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Does it unnerve couples?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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...that so many people who become single after being in a long term relationship say they don't know if they can be bothered to go through that shit again? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...that so many people who become single after being in a long term relationship say they don't know if they can be bothered to go through that shit again?"
No I said it first time and was engaged inside 6 months. It's a natural feeling. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure what you mean op. Unnerve couples how exactly?"
I guess it infers the lovely relationships they tried to maintain... the moment they left it, many admit it was a chore. I wonder if that doesn't imply a certain degree of wilful self illusionment on behalf of couples that their relationship is amazing. Which then dissipates in a flash when they leave.
Just a curious thought. Nothing more |
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"I'm not sure what you mean op. Unnerve couples how exactly?
I guess it infers the lovely relationships they tried to maintain... the moment they left it, many admit it was a chore. I wonder if that doesn't imply a certain degree of wilful self illusionment on behalf of couples that their relationship is amazing. Which then dissipates in a flash when they leave.
Just a curious thought. Nothing more "
No, none of my relationships were a chore, they just ended...that's life. |
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"...that so many people who become single after being in a long term relationship say they don't know if they can be bothered to go through that shit again?"
Where do you meet all these people? Do you have facts and figures? Or is this all anecdotal? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Still in our long term or should i say very long term relationship def not a chore still both very happy after 38 years so not unnerved by other people splitting up I know I found my soul mate at young age |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Still in our long term or should i say very long term relationship def not a chore still both very happy after 38 years so not unnerved by other people splitting up I know I found my soul mate at young age "
Well done with 38 years only 18 for us but still as happy as ever |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not sure what you mean op. Unnerve couples how exactly?
I guess it infers the lovely relationships they tried to maintain... the moment they left it, many admit it was a chore. I wonder if that doesn't imply a certain degree of wilful self illusionment on behalf of couples that their relationship is amazing. Which then dissipates in a flash when they leave.
Just a curious thought. Nothing more "
And those of us that aren't disillusioned?... No. I'm not unnerved by others making wrong choices. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I doubt I'll have traditional relationship again.
I find living with other people really hard work - and it sounds harsh but I just don't need another family to feel obliged to see - or have to spend time with their children.
I would like someone to go out with, have holidays with, sex on tap etc ..
But I just don't want to do anyone elses laundry or spend my weekends at soft play  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Still in our long term or should i say very long term relationship def not a chore still both very happy after 38 years so not unnerved by other people splitting up I know I found my soul mate at young age
Well done with 38 years only 18 for us but still as happy as ever "
met at 15 been together ever since and grown stronger as time gone on. 18 years is good time and glad your happy too |
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"I'm not sure what you mean op. Unnerve couples how exactly?
I guess it infers the lovely relationships they tried to maintain... the moment they left it, many admit it was a chore. I wonder if that doesn't imply a certain degree of wilful self illusionment on behalf of couples that their relationship is amazing. Which then dissipates in a flash when they leave.
Just a curious thought. Nothing more "
Using the words you've chosen, relationships are a chore. You might want to sit down before reading this, but in life generally, worthwhile things require you to put effort in, in order to get something good out. I know that farts in the face of every Disney movie where two strangers lock eyes and live happily ever after. But disputes over 2 or 5 year mortgage products don't make gripping cinema. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Still in our long term or should i say very long term relationship def not a chore still both very happy after 38 years so not unnerved by other people splitting up I know I found my soul mate at young age "
Us too  |
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"Sometimes you learn valuable lessons about yourself and relationships from your previous long term relationship. Its all training for when you find the one."
Although statistically speaking, second and third marriages are less successful than first ones so more people stay in the same patterns of behaviour. |
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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago
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"...that so many people who become single after being in a long term relationship say they don't know if they can be bothered to go through that shit again?"
Its true a lot of people say Oooo never again when they come out of a relationship I get that have had friends say it and said it myself.
However as so may do go into second third or even more relationships it may be the initial post thought. People in general need companionship this is why so many stop in bad relationships and others form new ones.
So I don't think people worry any more about people not forming new relationships any more than people worry about ending one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"...that so many people who become single after being in a long term relationship say they don't know if they can be bothered to go through that shit again?
Its true a lot of people say Oooo never again when they come out of a relationship I get that have had friends say it and said it myself.
However as so may do go into second third or even more relationships it may be the initial post thought. People in general need companionship this is why so many stop in bad relationships and others form new ones.
So I don't think people worry any more about people not forming new relationships any more than people worry about ending one. "
Best answer award goes to you  |
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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"...that so many people who become single after being in a long term relationship say they don't know if they can be bothered to go through that shit again?"
Relationships do take work though 
Neither of us is one of those entitled people who thinks life owes us something (eg an effortless relationship). Just cause it takes work doesn't mean we're not happy. Those looking back on a failed relationship have a different viewpoint than when they were in a successful one, obviously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...that so many people who become single after being in a long term relationship say they don't know if they can be bothered to go through that shit again?
Its true a lot of people say Oooo never again when they come out of a relationship I get that have had friends say it and said it myself.
However as so may do go into second third or even more relationships it may be the initial post thought. People in general need companionship this is why so many stop in bad relationships and others form new ones.
So I don't think people worry any more about people not forming new relationships any more than people worry about ending one.
Best answer award goes to you "
I didn't realise there was a magic answer you were looking for
Yes well done for saying what the op wanted... the rest of you go and do your homework  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"...that so many people who become single after being in a long term relationship say they don't know if they can be bothered to go through that shit again?
Its true a lot of people say Oooo never again when they come out of a relationship I get that have had friends say it and said it myself.
However as so may do go into second third or even more relationships it may be the initial post thought. People in general need companionship this is why so many stop in bad relationships and others form new ones.
So I don't think people worry any more about people not forming new relationships any more than people worry about ending one.
Best answer award goes to you
I didn't realise there was a magic answer you were looking for
Yes well done for saying what the op wanted... the rest of you go and do your homework "
The award was given on the strict merit of best answer for best pair of legs. Your answer was good. But you didn't flaunt your legs in front of me. So it was an automatic disqualification I'm afraid  |
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