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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile is perfect.....
I would suggest putting looking for men with erectile dysfunction in there somewhere....
These are the type of men that are really not looking for penetrative sex... |
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By *pal OP Woman
over a year ago
The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk |
"Your profile is perfect.....
I would suggest putting looking for men with erectile dysfunction in there somewhere....
These are the type of men that are really not looking for penetrative sex..."
nothing is perfect in life as for your suggestion that wouldn't work for me as I love to give oral.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you could streamline, people will want to ask questions and you have kinda put a lot of detail about you on there straight away
“I am only attracted to single men who can accommodate in their own home within a half an hour's drive from me. I can rarely accommodate and only do so if I feel comfortable to.
If you are honest with me from the start and can hold an intelligent conversation, (so no text speak or lol's) enjoys lots of kissing, slow sensual erotic mutual fun,teasing and caressing,exploring one another's naked bodies with long foreplay and not someone who has to keep an eye on the time. If you are not in a position to spend an afternoon/evening with me then we will never meet.
I adore and I do enjoy giving and receiving oral,love a good massage along with some sensation bdsm play which is optional.
THERE WILL BE NO PENETRATIVE SEX.It does nothing for me but giving pleasure is such a turn on for me exploring together our wants and desires is what I seek. So no quick meets.
I do like to get to know you as it is not just the intimacy I am looking for but making a few friends who have the same interests as me. After a few initial messages I will want to speak to you on the phone, so that does mean we exchange numbers. I find that is a really good indicator as to whether there could be a possible social meet which will only ever be in public with no agendas.
If we do meet socially I will expect you to make an effort and be shower fresh,smelling delicious as that is a huge turn on for me.
I do not do hotel meets,or if you are passing through my area”
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Honestly, I think anything longer than "horny, easy, take me now, (phone number, Kik, postcode)" is too long for many guys. Use it as a filter. If they can't read a few hundred words, are they likely to make the effort with you? |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Can you please explain why a "straight" man is only looking for men?
Am I missing something here?"
Jus checking you're a real woman and not one of dem catfishes everyone on here keeps complainin bout- seems dema sre too many fakes about |
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By *pal OP Woman
over a year ago
The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk |
"I think you could streamline, people will want to ask questions and you have kinda put a lot of detail about you on there straight away
“I am only attracted to single men who can accommodate in their own home within a half an hour's drive from me. I can rarely accommodate and only do so if I feel comfortable to.
If you are honest with me from the start and can hold an intelligent conversation, (so no text speak or lol's) enjoys lots of kissing, slow sensual erotic mutual fun,teasing and caressing,exploring one another's naked bodies with long foreplay and not someone who has to keep an eye on the time. If you are not in a position to spend an afternoon/evening with me then we will never meet.
I adore and I do enjoy giving and receiving oral,love a good massage along with some sensation bdsm play which is optional.
THERE WILL BE NO PENETRATIVE SEX.It does nothing for me but giving pleasure is such a turn on for me exploring together our wants and desires is what I seek. So no quick meets.
I do like to get to know you as it is not just the intimacy I am looking for but making a few friends who have the same interests as me. After a few initial messages I will want to speak to you on the phone, so that does mean we exchange numbers. I find that is a really good indicator as to whether there could be a possible social meet which will only ever be in public with no agendas.
If we do meet socially I will expect you to make an effort and be shower fresh,smelling delicious as that is a huge turn on for me.
I do not do hotel meets,or if you are passing through my area”
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I hear what you are saying but have found from past experiences that by putting what I am looking for and going into detail saves me repeating myself over and over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At the end of the day I read all profile details if I’m going to message someone, it’s a woman’s paradise on here and will find what you’re looking for at some point, you will still get idiots who text |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you please explain why a "straight" man is only looking for men?
How much did you even read if you failed even seeing her gender?  "
This made me laugh |
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By *pal OP Woman
over a year ago
The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk |
"At the end of the day I read all profile details if I’m going to message someone, it’s a woman’s paradise on here and will find what you’re looking for at some point, you will still get idiots who text "
I read profiles before replying and if they have made an effort they are more likely to get a response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve read 90 % of it and although not for us you are going to be inundated by a lot of people on here. If it puts them off it is a kind of a filter that you may be better of leaving as is. See how it rolls. |
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By *pal OP Woman
over a year ago
The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk |
"I’ve read 90 % of it and although not for us you are going to be inundated by a lot of people on here. If it puts them off it is a kind of a filter that you may be better of leaving as is. See how it rolls."
I think it's very unlikely that I will be inundated that sort of thing just doesn't happen to me... Thankfully. But agree to it being a filter. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
Just my personal opinion but It is a bit on the long side,with out much humor to keep me reading further. The no penetration bit wouldn't put me off but it being all in caps might, i get that your trying to highlight it but caps does meen shouting in these parts  . Other than that its all good.
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Can you please explain why a "straight" man is only looking for men?
How much did you even read if you failed even seeing her gender?
This made me laugh "
Ah wading in the shallow waters of the stream feeding lake irony again are we? |
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"I think you could streamline, people will want to ask questions and you have kinda put a lot of detail about you on there straight away
“I am only attracted to single men who can accommodate in their own home within a half an hour's drive from me. I can rarely accommodate and only do so if I feel comfortable to.
If you are honest with me from the start and can hold an intelligent conversation, (so no text speak or lol's) enjoys lots of kissing, slow sensual erotic mutual fun,teasing and caressing,exploring one another's naked bodies with long foreplay and not someone who has to keep an eye on the time. If you are not in a position to spend an afternoon/evening with me then we will never meet.
I adore and I do enjoy giving and receiving oral,love a good massage along with some sensation bdsm play which is optional.
THERE WILL BE NO PENETRATIVE SEX.It does nothing for me but giving pleasure is such a turn on for me exploring together our wants and desires is what I seek. So no quick meets.
I do like to get to know you as it is not just the intimacy I am looking for but making a few friends who have the same interests as me. After a few initial messages I will want to speak to you on the phone, so that does mean we exchange numbers. I find that is a really good indicator as to whether there could be a possible social meet which will only ever be in public with no agendas.
If we do meet socially I will expect you to make an effort and be shower fresh,smelling delicious as that is a huge turn on for me.
I do not do hotel meets,or if you are passing through my area”
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F A F N |
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By *pal OP Woman
over a year ago
The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk |
"Just my personal opinion but It is a bit on the long side,with out much humor to keep me reading further. The no penetration bit wouldn't put me off but it being all in caps might, i get that your trying to highlight it but caps does meen shouting in these parts . Other than that its all good.
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Yes you have a point about putting caps on will change that. I do find it hard to put humour in a profile though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you please explain why a "straight" man is only looking for men?
How much did you even read if you failed even seeing her gender?
This made me laugh
Ah wading in the shallow waters of the stream feeding lake irony again are we?"
Excuse me? |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
Near Wells |
Well I liked it and if I wasn't breaking all the rules I would make contact.
If I'm going to message somebody I read and look at all of it. Generally when you message people you're hoping to meet sometime. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve read 90 % of it and although not for us you are going to be inundated by a lot of people on here. If it puts them off it is a kind of a filter that you may be better of leaving as is. See how it rolls.
I think it's very unlikely that I will be inundated that sort of thing just doesn't happen to me... Thankfully. But agree to it being a filter. "
I may have gone round the houses a bit.
As a lady on here use it as a filter. If you was a man on here I think you’d be changing it. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Can you please explain why a "straight" man is only looking for men?
How much did you even read if you failed even seeing her gender?
This made me laugh
Ah wading in the shallow waters of the stream feeding lake irony again are we?
Excuse me?"
I was making an obviously far too obscure reference both to the tons of single guys posting help threads on the same topic and to the tons of threads by single guys saying how many fake profiles there are ... I'll take a red card for that if that helps. |
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By *pal OP Woman
over a year ago
The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk |
"I’ve read 90 % of it and although not for us you are going to be inundated by a lot of people on here. If it puts them off it is a kind of a filter that you may be better of leaving as is. See how it rolls.
I think it's very unlikely that I will be inundated that sort of thing just doesn't happen to me... Thankfully. But agree to it being a filter.
I may have gone round the houses a bit.
As a lady on here use it as a filter. If you was a man on here I think you’d be changing it."
I think a few tweaks will be happening over the weekend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you please explain why a "straight" man is only looking for men?
How much did you even read if you failed even seeing her gender?
This made me laugh
Ah wading in the shallow waters of the stream feeding lake irony again are we?
Excuse me?
I was making an obviously far too obscure reference both to the tons of single guys posting help threads on the same topic and to the tons of threads by single guys saying how many fake profiles there are ... I'll take a red card for that if that helps."
And how does a single man asking for help or complaining about fakes have anything to do with this thread? |
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Other than what people have said so far... if you don’t like penetrative sex then you should leave that part in as I’m guessing you want to be up front. Perhaps just lose the capitals?
Or you could say soft play or oral only. Says the same but maybe not as offputting? Personally when I read a profile I like to see one or two verifications shown. You have the tick showing you are verified but I like to follow the threads to make sure they lead to an active member with veris showing and not “profile hidden’. Just a point that might make some people feel more comfortable contacting you. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Can you please explain why a "straight" man is only looking for men?
How much did you even read if you failed even seeing her gender?
This made me laugh
Ah wading in the shallow waters of the stream feeding lake irony again are we?
Excuse me?
I was making an obviously far too obscure reference both to the tons of single guys posting help threads on the same topic and to the tons of threads by single guys saying how many fake profiles there are ... I'll take a red card for that if that helps.
And how does a single man asking for help or complaining about fakes have anything to do with this thread?"
I could explain at length, but the short answer is the "joke" was in it possibly being a catfish thread. Anyway, by the time I have explained myself in short story terms, the subtlety has long since flowed into the ocean of misunderstanding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you please explain why a "straight" man is only looking for men?
How much did you even read if you failed even seeing her gender?
This made me laugh
Ah wading in the shallow waters of the stream feeding lake irony again are we?
Excuse me?
I was making an obviously far too obscure reference both to the tons of single guys posting help threads on the same topic and to the tons of threads by single guys saying how many fake profiles there are ... I'll take a red card for that if that helps.
And how does a single man asking for help or complaining about fakes have anything to do with this thread?
I could explain at length, but the short answer is the "joke" was in it possibly being a catfish thread. Anyway, by the time I have explained myself in short story terms, the subtlety has long since flowed into the ocean of misunderstanding."
Oooooooo so you’re implying that OP is a catfish?
Got it   |
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By *pal OP Woman
over a year ago
The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk |
"Other than what people have said so far... if you don’t like penetrative sex then you should leave that part in as I’m guessing you want to be up front. Perhaps just lose the capitals?
Or you could say soft play or oral only. Says the same but maybe not as offputting? Personally when I read a profile I like to see one or two verifications shown. You have the tick showing you are verified but I like to follow the threads to make sure they lead to an active member with veris showing and not “profile hidden’. Just a point that might make some people feel more comfortable contacting you. "
I have already removed the caps but like the suggestion of soft play only. I choose not to show my veris as who I have met (which have been more socially than fun)and what happened is between me and the men I have met, not for public display. |
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"Other than what people have said so far... if you don’t like penetrative sex then you should leave that part in as I’m guessing you want to be up front. Perhaps just lose the capitals?
Or you could say soft play or oral only. Says the same but maybe not as offputting? Personally when I read a profile I like to see one or two verifications shown. You have the tick showing you are verified but I like to follow the threads to make sure they lead to an active member with veris showing and not “profile hidden’. Just a point that might make some people feel more comfortable contacting you.
I have already removed the caps but like the suggestion of soft play only. I choose not to show my veris as who I have met (which have been more socially than fun)and what happened is between me and the men I have met, not for public display."
Cool. Glad the ‘soft play’ is an idea you like. Understand what you say about veris. We only have social verifications showing for the same reason . (There are lots because we socialise more than anything else ) but I do still think 1 or 2 social verifications help. X |
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I like your profile op - you come across as together, clear and intelligent. I'm guessing a lot of guys message you without reading and aren't suitable - but it's helpful for those who read that you outline specifics of what you do and don't want.
Wishing you great results |
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By *pal OP Woman
over a year ago
The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk |
"I like your profile op - you come across as together, clear and intelligent. I'm guessing a lot of guys message you without reading and aren't suitable - but it's helpful for those who read that you outline specifics of what you do and don't want.
Wishing you great results "
Thank you. The few messages I do get tend not to be what I am looking for.  |
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"If you lot think that profiles too long- i've definitely got no hope here with my novel 
I keep going back and forth on mine, but many don't even get past "won't meet smokers"  "
So you don't get bothered by the ashtrays...win-win
(good profile btw ) |
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