Escape the real world by putting a headset on and playing ps4.
I also play sport and once I cross that white line only what's happening within the white lines matter.
These I find for me give me the best relief.
I did see a doctor about it in Feb but I found that a waste. |
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I usually take a step back from the stress, get some fresh air, cool down and chill out for 5 minutes before going back at the task in hand.
Hope this helps if anybody's stressed
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Depends what REAL stress is. Stress is fairly subjective. What stresses you might not stress me.
I like to knit or crochet and do things that completely envelope my mind.
Unless I'm angry stressed then I like to punch a punch bag in the gym.
If I'm crying stressed then I grab some comfort food and watch a film I know will make me cry. |
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"Escape the real world by putting a headset on and playing ps4.
I also play sport and once I cross that white line only what's happening within the white lines matter.
These I find for me give me the best relief.
I did see a doctor about it in Feb but I found that a waste."
Yeah, doctors don't help ... Maybe I need to find an escape ... Trouble is I find switching my brain off really difficult even if I am doing an activity
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"Hey all, interested to know how you deal with (REAL) stress ... ?"
Depends on the stress and it’s causes.
Breathe properly. Eat, drink and sleep properly. Get plenty of fresh air and exercise. Talk about what’s worrying me. Music, mindfulness, dancing, hug a dog, draw/create something as distraction. Set small steps for tackling the root cause. Assess if it is something in or not in my control to resolve. Assess if it is stress within healthy or unhealthy ranges or if it’s a mental health wobble and if I need to take more corrective actions, and seek more expert advice/input. |
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"Find Physical exercise works and not talking about the sexual kind.
Going for a jog or a walk. Also have a punchbag, find that helps a lot."
I sometimes find that counter productive because walking/exercising alone allows me to think about stuff even more! |
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"I sometimes find that counter productive because walking/exercising alone allows me to think about stuff even more! "
I find that where running is concerned. Never been able to get into that. |
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Exercise for me too, especially outdoors. I try to concentrate on the colours, sights and smells around me, my breath, the sensation of my muscles stretching and moving.
Also cranking the tunes right up and dancing about the house like a complete fanny. |
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Develop a Wellness Recovery Action Plan(c) and review things like the New Economic Foundation (NEF)’s Five Ways to Wellbeing. Keep checking I’m doing things that I know work for me to stay healthy, and as you are here, ask for tips from others, try them out and add them to my tools/resources if they work for me.
There’s some good apps like Headspace, and many more, out there too. |
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A damn good filthy sex session.
Failing that trying to take a little time out for myself. Listen to some music and try switching off. Meet up or chat to a friend and have a good chat and lots of laughter. Give my kids a huge hug helps too sometimes unless they are the ones causing my stress.
Sometimes though it can all get to much and I end up shouting at those closest to me, which I know I shouldn't do. I then usually have a damn good cry, then pick myself up and carry on.
Chocolate helps too.
It's finding a coping mechanism that works for you. |
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"There’s some good apps like Headspace, and many more, out there too. "
Buddhify is also good. Don't let the name put you off, it doesn't push down any religious road. |
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"Escape the real world by putting a headset on and playing ps4.
I also play sport and once I cross that white line only what's happening within the white lines matter.
These I find for me give me the best relief.
I did see a doctor about it in Feb but I found that a waste.
Yeah, doctors don't help ... Maybe I need to find an escape ... Trouble is I find switching my brain off really difficult even if I am doing an activity
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I'm sorry to hear that. I'm old fashioned and all I can offer is to persevere until the demons are banished, even if only for a while.
I'm sure there's a better word than demons. |
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"In the past I've buried myself in work.
Probably not the best coping strategy, but it worked in a fashion  "
Did it work, or just delay the inevitable? It's never worked for me historically. |
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"Escape the real world by putting a headset on and playing ps4.
I also play sport and once I cross that white line only what's happening within the white lines matter.
These I find for me give me the best relief.
I did see a doctor about it in Feb but I found that a waste.
Yeah, doctors don't help ... Maybe I need to find an escape ... Trouble is I find switching my brain off really difficult even if I am doing an activity
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm old fashioned and all I can offer is to persevere until the demons are banished, even if only for a while.
I'm sure there's a better word than demons."
I understand what you mean.
Trouble is at the moment I have at least three HUGE things going on that are exceptionally stressful and at this moment in time I have no control over any of them.
Hopefully it will change soon and it won't be an issue then... It's the having no control that stresses me more than the actual events I think (but I could be wrong, things do get cloudy when your head is screwed with stresses) |
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"Escape the real world by putting a headset on and playing ps4.
I also play sport and once I cross that white line only what's happening within the white lines matter.
These I find for me give me the best relief.
I did see a doctor about it in Feb but I found that a waste.
Yeah, doctors don't help ... Maybe I need to find an escape ... Trouble is I find switching my brain off really difficult even if I am doing an activity
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm old fashioned and all I can offer is to persevere until the demons are banished, even if only for a while.
I'm sure there's a better word than demons.
I understand what you mean.
Trouble is at the moment I have at least three HUGE things going on that are exceptionally stressful and at this moment in time I have no control over any of them.
Hopefully it will change soon and it won't be an issue then... It's the having no control that stresses me more than the actual events I think (but I could be wrong, things do get cloudy when your head is screwed with stresses) "
Flip that round.
These things are out of your control.
That tells me you can't do anything about them no matter how hard you try to effect the outcomes.
That energy could be put to better use. Easy for me to say as I'm almost horizontal (very laid back).
Try and give yourself an escape from life doing whatever it is you love doing. |
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"Escape the real world by putting a headset on and playing ps4.
I also play sport and once I cross that white line only what's happening within the white lines matter.
These I find for me give me the best relief.
I did see a doctor about it in Feb but I found that a waste.
Yeah, doctors don't help ... Maybe I need to find an escape ... Trouble is I find switching my brain off really difficult even if I am doing an activity
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm old fashioned and all I can offer is to persevere until the demons are banished, even if only for a while.
I'm sure there's a better word than demons.
I understand what you mean.
Trouble is at the moment I have at least three HUGE things going on that are exceptionally stressful and at this moment in time I have no control over any of them.
Hopefully it will change soon and it won't be an issue then... It's the having no control that stresses me more than the actual events I think (but I could be wrong, things do get cloudy when your head is screwed with stresses)
Flip that round.
These things are out of your control.
That tells me you can't do anything about them no matter how hard you try to effect the outcomes.
That energy could be put to better use. Easy for me to say as I'm almost horizontal (very laid back).
Try and give yourself an escape from life doing whatever it is you love doing."
I can't effect them right now, but I should be able to at some point.
I do tend to worry (not as badly as I used to) so I probably don't help myself ... However, I cannot inherently change who I am (although I have changed massively over the years and I'm proud to say all positively)  |
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"Find Physical exercise works and not talking about the sexual kind.
Going for a jog or a walk. Also have a punchbag, find that helps a lot.
I sometimes find that counter productive because walking/exercising alone allows me to think about stuff even more! "
Perhaps a class like HIIT. I’ve had time off work in the past due to stress and I get what you mean about a jog or walk allowing your mind to still wonder. A gym class is great as it’s structured and full packed for the hour and it really helped me regain some focus. Also writing lists of things you need to do, all the busy stuff is better out onto paper.
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Probably not the best coping strategy, but it worked in a fashion
Did it work, or just delay the inevitable? It's never worked for me historically."
Ummmm...dunno.
It was more post-scenario coping strategy. It didn't change the situation much...she was still dead, he was still in prison and we still had to run around taking care of all of the aftermath...but I guess it stopped me overthinking things?
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"It was more post-scenario coping strategy. It didn't change the situation much...she was still dead, he was still in prison and we still had to run around taking care of all of the aftermath...but I guess it stopped me overthinking things?
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"I colour. A lot.
Colour what?
In colouring books for adults.
Oh okay, wow, didn't realise there was such a thing "
There is
I'd highly recommend it. I started doing it on a daily basis three years ago, after a few months I noticed how much my anxiety had improved just by doing that without any other factors. It clears my mind if I have a problem that I can't do anything about. Google Johanna Basford |
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"Escape the real world by putting a headset on and playing ps4.
I also play sport and once I cross that white line only what's happening within the white lines matter.
These I find for me give me the best relief.
I did see a doctor about it in Feb but I found that a waste.
Yeah, doctors don't help ... Maybe I need to find an escape ... Trouble is I find switching my brain off really difficult even if I am doing an activity
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm old fashioned and all I can offer is to persevere until the demons are banished, even if only for a while.
I'm sure there's a better word than demons.
I understand what you mean.
Trouble is at the moment I have at least three HUGE things going on that are exceptionally stressful and at this moment in time I have no control over any of them.
Hopefully it will change soon and it won't be an issue then... It's the having no control that stresses me more than the actual events I think (but I could be wrong, things do get cloudy when your head is screwed with stresses)
Flip that round.
These things are out of your control.
That tells me you can't do anything about them no matter how hard you try to effect the outcomes.
That energy could be put to better use. Easy for me to say as I'm almost horizontal (very laid back).
Try and give yourself an escape from life doing whatever it is you love doing.
I can't effect them right now, but I should be able to at some point.
I do tend to worry (not as badly as I used to) so I probably don't help myself ... However, I cannot inherently change who I am (although I have changed massively over the years and I'm proud to say all positively) "
Wish I could help you more. I learned in my most darkest times when I thought the world had crumbled around me that there is always someone worse off. You don't have to look far to find them either.
Yeah I'm sure that's no comfort.
This thread is full of great advice, hope you can draw on some of that.
Don't keep it inside, talking helps. All the best with this shit that's come your way |
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"I colour. A lot.
Colour what?
In colouring books for adults.
Oh okay, wow, didn't realise there was such a thing
There is
I'd highly recommend it. I started doing it on a daily basis three years ago, after a few months I noticed how much my anxiety had improved just by doing that without any other factors. It clears my mind if I have a problem that I can't do anything about. Google Johanna Basford "
Definitely will have a look, thank you x |
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I was going to offer some flippant answer about wanking saving my life but as it’s a bit more serious I find hard strenuous labour helps as it takes the physical part of stress away and by losing yourself in a non communicative task its like white noise and let’s me think less. Digging the garden, knocking down walls, sanding timber, anything like that. I also meditate afterwards when I am knackered! |
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"Escape the real world by putting a headset on and playing ps4.
I also play sport and once I cross that white line only what's happening within the white lines matter.
These I find for me give me the best relief.
I did see a doctor about it in Feb but I found that a waste.
Yeah, doctors don't help ... Maybe I need to find an escape ... Trouble is I find switching my brain off really difficult even if I am doing an activity
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm old fashioned and all I can offer is to persevere until the demons are banished, even if only for a while.
I'm sure there's a better word than demons.
I understand what you mean.
Trouble is at the moment I have at least three HUGE things going on that are exceptionally stressful and at this moment in time I have no control over any of them.
Hopefully it will change soon and it won't be an issue then... It's the having no control that stresses me more than the actual events I think (but I could be wrong, things do get cloudy when your head is screwed with stresses)
Flip that round.
These things are out of your control.
That tells me you can't do anything about them no matter how hard you try to effect the outcomes.
That energy could be put to better use. Easy for me to say as I'm almost horizontal (very laid back).
Try and give yourself an escape from life doing whatever it is you love doing.
I can't effect them right now, but I should be able to at some point.
I do tend to worry (not as badly as I used to) so I probably don't help myself ... However, I cannot inherently change who I am (although I have changed massively over the years and I'm proud to say all positively)
Wish I could help you more. I learned in my most darkest times when I thought the world had crumbled around me that there is always someone worse off. You don't have to look far to find them either.
Yeah I'm sure that's no comfort.
This thread is full of great advice, hope you can draw on some of that.
Don't keep it inside, talking helps. All the best with this shit that's come your way "
I know there are millions worse off than me, and I feel a twunt for posting this thread in some respects, but if I get one step further forward it will have been worth it (and I think I will) |
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"Hey all, interested to know how you deal with (REAL) stress ... ?"
By taking things one step at a time..... by that I mean breaking things down putting them in so called boxes and dealing with each by it’s self at the appropriate time. Give things a time limit, only do for said time and come back to it the following day if it’s not finished. |
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"It was more post-scenario coping strategy. It didn't change the situation much...she was still dead, he was still in prison and we still had to run around taking care of all of the aftermath...but I guess it stopped me overthinking things?
I see. Sorry for the loss."
Thanks. Not much use as advice unfortunately...
I'm only good at what to do when you feel shit but don't have problems. If you feel shit because you've got problems I kinda draw a blank |
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Cry....
Letting it out does really release stress as your tears excrete the chemicals from your body that increase your cortisol levels (so called stress hormone)...
Real men should never be afraid to cry! |
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Depends on what is causing the stress, but i’ve always been a great believer in this:
Can you do something to change the outcome? Well, change it! If you can’t, then there literally nothing you can do, becoming stressed about it is simply irrational.
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"Cry....
Letting it out does really release stress as your tears excrete the chemicals from your body that increase your cortisol levels (so called stress hormone)...
Real men should never be afraid to cry!"
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I accept the things I can't change. There may be some things happening that no one can do anything about. Taking that on board, helps me focus my energy more effectively.
This wouldn’t be for everyone, but a really good sex session can take my mind away from my stress. The endorphins afterwards relax me and help me focus on what’s causing stress in a more objective way. I’ve found that with just a good spanking session as well. |
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"I accept the things I can't change. There may be some things happening that no one can do anything about. Taking that on board, helps me focus my energy more effectively.
This wouldn’t be for everyone, but a really good sex session can take my mind away from my stress. The endorphins afterwards relax me and help me focus on what’s causing stress in a more objective way. I’ve found that with just a good spanking session as well. "
You're lucky you can get sex to order ... I'm not that lucky  |
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"Medication, brings it down to a manageable level, exercise helps bring it down even further. "
So many people fear the medication route without knowing what it does.
Without mine I wouldn't be here today. |
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I took a break from the treadmill that was life and concentrated on me
Saved enough to take some time out, took 3 months off work, set up a small business, lost weight, started regular exercise, got some hobbies, strengthened some friendships and ditched the energy sappers
It's not been without hiccups but 15 months after I decided to do it, I am a much better person mentally and physically |
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"Medication, brings it down to a manageable level, exercise helps bring it down even further.
So many people fear the medication route without knowing what it does.
Without mine I wouldn't be here today. "
Yep, without mine I'm not sure what would have happened. |
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No one really knows what real stress is.
It’s only during or after the event that you realise where you are in telsyion to the big picture.
Deal with each part in turn. Sometimes it takes a bit of time to deal with each part.
Then look back.
Long walks on the beach help. Meaningless sex with a really hunky well hung Adonis like bladey, might help but there just mere distractions - but they help in there own way.
Best of luck.
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"Extract yourself from the stressful situation
If it was that easy we'd all do it. 
I did. I walked out of a marriage. I've walked out of jobs. I've walked away from other toxic relationships"
Not everyone can. |
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The trick is to know how to forget.... If something that has stressed you out is no longer an issue. Just forget about it and move on. Don't matter now it's in the past sort of thing.
If the issue of the stress is ongoing... debts.. work.. etc etc. Work is an easy one. Get a new job!! Debts... prioritise. Which debts are the most likely to have people knocking your door 1st. You will never go to jail for debts. Unless it's the government you owe!! Just try not too worry. You're still alive and free. Enjoy the future instead of worrying about the past. The past shouldn't effect your future.
I just say 'fuck it' to most things. 'Whatever don't mean shit too me!!' |
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I tend to run away and hide but that doesn't tend to help.
I try to sit down and think of the situation that's stressing me and work out what will happen at the other side and how I will feel. If it's positive then I focus on that. If it's not i think about the people who need me to keep it together and how my reaction will affect them. |
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"Extract yourself from the stressful situation
100% impossible unfortunately "
Can you take something like Kalms? I was having a really rough time recently and they helped me calm down. Just check if you're ok to take them if you're on any other medication.
Hope your stress gets sorted soon OP. xx  |
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"Extract yourself from the stressful situation
If it was that easy we'd all do it.
I did. I walked out of a marriage. I've walked out of jobs. I've walked away from other toxic relationships"
I do the same. If something isn't making you happy. Walk away. It don't matter! Surly life is about being happy. Not staying around things that are making you miserable.
I've left furnished flats, jobs and just moved away. Possessions don't mean anything too me. I'm a minimalist. Took me a long time to realise that the less I got the happier I am. I got a place and furnished now and a job. I'm giving it all up next year to go backpacking. I don't have kids etc so it's easy for me to do. But I understand the stresses of life. Having kids has got to be the most stressful thing anyone can do. If you're a parent and still have all your hair then any other stress you face is nothing compared!!!
I've tried to settle down and couldn't. I've suffered from depression and made life choices to be off the grid! Live outside normality. Suits me as I ain't normal! |
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"I tend to run away and hide but that doesn't tend to help.
I try to sit down and think of the situation that's stressing me and work out what will happen at the other side and how I will feel. If it's positive then I focus on that. If it's not i think about the people who need me to keep it together and how my reaction will affect them. "
Well said. That's the thing.. positivity! It's a downward slop when you start thinking negatively. Hard to get out of |
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"Extract yourself from the stressful situation
100% impossible unfortunately
You always have a choice"
Not you don't...if it was that simple I would have done.
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"Extract yourself from the stressful situation
100% impossible unfortunately
Can you take something like Kalms? I was having a really rough time recently and they helped me calm down. Just check if you're ok to take them if you're on any other medication.
Hope your stress gets sorted soon OP. xx "
Thank you ... It's gonna be a long road ahead but I WILL get through it ... I don't have any other choice to be honest!  xx |
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This is why I have a love for Ds play. Having someone help you get into a sub zone that you let them control your worries and aniexty's for an period of time is a amazing feeling.
Then knowing that person will give you after care, for me nothing deals with my stress so well.
Otherwise taking to family, friends a bit of pampering R&R and most importantly find out if there is a way to reduce that stress, tackle what's causing it in the first place |
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"Hey all, interested to know how you deal with (REAL) stress ... ?"
I play a sport called airsoft
Usually takes my stress away! If that doesn't work I go for a 20-25mile cycle with music
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" and most importantly find out if there is a way to reduce that stress, tackle what's causing it in the first place "
I am working on this, but as there are three (possibly four) HUGE things going on at the moment (it's been a hell of a year  ) it's a bit uphill...
Luckily I have met some great people thru here who have helped me to some degree ... Even if only to give me some great, stress free sex  |
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I used to find getting out on the bike or motorbike helped me deal with stress, I found exercise a good way to deal with it.
As for the motorbike I found I could relax a lot, just by getting out for half an hour. |
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"I used to find getting out on the bike or motorbike helped me deal with stress, I found exercise a good way to deal with it.
As for the motorbike I found I could relax a lot, just by getting out for half an hour."
Don't the twunts on the roads stress you even more? |
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"I send a bitch signal. My bitches know to feed me, make cocktails and let me vent. Then invariably they find a solution or give me all the hugs and hair stroking I need. "
Wish I had that level of support |
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"I joined the Army Reserve and blow the living sh*t out of stuff with a machine gun every few months. Works a treat."
I wanted to join the RAF and passed the exams ... Then broke my neck ... So that went down the pan ... Wanted to then go for the RAF reserves and other health issues mean I can't.
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