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By *inkxRabbit OP Woman over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I had my first ever flare up of type 1 herpes about six weeks ago.

Now I'm terrified of any physical contact in case I spread it.

God, how I used to indulge in oral.

Might hang my coat up. Bloody virus

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman over a year ago

Dublin

Oh dear not good at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear about that.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

Is that the one on your minge or in your mouth?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

was it an issue last year?

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I'm curious as to why you would post this. Also most people aren't going to know that this basically means cold sores

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm curious as to why you would post this. Also most people aren't going to know that this basically means cold sores"

I did not know that

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"I had my first ever flare up of type 1 herpes about six weeks ago.

Now I'm terrified of any physical contact in case I spread it.

God, how I used to indulge in oral.

Might hang my coat up. Bloody virus

Type 1 herpes ?

Simple cold sore , hey ho .

Thanks for sharing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm curious as to why you would post this. Also most people aren't going to know that this basically means cold sores"

ya I thought the same.

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By *nitterWoman over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

I learned something new today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ll say what everyone is thinking.....

I’m going to block the Op and everyone of the people who has verified her....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really apologise to the OP, I'd heard something similar in the past, my d*unken brain started on a 1+1=3 and ended up at 10.

apologies to those reading!

paddy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really apologise to the OP, I'd heard something similar in the past, my d*unken brain started on a 1+1=3 and ended up at 10.

apologies to those reading!

paddy"

That's why you shouldn't drink on an empty head

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By *mooth Operator 07Man over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

"I'm curious as to why you would post this. Also most people aren't going to know that this basically means cold sores"

Exactly my thoughts

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By *wingin CatMan over a year ago

London

"I’ll say what everyone is thinking.....

I’m going to block the Op and everyone of the people who has verified her...."

I've blocked the OP, but doubt I need to bother with those who verified her, given that they're all guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't worry too much about it.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Zovirax or something like that should sort it OP. I'm sure there's loads of stuff on the market.

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By *inkxRabbit OP Woman over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I'm not fake - just a seasoned swinger with some lovely friends I met on this site.

I've got genital herpes and do most of you, but you wouldn't know unless you've had a breakout.

Even if you don't know you've got it, the virus sheds a few times a month so you can spread it unknowingly.

I may have had it for years as once caught either orally or down below it lives in your body for ever.

I may have caught it from somebody performing oral on me who gets coldsores, even though they may not have had one, or via bareback, which head happened occasionally.

Make yourself aware to keep the community safe.

There's a great patient information leaflet on herpes.co.uk

It's a silent stalker but the majority of British people have it in their system so nobody's safe. It's also not the worst that can happen.

It can only be diagnosed when you've got active herpetic lesions- spots, sores, painful urination. It is diagnosed by a swab but is time limited, only affecting the person for 5 to 7 days.

Get yourself checked if you have any of the symptoms.

I'll get my coat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not fake - just a seasoned swinger with some lovely friends I met on this site.

I've got genital herpes and do most of you, but you wouldn't know unless you've had a breakout.

Even if you don't know you've got it, the virus sheds a few times a month so you can spread it unknowingly.

I may have had it for years as once caught either orally or down below it lives in your body for ever.

I may have caught it from somebody performing oral on me who gets coldsores, even though they may not have had one, or via bareback, which head happened occasionally.

Make yourself aware to keep the community safe.

There's a great patient information leaflet on herpes.co.uk

It's a silent stalker but the majority of British people have it in their system so nobody's safe. It's also not the worst that can happen.

It can only be diagnosed when you've got active herpetic lesions- spots, sores, painful urination. It is diagnosed by a swab but is time limited, only affecting the person for 5 to 7 days.

Get yourself checked if you have any of the symptoms.

I'll get my coat. "

Right

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By *mp411Man over a year ago

chester

Happy feel good post then lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jesus got little out of hand here.

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By *inkxRabbit OP Woman over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

https://herpes.org.uk/publications/

Read the patient information leaflet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had my first ever flare up of type 1 herpes about six weeks ago.

Now I'm terrified of any physical contact in case I spread it.

God, how I used to indulge in oral.

Might hang my coat up. Bloody virus

"Buy a pint"

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I really apologise to the OP, I'd heard something similar in the past, my d*unken brain started on a 1+1=3 and ended up at 10.

apologies to those reading!

paddy"

Apparently you were correct

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Zovirax or something like that should sort it OP. I'm sure there's loads of stuff on the market. "

Erpesan is the dog's danglies for cold sores, best product available.

Possibly only available on the continent.

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By *mp411Man over a year ago

chester

I don’t get cold sores so I must be ok

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By *wingin CatMan over a year ago

London

One thing I will say Pinkx, is that I admire your honesty.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why the hell would anyone block the O.P. ?

That's just downright callous.

They are a person with a problem doesn't mean you have to fuck them and you don't have to ostracize them.

In any case ..... you should be so lucky.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Why the hell would anyone block the O.P. ?

That's just downright callous.

They are a person with a problem doesn't mean you have to fuck them and you don't have to ostracize them.

In any case ..... you should be so lucky."

Yes "lucky" is a word that often goes in the same sentence as "herpes"

Your posts do provide the most entertaining example of in-group bias available on the forum though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

google L-lysin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why the hell would anyone block the O.P. ?

That's just downright callous.

They are a person with a problem doesn't mean you have to fuck them and you don't have to ostracize them.

In any case ..... you should be so lucky.

Yes "lucky" is a word that often goes in the same sentence as "herpes"

Your posts do provide the most entertaining example of in-group bias available on the forum though! "

This is a case of throwing common sense out the window, just to make a point.....

People on this forum get ostracized for being married and cheating, barebacking , and playing with people who some don’t approve of...

If someone told me they have herpes , I will not meet them.... so that’s why I will block her....

Plenty of people will meet her and don’t care...

She won’t lose any sleep over me

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By *iss Penny TrationWoman over a year ago

It’s good that you’re being honest and all, but this is an example of something you keep to yourself, unless you need to tell past partners who may be at risk, and protect yourself going forward. Not sure what you was hoping to achieve by posting it here but I doubt people will be queuing to meet you now

Just my opinion of course. Hope you get it under control

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"It’s good that you’re being honest and all, but this is an example of something you keep to yourself, unless you need to tell past partners who may be at risk, and protect yourself going forward. Not sure what you was hoping to achieve by posting it here but I doubt people will be queuing to meet you now

Just my opinion of course. Hope you get it under control

It won't effect it. People on here have far worse than herpes and are in triple digit bareback verifications

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just my opinion of course. Hope you get it under control

It won't effect it. People on here have far worse than herpes and are in triple digit bareback verifications"

The female and all the hundreds of men from the bareback gang bang van for instance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So just catching up with the thread. A few thoughts:

Firstly, sorry to hear that OP, it’s very open of you to disclose this on a public forum and from your post I’m assuming until a few weeks ago this was something you were entirely unaware you had and are shocked that you have it.

I appreciate that you’re trying to increase awareness and your second posting on the thread is very helpful in that respect and everyone should have a read of it and take note! Anyone having casual sex however ‘safe’ they play is taking a risk.

From your opening post I can understand your concerns and why you might want to stop meeting for risk of spreading it. At the very least you must make sure all prospective partners are fully aware so they can make a fully informed decision on whether to meet.

I tend to agree with Granny Crumpet, you’ve got a problem and need support but you’re also trying to spread awareness to help others, so I can understand why people might block you, but being ostracised for being open isn’t helpful to the overall pursuit of knowledge for any of us, is it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So just catching up with the thread. A few thoughts:

This is rich.....

People seeking out knowledge about Herpes....

I think you’re confusing ostracizing someone and making a personal choice about your personal health......

But I get it , she is a woman so she needs hugs...

If a man posted this , I think the reaction would be different....

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

So I need to get genital herpes so I can learn about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So just catching up with the thread. A few thoughts:

This is rich.....

People seeking out knowledge about Herpes....

I think you’re confusing ostracizing someone and making a personal choice about your personal health......

But I get it , she is a woman so she needs hugs...

If a man posted this , I think the reaction would be different...."

No white knighting here my friend.

I think the OP has overshared way too much. But has a problem and is raising awareness.

Would you prefer they pretended nothing happened and continued to fuck around unsuspecting partners?

Or share that they have been caught out and now wants to warn others?

Why do you think it’s ‘rich’ or do you think the OP should be publically tarred and feathered?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"So just catching up with the thread. A few thoughts:

This is rich.....

People seeking out knowledge about Herpes....

I think you’re confusing ostracizing someone and making a personal choice about your personal health......

But I get it , she is a woman so she needs hugs...

If a man posted this , I think the reaction would be different...."

There's a guy on here who is a regular poster, open about his STD on here and his profile. He tells all his meets in advance to give them an informed choice. Number of hugs he gets on threads where it comes up: 0

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So I need to get genital herpes so I can learn about it

You may not as you’re a well-read and knowledgeable gent. Not everyone on here is as savvy or on the ball as you. Look above in the thread. Many didn’t realise that cold sores were a type of herpes for example.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

So I need to get genital herpes so I can learn about it

You didn't read the whole thread did you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So I need to get genital herpes so I can learn about it

You didn't read the whole thread did you? "

Yes I did. What do you think I’ve missed?

I know it’s genital herpes not a cold sore. My point was not everyone is as well versed in all aspects of the virus as you. The OP has directed them to a health website resource.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

So I need to get genital herpes so I can learn about it

You didn't read the whole thread did you?

Yes I did. What do you think I’ve missed?

I know it’s genital herpes not a cold sore. My point was not everyone is as well versed in all aspects of the virus as you. The OP has directed them to a health website resource. "

My bad. I just honestly have no idea where you're coming from.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people have no shame....

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By *nitterWoman over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

**twirls in.......oppps grown up thread, twirls out**

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So just catching up with the thread. A few thoughts:

This is rich.....

People seeking out knowledge about Herpes....

I think you’re confusing ostracizing someone and making a personal choice about your personal health......

But I get it , she is a woman so she needs hugs...

If a man posted this , I think the reaction would be different....

No white knighting here my friend.

I think the OP has overshared way too much. But has a problem and is raising awareness.

Would you prefer they pretended nothing happened and continued to fuck around unsuspecting partners?

Or share that they have been caught out and now wants to warn others?

Why do you think it’s ‘rich’ or do you think the OP should be publically tarred and feathered?

I get it .....you’re a very nice guy

I think commending people isn’t always prudent...

If I got genital warts and came on the forums to let everyone know that shaving bumps can be genital warts... then gave them a link to a genital warts website....

I’m sure you would pat me on the back and say good job....

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By *goutimouseWoman over a year ago

kenley

Wow you people are nasty bastards. 80% of you carry it, only a small percentage have symptoms. It’s peiole who have it WITHOUT symptoms that spread it. Those who do have flare ups know when to abstain to prevent transmission and they tend to feel so ashamed of it that even the slightest tingle will mean they don’t fuck anyone at all even trusted partners who aren’t as close minded as you. I dated a man with it for years. You take precautions, you watch for the signs. You recognise you’ve probably got it yourself but you’re one of the so-called lucky ones who don’t get lesions.

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus got little out of hand here."

I was thinking the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow you people are nasty bastards. 80% of you carry it, only a small percentage have symptoms. It’s peiole who have it WITHOUT symptoms that spread it. Those who do have flare ups know when to abstain to prevent transmission and they tend to feel so ashamed of it that even the slightest tingle will mean they don’t fuck anyone at all even trusted partners who aren’t as close minded as you. I dated a man with it for years. You take precautions, you watch for the signs. You recognise you’ve probably got it yourself but you’re one of the so-called lucky ones who don’t get lesions.

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx "

Do you have herpes?

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

At first I thought 'Good grief woman, why would you share this?' but reading through.... well there are some hateful twunts on here

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?"

Good question

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?"

I think the words "male privilege" on a profile are a big enough red flag

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By *inkerbell67Woman over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Oh Aids and HIV are all so on the increase in the gay community as a lot of young people are not bothering doing safe sex ,so my friend informed me who works in a clinic ...

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By *goutimouseWoman over a year ago

kenley

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?"

I don’t know. All my STI tests have been clear.

But that means nothing.

I supported a wonderful man through a long and happy relationship but he was broken by a virus he caught unknowingly at some point in his past.

By all means use protection - of course I implore everyone to do so - but don’t think for a moment you no way have it. The only way they can diagnose you is if you happen to have open lesions at the time of testing. With so few presenting with symptoms, don’t be so damn confident you don’t have it without symptoms. It simply won’t come up on your sti screen.

So up front, my sti tests say I’m clear. But I’m not a smug bastard about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At first I thought 'Good grief woman, why would you share this?' but reading through.... well there are some hateful twunts on here

No one is hateful..... you’re confusing someone’s honest opinion and choices.....

I wouldn’t play/meet with someone with Herpes....

What is hateful about that?

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By *goutimouseWoman over a year ago

kenley

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?

I think the words "male privilege" on a profile are a big enough red flag"

If you want to condone those messages, you go right ahead. I don’t care. I don’t think it’s ok to message anyone like that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?

I don’t know. All my STI tests have been clear.

But that means nothing.

I supported a wonderful man through a long and happy relationship but he was broken by a virus he caught unknowingly at some point in his past.

So up front, my sti tests say I’m clear. But I’m not a smug bastard about it."

I’m very sorry to say this but I have never had a cold sore...

So you’re 80% theory might be wrong.....

Good luck in your swinging adventure... I will add you to my block list also

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By *goutimouseWoman over a year ago

kenley

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?

I don’t know. All my STI tests have been clear.

But that means nothing.

I supported a wonderful man through a long and happy relationship but he was broken by a virus he caught unknowingly at some point in his past.

So up front, my sti tests say I’m clear. But I’m not a smug bastard about it.

I’m very sorry to say this but I have never had a cold sore...

So you’re 80% theory might be wrong.....

Good luck in your swinging adventure... I will add you to my block list also"

Or you’re just in the 20%.

Either way #cryingsohard

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx "

I agree with most of this other than the people who have it all being really careful. I'm aware that is not always the case.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?

I don’t know. All my STI tests have been clear.

But that means nothing.

I supported a wonderful man through a long and happy relationship but he was broken by a virus he caught unknowingly at some point in his past.

So up front, my sti tests say I’m clear. But I’m not a smug bastard about it.

I’m very sorry to say this but I have never had a cold sore...

So you’re 80% theory might be wrong.....

Good luck in your swinging adventure... I will add you to my block list also

Or you’re just in the 20%.

Either way #cryingsohard"

Well lucky me , I’m in the 20%.

I must be a nasty person because I won’t play/meet with people Herpes....

Just think about that for a minute......

Not a smart or prudent person, but a nasty person...

So in your mind , meeting a playing with some with a STI is a good idea and makes you a good person.....

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By *goutimouseWoman over a year ago

kenley

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?

I don’t know. All my STI tests have been clear.

But that means nothing.

I supported a wonderful man through a long and happy relationship but he was broken by a virus he caught unknowingly at some point in his past.

So up front, my sti tests say I’m clear. But I’m not a smug bastard about it.

I’m very sorry to say this but I have never had a cold sore...

So you’re 80% theory might be wrong.....

Good luck in your swinging adventure... I will add you to my block list also

Or you’re just in the 20%.

Either way #cryingsohard

Well lucky me , I’m in the 20%.

I must be a nasty person because I won’t play/meet with people Herpes....

Just think about that for a minute......

Not a smart or prudent person, but a nasty person...

So in your mind , meeting a playing with some with a STI is a good idea and makes you a good person.....

Don’t twist my words.

The nastiness that knowing herpes carriers suffer is unjustified. Should they never have sex again even with a manageable condition?

Incidentally, you might be in the 20% as I said but you might well be in the 80% carrier group just without symptoms.

I don’t care what you do. You can choose to sleep with whoever or not. It’s your right.

Just a little empathy for those trying to get by wouldn’t go amiss. That’s where the nastiness lies.

I’m done with this site. I’ve only been back five minutes but the forums, the shit people send, it never gets any better.

All the best to you all. Just try to be kind.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?

I don’t know. All my STI tests have been clear.

But that means nothing.

I supported a wonderful man through a long and happy relationship but he was broken by a virus he caught unknowingly at some point in his past.

So up front, my sti tests say I’m clear. But I’m not a smug bastard about it.

I’m very sorry to say this but I have never had a cold sore...

So you’re 80% theory might be wrong.....

Good luck in your swinging adventure... I will add you to my block list also

Or you’re just in the 20%.

Either way #cryingsohard

Well lucky me , I’m in the 20%.

I must be a nasty person because I won’t play/meet with people Herpes....

Just think about that for a minute......

Not a smart or prudent person, but a nasty person...

So in your mind , meeting a playing with some with a STI is a good idea and makes you a good person.....

Don’t twist my words.

The nastiness that knowing herpes carriers suffer is unjustified. Should they never have sex again even with a manageable condition?

Incidentally, you might be in the 20% as I said but you might well be in the 80% carrier group just without symptoms.

I don’t care what you do. You can choose to sleep with whoever or not. It’s your right.

Just a little empathy for those trying to get by wouldn’t go amiss. That’s where the nastiness lies.

I’m done with this site. I’ve only been back five minutes but the forums, the shit people send, it never gets any better.

All the best to you all. Just try to be kind. "

If you want to get laid just walk into any bar, club or pub and let it be known. You won't be short of offers

#femaleprivilege

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?

I don’t know. All my STI tests have been clear.

But that means nothing.

I supported a wonderful man through a long and happy relationship but he was broken by a virus he caught unknowingly at some point in his past.

So up front, my sti tests say I’m clear. But I’m not a smug bastard about it.

I’m very sorry to say this but I have never had a cold sore...

So you’re 80% theory might be wrong.....

Good luck in your swinging adventure... I will add you to my block list also

Or you’re just in the 20%.

Either way #cryingsohard

Well lucky me , I’m in the 20%.

I must be a nasty person because I won’t play/meet with people Herpes....

Just think about that for a minute......

Not a smart or prudent person, but a nasty person...

So in your mind , meeting a playing with some with a STI is a good idea and makes you a good person.....

Don’t twist my words.

The nastiness that knowing herpes carriers suffer is unjustified. Should they never have sex again even with a manageable condition?

Incidentally, you might be in the 20% as I said but you might well be in the 80% carrier group just without symptoms.

I don’t care what you do. You can choose to sleep with whoever or not. It’s your right.

Just a little empathy for those trying to get by wouldn’t go amiss. That’s where the nastiness lies.

I’m done with this site. I’ve only been back five minutes but the forums, the shit people send, it never gets any better.

All the best to you all. Just try to be kind. "

What is this nastiness you speak of?

What empathy?

Why are people not honest on a open forum?

If you can’t be honest here , where can you be honest?

People on Fab won’t meet people because they are married playing away , they smoke , they use drugs, they bareback, they can’t accommodate, they are short, fat , bald , skinny, black , Asian, White and have bad teeth.

Where is the empathy for these people?

Where is the compassion for these poor souls...

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By *goutimouseWoman over a year ago

kenley

Go educate yourselves you horrible people.

OP. This shouldn’t be a “brave” post. All kudos to you. Xx

Do you have herpes?

I don’t know. All my STI tests have been clear.

But that means nothing.

I supported a wonderful man through a long and happy relationship but he was broken by a virus he caught unknowingly at some point in his past.

So up front, my sti tests say I’m clear. But I’m not a smug bastard about it.

I’m very sorry to say this but I have never had a cold sore...

So you’re 80% theory might be wrong.....

Good luck in your swinging adventure... I will add you to my block list also

Or you’re just in the 20%.

Either way #cryingsohard

Well lucky me , I’m in the 20%.

I must be a nasty person because I won’t play/meet with people Herpes....

Just think about that for a minute......

Not a smart or prudent person, but a nasty person...

So in your mind , meeting a playing with some with a STI is a good idea and makes you a good person.....

Don’t twist my words.

The nastiness that knowing herpes carriers suffer is unjustified. Should they never have sex again even with a manageable condition?

Incidentally, you might be in the 20% as I said but you might well be in the 80% carrier group just without symptoms.

I don’t care what you do. You can choose to sleep with whoever or not. It’s your right.

Just a little empathy for those trying to get by wouldn’t go amiss. That’s where the nastiness lies.

I’m done with this site. I’ve only been back five minutes but the forums, the shit people send, it never gets any better.

All the best to you all. Just try to be kind.

If you want to get laid just walk into any bar, club or pub and let it be known. You won't be short of offers

#femaleprivilege "

As if this thread has anything to do with gender. Twice you’ve tried to make it about men/women. These conditions are indiscriminate. Push your agenda all you like.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

It does amaze me how many people state they've never caught an STI, when they mean that they've never had a confirmed infection test result (Assuming they tell the truth) - when not all STIs are tested for routinely and millions of people have caught infections but are ignorant of it.

Many may have caught a cold sore virus when very young and don't remember too.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

Genital herpes , and any cold sore for that matter is easily spread WITHOUT an outbreak showing . This is a fact .

What’s also a fact is that up to 80% of adults will have the virus , and most will never have an outbreak . How do you think such a high % have it ?

The lady who says she had the relationship with the guy and says they abstained when he had an outbreak did what any sane person would do . But knowing that it could be spread when there was nothing showing is surely something to consider . Thus the guys saying they have blocked those who have it are also sensible aren’t they ?

There is no right or wrong about it . Those who have never had an outbreak are the lucky ones , and those who have are unfortunate . But to talk about people being nasty by blocking those who have it is wrong . I’d say they were exercising their choice to do so and there’s nothing wrong with that .

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By *rFunBoyMan over a year ago

Longridge

"I’ll say what everyone is thinking.....

I’m going to block the Op and everyone of the people who has verified her...."

In that case you'll also need to go through all the guys verifications of the females and couples they've met and block them also, then go through thier verifications and so on and so on until you'll end up blocking pretty much everyone on this site.

Plus what about the meets where no verifications have been given?

If it's a real concern then may I suggest an alternative pastime such as becoming a monk!!

As already stated, most of the human global population carry the virus but it only shows itself at a time it is 'triggered' such as

1) run down immune due to stress

2) increased vitamin c intake - abundance of fruit in days of old meant breading season was underway.

3) antipation of sexual activity is also a trigger - yes, just thinking about having sex can trigger as the virus responds to stumuli that increases it chances of finding a new host.

As it 'lives' within the nervous system, it is eavesdropping on in nerve communication to pick the best time to be passed on, the same for chicken pox virus that secondary symptoms are excruciating pain and rash at the nerve endings in the skin.

It is one of the most successful virus's on the planet in that it can quietly spread without destroying it's host and as suggested over ir nearly 80% of world population are carrying it with the majority blissfully unaware they have it.

Ebola, although extremely dangerous if caught, it is a 'stupid' virus in that it quickly kills it's host before getting chance to spread to many more victims other than those in close proximity for a few days which is why it is fairly easy to control and irradicate. You simply quarantine the people they've been in contact with for the last week before they died as well as the body handlers.

Sometimes I dont believe the sheer nastiness on this site... but then again its the human condition to better oneself by belittling and hurting another.

Mr Trump ring any bells?

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By *evil_u_knowMan over a year ago

city

Yeah you would be better off keeping it secret to get more meets.

/sarcasm.

You did nothing wrong. The Hiv positive people say it on their profile and can still get 1 meet a day if they want, and all you said was you had coldsores, although later in the thread said genital herpes too. Either way its no big deal for most.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The OP states she has HSV1, it’s rare that HSV1 is passed on through sex, it’s classed as oral herpes and is actually usually contracted as a child/ young adult. It can be passed to genitals through oral sex but is quite rare.

HSV2 is the one more commonly passed on through sex and is the cause of genital herpes.

Both types can lay dormant for many many years and can only show up as a lesion- often painful many years later.

It’s actually just under 80% that are apparent carriers I am one of the lucky people that have never suffered from a coldsore etc but who knows I could be a carrier the same way as many who have posted and insulted the OP.

Sexual health should not carry a stigma we should talk openly on a forum especially a forum such as this. Condoms do not protect against everything and awareness is the key.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for sharing/ raising awareness Op.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You gave me a lob on op, I love herpes especially anal herpes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oddest post ever I think.

Most swingers do not have genital herpes.

I know a lot and actually, except for you, don't know of any with herpes. I know a few non swingers with herpes as they are less careful and don't get checked.

An extended STD test will check for it and most responsible swingers will do that fairly regularly.

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Oddest post ever I think.

Most swingers do not have genital herpes.

I know a lot and actually, except for you, don't know of any with herpes. I know a few non swingers with herpes as they are less careful and don't get checked.

An extended STD test will check for it and most responsible swingers will do that fairly regularly. "

Have you actually chosen to ignore facts? Well known, common, easily accessed facts?

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