are all different, we are all unique, don't hate someone just because they don't fit in to 'your world' or they're different to you. As your mother probably told you 'If you got nothing nice to say, don't say it!!!'

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green

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By *ensualbicockMan  over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

Hope you find your dreams op

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By *uke olovingmanMan  over a year ago

Gravesend

Good luck and good hunting.. I'm just sad not to have met you..xx olov

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

No, I'm not on here for a monogamous relationship, neither is the OP.

However, plenty of people have found relationships on here.

My point was that all it takes to find out why someone you are interested in is some basic social skills. If it is too much effort for you to employ basic conversation, that's your problem, nobody else's.

But the op is complaining that she doesn’t want to swing, and yet is on a website calling itself “Fab swingers”.

I’m not sure I can make the point any more clearly than that. If she no longer wishes to be a part of that scene, why not simply leave without the fanfair of a thread telling us she is l leaving?!

I’m also unsure why you’re swearing at me and attacking me personally....

Why does it bother you that the OP has posted her intent to leave? You didn’t have to reply. The forum is full of all sorts of posts, plenty that I find dull or pointless or bat shit but I leave things be because why be unkind?

The only good to come out of the bitchy comments you leave all over the forum is that they serve as a warning to women to give you a wide berth. "

warning to women to give you a wide berth. "

As I see it, I haven’t left any bitchy posts - I’ve simply answered this (and other) threads as I see it.

As and when the site doesn’t work for me I’ll simply leave - I won’t feel the need to post a thread stating that I’m on a swingers’ website when I don’t want to swing or have sex with multiple people, and considering leaving. Why would I bother? Funny that.

Your last statement isn’t proving correct so far. That’s plenty good enough for me .

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live.

You’ve missed the point.

I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me? "

You've missed my point - I am merely holding a mirror up to you, I am not the one judging the OP for using the site as she sees fit. You are a pot calling a kettle black!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I need to know what happens at the Christmas party.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Just use the forums, block anyone from messaging and then use the real world to date.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live.

You’ve missed the point.

I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me? "

I wasn't aware it was a competition?! Quite frankly I don't judge whatever people's reasons are for joining or leaving. I find profiles that match what I'm looking for and enjoy the experience. Nobody is going to tell me I can't be here because I don't sleep with enough people. We are all here for different reasons and kinks so should respect that others may do things differently.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" you are not in the loop a lot of single women use this site because they can attract men that wouldn't want to have a relationship with them just NSA. They think they can lure them into a relationship though.

I don't think it's that exactly. A lot of women aren't suited for relationships, for whatever reasons. I'd say many of us (and men too) come here as singles coz we have high sex drives and just want NSA sex.

And tbh it's ideal if you're independent to just have NSA sex and do your own thing within your life outside of sex. But people get feelings sometimes, i've had a few guys want relationships...some so they can swing and fuck other women without the hassle of being a single male, but a couple genuinely wanted a monogamous relationship and i felt the same way about them. Wasn't looking for love with them. But that's how all my relationships started, we had sex and eventually wanted more than that.

People get feelings sometimes that they didn't expect. I'd say most single people looking for NSA aren't really up for a relationship at all, probably been really hurt before and don't see relationships as viable or beneficial. This was me until i found my partner. Not even know how i ended up in a relationship with him lol but it happened.

I'm a strong believer in love at first site and fate. You meet someone and you just know... there's chemistry. Before I met my ex I was planning on travelling. Actually a month after our first date I was gone.... She asked me about my plans and I told her I don't don't want kids, I don't want a relationship, not settling down. Ended up being with her over 5 years. Someone can come into your life and completely alter it. You can't get much bigger than my experience. Won't make that mistake again though. Although it was an amazing 5 years that I will cherish.. It's just not my thing to settle.

I do miss the closeness with someone. It's not just about sex! as the OP said she just wants a cwtch, some closeness. Don't have to want to be or be in a relationship to want the feeling of being 'loved'. Although it may not be the love that changes lives, why can't 2 people just feel love without the love.... now that makes sense in my head lol...

I know what you mean, why can't people just love and care for others without being in love with them? It is strange that we have to be in a relationship or related to people to love them. Well most people are like that. I get that people are reciprocal but they also have to be tied to someone to make it work."

My point exactly. It society that says we should be in relationships etc... we've been brought up in the idea of 'wife and 3 kids' government peddling lol. They just want us all to be producing more tax payers.

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By *hamboy69Man  over a year ago

huddersfield


"I need to know what happens at the Christmas party."

I’ve never been invited

I wonder why?

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By *HaRiFMan  over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. "

I wish you well on your journey, may you find what your looking for.

ttfn

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

I'm not a swinger at all, and I very rarely sleep with someone new - I found good long-term fwb relationships on here, and far more men wanting to wine me and dine me than GS or POF.

If you only want to shag around I recommend POF, I know guys who do very well on there."

1. Aha, now we are getting somewhere. So you’re not a swinger either (whatever the hell that actually means - nobody on here seems to know!) - so what qualifies to tell me I’m not one either?

2. I’m happy to do socials off here - I’m not really down for “wining and dining” as I view the women I meet as equals (to be fair, that might be a generational thing, we millennials tend to go halves).

3. Been on POF for years and done well from it, but most on there seek monogamy.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I need to know what happens at the Christmas party.

I’ve never been invited

I wonder why?"

You don't work with her?

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live.

You’ve missed the point.

I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me?

I wasn't aware it was a competition?! Quite frankly I don't judge whatever people's reasons are for joining or leaving. I find profiles that match what I'm looking for and enjoy the experience. Nobody is going to tell me I can't be here because I don't sleep with enough people. We are all here for different reasons and kinks so should respect that others may do things differently."

I never said it was a competition.

But you’ll note it wasn’t me telling someone else they aren’t a “swinger”.

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By *ddibleMan  over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

Good bye you will be missed but we all outgrow this site at some point. Best of luck beautiful lady

Thank you for all the giggles you've given me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live.

You’ve missed the point.

I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me?

I wasn't aware it was a competition?! Quite frankly I don't judge whatever people's reasons are for joining or leaving. I find profiles that match what I'm looking for and enjoy the experience. Nobody is going to tell me I can't be here because I don't sleep with enough people. We are all here for different reasons and kinks so should respect that others may do things differently.

I never said it was a competition.

But you’ll note it wasn’t me telling someone else they aren’t a “swinger”. "

You made a comment saying the OP shouldn't be here.. which started the debate on who dictates what's acceptable or not. The point is surely to be open about likes and intent and find someone that matches rather than winge about preferences or opinions that don't affect you. I'm a very awkward one but have no problem finding an equally awkward match..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live.

You’ve missed the point.

I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me?

I wasn't aware it was a competition?! Quite frankly I don't judge whatever people's reasons are for joining or leaving. I find profiles that match what I'm looking for and enjoy the experience. Nobody is going to tell me I can't be here because I don't sleep with enough people. We are all here for different reasons and kinks so should respect that others may do things differently.

I never said it was a competition.

But you’ll note it wasn’t me telling someone else they aren’t a “swinger”.

You made a comment saying the OP shouldn't be here.. which started the debate on who dictates what's acceptable or not. The point is surely to be open about likes and intent and find someone that matches rather than winge about preferences or opinions that don't affect you. I'm a very awkward one but have no problem finding an equally awkward match.. "

The moral of the story is... If you don't agree with a thread don't comment.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

I'm a single male who feels the same.

I suspect that Annie, like me, couldn't give a fuck if some random off the internet thinks that we are here wasting their precious time.

If you want women who only want NSA sex, then use your social skills to ascertain who those women are, and try not to throw a tantrum when they turn out not to be exactly what you want from them, whining isn't attractive.

Oh pipe down, and there’s no need to swear!

You’re seriously telling me you think a swingers’ site is the place to find a monogamous relationship?! Good grief.

For avoidance or doubt, it isn’t. I’m certainly not on here for that and it frankly astonishes me that so many people seem to be.

No, I'm not on here for a monogamous relationship, neither is the OP.

However, plenty of people have found relationships on here.

My point was that all it takes to find out why someone you are interested in is some basic social skills. If it is too much effort for you to employ basic conversation, that's your problem, nobody else's.

But the op is complaining that she doesn’t want to swing, and yet is on a website calling itself “Fab swingers”.

I’m not sure I can make the point any more clearly than that. If she no longer wishes to be a part of that scene, why not simply leave without the fanfair of a thread telling us she is l leaving?!

I’m also unsure why you’re swearing at me and attacking me personally....

Why does it bother you that the OP has posted her intent to leave? You didn’t have to reply. The forum is full of all sorts of posts, plenty that I find dull or pointless or bat shit but I leave things be because why be unkind?

The only good to come out of the bitchy comments you leave all over the forum is that they serve as a warning to women to give you a wide berth. "

Hear hear

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

I'm not a swinger at all, and I very rarely sleep with someone new - I found good long-term fwb relationships on here, and far more men wanting to wine me and dine me than GS or POF.

If you only want to shag around I recommend POF, I know guys who do very well on there.

1. Aha, now we are getting somewhere. So you’re not a swinger either (whatever the hell that actually means - nobody on here seems to know!) - so what qualifies to tell me I’m not one either?

2. I’m happy to do socials off here - I’m not really down for “wining and dining” as I view the women I meet as equals (to be fair, that might be a generational thing, we millennials tend to go halves).

3. Been on POF for years and done well from it, but most on there seek monogamy. "

You missing the point again - I'm not calling you out on not being a swinger, though you're not - I'm calling you out on judging women.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live.

You’ve missed the point.

I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me?

I wasn't aware it was a competition?! Quite frankly I don't judge whatever people's reasons are for joining or leaving. I find profiles that match what I'm looking for and enjoy the experience. Nobody is going to tell me I can't be here because I don't sleep with enough people. We are all here for different reasons and kinks so should respect that others may do things differently.

I never said it was a competition.

But you’ll note it wasn’t me telling someone else they aren’t a “swinger”.

You made a comment saying the OP shouldn't be here.. which started the debate on who dictates what's acceptable or not. The point is surely to be open about likes and intent and find someone that matches rather than winge about preferences or opinions that don't affect you. I'm a very awkward one but have no problem finding an equally awkward match..

The moral of the story is... If you don't agree with a thread don't comment. "

Not at all.. it's simply not a debate thread. It's one long term member stating her frame of mind and saying goodbye. Is turned into who should and shouldn't be allowed on here.. very odd!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Good luck op .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live.

You’ve missed the point.

I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me?

I wasn't aware it was a competition?! Quite frankly I don't judge whatever people's reasons are for joining or leaving. I find profiles that match what I'm looking for and enjoy the experience. Nobody is going to tell me I can't be here because I don't sleep with enough people. We are all here for different reasons and kinks so should respect that others may do things differently.

I never said it was a competition.

But you’ll note it wasn’t me telling someone else they aren’t a “swinger”.

You made a comment saying the OP shouldn't be here.. which started the debate on who dictates what's acceptable or not. The point is surely to be open about likes and intent and find someone that matches rather than winge about preferences or opinions that don't affect you. I'm a very awkward one but have no problem finding an equally awkward match..

The moral of the story is... If you don't agree with a thread don't comment.

Not at all.. it's simply not a debate thread. It's one long term member stating her frame of mind and saying goodbye. Is turned into who should and shouldn't be allowed on here.. very odd!"

All it takes is one comment to turn a thread around lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

Such a ridiculous argument. As long as you lay out clearly what you want who actually cares?!?? Live and let live.

You’ve missed the point.

I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me?

I wasn't aware it was a competition?! Quite frankly I don't judge whatever people's reasons are for joining or leaving. I find profiles that match what I'm looking for and enjoy the experience. Nobody is going to tell me I can't be here because I don't sleep with enough people. We are all here for different reasons and kinks so should respect that others may do things differently.

I never said it was a competition.

But you’ll note it wasn’t me telling someone else they aren’t a “swinger”.

You made a comment saying the OP shouldn't be here.. which started the debate on who dictates what's acceptable or not. The point is surely to be open about likes and intent and find someone that matches rather than winge about preferences or opinions that don't affect you. I'm a very awkward one but have no problem finding an equally awkward match..

The moral of the story is... If you don't agree with a thread don't comment.

Not at all.. it's simply not a debate thread. It's one long term member stating her frame of mind and saying goodbye. Is turned into who should and shouldn't be allowed on here.. very odd!

All it takes is one comment to turn a thread around lol"

Totally!! Ha ha it's gone very off grid..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Well at least OP's got something to read on the loo in the morning

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It will be bittersweet to leave purely because I’ve been here so long and I do actually like the people on here. Even if I just stayed for the forums and hid my profile it’s basically what I do anyway. It makes you comfy and not pro active. "

Can't you just stay here for the forums and get a dating profile with new pics so they don't know it's you? I'll miss your advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I need to know what happens at the Christmas party.

I’ve never been invited

I wonder why?

You don't work with her?"

Haha sorry, that made me laugh!

Like why would he think he would be invited to come to my works Xmas do!?

I said I’d stay to let you guys know how that pans out

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

I'm not a swinger at all, and I very rarely sleep with someone new - I found good long-term fwb relationships on here, and far more men wanting to wine me and dine me than GS or POF.

If you only want to shag around I recommend POF, I know guys who do very well on there.

1. Aha, now we are getting somewhere. So you’re not a swinger either (whatever the hell that actually means - nobody on here seems to know!) - so what qualifies to tell me I’m not one either?

2. I’m happy to do socials off here - I’m not really down for “wining and dining” as I view the women I meet as equals (to be fair, that might be a generational thing, we millennials tend to go halves).

3. Been on POF for years and done well from it, but most on there seek monogamy.

You missing the point again - I'm not calling you out on not being a swinger, though you're not - I'm calling you out on judging women."

Judging women? 0-)

And yet earlier a comment was made on these forums where someone equated some bad messages on here with the behaviour of the entire “male species”. #mentoo !!!

I called them out and was basically told to shut up and look up what sexism was.

I’ve posted a parody thread. Destroy me as a human being... if you can be assed.

I like a barney .

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"It will be bittersweet to leave purely because I’ve been here so long and I do actually like the people on here. Even if I just stayed for the forums and hid my profile it’s basically what I do anyway. It makes you comfy and not pro active.

Can't you just stay here for the forums and get a dating profile with new pics so they don't know it's you? I'll miss your advice. "

I’ve done that before, I’ve been months and months with age filters to stop messages and just used the forum, even being on here that way makes you feel comfortable and stops you being pro active.

I’ll exchange contact details with people who genuinely want to keep in touch.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

I'm not a swinger at all, and I very rarely sleep with someone new - I found good long-term fwb relationships on here, and far more men wanting to wine me and dine me than GS or POF.

If you only want to shag around I recommend POF, I know guys who do very well on there.

1. Aha, now we are getting somewhere. So you’re not a swinger either (whatever the hell that actually means - nobody on here seems to know!) - so what qualifies to tell me I’m not one either?

2. I’m happy to do socials off here - I’m not really down for “wining and dining” as I view the women I meet as equals (to be fair, that might be a generational thing, we millennials tend to go halves).

3. Been on POF for years and done well from it, but most on there seek monogamy.

You missing the point again - I'm not calling you out on not being a swinger, though you're not - I'm calling you out on judging women.

Judging women? 0-)

And yet earlier a comment was made on these forums where someone equated some bad messages on here with the behaviour of the entire “male species”. #mentoo !!!

I called them out and was basically told to shut up and look up what sexism was.

I’ve posted a parody thread. Destroy me as a human being... if you can be assed.

I like a barney . "

Arsed!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It will be bittersweet to leave purely because I’ve been here so long and I do actually like the people on here. Even if I just stayed for the forums and hid my profile it’s basically what I do anyway. It makes you comfy and not pro active.

Can't you just stay here for the forums and get a dating profile with new pics so they don't know it's you? I'll miss your advice.

I’ve done that before, I’ve been months and months with age filters to stop messages and just used the forum, even being on here that way makes you feel comfortable and stops you being pro active.

I’ll exchange contact details with people who genuinely want to keep in touch. "

Aww, I wish I got to know you better before you left.. gutted. Although we've not chatted I wish you the best...

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By *anky_PankyWoman  over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Well despite some of the opposing ideas on here, I for one will miss your posts as you regularly make me chuckle.

We may all 'swing' in our own varying ways on here but like everything, differences are what make the world go round

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well despite some of the opposing ideas on here, I for one will miss your posts as you regularly make me chuckle.

We may all 'swing' in our own varying ways on here but like everything, differences are what make the world go round "

Thought it was gravity?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Ranty man is back I see.

Trust me. If I was ranting, your windows would be shaking, you wouldn’t need the website to hear me.

I’m less “ranty man” than “man new to fab, who isn’t doing terribly on here to be fair, but who doesn’t get the bias against single men and the evident confusion of some members as to what they are looking for”. .

"

Thanks for your rant

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Ranty man is back I see.

Trust me. If I was ranting, your windows would be shaking, you wouldn’t need the website to hear me.

I’m less “ranty man” than “man new to fab, who isn’t doing terribly on here to be fair, but who doesn’t get the bias against single men and the evident confusion of some members as to what they are looking for”. .

Thanks for your rant "

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

I'm not a swinger at all, and I very rarely sleep with someone new - I found good long-term fwb relationships on here, and far more men wanting to wine me and dine me than GS or POF.

If you only want to shag around I recommend POF, I know guys who do very well on there.

1. Aha, now we are getting somewhere. So you’re not a swinger either (whatever the hell that actually means - nobody on here seems to know!) - so what qualifies to tell me I’m not one either?

2. I’m happy to do socials off here - I’m not really down for “wining and dining” as I view the women I meet as equals (to be fair, that might be a generational thing, we millennials tend to go halves).

3. Been on POF for years and done well from it, but most on there seek monogamy.

You missing the point again - I'm not calling you out on not being a swinger, though you're not - I'm calling you out on judging women.

Judging women? 0-)

"

Yeah - the ones you don't think should be on the site anyway - I didn't have time to write a longer sentence at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

OP I can't send you a message so will tell you here. You're Gorgeous! F'ing tidy butt

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It will be bittersweet to leave purely because I’ve been here so long and I do actually like the people on here. Even if I just stayed for the forums and hid my profile it’s basically what I do anyway. It makes you comfy and not pro active.

Can't you just stay here for the forums and get a dating profile with new pics so they don't know it's you? I'll miss your advice.

I’ve done that before, I’ve been months and months with age filters to stop messages and just used the forum, even being on here that way makes you feel comfortable and stops you being pro active.

I’ll exchange contact details with people who genuinely want to keep in touch. "

Hide the boobs and just entertain us in the forums, all the characters are leaving and it's getting really boring!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. "

Oi! Stop copying me Annie

I'm only staying around to find out what the gym guy says. I hope he realises he's got several Fab memberships waiting on him

If you want any dating advice you know where to find me... until I'm gone I'm leaving because I'm going to pursue a very different tack with dating and I need the discipline of not having Fab as an easy option. I'm not sure why you're leaving but in general I think a genuinely single person should probably only stay on here during that time that they're either undateable or not really looking for a lasting connection with anyone. So I think you're probably right to move on. Good luck in finding love xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

Oi! Stop copying me Annie

I'm only staying around to find out what the gym guy says. I hope he realises he's got several Fab memberships waiting on him

If you want any dating advice you know where to find me... until I'm gone I'm leaving because I'm going to pursue a very different tack with dating and I need the discipline of not having Fab as an easy option. I'm not sure why you're leaving but in general I think a genuinely single person should probably only stay on here during that time that they're either undateable or not really looking for a lasting connection with anyone. So I think you're probably right to move on. Good luck in finding love xx"

I know, after I posted it I thought I’m bloody copying soulful!

Hopefully when it comes to leaving I’ll have a strong team assembled on WhatsApp for when I need advice!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Hope you find what your looking for I’ll def be keeping an eye open for you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Great tits Mrs !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Great tits Mrs ! "

Trust me.. ssshhhhhh. Read above before commenting lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Hope you find what your looking for I’ll def be keeping an eye open for you "

I’ll be out and about wind street 1st of December butt.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Hope you find what your looking for I’ll def be keeping an eye open for you

I’ll be out and about wind street 1st of December butt. "

Then hopefully I’ll see you then and get you a drink it would be my pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

Oi! Stop copying me Annie

I'm only staying around to find out what the gym guy says. I hope he realises he's got several Fab memberships waiting on him

If you want any dating advice you know where to find me... until I'm gone I'm leaving because I'm going to pursue a very different tack with dating and I need the discipline of not having Fab as an easy option. I'm not sure why you're leaving but in general I think a genuinely single person should probably only stay on here during that time that they're either undateable or not really looking for a lasting connection with anyone. So I think you're probably right to move on. Good luck in finding love xx

I know, after I posted it I thought I’m bloody copying soulful!

Hopefully when it comes to leaving I’ll have a strong team assembled on WhatsApp for when I need advice!"

You're going to need a team to compensate for Dr Love here haha

Seriously though... what are the forums going to do without the woman who can't ask a guy for a drink or the guy who needs dating advice just to say hi to a woman in a cafe???

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

"

Excuse me...I don’t want nsa and would like to meet someone in a more serious way but I like to swing with a partner etc. I will keep doing what I do here thanks.

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By *ere2partyMan  over a year ago

Birmingham


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. "

I hope you find your happiness

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By *izzy.Woman  over a year ago

Stoke area

Shame ranty guy invaded your thread. Very best wishes Annie. Will miss your posts. X

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

Oi! Stop copying me Annie

I'm only staying around to find out what the gym guy says. I hope he realises he's got several Fab memberships waiting on him

If you want any dating advice you know where to find me... until I'm gone I'm leaving because I'm going to pursue a very different tack with dating and I need the discipline of not having Fab as an easy option. I'm not sure why you're leaving but in general I think a genuinely single person should probably only stay on here during that time that they're either undateable or not really looking for a lasting connection with anyone. So I think you're probably right to move on. Good luck in finding love xx

I know, after I posted it I thought I’m bloody copying soulful!

Hopefully when it comes to leaving I’ll have a strong team assembled on WhatsApp for when I need advice!

You're going to need a team to compensate for Dr Love here haha

Seriously though... what are the forums going to do without the woman who can't ask a guy for a drink or the guy who needs dating advice just to say hi to a woman in a cafe??? "

Can't you both stay??!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. "

I’ll visit church and mourn the loss of you ... maybe I can help xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Good luck Op

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By *ugga MannMan  over a year ago

Heathrow

What a heated debate that was. Not at all where I expected it to go. Scooby’s parting gift of “great tits Mrs” made me laugh out loud cos it was just so typical of the many ‘no hope but still horny males’ that buzz round like flies!!!

OP - you forum posts are great and I shall miss your contributions. We all need to do what is right for us, wherever and however that is best accomplished. It’s great that you are finding what you need in “the real world”.

Thank you for brightening up our lives! And good luck xx

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By *abs..Woman  over a year ago

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Well I will miss you if you go! Your posts have given me some of the best laughs I’ve had on Fab. I hope you find what you’re looking for, wherever that may be. We all deserve happiness

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By *gnitemybodyWoman  over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Well don't disappear until we know if anything happens with your gym guy and I know exactly what you mean regarding this place.

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By *eliWoman  over a year ago

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I've never wanted to shag loads of random guys, even when I was a single on here. That aside, Op, I hope you find what you're looking for "out there". You bloody deserve it to say the least.

(Don't have another profile waiting in the wings! Give it a real chance.)

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Don't think any one else's posts annoyed me as much as yours OP. I actually quite enjoyed reading them for their transparency and attention seeking but I really wish you all the best and hope you actually find a nice guy and your happy... and if I can say one thing....stop bloody listening to other people for advice.....use your own common sense and don't dive in and over think things. Try and be a bit laid back about things and you'll be a lot happier. Good luck x

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By *rimson_RoseWoman  over a year ago

Tamworth


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Ranty man is back I see.

Trust me. If I was ranting, your windows would be shaking, you wouldn’t need the website to hear me.

I’m less “ranty man” than “man new to fab, who isn’t doing terribly on here to be fair, but who doesn’t get the bias against single men and the evident confusion of some members as to what they are looking for”. .

"

Because you're trying to make everyone fit your labs - you're on Fab so should be doing... X.

Just go with it - some will be looking for the same as you, speak with you. Some won't - move on. Don't let it wind you up else you'll come across in a way that will make it harder to get meets and then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

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By *ire_bladeMan  over a year ago

Manchester

Get to fuck not suited. The place would be much duller without you. Don't you go anywhere x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman  over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

I'm not a swinger at all, and I very rarely sleep with someone new - I found good long-term fwb relationships on here, and far more men wanting to wine me and dine me than GS or POF.

If you only want to shag around I recommend POF, I know guys who do very well on there.

1. Aha, now we are getting somewhere. So you’re not a swinger either (whatever the hell that actually means - nobody on here seems to know!) - so what qualifies to tell me I’m not one either?

2. I’m happy to do socials off here - I’m not really down for “wining and dining” as I view the women I meet as equals (to be fair, that might be a generational thing, we millennials tend to go halves).

3. Been on POF for years and done well from it, but most on there seek monogamy. "

In my experience most on pof tinder etc are only on there covering all bases for NSA, most there are here too. That's why I stick to fab, at least people are honest about what they are looking for.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman  over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Hope you find what your looking for I’ll def be keeping an eye open for you

I’ll be out and about wind street 1st of December butt. "

Will you let us know how the Christmas do goes before you leave?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

With all due respect, if you don’t want to have NSA sex (or just sex not leading to a relationship), why on earth did you join a swingers’ site?

Sadly this seems to be a running theme with some female profiles on here, which is a waste of everyones’ time: “I’ve met you on a swingers’ site but I’m really looking for a boyfriend” is a line that gets old fast...

Head over to Guardian soulmates or POF!

And a running theme from men is " Jesus no, I wouldnt get my kit off in front of other men. Or go to swingers clubs. Oh, and I dont share partners. God, no"

Where should they go?

Well they have no business being on here either, to be fair!

But I’m just a single guy, so who cares what I think .

Yup, you're not a swinger, you're just a single guy who wants to shag around. So by your logic you should piss off to Instashag.com anyway!

But, to be fair, your profile suggests you’re a single female, presumably one who wants to shag around.

What makes you anymore of a “swinger” than me?!

I'm not a swinger at all, and I very rarely sleep with someone new - I found good long-term fwb relationships on here, and far more men wanting to wine me and dine me than GS or POF.

If you only want to shag around I recommend POF, I know guys who do very well on there.

1. Aha, now we are getting somewhere. So you’re not a swinger either (whatever the hell that actually means - nobody on here seems to know!) - so what qualifies to tell me I’m not one either?

2. I’m happy to do socials off here - I’m not really down for “wining and dining” as I view the women I meet as equals (to be fair, that might be a generational thing, we millennials tend to go halves).

3. Been on POF for years and done well from it, but most on there seek monogamy.

In my experience most on pof tinder etc are only on there covering all bases for NSA, most there are here too. That's why I stick to fab, at least people are honest about what they are looking for. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Good luck munching gym guys bum hole

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By *rivateparts!Man  over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!


"Good luck munching gym guys bum hole"

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman  over a year ago

stourbridge area

Fab is for whatever you want to use it for ... you dont have to sleep with anyone .... its not compulsary ... socials are a good way of testing the water ... you are in control , and you decide whats best for you .

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By *VineMan  over a year ago

The right place


"The OP had even stated “I don’t want to swing”.

Remind me what this website is called again? "

As a single man, how do you swing?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me? "

Bit of background. The term ‘swinging’ came about with the generation following the end of the rationing following WWII, it was a generic term applied to the young generation of the 60’s to describe their determination to create a new identity for themselves as a fun, music loving, partying, promiscuous generation... hence ‘Swinging Sixties’. Towards the end of the Sixties another phenomenon arrived, ‘Wife Swapping’, whereby married couples or partnered couples would get together and swap partners or spouses for sexual fun. This had nothing to do with the term ‘swinging’, that happened later when it was adopted to cover the ‘Wife swapping’ parties that became popular. One interesting point regarding the wife swapping phenomenon was the key requirement that in order to partake you HAD to be a couple ie... no singles allowed.

So in answer to your earlier comment, then yes perhaps the OP (being single) is on the wrong site, but ironically so are you, myself and every other single person on here. But until they open FabSex dot com for singles I guess we’ll make a home here.... Happy Fabbing

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman  over a year ago

stourbridge area

Well said jameyuk !

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"

In my experience most on pof tinder etc are only on there covering all bases for NSA, most there are here too. That's why I stick to fab, at least people are honest about what they are looking for. "

That’s true but too many times over the years I’ve been told that had a guy met me on a conventional dating site or in the real world then it would have changed their perception of me.

It’s as if being on here somehow makes you dirty. It should be what’s good for the goose is good for the gander but it’s not. Guys consider this place a fuck site, or say it is what it is.

All the guys I’ve met or spoken to have said that they’d never consider dating a girl they met off here.

It’s stupid but it’s my experience of this place, that by being on here I’ll only ever be good enough to fuck but not date.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well said jameyuk ! "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Annie, I’ll certainly miss your posts. You rarely fail to make me smile or laugh with your way of expressing yourself.

I wish you all the very best in finding what you’re looking for.

I really should follow your lead but this damned forum acts as a magnet for me and keeps drawing me back.

Au revoir

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. "

Bit melodramatic.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Good luck munching gym guys bum hole

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

Bit melodramatic. "

You’ll have to find someone else to aim all your barbed comments and eye rolls at when I’m gone.

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By *uciyassMan  over a year ago

sheffield


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

Bit melodramatic.

You’ll have to find someone else to aim all your barbed comments and eye rolls at when I’m gone. "

Are you going ??

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By *gnitemybodyWoman  over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

All your haters are coming out now.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman  over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


" I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me?

Bit of background. The term ‘swinging’ came about with the generation following the end of the rationing following WWII, it was a generic term applied to the young generation of the 60’s to describe their determination to create a new identity for themselves as a fun, music loving, partying, promiscuous generation... hence ‘Swinging Sixties’. Towards the end of the Sixties another phenomenon arrived, ‘Wife Swapping’, whereby married couples or partnered couples would get together and swap partners or spouses for sexual fun. This had nothing to do with the term ‘swinging’, that happened later when it was adopted to cover the ‘Wife swapping’ parties that became popular. One interesting point regarding the wife swapping phenomenon was the key requirement that in order to partake you HAD to be a couple ie... no singles allowed.

So in answer to your earlier comment, then yes perhaps the OP (being single) is on the wrong site, but ironically so are you, myself and every other single person on here. But until they open FabSex dot com for singles I guess we’ll make a home here.... Happy Fabbing "

Fabsex. Com would be full of single guys.

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The OP had even stated “I don’t want to swing”.

Remind me what this website is called again?

As a single man, how do you swing? "

I pointed out the irony and lack of logic of that comment lol!

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By *good-being-badMan  over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"When are you next seeing gym guy?

See him every week in work but Xmas do is next month.

Definitely think real world or at least a dating site is the way to go. "

Hope it works out op..

I'm not looking to swing as such, I'm looking for something with more meaning, I'm on mainstream dating sites as well this site offers me another avenue to find what I seek,

I may close this door if and when that happens,

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By *osweet69Couple  over a year ago

portsmouth


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. "

I wonder what reaction a single fella would get if he posted something like this?

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


" I’ve joined a swingers website and been told I’m not a “swinger” because I’m a “just” a single bloke who wants to shag around, by a single female on the same site...

I’m asking what makes her any more of a “swinger” than me?

Bit of background. The term ‘swinging’ came about with the generation following the end of the rationing following WWII, it was a generic term applied to the young generation of the 60’s to describe their determination to create a new identity for themselves as a fun, music loving, partying, promiscuous generation... hence ‘Swinging Sixties’. Towards the end of the Sixties another phenomenon arrived, ‘Wife Swapping’, whereby married couples or partnered couples would get together and swap partners or spouses for sexual fun. This had nothing to do with the term ‘swinging’, that happened later when it was adopted to cover the ‘Wife swapping’ parties that became popular. One interesting point regarding the wife swapping phenomenon was the key requirement that in order to partake you HAD to be a couple ie... no singles allowed.

So in answer to your earlier comment, then yes perhaps the OP (being single) is on the wrong site, but ironically so are you, myself and every other single person on here. But until they open FabSex dot com for singles I guess we’ll make a home here.... Happy Fabbing

Fabsex. Com would be full of single guys. "

If they were all fab straight they could all fuck each other! Oh wait......

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. I wonder what reaction a single fella would get if he posted something like this?"

One of them did lol!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Fabsex. Com would be full of single guys. "

You’re thinking of Fabguys dot com

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By *osweet69Couple  over a year ago

portsmouth


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. I wonder what reaction a single fella would get if he posted something like this?

One of them did lol! "

Must of missed that one.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman  over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


" Fabsex. Com would be full of single guys.

You’re thinking of Fabguys dot com "

Think we should have fab girls.

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By *ellytransvTV/TS  over a year ago

Wirral


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. "

For those of us who have admired you from afar, any chance of making your profile and all pics visible for one last look before you go?

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By *raigStarrMan  over a year ago

St. Helens

“I owe it to some people so will stick around another month” !!!!

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By *pider-WomanWoman  over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"When are you next seeing gym guy?

See him every week in work but Xmas do is next month.

Definitely think real world or at least a dating site is the way to go.

Hope it works out op..

I'm not looking to swing as such, I'm looking for something with more meaning, I'm on mainstream dating sites as well this site offers me another avenue to find what I seek,

I may close this door if and when that happens, "

That's what they all say....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Fabsex. Com would be full of single guys.

You’re thinking of Fabguys dot com

Think we should have fab girls. "

Can I join please!!

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. I wonder what reaction a single fella would get if he posted something like this?

One of them did lol! "

There wasn’t much tea and sympathy on offer was there....

More importantly, when are you bringing me my breakfast baguette from Waitrose?

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. I wonder what reaction a single fella would get if he posted something like this?

One of them did lol!

There wasn’t much tea and sympathy on offer was there....

More importantly, when are you bringing me my breakfast baguette from Waitrose? "

I wasnt referring to your 'parody' but to SoK's 'notice of intention to depart soon' thread.

Sorry I don't baguette delivery, and those horses won't ride themselves...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 13/11/18 09:22:25]

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"[lip bitten by poster at 13/11/18 09:22:25]"

FTFY

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By *sGivesWoodWoman  over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


" Fabsex. Com would be full of single guys.

You’re thinking of Fabguys dot com

Think we should have fab girls.

Can I join please!! "

No. You aren't a girl.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning.

Bit melodramatic.

You’ll have to find someone else to aim all your barbed comments and eye rolls at when I’m gone. "

Oh God how will I cope!

At least I am true to myself and that's something you are too!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Fabsex. Com would be full of single guys.

You’re thinking of Fabguys dot com

Think we should have fab girls.

Can I join please!!

No. You aren't a girl. "

Blatant sexism, in this day and age as well

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. I wonder what reaction a single fella would get if he posted something like this?

One of them did lol!

There wasn’t much tea and sympathy on offer was there....

More importantly, when are you bringing me my breakfast baguette from Waitrose?

I wasnt referring to your 'parody' but to SoK's 'notice of intention to depart soon' thread.

Sorry I don't baguette delivery, and those horses won't ride themselves... "

Spare the horses. It’s only five minutes by broomstick!

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. I wonder what reaction a single fella would get if he posted something like this?

One of them did lol!

There wasn’t much tea and sympathy on offer was there....

More importantly, when are you bringing me my breakfast baguette from Waitrose?

I wasnt referring to your 'parody' but to SoK's 'notice of intention to depart soon' thread.

Sorry I don't baguette delivery, and those horses won't ride themselves...

Spare the horses. It’s only five minutes by broomstick! "

Is an irrelevant playground insult really the best someone who claims tho have two law degeees can come up with? I'm not seeing an impressive legal mind at work here in my opinion, I'm beginning to think you are a fake.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

In my experience most on pof tinder etc are only on there covering all bases for NSA, most there are here too. That's why I stick to fab, at least people are honest about what they are looking for.

That’s true but too many times over the years I’ve been told that had a guy met me on a conventional dating site or in the real world then it would have changed their perception of me.

It’s as if being on here somehow makes you dirty. It should be what’s good for the goose is good for the gander but it’s not. Guys consider this place a fuck site, or say it is what it is.

All the guys I’ve met or spoken to have said that they’d never consider dating a girl they met off here.

It’s stupid but it’s my experience of this place, that by being on here I’ll only ever be good enough to fuck but not date. "

It's the same on the opposite side of the aisle. Women just don't expect a genuinely high quality male to stoop as low as to join a site like this. As such, I feel most see the guys on here as meat. There's pretty meat and unpretty meat. I would've considered dating a woman on here but unfortunately the vast majority are too busy looking at the candy wrapping of the gym bods than seeking out anything deeper.

As for this site being more honest. Nonsense. Why would someone favour a dating site where they don't show their face over one where they do? Can you imagine the carnage that would occur to some people's opportunities on here if Fab suddenly started leading with face pics and people just swiped right to like and left to block.

I want to go somewhere where I can safely initiate flirtatious conversations with women I already know I'm likely to be attracted to... ideally in a real world setting where I can sense there's also some chemistry. That, to me, is more honest, not less.

The "sex first, ask questions later" format of Fab also doesn't work well for me. I want to get to know someone first before I make the decision, completely unpressured, to get intimate with them. Next time I fuck someone I want it to already be something I'm highly likely to want to do again, not just a test it and see.

But none of this should be any surprise to anyone. I came onto this site an unapologetic romantic and I am leaving as one too

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. I wonder what reaction a single fella would get if he posted something like this?

One of them did lol!

There wasn’t much tea and sympathy on offer was there....

More importantly, when are you bringing me my breakfast baguette from Waitrose?

I wasnt referring to your 'parody' but to SoK's 'notice of intention to depart soon' thread.

Sorry I don't baguette delivery, and those horses won't ride themselves...

Spare the horses. It’s only five minutes by broomstick!

Is an irrelevant playground insult really the best someone who claims tho have two law degeees can come up with? I'm not seeing an impressive legal mind at work here in my opinion, I'm beginning to think you are a fake."

You take yourself very seriously don’t you. What I write on here is worth precisely what you’re paying me for it...

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’m not. I’m not suited for a site where it’s predominantly about sex.

I’ve been saying it for ages, why the fuck am I even on here. I don’t want to swing, I don’t want to shag loads of random guys.

8 years ago I joined here because I had such strong preferences for certain size dicks but now I don’t give a shit about them so I don’t need to see people’s willys.

I owe it to some people to let you know if anything happens next month with gym guy but after that I really have to pack up my bag of tricks and say farewell for good and try conventional dating sites.

Take this thread as your notice for mourning. I wonder what reaction a single fella would get if he posted something like this?

One of them did lol!

There wasn’t much tea and sympathy on offer was there....

More importantly, when are you bringing me my breakfast baguette from Waitrose?

I wasnt referring to your 'parody' but to SoK's 'notice of intention to depart soon' thread.

Sorry I don't baguette delivery, and those horses won't ride themselves...

Spare the horses. It’s only five minutes by broomstick!

Is an irrelevant playground insult really the best someone who claims tho have two law degeees can come up with? I'm not seeing an impressive legal mind at work here in my opinion, I'm beginning to think you are a fake.

You take yourself very seriously don’t you. What I write on here is worth precisely what you’re paying me for it... "

No argument from me on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" No argument from me on that one."

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By *hite1100Man  over a year ago

Hither Green


"

In my experience most on pof tinder etc are only on there covering all bases for NSA, most there are here too. That's why I stick to fab, at least people are honest about what they are looking for.

That’s true but too many times over the years I’ve been told that had a guy met me on a conventional dating site or in the real world then it would have changed their perception of me.

It’s as if being on here somehow makes you dirty. It should be what’s good for the goose is good for the gander but it’s not. Guys consider this place a fuck site, or say it is what it is.

All the guys I’ve met or spoken to have said that they’d never consider dating a girl they met off here.

It’s stupid but it’s my experience of this place, that by being on here I’ll only ever be good enough to fuck but not date.

It's the same on the opposite side of the aisle. Women just don't expect a genuinely high quality male to stoop as low as to join a site like this. As such, I feel most see the guys on here as meat. There's pretty meat and unpretty meat. I would've considered dating a woman on here but unfortunately the vast majority are too busy looking at the candy wrapping of the gym bods than seeking out anything deeper.

As for this site being more honest. Nonsense. Why would someone favour a dating site where they don't show their face over one where they do? Can you imagine the carnage that would occur to some people's opportunities on here if Fab suddenly started leading with face pics and people just swiped right to like and left to block.

I want to go somewhere where I can safely initiate flirtatious conversations with women I already know I'm likely to be attracted to... ideally in a real world setting where I can sense there's also some chemistry. That, to me, is more honest, not less.

The "sex first, ask questions later" format of Fab also doesn't work well for me. I want to get to know someone first before I make the decision, completely unpressured, to get intimate with them. Next time I fuck someone I want it to already be something I'm highly likely to want to do again, not just a test it and see.

But none of this should be any surprise to anyone. I came onto this site an unapologetic romantic and I am leaving as one too "

Agree with much of the above.

Some of the female profiles I’ve come across on here are extraordinarily poorly written and very few have clear face pics. Yet they are all inundated with messages. Then quite a few women on here seem to be trying to find monogamous relationships - “there’s an app for that” and it isn’t this one, unless you’re utterly deluded. At the end of the day this is only one avenue to meet people.

I’d suggest trying singles events - you get the opportunity to meet real, normal, women in the flesh who aren’t just attention seeking from behind an anonymous internet profile.

The quality of the women attending these events is usually far higher than the quality of the guys, which works in our favour...

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

It's the same on the opposite side of the aisle. Women just don't expect a genuinely high quality male to stoop as low as to join a site like this. As such, I feel most see the guys on here as meat. There's pretty meat and unpretty meat. I would've considered dating a woman on here but unfortunately the vast majority are too busy looking at the candy wrapping of the gym bods than seeking out anything deeper.

"

No, no, no, I'm not letting you get away with that - your bitterness is showing and it's not pretty!!!

There are genuinely high quality men on here, I have met several of them, and I think many women would leave if they did not also think that was the case - rare finds though they may be amongst all the randy chancers.

And it is really sour grapes to condemn women for being more attracted to men with good masculine physiques, whether they were obtained in the gym or just naturally blessed. Yes, we are spoiled for choice on fab, but that does NOT mean we want nothing deeper, on the contrary, most of us still hope for both.

And in my case (and many others I suspect) as I told you privately, it primarily takes a certain kind of focus anyway, and to my mind that's what your approach lacked here, you were too scattered.

I would hazard a guess that a vast percentage of women here do not want to just 'fuck it and see' either - that's a large part of the reason for the tension between the sexes on here - many men do want to do precisely that, so those who don't should be cleaning up!

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Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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It's the same on the opposite side of the aisle. Women just don't expect a genuinely high quality male to stoop as low as to join a site like this. As such, I feel most see the guys on here as meat. There's pretty meat and unpretty meat. I would've considered dating a woman on here but unfortunately the vast majority are too busy looking at the candy wrapping of the gym bods than seeking out anything deeper.

No, no, no, I'm not letting you get away with that - your bitterness is showing and it's not pretty!!!

There are genuinely high quality men on here, I have met several of them, and I think many women would leave if they did not also think that was the case - rare finds though they may be amongst all the randy chancers.

And it is really sour grapes to condemn women for being more attracted to men with good masculine physiques, whether they were obtained in the gym or just naturally blessed. Yes, we are spoiled for choice on fab, but that does NOT mean we want nothing deeper, on the contrary, most of us still hope for both.

And in my case (and many others I suspect) as I told you privately, it primarily takes a certain kind of focus anyway, and to my mind that's what your approach lacked here, you were too scattered.

I would hazard a guess that a vast percentage of women here do not want to just 'fuck it and see' either - that's a large part of the reason for the tension between the sexes on here - many men do want to do precisely that, so those who don't should be cleaning up!"

Well said and I agree with you on this.

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