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Your out of my league

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So your looking at a profile,your in there age range,your close by,you can accommodate,you have a face pic ready to send with first message, then......"your out of my league"

Does this stop you sending that first message? Has this ever happened to you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got 300 messages this morning and I’m sixty fucking eight! Not after eight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope. I don't construct leagues. I either like the look of someone or I don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, it doesn’t stop me.

Purely because for the past nine months, someone who I totally feel is out of my league has been trying to meet me (we just haven’t managed it yet).

I just need to have more faith in myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope. I don't construct leagues. I either like the look of someone or I don't. "

Not everybody has a vagina

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nope. I don't construct leagues. I either like the look of someone or I don't.

Not everybody has a vagina "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Saying someone is out of my league implies I'm capable of feelings and emotion. It is also a reflection of my self esteem.

As I give no fucks, I will message who I want. If they are not attracted to me or my profile, then it is their issue not mine.

I know I am one of the most pleasant and likeable people on fab once you get under the veneer of arsehole. And whilst I'm not the prettiest, there is not a single person on here out of my league.

If you paddle in the same pool for too long, the water ends up stagnant...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Saying someone is out of my league implies I'm capable of feelings and emotion. It is also a reflection of my self esteem.

As I give no fucks, I will message who I want. If they are not attracted to me or my profile, then it is their issue not mine.

I know I am one of the most pleasant and likeable people on fab once you get under the veneer of arsehole. And whilst I'm not the prettiest, there is not a single person on here out of my league.

If you paddle in the same pool for too long, the water ends up stagnant..."

What if you piss in the pool?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope. I don't construct leagues. I either like the look of someone or I don't.

Not everybody has a vagina "

Granny Crumpet ?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply. "

My guess is because they are only here for the fabs not the meets

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope. I don't construct leagues. I either like the look of someone or I don't.

Not everybody has a vagina "

I'm not sharing everyone's perspective

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

My guess is because they are only here for the fabs not the meets

True dat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No wouldn’t stop me messaging, I don’t believe anyone is out of my league and vice versa.

What’s the worst that can happen? someone replies with a “no, you’re not for me”, that’s all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

My guess is because they are only here for the fabs not the meets

My guess is something entirely different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No Dash. You're not getting any messages neither because you look awful nor because you look too good. They just don't want to fuck you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never create leagues... if I like what I see I message... to instigate chat see if there is something more... we all deserve a chance...

Having said that... I fell into the wrong side of the age preferences... it can get lonely out here..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply. "

Blimey!! Do people really view those on hot pics page 1 as out of their league? What a bizarre concept for what comes down to basically being a popularity contest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve seen incredibly good looking people of either sex who were with people who did not appear to be anywhere near as attractive. You just don’t know what appeals to each individual and how much personality and character play a part.

Some women like muscle-bound men, whereas others can’t stand that look. Some people are disgusted by slightly overweight people whereas others want ‘something to get hold if’. You don’t know until you try.

Anyway, most of it is just fantasy matching that is more about elevating self esteem than meeting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes a few I wouldn’t message, but have been surprised at times x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never send a first message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Blimey!! Do people really view those on hot pics page 1 as out of their league? What a bizarre concept for what comes down to basically being a popularity contest."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Blimey!! Do people really view those on hot pics page 1 as out of their league? What a bizarre concept for what comes down to basically being a popularity contest."

I’ve never actually looked, what’s the point of it!

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By *oserMan over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"Saying someone is out of my league implies I'm capable of feelings and emotion. It is also a reflection of my self esteem.

As I give no fucks, I will message who I want. If they are not attracted to me or my profile, then it is their issue not mine.

I know I am one of the most pleasant and likeable people on fab once you get under the veneer of arsehole. And whilst I'm not the prettiest, there is not a single person on here out of my league.

If you paddle in the same pool for too long, the water ends up stagnant...

What if you piss in the pool?"

Warmer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never send a first message

What if the person or people who is best suited to you hasn’t sent you a message? Would you pass them by because you felt you shouldn’t have to be the one to message first?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Saying someone is out of my league implies I'm capable of feelings and emotion. It is also a reflection of my self esteem.

As I give no fucks, I will message who I want. If they are not attracted to me or my profile, then it is their issue not mine.

I know I am one of the most pleasant and likeable people on fab once you get under the veneer of arsehole. And whilst I'm not the prettiest, there is not a single person on here out of my league.

If you paddle in the same pool for too long, the water ends up stagnant...

What if you piss in the pool?"

That makes you kinky

Tell me more

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No Dash. You're not getting any messages neither because you look awful nor because you look too good. They just don't want to fuck you

IV got a small dick

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By *etLikeMan over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

For me, it’s not so much being out of someone’s league, as not wanting to be lost in the sea of messages I perceive them as getting. My first message is usually quite lengthy and I worry about getting lost among the FAFs and Heys.

This is the same as with a new user I may like. I tell myself that I’ll wait for the mad rush to die down, then never quite get around to it.

So my own enemy is procrastination and principles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Saying someone is out of my league implies I'm capable of feelings and emotion. It is also a reflection of my self esteem.

As I give no fucks, I will message who I want. If they are not attracted to me or my profile, then it is their issue not mine.

I know I am one of the most pleasant and likeable people on fab once you get under the veneer of arsehole. And whilst I'm not the prettiest, there is not a single person on here out of my league.

If you paddle in the same pool for too long, the water ends up stagnant...

What if you piss in the pool?

That makes you kinky

Tell me more

When my family were on holiday when I was ten, my two year old sister jumped into the jacuzzi and shat. It was closed for cleaning for days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Blimey!! Do people really view those on hot pics page 1 as out of their league? What a bizarre concept for what comes down to basically being a popularity contest."

I’ll message all of them if you want and tell you how many replies I get, actually scrap that I can’t be arsed.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply. "

Okay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Okay "

Great input Cher.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply. "

Not any to my taste I’m afraid.

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By *rsSBWoman over a year ago

toy town

"So your looking at a profile,your in there age range,your close by,you can accommodate,you have a face pic ready to send with first message, then......"your out of my league"

Does this stop you sending that first message? Has this ever happened to you?"

Nope. If I like someone I ask FAF. That's why I'm here

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Okay

Great input Cher.

Went to mens hot pics

Interestingly the 'curious' ones have blocked women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am completely guilty of this.

I get lots of offers from some very attractive out if my league guys and I just don't pursue it. I convince myself once they see me and my body they wouldn't want to so put in my own blocks to meetings!

It's mad but true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Okay

Great input Cher.

Went to mens hot pics

Interestingly the 'curious' ones have blocked women

‘All the best women are married and all the handsome are gay’

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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I find hot pics to be a bit body off Baywatch face off crimewatch.

And filters...wow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am completely guilty of this.

It's mad but true

I’ve done this too.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Okay

Great input Cher.

Went to mens hot pics

Interestingly the 'curious' ones have blocked women

‘All the best women are married and all the handsome are gay’"

Got one reply from one sent

100% success rate I would say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Blimey!! Do people really view those on hot pics page 1 as out of their league? What a bizarre concept for what comes down to basically being a popularity contest.

I’ll message all of them if you want and tell you how many replies I get, actually scrap that I can’t be arsed.

Doesn’t mean they’re “out of your league” though does it?

You could message me, a “plain Jane” etc etc and we might not reply, it’s nowt to do with leagues.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Saying someone is out of my league implies I'm capable of feelings and emotion. It is also a reflection of my self esteem.

As I give no fucks, I will message who I want. If they are not attracted to me or my profile, then it is their issue not mine.

I know I am one of the most pleasant and likeable people on fab once you get under the veneer of arsehole. And whilst I'm not the prettiest, there is not a single person on here out of my league.

If you paddle in the same pool for too long, the water ends up stagnant...

What if you piss in the pool?

That makes you kinky

Tell me more

When my family were on holiday when I was ten, my two year old sister jumped into the jacuzzi and shat. It was closed for cleaning for days. "

That is funny

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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The only league that is important is rugby league

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By *oftandGentle2Couple over a year ago

leeds

Why should anyone be out of anyone’s league?

People are attracted to different people never let the thought put you off, you just never know!

A rippling muscled god could just as easily be attracted to a wobbly butt mama like me for example!

We don’t know what other people are attracted to till we engage with them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Okay

Great input Cher.

Went to mens hot pics

Interestingly the 'curious' ones have blocked women

‘All the best women are married and all the handsome are gay’

Got one reply from one sent

100% success rate I would say "

I messaged someone on page one, 8 months ago, fingers crossed they’ll reply any day now.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

Used to think so, but then I realised I'm fucking awesome.

If slightly nuts at times.

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By *rsSBWoman over a year ago

toy town

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Okay

Great input Cher.

Went to mens hot pics

Interestingly the 'curious' ones have blocked women

‘All the best women are married and all the handsome are gay’

Got one reply from one sent

100% success rate I would say

I messaged someone on page one, 8 months ago, fingers crossed they’ll reply any day now.

I'm here babe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why should anyone be out of anyone’s league?

People are attracted to different people never let the thought put you off, you just never know!

A rippling muscled god could just as easily be attracted to a wobbly butt mama like me for example!

We don’t know what other people are attracted to till we engage with them!

Great point I’m a gym guy and like to keep very fit etc but my favourite type of lady is a curvy one and always will be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Used to think so, but then I realised I'm fucking awesome.

If slightly nuts at times."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're just a fool to believe

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Used to think so, but then I realised I'm fucking awesome.

If slightly nuts at times."

I was put off for a bit and then I actually did and I'm bloody glad I did. I'm not too bad and if I like someone I'll just go for it now.

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

Just because I’m wonderful it doesn’t mean I shouldn’t give some lucky ladies the chance to meet me

I’m in a lot of trouble if I ever start to believe my own bullshit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's an ongoing problem at the moment

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"You're just a fool to believe"

She's like the wind.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"It's an ongoing problem at the moment "

Need me to kick your butt?

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"Used to think so, but then I realised I'm fucking awesome.

If slightly nuts at times.

I was put off for a bit and then I actually did and I'm bloody glad I did. I'm not too bad and if I like someone I'll just go for it now."

Yaaaaaay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're just a fool to believe

She's like the wind."

*swoon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's an ongoing problem at the moment

Need me to kick your butt? "

Possibly.

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By *MP3Man over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

"I got 300 messages this morning and I’m sixty fucking eight! Not after eight "

Were 297 of those messages enquiries about Stilfler's mom?

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS over a year ago

Cornwall

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer a -x league, dont get on so well under water

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Okay

Great input Cher.

Went to mens hot pics

Interestingly the 'curious' ones have blocked women

‘All the best women are married and all the handsome are gay’

Got one reply from one sent

100% success rate I would say

I messaged someone on page one, 8 months ago, fingers crossed they’ll reply any day now.

I'm here babe

Thanks bae, took your time.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS over a year ago

Cornwall

"For all those people saying there are no leagues, message everyone on page one of hot pics, see how many reply’s you get. My guess is most people wouldn’t get a single reply.

Blimey!! Do people really view those on hot pics page 1 as out of their league? What a bizarre concept for what comes down to basically being a popularity contest."

Meh ...just means that have nice lens filters and they can use photoshop

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah I’ll often think they’re outta my league .... then I’ll message them anyway!

I’m meeting one of them later this week... squuuuuueeeee!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ah I’ll often think they’re outta my league .... then I’ll message them anyway!

I’m meeting one of them later this week... squuuuuueeeee!!

Ahhh that’s nice. Lucky cow meeting the one and only Dan. She must be pretty amazing. Hope she blows your socks off. Mwah

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By *tonmessyMan over a year ago

Bournemouth

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By *tonmessyMan over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Saying someone is out of my league implies I'm capable of feelings and emotion. It is also a reflection of my self esteem.

As I give no fucks, I will message who I want. If they are not attracted to me or my profile, then it is their issue not mine.

I know I am one of the most pleasant and likeable people on fab once you get under the veneer of arsehole. And whilst I'm not the prettiest, there is not a single person on here out of my league.

If you paddle in the same pool for too long, the water ends up stagnant..."

Really like this response

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"It's an ongoing problem at the moment

Need me to kick your butt?

Possibly. "

Anytime you need it. X

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By *appytochatMan over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

I tend to think this about a lot of profiles. Probably why I don't message very often.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I figure they're just people online. If I get rejected then it's not a big deal. If I don't it's a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

See someone you like, and you think you legitimately seem to fit their criteria, then message them.

If they reject you, then you’re no worse off than you were before (ie you still weren’t going to meet them).

But if you hit it off, who knows?

Seriously, what’s there to lose!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never send a first message

What if the person or people who is best suited to you hasn’t sent you a message? Would you pass them by because you felt you shouldn’t have to be the one to message first? "
my loss then

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If we meet another couples criteria then we would message them. Nothing ventured nothing gained is our moto.

The thing that holds us back most is time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

“You’re”...

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By *mp411Man over a year ago

chester

"See someone you like, and you think you legitimately seem to fit their criteria, then message them.

If they reject you, then you’re no worse off than you were before (ie you still weren’t going to meet them).

But if you hit it off, who knows?

Seriously, what’s there to lose!?

Some you win some you lose, If you don’t try you’ll never know

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

"So your looking at a profile,your in there age range,your close by,you can accommodate,you have a face pic ready to send with first message, then......"your out of my league"

Does this stop you sending that first message? Has this ever happened to you?"

Excuse me for being a bit dim, did they mean you are too good and above their league, or not so good and below them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try not to over think things. Cant be for everyone and if someone is up their own arse would you really want to meet them?

Meant to be fun

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"So your looking at a profile,your in there age range,your close by,you can accommodate,you have a face pic ready to send with first message, then......"your out of my league"

Does this stop you sending that first message? Has this ever happened to you?"

I always write, Did you mean "you're?".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I put off people I think are ‘out of my league’. I don’t have a great body, I don’t have a great face. I sometimes struggle to get attention as a single woman in a sex club.

There is a limit to the amount of personal rejection I want to deal with.

Single men - I know you face SO MUCH rejection every day this must sound laughable, but that’s the way I feel.

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By *astings SocialWoman over a year ago

Hastings

Need to find my mojo before I start messaging people x

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By *olfAndKittenCouple over a year ago

Bristol

How exactly do you know if you are out of someone's league unless you message them? Unless you don't fit into preferences that they've clearly stated, you'll probably never know unless you start a conversation.

Master told me once that when he first messaged me, he thought he'd never get a reply back because he felt I was "out of his league." This totally shocked me because I find Master to be incredibly attractive...he ticks all my boxes (he doesn't have a public face pic, but trust me, he's gorgeous). He took that "risk," I responded, and here we are today

TLDR, you should just go for it. There is nothing to lose and so much to gain!

~ Kitten =^.^=

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By *cott73Man over a year ago

brighton

I work on the theory, if you don't buy a ticket, you can't win a raffle.

Doesn't mean I ever win a prize though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope - nothing ventured nothing gained and as far as I’m concerned we’re all equal here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would put me off from messaging. I've been told that I'm out of people's league, and they've had to pluck up courage to message me. That actually really disappoints me, as I'm just a really down to earth normal kinda girl. I really hope I'm not putting people off in someway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are no leagues.

Just different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So your looking at a profile,your in there age range,your close by,you can accommodate,you have a face pic ready to send with first message, then......"your out of my league"

Does this stop you sending that first message? Has this ever happened to you?

I always write, Did you mean "you're?"."

Didn’t want to go there, he already thinks I’m a knobhead.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It would put me off from messaging. I've been told that I'm out of people's league, and they've had to pluck up courage to message me. That actually really disappoints me, as I'm just a really down to earth normal kinda girl. I really hope I'm not putting people off in someway

Yes this. Makes me not want to bother too because they think I’m something I’m probably not.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Were all unique individuals some folk will like my uniqueness some won't... the only folk I don't message if I've found them interesting and attractive are those who have blocked messages from my gender other than that..watch out for incoming message ladies

;-)

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By *ineMan over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

Lots of things stop me sending first messages...but usually just me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes this. Makes me not want to bother too because they think I’m something I’m probably not. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I should of said it WOULDN'T put me off from messaging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I just message them, what do you have to lose?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I just message them, what do you have to lose?"

dignity..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm going to message the top 5 most fabbed profiles and 2 random people from this thread and see if I get a reply...

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By *ddit...Man over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

"You're just a fool to believe"

She's like the wind was a song I listened to almost 30 years ago when I was dating my first love.... I didn't think I was good enough for her.

30 years has given me balls.. a lack of insecurity and a positive attitude...

I would like to say I'm like the wind... but only the morning after a curry..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm going to message the top 5 most fabbed profiles and 2 random people from this thread and see if I get a reply..."

Meh

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm going to message the top 5 most fabbed profiles and 2 random people from this thread and see if I get a reply..."

Do it

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By *oftandGentle2Couple over a year ago

leeds

"Why should anyone be out of anyone’s league?

People are attracted to different people never let the thought put you off, you just never know!

A rippling muscled god could just as easily be attracted to a wobbly butt mama like me for example!

We don’t know what other people are attracted to till we engage with them!

Great point I’m a gym guy and like to keep very fit etc but my favourite type of lady is a curvy one and always will be

Seeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to have this mentality of shes out of my league

I dont any more im mentally much stronger than i once was

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I used to have this mentality of shes out of my league

I dont any more im mentally much stronger than i once was"

Pull the other one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

5 sent so far.

2 read.

0 replies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I decided to message men I would scattergun all the hot men in the hope that one of them would be desperate enough to reply.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

Yes. I am

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to have this mentality of shes out of my league

I dont any more im mentally much stronger than i once was

Pull the other one"

He does, regularly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Back in the dim mists of time when I first joined Fab, I received a wink from a divine looking bloke. I thought, nah - he’s way too hot. Nearly hit delete, then thought - sod it, what’s the worst that could happen and winked back.

I now live with him.

(He’s still insanely hot and I still chuckle, but I guess he didn’t wink me by accident after all)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm going to message the top 5 most fabbed profiles and 2 random people from this thread and see if I get a reply..."

So i was part of some weird 'i told you so' experiment?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

"Back in the dim mists of time when I first joined Fab, I received a wink from a divine looking bloke. I thought, nah - he’s way too hot. Nearly hit delete, then thought - sod it, what’s the worst that could happen and winked back.

I now live with him.

(He’s still insanely hot and I still chuckle, but I guess he didn’t wink me by accident after all) "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone's out of my league but God loves some who tries ??

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By *heGentleman2024Man over a year ago

North West

This is a good one, people are so obsessed with image and trends now love island Kardashians etc we think girls are out of our league. When sometimes women think we are out of their league. Wish this stigma didnt exist, i had the “she wont like me” but since being here that mentality has gone completely. Not everything is about looks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Way I see it you never know unless you try

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to have this mentality of shes out of my league

I dont any more im mentally much stronger than i once was

Pull the other one

He does, regularly "

I cant help being addorable

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Boooooom

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

Sorry but if someone continuously wrote your when they meant you're then I am out of their league for sure hahahah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am one of those that replies that I am flattered but they are out of my league. I don't have the confidence to fuck someone that looks like they have been sculpted by the gods when I feel like a sack of potatoes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am one of those that replies that I am flattered but they are out of my league. I don't have the confidence to fuck someone that looks like they have been sculpted by the gods when I feel like a sack of potatoes

"
I'd meet you. No question about it

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By *wingin CatMan over a year ago

London

"Saying someone is out of my league implies I'm capable of feelings and emotion. It is also a reflection of my self esteem.

As I give no fucks, I will message who I want. If they are not attracted to me or my profile, then it is their issue not mine.

I know I am one of the most pleasant and likeable people on fab once you get under the veneer of arsehole. And whilst I'm not the prettiest, there is not a single person on here out of my league.

If you paddle in the same pool for too long, the water ends up stagnant...

What if you piss in the pool?"

You get thrown out.....well, at least if you do it from the top diving board.

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By *wingin CatMan over a year ago

London

Don't ever say that about yourself! You are beautiful. We can't be too humble about ourselves all the time! x

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By *VBethTV/TS over a year ago

Chester

I find it easiest to assume I'm below everyone's league and thus I don't message first. If they message me then I have a starting point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find it easiest to assume I'm below everyone's league and thus I don't message first. If they message me then I have a starting point. "
yes .I don't message much either. If I miss out fine. I leave it to others

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

"I got 300 messages this morning and I’m sixty fucking eight! Not after eight "

Got that fed up of being hassled that he went UNLOS

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm an Oldham fan, in the league we're shit, but in a cup game. Anything can happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm going to message the top 5 most fabbed profiles and 2 random people from this thread and see if I get a reply...

So i was part of some weird 'i told you so' experiment?

no.

I'm not your type. You are out of my league.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

"I got 300 messages this morning and I’m sixty fucking eight! Not after eight "

Did Jims mum die?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven’t read any of this, it’s just that none of you are in my league, and none of you look as good in sweaty Lycra as I do.

Totes sozes Ciao

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By *ySweetLadyWoman over a year ago

London

You're out of my league

I feel this way when a clearly attractive, younger than me and incredibly fit man gets is touch.

As a larger lady I always wonder, are they only getting in touch because they assume I will be “easy prey”? I am far from that, by the way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven’t read any of this, it’s just that none of you are in my league, and none of you look as good in sweaty Lycra as I do.

Totes sozes Ciao

Just out of interest, are you ever sharing any of those sweaty Lycra pics?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got 300 messages this morning and I’m sixty fucking eight! Not after eight

Got that fed up of being hassled that he went UNLOS

It was a woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How exactly do you know if you are out of someone's league unless you message them? Unless you don't fit into preferences that they've clearly stated, you'll probably never know unless you start a conversation.

TLDR, you should just go for it. There is nothing to lose and so much to gain!

~ Kitten =^.^="

Ah kitten the times I have viewed your profile. And gone nope wouldn't look twice at me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got 300 messages this morning and I’m sixty fucking eight! Not after eight

Did Jims mum die?!

Gone, but not forgotten.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got 300 messages this morning and I’m sixty fucking eight! Not after eight

Got that fed up of being hassled that he went UNLOS

good riddance to bad pennies

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I now live with him.

(He’s still insanely hot and I still chuckle, but I guess he didn’t wink me by accident after all) "

But you are missed here oop North missus....

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

"I got 300 messages this morning and I’m sixty fucking eight! Not after eight

Got that fed up of being hassled that he went UNLOS

It was a woman."

But was it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I decided to message men I would scattergun all the hot men in the hope that one of them would be desperate enough to reply. "

Men get told off when they do that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will re-iterate what others have said..

I was once that very person a long time ago.

Then you learned three simple rule in life;

- If you don't ask. You won't get.

- Nothing comes to those who wait.

- "Fuck it!"

Mistress A_elia x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I will re-iterate what others have said..

I was once that very person a long time ago.

Then you learned three simple rule in life;

- If you don't ask. You won't get.

- Nothing comes to those who wait.

- "Fuck it!"

Mistress A_elia x

Ps Predictive texting drives me round the fucking twist...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !"

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

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By *rsSBWoman over a year ago

toy town

"So your looking at a profile,your in there age range,your close by,you can accommodate,you have a face pic ready to send with first message, then......"your out of my league"

Does this stop you sending that first message? Has this ever happened to you?

Nope. If I like someone I ask FAF. That's why I'm here

This

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem"

Women hate rejection!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!"

I don't think anyone particularly likes it to be fair

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!"

I don’t think it’s just women tbf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Alisha not good with rejection - must be a women thing lol

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By *rsSBWoman over a year ago

toy town

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!"

It doesn't bother me, as I don't see it as rejection. Just I'm not their thing

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By *o new WinksMan over a year ago

BSE

Can't imagine you get that often...if ever.

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By *ugga MannMan over a year ago

Heathrow

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

I don’t think it’s just women tbf "

It’s definitely not just women - but this is Fab where the rules are weird and random making rejection a fact of life with which you just have to come to terms. Keep at it and find your own brand of weird!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was hung up on age rather than looks but recently I've been meeting older women who I would of considered out of my league due to their sophistication but I've found they're just like me and crave human intamacy just like everyone else so I say don't be afraid strike up a conversation and see where it goes

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

It doesn't bother me, as I don't see it as rejection. Just I'm not their thing

Ah, but you're what i class as a swinger. There's some very fragile women on here who think they're swingers, when really what they want is an exclusive fuck buddy relationship with Mr right.

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By *rsSBWoman over a year ago

toy town

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

It doesn't bother me, as I don't see it as rejection. Just I'm not their thing

Ah, but you're what i class as a swinger. There's some very fragile women on here who think they're swingers, when really what they want is an exclusive fuck buddy relationship with Mr right.

So, they want naughty monogamy. Got you

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By *oxic1998Woman over a year ago

Belfast

I'm a great one for looking at who they have met.....and yes have thought they are well out off my league with their varies. Was talking to a guy and he told me had a meet......Didnt tell me who she was but guessed who it was with and one of his comments to me was " I have to up my game with this lady as she has them queuing up to to meet her". A regular on the Irish forums and yes very popular but it sort of put off as I felt I wasn't worth the effort as I'm not in her league

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a great one for looking at who they have met.....and yes have thought they are well out off my league with their varies. Was talking to a guy and he told me had a meet......Didnt tell me who she was but guessed who it was with and one of his comments to me was " I have to up my game with this lady as she has them queuing up to to meet her". A regular on the Irish forums and yes very popular but it sort of put off as I felt I wasn't worth the effort as I'm not in her league

"
never put yourself down as a lady said to me yesterday have faith in yourself and be genuine you'll win through eventually x

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

It doesn't bother me, as I don't see it as rejection. Just I'm not their thing

Ah, but you're what i class as a swinger. There's some very fragile women on here who think they're swingers, when really what they want is an exclusive fuck buddy relationship with Mr right.

So, they want naughty monogamy. Got you

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one is outta your league... it will be a number of things not going in your favour... some preferences will always work against you... but with luck and being yourself there will be someone that thinks you maybe okay to chat to... but then there will be your preferences too to take into consideration...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

It doesn't bother me, as I don't see it as rejection. Just I'm not their thing

Ah, but you're what i class as a swinger. There's some very fragile women on here who think they're swingers, when really what they want is an exclusive fuck buddy relationship with Mr right.

Being a Swinger isn't everyone's idea of a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

It doesn't bother me, as I don't see it as rejection. Just I'm not their thing

Ah, but you're what i class as a swinger. There's some very fragile women on here who think they're swingers, when really what they want is an exclusive fuck buddy relationship with Mr right.

Being a Swinger isn't everyone's idea of a good thing. "
it ain't a bad thing either a bit of spice is the variety of life

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By *idingawayCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

Always feel everyone I meet is out of my league

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some women say they like "a bit of rough" iv never really understood that phrase

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By *oftandGentle2Couple over a year ago

leeds

I now live with him.

(He’s still insanely hot and I still chuckle, but I guess he didn’t wink me by accident after all) "

Awwwwww I love that x

Congrats x x

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Some women say they like "a bit of rough" iv never really understood that phrase"

Why not??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A bit of rough.now i know where I'm going wrong.

I keep forgetting to bring some wet n dry on meets

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

I know my place....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some women say they like "a bit of rough" iv never really understood that phrase

Why not??

What is a bit of rough?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

I don’t think it’s just women tbf

I guess I’m a bit old skool so never approach someone I like (even in a bar). Perhaps guys get used to it and can handle it a bit better. Women tend to over think everything and take it personally. I realise it’s a massive assumption on behalf of both sexes but just know what me / my friends are like about this. Men have the resilience to brush themselves down and get back in the saddle again.

Shame I’m like this. I could be missing out on some great meets! Maybe I need to grow a pair

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

I don’t think it’s just women tbf

Shame I’m like this. I could be missing out on some great meets! Maybe I need to grow a pair "

I don't approach people either.

Can't miss what you never had

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS over a year ago

Cornwall

"
I

I get that , but I have to say that those who claim that they have a body of a god.....

Buddha was not a god

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never a sack of potatoes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Without sounding sad every woman I find attractive is way out of my league so yes I wink but don’t ever message anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Without sounding sad every woman I find attractive is way out of my league so yes I wink but don’t ever message anyone "

Sad but true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get that , but I have to say that those who claim that they have a body of a god.....

Buddha was not a god"

Hahahah

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I get that , but I have to say that those who claim that they have a body of a god.....

Buddha was not a god

Hahahah"

Fine ass

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!"

I don't. If someone doesn't want to meet me then that's absolutely fine. I'm adult enough to accept that not everyone fancies everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

I don't. If someone doesn't want to meet me then that's absolutely fine. I'm adult enough to accept that not everyone fancies everyone."
can't please everyone x

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I’m not great with rejection so wouldn’t message any guy first, particularly if I thought I was punching !

I wouldn't have thought women would have that problem

Women hate rejection!

I don't. If someone doesn't want to meet me then that's absolutely fine. I'm adult enough to accept that not everyone fancies everyone."

This for me too, I message who I like (after an observation period

) and if they were to say no, or not be what I expected, big deal. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

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