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Those pre-meet butterflies..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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.. do you still get them?
Is it any different if it’s a social or a play meet? Someone you’re meeting for the first time or a regular?
Or are you an old hand at this now and can take it all in your stride?
Can they be a good thing or a negative thing?
For me the excitement / tingle is half the fun of being here. When it stops, I stop I think.
Sometimes the adrenaline pumps so much I physically shake. I can’t help it, it’s just the involuntary result of the adrenaline!
But it’s a good nervous for me, and 10 minutes in I’ll be fine again.
What about you?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't tend to get nervous on 1-1 social meets anymore. I get more butterflies for a proper meets but it's as much the anticipation. Especially if there has been chat and build up about the meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only time when I was nervous was when I went to my first club over a year ago. After that, the nerves just went away and I haven't been nervous ever since. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
The day I stop being nervous and getting butterflies before a meet, is the day that I need to stop having them - it's the same every time, being an overthinker I fret about all sorts and stuff I probably shouldn't - but I still go ahead, steel myself and like you Dan, 10 minutes or so in and I wonder what I was fretting about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always get nervous before a meet be it the first time or a repeat. I think nerves are good and, that butterfly feeling is nice. But after a few minutes of taking I’m ok x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".. do you still get them?
Is it any different if it’s a social or a play meet? Someone you’re meeting for the first time or a regular?
Or are you an old hand at this now and can take it all in your stride?
Can they be a good thing or a negative thing?
For me the excitement / tingle is half the fun of being here. When it stops, I stop I think.
Sometimes the adrenaline pumps so much I physically shake. I can’t help it, it’s just the involuntary result of the adrenaline!
But it’s a good nervous for me, and 10 minutes in I’ll be fine again.
What about you? "
I’m a bag of nerves and I ramble on about a load of crap! As you know!
And something always goes wrong. Spilt coffee over one person, my sunglasses fell off my head into his pint with another one and I went arse over tit flat on my face in a park one time. It’s no wonder I get nervous  |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
As has been said above, the nervous anticipation is all part of the fun. Especially for a first meeting. With people I have met before it’s usually just excitement rather than nerves.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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".. do you still get them?
Is it any different if it’s a social or a play meet? Someone you’re meeting for the first time or a regular?
Or are you an old hand at this now and can take it all in your stride?
Can they be a good thing or a negative thing?
For me the excitement / tingle is half the fun of being here. When it stops, I stop I think.
Sometimes the adrenaline pumps so much I physically shake. I can’t help it, it’s just the involuntary result of the adrenaline!
But it’s a good nervous for me, and 10 minutes in I’ll be fine again.
What about you?
I’m a bag of nerves and I ramble on about a load of crap! As you know!
And something always goes wrong. Spilt coffee over one person, my sunglasses fell off my head into his pint with another one and I went arse over tit flat on my face in a park one time. It’s no wonder I get nervous "
I was more worried about those mad locals and their even madder dogs!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".. do you still get them?
Is it any different if it’s a social or a play meet? Someone you’re meeting for the first time or a regular?
Or are you an old hand at this now and can take it all in your stride?
Can they be a good thing or a negative thing?
For me the excitement / tingle is half the fun of being here. When it stops, I stop I think.
Sometimes the adrenaline pumps so much I physically shake. I can’t help it, it’s just the involuntary result of the adrenaline!
But it’s a good nervous for me, and 10 minutes in I’ll be fine again.
What about you?
I’m a bag of nerves and I ramble on about a load of crap! As you know!
And something always goes wrong. Spilt coffee over one person, my sunglasses fell off my head into his pint with another one and I went arse over tit flat on my face in a park one time. It’s no wonder I get nervous
I was more worried about those mad locals and their even madder dogs! "
I take people to the best places |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I still get them and I actually really enjoy it. They are always tinged with a giddiness and a "fuck, this is actually happening". I don't think I'll ever lose them but if I did I know I'm not really into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do still get nervous yes even if Ive met them a few times, and sometimes even more so as you know what fun it will be. I wont say anything that coherent for the first few minutes or so either. So mute and shaking, but with a smile hopefully |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them. "
Yep this is me most times I meet someone, only ever fancied 2 in over a year  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them.
Yep this is me most times I meet someone, only ever fancied 2 in over a year "
Well this is awkward ..   |
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".. do you still get them?
Is it any different if it’s a social or a play meet? Someone you’re meeting for the first time or a regular?
Or are you an old hand at this now and can take it all in your stride?
Can they be a good thing or a negative thing?
For me the excitement / tingle is half the fun of being here. When it stops, I stop I think.
Sometimes the adrenaline pumps so much I physically shake. I can’t help it, it’s just the involuntary result of the adrenaline!
But it’s a good nervous for me, and 10 minutes in I’ll be fine again.
What about you? "
I'm nervous and get a huge amount of butterflies. I'm nervous for the first hour of so of a social meet.
Play meet, I'm always nervous in case I'm not what they remembered and don't live up to memories/expectations. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them. "
Please put us out our misery and tell us it's the Gym masseur dude -otherwise I don't think the forums can cope with any more episodes of the soap opera |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them.
Yep this is me most times I meet someone, only ever fancied 2 in over a year
Well this is awkward .. "
Hahahaha!! of course you’re one of them you plum |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Only on two occasions have I been nervous going into a meet and that was with two good friends that had long been hotlist material before we began chatting. Almost felt like meeting a celebrity!
5-10 mins in and I was relaxed and on top of the world  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely get a bit nervous!..not so bad one on one but when I've met with couples, on a previous couples profile, I was always a nervous wreck, to the point of almost cancelling... But like everyone else says once I got there..had a drink or two...it was fine!! I've yet to meet any couples on this single profile so god knows what I'll be like!!! Lol!!  |
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"I don't really get nervous - over-excited and silly maybe, my friends might notice I'm bouncing off the walls slightly more than normal lol, but not nervous.  "
I’m similar to this! I’m a naturally confident person so nerves don’t tend to affect me but I’m certainly bouncing off the walls with the thrill .... anticipation... butterflies... etc
I have a non fab regular playmate who I’m always excited to see, he’s such a delight to be with social or play. Of all my meets I have only experienced a few ‘outstanding’ sizzling connections where I just knew it would be off the scale.... the one above absolutely! and definitely certainly the one I’m about to meet!! Sooooo excited  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them.
Yep this is me most times I meet someone, only ever fancied 2 in over a year
Well this is awkward ..
Hahahaha!! of course you’re one of them you plum "
Ah haha! Pants on fire!!  |
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them. "
Hope it goes well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them.
Please put us out our misery and tell us it's the Gym masseur dude -otherwise I don't think the forums can cope with any more episodes of the soap opera"
Nope not my work colleague, was someone off here, wanted to finger some different pies in a bid to get rid of my crush!
He was an absolute gent, very polite. Conversation was a bit too deep, add that to it being close to my time of the month and I start crying. I’m a dick head. So embarrassed  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Moral of the story. Don’t meet people when you’re due on and your mind is full.
I’m really in a reflective mood now. "
Ah don’t worry about it! These things happen! Smile, move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No.
I have no idea how the notion of meeting another person makes people nervous. "
Butterflies doesn’t have to signify negative nerves - it can signify excitement or even positive nervous excitement for me.
I’m pretty sure I’d quit Fab the minute I was emotionless about meeting anybody to be honest.
It’s the adrenaline rush and the butterflies that keeps me here and makes me want to meet relative strangers off the Internet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them.
Please put us out our misery and tell us it's the Gym masseur dude -otherwise I don't think the forums can cope with any more episodes of the soap opera
Nope not my work colleague, was someone off here, wanted to finger some different pies in a bid to get rid of my crush!
He was an absolute gent, very polite. Conversation was a bit too deep, add that to it being close to my time of the month and I start crying. I’m a dick head. So embarrassed "
How did he react? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".. do you still get them?
Is it any different if it’s a social or a play meet? Someone you’re meeting for the first time or a regular?
Or are you an old hand at this now and can take it all in your stride?
Can they be a good thing or a negative thing?
For me the excitement / tingle is half the fun of being here. When it stops, I stop I think.
Sometimes the adrenaline pumps so much I physically shake. I can’t help it, it’s just the involuntary result of the adrenaline!
But it’s a good nervous for me, and 10 minutes in I’ll be fine again.
What about you? "
If it's a first meet I just assume they won't turn up so I don't feel anything really.
For the people I've been meeting a long time I still get butterflies. It's excited anticipation. |
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".. do you still get them?
Is it any different if it’s a social or a play meet? Someone you’re meeting for the first time or a regular?
Or are you an old hand at this now and can take it all in your stride?
Can they be a good thing or a negative thing?
For me the excitement / tingle is half the fun of being here. When it stops, I stop I think.
Sometimes the adrenaline pumps so much I physically shake. I can’t help it, it’s just the involuntary result of the adrenaline!
But it’s a good nervous for me, and 10 minutes in I’ll be fine again.
What about you?
If it's a first meet I just assume they won't turn up so I don't feel anything really.
For the people I've been meeting a long time I still get butterflies. It's excited anticipation. "
If it's a first meet I also don't expect them to turn up, but that's why I feel nervous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them.
Please put us out our misery and tell us it's the Gym masseur dude -otherwise I don't think the forums can cope with any more episodes of the soap opera
Nope not my work colleague, was someone off here, wanted to finger some different pies in a bid to get rid of my crush!
He was an absolute gent, very polite. Conversation was a bit too deep, add that to it being close to my time of the month and I start crying. I’m a dick head. So embarrassed
How did he react?"
He was fine, said not to worry or be embarrassed as I said I was embarrassed, has messaged to check I’m alright! |
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them.
Please put us out our misery and tell us it's the Gym masseur dude -otherwise I don't think the forums can cope with any more episodes of the soap opera
Nope not my work colleague, was someone off here, wanted to finger some different pies in a bid to get rid of my crush!
He was an absolute gent, very polite. Conversation was a bit too deep, add that to it being close to my time of the month and I start crying. I’m a dick head. So embarrassed
How did he react?
He was fine, said not to worry or be embarrassed as I said I was embarrassed, has messaged to check I’m alright! "
Lol awww bless!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m meeting someone later, only for a social and I’m nervous because I want and hope that I fancy him. Too many times have I gone to meet someone socially and I’m not attracted to them.
Please put us out our misery and tell us it's the Gym masseur dude -otherwise I don't think the forums can cope with any more episodes of the soap opera
Nope not my work colleague, was someone off here, wanted to finger some different pies in a bid to get rid of my crush!
He was an absolute gent, very polite. Conversation was a bit too deep, add that to it being close to my time of the month and I start crying. I’m a dick head. So embarrassed
How did he react?
He was fine, said not to worry or be embarrassed as I said I was embarrassed, has messaged to check I’m alright! "
He sounds like a keeper. |
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"I don't really get nervous - over-excited and silly maybe, my friends might notice I'm bouncing off the walls slightly more than normal lol, but not nervous.
I’m similar to this! I’m a naturally confident person so nerves don’t tend to affect me but I’m certainly bouncing off the walls with the thrill .... anticipation... butterflies... etc
I have a non fab regular playmate who I’m always excited to see, he’s such a delight to be with social or play. Of all my meets I have only experienced a few ‘outstanding’ sizzling connections where I just knew it would be off the scale.... the one above absolutely! and definitely certainly the one I’m about to meet!! Sooooo excited "
Consider me thrilled  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I get too nervous which is why I try not to plan meets too far ahead. I only like to plan a day or two before... Any meets planned with a weeks notice just makes me too nervous and doesn't help my anxiety levels. |
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"I don't really get nervous - over-excited and silly maybe, my friends might notice I'm bouncing off the walls slightly more than normal lol, but not nervous.
I’m similar to this! I’m a naturally confident person so nerves don’t tend to affect me but I’m certainly bouncing off the walls with the thrill .... anticipation... butterflies... etc
I have a non fab regular playmate who I’m always excited to see, he’s such a delight to be with social or play. Of all my meets I have only experienced a few ‘outstanding’ sizzling connections where I just knew it would be off the scale.... the one above absolutely! and definitely certainly the one I’m about to meet!! Sooooo excited
Consider me thrilled "
Me too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't really get nervous - over-excited and silly maybe, my friends might notice I'm bouncing off the walls slightly more than normal lol, but not nervous.
I’m similar to this! I’m a naturally confident person so nerves don’t tend to affect me but I’m certainly bouncing off the walls with the thrill .... anticipation... butterflies... etc
I have a non fab regular playmate who I’m always excited to see, he’s such a delight to be with social or play. Of all my meets I have only experienced a few ‘outstanding’ sizzling connections where I just knew it would be off the scale.... the one above absolutely! and definitely certainly the one I’m about to meet!! Sooooo excited
Consider me thrilled
Me too "
I would say “get a room you two!” but I’m guessing you already have!! have fun! |
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"I don't really get nervous - over-excited and silly maybe, my friends might notice I'm bouncing off the walls slightly more than normal lol, but not nervous.
I’m similar to this! I’m a naturally confident person so nerves don’t tend to affect me but I’m certainly bouncing off the walls with the thrill .... anticipation... butterflies... etc
I have a non fab regular playmate who I’m always excited to see, he’s such a delight to be with social or play. Of all my meets I have only experienced a few ‘outstanding’ sizzling connections where I just knew it would be off the scale.... the one above absolutely! and definitely certainly the one I’m about to meet!! Sooooo excited
Consider me thrilled
Me too
I would say “get a room you two!” but I’m guessing you already have!! have fun! "
Erm... I’m saying nothing! |
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We get the butterflies still as well. It tends to be a mixture of excitement, anticipation and nerves whether it's a first meet or a repeat. Think we would be a bit concerned if there was none of that to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Butterflies happening big time...
Just remember the other person is probably feeling exactly the same! Hope it went well! x
Nah, it was the worst meet I've ever had!"
Ah shit happens sometimes. Block him! |
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"Butterflies happening big time...
Just remember the other person is probably feeling exactly the same! Hope it went well! x
Nah, it was the worst meet I've ever had!
Ah shit happens sometimes. Block him! "
Will do! |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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Don't know that I've felt butterflies probably due to not ever feeling that overwhelming physical attraction with someone before meeting. Yes I've had great connections and liked people but that doesn't make me nervous etc. |
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