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Race abuse for saying thanks but no thanks

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Why is it ok to use race to abuse someone when they have been nothing but polite and cordial with a rejection message?

Guys say ‘it’d be nice to receive a no thanks message’ so thats what i do. (My profile clearly states meeting stipulations and has necessary filters in place) so why be horrible?

Yes i did block and report. Rejection should surely be taken gracefully on here???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people are just cunts. I know it's easy to say don't let it bother you but it really is their issue not yours.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You just can't win with some people..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What exactly do you say when you reject them?

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

"Some people are just cunts. I know it's easy to say don't let it bother you but it really is their issue not yours. "

My eyes haven’t woken up properly. But I thought for a minute you’d changed your profile pic to be a pic of a rabbit.

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By *dward_TeagueMan over a year ago

wolverhampton

It’s a completely unacceptable and inappropriate response. There should be no place for folk like that on here.

Small minded bigots really boil my piss. I loathe racism, sexism and prejudice of any kind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What exactly do you say when you reject them?"

Hi ———

Thanks for the message but its a no thanks from me. Sorry. Happy fabbing.

My username.

Or if they’ve sent a one liner. Simply thanks but no thanks.

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By *ittleAcornMan over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Some people are just cunts. I know it's easy to say don't let it bother you but it really is their issue not yours.

My eyes haven’t woken up properly. But I thought for a minute you’d changed your profile pic to be a pic of a rabbit.

Lol

Me too, now got my reading glasses on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So the person(s)in question go from wanting potential fun with you to racial abuse OP ?

Pathetic childish and wrong I wouldn't take it too personally OP .

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By *ittleAcornMan over a year ago

visiting the beach

"What exactly do you say when you reject them?

Hi ———

Thanks for the message but its a no thanks from me. Sorry. Happy fabbing.

My username.

Or if they’ve sent a one liner. Simply thanks but no thanks. "

That's more than I've received most of the time on here. I can't see any problem with that.

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By *eKoopleCouple over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

It’s an utter disgrace and I trust the moderators would deal with that fool with a ban.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it ok to use race to abuse someone when they have been nothing but polite and cordial with a rejection message?

Guys say ‘it’d be nice to receive a no thanks message’ so thats what i do. (My profile clearly states meeting stipulations and has necessary filters in place) so why be horrible?

Yes i did block and report. Rejection should surely be taken gracefully on here??? "
it should you're right no excuse for abuse

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS over a year ago

west here ford shire

"What exactly do you say when you reject them?

Hi ———

Thanks for the message but its a no thanks from me. Sorry. Happy fabbing.

My username.

Or if they’ve sent a one liner. Simply thanks but no thanks. "

The person needs reporting op

There is no rhyme or reason to bigotry like that

I am so sorrry you were abused by this person.

If it helps I think your lovely

But as others have said no room in society for people like that, yet alone on a meeting site, you have to wonder what they would be like in person ?

Very scary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What exactly do you say when you reject them?

Hi ———

Thanks for the message but its a no thanks from me. Sorry. Happy fabbing.

My username.

Or if they’ve sent a one liner. Simply thanks but no thanks. "

I don't think it's racial abuse as such, just butt hurt. They really want to fuck you but you don't want them so it hurts.

See it as a double positive -

You were right to turn them down as no-one wants to meet an abusive person.

And take the abuse as a compliment. The worse the abuse the more they wanted to fuck you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What exactly do you say when you reject them?

Hi ———

Thanks for the message but its a no thanks from me. Sorry. Happy fabbing.

My username.

Or if they’ve sent a one liner. Simply thanks but no thanks.

I don't think it's racial abuse as such, just butt hurt. They really want to fuck you but you don't want them so it hurts.

See it as a double positive -

You were right to turn them down as no-one wants to meet an abusive person.

And take the abuse as a compliment. The worse the abuse the more they wanted to fuck you.

Huh, this is some fuzzy logic here Doris. Unless you know what the messages the lady received were, you can’t really comment whether it was racial abuse or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What exactly do you say when you reject them?

Hi ———

Thanks for the message but its a no thanks from me. Sorry. Happy fabbing.

My username.

Or if they’ve sent a one liner. Simply thanks but no thanks.

I don't think it's racial abuse as such, just butt hurt. They really want to fuck you but you don't want them so it hurts.

See it as a double positive -

You were right to turn them down as no-one wants to meet an abusive person.

And take the abuse as a compliment. The worse the abuse the more they wanted to fuck you.

Huh, this is some fuzzy logic here Doris. Unless you know what the messages the lady received were, you can’t really comment whether it was racial abuse or not. "

You know my logic is always fuzzy at best.

Sorry I mean the intent was to hurt, not that the intent was racially motivated. If they were primarily racist they wouldn't have asked for a fuck. Like when they say "ohhh you're so fat and ugly" when rejected. It's just a childish response.

Their original intent (probably) was they wanted a fuck. Otherwise their very first message would have been the abusive one.

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By *eeBee67Man over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Never ok to abuse if refused.

Make you wonder what they are like in real life.

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By *ara JTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol East

"Why is it ok to use race to abuse someone when they have been nothing but polite and cordial with a rejection message?

Guys say ‘it’d be nice to receive a no thanks message’ so thats what i do. (My profile clearly states meeting stipulations and has necessary filters in place) so why be horrible?

Yes i did block and report. Rejection should surely be taken gracefully on here??? "

Says everything about them and absolutely nothing about you.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s not ok. It’s just the instant gratification sulk culture

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Why is it ok to use race to abuse someone when they have been nothing but polite and cordial with a rejection message?

Guys say ‘it’d be nice to receive a no thanks message’ so thats what i do. (My profile clearly states meeting stipulations and has necessary filters in place) so why be horrible?

Yes i did block and report. Rejection should surely be taken gracefully on here??? "

You've taken the only action you can by reporting and blocking, it's now in admins hands.

Have a fun weekend.

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By *tonMessCouple over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

What others do is their Karma, how you respond is yours.

Report, block, forget and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What exactly do you say when you reject them?

Hi ———

Thanks for the message but its a no thanks from me. Sorry. Happy fabbing.

My username.

Or if they’ve sent a one liner. Simply thanks but no thanks.

I don't think it's racial abuse as such, just butt hurt. They really want to fuck you but you don't want them so it hurts.

See it as a double positive -

You were right to turn them down as no-one wants to meet an abusive person.

And take the abuse as a compliment. The worse the abuse the more they wanted to fuck you.

Huh, this is some fuzzy logic here Doris. Unless you know what the messages the lady received were, you can’t really comment whether it was racial abuse or not.

You know my logic is always fuzzy at best.

Their original intent (probably) was they wanted a fuck. Otherwise their very first message would have been the abusive one.

If race is the first thing they went for then yes they are early racist....

I understand what you mean but you wouldnt say a man wasnt a misogynist just because he wanted to sleep with women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This has happened to me far too regularly on here and was one of the reasons I stopped sending “No thanks” and just deleted instead.

Even deleting them, I’ll still get it sometimes. Some people are so bitter, nasty and angry they feel better trying to insult the colour of your skin after trying to meet with you. It says more about them than it does you.

If someone has to resort to insulting your skin colour over something as trivial as polite rejection, you dodged a huge bullet. That’s how I seee it.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"It’s not ok. It’s just the instant gratification sulk culture

This with a vile racial element to boot..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've been accused of being racist after a polite no thanks.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Why is it ok to use race to abuse someone when they have been nothing but polite and cordial with a rejection message?

Guys say ‘it’d be nice to receive a no thanks message’ so thats what i do. (My profile clearly states meeting stipulations and has necessary filters in place) so why be horrible?

Yes i did block and report. Rejection should surely be taken gracefully on here??? "

I wouldn't call it "racial" per se: it's petulance at being rejected. If you'd been big you'd have gone from "curvy real woman" to fat cunt! Report all and any abuse.

I'd also review my messaging process: either suck it up buttercup accept some men get butt hurt at rejection and report or ignore and block messages from those you're not interested in.

Fab should be about you, don't let a few spoilt brats spoil it for you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are just cunts. I know it's easy to say don't let it bother you but it really is their issue not yours.

My eyes haven’t woken up properly. But I thought for a minute you’d changed your profile pic to be a pic of a rabbit. "

So did I!!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"What exactly do you say when you reject them?

Hi ———

Thanks for the message but its a no thanks from me. Sorry. Happy fabbing.

My username.

Or if they’ve sent a one liner. Simply thanks but no thanks.

I don't think it's racial abuse as such, just butt hurt. They really want to fuck you but you don't want them so it hurts.

See it as a double positive -

You were right to turn them down as no-one wants to meet an abusive person.

And take the abuse as a compliment. The worse the abuse the more they wanted to fuck you.

Huh, this is some fuzzy logic here Doris. Unless you know what the messages the lady received were, you can’t really comment whether it was racial abuse or not.

You know my logic is always fuzzy at best.

Their original intent (probably) was they wanted a fuck. Otherwise their very first message would have been the abusive one.

how I see it too.

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By *wingin CatMan over a year ago

London

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By *wingin CatMan over a year ago

London

Sadly, the race card works both ways (ie, outright racism, or accusations of racism), and neither of them are acceptable behaviour at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s some weird people on here. Like you, I’ve had racial abuse for declining people. I’ve also had people use racist words to try and get a reaction from me because it turns them on. Odd

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