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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push? |
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Is there anyone you have in mind to meet? If so make a date and ramp up the sexy messages so that when you do meet you can’t keep your hands off each other.
To be honest I wouldn’t advocate getting back into the swing with someone you haven’t already felt comfortable with.
Good luck and happy shagging QL xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?"
It's like riding a bike I suggest you pick me I'm easy to get your leg over |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is there anyone you have in mind to meet? If so make a date and ramp up the sexy messages so that when you do meet you can’t keep your hands off each other.
To be honest I wouldn’t advocate getting back into the swing with someone you haven’t already felt comfortable with.
Good luck and happy shagging QL xx"
I have a couple of men who I have been chatting too for a while, but it’s the whole ‘meeting someone new’ that’s making me a bit nervous!
Thank you xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?
It's like riding a bike I suggest you pick me I'm easy to get your leg over "
You didn’t wanna fuck me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?
It's like riding a bike I suggest you pick me I'm easy to get your leg over
You didn’t wanna fuck me!"
omg you're so forward I was going to bring you your lava lamp |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?
It's like riding a bike I suggest you pick me I'm easy to get your leg over
You didn’t wanna fuck me!
omg you're so forward I was going to bring you your lava lamp"
No point in beating around the bush! I’ll still have that lava lamp though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?"
Well you have a smashing body and beautiful smile to start! I think you need to make first contact and boost your confidence. Maybe buy some new lingerie and take a few pics for yourself and feel you again... In my opinion, you wont have too long to wait for offers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?
It's like riding a bike I suggest you pick me I'm easy to get your leg over
You didn’t wanna fuck me!
omg you're so forward I was going to bring you your lava lamp
No point in beating around the bush! I’ll still have that lava lamp though "
omg, ok |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?
Well you have a smashing body and beautiful smile to start! I think you need to make first contact and boost your confidence. Maybe buy some new lingerie and take a few pics for yourself and feel you again... In my opinion, you wont have too long to wait for offers "
Oh I’m confident when it comes to taking photos, being in lingerie etc. It’s just the initial ‘I’m meeting someone new today’ that gets to me, even though I want it |
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"Is there anyone you have in mind to meet? If so make a date and ramp up the sexy messages so that when you do meet you can’t keep your hands off each other.
To be honest I wouldn’t advocate getting back into the swing with someone you haven’t already felt comfortable with.
Good luck and happy shagging QL xx
I have a couple of men who I have been chatting too for a while, but it’s the whole ‘meeting someone new’ that’s making me a bit nervous!
Thank you xxx"
If you’ve been chatting for a while and feel comfortable then the only thing new is the fact that you’re in the same room at the same time. Don’t let your mind overthink this. Breathe, relax and don’t worry. If you’re comfortable with him everything else will pan out well usually. Nerves are natural. Worrying yourself to death unnecessarily isn’t fun though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?
Well you have a smashing body and beautiful smile to start! I think you need to make first contact and boost your confidence. Maybe buy some new lingerie and take a few pics for yourself and feel you again... In my opinion, you wont have too long to wait for offers
Oh I’m confident when it comes to taking photos, being in lingerie etc. It’s just the initial ‘I’m meeting someone new today’ that gets to me, even though I want it"
If you have chatted for a while and have some hot messaging, this should get you excited... Your soo hot It'll be amazing whoever the lucky person is |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m very surprised by this post.....
You’re constantly in the hot pics , what about meeting someone in person is giving you anxiety?
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Oh I’m not ‘constantly’ in there 
And just...meeting someone! That’s what’s making me anxious!  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Don't put too much pressure on yourself. After a shockingly awful meet and a combination of health things, I took some time out for me and worked on building my inner and happiness and confidence. As far as the actual meet goes - you're both in the same boat. The day I stop getting butterflies is the day I stop with this whole thing. Try and see the nerves as positive adrenaline not negative and as much as possible relax about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't put too much pressure on yourself. After a shockingly awful meet and a combination of health things, I took some time out for me and worked on building my inner and happiness and confidence. As far as the actual meet goes - you're both in the same boat. The day I stop getting butterflies is the day I stop with this whole thing. Try and see the nerves as positive adrenaline not negative and as much as possible relax about it. "
I usually manage that on the day, turn it into something positive but I keep putting off meets or setting a day because I’m nervous. Ugh  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is there anyone you have in mind to meet? If so make a date and ramp up the sexy messages so that when you do meet you can’t keep your hands off each other.
To be honest I wouldn’t advocate getting back into the swing with someone you haven’t already felt comfortable with.
Good luck and happy shagging QL xx
I have a couple of men who I have been chatting too for a while, but it’s the whole ‘meeting someone new’ that’s making me a bit nervous!
Thank you xxx
If you’ve been chatting for a while and feel comfortable then the only thing new is the fact that you’re in the same room at the same time. Don’t let your mind overthink this. Breathe, relax and don’t worry. If you’re comfortable with him everything else will pan out well usually. Nerves are natural. Worrying yourself to death unnecessarily isn’t fun though x"
That’s true! Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't. Wait until your fully back to yourself. Personally I wouldn't meet anyone unless I was buzzing for it x"
Oh I am buzzing for it! Just nervous too. My first meet was arranged within half an hour of speaking to him, and we met the very next day. I’m better at spontaneous meets rather than waiting for the build up, if that makes sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't. Wait until your fully back to yourself. Personally I wouldn't meet anyone unless I was buzzing for it x
Oh I am buzzing for it! Just nervous too. My first meet was arranged within half an hour of speaking to him, and we met the very next day. I’m better at spontaneous meets rather than waiting for the build up, if that makes sense? "
If your buzzing for it then that's a different kettle of fish altogether
Yes...I prefer spontaneous as well. Don't think we've ever had a future meet
Just meet and enjoy it then. The excitement will take over and the rest will just happen naturally x |
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By *irthy73Man
over a year ago
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Anxity is a bugger. You overthink everything, to the point where you’re inactive because you can’t cope with all the thoughts.
If you explain it to the other guy, and he is decent enough, then he should be understanding and if it gets to much and you have to bale, then you need to do what’s right for you.
Good luck xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can only speak from my own experience here, but... the last time I had sex at all was June 2017, the last time I had sexual contact with anyone was September 2017. I was well aware that I could meet on here, but I didn't want to have sex simply for the sake of it, I wanted to just chill out, if I found someone on here or irl that I wanted to sleep with then that was cool. Cut to July this year - had a really spontaneous social in Leeds with someone who used the forums but we hadn't actually privately messaged for like nine months at least. So we get talking properly after our social, and met again last week (once again, really spontaneous) and it was brilliant, really chilled out, relaxed and neither of us were pushing it.
TL;DR - chill out and don't do it because you feel like you should get it out of the way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can only speak from my own experience here, but... the last time I had sex at all was June 2017, the last time I had sexual contact with anyone was September 2017. I was well aware that I could meet on here, but I didn't want to have sex simply for the sake of it, I wanted to just chill out, if I found someone on here or irl that I wanted to sleep with then that was cool. Cut to July this year - had a really spontaneous social in Leeds with someone who used the forums but we hadn't actually privately messaged for like nine months at least. So we get talking properly after our social, and met again last week (once again, really spontaneous) and it was brilliant, really chilled out, relaxed and neither of us were pushing it.
TL;DR - chill out and don't do it because you feel like you should get it out of the way. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Anxity is a bugger. You overthink everything, to the point where you’re inactive because you can’t cope with all the thoughts.
If you explain it to the other guy, and he is decent enough, then he should be understanding and if it gets to much and you have to bale, then you need to do what’s right for you.
Good luck xx "
Thank you! xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't. Wait until your fully back to yourself. Personally I wouldn't meet anyone unless I was buzzing for it x
Oh I am buzzing for it! Just nervous too. My first meet was arranged within half an hour of speaking to him, and we met the very next day. I’m better at spontaneous meets rather than waiting for the build up, if that makes sense?
If your buzzing for it then that's a different kettle of fish altogether
Yes...I prefer spontaneous as well. Don't think we've ever had a future meet
Just meet and enjoy it then. The excitement will take over and the rest will just happen naturally x"
Think I’m going to have to go with the spontaneous meet and hope that someone I fancy can do a last minute meet!
Thank you for your advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take it easy - I’m sure the guys you’re chatting to will understand even if it’s just a social to see how it is?
I’m awful at socials..."
I'm very very good at them  So maybe that someone will make it all flow naturally for you and you'll wonder why you were so worried |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Take it easy - I’m sure the guys you’re chatting to will understand even if it’s just a social to see how it is?
I’m awful at socials...
I'm very very good at them So maybe that someone will make it all flow naturally for you and you'll wonder why you were so worried "
I’m awful, I end up just fucking them!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take it easy - I’m sure the guys you’re chatting to will understand even if it’s just a social to see how it is?
I’m awful at socials...
I'm very very good at them So maybe that someone will make it all flow naturally for you and you'll wonder why you were so worried
I’m awful, I end up just fucking them!
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It takes two to tango. If you've had some wonky socials it was at least partially the guy's fault  I used to have weird socials when I first started with my ex until I decided to take charge a bit and help them be more relaxed and seductive. Since then I haven't had a bad one  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Take it easy - I’m sure the guys you’re chatting to will understand even if it’s just a social to see how it is?
I’m awful at socials...
I'm very very good at them So maybe that someone will make it all flow naturally for you and you'll wonder why you were so worried
I’m awful, I end up just fucking them!
It takes two to tango. If you've had some wonky socials it was at least partially the guy's fault I used to have weird socials when I first started with my ex until I decided to take charge a bit and help them be more relaxed and seductive. Since then I haven't had a bad one "
Fancy coming to Scotland next week and controlling me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take it easy - I’m sure the guys you’re chatting to will understand even if it’s just a social to see how it is?
I’m awful at socials...
I'm very very good at them So maybe that someone will make it all flow naturally for you and you'll wonder why you were so worried
I’m awful, I end up just fucking them!
It takes two to tango. If you've had some wonky socials it was at least partially the guy's fault I used to have weird socials when I first started with my ex until I decided to take charge a bit and help them be more relaxed and seductive. Since then I haven't had a bad one
Fancy coming to Scotland next week and controlling me? "
 Much as that appeals... it is an 8 hour journey each way  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Take it easy - I’m sure the guys you’re chatting to will understand even if it’s just a social to see how it is?
I’m awful at socials...
I'm very very good at them So maybe that someone will make it all flow naturally for you and you'll wonder why you were so worried
I’m awful, I end up just fucking them!
It takes two to tango. If you've had some wonky socials it was at least partially the guy's fault I used to have weird socials when I first started with my ex until I decided to take charge a bit and help them be more relaxed and seductive. Since then I haven't had a bad one
Fancy coming to Scotland next week and controlling me?
Much as that appeals... it is an 8 hour journey each way "
I reckon I’m worth that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?"
Your liked by many so you've sold yourself already.
And it starts with a hug.
Hello I'm Patrick |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?
Your liked by many so you've sold yourself already.
And it starts with a hug.
Hello I'm Patrick "
Hello Patrick |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I haven’t met anyone new in a year. I had regular meets for a while, then met with someone I already knew.
I have anxiety/social anxiety. I’m extremely shy. I stopped meeting because I was ill for so long. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband since June. Although I’m still not right, I have my pain (mostly) under control.
I’m off work next week, and wanting to arrange a meet for during the day. But how the hell do i get back into the swing of things?!
I’m at a loss and I’ve lost a lot of confidence when it comes to meeting anyone, I want to do it but just can’t bring myself to do it.
How do I give myself that push?
Your liked by many so you've sold yourself already.
And it starts with a hug.
Hello I'm Patrick
Hello Patrick "
Scotland has some lovely views doesn't it. How about you give me a guided tour |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Instead of a single , wound you meet a cpl? As you and the lady might have more in common and you may feel more comfy in a social situation with them present? |
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"Take it easy - I’m sure the guys you’re chatting to will understand even if it’s just a social to see how it is?
I’m awful at socials...
I'm very very good at them So maybe that someone will make it all flow naturally for you and you'll wonder why you were so worried
I’m awful, I end up just fucking them!
It takes two to tango. If you've had some wonky socials it was at least partially the guy's fault I used to have weird socials when I first started with my ex until I decided to take charge a bit and help them be more relaxed and seductive. Since then I haven't had a bad one
Fancy coming to Scotland next week and controlling me?
Much as that appeals... it is an 8 hour journey each way
I reckon I’m worth that "
Of course you are I just might not be good for anything after that drive haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Take it easy - I’m sure the guys you’re chatting to will understand even if it’s just a social to see how it is?
I’m awful at socials...
I'm very very good at them So maybe that someone will make it all flow naturally for you and you'll wonder why you were so worried
I’m awful, I end up just fucking them!
It takes two to tango. If you've had some wonky socials it was at least partially the guy's fault I used to have weird socials when I first started with my ex until I decided to take charge a bit and help them be more relaxed and seductive. Since then I haven't had a bad one
Fancy coming to Scotland next week and controlling me?
Much as that appeals... it is an 8 hour journey each way
I reckon I’m worth that
Of course you are I just might not be good for anything after that drive haha "
It’s only a social  |
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