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over a year ago
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I think that FWB can be a type of relationship. Seems to be more people looking for this kind of scenario. The type of 'relationship' where affection and respect are required but no long term 'strings'.
I see FWB as being a better kind of relationship. In boyfriend/ girlfriend (and bi, gay etc) arrangements you are kind of expected to be together- that's the string.
But FWB you're just together because of a mutual desire.
(Yes I do know bf/ gf are together because they want to be, but some may feel the 'relationship string' keeps them tied - due to family expectations etc.)
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"I think that FWB can be a type of relationship. Seems to be more people looking for this kind of scenario. The type of 'relationship' where affection and respect are required but no long term 'strings'.
I see FWB as being a better kind of relationship. In boyfriend/ girlfriend (and bi, gay etc) arrangements you are kind of expected to be together- that's the string.
But FWB you're just together because of a mutual desire.
(Yes I do know bf/ gf are together because they want to be, but some may feel the 'relationship string' keeps them tied - due to family expectations etc.)
What do you think?"
I am sure in some cases that is true, but I want to be in a full time relationship because I want to go to sleep and wake up with someone every day, so a fwb relationship is not better for me.  |
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Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
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Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man? |
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After 30 years in a living together relationship I’d never do it again. Regular, commitment (some) definatly respect but having own space, even if shared with a son and sometime grandsons is the best for me. |
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I am sure in some cases that is true, but I want to be in a full time relationship because I want to go to sleep and wake up with someone every day, so a fwb relationship is not better for me. "
I can relate to this |
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?"
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met. |
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met. "
Exactly. I dont wanna bring men in and out of my sons life.. we dont need a nyone anyway.. but to have someone to meet every so often and have some adult time is fun |
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I don’t know, I have a boyfriend but he hasn’t moved in, after a bad marriage me and my kids need our own space to heal. I wanted more commitment than a Fwb but also someone who didn’t want me to be there all the time. I think what we’ve got isn’t perfect but it’s working for us x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met. "
That makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t know, I have a boyfriend but he hasn’t moved in, after a bad marriage me and my kids need our own space to heal. I wanted more commitment than a Fwb but also someone who didn’t want me to be there all the time. I think what we’ve got isn’t perfect but it’s working for us x "
If it's working for you then maybe it is perfect.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense. "
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?"
Not all do. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In answer to your questions OP, I think relationships have changed
We live in an increasingly selfish society - so a semi-committed 'relationship' will be the way forward for many
I don't think everyone wants (or needs) the same things that we did in the past out of a relationship
I think you can have a healthy FWB relationship as long as both parties set out their guidelines upfront and maintain a level of honesty straight through
I think they can become unhealthy if that honesty isn't maintained
You need to choose so wisely too - you may be an excellent FWB for one person but a totally shit one for another
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?"
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In answer to your questions OP, I think relationships have changed
We live in an increasingly selfish society - so a semi-committed 'relationship' will be the way forward for many
I don't think everyone wants (or needs) the same things that we did in the past out of a relationship
I think you can have a healthy FWB relationship as long as both parties set out their guidelines upfront and maintain a level of honesty straight through
I think they can become unhealthy if that honesty isn't maintained
You need to choose so wisely too - you may be an excellent FWB for one person but a totally shit one for another
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I very much agree. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent. "
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know. "
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up  |
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up "
Well gay ones do. If you want someone to sleep in a bed with, share your feelings with and hold hands in the cinema, that's called a woman! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up
Well gay ones do. If you want someone to sleep in a bed with, share your feelings with and hold hands in the cinema, that's called a woman! "
Hence why a FWB relationship might work |
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up
Well gay ones do. If you want someone to sleep in a bed with, share your feelings with and hold hands in the cinema, that's called a woman!
Hence why a FWB relationship might work "
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up
Well gay ones do. If you want someone to sleep in a bed with, share your feelings with and hold hands in the cinema, that's called a woman!
Hence why a FWB relationship might work
If you like it, why wouldn't you put a ring on it? "
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up "
That's a generation thing not gender bud |
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up
Well gay ones do. If you want someone to sleep in a bed with, share your feelings with and hold hands in the cinema, that's called a woman!
Hence why a FWB relationship might work
If you like it, why wouldn't you put a ring on it? "
because they might not want to ?
because they might be career focussed at that time ?
because they might be in a highly mobile job that sees them work away for long periods ?
because they might be out of a relationship and not seeking another at that time ?
plus loads of other scenarios that i can't be arsed typing out
i totally take on board some of your comments, but i also remain steadfast in the opinion that some single guys make excellent fwb's and provide a relationship with a woman that is mutually beneficial and understanding
not all of them are though, just as not all women are suited to it as an option |
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I came on fab just for sex and made amazing friends and some I could have seen myself in a relationship with but I wasn't looking for that at the time and probably let some great guys go (some are still friends)
I then decided I didn't want a date just anyone and wanted someone kinky like me and a free spirit!
He came along after a few years and it was instant. Fell in love and got married. We still have that open relationship we wanted plus the love and respect for each other. I find myself extremely fortunate to be in this situation. So if it comes along unexpectedly, take it please as it might be a while until someone skips your heart and makes you sexy. |
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up
Well gay ones do. If you want someone to sleep in a bed with, share your feelings with and hold hands in the cinema, that's called a woman!
Hence why a FWB relationship might work
If you like it, why wouldn't you put a ring on it?
because they might not want to ?
because they might be career focussed at that time ?
because they might be in a highly mobile job that sees them work away for long periods ?
because they might be out of a relationship and not seeking another at that time ?
plus loads of other scenarios that i can't be arsed typing out
i totally take on board some of your comments, but i also remain steadfast in the opinion that some single guys make excellent fwb's and provide a relationship with a woman that is mutually beneficial and understanding
not all of them are though, just as not all women are suited to it as an option "
Statistically, married men earn more than ones who stay single. Women don't hinder careers, good ones help them. You never see a CEO saying " oh I'm single because i want to focus on the job". When you are a good couple then two become one and it is greater than the sum of the parts. |
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I think the relationships thing can change as you get older too, especially when you are single and have been so for a long time.... I find that I'm more inclined to go with friendships more than an overtly sexual relationship nowadays, loneliness can really destroy one ... ok..ok... I'm a boring old bint |
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"In answer to your questions OP, I think relationships have changed
We live in an increasingly selfish society - so a semi-committed 'relationship' will be the way forward for many
I don't think everyone wants (or needs) the same things that we did in the past out of a relationship
I think you can have a healthy FWB relationship as long as both parties set out their guidelines upfront and maintain a level of honesty straight through
I think they can become unhealthy if that honesty isn't maintained
You need to choose so wisely too - you may be an excellent FWB for one person but a totally shit one for another
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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I’ve been married and not doing it again. I have fab friends that I play with and have different experiences with them which is fun. I may not have the perfect relationship but I get most of my needs met.
Like others have said I have put my kids first, enjoy my own space and can finally discover what I enjoy both sexually and as a person without having to please other people at times. I enjoy great friendships and social events with fab friends.
The only thing missing is perhaps that little bit more at times but getting involved too deeply scares me if I’m honest. |
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up
Well gay ones do. If you want someone to sleep in a bed with, share your feelings with and hold hands in the cinema, that's called a woman!
Hence why a FWB relationship might work
If you like it, why wouldn't you put a ring on it?
because they might not want to ?
because they might be career focussed at that time ?
because they might be in a highly mobile job that sees them work away for long periods ?
because they might be out of a relationship and not seeking another at that time ?
plus loads of other scenarios that i can't be arsed typing out
i totally take on board some of your comments, but i also remain steadfast in the opinion that some single guys make excellent fwb's and provide a relationship with a woman that is mutually beneficial and understanding
not all of them are though, just as not all women are suited to it as an option
Statistically, married men earn more than ones who stay single. Women don't hinder careers, good ones help them. You never see a CEO saying " oh I'm single because i want to focus on the job". When you are a good couple then two become one and it is greater than the sum of the parts. "
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FWB? Damn, I thought it was FWD.
Thought we were going to get onto something useful and interesting like arguing the merits of Front Wheel Drive versus Rear versus 4 wheel drive.
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up
Well gay ones do. If you want someone to sleep in a bed with, share your feelings with and hold hands in the cinema, that's called a woman!
Hence why a FWB relationship might work
If you like it, why wouldn't you put a ring on it?
because they might not want to ?
because they might be career focussed at that time ?
because they might be in a highly mobile job that sees them work away for long periods ?
because they might be out of a relationship and not seeking another at that time ?
plus loads of other scenarios that i can't be arsed typing out
i totally take on board some of your comments, but i also remain steadfast in the opinion that some single guys make excellent fwb's and provide a relationship with a woman that is mutually beneficial and understanding
not all of them are though, just as not all women are suited to it as an option
Statistically, married men earn more than ones who stay single. Women don't hinder careers, good ones help them. You never see a CEO saying " oh I'm single because i want to focus on the job". When you are a good couple then two become one and it is greater than the sum of the parts.
What about bad ones?"
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"After 30 years in a living together relationship I’d never do it again. Regular, commitment (some) definatly respect but having own space, even if shared with a son and sometime grandsons is the best for me."
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"Family expectations have never effected my judgement, I can't really understand why a man would want a FWB arrangement unless he:
- wants to fuck around but not share her
- thinks she isn't good enough for a relationship
Do you think a woman would want a FWB for different reasons than a man?
Probably, when I did that thread about single parenting; there were a lot of single mums who didn't want a dilema between putting a child or boyfriend first. So FWB could suit them as they can still put their child first but get their carnal needs met.
That makes sense.
it does, but surely a single male parent might prefer a FWB relat for the same reason ?
It's possible but unlikely. 86% of single parents are women. I think most single dads would appreciate the help a partner would bring. Men don't have such a hardon for proving they are strong and independent.
Yeah I think you're right, or at least thinking about the men I know. They are less happy being single than the women I know.
I think, in general, guys are shit at 'being there' for mates long term
A night down the pub and laugh it up is a pretty standard response to the things life throws at you
It's rare we get emotional with each other or have proper talks
It's even rarer that we'd cuddle and sleep in the same bed, go out for meals together, go to the cinema together etc
For a single guy, that can lead to a life of solitude
I can see the attraction of a FWB against that background
I can also see the attraction of a relationship, so not quite sure what I'm babbling about
I'll shut up
Well gay ones do. If you want someone to sleep in a bed with, share your feelings with and hold hands in the cinema, that's called a woman!
Hence why a FWB relationship might work
If you like it, why wouldn't you put a ring on it?
because they might not want to ?
because they might be career focussed at that time ?
because they might be in a highly mobile job that sees them work away for long periods ?
because they might be out of a relationship and not seeking another at that time ?
plus loads of other scenarios that i can't be arsed typing out
i totally take on board some of your comments, but i also remain steadfast in the opinion that some single guys make excellent fwb's and provide a relationship with a woman that is mutually beneficial and understanding
not all of them are though, just as not all women are suited to it as an option
Statistically, married men earn more than ones who stay single. Women don't hinder careers, good ones help them. You never see a CEO saying " oh I'm single because i want to focus on the job". When you are a good couple then two become one and it is greater than the sum of the parts. "
So, are you saying men don't make good FWB's ?
If not, what are you saying ?
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