FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Have you ever been recognised in the real world?

Have you ever been recognised in the real world?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

I told him I wasn't on FAB (true at the time as i had recently deleted my profile) but even if i was I didn't appreciate being approached by a total stranger who had no sense of discretion, to which he replied he was just paying me a compliment and didn't see anything wrong with that...

I never saw him again until this morning in my local supermarket again, he followed me around the aisles..it made me feel very uncomfortable so i turned round and confronted him and he just said 'hi again' like he was an acquaintance..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *orwegian BlueMan over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Yep, all seems just a little creepy.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only when I have arranged a meet, they usually take a look from afar and run away

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Similar happened to me and it was very uncomfortable. Unless it’s someone I know really well, I wouldn’t approach someone from fab in the real world

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would think he has no social skills if he hasn't figured out he was not to approach you after last time.

Either that or he had a rush of blood to the "head".

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's so creepy

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *oliath AwaitsMan over a year ago

Gateshead

Twice now surprisingly though it didn't cause any problems.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ilth500Man over a year ago

Merseyside

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

yes if you wish to not to be approached. personally i wouldn't mind...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Similar happened to me and it was very uncomfortable. Unless it’s someone I know really well, I wouldn’t approach someone from fab in the real world"

Me neither..

I was shaking when i left the shop..

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally unacceptable. I’d try and find his profile and report and block him. It’s terrifying when that happens.

I was in Tesco a couple of months ago and an older man who worked there said hi. I didn’t think anything of it, just assumed he was being polite. I hadn’t even left the shop when I got a message from him on a messaging app which I had the username for on my profile, saying that it was him who had said hi. Asked me to go for a coffee and I said no. He then said that he’ll chat properly next time he sees me - and I said no, please don’t, I have severe anxiety and don’t like being caught off guard.

The next day I popped in again, with my husband and with my sisters (I was with my husband the previous day but not my sisters) when he came over and introduced himself and tried to strike up a conversation. My husband took my arm, my 11 year old sisters hand and told my 15 year old sister to get the trolley and we walked away.

I then had a 45 minute panic attack in the toilets. I then got a barrel of abuse from him

I’ve seen him since and he will actively follow me around. I don’t go to the tills, I do the scan as you go thing and he hangs around there (even though he does the shelves)

I hope you don’t see him again OP. It can be awful.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes a woman in my gym

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That is totally out of order OP. I would of been freaked out.

He should of had more respect for you. Surely everyone should value discretion on here.

That's another reason why I would never have my face on show on here.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve been recognised on other occasions, and I had absolutely no clue until I got a message saying ‘I saw you!’ That I don’t mind as much, I sometimes have face pics up so it’s to be expected eventually. But approaching me is a big no, awful

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Only when I have arranged a meet, they usually take a look from afar and run away

I'm sure that's not true xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope you are ok kinky that's very creepy xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *MP3Man over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

That's an awful situation to be put in OP. I'll have a quiet word with him on your behalf.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

He was completely out of order no question - not only does it show a total lack of discretion but puts you very much on the spot - if you know his profile I'd be inclined to report it personally.

Mercifully has never happened to me apart from once in a club when I bumped into a local shopkeeper I knew and was a little awkward the next time I went into the shop but we're past that now and apart from a knowing nudge and a wink it goes no further than that really.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *tirluvMan over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

My ma is forever recognising me

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve been recognised on other occasions, and I had absolutely no clue until I got a message saying ‘I saw you!’ That I don’t mind as much, I sometimes have face pics up so it’s to be expected eventually. But approaching me is a big no, awful "

Ive had that in the past..

Also been shouted at from a passing van on one occasion when i was out with my son..

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"That's an awful situation to be put in OP. I'll have a quiet word with him on your behalf."

My hero

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive had that in the past..

Also been shouted at from a passing van on one occasion when i was out with my son..

Oh god see, that’s bang out of order!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hope you are ok kinky that's very creepy xx"

Thanks Im ok now I'm home x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Totally out of order.

Personally I think approaching anyone you recognise from here in public, in a vanilla, real life setting is wrong.

How do they know that your kids, friends, work colleagues etc are not stood a few feet away?

For some it could cause a massive issue.

I've had people spot me out & about, then message to tell me.

I've had people send mysterious messages claiming to know me...That's creepy enough.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Totally out of order.

Personally I think approaching anyone you recognise from here in public, in a vanilla, real life setting is wrong.

How do they know that your kids, friends, work colleagues etc are not stood a few feet away?

For some it could cause a massive issue.

I've had people spot me out & about, then message to tell me.

I've had people send mysterious messages claiming to know me...That's creepy enough. "

I hate the ‘oh, I know you

’ messages. I give them once chance to say who they are, and then warn them if they don’t use that opportunity to tell me, I’m blocking them. Some own up, some confess they don’t actually know, and others get annoyed. So I just block

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *heGentleman2024Man over a year ago

North West

This is not good, it is creepy. I have been recognized more than once outside of Fab. To the point wherr ive had message requests on social media. And its from men!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hope you are ok kinky that's very creepy xx

Thanks Im ok now I'm home x"

Just try and calm yourself down and take a pepper spray then if he does it again get him in the eyes xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *esus H ChristMan over a year ago

birmingham

This, funnily enough both times when I was pedalling my funky bike around where I live....

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

In short he was out of order.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Completely out of order and wrong!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All the time. People keep coming up to me thinking i'm George Clooney.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"All the time. People keep coming up to me thinking i'm George Clooney.

Then you wake up?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All the time. People keep coming up to me thinking i'm George Clooney.

Then you wake up?

Sadly.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Find him message him telling him to back off, report him and block him.

If you see him again tell him that you are going to report him to the police.

Or tell the shop that you think he's shoplifting and he made obscene remarks to you.

Ok the latter maybe a bit ott.

But your within your rights to go shopping and feel safe.

Just always use a different route home BDO some back doubles and make sure you are not being followed sounds like an utter creep.

If you are reading this dude back off its not cool.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

No your absalulty right. As I've spoken about before I had some not right shout my name in the Trafford centre a while back. I'd normally shrug it off but I was with my daughter at the time. I was fuming

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My ma is forever recognising me"
. I know the problem she does the same to me

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *orningtonCroissantMan over a year ago

notts and humberside

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Yes totally out of order. This is our secret life

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *MP3Man over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

"That's an awful situation to be put in OP. I'll have a quiet word with him on your behalf.

My hero

I even have a cape...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Find him message him telling him to back off, report him and block him.

If you see him again tell him that you are going to report him to the police.

Or tell the shop that you think he's shoplifting and he made obscene remarks to you.

Ok the latter maybe a bit ott.

But your within your rights to go shopping and feel safe.

Just always use a different route home BDO some back doubles and make sure you are not being followed sounds like an utter creep.

If you are reading this dude back off its not cool."

I've tried looking on here for localish profiles that fit the bill but he must be in hiding..

I do hope I don't see him again tbh but the pepper spray suggestion also sounds like an option

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Find him message him telling him to back off, report him and block him.

If you see him again tell him that you are going to report him to the police.

Or tell the shop that you think he's shoplifting and he made obscene remarks to you.

Ok the latter maybe a bit ott.

But your within your rights to go shopping and feel safe.

Just always use a different route home BDO some back doubles and make sure you are not being followed sounds like an utter creep.

If you are reading this dude back off its not cool.

I've tried looking on here for localish profiles that fit the bill but he must be in hiding..

I do hope I don't see him again tbh but the pepper spray suggestion also sounds like an option

Well it would serve him right xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, but to be fair fab me and work me look completely different so I'm not expecting to ever be recognised either.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I think this is why most of us don’t put face pics in public.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Definitely creepy. I'd be really upset.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Totally out of order KB, you'd told him how you felt the first time so he should of known better.

Were you worried he'd follow you home?

Someone came into my place of work twice, spoke to me both times, I told him I didn't want to see him there again. The next time I saw him he was outside my local pub

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guys a strait div

I have no interest in confusing fab and reallity

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Totally out of order KB, you'd told him how you felt the first time so he should of known better.

Were you worried he'd follow you home?

Someone came into my place of work twice, spoke to me both times, I told him I didn't want to see him there again. The next time I saw him he was outside my local pub

Omg..that would creep me out too...

Luckily i live somewhere that couldn't even be found by accident..but saying that its a really small town

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had a guy message me when I was on her before.

Describing what I was wearing on a partial day. What car I drive and what car park my car is in during the day.

That was creepy.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Tell the perv to piss of. I think this realky creepy. Good look

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have been recognised a few times.

First one was a single female profile unverified, saw me shopping, then started telling me various times and shops I was in, despite the fact I'd never told her where I lived - she named one of my neighbour's correctly. I asked her to verify she was female on the phone, she couldn't/wouldn't that spoke volumes, she'd say she was going to approach me up an aisle in the supermarket and kids/grope me. Very unnerving and more so as in reality I had no clue who it was.

Also had issues on the school run, one part of a couple staring and making me uncomfortable after I declined to meet them and a stripper alone. Another a cheating guy I blocked, he approached me at my workplace and told me we shouldn't be so shy, no need to be embarassed unblock him - I blocked him because I had no interest and even had I, for me smiling in his unknowing wife's face knowing his secret is not my thing.

We also got approached in a hardware store, some guy bending over backwards for a sale offering us his staff discount. He later messaged to say he liked what he saw and it turned out it was him.

Another recognised me at work, he was a manager no less (not mine) he photo verified himself so he could message me, after lots of creepy messages he admitted who he was and expected a blow job as a reward for spotting me with no face pics.

Some have no idea of discretion, even those begging for it. Our vanilla life includes 4 impressionable children whose safety is paramount to us, our employment is a means to pay our bills, crossing that line between our fab life and our day to day life is not only intrusive but out of order.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All sounds gross and totally out of line.

Like someone above said, I was once sent a message from someone I'd never seen saying they saw me in a supermarket. Creeped me out a bit but nothing like some of these stories.

Worser still, I can imagine there's a sense of not wanting to make anymore of a scene out of it so people don't know your business.

Much love, OP

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"All sounds gross and totally out of line.

Like someone above said, I was once sent a message from someone I'd never seen saying they saw me in a supermarket. Creeped me out a bit but nothing like some of these stories.

Worser still, I can imagine there's a sense of not wanting to make anymore of a scene out of it so people don't know your business.

Much love, OP"

I'm guessing thats why he felt it was ok to follow me around as i wouldn't want to draw attention to where he knew me from...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *actilemale4uMan over a year ago

London

Some guys need a slap. Completely out of order

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Some guys need a slap. Completely out of order"

Actually I would say they need neutering and lobotomizing.

If people can understand the basics of privacy and confidentiality let alone personal space etc...

Then honestly they shouldn't be on here.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *elma and ShaggyCouple over a year ago

Bedworth

I once had a guy say he’d seen our profile on here while I was at work, fitting his glasses in the opticians. Totally out of order!

Next time we saw him he was working, as a carer for a disabled person, taking them shopping in Tesco. So, I approached him and started talking about Fab. He felt really uncomfortable and complained that it was inappropriate. I responded that he knew how I had felt now when he did the same to me while I was doing my job and if he ever approached us again I would report him on Fab and maybe even speak to his employers too.

Worked a treat. We’ve seen him around town a few times and he never speaks to either of us now

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm aware of several people on here.

I wouldn't dream of asking, or saying hello outside of FAB.

If they really wanted to risk the complications of speaking to lical people then they should message you online and be guided by your response.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *oserMan over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"Totally unacceptable. I’d try and find his profile and report and block him. It’s terrifying when that happens.

I then had a 45 minute panic attack in the toilets. I then got a barrel of abuse from him

I’ve seen him since and he will actively follow me around. I don’t go to the tills, I do the scan as you go thing and he hangs around there (even though he does the shelves)

I hope you don’t see him again OP. It can be awful. "

Kneecap that fooker

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Similarly thing happened to me, I was in Asda and a blonde women approached me and said ‘Has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea

Lunchables.’

So I moved. Think she knew I’m on Fab.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

"Totally unacceptable. I’d try and find his profile and report and block him. It’s terrifying when that happens.

I then had a 45 minute panic attack in the toilets. I then got a barrel of abuse from him

I’ve seen him since and he will actively follow me around. I don’t go to the tills, I do the scan as you go thing and he hangs around there (even though he does the shelves)

I hope you don’t see him again OP. It can be awful. "

I’d be tempted to report to his employers if he’s doing stuff like that whilst he’s at work. It’s completely wrong. In my line of work I’m white often seeing people that I “think” I recognise from on here but wouldn’t dare say anything. If I was ever to message someone that I thought I saw them I’d be telling them where I thought I saw them and let them know who I was but wouldn’t dare speak to them without their consent about this sort of thing.

Some of the comments on here with people saying they’ve had messages from someone saying they’ve seen them but hiding who they are is freaky.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv never been recognised yet i imagin id freak out if i did

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Similarly thing happened to me, I was in Asda and a blonde women approached me and said ‘Has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea

Lunchables.’

So I moved. Think she knew I’m on Fab."

Aren't your vacuous comments needed on your own threads

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm... might send those FAB T-shirt’s and vest tops back?!...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hmmm... might send those FAB T-shirt’s and vest tops back?!..."

I guess it depends on how desperate you are

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 22/10/18 19:39:01]

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes at the london motorbike show.

'ive seen you on fabs'

and

'you dont remember me do you, ive still got the video'

all in front of my team mates who never let me forget it.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abs..Woman over a year ago

It’s just not on to approach people.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Similarly thing happened to me, I was in Asda and a blonde women approached me and said ‘Has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea

Lunchables.’

So I moved. Think she knew I’m on Fab.

Aren't your vacuous comments needed on your own threads

Humourless

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never but have spotted a few at filling stations now and then

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *un4meanduMan over a year ago

STOTFOLD

I saw a couple in a diy store that I thought I recognised so I sent a message on my phone ,got an answer back later saying no they weren't in that store , just imagine if they had also been on mobile in there I would have just said if they wanted a chat I was outside I suppose maybe suggested a social in the coffee shop

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say I do worry about this happening but luckily I look like a piece of dog crap and where I live there's loads of dog crap so blend in.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Similarly thing happened to me, I was in Asda and a blonde women approached me and said ‘Has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea

Lunchables.’

So I moved. Think she knew I’m on Fab.

Aren't your vacuous comments needed on your own threads

Humourless "

Someone actually spoke to you in the real world, she definitely knew. Folk don’t speak to each other in the shire.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *iss.ddWoman over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

I've been followed round the local shopping centre on more than one occasion which is why I don't meet locally anymore.

I was pushing my gran round the shops with my Mam so it got really awkward as I couldn't confront

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Similarly thing happened to me, I was in Asda and a blonde women approached me and said ‘Has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea

Lunchables.’

So I moved. Think she knew I’m on Fab.

Aren't your vacuous comments needed on your own threads

Humourless

Someone actually spoke to you in the real world, she definitely knew. Folk don’t speak to each other in the shire.

Probably difficult to with all that Botox going on!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah all the time. I’m fab famous

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know a lady who was talking to a couple on here in general about a meet when she sent them a pic they responded with well hello (her real name)we didn't expect to see u on here and then went on to tell her where she lived ,but she hasn't a clue who they r as when she asked who they were and how they know her they blocked her,but they weren't local but from 40 mile away so she thinks it's work related ,now that is creepy ,I've told her to make sure none of her pics are on any other media she uses IE FB Twitter and the likes but she thinks she has met them through her work as the pic she sent is only on her fab

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Similarly thing happened to me, I was in Asda and a blonde women approached me and said ‘Has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea

Lunchables.’

So I moved. Think she knew I’m on Fab.

Aren't your vacuous comments needed on your own threads

Humourless

Someone actually spoke to you in the real world, she definitely knew. Folk don’t speak to each other in the shire.

Probably difficult to with all that Botox going on!

You lost me there !

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't no. I think I would be fairly unrecognisable even if someone had seen a face pic, as I look pretty different (read scarecrow) in daily life.

I can imagine it is pretty scary though to be honest, especially if they kept popping up rather than a one off.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Similarly thing happened to me, I was in Asda and a blonde women approached me and said ‘Has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea

Lunchables.’

So I moved. Think she knew I’m on Fab.

Aren't your vacuous comments needed on your own threads

Humourless

Someone actually spoke to you in the real world, she definitely knew. Folk don’t speak to each other in the shire.

Probably difficult to with all that Botox going on!

Are they big fans of Botox in the shire? I’ve never been

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A woman messaged me a few ago quoting my full name saying “your secret is safe with me” She won’t tell me who she is. She says she has a secret to keep.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I saw a couple in a diy store that I thought I recognised so I sent a message on my phone ,got an answer back later saying no they weren't in that store , just imagine if they had also been on mobile in there I would have just said if they wanted a chat I was outside I suppose maybe suggested a social in the coffee shop "

Given all the comments on the thread, can you now see why that wasn’t the thing to do?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Similarly thing happened to me, I was in Asda and a blonde women approached me and said ‘Has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea

Lunchables.’

So I moved. Think she knew I’m on Fab.

Aren't your vacuous comments needed on your own threads

Humourless "

did you not read the op? I wasn't aiming for humour when I posted the thread

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

so you're one of those that thinks its ok to do that? have you never heard of discretion?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just dont think this is bad in my oppinion.

Maybe it just seems weird cos its was in the supermarket. If it was in a nightclub or in the street would it be as weird.

You said he cornered you which doesnt sound right but cos u were scared did he really corner u?

For me he might have really liked you an thought i might not bump into you again.

I do get that you women have to be careful cos of the lunatics out there

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Similarly thing happened to me, I was in Asda and a blonde women approached me and said ‘Has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea

Lunchables.’

So I moved. Think she knew I’m on Fab.

Aren't your vacuous comments needed on your own threads

Humourless

did you not read the op? I wasn't aiming for humour when I posted the thread

Meh.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just dont think this is bad in my oppinion.

Maybe it just seems weird cos its was in the supermarket. If it was in a nightclub or in the street would it be as weird.

You said he cornered you which doesnt sound right but cos u were scared did he really corner u?

For me he might have really liked you an thought i might not bump into you again.

I do get that you women have to be careful cos of the lunatics out there"

Lunatics do not understand discretion. How the hell do you know if she was cornered or not ? Were you there ?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just dont think this is bad in my oppinion.

Maybe it just seems weird cos its was in the supermarket. If it was in a nightclub or in the street would it be as weird.

You said he cornered you which doesnt sound right but cos u were scared did he really corner u?

For me he might have really liked you an thought i might not bump into you again.

I do get that you women have to be careful cos of the lunatics out there"

A year ago he bumped into her and she told him no, I’m not on fab, but if I was I wouldn’t want approached in a bloody shop. Even if he knew that was a lie, that’s a pretty strong ‘leave me the fuck alone’. Then he does it again? At what point will he listen and respect that she doesn’t want approached by a stranger?

And cool, you don’t think this is bad. Brilliant. But you can’t judge how other people feel in situations.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just dont think this is bad in my oppinion.

Maybe it just seems weird cos its was in the supermarket. If it was in a nightclub or in the street would it be as weird.

You said he cornered you which doesnt sound right but cos u were scared did he really corner u?

For me he might have really liked you an thought i might not bump into you again.

I do get that you women have to be careful cos of the lunatics out there"

If someone tells you it makes them feel uncomfortable, you don’t have the right to tell them they shouldn’t be.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *eelouWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Not out in public for me but on Facebook. Had a guy message me as he recognised me from a group that I'm in for an activity my son does. Freaked me out a bit. Promptly changed my pics.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't even get recognised in my own cave

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Not out in public for me but on Facebook. Had a guy message me as he recognised me from a group that I'm in for an activity my son does. Freaked me out a bit. Promptly changed my pics. "

I’ve had men who can’t message on here due to filters just hunt me down on Facebook instead.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *eelouWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Not out in public for me but on Facebook. Had a guy message me as he recognised me from a group that I'm in for an activity my son does. Freaked me out a bit. Promptly changed my pics.

I’ve had men who can’t message on here due to filters just hunt me down on Facebook instead.

It's really creepy isnt it!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Not out in public for me but on Facebook. Had a guy message me as he recognised me from a group that I'm in for an activity my son does. Freaked me out a bit. Promptly changed my pics.

I’ve had men who can’t message on here due to filters just hunt me down on Facebook instead.

It's really creepy isnt it!"

Yep! And they never see anything wrong with it

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes.

Once by a copper who recognised me driving my car home from work.

Once by a bloke who said he saw me in a car with my son in law and grandchildren ( he was correct )

Once by a bloke id met from here as I posted a letter.

Upshot is I only meet decent folk. Doesn't worry me that they recognise me. They aren't about to become crazies.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"About this time last year a man I had never met followed me around my local supermarket and cornered me by the bread aisle..

He told me he had seen my profile on FAB and he and his wife were big fans of my pics..

is it just me that thinks he was well out of order?

Not out in public for me but on Facebook. Had a guy message me as he recognised me from a group that I'm in for an activity my son does. Freaked me out a bit. Promptly changed my pics.

I’ve had men who can’t message on here due to filters just hunt me down on Facebook instead.

It's really creepy isnt it!

Yep! And they never see anything wrong with it"

I deleted my facebook account ages ago

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Although it’s not happened to me, I wouldn’t be comfortable if it did. I probably wouldn’t be so polite to them either. Just because you have a face pic on here it doesn’t give the right for anyone to approach u in public and say that they have seen you on here. The audacity or some people is unreal. I think there’s not that many people with social skills or just plain dumb that they think they can do that. Gem

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just dont think this is bad in my oppinion.

Maybe it just seems weird cos its was in the supermarket. If it was in a nightclub or in the street would it be as weird.

You said he cornered you which doesnt sound right but cos u were scared did he really corner u?

For me he might have really liked you an thought i might not bump into you again.

I do get that you women have to be careful cos of the lunatics out there"

Yes it would be weird in any scenario...

Try reading the op properly

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just dont think this is bad in my oppinion.

Maybe it just seems weird cos its was in the supermarket. If it was in a nightclub or in the street would it be as weird.

You said he cornered you which doesnt sound right but cos u were scared did he really corner u?

For me he might have really liked you an thought i might not bump into you again.

I do get that you women have to be careful cos of the lunatics out there"

You don't think approaching someone who has already scorned you for approaching them in exactly the same manner is not the sign of someone detached from reality

Shocking.

I too have been approached by people on Facebook to get round filters and the fact I have a couples profile - this post has reminded me why I have those filters in place, not only are there those willing to approach you in your vanilla life, quite possibly whilst with family/friends/children to the point of following you home as in my case, there are people who actually endorse it and see no problem so long as they like you

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *unloversCouple over a year ago

rotherham

I have also been in embarrassing positions as I work in a shop and had to serve the people in question

One ‘of them said. You look so different away from fab

I ended up saying what’s fab????

More fool me

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

On quite a few occasions now.

Luckily just got a message on here after saying saw you out in ......earlier.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I bumped into a female of a couple in a shop and we both recognised each other (I had sent them a face pic), and we simply passed by. I've also regularly bumped into a couple I knew from a club and we've never acknowledged each other.

To me the normal world and swinging are two separate lives

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Totally unacceptable. I’d try and find his profile and report and block him. It’s terrifying when that happens.

I then had a 45 minute panic attack in the toilets. I then got a barrel of abuse from him

I’ve seen him since and he will actively follow me around. I don’t go to the tills, I do the scan as you go thing and he hangs around there (even though he does the shelves)

I hope you don’t see him again OP. It can be awful. "

Cheepy shit that's awful. I wouldn't appreciate it one bit.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *rReyMan over a year ago

Fleet

I live in a fairly small village, and bumped into a young lady in the village who's on Fab. We were like, oh hi...erm bye

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abs..Woman over a year ago

"I just dont think this is bad in my oppinion.

Maybe it just seems weird cos its was in the supermarket. If it was in a nightclub or in the street would it be as weird.

You said he cornered you which doesnt sound right but cos u were scared did he really corner u?

For me he might have really liked you an thought i might not bump into you again.

I do get that you women have to be careful cos of the lunatics out there"

It’s an invasion of someone’s privacy and space. If people aren’t sensible enough to keep their distance then that’s a real concern. It’s not difficult to understand why people would want to be left alone. I find it shocking that you don’t see anything wrong with it.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Another reason I'm not keen on public Face pic. Some people are morons with no discretion. I've recognised people in bars before, but never approached, winked, smiled or anything, just walked in by. I would hope others would do the same.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope never been spotted but then I don't show my face on public pics and don't chat to locals. I'm staying hidden to the crazies!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope never been spotted but then I don't show my face on public pics and don't chat to locals. I'm staying hidden to the crazies!"

I'd recognise that arse anywhere. Lovely bum. X

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I just dont think this is bad in my oppinion.

Maybe it just seems weird cos its was in the supermarket. If it was in a nightclub or in the street would it be as weird.

You said he cornered you which doesnt sound right but cos u were scared did he really corner u?

For me he might have really liked you an thought i might not bump into you again.

I do get that you women have to be careful cos of the lunatics out there"

It's weird anywhere. A lot of people keep their real life and their fab life separate, carefully selecting people to cross over (I have fab friends I meet socially who gave met my non dab friends for example).

The OP was with her family on one of the occasions.... Why would anyone think if OK to go up to a family and talk about fab?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Another reason why I like to meet people outside my local area too

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have been recognised by a couple we recognised at the same time. There was a knowing glance from both parties, but nothing was said. The best approach in our opinion.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think this is why most of us don’t put face pics in public. "

This

Good luck OP.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have been recognised by a couple we recognised at the same time. There was a knowing glance from both parties, but nothing was said. The best approach in our opinion.

This - nothing said or intimated and you just move on.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

» Add a new message to this topic