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"Anyone fancy summarising the thread in one line...? Thanks "OP has the ump | |||
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"Anyone fancy summarising the thread in one line...? Thanks "I nominate you, ta. | |||
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"Sorry ,,, attention span of a goldfish plus it will soon be Xmas . And we can look at glittery things I'm eating Stollen cake" Hell yes!! And Lebkuchen By the truckload | |||
"Anyone fancy summarising the thread in one line...? Thanks
OP has the ump"Haha thabks. I won’t bother reading then  | |||
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"Anyone fancy summarising the thread in one line...? Thanks
I nominate you, ta."Haha fortunately it’s been done, by all means read and go into more depth though  | |||
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"I read it (do I get a medal) dont think the author understands slut shaming even a male version. More just the usual 'useless man' complaint. " Medals all yours  | |||
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"I read it (do I get a medal) dont think the author understands slut shaming even a male version. More just the usual 'useless man' complaint. Medals all yours "And some of that Christmas sparkle from above | |||
"I got bored a quarter of the way down soz. " Exactly | |||
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"Simply sharing a post from a lady I have found online. Absolutely brilliant and 100% applicable to fab too ******** *** women, I am talking to you! I see it everywhere on ***. I see it in articles, in comments, in poems, in rants, in picture text expose bombs. Why? Why are we doing this? I get it. Some guys are creepy. Some guys are inconsiderate. Some guys have no clue how to properly talk to a lady. Some guys are pushing or overstepping bounds when they were given no invitation. But make no bones about it, there is a far cry between consent violation and *** men trying to approach *** women. This is what I hear. "I cannot believe he has only cock pics!" Ummm…have you looked at your profile? So many boob pics. Like nothing but boobs and pussies and asses for miles around. Granted, they may have a women’s touch. An artsy twist here, a different angle there. Oh, look, there’s a black and white boob shot. An almost, partially clothed boob shot. A down and dirty cum covered boob shot. But everywhere I look there are boobs and boobs and more boobs. Are we really that easily offended that he has only cock pics? Maybe they aren’t in the best lighting. Maybe he has twenty that are all the same. Maybe there is not a face pic to be found. How many women on *** can’t show their face? Is it any different just because they may not have your same photo composition skills? "I cannot believe he thought that I was the kind of girl who would send him naked pics/videos to masturbate to!" Are you naïve enough to believe that he doesn’t already masturbate to your pictures that YOU posted to an ONLINE kink site? Can anyone say free porn? Why would he have any idea that you might possibly be offended by a question like that? Most women who post pictures are exhibitionists. That means that in some way it turns them on for strangers to see them naked or engaged in sexual activities. So, for him to ask if you are a cam girl, EVEN THOUGH it doesn’t say that on your profile, is not really a stretch for him. He assumed you wanted him to jerk off as tribute to you. If that is not your thing, if you want those messages to stop, maybe take a minute to really think about why you want your naked pictures posted online. "I can’t believe he just said that in my picture comments! What an asshole!" Really? Okay, so this is a real thing. I see girls post some pervy shit that they want to do to another girl in a photo comment and it gets such a positive response. ”Oh girl, I would so fuck the shit out of you if you were right here.” And then some guy will post a comment along the lines of mmm…nice titties or some other such colloquial vulgar pervy terms and she rails against his pervy ass. Are we all not on here to perv a bit? It even says it right next to our photo - Perv Next Can we just take a minute to not hate on all the guys who are actually boosting our photos through loves and pervy comments? If we posted them, they have every right to fully enjoy them. "Why would he assume I want a random hookup? Has he not read my profile? I said I was here for friendship and community." Well, you know as well as I do that he most likely has not read your profile, or at least not all of it. But here is what he probably did see. He saw that you labeled yourself as a slut. He skimmed your profile and noticed keywords like cumslut, cock worshipper, pain slut. He saw that you have over 300 naked pics. He noticed your homemade porn videos. He saw that your top 3 writings are erotica on how you want to be taken, used, and called slut. In his, albeit immature, mind he saw that you might be interested in being treated like a slut. So, he thought he’d throw it out there in a PM to you. Yes, there may be better and worse ways to send that message, but the spirit of the message can’t be faulted regardless of if you’re just a slut for your certain daddy. "I cannot believe he even had the balls to ask me if I would be his out of town weekend girl!" It could be he is a complete cheating douchebag who uses business trips as his excuse to stick his dick in any port he can find. However, it is equally valid that he is a kinkster on a kink website who is specifically looking for a girl who also might be into something a bit on the kinkier side. He can Tinder his way to a random hookup in any town he travels to. But maybe he specifically dug your vibe and thought he’d throw it out there. A Hail Mary pass. Not that kind of girl? No problem. I find not responding is the best course of action. "This is NOT a dating site!" Well, that is quite debatable. Does *** offer way more than a traditional dating site? Hell yes! That’s why most of us stay. The pictures are delectable and the writing even more so. We fall in love with the community that we get to create. But that doesn’t mean it does not act like a dating site. Profiles abound with Looking Fors: lifetime relationship, princess by day slut by night, play partner, daddy, dom/domme, little, baby girl, sub, slave, master. Some are very blatant about it. That would be me. I make no apologies that I use *** to garner play partners for my hotwifing game. But this extends to more than the blatant hookups. I have seen woman after woman declare emphatically that they are not looking for anything on *** but friendship and community only to talk to my husband for less than 24 hours and suddenly he would make the perfect Daddy/Dom/Sadist for them. And how many were not looking but ended up talking to someone and connecting and there it was undeniably in front of them? It is actually one of the things I like best about ***. Connection happens in the most unsuspecting places, sometimes with others you never thought in a million years to talk to. That guy reaching out is putting himself on the line, making himself vulnerable because he thinks there is something about you that is cool as ice. Now, before I get blasted for this post, let me state very upfront that I am not condoning forceful culture. Just because someone approaches you DOES NOT mean you must reciprocate. I’m just saying that maybe we could give a few of these men the benefit of the doubt. Maybe we don’t have to be quite so mean or quick to hate. Here is a simple idea. Don’t like their message? Ignore it. You don’t even have to respond. It is really that simple. There is no need for blocking or for a hateful retort. And deactivating over it? Can we say drama queen? Of course, you have every right to respond and I find that I often do. A simple, “that’s not what I’m looking for, but thank you” has almost always sufficed. Most are even so surprised that I even messaged them back. I get more “thank you for even taking the time to talk with me” than any other response on this site. Ladies, they are already prepared for you to ignore them. This won’t even offend them. So, if you are disgusted with their introductory message, go ahead and do what they expect anyway. We, as women, have worked so long to reclaim the word SLUT. We’ve fought to be free, to be as sexually diverse as men, to be as sexually playful or powerful as men. I see such positivity towards other women about embracing their inner slut. I see the power we draw from this, the community we draw from this. But let’s not forget that the core of this reclaiming is to be seen as sexually vibrant and that it is good and valid. We cannot run around being sexually vibrant and powerful yet use that same power to beat down men sexually. Of course, they want sex. Of course, they want sex from us. Of course, they find us sexy as fuck. Of course, we make their cocks hard. I may not want them all. I may think some of them are childish or grotesque. I may think some of them are rude or overstepping boundaries. I may not be attracted to some of them, physically or mentally. I may think they are an atrocious speller and should really learn how to at least be able to type the word fuck properly. I may think some of them bore me to tears with their lack of bantering. However, I am polite to them all. Until they prove otherwise, I just assume they have positive intentions that are as sexually valid as my own. And if I think they don’t, I just follow my gut and ignore. Simple. Clean. Easy. Drama free."  | |||
"I read it all and agree that us girls could cut guys a bit of slack " Speak for yourself, I treat men with nothing but respect or the contempt they deserve. | |||
"Anyone fancy summarising the thread in one line...? Thanks
I nominate you, ta.
Haha fortunately it’s been done, by all means read and go into more depth though "I can't read it all. My brain won't let me  | |||
"Can someone shorten this I’m lazy" Had a go, I think this is the gist... more or less: Women, I am talking to you! Please understand that there is a big difference between a guy messaging you to get to know you, and a guy that refuses to take a hint, so don’t judge us all the same.. Don’t constantly complain about cock pic, which are no worse than all the boobs and pussy pics on your profiles. Also, don’t act surprised or offended by him using your pics/video’s for wank fodder, you know that’s why you put them on your profiles, and how it excites you. So he’s got no face pic... have you? If you’ve put pics up it’s obvious you’ll cam for him isn’t it? If not, you should think about what you put on your profiles. There’s obvious sexism here, women can get away with far more than guys on here, but lay off the guys, we’re all here to perv If you label yourselves a slut, don’t be surprised if your approached like one, especially if you have naked pics. If he asks for a meet, don’t just assume he’s ‘cheating’, it’s a swingers site he could well be he’s a swinger, saw your profile and liked it. "This is NOT a dating site!" (Not a clue with this part) Basically, don’t be so fast to judge and reply harshly or rudely in open forums or private message. Whilst women’s equality empowers them with sexual freedom and sexual equality, it doesn’t give them the right to beat men down sexually Give others the benefit of the doubt until they abuse it. | |||
"Anyone fancy summarising the thread in one line...? Thanks
I nominate you, ta.
Haha fortunately it’s been done, by all means read and go into more depth though
I can't read it all. My brain won't let me "Haha busy day? | |||
"Can someone shorten this I’m lazy Had a go, I think this is the gist... more or less: Women, I am talking to you! Please understand that there is a big difference between a guy messaging you to get to know you, and a guy that refuses to take a hint, so don’t judge us all the same.. Don’t constantly complain about cock pic, which are no worse than all the boobs and pussy pics on your profiles. Also, don’t act surprised or offended by him using your pics/video’s for wank fodder, you know that’s why you put them on your profiles, and how it excites you. So he’s got no face pic... have you? If you’ve put pics up it’s obvious you’ll cam for him isn’t it? If not, you should think about what you put on your profiles. There’s obvious sexism here, women can get away with far more than guys on here, but lay off the guys, we’re all here to perv If you label yourselves a slut, don’t be surprised if your approached like one, especially if you have naked pics. If he asks for a meet, don’t just assume he’s ‘cheating’, it’s a swingers site he could well be he’s a swinger, saw your profile and liked it. "This is NOT a dating site!" (Not a clue with this part) Basically, don’t be so fast to judge and reply harshly or rudely in open forums or private message. Whilst women’s equality empowers them with sexual freedom and sexual equality, it doesn’t give them the right to beat men down sexually Give others the benefit of the doubt until they abuse it. " Lol right no ok no Also (many issues with this but this is one of the main ones) the whole you upload photos cause they wank to them and they excite you...I hardly think my photos are wank worthy and nope, wouldn’t excite me in the slightest.  | |||
"Can someone shorten this I’m lazy Had a go, I think this is the gist... more or less: Women, I am talking to you! Please understand that there is a big difference between a guy messaging you to get to know you, and a guy that refuses to take a hint, so don’t judge us all the same.. Don’t constantly complain about cock pic, which are no worse than all the boobs and pussy pics on your profiles. Also, don’t act surprised or offended by him using your pics/video’s for wank fodder, you know that’s why you put them on your profiles, and how it excites you. So he’s got no face pic... have you? If you’ve put pics up it’s obvious you’ll cam for him isn’t it? If not, you should think about what you put on your profiles. There’s obvious sexism here, women can get away with far more than guys on here, but lay off the guys, we’re all here to perv If you label yourselves a slut, don’t be surprised if your approached like one, especially if you have naked pics. If he asks for a meet, don’t just assume he’s ‘cheating’, it’s a swingers site he could well be he’s a swinger, saw your profile and liked it. "This is NOT a dating site!" (Not a clue with this part) Basically, don’t be so fast to judge and reply harshly or rudely in open forums or private message. Whilst women’s equality empowers them with sexual freedom and sexual equality, it doesn’t give them the right to beat men down sexually Give others the benefit of the doubt until they abuse it. Lol right no ok no Also (many issues with this but this is one of the main ones) the whole you upload photos cause they wank to them and they excite you...I hardly think my photos are wank worthy and nope, wouldn’t excite me in the slightest. "But thank you for summarising. I had read it by that point - but I did ask  xx | |||
"Anyone fancy summarising the thread in one line...? Thanks
I nominate you, ta.
Haha fortunately it’s been done, by all means read and go into more depth though
I can't read it all. My brain won't let me
Haha busy day? "Terrible brain | |||
"Can someone shorten this I’m lazy Had a go, I think this is the gist... more or less: Women, I am talking to you! Please understand that there is a big difference between a guy messaging you to get to know you, and a guy that refuses to take a hint, so don’t judge us all the same.. Don’t constantly complain about cock pic, which are no worse than all the boobs and pussy pics on your profiles. Also, don’t act surprised or offended by him using your pics/video’s for wank fodder, you know that’s why you put them on your profiles, and how it excites you. So he’s got no face pic... have you? If you’ve put pics up it’s obvious you’ll cam for him isn’t it? If not, you should think about what you put on your profiles. There’s obvious sexism here, women can get away with far more than guys on here, but lay off the guys, we’re all here to perv If you label yourselves a slut, don’t be surprised if your approached like one, especially if you have naked pics. If he asks for a meet, don’t just assume he’s ‘cheating’, it’s a swingers site he could well be he’s a swinger, saw your profile and liked it. "This is NOT a dating site!" (Not a clue with this part) Basically, don’t be so fast to judge and reply harshly or rudely in open forums or private message. Whilst women’s equality empowers them with sexual freedom and sexual equality, it doesn’t give them the right to beat men down sexually Give others the benefit of the doubt until they abuse it. " Cheers for that. Doesn't apply to me so I'll be on my merry way | |||
"Simply sharing a post from a lady I have found online. Absolutely brilliant and 100% applicable to fab too ******** *** women, I am talking to you! I see it everywhere on ***. I see it in articles, in comments, in poems, in rants, in picture text expose bombs. Why? Why are we doing this? I get it. Some guys are creepy. Some guys are inconsiderate. Some guys have no clue how to properly talk to a lady. Some guys are pushing or overstepping bounds when they were given no invitation. But make no bones about it, there is a far cry between consent violation and *** men trying to approach *** women. This is what I hear. "I cannot believe he has only cock pics!" Ummm…have you looked at your profile? So many boob pics. Like nothing but boobs and pussies and asses for miles around. Granted, they may have a women’s touch. An artsy twist here, a different angle there. Oh, look, there’s a black and white boob shot. An almost, partially clothed boob shot. A down and dirty cum covered boob shot. But everywhere I look there are boobs and boobs and more boobs. Are we really that easily offended that he has only cock pics? Maybe they aren’t in the best lighting. Maybe he has twenty that are all the same. Maybe there is not a face pic to be found. How many women on *** can’t show their face? Is it any different just because they may not have your same photo composition skills? "I cannot believe he thought that I was the kind of girl who would send him naked pics/videos to masturbate to!" Are you naïve enough to believe that he doesn’t already masturbate to your pictures that YOU posted to an ONLINE kink site? Can anyone say free porn? Why would he have any idea that you might possibly be offended by a question like that? Most women who post pictures are exhibitionists. That means that in some way it turns them on for strangers to see them naked or engaged in sexual activities. So, for him to ask if you are a cam girl, EVEN THOUGH it doesn’t say that on your profile, is not really a stretch for him. He assumed you wanted him to jerk off as tribute to you. If that is not your thing, if you want those messages to stop, maybe take a minute to really think about why you want your naked pictures posted online. "I can’t believe he just said that in my picture comments! What an asshole!" Really? Okay, so this is a real thing. I see girls post some pervy shit that they want to do to another girl in a photo comment and it gets such a positive response. ”Oh girl, I would so fuck the shit out of you if you were right here.” And then some guy will post a comment along the lines of mmm…nice titties or some other such colloquial vulgar pervy terms and she rails against his pervy ass. Are we all not on here to perv a bit? It even says it right next to our photo - Perv Next Can we just take a minute to not hate on all the guys who are actually boosting our photos through loves and pervy comments? If we posted them, they have every right to fully enjoy them. "Why would he assume I want a random hookup? Has he not read my profile? I said I was here for friendship and community." Well, you know as well as I do that he most likely has not read your profile, or at least not all of it. But here is what he probably did see. He saw that you labeled yourself as a slut. He skimmed your profile and noticed keywords like cumslut, cock worshipper, pain slut. He saw that you have over 300 naked pics. He noticed your homemade porn videos. He saw that your top 3 writings are erotica on how you want to be taken, used, and called slut. In his, albeit immature, mind he saw that you might be interested in being treated like a slut. So, he thought he’d throw it out there in a PM to you. Yes, there may be better and worse ways to send that message, but the spirit of the message can’t be faulted regardless of if you’re just a slut for your certain daddy. "I cannot believe he even had the balls to ask me if I would be his out of town weekend girl!" It could be he is a complete cheating douchebag who uses business trips as his excuse to stick his dick in any port he can find. However, it is equally valid that he is a kinkster on a kink website who is specifically looking for a girl who also might be into something a bit on the kinkier side. He can Tinder his way to a random hookup in any town he travels to. But maybe he specifically dug your vibe and thought he’d throw it out there. A Hail Mary pass. Not that kind of girl? No problem. I find not responding is the best course of action. "This is NOT a dating site!" Well, that is quite debatable. Does *** offer way more than a traditional dating site? Hell yes! That’s why most of us stay. The pictures are delectable and the writing even more so. We fall in love with the community that we get to create. But that doesn’t mean it does not act like a dating site. Profiles abound with Looking Fors: lifetime relationship, princess by day slut by night, play partner, daddy, dom/domme, little, baby girl, sub, slave, master. Some are very blatant about it. That would be me. I make no apologies that I use *** to garner play partners for my hotwifing game. But this extends to more than the blatant hookups. I have seen woman after woman declare emphatically that they are not looking for anything on *** but friendship and community only to talk to my husband for less than 24 hours and suddenly he would make the perfect Daddy/Dom/Sadist for them. And how many were not looking but ended up talking to someone and connecting and there it was undeniably in front of them? It is actually one of the things I like best about ***. Connection happens in the most unsuspecting places, sometimes with others you never thought in a million years to talk to. That guy reaching out is putting himself on the line, making himself vulnerable because he thinks there is something about you that is cool as ice. Now, before I get blasted for this post, let me state very upfront that I am not condoning forceful culture. Just because someone approaches you DOES NOT mean you must reciprocate. I’m just saying that maybe we could give a few of these men the benefit of the doubt. Maybe we don’t have to be quite so mean or quick to hate. Here is a simple idea. Don’t like their message? Ignore it. You don’t even have to respond. It is really that simple. There is no need for blocking or for a hateful retort. And deactivating over it? Can we say drama queen? Of course, you have every right to respond and I find that I often do. A simple, “that’s not what I’m looking for, but thank you” has almost always sufficed. Most are even so surprised that I even messaged them back. I get more “thank you for even taking the time to talk with me” than any other response on this site. Ladies, they are already prepared for you to ignore them. This won’t even offend them. So, if you are disgusted with their introductory message, go ahead and do what they expect anyway. We, as women, have worked so long to reclaim the word SLUT. We’ve fought to be free, to be as sexually diverse as men, to be as sexually playful or powerful as men. I see such positivity towards other women about embracing their inner slut. I see the power we draw from this, the community we draw from this. But let’s not forget that the core of this reclaiming is to be seen as sexually vibrant and that it is good and valid. We cannot run around being sexually vibrant and powerful yet use that same power to beat down men sexually. Of course, they want sex. Of course, they want sex from us. Of course, they find us sexy as fuck. Of course, we make their cocks hard. I may not want them all. I may think some of them are childish or grotesque. I may think some of them are rude or overstepping boundaries. I may not be attracted to some of them, physically or mentally. I may think they are an atrocious speller and should really learn how to at least be able to type the word fuck properly. I may think some of them bore me to tears with their lack of bantering. However, I am polite to them all. Until they prove otherwise, I just assume they have positive intentions that are as sexually valid as my own. And if I think they don’t, I just follow my gut and ignore. Simple. Clean. Easy. Drama free." Just wanted to quote it because it's fun scrolling down. Weeeeee | |||
"Simply sharing a post from a lady I have found online. Absolutely brilliant and 100% applicable to fab too ******** *** women, I am talking to you! I see it everywhere on ***. I see it in articles, in comments, in poems, in rants, in picture text expose bombs. Why? Why are we doing this? I get it. Some guys are creepy. Some guys are inconsiderate. Some guys have no clue how to properly talk to a lady. Some guys are pushing or overstepping bounds when they were given no invitation. But make no bones about it, there is a far cry between consent violation and *** men trying to approach *** women. This is what I hear. "I cannot believe he has only cock pics!" Ummm…have you looked at your profile? So many boob pics. Like nothing but boobs and pussies and asses for miles around. Granted, they may have a women’s touch. An artsy twist here, a different angle there. Oh, look, there’s a black and white boob shot. An almost, partially clothed boob shot. A down and dirty cum covered boob shot. But everywhere I look there are boobs and boobs and more boobs. Are we really that easily offended that he has only cock pics? Maybe they aren’t in the best lighting. Maybe he has twenty that are all the same. Maybe there is not a face pic to be found. How many women on *** can’t show their face? Is it any different just because they may not have your same photo composition skills? "I cannot believe he thought that I was the kind of girl who would send him naked pics/videos to masturbate to!" Are you naïve enough to believe that he doesn’t already masturbate to your pictures that YOU posted to an ONLINE kink site? Can anyone say free porn? Why would he have any idea that you might possibly be offended by a question like that? Most women who post pictures are exhibitionists. That means that in some way it turns them on for strangers to see them naked or engaged in sexual activities. So, for him to ask if you are a cam girl, EVEN THOUGH it doesn’t say that on your profile, is not really a stretch for him. He assumed you wanted him to jerk off as tribute to you. If that is not your thing, if you want those messages to stop, maybe take a minute to really think about why you want your naked pictures posted online. "I can’t believe he just said that in my picture comments! What an asshole!" Really? Okay, so this is a real thing. I see girls post some pervy shit that they want to do to another girl in a photo comment and it gets such a positive response. ”Oh girl, I would so fuck the shit out of you if you were right here.” And then some guy will post a comment along the lines of mmm…nice titties or some other such colloquial vulgar pervy terms and she rails against his pervy ass. Are we all not on here to perv a bit? It even says it right next to our photo - Perv Next Can we just take a minute to not hate on all the guys who are actually boosting our photos through loves and pervy comments? If we posted them, they have every right to fully enjoy them. "Why would he assume I want a random hookup? Has he not read my profile? I said I was here for friendship and community." Well, you know as well as I do that he most likely has not read your profile, or at least not all of it. But here is what he probably did see. He saw that you labeled yourself as a slut. He skimmed your profile and noticed keywords like cumslut, cock worshipper, pain slut. He saw that you have over 300 naked pics. He noticed your homemade porn videos. He saw that your top 3 writings are erotica on how you want to be taken, used, and called slut. In his, albeit immature, mind he saw that you might be interested in being treated like a slut. So, he thought he’d throw it out there in a PM to you. Yes, there may be better and worse ways to send that message, but the spirit of the message can’t be faulted regardless of if you’re just a slut for your certain daddy. "I cannot believe he even had the balls to ask me if I would be his out of town weekend girl!" It could be he is a complete cheating douchebag who uses business trips as his excuse to stick his dick in any port he can find. However, it is equally valid that he is a kinkster on a kink website who is specifically looking for a girl who also might be into something a bit on the kinkier side. He can Tinder his way to a random hookup in any town he travels to. But maybe he specifically dug your vibe and thought he’d throw it out there. A Hail Mary pass. Not that kind of girl? No problem. I find not responding is the best course of action. "This is NOT a dating site!" Well, that is quite debatable. Does *** offer way more than a traditional dating site? Hell yes! That’s why most of us stay. The pictures are delectable and the writing even more so. We fall in love with the community that we get to create. But that doesn’t mean it does not act like a dating site. Profiles abound with Looking Fors: lifetime relationship, princess by day slut by night, play partner, daddy, dom/domme, little, baby girl, sub, slave, master. Some are very blatant about it. That would be me. I make no apologies that I use *** to garner play partners for my hotwifing game. But this extends to more than the blatant hookups. I have seen woman after woman declare emphatically that they are not looking for anything on *** but friendship and community only to talk to my husband for less than 24 hours and suddenly he would make the perfect Daddy/Dom/Sadist for them. And how many were not looking but ended up talking to someone and connecting and there it was undeniably in front of them? It is actually one of the things I like best about ***. Connection happens in the most unsuspecting places, sometimes with others you never thought in a million years to talk to. That guy reaching out is putting himself on the line, making himself vulnerable because he thinks there is something about you that is cool as ice. Now, before I get blasted for this post, let me state very upfront that I am not condoning forceful culture. Just because someone approaches you DOES NOT mean you must reciprocate. I’m just saying that maybe we could give a few of these men the benefit of the doubt. Maybe we don’t have to be quite so mean or quick to hate. Here is a simple idea. Don’t like their message? Ignore it. You don’t even have to respond. It is really that simple. There is no need for blocking or for a hateful retort. And deactivating over it? Can we say drama queen? Of course, you have every right to respond and I find that I often do. A simple, “that’s not what I’m looking for, but thank you” has almost always sufficed. Most are even so surprised that I even messaged them back. I get more “thank you for even taking the time to talk with me” than any other response on this site. Ladies, they are already prepared for you to ignore them. This won’t even offend them. So, if you are disgusted with their introductory message, go ahead and do what they expect anyway. We, as women, have worked so long to reclaim the word SLUT. We’ve fought to be free, to be as sexually diverse as men, to be as sexually playful or powerful as men. I see such positivity towards other women about embracing their inner slut. I see the power we draw from this, the community we draw from this. But let’s not forget that the core of this reclaiming is to be seen as sexually vibrant and that it is good and valid. We cannot run around being sexually vibrant and powerful yet use that same power to beat down men sexually. Of course, they want sex. Of course, they want sex from us. Of course, they find us sexy as fuck. Of course, we make their cocks hard. I may not want them all. I may think some of them are childish or grotesque. I may think some of them are rude or overstepping boundaries. I may not be attracted to some of them, physically or mentally. I may think they are an atrocious speller and should really learn how to at least be able to type the word fuck properly. I may think some of them bore me to tears with their lack of bantering. However, I am polite to them all. Until they prove otherwise, I just assume they have positive intentions that are as sexually valid as my own. And if I think they don’t, I just follow my gut and ignore. Simple. Clean. Easy. Drama free. Just wanted to quote it because it's fun scrolling down. Weeeeee "You wankstain | |||
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"Can someone shorten this I’m lazy Had a go, I think this is the gist... more or less: Women, I am talking to you! Please understand that there is a big difference between a guy messaging you to get to know you, and a guy that refuses to take a hint, so don’t judge us all the same.. Don’t constantly complain about cock pic, which are no worse than all the boobs and pussy pics on your profiles. Also, don’t act surprised or offended by him using your pics/video’s for wank fodder, you know that’s why you put them on your profiles, and how it excites you. So he’s got no face pic... have you? If you’ve put pics up it’s obvious you’ll cam for him isn’t it? If not, you should think about what you put on your profiles. There’s obvious sexism here, women can get away with far more than guys on here, but lay off the guys, we’re all here to perv If you label yourselves a slut, don’t be surprised if your approached like one, especially if you have naked pics. If he asks for a meet, don’t just assume he’s ‘cheating’, it’s a swingers site he could well be he’s a swinger, saw your profile and liked it. "This is NOT a dating site!" (Not a clue with this part) Basically, don’t be so fast to judge and reply harshly or rudely in open forums or private message. Whilst women’s equality empowers them with sexual freedom and sexual equality, it doesn’t give them the right to beat men down sexually Give others the benefit of the doubt until they abuse it. " It’s hard to argue with quite a few points here, especially on ‘too many cock pictures’ when there’s probably twice as many boobs pictures. It did make me laugh. | |||
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