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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!"
Don't let the door hit you on the arse when you flounce out.
If you are waiting for a "pleeease don't leave" you are on the wrong site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not replying to a message doesn’t mean they are a time waster.
People do not have an obligation to reply to any messages they receive on fab.
Check the fab FAQs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't call someone who doesn't reply to a message a timewaster personally."
I think it's the opposite, it would take me more time to reply to all my mail, instead I don't waste time by just replying to the ones who catch my interest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Non-responses and timewasters are two different things. Suppose it's up to the individual if they want to reply back or not. What difference does it make either way. Both look like a no thanks to me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’ve been on here eight months and you haven’t seen a thread about this issue before? Check out the FAQs at the bottom of the home page."
Well its a common thread because it's tough sending well thought out messages and getting no reply the FAQs don't get read because let's face it whoever reads the terms and conditions nobody and it is difficult for guys to understand how many messages women and couples get and how impossible it is sometimes just answering the messages you want to answer
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought this was another ska thread "
I'm in a constant state of amazement that Buster Bloodvessel is still alive and still going strong with Bad Manners  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!"
you really should read what admin flash up when you try contacting people again its rather rude to ignore it
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STOP. THINK.
You've already sent XXXXX a message and not received a reply back.
If someone doesn't reply, it's not rude, it just means they're not interested. You're better off messaging people who you haven't contacted already. PS. Because some women and couples get hundreds of mails each day, we take a dim view of anyone harassing those who don't reply.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is my my point tho. You only get a reply if you spit your dummy out.
Just gets to me that I actually take time to write a message and the person receiving it doesn’t have the decency to just acknowledge your message,just a simple “no thanks” would suffice.
Yes 8 months I’ve been on here and not even had a meet.
I’ve had a few messages and that’s it.
Wouldn’t mind but I’m a nice guy too.
Ah well rant over.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!"
Its not timewasting to ignore messages..
Read the FAQs fgs and dont be so precious about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is my my point tho. You only get a reply if you spit your dummy out.
Just gets to me that I actually take time to write a message and the person receiving it doesn’t have the decency to just acknowledge your message,just a simple “no thanks” would suffice.
Yes 8 months I’ve been on here and not even had a meet.
I’ve had a few messages and that’s it.
Wouldn’t mind but I’m a nice guy too.
Ah well rant over.
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If you’re a nice guy it will show  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!"
Have you considered it may be yourself that is the timewaster ?
Choose who you message wisely, read profiles, more importantly read between the lines of profiles, don't expect a response
Writing a personal well constructed message is, by no means, an easy task. Make them count. Still, don't expect a response.
There is, after all, a fine line to be danced between expectation and entitlement.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!
Have you considered it may be yourself that is the timewaster ?
Choose who you message wisely, read profiles, more importantly read between the lines of profiles, don't expect a response
Writing a personal well constructed message is, by no means, an easy task. Make them count. Still, don't expect a response.
There is, after all, a fine line to be danced between expectation and entitlement.
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Oh and another thing, why would you want your inbox filled with 'no thanks' messages ?
That's got to be as bad for the ego (if not worse) as not getting any reply at all
If I send a message out, it is because I've seen something in their profile that interests me
Just because I've seen something in them doesn't mean that the interest is reciprocated |
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!"
So sick of time wasters myself.
FAQ section is two doors down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!
So sick of time wasters myself.
FAQ section is two doors down."
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Having returned to the site in search of some fun I have been inundated with messages which are either less than 5 words long or from guys who have clearly not read my profile. Should I be expected to waste my time responding to be 'polite'? I understand how demoralising it must be for guys not to get a reply but do yourselves a favour and make a little effort. I personally can't believe how difficult it is to get a reliable meet on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you reply in writing to all the junk mail that drops through your home letterbox?
Some days there's so many messages it gets tedious to have to reply to one liners, or strange questions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sooooo... Does anyone sit there refreshing the screen, just waiting for that damned yellow background to disappear from the sent message and indicating that the recipient has cast their gaze over it's cut-and-paste content and obligatory attached snapshot of the senders genitalia? That would be timewasting on the part of the sender. And rude to expect anything. Entitlement is not becoming.
*Disclaimer as advised by Stingly Byron's Fab legal services. No offence is meant by this post and no fabbers were harmed in it's creation* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The trouble is, couples and single ladies do not have to really chase the meet..Most will come to us...We do reply to every message sent to us ..We get an avarage of around 10 per day..so it not really a problem for us..We have our filters set to cut them down....I do feel sorry for the guys on here, especially the ones that put the work in , yet still got no reply..I'm not a fan of them being pointed to the no reply rule..and it's not a rule because if it was, you would get in trouble for breaking it..It's more of an outline on how it works..It just feels a kopout to me to those that could not be bothered to reply, because they have looked at the pics and profiles and thought not for me...Yes..the how are you or hello or fancy a fuck messages may not deserve a reply..but those that put some effort in, surly do..even if it's a no thanks.. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"The trouble is, couples and single ladies do not have to really chase the meet..Most will come to us...We do reply to every message sent to us ..We get an avarage of around 10 per day..so it not really a problem for us..We have our filters set to cut them down....I do feel sorry for the guys on here, especially the ones that put the work in , yet still got no reply..I'm not a fan of them being pointed to the no reply rule..and it's not a rule because if it was, you would get in trouble for breaking it..It's more of an outline on how it works..It just feels a kopout to me to those that could not be bothered to reply, because they have looked at the pics and profiles and thought not for me...Yes..the how are you or hello or fancy a fuck messages may not deserve a reply..but those that put some effort in, surly do..even if it's a no thanks.."
What you have to factor in as well as the sheer time it would take to reply to all messages in some instances, is the number of abusive replies that people get when they send a simple "no thanks" and the fact that by replying it opens up a message route that supercedes any filters that may be set at a later date.
Yes sending a no thanks and then blocking is an option to prevent the abuse, but you then get the threads whining about why someone has been blocked so you can't win whatever you do.
The sooner that guys accept that no reply means not interested the better it is for all - it's not rude, it's not abusive, it doesn't mean anything, it's just the way it is and what works for the site.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there’s a comment that has been made many times when a single guy has a moan about. not getting a reply..... but for the life of me i can’t remember what it was  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would Buster Bloodvessel do?
Make a Special Brew perhaps? Or maybe go Walking In The Sunshine? Or perhaps just shrug and say Lip Up Fatty before moving onto the next message "
Just A Feeling , you could try Lorraine Op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok suck it up and grow a pair. For every 100 messages you send make expect a failure rate of 90%. As for not replying you think the ladies can reply? For god sake man, the women receive so many. As I say grow a pair suck it up pal !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is my my point tho. You only get a reply if you spit your dummy out.
Just gets to me that I actually take time to write a message and the person receiving it doesn’t have the decency to just acknowledge your message,just a simple “no thanks” would suffice.
Yes 8 months I’ve been on here and not even had a meet.
I’ve had a few messages and that’s it.
Wouldn’t mind but I’m a nice guy too.
Ah well rant over.
If you’re a nice guy it will show "
If you're a nice guy you wouldn't spit your dummy out for not getting a reply! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"What would Buster Bloodvessel do?
Make a Special Brew perhaps? Or maybe go Walking In The Sunshine? Or perhaps just shrug and say Lip Up Fatty before moving onto the next message Just A Feeling , you could try Lorraine Op "
Or even stick your thumb to your nose and go Ne-Ne-Na-Na-Nu-Nu at them for not replying!! |
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!"
No thanks
Not that hard at all really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!"
We wouldn't bother replying to your profile either.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The trouble is, couples and single ladies do not have to really chase the meet..Most will come to us...We do reply to every message sent to us ..We get an avarage of around 10 per day..so it not really a problem for us..We have our filters set to cut them down....I do feel sorry for the guys on here, especially the ones that put the work in , yet still got no reply..I'm not a fan of them being pointed to the no reply rule..and it's not a rule because if it was, you would get in trouble for breaking it..It's more of an outline on how it works..It just feels a kopout to me to those that could not be bothered to reply, because they have looked at the pics and profiles and thought not for me...Yes..the how are you or hello or fancy a fuck messages may not deserve a reply..but those that put some effort in, surly do..even if it's a no thanks.."
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Expect to chat with many more people than you'll ever meet, as both sides evaluate compatibility. That is not time-wasting! It's the only intelligent way to get appropriate people to meet with you!!
Site rules - no reply = no interest.
It's ridiculous to think of waiting for someone to confirm or reject, without also making contact with other potential partners. You'll still only end up with those who are compatible and it needs the same investment of time.
You have lost nothing by not meeting the wrong people. If you tried fab and it wasn't for you, you know more than if you hadn't. Most people won't fancy most people, so it's like that with your chat's with others - they don't fancy you, you all move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think the site rules is clear about getting replies.
women and couples sometimes get so many messages it is impossible to reply to all if any.
if your mail is deleted without reply you should take it as a no and move on.
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I come here for enjoyment. I therefore want to spend my time in a way that's enjoyable for me - using the forums and talking to people who are interesting to me.
If I replied to every hey wwu2 message or the married 60 year olds who live 300 miles away with beards down to their knees and piercings in every body part, I'd not be able to give the time to the people who are of interest. Where someone has taken the time to send a good message, fits my preferences and just isn't my type, I'll reply but the rest get deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would Buster Bloodvessel do?
Make a Special Brew perhaps? Or maybe go Walking In The Sunshine? Or perhaps just shrug and say Lip Up Fatty before moving onto the next message "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As with all of these threads I'll re-post what I always say.....think fab should introduce a "button" that sends an automated thanks but no thanks response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How hard is it to just say “no thanks”or even “no”
Just bad manners to just ignore your messages or even just delete.
So glad My subscriptions about to expire,so sick of time wasters!"
I’ve seen first hand how many messages some single females get in a day. Replying to each would be a full time job. |
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