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Hate mail off the forums

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Anyone else ever get mails from forum lurkers who've gone out of their way to express their dislike for you? It doesn't bother me. Indeed, I'm flattered that I clearly feature so significantly in their thoughts. But I was wondering if it was a common thing. I can't exactly see myself being the most obnoxious character on here. So I'm imagining some of you lot must get this too.

If not then it's probably down to me spending a large part of last week teasing brexiters with the fact that the mandate for brexit doesn't even account for 1% of the population. So, some pissed off brexiters perhaps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope. Everyone loves me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else ever get mails from forum lurkers who've gone out of their way to express their dislike for you? It doesn't bother me. Indeed, I'm flattered that I clearly feature so significantly in their thoughts. But I was wondering if it was a common thing. I can't exactly see myself being the most obnoxious character on here. So I'm imagining some of you lot must get this too.

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I've never had any hateful mail

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I ever say anything controversial enough to make that happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just the one person and she makes me laugh with it

*waves* toward her general direction

Given that I'm on the lowest rung of the fab ladder, I'm surprised I haven't had more tbh

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By *etLikeMan over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

I think most of those who disagree with me either voice it in the forums or just ignore my posts.

I tend to get more mail to the effect of a user secretly agreeing with me rather than them put that up publicly.

Quite a number of lurkers will send a private reply to me and I’ve struck up a few good contacts as a result. A lot of forumites judge a thread by the public replies. I find it fascinating how many lurkers engage, even if privately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I haven’t but that’s really bad

. People obviously have nowt better do. Just feel sorry for them my lovely. I would.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't recall ever getting hate mail from other forum users.

It wouldn't bother me either; I'd feel sorry for them.

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

"I don't think I ever say anything controversial enough to make that happen. "

Me neither. I do get a lot of sleazey messages from forum lurkers using one of my posts though. Usually the message has nothing to do with the thread subject too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There should be a sign on the forums that reads dont feed the trolls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope. I kill threads.

People ignore me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think I ever say anything controversial enough to make that happen.

Me neither. I do get a lot of sleazey messages from forum lurkers using one of my posts though. Usually the message has nothing to do with the thread subject too. "

Yeah I get that! Or a "thanks for replying to my thread......"

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By *etLikeMan over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

"I don't think I ever say anything controversial enough to make that happen.

Me neither. I do get a lot of sleazey messages from forum lurkers using one of my posts though. Usually the message has nothing to do with the thread subject too. "

Sorry about that. I just thought that you ought to know every detail about coffee production in Vietnam

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

Last I got was a bossman pimping some pussy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There should be a sign on the forums that reads dont feed the trolls "

Oh no! It's amusing when they bite

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It happens. It's strange, but then a lot of people are strange.

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

No not as I can remember but I’m more of a lurker these days

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I’ve been blocked by a few people, because I’ve been open about certain things during my time here, but no hate mail as yet

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Nope no hate mail.. no mail at all..

tumble ..I might start being controversial now so folk will message me

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've only had positive private interaction stemming from the forum, fortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I haven't but I did get a nice message from a guy who thought it unfair some trolls had run away with a post I made. The only time I have had a few ugly messages have been from guys who I have said no thank you to.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

Had it go both ways.

Had a few nasty messages about posts I've made, but also had some positive feedback too, so I guess it evens out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm glad it's not something lots of people get. I've only just started getting it in the last few days so I'm going to slate it down to my stirring on the politics forum about how if less than 1% of the UK population voted to stay instead of leave then it would've been a draw. Just some grumpy brexiters then

A reminder for me that you reap what you stir

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I've had it a few times, back in the days when I was more of an outspoken gobshite. I actually really enjoyed debating with one or two of them. I don't really use the forums very much any more so I haven't had any in some time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say I havn't no, but I don't say anything controversial generally.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...back in the days when I was more of an outspoken gobshite."

What? Never!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, I have. I get them Private messaging me, instead of commenting on the thread. Yesterday a woman messaged me about a thread I started 3 months ago, she’s only been on the site for a week.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i have had a few "hit and run" abuse email....

well you are never going to be liked by everyone... and at least this way i know who to avoid....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yesterday. I reported it but doubt anything will be done.

Guess I must be doing something right if I mean that much to them

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By *ornLordMan over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

Well, if you’re going to poke around in that viper’s nest...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah, I have. I get them Private messaging me, instead of commenting on the thread. Yesterday a woman messaged me about a thread I started 3 months ago, she’s only been on the site for a week.

Surprised you don’t get more hate mail from men. Jealous of your weapon of mass destruction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's happened in the past. But as someone above has already said, now that I don't post as much anymore it's a much rarer occurrence

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had 1 this morning after my thread yesterday

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t really get them. Got one nasty message once but it was a troll trying to cause trouble with another forumite x

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

Yeah usually after a politics post when someone’s been called out on bullshit.

Feels good to be honest.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I did once, but i was behaving like a spoilt entitled cunt. I grew out of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t really get them. Got one nasty message once but it was a troll trying to cause trouble with another forumite x "

Oh yes. I’ve had messages warning me off people on here. Some actually appreciated. Some not so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had a phase of a few.

Cryptic random insults, so whatever their message was intended to convey....well, it didn't!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope never, and if I did I would just make sure that my reply was even more nasty than the message I received.

Anyone can play those fucking games...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah I’m too boring

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t really get them. Got one nasty message once but it was a troll trying to cause trouble with another forumite x

Oh yes. I’ve had messages warning me off people on here. Some actually appreciated. Some not so. "

Ain’t you old enough to make up your own mind about ppl. Just because someone else as a problem with someone else don’t mean to say everyone else will.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope never, and if I did I would just make sure that my reply was even more nasty than the message I received.

Anyone can play those fucking games..."

You don’t get the chance to reply. They block you before

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t really get them. Got one nasty message once but it was a troll trying to cause trouble with another forumite x

Oh yes. I’ve had messages warning me off people on here. Some actually appreciated. Some not so.

Ain’t you old enough to make up your own mind about ppl. Just because someone else as a problem with someone else don’t mean to say everyone else will. "

Exactly. I can judge for myself. I’m a big girl now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think I ever say anything controversial enough to make that happen. "

You’ve just been hotlisted

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

That hasn’t happened to me thankfully.

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By *oistknickersCouple over a year ago

London

"Nope. Everyone loves me. "

Couldn’t call it love more like lust.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think some take the forums that seriously they have other accounts just to troll.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve had the odd one from people who don’t agree with something I’ve said but they don’t have the balls to say it in the forum. I just tell them that if they have something to say then comment in the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes i get this wierd couple used to message on fuck kiss avoid dopey gits

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

"I don’t really get them. Got one nasty message once but it was a troll trying to cause trouble with another forumite x

Oh yes. I’ve had messages warning me off people on here. Some actually appreciated. Some not so. "

That seems to happen quite a lot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You don't always have to say something controversial to get hateful or spiteful messages.

Sometimes it's because you are popular or met someone a hater likes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t really get them. Got one nasty message once but it was a troll trying to cause trouble with another forumite x

Oh yes. I’ve had messages warning me off people on here. Some actually appreciated. Some not so. "

I know of some quite popular forum users who like to do that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t really get them. Got one nasty message once but it was a troll trying to cause trouble with another forumite x

Oh yes. I’ve had messages warning me off people on here. Some actually appreciated. Some not so.

That seems to happen quite a lot

It does. To be fair I appreciated one though. That person is no longer here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t really get them. Got one nasty message once but it was a troll trying to cause trouble with another forumite x

Oh yes. I’ve had messages warning me off people on here. Some actually appreciated. Some not so.

That seems to happen quite a lot

Oh I’ve had this (sort of). I’ll get asked why I’m chatting to certain formites (just interacting with them on the forums) and then they give me their opinion of them and how I ‘should’ be interacting with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t really get them. Got one nasty message once but it was a troll trying to cause trouble with another forumite x

Oh yes. I’ve had messages warning me off people on here. Some actually appreciated. Some not so. "

I don't get those either I must be so boring

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

If you are going to answer on this thread please just answer the question and not the content of the mails /airing dirty washing or abusing anyone even if you don't name them

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are going to answer on this thread please just answer the question and not the content of the mails /airing dirty washing or abusing anyone even if you don't name them

Thanks"

Shame you don’t deal with the reports just as quick as you jumped in on this thread in there defence

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope can’t say that ever happened

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are going to answer on this thread please just answer the question and not the content of the mails /airing dirty washing or abusing anyone even if you don't name them

Thanks

Shame you don’t deal with the reports just as quick as you jumped in on this thread in there defence "

Admin deal with the reports and get lots of them daily.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

People should just agree to disagree ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are going to answer on this thread please just answer the question and not the content of the mails /airing dirty washing or abusing anyone even if you don't name them

Thanks

Shame you don’t deal with the reports just as quick as you jumped in on this thread in there defence

Admin deal with the reports and get lots of them daily. "

I’m sure some do. Same as I’m sure some have there favourites and let them troll and stir

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, its just you

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"People should just agree to disagree ...."

People shouldn't post inflammatory threads. After all, the forum is supposed to be a bit of fun...

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"If you are going to answer on this thread please just answer the question and not the content of the mails /airing dirty washing or abusing anyone even if you don't name them

Thanks

Shame you don’t deal with the reports just as quick as you jumped in on this thread in there defence "

Shame you don't realise that forum mods deal with the forums.

Talking of forums, the rules ask you to send feedback about mods to Admin rather than on the forum, you could be banned if you keep doing it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People should just agree to disagree ....

People shouldn't post inflammatory threads. After all, the forum is supposed to be a bit of fun..."

They used to be so much fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are going to answer on this thread please just answer the question and not the content of the mails /airing dirty washing or abusing anyone even if you don't name them

Thanks

Shame you don’t deal with the reports just as quick as you jumped in on this thread in there defence

Shame you don't realise that forum mods deal with the forums.

Talking of forums, the rules ask you to send feedback about mods to Admin rather than on the forum, you could be banned if you keep doing it"

I did send my feedback to admin. But no one ever will know what if anything gets done about it. I know mods deal with the forums. Your the high and mighty one

well you think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not for years. I’ve only had two messages that would fall into that category- one of which was actually on a thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are going to answer on this thread please just answer the question and not the content of the mails /airing dirty washing or abusing anyone even if you don't name them

Thanks

Shame you don’t deal with the reports just as quick as you jumped in on this thread in there defence

Admin deal with the reports and get lots of them daily.

I’m sure some do. Same as I’m sure some have there favourites and let them troll and stir "

It's up to us to report abusive mail or comments on forums. The moderators can't be everywhere at once and follow every comment on every thread. If you report something it's admin that picks it up and deals with it.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

I did send my feedback to admin. But no one ever will know what if anything gets done about it. I know mods deal with the forums. Your the high and mighty one

well you think "

You can't say you wasn't warned

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Ok back to the OP please

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By *ucyfur77Woman over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"People should just agree to disagree ....

People shouldn't post inflammatory threads. After all, the forum is supposed to be a bit of fun..."

Used to be..

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"People should just agree to disagree ....

People shouldn't post inflammatory threads. After all, the forum is supposed to be a bit of fun...

They used to be so much fun."

Trouble is, guys realise there's 3 ways to be noticed on the forum.

1. Post every passing thought until someone comments.

2. Post inflammatory opinions in the hope someone gets angry, try and belittle them to make yourself look clever, then pretend they weren't really your opinions at all.

3. Talk about cake, get in the friend zone, then see if you can get a fuck by being "such a nice guy".

If a new guy starts a thread with a simple request or observation, he is largely ignored.

9 times out of ten, these techniques work 69% of the time.

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By *ot-AshMan over a year ago

London

I don't get any msgs..not even nasty ones!

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By *etLikeMan over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

"9 times out of ten, these techniques work 69% of the time.

8 out of 10 pussies prefer them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not this time round, but I am a little better behaved on here these days

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Yeah I've had a few once in a while.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People should just agree to disagree ....

People shouldn't post inflammatory threads. After all, the forum is supposed to be a bit of fun...

They used to be so much fun.

Trouble is, guys realise there's 3 ways to be noticed on the forum.

1. Post every passing thought until someone comments.

2. Post inflammatory opinions in the hope someone gets angry, try and belittle them to make yourself look clever, then pretend they weren't really your opinions at all.

3. Talk about cake, get in the friend zone, then see if you can get a fuck by being "such a nice guy".

If a new guy starts a thread with a simple request or observation, he is largely ignored.

9 times out of ten, these techniques work 69% of the time.

You forgot number 4, the worst kind- be a white knight when someone has the audacity to disagree with a female forumite

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had a few blocks from people that don't agree with what I've said about a few subjects

It's always the usual suspects that troll and get their knickers in a twist

Who cares!

Pyjama keyboard warriors

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I avoid controversial topics altogether. I'm here as an escape and to have light hearted fun. I think there are much better platforms than fab to have discussions on touchy topics that could attract hate mail.

That being said, if they hate and attack you instead of debating you they're not worth your time anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes on occasion I get those mails but they just make me laugh.

If I'm feeling cheeky I'll stoke the fire a little more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have random blocks - no idea why, I’m guessing it’s because they think I’m a twat.

But no direct hate mail sent to me.

Although I did have a spate of indirect hate messages from a fella who was upset when I met some ladies he wanted to meet before he did, last time I was on here. Apparently he was telling everyone I was barebacking the whole site .. it was only when people messaged me about what he was telling them did I ever find out!

I don’t know whatever happened to him ... ??

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"People should just agree to disagree ....

People shouldn't post inflammatory threads. After all, the forum is supposed to be a bit of fun...

They used to be so much fun.

Trouble is, guys realise there's 3 ways to be noticed on the forum.

1. Post every passing thought until someone comments.

2. Post inflammatory opinions in the hope someone gets angry, try and belittle them to make yourself look clever, then pretend they weren't really your opinions at all.

3. Talk about cake, get in the friend zone, then see if you can get a fuck by being "such a nice guy".

If a new guy starts a thread with a simple request or observation, he is largely ignored.

9 times out of ten, these techniques work 69% of the time.

You forgot number 4, the worst kind- be a white knight when someone has the audacity to disagree with a female forumite

Fuck it!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"I have random blocks - no idea why, I’m guessing it’s because they think I’m a twat.

But no direct hate mail sent to me.

I don’t know whatever happened to him ... ??

I didn't mind the bareback.... but you never called back!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not this time round, but I am a little better behaved on here these days

You seem much more reserved than you were.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People should just agree to disagree ....

People shouldn't post inflammatory threads. After all, the forum is supposed to be a bit of fun...

They used to be so much fun.

Trouble is, guys realise there's 3 ways to be noticed on the forum.

1. Post every passing thought until someone comments.

2. Post inflammatory opinions in the hope someone gets angry, try and belittle them to make yourself look clever, then pretend they weren't really your opinions at all.

3. Talk about cake, get in the friend zone, then see if you can get a fuck by being "such a nice guy".

If a new guy starts a thread with a simple request or observation, he is largely ignored.

9 times out of ten, these techniques work 69% of the time.

Or have a sexy wife.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not this time round, but I am a little better behaved on here these days

You seem much more reserved than you were."

I'm a positive saint these days

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"I avoid controversial topics altogether. I'm here as an escape and to have light hearted fun. I think there are much better platforms than fab to have discussions on touchy topics that could attract hate mail.

That being said, if they hate and attack you instead of debating you they're not worth your time anyway

I am constantly amused by people who bring deep seated political views to a swingers forum!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve only ever had this once, and it made me laugh to be honest.

The comment I made was so small & insignificant but it hit a nerve with him enough to send me a nasty message.

Strange!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That being said, if they hate and attack you instead of debating you they're not worth your time anyway

I am constantly amused by people who bring deep seated political views to a swingers forum!

More chance of getting interest than advertising meet now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah, I have. I get them Private messaging me, instead of commenting on the thread. Yesterday a woman messaged me about a thread I started 3 months ago, she’s only been on the site for a week.

Surprised you don’t get more hate mail from men. Jealous of your weapon of mass destruction. "

Haha, it’s happened a few times, but I’m a lover not a fighter. That usually happens on the forums with blokes hiding behind there couples account. It’s pretty transparent, why they’re venting !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have random blocks - no idea why, I’m guessing it’s because they think I’m a twat.

But no direct hate mail sent to me.

I don’t know whatever happened to him ... ??

Yes the random blocks also but in many ways I think that can be a positive thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That being said, if they hate and attack you instead of debating you they're not worth your time anyway

I am constantly amused by people who bring deep seated political views to a swingers forum!

It's a good filter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not this time round, but I am a little better behaved on here these days

You seem much more reserved than you were.

I'm a positive saint these days

You were very amusing back then when the forums were a fun place to be

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

That being said, if they hate and attack you instead of debating you they're not worth your time anyway

I am constantly amused by people who bring deep seated political views to a swingers forum!

It's a good filter

House!

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