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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

Fuck em.....

Q x

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

Fuck em.....

Q x"

Nah , I think we would prefer to fuck people who get it thanks

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think the very fact that you enjoy seeing your wife with other guys makes you a perfect husband!!

Opinions are like arseholes.....

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By *izzy RascallMan over a year ago

Cardiff

No I don't think it does OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your far from being a lesser man. If its something you and your wife enjoy then who the hell gives others the right to judge.

Sex and fun comes in a million different ways. Only your views count. Keep enjoying xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you know the answer OP

And like someone else said, fuck ‘em. Metaphorically, not literally

Although you could literally too. And show how you couldn’t give a shite!

I know you both have lots of fun on the scene and I’m sure that won’t be diminished by some randomers on an Internet sex site!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

"
It's a forum and as everything you read you don't agree with, others won't agree with everything as you see it, it's life and many here will judge you for your comments, if you cared what they said you wouldn't be here and commenting and does it really matter what people think of you if you don't know them?

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

It’s a shame that thread filled up last night , as pretty much everyone had gone to sleep by then !

Thanks for the replies so far

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think so, and I'd say the majority would agree.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"It’s a shame that thread filled up last night , as pretty much everyone had gone to sleep by then !

Thanks for the replies so far

I do occasionally make good threads

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

I disagree with some of your opinions on the forums OP but I'm completely behind you on how you both chose to swing. More power to you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

Exactly what I was going to say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It was an interesting thread, i often get asked why I like sending Lucky out for meets or just sitting back to watch him with a woman, but unless you understand it you won't ever 'get it'. It doesn't make me feel less of a partner, or a woman, or make me feel inadequate. In fact it's the complete opposite, i love it

I just answer with 'to each their own' whenever anyone questions me

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

It's a forum and as everything you read you don't agree with, others won't agree with everything as you see it, it's life and many here will judge you for your comments, if you cared what they said you wouldn't be here and commenting and does it really matter what people think of you if you don't know them? "

There’s little or no point in reading or contributing to a forum if you don’t care . And if of course it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things .

It’s just a shame that a swinging site such as this is attracting people who have no concept of wha swinging is .

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

Thanks for saving me the effort of typing this.

I concur, you're not less of a man.

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By *riefcase_WankerMan over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Opinions are like arseholes.....

A common misconception...

Opinions are actually like orgasms...mine's more important and I don't really care if you have one

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"It’s a shame that thread filled up last night , as pretty much everyone had gone to sleep by then !

Thanks for the replies so far

I do occasionally make good threads

You do indeed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ? "
Absolutely not.

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

"
No, the two things would not be correlated - not saying you are unable to satisfy her, just that if that were the case it is distinct and separate from your enjoyment of her having fun with others.

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

Not necessarily. Maybe, maybe not.

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ? Absolutely not.

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

No, the two things would not be correlated - not saying you are unable to satisfy her, just that if that were the case it is distinct and separate from your enjoyment of her having fun with others.

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

Not necessarily. Maybe, maybe not. "

This response reminds me of a poster I haven’t seen on here for a while

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

I disagree that enjoying or not enjoying watching one’s partner play with others has any correlation to being “a man” or not. Absolutely daft.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your far from being a lesser man. If its something you and your wife enjoy then who the hell gives others the right to judge.

Sex and fun comes in a million different ways. Only your views count. Keep enjoying xx"

Roger that quote

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ? Absolutely not.

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

No, the two things would not be correlated - not saying you are unable to satisfy her, just that if that were the case it is distinct and separate from your enjoyment of her having fun with others.

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

Not necessarily. Maybe, maybe not.

This response reminds me of a poster I haven’t seen on here for a while

I was quote/unquoting long before he joined the site. Pffft.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ? Absolutely not.

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

No, the two things would not be correlated - not saying you are unable to satisfy her, just that if that were the case it is distinct and separate from your enjoyment of her having fun with others.

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

Not necessarily. Maybe, maybe not.

This response reminds me of a poster I haven’t seen on here for a while

I was quote/unquoting long before he joined the site. Pffft. "

I’ll tell him you miss him though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've learnt really not to care what others think of what we do. The forum folk in the majority are here for different reasons to us. I don't expect them to get it. That's not a criticism it's just the way it is. So in answer to your question... it takes a strong secure man in a strong happy relationship to be able to watch his wife with others. Not a lesser man at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

I totally agree with this.... So glad someone else is on the same wave length as me....

Do as you please it's your life x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well. If you're both happy who cares.

More to the point why ask people if their views will upset you?

I love me. I daresay if I asked everyone if they did I'd get an answer to make me question myself.

Strangers don't have the power to effect that. X

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

I disagree that enjoying or not enjoying watching one’s partner play with others has any correlation to being “a man” or not. Absolutely daft."

If you look at the thread that filled up , you will see that it was the person who wrote on it that suggested that men that enjoy their partner playing with others is less of a man .

In fact I think it came about as a result of someone suggesting that a relationship must be in a solid and secure relationship for it to happen .

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By *riefcase_WankerMan over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I think the objectification aspect, which is probably the most slanderous comment, reflects more the mentality of the person making it than yourself necessarily.

I mean, who knows - that could be why you like it, none of us know what's going through your head - but equally it could be that you love your wife and like to see her enjoying herself, and are not so insecure and needy as to feel as though you have to be the sole source of that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the very fact that you enjoy seeing your wife with other guys makes you a perfect husband!!

Opinions are like arseholes.....

I'd marry for the first time, if I could find this type of hubby x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

I disagree that enjoying or not enjoying watching one’s partner play with others has any correlation to being “a man” or not. Absolutely daft.

If you look at the thread that filled up , you will see that it was the person who wrote on it that suggested that men that enjoy their partner playing with others is less of a man .

In fact I think it came about as a result of someone suggesting that a relationship must be in a solid and secure relationship for it to happen ."

Oh, I totally understood that. My reply here was to Gemini Man saying it made you *more* of a man.

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By *eegMan over a year ago

taunton

best just be polite not piss anyone off just think the people who are rude dont really want to meet or are fake

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By *horehouseprincessWoman over a year ago

small town near Munich

Do you and your wife enjoy what you are doing? Yes? Then you're doing everything right

forget about the others

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"Well. If you're both happy who cares.

More to the point why ask people if their views will upset you?

I love me. I daresay if I asked everyone if they did I'd get an answer to make me question myself.

Strangers don't have the power to effect that. X "

I didn’t ask anyone on the thread that caused me to write this one .

I’m not really that bothered if the truth be known , it’s as I said earlier - so many people joining the site don’t seem to get what swinging is .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would make you more of a man technically as you have the inner confidence to not feel threatened or jealous by other men, also you know that of all the guys Sab fucks, it's you she loves and returns to every time.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I have also said, on many many occasions that this place is full of cunts. Don't moan about them. Expose them.

Give them just enough rope, play them like the entitled, boastful failing at life 'fish' that they are. Swinging isn't a stop gap. Its a mindset, its what defines us as sexual beings. We're not here to take advantage. We're here to share experience. As often, or not, as we like, because we know the pleasure is soo much deeper than just "fucking some guys wife" or looking for the elusive completely faithful fwb that makes me feel "modern progressive and empowered"... its called a fucking boyfriend! You're no different!

It's not about how many fabs

You've got, or how many veris from however many socials you've been to! But we know all this...

So....get your rod out, sit with me on the edge of the pond, and let's catch some record breakers!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

With all the couples I have met over the years, never once did I think the husband was inadequate, whether he joined in or just enjoyed watching.

I was just an enhancement to what I assumed and very often knew was an already fantastic sex life.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

I disagree that enjoying or not enjoying watching one’s partner play with others has any correlation to being “a man” or not. Absolutely daft.

If you look at the thread that filled up , you will see that it was the person who wrote on it that suggested that men that enjoy their partner playing with others is less of a man .

In fact I think it came about as a result of someone suggesting that a relationship must be in a solid and secure relationship for it to happen ."

Which thread? Please post as it sounds like our block list needs some addition...

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

Preach

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By *elvet RopeMan over a year ago

by the big field

I remeber chatting to the male half of a couple i knew at one of the old mega munches from years ago.

He was quite amused at telling me how a colleague approached him at work to show him a picture he'd fould on t'interweb of the guys wife greedily nibbling on two cocks.

His retort to his colleague was 'bloody hell, her tits look fantastic'. A little surprised, his workmate asked 'are you not shocked to find a picture of your wife on the internet, having sex with two other men?'

'Not really' he replied 'Who do you think was holding the bloody camera?'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've learnt really not to care what others think of what we do. The forum folk in the majority are here for different reasons to us. I don't expect them to get it. That's not a criticism it's just the way it is. So in answer to your question... it takes a strong secure man in a strong happy relationship to be able to watch his wife with others. Not a lesser man at all. "

I agree with that, many people would get jealous, yet we find it enhances our relationship. It’s a shared pleasure and it’s not about not being able to satisfy each other. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

I disagree that enjoying or not enjoying watching one’s partner play with others has any correlation to being “a man” or not. Absolutely daft.

If you look at the thread that filled up , you will see that it was the person who wrote on it that suggested that men that enjoy their partner playing with others is less of a man .

In fact I think it came about as a result of someone suggesting that a relationship must be in a solid and secure relationship for it to happen .

Which thread? Please post as it sounds like our block list needs some addition..."

Clem’s thread to the guys...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dunno, you haven't told us how many times a week you shag your wife and if you struggle to get it up and keep it up.

Think about it while I get a pen and paper.

Brb...

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By *hite1100Man over a year ago

Hither Green

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

If, as you say, you know the answers to the questions you’re asking, why are you asking them again on here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I remeber chatting to the male half of a couple i knew at one of the old mega munches from years ago.

He was quite amused at telling me how a colleague approached him at work to show him a picture he'd fould on t'interweb of the guys wife greedily nibbling on two cocks.

'Not really' he replied 'Who do you think was holding the bloody camera?'

"
This literally made me l.o.l. lots

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

There’s little or no point in reading or contributing to a forum if you don’t care . And if of course it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things .

It’s just a shame that a swinging site such as this is attracting people who have no concept of wha swinging is ."
swinging is different for everyone, people approach the site and how they use it very differently and people have very different views on certain aspects of it, to my way of thinking if you're happy with what you are doing that's entirely your choice as is being pissed off with people not agreeing with your choices but the flip side is they can be pissed off to.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/811486#last

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

The thread was called

Guys , if you weren’t single

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"The thread was called

Guys , if you weren’t single "

Oh that guy! You have to be pretty special to have admin delete threads you start within 2 weeks of joining.

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

If, as you say, you know the answers to the questions you’re asking, why are you asking them again on here? "

To see what other people think .

What’s up with that ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

If, as you say, you know the answers to the questions you’re asking, why are you asking them again on here?

To see what other people think .

What’s up with that ? "

You didn't ask kiss fuck pass in your op

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"I dunno, you haven't told us how many times a week you shag your wife and if you struggle to get it up and keep it up.

Think about it while I get a pen and paper.

Brb..."

Ha ha ... at least double figures , and never a problem getting it up

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

I disagree that enjoying or not enjoying watching one’s partner play with others has any correlation to being “a man” or not. Absolutely daft.

If you look at the thread that filled up , you will see that it was the person who wrote on it that suggested that men that enjoy their partner playing with others is less of a man .

In fact I think it came about as a result of someone suggesting that a relationship must be in a solid and secure relationship for it to happen .

Oh, I totally understood that. My reply here was to Gemini Man saying it made you *more* of a man. "

I agree that being a man or not doesn't and shouldn't come into it - my response was purely into any assertion that being able to share something as intimate as this with your partner makes you *less* of a man and stand by that response in that context

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By *layfulCouple86Couple over a year ago

Lancashire

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

100% agree with this post it seems to becoming more common.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd actually venture to suggest it makes you more of a man OP because it shows a level of security and comfort that it's something you can share with your wife, and you both get something from it.

People will always express opinions on forums, sometimes they'll be based on personal preference, sometimes a lack of understanding, others through jealousy and yet more through sheer ignorance.

Ultimately the only opinion that really counts when it comes to something like this is yours and your wife's - if you're both happy with it, who are others to tell you otherwise?!

I disagree that enjoying or not enjoying watching one’s partner play with others has any correlation to being “a man” or not. Absolutely daft.

If you look at the thread that filled up , you will see that it was the person who wrote on it that suggested that men that enjoy their partner playing with others is less of a man .

In fact I think it came about as a result of someone suggesting that a relationship must be in a solid and secure relationship for it to happen .

Oh, I totally understood that. My reply here was to Gemini Man saying it made you *more* of a man.

That’s fair enough, and I get what you mean - and I’m certainly not advocating the opposite - but I stand by the fact that to conflate the two even to make a point is misleading. But I get your point.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

Pretty spot on..

There are many different types of play that people enjoy, some we will never see how the particular thing they do is erotic, sexy etc but it's their thing so fair play..

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dunno, you haven't told us how many times a week you shag your wife and if you struggle to get it up and keep it up.

Think about it while I get a pen and paper.

Brb...

Ha ha ... at least double figures , and never a problem getting it up

You da man then

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

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By *evil_u_knowMan over a year ago

city

To be fair, I don't think this place was ever a swing site and was always a "no-strings-sex" site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

Here’s to the lesser man club; i’ve been a member for years and love it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be fair, I don't think this place was ever a swing site and was always a "no-strings-sex" site."

I was under the impression it was a swingers site from the name, I’m not sure why it would be called what it is if there wasn’t the intent for it to be a swingers site, or the swingers chat forum etc. But understood that many use it as an NSA sex site too.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I remeber chatting to the male half of a couple i knew at one of the old mega munches from years ago.

He was quite amused at telling me how a colleague approached him at work to show him a picture he'd fould on t'interweb of the guys wife greedily nibbling on two cocks.

'Not really' he replied 'Who do you think was holding the bloody camera?'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

And that just about sums it up perfectly .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be fair, I don't think this place was ever a swing site and was always a "no-strings-sex" site.

That's what put me off joining over 6 years ago, but I was assured I would be ok here.

I wasn't a swinger and thought I would be out of place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

I did a little heart melt reading that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

I did a little heart melt reading that.

Me too...I think he deserves special snuggles tonight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

I did a little heart melt reading that.

Me too...I think he deserves special snuggles tonight

Can I watch?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

I did a little heart melt reading that.

Me too...I think he deserves special snuggles tonight

Can I watch?

That would be confusing the dynamic... are you a real woman?

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

I did a little heart melt reading that.

Me too...I think he deserves special snuggles tonight

Can I watch?

Ha ha ... love it !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Take no notice ... It's your relationship and you do what you're both comfortable with ... I love to see the man's face smile with approval while we are both pleasuring his lady together ... It's so rewarding seeing how happy both of them are during play and after ... I actually get off on that... I'm not just in it for my own gratification.. I've met some lovely couples on the scene and made some lovely friends ... Happy Fabbing and keep doing what makes you both happy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

I did a little heart melt reading that.

Me too...I think he deserves special snuggles tonight

Can I watch?

That would be confusing the dynamic... are you a real woman?

Don’t you mean does it make me *more* or *less* of a woman? Or are you asking what’s on my birth certificate and how do I self-identify?

The latter would be I identify currently as poorly!

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By *ionaScarletTV/TS over a year ago

Dundee

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

The answer is yes - and that's a good thing.

So-called "men" are cowardly, furtive, vain and shabby little creatures, desparate for the approval of their similarly wretched fellows.

I've no time for "men" and tbh... they can shove their drooling, feculent opinions up their besmeared, farting, holes!

The world would be a lot nicer if there were less "men" in it.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

This!

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

Exactly this

It’s a sad state of affairs when you post on a swinging site forum and get told by fellow swingers that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks , especially a stranger on a forum .

Why do we bother posting anything then ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

I did a little heart melt reading that.

Me too...I think he deserves special snuggles tonight

You been played woman!

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By *orwegian BlueMan over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Whether you are a man or a pickled herring, it make no difference to the detail being overlooked..

You say others pour scorn upon you for you consensual lifestyle which to me means only one thing,

Trolls!

A site like this will attract all sorts from the teenage boys busy tossing in their bedrooms while abusing others to the religious loons who think we should all burn in hell..

Just ignore them and carry on living your life as you want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My hubby loves watching me with other guys but he's all man trust me.

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By *orningtonCroissantMan over a year ago

notts and humberside

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

They are jealous. Swingers are the most honest and moral people in the world. Because they have been honest about what they like. Fuck em!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Up to u what u like simple as that being manly has nothing to do with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

I don't think it does .....

As long as you are happy my friend

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

No. Only in the opinions of others who don't matter. You are the man you are and want to be

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By *rsSBWoman over a year ago

toy town

Everyone is made fantastic points that I 100% agree with. However, it's a bit of a shame that no-one that doesn't see our point of view on swinging couples has made a comment here.

PS message me or my hubby if you fancy Fucking my husband will I watch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

These attitudes you stated are spouted by the guys/girls on here looking for dating and love....

I’m been reading these forums for awhile....

The Op and a few others get what this site and swinging is all about....

MIND BLOWING SEX , everything else you get from this site is a added bonus.....

But sadly more and more people will join this site looking for love and a relationship first....

Then bemoan people like yourself with their nonsense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

They are jealous. Swingers are the most honest and moral people in the world. Because they have been honest about what they like. Fuck em!"

That might be a bit of a stretch

Nice pics by the way

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan over a year ago

LONDON

No, No and a resounding No! Enjoy the break - it's important!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesn't make you more of a man or less of a man. It makes you a man who gets pleasure from seeing his wife pleasured.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

That thread was something else mate it opened my eyes on a few thing. I even learned a little being the delicate little wall flower I am

to do what you both do I can't see either of you not being comfortable and completely secure in your relationship and your confidence must be threw the roof. Truth be known I'm more than a little jealous. Think I need to find a Mrs again.

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By *hill44Man over a year ago

hinckley

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

Your defiantly still a man as long as your both happy doing it what's the problem

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"It doesn't make you more of a man or less of a man. It makes you a man who gets pleasure from seeing his wife pleasured.

That was my point , if you look at the comments made on the other thread you will see the post that got me riled up enough to create this one .

I don’t claim to be more of a man , or less of a man . But I can’t see how someone on a swinging site can suggest that the fact that I like seeing my wife have fun with others means that I’m less of a man , inadequate , etc......

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Everyone is made fantastic points that I 100% agree with. However, it's a bit of a shame that no-one that doesn't see our point of view on swinging couples has made a comment here.

PS message me or my hubby if you fancy Fucking my husband will I watch

I've told you I'm not that kinda biker

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

You know the answer (as you said, I know you wouldn’t have asked it otherwise) and yes I wonder how many swingers, along the spectrum of what would be classified as kink, are swingers.

Small percentage I suspect, a large number of chancers, once again I suspect.

As a couple you have always had it together, (from my perspective), may I suggest stepping back and engage with the swingers not the chancers, leave the angst to them.

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By *rsSBWoman over a year ago

toy town

"Everyone is made fantastic points that I 100% agree with. However, it's a bit of a shame that no-one that doesn't see our point of view on swinging couples has made a comment here.

PS message me or my hubby if you fancy Fucking my husband will I watch

I've told you I'm not that kinda biker

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"It doesn't make you more of a man or less of a man. It makes you a man who gets pleasure from seeing his wife pleasured.

That was my point , if you look at the comments made on the other thread you will see the post that got me riled up enough to create this one .

I'm trying to phrase this in a way that won't pick up a ban. Sometimes you have to see comments in the context of who is making them and what their other comments on the forum would indicate about how well educated and evidence-based their opinions are.

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

That thread was something else mate it opened my eyes on a few thing. I even learned a little being the delicate little wall flower I am

We always learn a little every day , at least hopefully we do or it’s a pretty pointless existence . Unfortunately some of the things we learn aren’t in line with what we deem to be good , and the attitude of certain people on that thread were certainly not in line with my way of thinking when it comes to swinging .

We are very lucky , our relationship is as good as we could have ever dreamed it could be . Two like minded people experiencing everything possible together , with nothing to hold us back . Well other than life , kids , work , heart attacks and so on lol .

Hopefully you will find a Mrs and you two will be as happy as we are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its the "No way would i let MY wife do this!

" attitude exhibited by some well established guys on here which is disturbing.

1. She's not MY property.

2. Even if I'm "only" watching, WE are sharing this experience.

3. I hope that one day you find a relationship as committed and intimate as ours.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It doesn't make you more of a man or less of a man. It makes you a man who gets pleasure from seeing his wife pleasured.

That was my point , if you look at the comments made on the other thread you will see the post that got me riled up enough to create this one .

Yeah, I saw the other thread and would understand why it would piss you off.

But people will always judge. I've been called a selfish bitch via pm because I wouldn't want Mr to fuck anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It doesn't make you more of a man or less of a man. It makes you a man who gets pleasure from seeing his wife pleasured.

That was my point , if you look at the comments made on the other thread you will see the post that got me riled up enough to create this one .

^^ this

It was one comment/poster after all.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

That thread was something else mate it opened my eyes on a few thing. I even learned a little being the delicate little wall flower I am

Hopefully you will find a Mrs and you two will be as happy as we are

I can only live in hope but at 50 and set in my ways the way I am it's not likely but never say never

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

You know the answer (as you said, I know you wouldn’t have asked it otherwise) and yes I wonder how many swingers, along the spectrum of what would be classified as kink, are swingers.

Small percentage I suspect, a large number of chancers, once again I suspect.

As a couple you have always had it together, (from my perspective), may I suggest stepping back and engage with the swingers not the chancers, leave the angst to them.

Good points , well made and probably very true . But where else other than here can we talk about our kinks and things we like to do ?

When it gets scorned like it was on the forum it’s a poor state of affairs in my opinion .

Of course I can ignore it , treat it with the contempt it deserves and carry on . But every now and again , something should be said , and I’ve never been backward in coming forward

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

I get that, but let's consider that swinging is not a subject you can bring up in polite society. We all know we'll get judged for it in the local pub and expect that. So forgive us for thinking that we could come on a website with the word "swingers" in the url and have a favourable crowd... "
It's only forumites here commenting, the been here done that crowd, many have been here many years and have something to say on every subject just because it says ' swinger'doesnt mean you are one it just means you are on the site, I'm not a fan of pegging in my case it doesn't mean I disagree with peggers, people are people and having an alternative view in a forum is what the forums all about, if people disagree in an abusive way that isn't the point, disagree yes but do it with humility and don't get personal. The Op seems a fairly well rounded guy and his enjoyment of this life is for all to see, I personally love that he enjoys it but you can't please all of the people all of the time.

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"It doesn't make you more of a man or less of a man. It makes you a man who gets pleasure from seeing his wife pleasured.

That was my point , if you look at the comments made on the other thread you will see the post that got me riled up enough to create this one .

Yeah, I saw the other thread and would understand why it would piss you off.

But people will always judge. I've been called a selfish bitch via pm because I wouldn't want Mr to fuck anyone else."

Very true , but if it had been a pm I would have let it go . It’s the fact that the judgement is made publicly on a swinging forum that pisses me off most of all .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It doesn't make you more of a man or less of a man. It makes you a man who gets pleasure from seeing his wife pleasured.

That was my point , if you look at the comments made on the other thread you will see the post that got me riled up enough to create this one .

It was someone interestingly with a declared penchant for cuck play, so has a rather myopic and in some cases very mistaken albeit potentially in some cases correct (given that everyone plays these things differently) view of what *that* dynamic involves versus your preferred dynamic and the inability to see sharing a partner as anything other than their blinkered understanding.

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By *loswingers OP Couple over a year ago

Gloucester

"So after a thread which filled up last night , I am asking a simple question .

Does the fact that I love to see my wife having fun with other guys and women make me less of a man ?

Am I inadequate and unable to satisfy her myself ?

Do I objectify her because I get off seeing her with other people ?

I know the answers to all of the questions , and it’s a resounding no , but according to some, I and every person who lets their partner enjoy fun with other people is all of the above and more !

This used to be a swinging site , but more and more it seems to be a place for arrogant non swingers to frequent and pour scorn on those who do swing . What a joke .....

I get that, but let's consider that swinging is not a subject you can bring up in polite society. We all know we'll get judged for it in the local pub and expect that. So forgive us for thinking that we could come on a website with the word "swingers" in the url and have a favourable crowd... It's only forumites here commenting, the been here done that crowd, many have been here many years and have something to say on every subject just because it says ' swinger'doesnt mean you are one it just means you are on the site, I'm not a fan of pegging in my case it doesn't mean I disagree with peggers, people are people and having an alternative view in a forum is what the forums all about, if people disagree in an abusive way that isn't the point, disagree yes but do it with humility and don't get personal. The Op seems a fairly well rounded guy and his enjoyment of this life is for all to see, I personally love that he enjoys it but you can't please all of the people all of the time. "

Did you see the comments which brought this thread on ?

Nothing about them were anything other than rude, disrespectful and uneducated . Especially when we are on a swinging site . I just didn’t want to lie down and take that without putting my side forward too .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Last relationship I was in I got off on seeing her get fucked by other guys and women. Sometimes we’d bring people home for one another and for about 6 months lived in a polyamorus relationship.

My point is, each to their own! Different strokes for different folk. In my opinion if anyone has Judged you and gave you negative feedback they aren’t a true swinger for want of a better word. Aren’t “swingers” liberated ??