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Just my own thoughts on/CD/trans??
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By *heekyboi OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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I've let people down.i get that.but you have to see it from our point of view.i can't just switch emma on or off I have to be feeling like emma.it takes time to get ready and I can't leave my house looking good lol.the neighbours would talking!think what I am trying to say it's (not) easy for you guys,just take a minute and think about how confusing this is for all of us/me.kind of rant sorry emma xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've let people down.i get that.but you have to see it from our point of view.i can't just switch emma on or off I have to be feeling like emma.it takes time to get ready and I can't leave my house looking good lol.the neighbours would talking!think what I am trying to say it's (not) easy for you guys,just take a minute and think about how confusing this is for all of us/me.kind of rant sorry emma xx"
How have you let people down? |
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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago
Chester |
Every single TV/CD is different. We have different motivations, different feelings, different desires and different ways of dealing with life in general. As long as we're honest about ourselves and more importantly, TO ourselves... That's a great start.
I'm kinda lucky in that I can switch my alter ego on and off although too long without makes me feel distinctly unhappy. Others need certain circumstances to feel ready. It's hard to explain to non CDers but we all have our own needs, wants, desires etc.
We also all need help from time to time. I offer help to any CD/TV that needs it. Be that a shoulder to cry on, somewhere to dress or just someone to talk to who understands the need. There are many like me throughout the world. If you struggle then look for us. Xx |
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"I've let people down.i get that.but you have to see it from our point of view.i can't just switch emma on or off I have to be feeling like emma.it takes time to get ready and I can't leave my house looking good lol.the neighbours would talking!think what I am trying to say it's (not) easy for you guys,just take a minute and think about how confusing this is for all of us/me.kind of rant sorry emma xx
How have you let people down? "
That was my initial thought .
Have you arranged to meet and not turned up because you didn’t feel like Emma ?
Or got to the door to meet someone and turned back round as you didn’t want the neighbours to see you dressed as Emma ?
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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago
Chester |
Is the reality of a meet and the fantasy of sex that different? Maybe in your head the planned meet is amazing but in reality there is no desire to actually meet? There are lots of places where people play fantasy meets. Give them a try and see if they satisfy your needs. |
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"Hi thanks.just arrange to meet then bottle out last minute or something happens and I can't make it .Is this normal lol? Never really reached out before but do need some guidance ??xx"
To be fair , this has become normal on here .
And when you are on the receiving end of someone who arranges meets then bottles it or doesn’t make it , you’ll see how annoying it is 
If you aren’t ready to honour meets you have arranged , then simply don’t arrange them until you are . Simple .
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"Hi thanks.just arrange to meet then bottle out last minute or something happens and I can't make it .Is this normal lol? Never really reached out before but do need some guidance ??xx"
If you keep bottling out on meets you won’t keep getting them for long.
It sounds like you’re not ready to be meeting.
Perhaps you should get more used to dressing up as Emma and going out before you arrange another meet. |
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"Hi thanks.just arrange to meet then bottle out last minute or something happens and I can't make it .Is this normal lol? Never really reached out before but do need some guidance ??xx"
It took me a good 3 years before I was happy to be meeting as Jennifer, would suggest maybe looking for T-Girl friendly/specific club nights as you can dress without judgement and get advice from other T-Girls (certainly helped my confidence) |
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