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I, like many, have been a stranger in a pub, and manage to strike up a conversation. Perhaps laughing ove current affairs, latest news etc.
When in a swingers club however, people are reluctant, with a dash of perceived paranoia, thinking I'm going to pounce on his partner / wife etc..
Is their problems you couples have with single men being pushy? Just asking folks! I ain't whinging, judt like to know what's going on. Be nicey wicey, not nasty pasty  |
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I don't think everyone will assume you are going to pounce. As long as you approach people normally and try to start a conversation they should be fine unless they are new to the scene or have previously had a bad experience. |
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Its a problem of badly mannered single males ruining it for the rest of them. Show a bit of politeness and they won't leave you alone / touch without being invited / get in a huff if you don't want to play. |
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"When someone talks to you in a pub they are not going to assume you are trying to start a conversation because you may want to fuck them tho eh?!  "
Yup! |
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I've been to quite a few clubs with but mainly without partner and I can honestly say the only time I've seen problems with single blokes is when they where being dick. Single males on here are an embarrassment on the whole and I full get why couple or single Fems get fucked off with us. We have to prove we aren't cocks not the other way round. |
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How do you finish your conversations? Because they might just be being polite. It's always tricky when a guy we're not interested in starts a conversation. The conversation can flow, we might have many things in common. But the longer that conversation goes on for, the more time we're wasting. Maybe its easier to give friendly guys who are not sexually compatible the brush off early. Rather than having a twenty minute chat which ends up awkward when he asks if we want to play. |
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"How do you finish your conversations? Because they might just be being polite. It's always tricky when a guy we're not interested in starts a conversation. The conversation can flow, we might have many things in common. But the longer that conversation goes on for, the more time we're wasting. Maybe its easier to give friendly guys who are not sexually compatible the brush off early. Rather than having a twenty minute chat which ends up awkward when he asks if we want to play. "
It's like going skiing in the alps and then some twat is trying to flog you a time share |
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"How do you finish your conversations? Because they might just be being polite. It's always tricky when a guy we're not interested in starts a conversation. The conversation can flow, we might have many things in common. But the longer that conversation goes on for, the more time we're wasting. Maybe its easier to give friendly guys who are not sexually compatible the brush off early. Rather than having a twenty minute chat which ends up awkward when he asks if we want to play. "
Oh it's just general chit chat, usually it's a quick brush off. I don't get ruffled, I'm just not for them. I usually chill in the jacuzzi.. |
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"How do you finish your conversations? Because they might just be being polite. It's always tricky when a guy we're not interested in starts a conversation. The conversation can flow, we might have many things in common. But the longer that conversation goes on for, the more time we're wasting. Maybe its easier to give friendly guys who are not sexually compatible the brush off early. Rather than having a twenty minute chat which ends up awkward when he asks if we want to play.
It's like going skiing in the alps and then some twat is trying to flog you a time share"
Lol., funny you should say that, I'll send you a brochure on a lovely cottage |
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" the longer that conversation goes on for, the more time we're wasting. Maybe its easier to give friendly guys who are not sexually compatible the brush off early. Rather than having a twenty minute chat which ends up awkward when he asks if we want to play. "
Good point here. I didn't think of this |
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"I, like many, have been a stranger in a pub, and manage to strike up a conversation. Perhaps laughing ove current affairs, latest news etc.
When in a swingers club however, people are reluctant, with a dash of perceived paranoia, thinking I'm going to pounce on his partner / wife etc..
Is their problems you couples have with single men being pushy? Just asking folks! I ain't whinging, judt like to know what's going on. Be nicey wicey, not nasty pasty "
Nope, completely the opposite, not sure where you go but none we attend are like that. There are of course people we don't want to talk to, for various reasons, but much more open to talking to singles at clubs. Quite a few single guys we chat to at chameleons even though we probably won't ever play with them. |
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Likewise. I like to make full use of the social skills I have, and it doesn't mean I want to have sex with whoever I talk to. I've struck up conversation and even friendships at clubs with couples and females alike, without ever having sex with them. Giving single guys the brush-off who make the effort to talk, without an ulterior motive for sex, is just rude and bad form. And people say us single guys are rude! |
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