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I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? |
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over a year ago
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
I like a loosener but I'm not a very good d*unk, so no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't go there.
Have you ascertained her authenticity?
She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest."
Their is your answer! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, it’s something I prefer not to do. Although a social ‘loosener’ can work.
I do find though that a lady does need to be absolutely wankered to start even contemplating having sex with me - but then we can’t anyway because the thorny issue of ability to consent arises!
So either way I’m not getting laid!  |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
Christ no! Save yourself much aggro and find someone who doesn't feel the need to get pissed.  |
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"Ew. No.
Sex with someone who can only do it when d*unk is most unattractive. Speaking from personal experience! "
For a single bloke, im worried what the consequences would be if she made false allegations under the influence of alcohol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sometimes like to have a drink if I’m meeting someone privately but it would be as part of the social aspect of the meet, not to get tanked up beforehand.
Proceed with caution OP, it would put you in a very vulnerable position. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't even go there. No one should have to get d*unk on a meet. You're opening a massive can of worms if you play with anyone who is d*unk and can end up with people in prison. Just not worth it.
Anyone who feels they need to be d*unk to meet, should not be meeting. End of. |
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"Don't even go there. No one should have to get d*unk on a meet. You're opening a massive can of worms if you play with anyone who is d*unk and can end up with people in prison. Just not worth it.
Anyone who feels they need to be d*unk to meet, should not be meeting. End of. "
Totally agree. |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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I’d seriously be questioning why she needs to get d*unk to have sex with me.
Fuck it! I wouldn’t. I wouldn’t be going anywhere near. You’re leaving yourself wide open to some very scary possibilities there.
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"One drink to calm the nerves is great but she wont be in full control of her faculties if shes d*unk. Dont go there. Its too risky for you xx"
A couple of drinks as a loosener is fine. Having to be d*unk means she has clear issues with sex or alcohol or both.
Try talking to her. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
Really? You need to ask??
Steer well clear! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d seriously be questioning why she needs to get d*unk to have sex with me.
Fuck it! I wouldn’t. I wouldn’t be going anywhere near. You’re leaving yourself wide open to some very scary possibilities there.
Lex"
Yep, if she decides to claim sexual assault after and the hotel cctv shows her staggering her way to your room, you're on a charge |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't go there.
Have you ascertained her authenticity?
She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest."
Man wanking alert. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
1 for dutch courage is acceptable but getting d*unk is not....
Don't go there |
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"Don't even go there. No one should have to get d*unk on a meet. You're opening a massive can of worms if you play with anyone who is d*unk and can end up with people in prison. Just not worth it.
Anyone who feels they need to be d*unk to meet, should not be meeting. End of. "
I agree with you're comments about prison or anything else. I think i would be opening up a pit full of snakes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely best not to!
Although I’m guilty of doing exactly that a couple years back when I was less confident.
These days I mostly meet sober, or maximum two glasses of Dutch courage! |
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"My missus swears on a couple of white wines before,,,she calls them leg openers
You either want to fuck or you don't.
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Im not that desperate to fuck a lady who needs vodka to get horny. Im aware some men have no morals or respect, luckily for me i do. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
Be very careful. I wouldn't meet somebody who had to get d*unk to have a meet. |
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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't go there.
Have you ascertained her authenticity?
She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest."
Trust your gut babes. I've met guys that have ended up being d*unk and it wasn't pleasant. Avoid it I'd say. |
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"I wouldnt meet someone smashed, maybe she means one vodka
I wish she meant one vodka, but she states its her way of getting horny and she is anxious.
I never met a woman like that in my life."
Then don't start now........
I think you already know the answer to your question. |
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I'm not going to deny I enjoy a drink.
But getting pissed before meeting someone for the first time? No.
I want to, and need to be in full control of my senses.
Drinking with someone you already know is different.
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
Just remember to have sex with someone you have to have consent.
If someone is intoxicated then they are not legally fit to give consent.
So ask yourself is it worth the risk? Than ask how much you like porridge.
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal?
Really? You need to ask??
Steer well clear!"
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"Most of my meets are school hours so no. If I have a rare weekend meet will expect the gentleman to bring wine. "
Bottle of wine, i understand the purpose of that. I have done the same with my private meets. But not vodka. |
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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal?
Just remember to have sex with someone you have to have consent.
If someone is intoxicated then they are not legally fit to give consent.
So ask yourself is it worth the risk? Than ask how much you like porridge.
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This is spot on |
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Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for you're advice and i have decided to opt out and wait. It will feel like im stuck on a small island waiting for a ship to come by lol. On the hand, im not facing 4 walls of prison and i can definitely do without the dramas.
Love and peace to you all |
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"Surely this is a no brainer 
One would think so. I can't fathom how someone would need to ask if this is normal or not."
Because some people have different perceptions as you can see on the forum . But i knew i would because of a gut feeling. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
Fk that, sober sex all day every day. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
Time for a sharp exit.
Anyone who needs to get pissed for a meet shouldn't be swinging.
FULL STOP. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal?
Fk that, sober sex all day every day. "
I agree sober sex is the only way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, steer clear.
I met a woman once who told me to bring a bottle of vodka to a meet  she ended up a bubbling wasted mess and I had to take her hope. Waste of time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, steer clear.
I met a woman once who told me to bring a bottle of vodka to a meet she ended up a bubbling wasted mess and I had to take her hope. Waste of time!"
You took her hope? Did you take her pride and dignity too? Poor woman. |
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"Don't go there.
Have you ascertained her authenticity?
She recently just joined fab and i have a negative gut feeling about if im honest."
Gut feelings are there for a reason, it sounds like a bloke winding you up or a worse case scenario of setting you up for some scam. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
No I certainly wouldn't meet anyone who needed to be d*unk can't think of anything worse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, steer clear.
I met a woman once who told me to bring a bottle of vodka to a meet she ended up a bubbling wasted mess and I had to take her hope. Waste of time!
You took her hope? Did you take her pride and dignity too? Poor woman. "
Home you rascal!! |
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By *obbo44Man
over a year ago
Swansea |
Do it do it do it lol and don't stop at the vodka get the tequila out to play as well and get proper mortal ,then get her back to your place do shots of vodka in the eyeball ,tie her up and fire paintballs at her until she squeals with delight , then time for the collar and a furry butt plug and ride her around the room like your tonto the Indian do it do it do it   lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe one sociable drink, a glass of wine maybe, something like that. But never ever to get d*unk in order to have sex.
Still, each to their own we say, but it does sound like an accident waiting to happen. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking? |
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I don't think it's necessarily an unreasonable question tbh. There seems to be a norm around intoxication and swinging, to the point where I've seen people say they won't meet people who aren't drinking or somehow high. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
she doesn't live in Southampton by any chance ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh gord we once had a couple that turned up under the influence and they were a nightmare to get rid of, just weird and very un sexy. Stank of booze and stale tobacco. I should pass unless you are ready for what can Possibly go wrong scenario. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
Do. Not. Go. There.
One or two social drinks perhaps, but meeting someone whose “d*unk on vodka?”.
Imagine how it would look if she was to call the police and allege something inappropriate had happened?
I won’t (generally) sleep with someone the first time I’ve met them, for exactly the same reason. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal?
You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking? "
Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better. |
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"I don't think it's necessarily an unreasonable question tbh. There seems to be a norm around intoxication and swinging, to the point where I've seen people say they won't meet people who aren't drinking or somehow high. "
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over a year ago
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This brings up the whole question of consent - can a d*unk person give consent?
I know it is all relative but there has to be a point when you consider your own safety. |
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over a year ago
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If you have to get d*unk for a meet, then how can you say you fully enjoy it? Surely it should be something you want to do in full mind and stone cold sober. |
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"This brings up the whole question of consent - can a d*unk person give consent?
I know it is all relative but there has to be a point when you consider your own safety. "
It’s a question of fact and degree, but mental capacity is necessary in order to give consent and mental capacity can be lost through intoxication.
The d*unker the person is, the higher the risk that they cannot consent. |
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over a year ago
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"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy"
It's shocking the amount of wives that need to be pissed to swing. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy
It's shocking the amount of wives that need to be pissed to swing. "
Yeah you see it often, it's terrible. Just trying to please their husband/Bf etc. |
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over a year ago
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"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy
It's shocking the amount of wives that need to be pissed to swing. "
Jeez! Really? |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I often have to drive to meets so obviously never drink then.
I do enjoy going to clubs, having a couple of drinks and some fun but stay in a hotel.
Drinks helps relax but I never get really d*unk. |
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over a year ago
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"A person could claim they were not able to consent due to drink or drugs.... Walk away while you can"
I did this last week. Guy was so d*unk, he wasn't able to do anything. |
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"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy
It's shocking the amount of wives that need to be pissed to swing. "
Shagging anyone who is pissed is a truly terrible idea.
On every possible front! |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal?
You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking?
Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better. "
If you haven’t learned by now not to go anywhere near anyone sexually when they are pissed, you deserve the outcome!
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal? "
a drink needed before meeting someone ....no way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs |
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs "
I think there’s a difference between having a little ‘loosener’ and getting wankered on vodka, which I think is the insinuation most are taking from the OP |
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs
I think there’s a difference between having a little ‘loosener’ and getting wankered on vodka, which I think is the insinuation most are taking from the OP "
Yeah I think people might be getting the wrong end of the stick and thinking this woman wants to get wasted before they meet |
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs "
You'd be ok with meeting a woman who needs to get d*unk on vodka for a meet? |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"A person could claim they were not able to consent due to drink or drugs.... Walk away while you can
I did this last week. Guy was so d*unk, he wasn't able to do anything."
How horrible for you... I hope you left him to it.
A friend of mine from my single swinging days met a lady at her house, he arrive at the arranged time to find the door on the latch, as they had discussed. He let himself in to find her sprawled naked on the sofa, with an empty wine glass in her hand. She was pissed as a fart. When he turned to leave she said she would "report him" for wasting her time... Quite what she would report him for he didn't know, but he made a hasty exit.
There is no place for too much alcohol or drugs where sex is concerned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs
I think there’s a difference between having a little ‘loosener’ and getting wankered on vodka, which I think is the insinuation most are taking from the OP
Yeah I think people might be getting the wrong end of the stick and thinking this woman wants to get wasted before they meet "
I don't think people are getting the wrong end of the stick when that's exactly what the OP says. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs "
I'd question how up for it she really is in that case. If she can't do it sober, don't go there. |
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs
I think there’s a difference between having a little ‘loosener’ and getting wankered on vodka, which I think is the insinuation most are taking from the OP
Yeah I think people might be getting the wrong end of the stick and thinking this woman wants to get wasted before they meet "
To be fair, the OP states: “she needs to get d*unk on vodka”. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs
You'd be ok with meeting a woman who needs to get d*unk on vodka for a meet?"
I’ve only ever been totally sober once and that was because I was driving to and from the club. We always like to have a drink and a “get to know each other” first, so I suppose it just seems fairly normal. We don’t generally have random meets etc so I cant really speak for it
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"A person could claim they were not able to consent due to drink or drugs.... Walk away while you can
I did this last week. Guy was so d*unk, he wasn't able to do anything.
How horrible for you... I hope you left him to it.
A friend of mine from my single swinging days met a lady at her house, he arrive at the arranged time to find the door on the latch, as they had discussed. He let himself in to find her sprawled naked on the sofa, with an empty wine glass in her hand. She was pissed as a fart. When he turned to leave she said she would "report him" for wasting her time... Quite what she would report him for he didn't know, but he made a hasty exit.
There is no place for too much alcohol or drugs where sex is concerned."
I made sure he got back to hotel safely and then called a taxi. Never again. |
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs
I'd question how up for it she really is in that case. If she can't do it sober, don't go there."
Believe me, she is totally up for it, we both are. We both feel more comfortable around new people when we are having a drink with them though, that’s always been the case even before we started swinging. I did realise this was such a big deal for people |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"A person could claim they were not able to consent due to drink or drugs.... Walk away while you can
I did this last week. Guy was so d*unk, he wasn't able to do anything.
How horrible for you... I hope you left him to it.
A friend of mine from my single swinging days met a lady at her house, he arrive at the arranged time to find the door on the latch, as they had discussed. He let himself in to find her sprawled naked on the sofa, with an empty wine glass in her hand. She was pissed as a fart. When he turned to leave she said she would "report him" for wasting her time... Quite what she would report him for he didn't know, but he made a hasty exit.
There is no place for too much alcohol or drugs where sex is concerned.
I made sure he got back to hotel safely and then called a taxi. Never again."
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs
I'd question how up for it she really is in that case. If she can't do it sober, don't go there.
Believe me, she is totally up for it, we both are. We both feel more comfortable around new people when we are having a drink with them though, that’s always been the case even before we started swinging. I did realise this was such a big deal for people "
Fair enough, whatever works for you.
We prefer not to use alcohol and not to meet others that "need it" to socialise.
Horses for courses. |
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over a year ago
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"Can’t believe all the No’s Mrs has to have a little drink inside her to help with the nerves and confidence. Then again, we don’t go looking unless it’s weekends or at clubs
I'd question how up for it she really is in that case. If she can't do it sober, don't go there.
Believe me, she is totally up for it, we both are. We both feel more comfortable around new people when we are having a drink with them though, that’s always been the case even before we started swinging. I did realise this was such a big deal for people
Fair enough, whatever works for you.
We prefer not to use alcohol and not to meet others that "need it" to socialise.
Horses for courses. "
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"This brings up the whole question of consent - can a d*unk person give consent?
I know it is all relative but there has to be a point when you consider your own safety. "
That was my point of the consequences and it was interesting to see what other people felt. For me, no chance its not worth the risk. |
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"One of the reasons certain clubs are a no go for us, too many d*unk people looking for a late night fumble! Not sexy"
Thank you, it just proves people do get d*unk even when they are in clubs. I wonder how people who stated they wouldn't go there, have had sex d*unk in the clubs. |
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"I don't drink and I would never be d*unk on a meet.
I would go with your gut instincts and don't meet her xx"
Thank you lovely and im wise enough not to there. If my gut says something, then its for a reason. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal?
You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking?
Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better.
If you haven’t learned by now not to go anywhere near anyone sexually when they are pissed, you deserve the outcome!
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Experience may cost you wisdom, but thank god i got some left. There was nothing to learn, because i wasn't going there and i never have been with any lady like that. Dont assume please,you don't know me.
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What i have found interesting from this debate, how many people would consider to get d*unk before a meet. Or get d*unk in certain clubs and play with others.
How many people have been d*unk on one night stands? I bet the same people who state they wouldn't meet or have sex with an individual d*unk. Im not mocking people, just maybe we need to reflect and think about our answers |
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over a year ago
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Sounds a bit fake, but her version of d*unk may be yours of tipsy or paralytic, have you checked. Anything past memory loss or blacking out would bother me, merry, tipsy, giggly not in the slightest. |
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"What i have found interesting from this debate, how many people would consider to get d*unk before a meet. Or get d*unk in certain clubs and play with others.
How many people have been d*unk on one night stands? I bet the same people who state they wouldn't meet or have sex with an individual d*unk. Im not mocking people, just maybe we need to reflect and think about our answers "
Guilty as charged with most of the above. I’ve been in situations in the past I wouldn’t consider nowadays...
In the #metoo era we don’t just need to consider our past actions, we also need to think about our approach going forward! |
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"Sounds a bit fake, but her version of d*unk may be yours of tipsy or paralytic, have you checked. Anything past memory loss or blacking out would bother me, merry, tipsy, giggly not in the slightest. "
I did check, she sent me her photos that was consistent and i asked how many vodkas she need to drink. Her reply i need to get d*unk to get horny . Simple as that really. |
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"What i have found interesting from this debate, how many people would consider to get d*unk before a meet. Or get d*unk in certain clubs and play with others.
How many people have been d*unk on one night stands? I bet the same people who state they wouldn't meet or have sex with an individual d*unk. Im not mocking people, just maybe we need to reflect and think about our answers
Guilty as charged with most of the above. I’ve been in situations in the past I wouldn’t consider nowadays...
In the #metoo era we don’t just need to consider our past actions, we also need to think about our approach going forward! "
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal?
You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking?
Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better.
If you haven’t learned by now not to go anywhere near anyone sexually when they are pissed, you deserve the outcome!
Experience may cost you wisdom, but thank god i got some left. There was nothing to learn, because i wasn't going there and i never have been with any lady like that. Dont assume please,you don't know me.
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Then what was the point of your question? You were obviously considering it and wanted to find out if it were common. You’re not in your teens anymore. |
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"I have been messaging a lady who want to meet me for sex. However in order for her to feel comfortable, she needs to get d*unk on vodka.
I understand a bit of dutch courage may be needed before a private meet, but im slightly worry of the consequences this could seriously back fire on me for many negative reasons.
Am i overthinking or is it normal?
You are 45 years old with all those years of experience. Do you honestly think that question is even worth asking?
Do you think it was worth you engaging a negative opinion. Maybe not at you're age or should you know better.
If you haven’t learned by now not to go anywhere near anyone sexually when they are pissed, you deserve the outcome!
Experience may cost you wisdom, but thank god i got some left. There was nothing to learn, because i wasn't going there and i never have been with any lady like that. Dont assume please,you don't know me.
Then what was the point of your question? You were obviously considering it and wanted to find out if it were common. You’re not in your teens anymore. "
I think you missed the point, my gut feeling said no and i always go with my gut feeling. But i did wanted to find out if it was common. Teens, really? Ffs. |
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