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We've had lots of threads about sexless marriages, infidelity, how long you've gone without sex, etc.
But how many of us have stayed in a doomed relationship for the sex? When every other part of it simply doesn't work, but the sex is still good. Or even if it's not good, out of an unwillingness to find and start over with someone new.
To be clear, I'm not talking about Fablationships here, I mean purely non-swinging relationships. Perhaps from your pre-Fab days? |
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I have a child from a doomed relationship.
It was dimmed from the start, but I was young, she was older, the sex was amazing and her Gucci heels were fudging sexy |
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"I have a child from a doomed relationship.
It was dimmed from the start, but I was young, she was older, the sex was amazing and her Gucci heels were fudging sexy
Goddam Gucci  "
To be fair my little geek is awesome |
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"I have a child from a doomed relationship.
It was dimmed from the start, but I was young, she was older, the sex was amazing and her Gucci heels were fudging sexy
Goddam Gucci
To be fair my little geek is awesome "
Well at least something good came from it. Did you always know it was going nowhere or was that a realisation you came to over time? |
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I am too proud to stay in a relationship just because the sex is great.
I'd rather have sex with my hand than staying in a doomed relationship but having said that if she has nice tits, why not. |
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"I have a child from a doomed relationship.
It was dimmed from the start, but I was young, she was older, the sex was amazing and her Gucci heels were fudging sexy
Goddam Gucci
To be fair my little geek is awesome
Well at least something good came from it. Did you always know it was going nowhere or was that a realisation you came to over time? "
No, I fell head over heels. It wasn’t until I came to my senses I realised |
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"I am too proud to stay in a relationship just because the sex is great.
I'd rather have sex with my hand than staying in a doomed relationship but having said that if she has nice tits, why not. "
You'll get splinters from that fence you know O Beardy One  |
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"I am too proud to stay in a relationship just because the sex is great.
I'd rather have sex with my hand than staying in a doomed relationship but having said that if she has nice tits, why not.
You'll get splinters from that fence you know O Beardy One "
I do have a thingy (forgot the word) to remove splinters in my man purse |
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"I have a child from a doomed relationship.
It was dimmed from the start, but I was young, she was older, the sex was amazing and her Gucci heels were fudging sexy
Goddam Gucci
To be fair my little geek is awesome
Well at least something good came from it. Did you always know it was going nowhere or was that a realisation you came to over time?
No, I fell head over heels. It wasn’t until I came to my senses I realised "
Ahhh... The old love is blind defense  |
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"I am too proud to stay in a relationship just because the sex is great.
I'd rather have sex with my hand than staying in a doomed relationship but having said that if she has nice tits, why not.
You'll get splinters from that fence you know O Beardy One
I do have a thingy (forgot the word) to remove splinters in my man purse "
Tweezers darling... Tweezers  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am too proud to stay in a relationship just because the sex is great.
I'd rather have sex with my hand than staying in a doomed relationship but having said that if she has nice tits, why not.
You'll get splinters from that fence you know O Beardy One
I do have a thingy (forgot the word) to remove splinters in my man purse
Tweezers darling... Tweezers "
Thank you, see, we have more than good sex in common love, you complete me and my sentences |
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"I did for a while. He was an utter dick but a great fuck. Happy to be rid now. 
What prompted you to end it? "
He made me feel crap and it became too hard to stick up for him in my mind. 10 minutes of fun sex wasn't worth weeks of feeling like shit. |
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"I am too proud to stay in a relationship just because the sex is great.
I'd rather have sex with my hand than staying in a doomed relationship but having said that if she has nice tits, why not.
You'll get splinters from that fence you know O Beardy One
I do have a thingy (forgot the word) to remove splinters in my man purse
Tweezers darling... Tweezers
Thank you, see, we have more than good sex in common love, you complete me and my sentences "
You're my holemate  |
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"I did for a while. He was an utter dick but a great fuck. Happy to be rid now.
What prompted you to end it?
He made me feel crap and it became too hard to stick up for him in my mind. 10 minutes of fun sex wasn't worth weeks of feeling like shit. "
Bravo! Well done lady  |
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"I did for a while. He was an utter dick but a great fuck. Happy to be rid now.
What prompted you to end it?
He made me feel crap and it became too hard to stick up for him in my mind. 10 minutes of fun sex wasn't worth weeks of feeling like shit.
Bravo! Well done lady "
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It’s always been the opposite for me. Great relationship but the sex was lousy.
No, wouldn’t stay with someone just for the sex. Sex isn’t a huge part of my life. |
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"It’s always been the opposite for me. Great relationship but the sex was lousy.
No, wouldn’t stay with someone just for the sex. Sex isn’t a huge part of my life. "
It must hold some importance though or you wouldnt be here? |
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"No chance, when I feel unappreciated or anything negative, sex is the last thing I want from that person.
Definitely this. It wouldn’t work for me "
Again as I said to Peach... What if there's no negativity? Great guy... Never puts a foot wrong... But the feels have gone? |
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"No chance, when I feel unappreciated or anything negative, sex is the last thing I want from that person.
What if there's no negativity involved though?"
If there's no negativity I don't see how the relationship is doomed. Sounds like it would be pretty fucking awesome to me. |
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"No chance, when I feel unappreciated or anything negative, sex is the last thing I want from that person.
Definitely this. It wouldn’t work for me
Again as I said to Peach... What if there's no negativity? Great guy... Never puts a foot wrong... But the feels have gone? "
Oh ok. The feels have gone. Well, I'd probably try to do "dating" again with him, find that spark. Remind yourself why you fell in the first place. |
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I think I need to give some context here with an example.
Maybe you dated someone but found them a bit boring, but the sex was ok?
Or kept someone you weren't really interested in on the hook for sex?
I have to admit I did both in the distant past. |
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I had sex with a woman on a first date in the summer. The sex was great but it quickly became apparent that we were incompatible in a million ways. We agreed that we would make an awful couple. But we wouldn't mind having sex again. We kept meeting for sex throughout summer, and the sex was good. But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it. Is that the kind of reply you were seeking op? |
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"I had sex with a woman on a first date in the summer. The sex was great but it quickly became apparent that we were incompatible in a million ways. We agreed that we would make an awful couple. But we wouldn't mind having sex again. We kept meeting for sex throughout summer, and the sex was good. But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it. Is that the kind of reply you were seeking op? "
Yes exactly this! |
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"I had sex with a woman on a first date in the summer. The sex was great but it quickly became apparent that we were incompatible in a million ways. We agreed that we would make an awful couple. But we wouldn't mind having sex again. We kept meeting for sex throughout summer, and the sex was good. But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it. Is that the kind of reply you were seeking op?
Yes exactly this! "
I was a bit lazy. The sex was great initially. Plus, we were both clean and, as the whole dating thing had been so fucking hectic for me, I decided to take a break and be exclusive and so did she. So we were able to go bareback... which of course made the sex even better.
But I did all that because it was easy and it was nice. Would I get involved with someone who was utterly incompatible with me again just because the sex was great? Absolutely not. It ended up being a right pain in the arse and she's still trying to stalk me on social media |
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"I had sex with a woman on a first date in the summer. The sex was great but it quickly became apparent that we were incompatible in a million ways. We agreed that we would make an awful couple. But we wouldn't mind having sex again. We kept meeting for sex throughout summer, and the sex was good. But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it. Is that the kind of reply you were seeking op?
Yes exactly this!
I was a bit lazy. The sex was great initially. Plus, we were both clean and, as the whole dating thing had been so fucking hectic for me, I decided to take a break and be exclusive and so did she. So we were able to go bareback... which of course made the sex even better.
But I did all that because it was easy and it was nice. Would I get involved with someone who was utterly incompatible with me again just because the sex was great? Absolutely not. It ended up being a right pain in the arse and she's still trying to stalk me on social media "
Ouch! Many lessons learned from that experience I guess. |
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"I had sex with a woman on a first date in the summer. The sex was great but it quickly became apparent that we were incompatible in a million ways. We agreed that we would make an awful couple. But we wouldn't mind having sex again. We kept meeting for sex throughout summer, and the sex was good. But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it. Is that the kind of reply you were seeking op?
Yes exactly this!
I was a bit lazy. The sex was great initially. Plus, we were both clean and, as the whole dating thing had been so fucking hectic for me, I decided to take a break and be exclusive and so did she. So we were able to go bareback... which of course made the sex even better.
But I did all that because it was easy and it was nice. Would I get involved with someone who was utterly incompatible with me again just because the sex was great? Absolutely not. It ended up being a right pain in the arse and she's still trying to stalk me on social media
Ouch! Many lessons learned from that experience I guess. "
Yes haha it was like a vodka shot of lessons |
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"I had sex with a woman on a first date in the summer. The sex was great but it quickly became apparent that we were incompatible in a million ways. We agreed that we would make an awful couple. But we wouldn't mind having sex again. We kept meeting for sex throughout summer, and the sex was good. But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it. Is that the kind of reply you were seeking op?
Yes exactly this!
I was a bit lazy. The sex was great initially. Plus, we were both clean and, as the whole dating thing had been so fucking hectic for me, I decided to take a break and be exclusive and so did she. So we were able to go bareback... which of course made the sex even better.
But I did all that because it was easy and it was nice. Would I get involved with someone who was utterly incompatible with me again just because the sex was great? Absolutely not. It ended up being a right pain in the arse and she's still trying to stalk me on social media
Ouch! Many lessons learned from that experience I guess.
Yes haha it was like a vodka shot of lessons "
Although it's something I've done when I was younger... I couldn't do it now. Not for any selfless reasons (does that make me a horrible person?), but because as I've gotten older sex has taken on more of a mental component for me. The desire has to go beyond the physical. |
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" But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it."
90% of my prior relationships fit this description. I'd only had 2 that went over 6 months. |
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I'm not sure if this was what you're looking for but...
I met her through a dating site, we matched well and the sex was amazing...
3 years more ups than downs, I'm a simple guy and it seemed pretty good but then things turned south, the sex was still good, the break up sex was as good as anything we've had.
But she became more and more horrible to me, I was always going to go, but stayed for the sex...
Think I confused sex with love.
I look in the mirror and the guy looking back tells me I should have left a time ago, friends and family tell me I'm better off out and life has certainly moved forwards...the little bit inside wants to have sex like that again, be that guy and feel that good...
I wouldn't go back there but still miss that connection...
I look back beyond that and see it was a pattern that surfaced in all three relationships after my marriage ended... Bad relationship, great sex...
I knew from early on that they were all doomed but the sexual connection was such I just locked my heart away in a protective box and threw myself in...
...it turns out that love is like water and it seeped in through the cracks, could have walked, should have walked, didn't, got hurt... Not sure what the lesson is...
maybe don't confuse sex with love?
Maybe sex isn't enough?!
Staying just for the sex is bad for your health?
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" But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it.
90% of my prior relationships fit this description. I'd only had 2 that went over 6 months."
Was the sex good? Or did that fizzle out too? |
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" But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it.
90% of my prior relationships fit this description. I'd only had 2 that went over 6 months.
Was the sex good? Or did that fizzle out too? "
Not by the end, it fizzled out. I had a couple of epic chemistry relationships but they never lasted anything close to 6 months. Make up sex is amazing, but constantly fighting isn't. |
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"I'm not sure if this was what you're looking for but...
I met her through a dating site, we matched well and the sex was amazing...
3 years more ups than downs, I'm a simple guy and it seemed pretty good but then things turned south, the sex was still good, the break up sex was as good as anything we've had.
But she became more and more horrible to me, I was always going to go, but stayed for the sex...
Think I confused sex with love.
I look in the mirror and the guy looking back tells me I should have left a time ago, friends and family tell me I'm better off out and life has certainly moved forwards...the little bit inside wants to have sex like that again, be that guy and feel that good...
I wouldn't go back there but still miss that connection...
I look back beyond that and see it was a pattern that surfaced in all three relationships after my marriage ended... Bad relationship, great sex...
I knew from early on that they were all doomed but the sexual connection was such I just locked my heart away in a protective box and threw myself in...
...it turns out that love is like water and it seeped in through the cracks, could have walked, should have walked, didn't, got hurt... Not sure what the lesson is...
maybe don't confuse sex with love?
Maybe sex isn't enough?!
Staying just for the sex is bad for your health? "
Thank you for sharing. It's good to hear others' experiences |
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"I had sex with a woman on a first date in the summer. The sex was great but it quickly became apparent that we were incompatible in a million ways. We agreed that we would make an awful couple. But we wouldn't mind having sex again. We kept meeting for sex throughout summer, and the sex was good. But for me it got progressively worse as her newness to me dulled and her incompatibilities got more annoying. Eventually I called time on it. Is that the kind of reply you were seeking op?
Yes exactly this!
I was a bit lazy. The sex was great initially. Plus, we were both clean and, as the whole dating thing had been so fucking hectic for me, I decided to take a break and be exclusive and so did she. So we were able to go bareback... which of course made the sex even better.
But I did all that because it was easy and it was nice. Would I get involved with someone who was utterly incompatible with me again just because the sex was great? Absolutely not. It ended up being a right pain in the arse and she's still trying to stalk me on social media
Ouch! Many lessons learned from that experience I guess.
Yes haha it was like a vodka shot of lessons
Although it's something I've done when I was younger... I couldn't do it now. Not for any selfless reasons (does that make me a horrible person?), but because as I've gotten older sex has taken on more of a mental component for me. The desire has to go beyond the physical. "
I'm right there with you PlayD8 I'm a fast learner |
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