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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

The husband needs shooting (Zsalynn's).

Amazing woman.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This show is crazy... I had to stop watching after they showed how much she eats daily....

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

In America you can never go hungry.....

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple  over a year ago

Bedworth


"How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?"

Don’t panic and get your daily mail in a twist. It’s an American show, not British so they won’t be claiming benefits here

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?

Don’t panic and get your daily mail in a twist. It’s an American show, not British so they won’t be claiming benefits here"

It was meant in general.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

600lb life and 90 day fiancé are my guilty pleasures! Glad it isnt just me!

Mrs x

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman  over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?

Don’t panic and get your daily mail in a twist. It’s an American show, not British so they won’t be claiming benefits here It was meant in general."

Supermarkets sell everything in bulk. Also they use corn syrup in almost everything to keep costs down.

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By *_Yeah19Couple  over a year ago

Lincoln

Used to watch this loads, but didn’t agree with the approaches most of the time. Always thought the families needed more help than they got, they are the ones facilitating the problems especially with the bedridden people, so more early intervention with them all together and better education of what they are eating might have saved surgery being necessary.

And there alsways seemed to be some mental issue or background story of why they got so big in the first place so dealing with that more (I know they sometimes went to therapy) May have been better too, otherwise you’re just sticking a plaster over the problem and they end up pureeing a KFC to get round their band/lack of stomach

TB

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?

Don’t panic and get your daily mail in a twist. It’s an American show, not British so they won’t be claiming benefits here It was meant in general.

Supermarkets sell everything in bulk. Also they use corn syrup in almost everything to keep costs down."

Yeah but still must be expensive the amount of food they consume, like looking after an elephant.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Such a depressing programme.

People with mental health problems being exploited.

It's something I don't want to see but can't stop looking at it

I can completely relate to how these people get like that - it's frightening!

The only difference is that I don't have any enablers.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Shouldn't be so hard on yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Watching Michael's story. I love the Doctor, just so factual and will not be manipulated by the patients.

He stated a 10,000 calorie a day is what someone eats to maintain a 600lb body... Wow

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Watching Michael's story. I love the Doctor, just so factual and will not be manipulated by the patients.

He stated a 10,000 calorie a day is what someone eats to maintain a 600lb body... Wow

"

Yeah just 4x more than the average man who weighs 196 pounds.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap...

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap..."

Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap..."

I don't think its putting up with crap its people they care for and its bad love giving them food when they are saying they are really hungry.

The reality is they should be firm and not feed them but its very hard to deny someone you care for food.

As for finding someone well there is someone for everyone so I wouldn't worry.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap... Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds"

Or suggested they got help?

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap... Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

Or suggested they got help? "

yeah it would be an ultimatum

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap... Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

Or suggested they got help? yeah it would be an ultimatum"

Im sure the support would be appreciated

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap... Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

Or suggested they got help? yeah it would be an ultimatum

Im sure the support would be appreciated"

tough love

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap... Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

Or suggested they got help? yeah it would be an ultimatum

Im sure the support would be appreciated tough love "

Hmmm

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap... Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

Or suggested they got help? yeah it would be an ultimatum

Im sure the support would be appreciated tough love

Hmmm "

Has to be done same with any addiction alcohol, drugs etc

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap... Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

Or suggested they got help? yeah it would be an ultimatum

Im sure the support would be appreciated tough love

Hmmm Has to be done same with any addiction alcohol, drugs etc "

Has that approach ever worked for you then?

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap... Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

Or suggested they got help? yeah it would be an ultimatum

Im sure the support would be appreciated tough love

Hmmm Has to be done same with any addiction alcohol, drugs etc

Has that approach ever worked for you then? "

Not come across it yet thankfully. I would take that approach though.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This show give me hope about getting married and having children some day....

Everyone of these obese people have a husband or wife that supports them...

So I should definitely be able to find someone to put up with my crap... Yeah I don't know how they put up with it. I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

Or suggested they got help? yeah it would be an ultimatum

Im sure the support would be appreciated tough love

Hmmm Has to be done same with any addiction alcohol, drugs etc

Has that approach ever worked for you then? Not come across it yet thankfully. I would take that approach though."

Ok. Well let me know how it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds"

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

"

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable. "

Charming

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming "

I would expect the same

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming "

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds..."

Thanks Sidney

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds..."

He said he would cut her out of his life?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? "

Sometimes you have to be extreme for people to take you seriously.....

I’m guessing he would have the same approach with a drug or alcohol abuser....

I had to deal with a person with a eating disorder, it wasn’t easy and I finally gave up

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? "

if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful."

Disrespectful to who?

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By *rkeb3Man  over a year ago

east Lancashire road

getting humiliated on TV for being fat yeah xo xo xo that's someone's fantasy

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? "

To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with discipline.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with discipline."

Oh wow.

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with discipline.

Oh wow. "

So you would let a future husband balloon and stay with him?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with discipline.

Oh wow. So you would let a future husband balloon and stay with him?"

I would support him to get the help he needed and be aware that people don't always have complete control of their actions. It would take an awful lot for me to walk away from someone I love and I certainly couldn't pin it down to a certain weight.

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with discipline.

Oh wow. So you would let a future husband balloon and stay with him?

I would support him to get the help he needed and be aware that people don't always have complete control of their actions. It would take an awful lot for me to walk away from someone I love and I certainly couldn't pin it down to a certain weight. "

Yeah they have to want to change though. These people never really do, some consequences could motivate that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

"

Well the enabling didn't help they are 600 pounds. Like closing the door after the horse has bolted. Might not be in that situation if they had more constructive help.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with discipline.

Oh wow. So you would let a future husband balloon and stay with him?

I would support him to get the help he needed and be aware that people don't always have complete control of their actions. It would take an awful lot for me to walk away from someone I love and I certainly couldn't pin it down to a certain weight. Yeah they have to want to change though. These people never really do, some consequences could motivate that. "

Your understanding of mental health issues is clearly lacking.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

Well the enabling didn't help they are 600 pounds. Like closing the door after the horse has bolted. Might not be in that situation if they had more constructive help."

And leaving them is constructive?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with discipline.

Oh wow. So you would let a future husband balloon and stay with him?

I would support him to get the help he needed and be aware that people don't always have complete control of their actions. It would take an awful lot for me to walk away from someone I love and I certainly couldn't pin it down to a certain weight. Yeah they have to want to change though. These people never really do, some consequences could motivate that. "

Depends how much they cared about you for your loss to be any sort of motivating factor I guess

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

Well the enabling didn't help they are 600 pounds. Like closing the door after the horse has bolted. Might not be in that situation if they had more constructive help.

And leaving them is constructive? "

They have to see some consequences, it's called detachment with love.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

Well the enabling didn't help they are 600 pounds. Like closing the door after the horse has bolted. Might not be in that situation if they had more constructive help.

And leaving them is constructive? They have to see some consequences, it's called detachment with love."

I think you've missed the point about that approach. It's not about walking away completely.

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

Well the enabling didn't help they are 600 pounds. Like closing the door after the horse has bolted. Might not be in that situation if they had more constructive help.

And leaving them is constructive? They have to see some consequences, it's called detachment with love.

I think you've missed the point about that approach. It's not about walking away completely. "

Well I'm not gonna enable them.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

Well the enabling didn't help they are 600 pounds. Like closing the door after the horse has bolted. Might not be in that situation if they had more constructive help.

And leaving them is constructive? They have to see some consequences, it's called detachment with love.

I think you've missed the point about that approach. It's not about walking away completely. "

Save your breath Dotty.

Men like him will never understand.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

Well the enabling didn't help they are 600 pounds. Like closing the door after the horse has bolted. Might not be in that situation if they had more constructive help.

And leaving them is constructive? They have to see some consequences, it's called detachment with love.

I think you've missed the point about that approach. It's not about walking away completely. Well I'm not gonna enable them."

fair enough. I pity the woman who loves you unconditionally.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

Well the enabling didn't help they are 600 pounds. Like closing the door after the horse has bolted. Might not be in that situation if they had more constructive help.

And leaving them is constructive? They have to see some consequences, it's called detachment with love.

I think you've missed the point about that approach. It's not about walking away completely.

Save your breath Dotty.

Men like him will never understand.

"

I give up. It just makes me sad that people think that way.

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I don't know why I'm surprised by comments like this on a site like this - and to be honest I don't know why I'm responding.

Well the enabling didn't help they are 600 pounds. Like closing the door after the horse has bolted. Might not be in that situation if they had more constructive help.

And leaving them is constructive? They have to see some consequences, it's called detachment with love.

I think you've missed the point about that approach. It's not about walking away completely. Well I'm not gonna enable them. fair enough. I pity the woman who loves you unconditionally. "

Unconditional love is not a good thing. Love is a like a reward.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"getting humiliated on TV for being fat yeah xo xo xo that's someone's fantasy

"

I imagine they got paid and that helped with cost of treatment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline."

Discipline?

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? "

Self discipline

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline "

No. It requires nutritional education, access and funds to appropriate foods, dietician, education of biological consequences, support network, therapist to assist with awareness of current relationship with food, and help finding strategies to replace food as a coping mechanism, and strategies to cope with emotions that will arise during journey, relationship to physical activity and physical capabilities, and of course motivation to want to change.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

These people are hungry to maintain their status quo, ie energy requirement for homeostasis of their body, at a cellular functioning level. If you are 10,000 calories a day and was restricted to 1200, I'm sure you'd be a wee bit peckish

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline "

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......"

Yeah but sounds like they would go to KFC or McDonald's for them.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......"

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need. "

Try to be honest if we are debating here....

It the weight that got your back up....

If we were talking about drinking or drug use ...

I’m sure Mr. White’s tough love analogy would be very charming....

Now back to abandoning someone you love....

Would you keep giving someone you love money to use drugs, drink , or gamble if they had a problem?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need.

Try to be honest if we are debating here....

It the weight that got your back up....

If we were talking about drinking or drug use ...

I’m sure Mr. White’s tough love analogy would be very charming....

Now back to abandoning someone you love....

Would you keep giving someone you love money to use drugs, drink , or gamble if they had a problem?"

So is that the only 2 options? Enable them or leave completely?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need.

Try to be honest if we are debating here....

It the weight that got your back up....

If we were talking about drinking or drug use ...

I’m sure Mr. White’s tough love analogy would be very charming....

Now back to abandoning someone you love....

Would you keep giving someone you love money to use drugs, drink , or gamble if they had a problem?

So is that the only 2 options? Enable them or leave completely? "

Ok so you’re a enabler, other people aren’t...

One way is not right or wrong

My uncle was a gambling addict.... my aunt used to have to go to the betting parlor on pay day to get his wages before he gambled it all away... She finally got fed up and kicked him out of the house and filed for divorce.....

You know what happened?

He realized he was ruining his family so he got help and stopped gambling....

They are together to this day... So sometimes tough love works... that’s all I’m saying...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need.

Try to be honest if we are debating here....

It the weight that got your back up....

If we were talking about drinking or drug use ...

I’m sure Mr. White’s tough love analogy would be very charming....

Now back to abandoning someone you love....

Would you keep giving someone you love money to use drugs, drink , or gamble if they had a problem?

So is that the only 2 options? Enable them or leave completely?

Ok so you’re a enabler, other people aren’t...

One way is not right or wrong

My uncle was a gambling addict.... my aunt used to have to go to the betting parlor on pay day to get his wages before he gambled it all away... She finally got fed up and kicked him out of the house and filed for divorce.....

You know what happened?

He realized he was ruining his family so he got help and stopped gambling....

They are together to this day... So sometimes tough love works... that’s all I’m saying...

"

Where in anything I've written have I said I'm an enabler?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need.

Try to be honest if we are debating here....

It the weight that got your back up....

If we were talking about drinking or drug use ...

I’m sure Mr. White’s tough love analogy would be very charming....

Now back to abandoning someone you love....

Would you keep giving someone you love money to use drugs, drink , or gamble if they had a problem?

So is that the only 2 options? Enable them or leave completely?

Ok so you’re a enabler, other people aren’t...

One way is not right or wrong

My uncle was a gambling addict.... my aunt used to have to go to the betting parlor on pay day to get his wages before he gambled it all away... She finally got fed up and kicked him out of the house and filed for divorce.....

You know what happened?

He realized he was ruining his family so he got help and stopped gambling....

They are together to this day... So sometimes tough love works... that’s all I’m saying...

Where in anything I've written have I said I'm an enabler? "

You have a future in politics.....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need.

Try to be honest if we are debating here....

It the weight that got your back up....

If we were talking about drinking or drug use ...

I’m sure Mr. White’s tough love analogy would be very charming....

Now back to abandoning someone you love....

Would you keep giving someone you love money to use drugs, drink , or gamble if they had a problem?

So is that the only 2 options? Enable them or leave completely?

Ok so you’re a enabler, other people aren’t...

One way is not right or wrong

My uncle was a gambling addict.... my aunt used to have to go to the betting parlor on pay day to get his wages before he gambled it all away... She finally got fed up and kicked him out of the house and filed for divorce.....

You know what happened?

He realized he was ruining his family so he got help and stopped gambling....

They are together to this day... So sometimes tough love works... that’s all I’m saying...

Where in anything I've written have I said I'm an enabler?

You have a future in politics....."

You have a future in story telling, you're already good at imagining things that have been written.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need.

Try to be honest if we are debating here....

It the weight that got your back up....

If we were talking about drinking or drug use ...

I’m sure Mr. White’s tough love analogy would be very charming....

Now back to abandoning someone you love....

Would you keep giving someone you love money to use drugs, drink , or gamble if they had a problem?

So is that the only 2 options? Enable them or leave completely?

Ok so you’re a enabler, other people aren’t...

One way is not right or wrong

My uncle was a gambling addict.... my aunt used to have to go to the betting parlor on pay day to get his wages before he gambled it all away... She finally got fed up and kicked him out of the house and filed for divorce.....

You know what happened?

He realized he was ruining his family so he got help and stopped gambling....

They are together to this day... So sometimes tough love works... that’s all I’m saying...

Where in anything I've written have I said I'm an enabler?

You have a future in politics.....

You have a future in story telling, you're already good at imagining things that have been written. "

Ok I’ll bite......

There are only two options......

Stay and enable the person you love to eat themselves to death

Or

Leave them at a certain weight, so they can see their actions are hurting the people they love....

Now if you find the tough love , leaving the person approach disrespectful... like you posted above... then you’re in the enabling camp.....

Now you really have a bright future in politics or criminal defense law....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need.

Try to be honest if we are debating here....

It the weight that got your back up....

If we were talking about drinking or drug use ...

I’m sure Mr. White’s tough love analogy would be very charming....

Now back to abandoning someone you love....

Would you keep giving someone you love money to use drugs, drink , or gamble if they had a problem?

So is that the only 2 options? Enable them or leave completely?

Ok so you’re a enabler, other people aren’t...

One way is not right or wrong

My uncle was a gambling addict.... my aunt used to have to go to the betting parlor on pay day to get his wages before he gambled it all away... She finally got fed up and kicked him out of the house and filed for divorce.....

You know what happened?

He realized he was ruining his family so he got help and stopped gambling....

They are together to this day... So sometimes tough love works... that’s all I’m saying...

Where in anything I've written have I said I'm an enabler?

You have a future in politics.....

You have a future in story telling, you're already good at imagining things that have been written.

Ok I’ll bite......

There are only two options......

Stay and enable the person you love to eat themselves to death

Or

Leave them at a certain weight, so they can see their actions are hurting the people they love....

Now if you find the tough love , leaving the person approach disrespectful... like you posted above... then you’re in the enabling camp.....

Now you really have a bright future in politics or criminal defense law...."

Ok so staying with them but NOT enabling them isn't an option?

In that case I choose not to be involved in your fictious black and white either or scenario.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman  over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?

Don’t panic and get your daily mail in a twist. It’s an American show, not British so they won’t be claiming benefits here It was meant in general.

Supermarkets sell everything in bulk. Also they use corn syrup in almost everything to keep costs down. Yeah but still must be expensive the amount of food they consume, like looking after an elephant."

Dunno then. Just seems like food must be really cheap over there.

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By *wingfellowMan  over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?

Don’t panic and get your daily mail in a twist. It’s an American show, not British so they won’t be claiming benefits here It was meant in general.

Supermarkets sell everything in bulk. Also they use corn syrup in almost everything to keep costs down. Yeah but still must be expensive the amount of food they consume, like looking after an elephant.

Dunno then. Just seems like food must be really cheap over there."

Fast food is much cheaper than fresh vegetables there, two Burger King burgers with fries and a drink for $3.50 when I was there like two months ago and they were the size of our double whoppers.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman  over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?

Don’t panic and get your daily mail in a twist. It’s an American show, not British so they won’t be claiming benefits here It was meant in general.

Supermarkets sell everything in bulk. Also they use corn syrup in almost everything to keep costs down. Yeah but still must be expensive the amount of food they consume, like looking after an elephant.

Dunno then. Just seems like food must be really cheap over there.

Fast food is much cheaper than fresh vegetables there, two Burger King burgers with fries and a drink for $3.50 when I was there like two months ago and they were the size of our double whoppers."

Don't they have cheap all you can eat buffets as well?

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By *wingfellowMan  over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?

Don’t panic and get your daily mail in a twist. It’s an American show, not British so they won’t be claiming benefits here It was meant in general.

Supermarkets sell everything in bulk. Also they use corn syrup in almost everything to keep costs down. Yeah but still must be expensive the amount of food they consume, like looking after an elephant.

Dunno then. Just seems like food must be really cheap over there.

Fast food is much cheaper than fresh vegetables there, two Burger King burgers with fries and a drink for $3.50 when I was there like two months ago and they were the size of our double whoppers.

Don't they have cheap all you can eat buffets as well?"

Yes, lots of cheap places to eat it's just crazy bad for you. I went to a place called Culvers and they make your burger and literally dip the entire thing in melted butter

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......

Not meeting someone you are not attracted to isn't the same thing is abandoning someone you supposedly love in their time of need.

Try to be honest if we are debating here....

It the weight that got your back up....

If we were talking about drinking or drug use ...

I’m sure Mr. White’s tough love analogy would be very charming....

Now back to abandoning someone you love....

Would you keep giving someone you love money to use drugs, drink , or gamble if they had a problem?

So is that the only 2 options? Enable them or leave completely?

Ok so you’re a enabler, other people aren’t...

One way is not right or wrong

My uncle was a gambling addict.... my aunt used to have to go to the betting parlor on pay day to get his wages before he gambled it all away... She finally got fed up and kicked him out of the house and filed for divorce.....

You know what happened?

He realized he was ruining his family so he got help and stopped gambling....

They are together to this day... So sometimes tough love works... that’s all I’m saying...

Where in anything I've written have I said I'm an enabler?

You have a future in politics.....

You have a future in story telling, you're already good at imagining things that have been written.

Ok I’ll bite......

There are only two options......

Stay and enable the person you love to eat themselves to death

Or

Leave them at a certain weight, so they can see their actions are hurting the people they love....

Now if you find the tough love , leaving the person approach disrespectful... like you posted above... then you’re in the enabling camp.....

Now you really have a bright future in politics or criminal defense law....

Ok so staying with them but NOT enabling them isn't an option?

In that case I choose not to be involved in your fictious black and white either or scenario.

"

I truly hope you never fall in love with someone with an addiction.....

Most recovering addicts will tell you......

You have to lose everything and hit rock bottom before you decide to change....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"How do these people afford it? Benefits can't be paying that much, has she got a feeder?

Don’t panic and get your daily mail in a twist. It’s an American show, not British so they won’t be claiming benefits here It was meant in general.

Supermarkets sell everything in bulk. Also they use corn syrup in almost everything to keep costs down. Yeah but still must be expensive the amount of food they consume, like looking after an elephant.

Dunno then. Just seems like food must be really cheap over there.

Fast food is much cheaper than fresh vegetables there, two Burger King burgers with fries and a drink for $3.50 when I was there like two months ago and they were the size of our double whoppers.

Don't they have cheap all you can eat buffets as well?

Yes, lots of cheap places to eat it's just crazy bad for you. I went to a place called Culvers and they make your burger and literally dip the entire thing in melted butter "

You guys have the same foods we have but your portions are just smaller.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

You’re wasting your breath on this thread.....

These women shouting you down for being a brute won’t meet and shag 600 pd men off here...

So they are just posturing......"

Actually I am part of a system trying to help these people. It's not about shaggability.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

No. It requires nutritional education, access and funds to appropriate foods, dietician, education of biological consequences, support network, therapist to assist with awareness of current relationship with food, and help finding strategies to replace food as a coping mechanism, and strategies to cope with emotions that will arise during journey, relationship to physical activity and physical capabilities, and of course motivation to want to change. "

I love the fact no one can argue my point . But then it is evidence-based

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By *r.BlondeMan  over a year ago

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" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

No. It requires nutritional education, access and funds to appropriate foods, dietician, education of biological consequences, support network, therapist to assist with awareness of current relationship with food, and help finding strategies to replace food as a coping mechanism, and strategies to cope with emotions that will arise during journey, relationship to physical activity and physical capabilities, and of course motivation to want to change.

I love the fact no one can argue my point . But then it is evidence-based "

It would still require self discipline to be able to maintain their progress.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It makes me laugh that people that have no idea how it is in another person's shoes can preach about discipline and tough love

Someone who has reached 600lbs is mentally ill - as are the people enabling them.

"Cutting people loose " because you think it will solve their problems is idiocy at it's best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" I would of cut loose when she got to 200 pounds

You would cut someone you love out of your life if they gained weight?

Yeah if it was too much,not gonna let her let herself go. When women get past a certain age it would be more acceptable.

Charming

I think you might be taking his comment out of context.....

These are morbid obese people...... he is saying he would get her help she is 200 pds rather than wait until she is 600 pds...

He said he would cut her out of his life? if she got to a certain point and wouldn't accept help yes I would. I would find that disrespectful.

Disrespectful to who? To me and to herself. If I was the same when got married etc it wouldn't be fair. The sexual attraction would be disappearing, she would be spending all our money on food and making herself ill. It isn't a sickness that comes out of the blue it can be controlled with

discipline.

Discipline? Self discipline

No. It requires nutritional education, access and funds to appropriate foods, dietician, education of biological consequences, support network, therapist to assist with awareness of current relationship with food, and help finding strategies to replace food as a coping mechanism, and strategies to cope with emotions that will arise during journey, relationship to physical activity and physical capabilities, and of course motivation to want to change.

I love the fact no one can argue my point . But then it is evidence-based It would still require self discipline to be able to maintain their progress."

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