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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, not your standard single male 'nobody wants me' whinge
I am more than capable of holding my own and getting out there and having great meets
Thing is, if truth be known, I have absolutely zero intention of meeting anyone other than maybe socially
The idea of meeting people for sex is nice but, when it comes to it, the reality is I just can't be arsed
It is, quite simply, too much hassle for the thrill of an afternoon or an evening with someone
I never message anyone, though I might fab the odd pic
When a message comes through, I simply read & delete
In fact, I don't communicate with anyone save for a few posts on these here forums
Am I experiencing what others mean when they save 'I've lost my mojo' ?
I also wonder, if they were honest, how many other members (male, female and couples) are in the same boat
How many of the 30,000+ people who are on here daily are actually here looking to hook up rather than just passing a mundane couple of hours ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m the exact same at the moment.
Even before I got ill, I really couldn’t be bothered meeting. I have plenty of spare time, just couldn’t be arsed. I’m not missing that side of fab at all at the moment. I only message people from the forums as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it because you can write "cunt" here?
Can you really cunt cunt cunt oh so you can but you can’t write ch*ke even though a lot of women love it "
A lot of women love cunt too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it because you can write "cunt" here?
Can you really cunt cunt cunt oh so you can but you can’t write ch*ke even though a lot of women love it
A lot of women love cunt too"
That they do my wife being 1 of them |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"So, not your standard single male 'nobody wants me' whinge
I am more than capable of holding my own and getting out there and having great meets
Thing is, if truth be known, I have absolutely zero intention of meeting anyone other than maybe socially
The idea of meeting people for sex is nice but, when it comes to it, the reality is I just can't be arsed
It is, quite simply, too much hassle for the thrill of an afternoon or an evening with someone
I never message anyone, though I might fab the odd pic
When a message comes through, I simply read & delete
In fact, I don't communicate with anyone save for a few posts on these here forums
Am I experiencing what others mean when they save 'I've lost my mojo' ?
I also wonder, if they were honest, how many other members (male, female and couples) are in the same boat
How many of the 30,000+ people who are on here daily are actually here looking to hook up rather than just passing a mundane couple of hours ?"
company? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, not your standard single male 'nobody wants me' whinge
I am more than capable of holding my own and getting out there and having great meets
Thing is, if truth be known, I have absolutely zero intention of meeting anyone other than maybe socially
The idea of meeting people for sex is nice but, when it comes to it, the reality is I just can't be arsed
It is, quite simply, too much hassle for the thrill of an afternoon or an evening with someone
I never message anyone, though I might fab the odd pic
When a message comes through, I simply read & delete
In fact, I don't communicate with anyone save for a few posts on these here forums
Am I experiencing what others mean when they save 'I've lost my mojo' ?
I also wonder, if they were honest, how many other members (male, female and couples) are in the same boat
How many of the 30,000+ people who are on here daily are actually here looking to hook up rather than just passing a mundane couple of hours ?"
30,000 really I'm sceptical about that and I to rarely send introductory messages but how can one tire of sex it's pretty difficult I think unless you've been getting too much of it and hit the overload button, the same of which applies to anything you get too much of |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a sweet spot between being an eager beaver who imagines honey is going to drip off the trees here and into his pants and the resulting utter disenchantment of a bitter eeyore who has completely given up on the site.
It's when you just come here as a person, happy to connect with other people with absolutely no agenda, and just assume nothing will ever come of it but count your blessings when they do. Perhaps this describes you   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, not your standard single male 'nobody wants me' whinge
I am more than capable of holding my own and getting out there and having great meets
Thing is, if truth be known, I have absolutely zero intention of meeting anyone other than maybe socially
The idea of meeting people for sex is nice but, when it comes to it, the reality is I just can't be arsed
It is, quite simply, too much hassle for the thrill of an afternoon or an evening with someone
I never message anyone, though I might fab the odd pic
When a message comes through, I simply read & delete
In fact, I don't communicate with anyone save for a few posts on these here forums
Am I experiencing what others mean when they save 'I've lost my mojo' ?
I also wonder, if they were honest, how many other members (male, female and couples) are in the same boat
How many of the 30,000+ people who are on here daily are actually here looking to hook up rather than just passing a mundane couple of hours ?"
Have you made this clear in your profile for the benefit of others who are looking to meet? |
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Well it sounds like this is a simple values exercise, what coming on here takes from you v what you get out of it.
So what do you get out of this site and is it worth it compared to how else you could spend your free time? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is a sweet spot between being an eager beaver who imagines honey is going to drip off the trees here and into his pants and the resulting utter disenchantment of a bitter eeyore who has completely given up on the site.
It's when you just come here as a person, happy to connect with other people with absolutely no agenda, and just assume nothing will ever come of it but count your blessings when they do. Perhaps this describes you "
I can associate with the second paragraph, but not so much the first
I am firm believer in making your own 'luck', so not getting meets would be down to me and how I approached the site & it's members rather than any failure on their parts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh i dont message anyone now apart from the select one, i reply to all that are sent to me, i cant stand ignorance."
Does that mean you weren't selective when you first joined? |
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When we decided back in May that we fancied a break from meeting , we thought it would be like every other break we’ve had and may last a few weeks or a month or so . So here we are over four months later , and we are no nearer to wanting to meet anyone .
The temptation isn’t there , and we can’t help but feel that our journey may be reaching its end . For some months before we actually stopped meeting we felt somewhat bored and disillusioned with the whole casual sex thing . And we always championed it before now ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not here to meet anyone for sex, I'm just here for the forums. My interest is in the real world.
If nothing comes of that then I'll have to use this place to find a guy to blow the cobwebs off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, not your standard single male 'nobody wants me' whinge
I am more than capable of holding my own and getting out there and having great meets
Thing is, if truth be known, I have absolutely zero intention of meeting anyone other than maybe socially
The idea of meeting people for sex is nice but, when it comes to it, the reality is I just can't be arsed
It is, quite simply, too much hassle for the thrill of an afternoon or an evening with someone
I never message anyone, though I might fab the odd pic
When a message comes through, I simply read & delete
In fact, I don't communicate with anyone save for a few posts on these here forums
Am I experiencing what others mean when they save 'I've lost my mojo' ?
I also wonder, if they were honest, how many other members (male, female and couples) are in the same boat
How many of the 30,000+ people who are on here daily are actually here looking to hook up rather than just passing a mundane couple of hours ?"
Exactly the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When we decided back in May that we fancied a break from meeting , we thought it would be like every other break we’ve had and may last a few weeks or a month or so . So here we are over four months later , and we are no nearer to wanting to meet anyone .
The temptation isn’t there , and we can’t help but feel that our journey may be reaching its end . For some months before we actually stopped meeting we felt somewhat bored and disillusioned with the whole casual sex thing . And we always championed it before now ! "
maybe as I said earlier you reached the meet overload point, too much of a good thing and all that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think after a time some people can get jaded with the whole scene. It loses its excitement and lustre. I think for me it was the separation of my emotional self from my physical self, that finally got to me. There was only so long I could box off my feelings before they emerged and wanted to be integrated. I kept them at bay for many years but I feel better not separating them off at the expense of the occasional buzz of a hot meet. I get tempted every now and then but the urge subsides. Perhaps it’s my age, perhaps it’s because I’m much more content with my life, perhaps perhaps perhaps
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"There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious?"
That's true, most forum regulars seem to distance themselves from the traditional swinging scene. I'm not sure i could do it as a single. |
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"There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious?
That's true, most forum regulars seem to distance themselves from the traditional swinging scene. I'm not sure i could do it as a single. "
I know I couldn’t , and as grateful as we are to all the single guys and women we’ve met and had fun with , I would see it as pointless if I was meeting couples for nsa sex . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because it beats watching Jeremy Kyle.
To be fair, smashing a brick into your own face beats watching Jeremy Kyle
Mr B!!!!!
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Second only to smashing a brick into Jeremy Kyle's face  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because it beats watching Jeremy Kyle.
To be fair, smashing a brick into your own face beats watching Jeremy Kyle
Mr B!!!!!
Second only to smashing a brick into Jeremy Kyle's face "
Fair point  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious?
That's true, most forum regulars seem to distance themselves from the traditional swinging scene. I'm not sure i could do it as a single.
I know I couldn’t , and as grateful as we are to all the single guys and women we’ve met and had fun with , I would see it as pointless if I was meeting couples for nsa sex ."
Finally! Some recognition on the forum that swinging as a single is different to swinging as a couple. Thank you! |
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"There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious?
That's true, most forum regulars seem to distance themselves from the traditional swinging scene. I'm not sure i could do it as a single.
I know I couldn’t , and as grateful as we are to all the single guys and women we’ve met and had fun with , I would see it as pointless if I was meeting couples for nsa sex .
Finally! Some recognition on the forum that swinging as a single is different to swinging as a couple. Thank you!"
Well of course it is! There's bound to be some emotional issues. Unless someone is vehemently single! |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I've gone off meeting new people. I have a massive issue with safety at the moment.
As a single it's always risky meeting a man on your own be it in a hotel or at his. Yes, you take the necessary precautions but at the end of the day there are some very strange people about. I don't know if I can get over that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've gone off meeting new people. I have a massive issue with safety at the moment.
As a single it's always risky meeting a man on your own be it in a hotel or at his. Yes, you take the necessary precautions but at the end of the day there are some very strange people about. I don't know if I can get over that."
Not even a social?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious?"
The forum is the place that swingers come to die. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious?
That's true, most forum regulars seem to distance themselves from the traditional swinging scene. I'm not sure i could do it as a single.
I know I couldn’t , and as grateful as we are to all the single guys and women we’ve met and had fun with , I would see it as pointless if I was meeting couples for nsa sex .
Finally! Some recognition on the forum that swinging as a single is different to swinging as a couple. Thank you!
Well of course it is! There's bound to be some emotional issues. Unless someone is vehemently single! "
Me. I can disconnect my emotions and still have strong mental bond with men I have sex with.
I think I might be a man. |
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"There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious?
That's true, most forum regulars seem to distance themselves from the traditional swinging scene. I'm not sure i could do it as a single.
I know I couldn’t , and as grateful as we are to all the single guys and women we’ve met and had fun with , I would see it as pointless if I was meeting couples for nsa sex .
Finally! Some recognition on the forum that swinging as a single is different to swinging as a couple. Thank you!
Well of course it is! There's bound to be some emotional issues. Unless someone is vehemently single!
Me. I can disconnect my emotions and still have strong mental bond with men I have sex with.
I think I might be a man. "
I like the way you think...  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I've gone off meeting new people. I have a massive issue with safety at the moment.
As a single it's always risky meeting a man on your own be it in a hotel or at his. Yes, you take the necessary precautions but at the end of the day there are some very strange people about. I don't know if I can get over that.
Not even a social? "
Sorry, I meant for sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious?
The forum is the place that swingers come to die."
They should have that as the tagline. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest it does get boring, im not that fussed anymore really. Been there done it etc. It does seem to be way to much hassle. I do enjoy looking at the pics and kinda entertaining that people struggle on here. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There does seem to be a general air of ennui in the forums with lots of regular contributors saying they are not meeting. I come across a lot of hidden profiles.
Perhaps being jaded is contagious?
That's true, most forum regulars seem to distance themselves from the traditional swinging scene. I'm not sure i could do it as a single. "
It's totally different as a single. I much preferred it with a partner to share the fun with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's the open aspect of fab no one is here just for sex for some it's the forums, others the chat, others to pass the time of day, others as a fantasy, other murders and time wasters. Others like us for real meets with real people that the fun as well as the frustration. Happy fabbing. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my humble opinion the scene changed when people started making it into a business.....
When I started 10 years ago... people just wanted to have fun and expenses that went along with having fun was just a after thought...
Now for a single man to meet anyone it’s become a financial endeavor...
I’m not talking about meeting for a drink. That’s standard practice in the swinging and real world....
I’m talking about the strictly meeting at clubs , paid gangbang , you must bring a gift for my wife brigade....
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I would love to meet, I've had some stress in my life over the last 15 months that hasn't made it a priority but I have still been looking, I just haven't found anyone I am sexually attracted to, not sure how to change that fact though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh i dont message anyone now apart from the select one, i reply to all that are sent to me, i cant stand ignorance.
Does that mean you weren't selective when you first joined?"
No i just messaged pretty much anyone i was a eager beever like most other blokes on here. Im very selective now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi
No your not alone.
Ive had many offers and only accepted once.
I like to have a conection with someone so its easier to say what we both want to do to each other rather than just meet for sex!
Dont get me wrong ive missed the boat several times and i could kick myself for it.
Some will only try for so long.
Im happy to come into the forums to pass some time.
So no your not alone
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would love to meet, I've had some stress in my life over the last 15 months that hasn't made it a priority but I have still been looking, I just haven't found anyone I am sexually attracted to, not sure how to change that fact though "
Buy a mask so you cant see there faces when on the job |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've gone off meeting new people. I have a massive issue with safety at the moment.
As a single it's always risky meeting a man on your own be it in a hotel or at his. Yes, you take the necessary precautions but at the end of the day there are some very strange people about. I don't know if I can get over that."
Im with you on safety aspects. Safety in numbers.
Im trying to meet ladies to meet people together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good question.
Speak to a holy person, or a theology student, I'm sure some one will have an answer.
NEXT
You think you're a pair of curtains? For God's sake pull your self together man!
NEXT! |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I've gone off meeting new people. I have a massive issue with safety at the moment.
As a single it's always risky meeting a man on your own be it in a hotel or at his. Yes, you take the necessary precautions but at the end of the day there are some very strange people about. I don't know if I can get over that.
Im with you on safety aspects. Safety in numbers.
Im trying to meet ladies to meet people together. "
I like your thinking! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am new and often think about how daunting it could be for a woman meeting someone for the first time..as much as it feels nerve racking for me too as it’s all new to me too  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I find it's peaks and troughs OP - sometimes for me it's all about chatting to people with a view to meeting, and other times I get that sense of ennui that Tigerlily referred to and just hang about the forums spouting gibberish - yet lately I've found myself posting less and less.
Then something will happen that will spark me re-energised into thinking about meeting more seriously.
I think generally I just tootle along with no expectations of anything really and every now and again those expectations will be surpassed and all's well with the world for a while. |
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"I find it's peaks and troughs OP - sometimes for me it's all about chatting to people with a view to meeting, and other times I get that sense of ennui that Tigerlily referred to and just hang about the forums spouting gibberish - yet lately I've found myself posting less and less.
Then something will happen that will spark me re-energised into thinking about meeting more seriously.
I think generally I just tootle along with no expectations of anything really and every now and again those expectations will be surpassed and all's well with the world for a while."
I’m with that exactly however I usually find that if I just meander on nothing happens which usually suits me at the time.Sometimes I need a spark to ignite it all and then the ball starts rolling and it’s really fun,the art is then knowing when to step back and savour the memories |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it's peaks and troughs OP - sometimes for me it's all about chatting to people with a view to meeting, and other times I get that sense of ennui that Tigerlily referred to and just hang about the forums spouting gibberish - yet lately I've found myself posting less and less.
Then something will happen that will spark me re-energised into thinking about meeting more seriously.
I think generally I just tootle along with no expectations of anything really and every now and again those expectations will be surpassed and all's well with the world for a while.
I’m with that exactly however I usually find that if I just meander on nothing happens which usually suits me at the time.Sometimes I need a spark to ignite it all and then the ball starts rolling and it’s really fun,the art is then knowing when to step back and savour the memories "
Before you get jaded. Sounds like wise words. |
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