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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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1. Overly Generous - pays or offers to pay for everything
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2. Not Too Generous - makes you pay your way. Treats you as an equal. Obviously gets you gifts and treats now and then, but bills, holidays etc split 50/50.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Option two, but he buys the first round. "
See if disagree. I think the woman should buy the first round. Equal Opportunities and all that. Also it's a fun twist to start the evening. Not the norm. An ice breaker.
Go up to a lady at the bar and ask her if she believes in equal opportunities between men and women. She will say yes and you say mines a pint, thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like mine tall dark and handsome with a muscular frame 
That’s what I’m here for....but I will accept him buying me a drink if we have a social 
MrsK "
I'll buy you a drink and some pork scratchings |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite
If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer
If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that
I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite
If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer
If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that
I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted "
Is this just meet based? If I was having a social, i would take it in turns. I wouldn't want to feel like I owed anyone something, if it was a fab meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"#2. I feel horribly awkward if someone insists on paying for everything. It would actually put me off doing things with someone if they wouldn't let me pay my way."
That's my point exactly. Why should a man have to pay for it all? That's excepting that there's a difference between men and women. Apart from the obvious there shouldn't a difference. Of course it's tradition for the man to pay, that's all in the past. With all this talk about equal pay they can afford it as much as the men now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like mine tall dark and handsome with a muscular frame
That’s what I’m here for....but I will accept him buying me a drink if we have a social
MrsK
I'll buy you a drink and some pork scratchings "
How did you know that I love a good porking?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite
If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer
If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that
I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted "
Best to pick a place with free refills and stay for 12 hours. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite
If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer
If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that
I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted
Best to pick a place with free refills and stay for 12 hours. "
I don't drink so that'd be perfect. I'd definitely buy the first round in that case... that means the meals on her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite
If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer
If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that
I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted
Is this just meet based? If I was having a social, i would take it in turns. I wouldn't want to feel like I owed anyone something, if it was a fab meet. "
Yeah, if it was non-Fab friends based I'd usually offer to pay and then a friend would pay next time
Even with a Fab friends meet though, I do like paying, but I wouldn't want anyone to feel uncomfortable with me doing so, so if they asked to pay something then I'd accept
That said, most of my socials have been daytime coffee shop meets
If I was goibg to meet someone who expected a meal out, wining, dining etc. then I'd probably approach the subject of payment before we even met
Certainly in the first instance
Does that make sense ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite
If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer
If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that
I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted
Best to pick a place with free refills and stay for 12 hours. "
I did think that when I saw you'd posted above me
We will bankrupt the place next time
They owe us |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd always offer to pay for first drinks and a light bite
If the meet was to go on, I would gratefully accept it if the lady offered, but wouldn't expect her to offer
If it was plainly obvious I was expected to pay for everything, I'd probably ask if she wanted to contribute, just cos I'm a bit of a funny arse like that
I am generous, I am polite, but don't take me or my pockets for granted
Is this just meet based? If I was having a social, i would take it in turns. I wouldn't want to feel like I owed anyone something, if it was a fab meet.
Yeah, if it was non-Fab friends based I'd usually offer to pay and then a friend would pay next time
Even with a Fab friends meet though, I do like paying, but I wouldn't want anyone to feel uncomfortable with me doing so, so if they asked to pay something then I'd accept
That said, most of my socials have been daytime coffee shop meets
If I was goibg to meet someone who expected a meal out, wining, dining etc. then I'd probably approach the subject of payment before we even met
Certainly in the first instance
Does that make sense ?"
Yes, completely  . It can become expensive if someone expects the wine and dine experience. Though in all honesty, my ex partner used to pay a lot of the time, if we went somewhere expensive. I would pay for the cheaper outings, to try and feel like I was contributing. He was far more solvent than me, at the time. It did make me feel awkward sometimes. With fab, I stay within my financial means, so I can contribute |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If he buys the tea, I buy the cake.
If he pays entrance to the cinema I buy the munch.
If he buys the condoms I bring the lube. "
And if I get the hotel?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like mine tall dark and handsome with a muscular frame
That’s what I’m here for....but I will accept him buying me a drink if we have a social
MrsK
I'll buy you a drink and some pork scratchings
How did you know that I love a good porking? "
Good because I have sausage fingers |
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"1. Overly Generous - pays or offers to pay for everything
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2. Not Too Generous - makes you pay your way. Treats you as an equal. Obviously gets you gifts and treats now and then, but bills, holidays etc split 50/50.... "
Makes you pay your way? Men have no control over what I do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"1. Overly Generous - pays or offers to pay for everything
Or
2. Not Too Generous - makes you pay your way. Treats you as an equal. Obviously gets you gifts and treats now and then, but bills, holidays etc split 50/50.... "
What about option 3. Not generous at all and spends his money on hookers |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"1. Overly Generous - pays or offers to pay for everything
Or
2. Not Too Generous - makes you pay your way. Treats you as an equal. Obviously gets you gifts and treats now and then, but bills, holidays etc split 50/50.... "
My first meet is a social one, so just a coffee or something which I'm more than happy to pay for. If I don't like him I don't feel so bad about not stating for another one!
I don't expect or want gifts and treats from the guys I meet on here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"1. Overly Generous - pays or offers to pay for everything
Or
2. Not Too Generous - makes you pay your way. Treats you as an equal. Obviously gets you gifts and treats now and then, but bills, holidays etc split 50/50....
My first meet is a social one, so just a coffee or something which I'm more than happy to pay for. If I don't like him I don't feel so bad about not stating for another one!
I don't expect or want gifts and treats from the guys I meet on here.
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Gifts and treats are for long term proper relationships. |
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