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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Unfortunately due to family commitments I have to attend my cousins wedding but I'd honestly rather be at work.
What I really struggle with is to bite my tongue around her and her husband to be. There constant sympathy seeking posts (which I had to block seeing them any more). To the repeated stories of how broke they are (dispute wasting money on toys) . To how ill he's been.
I mean I know I have to smile politely and keep my mouth shut. But it's going to hard.
And I can't drink my way through the day, I'm designated driver.
How does everyone else cope at these sort of things? I'm sure we've all been stuck at obligatory events at least once. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly?
I don’t go. Me and my husband don’t speak to his mum, father, brother or his wife. Any family events that they are invited to as well, we don’t go. Because we would manage to bite our tongues for the most part, but his mum is very dramatic and would play the sympathy card and it would kick off. His brother, his wife and father are very very confrontational, and would kick off. So it wouldn’t be worth the hassle.
If you really don’t want to go, just say you can’t get the time off work. I hope you manage to sort it if you do go   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your cousin is on here? "
For all I know she could be. Be even more terrifying a prospect if they were on as a couple.
To channel a great philosophe:
"I pity da fool who'd go there" |
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"Unfortunately due to family commitments I have to attend my cousins wedding but I'd honestly rather be at work.
What I really struggle with is to bite my tongue around her and her husband to be. There constant sympathy seeking posts (which I had to block seeing them any more). To the repeated stories of how broke they are (dispute wasting money on toys) . To how ill he's been.
I mean I know I have to smile politely and keep my mouth shut. But it's going to hard.
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I feel your pain brother, have you considered drinking to numb the pain?
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And I can't drink my way through the day, I'm designated driver.
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Awee fuck, that's me out of ideas
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How does everyone else cope at these sort of things? I'm sure we've all been stuck at obligatory events at least once. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Throw yourself down a flight of stairs the morning of. A much needed trip to A+E should prove to be a sufficient excuse for not being able to go.
Don't forget to practice your 'devastated' face in front of the mirror for when you have to tell them you can't make it. Hope this helps.  |
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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"If it's their wedding unless it's a very small do they'll probably be so busy you won't have to tolerate them for long!"
Exactly. I was a DJ for many years and as such had to speak with the B&G. just trying to get a word with either one of the couple without others constantly coming up to them, was a nightmare.
Deliver a few platitudes, then melt away into the corner and you’ll be fine |
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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"Throw yourself down a flight of stairs the morning of. A much needed trip to A+E should prove to be a sufficient excuse for not being able to go.
Don't forget to practice your 'devastated' face in front of the mirror for when you have to tell them you can't make it. Hope this helps. "
Surely by doing the first; there would be no need to practice the second? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your cousin is on here?
For all I know she could be. Be even more terrifying a prospect if they were on as a couple.
To channel a great philosophe:
"I pity da fool who'd go there" "
You said about 'sympathy posts' so I'd assumed you meant on here
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Throw yourself down a flight of stairs the morning of. A much needed trip to A+E should prove to be a sufficient excuse for not being able to go.
Don't forget to practice your 'devastated' face in front of the mirror for when you have to tell them you can't make it. Hope this helps.
Surely by doing the first; there would be no need to practice the second?"
I'm assuming he survives the tumble. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Throw yourself down a flight of stairs the morning of. A much needed trip to A+E should prove to be a sufficient excuse for not being able to go.
Don't forget to practice your 'devastated' face in front of the mirror for when you have to tell them you can't make it. Hope this helps.
Surely by doing the first; there would be no need to practice the second?
I'm assuming he survives the tumble. "
I think facial expressions would not longer be required. Maybe the reconstructive surgery could just put a permanent smile on the my probably deformed mug lol |
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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"Throw yourself down a flight of stairs the morning of. A much needed trip to A+E should prove to be a sufficient excuse for not being able to go.
Don't forget to practice your 'devastated' face in front of the mirror for when you have to tell them you can't make it. Hope this helps.
Surely by doing the first; there would be no need to practice the second?
I'm assuming he survives the tumble. "
I’m assuming that he would not be unscathed. Therefore would not need to feign the devastated look. |
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I would seek out others at such events who i value, then ensure we all have a good time.
It's wrong to abuse the generosity of others or restrict their enjoyment on their day ! So I'd be grateful for their invite and investment for me to have a good time and share their celebrations. If i don't like them, I'd have declined, so that they could invest more wisely.
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