FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Getting stood up
Getting stood up
Jump to: Newest in thread
What is the worst part of getting stood up?
We have been on fab for a couple of years but tonight have been stood up for the first time. Meet arranged but a complete no show! We understand minds can change but a message would have been nice. Oh well the lads in pub got to perv over the Mrs  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"What is the worst part of getting stood up?
We have been on fab for a couple of years but tonight have been stood up for the first time. Meet arranged but a complete no show! We understand minds can change but a message would have been nice. Oh well the lads in pub got to perv over the Mrs "
Yes you have each other and its his loss just spoils it I know x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I was let down last week again and it doesn't make me feel so good. People don't seem to appreciate the time and effort made for a meet. And I really don't believe any excuses anymore, even if they are genuine.
"I'll never trust a person who let's me down more than twice. Once is a warning, twice is a lesson, and anything more than that is just taking advantage of me!" |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It’s not good reallt is it?? Doesn’t take much to send a quick message to say you can’t make it or changed your mind or wimped out etc. "
And at the time, not a day or two later. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I was let down last week again and it doesn't make me feel so good. People don't seem to appreciate the time and effort made for a meet. And I really don't believe any excuses anymore, even if they are genuine.
"I'll never trust a person who let's me down more than twice. Once is a warning, twice is a lesson, and anything more than that is just taking advantage of me!" "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Yeah so annoying. Been let down couple of times  "
We know people can be let down for one reason or another but a simple message would have been nice! Think our time waster radar needs resetting ha ha |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"What is the worst part of getting stood up?
We have been on fab for a couple of years but tonight have been stood up for the first time. Meet arranged but a complete no show! We understand minds can change but a message would have been nice. Oh well the lads in pub got to perv over the Mrs "
On the rare occasion that we arrange hotel meets, we tend to plan them close to a club. That way, if things don't go to plan... we can have a club night instead.
Cal |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Yep I was let down, arranged a date to meet and on the day a no show and when asked for an explanation the response was confusion...!
Oh we haven't even asked, no point!"
There lose  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I was let down last week again and it doesn't make me feel so good. People don't seem to appreciate the time and effort made for a meet. And I really don't believe any excuses anymore, even if they are genuine.
"I'll never trust a person who let's me down more than twice. Once is a warning, twice is a lesson, and anything more than that is just taking advantage of me!" "
Luckily, we were able to make a night out of it and also had a laugh about it but the 90 minute round trip was a little annoying!
Blimey, we only give them 1 chance!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
The worst part? Making an effort to get yourself all ready and sitting there like Billy no mates as the realisation dawns that they are not coming. It's annoying, embarrassing and a dent to the ego. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I was let down last week again and it doesn't make me feel so good. People don't seem to appreciate the time and effort made for a meet. And I really don't believe any excuses anymore, even if they are genuine.
"I'll never trust a person who let's me down more than twice. Once is a warning, twice is a lesson, and anything more than that is just taking advantage of me!" "
Who in there right mind would stand you up hun? x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I was let down last week again and it doesn't make me feel so good. People don't seem to appreciate the time and effort made for a meet. And I really don't believe any excuses anymore, even if they are genuine.
"I'll never trust a person who let's me down more than twice. Once is a warning, twice is a lesson, and anything more than that is just taking advantage of me!" "
I wouldn't give them a third chance! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"Awwwww, it's a horrible feeling but at least you have each other (hugs and kisses)
Thank you I told G last week, but he wouldn't listen  Did you get any boots?  "
How do you mean? You had a bad feeling about it? And no I didn't, most annoying!!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"The worst part? Making an effort to get yourself all ready and sitting there like Billy no mates as the realisation dawns that they are not coming. It's annoying, embarrassing and a dent to the ego. "
It’s a proper shit isn’t it?? It’s happened a few times to me and it’s really annoying and if you’re on your own you feel like you’ve wasted the whole evening. I’m a little on the shy side so find it difficult to strike up a conversation with just anyone I meet in a bar or coffee shop. It’s a bit different when the ice has been broken online in advance |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I quite often see some of the profiles of the people who’ve been stood up and think “who in their right would stand them up??”
I understand the nerves thing - suffer badly myself with that myself - but it still flummoxes me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I was let down last week again and it doesn't make me feel so good. People don't seem to appreciate the time and effort made for a meet. And I really don't believe any excuses anymore, even if they are genuine.
"I'll never trust a person who let's me down more than twice.
Once is a warning, twice is a
lesson, and anything more than
that is just taking advantage of
Bloody he'll I'd never not show up for you!
me!" "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Happened to me , meeting a couple that turned out to be a guy thinking he could turn me !!
Since then ive been extremely wary "
Oh dear i’ve heard alot of similar tales from here  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Happened to me , meeting a couple that turned out to be a guy thinking he could turn me !!
Since then ive been extremely wary
Oh dear i’ve heard alot of similar tales from here "
I attract them lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Happened to me , meeting a couple that turned out to be a guy thinking he could turn me !!
Since then ive been extremely wary
Oh dear i’ve heard alot of similar tales from here
I attract them lol"
I wonder why must be something they like |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Happened to me , meeting a couple that turned out to be a guy thinking he could turn me !!
Since then ive been extremely wary
Oh dear i’ve heard alot of similar tales from here
I attract them lol
I wonder why must be something they like "
My sunny disposition lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Happened to me , meeting a couple that turned out to be a guy thinking he could turn me !!
Since then ive been extremely wary
Oh dear i’ve heard alot of similar tales from here
I attract them lol
I wonder why must be something they like
My sunny disposition lol"
Thats it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;) |
Twice. First sat in a hotel bar for an hour. I held out hope until UNLOS appeared.
2nd again, hotel meet. Bought and paid for. Couple of days before. Wake up to blocked and no reason and a lighter wallet.
It dents you massively. Makes you question yourself. But soon enough you realise if people are too shallow to be decent and offer even a B’s excuse then, they weren’t worth your time anyway.
Chin up OP and back on the bike
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Worst part for me is the humiliation and beening made a fool of.
It happened once after a connection was established and we were to meet up at a hotel. Radio silence within the hour timeframe. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
It's happened to us a couple of times.
Like someone said previously.... I go to a lot of trouble to make the effort for a meet.
I always meet socially first before any play commences. At least that way I don't get lumbered with a hotel bill.
A polite message saying they've changed their mind would be preferable, but just not to turn up and then block me is a tad rude!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
For Diane..it's the fact of the nervous anticipation and the the time spent getting ready for the meet, and then getting a txt or email saying, sorry got to let you down my car will not start or the cat has been run over..it's a real let down after looking forward to it, and of course the total waste of her/our time |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I was let down last week again and it doesn't make me feel so good. People don't seem to appreciate the time and effort made for a meet. And I really don't believe any excuses anymore, even if they are genuine.
"I'll never trust a person who let's me down more than twice. Once is a warning, twice is a lesson, and anything more than that is just taking advantage of me!" "
Anyone letting you down needs psychiatric help. Best breasts on fab. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I have been stood up twice. My very first planned meet didnt show and i stood outside a pub for 30mins in the pouring rain. The seconds time i was more annoyed as had travelled some distance by train only for him not to show. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Happened a couple of times to me. Worst part was sitting in a busy bar continually looking around, looking at my phone and my watch... obvious to everyone I was waiting for someone that wasn’t gonna show  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Awwwww, it's a horrible feeling but at least you have each other (hugs and kisses)
Thank you I told G last week, but he wouldn't listen Did you get any boots?
How do you mean? You had a bad feeling about it? And no I didn't, most annoying!!! "
It was just the way some of the messages had been written, made me think something not quite right!
They had some lovely ones in Selfridges the other day.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"What is the worst part of getting stood up?
We have been on fab for a couple of years but tonight have been stood up for the first time. Meet arranged but a complete no show! We understand minds can change but a message would have been nice. Oh well the lads in pub got to perv over the Mrs "
Looking at your profile it's their loss ! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I have been stood up twice. My very first planned meet didnt show and i stood outside a pub for 30mins in the pouring rain. The seconds time i was more annoyed as had travelled some distance by train only for him not to show. "
Was it the same chap? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"What is the worst part of getting stood up?
We have been on fab for a couple of years but tonight have been stood up for the first time. Meet arranged but a complete no show! We understand minds can change but a message would have been nice. Oh well the lads in pub got to perv over the Mrs
Looking at your profile it's their loss ! "
Thank you, nice profile too |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I have been stood up twice. My very first planned meet didnt show and i stood outside a pub for 30mins in the pouring rain. The seconds time i was more annoyed as had travelled some distance by train only for him not to show.
Was it the same chap? "
No. Two different men. Not good for ones self esteem. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Very enouying and tbh in this day of electronics doesn’t take long to say sorry can’t make it. It’s not just sex meets Facebook is the same when you are selling something. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Had it happen once, just complete no show....no message, no excuse, just silence followed by blocked.....wasted the whole night and i don't get much free time as it is...was fekin livid.  "
Yeap, very similar to how it went but after waiting outside for half an hour, we blocked them as why wait to hear some crappy excuse! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I have been stood up twice. My very first planned meet didnt show and i stood outside a pub for 30mins in the pouring rain. The seconds time i was more annoyed as had travelled some distance by train only for him not to show.
Was it the same chap?
No. Two different men. Not good for ones self esteem."
Completly their loss, when I (Mrs) had a single profile before I met G, I was stood up and then got a message to say I looked hot sat waiting for him  he had even followed me home! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I have been stood up twice. My very first planned meet didnt show and i stood outside a pub for 30mins in the pouring rain. The seconds time i was more annoyed as had travelled some distance by train only for him not to show.
Was it the same chap?
No. Two different men. Not good for ones self esteem.
Completly their loss, when I (Mrs) had a single profile before I met G, I was stood up and then got a message to say I looked hot sat waiting for him he had even followed me home! "
Now that would freak me right out. I don’t understand why someone would do that |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'll never understand why these people do it. If you have been chatting and getting along which leads to a meet why do they feel it's necessary to stand people up and not prewarn the person.
It rude and selfish behaviour in my book and the person they've stood up has dodged a bullet but found out in the worst way. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Yep I was let down, arranged a date to meet and on the day a no show and when asked for an explanation the response was confusion...! "
he didn’t know who he was?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Then only time I’ve pulled out of a prearranged meet was when we had all that snow back in March and I couldn’t get out. We re arranged for the following evening though and all was good. I spent the whole of the following day shovelling snow to make sure I could get the car out tho |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We were supposed to meet a single woman on Friday evening, but she called Polly in the late afternoon to apologise as her daughter had decided to come over for the evening. So a night in front of the fire for us. Then our planned visit to another couple to watch the boxing (and have fun) had to be cancelled as Father-in-Law turned up unexpectedly. So another night in front of the fire. Now our afternoon meet today has just been cancelled because their daughter is sick. We know they are not "standing us up" as they have genuine excuses, but we are beginning to hate families!!!! lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"What is the worst part of getting stood up?
We have been on fab for a couple of years but tonight have been stood up for the first time. Meet arranged but a complete no show! We understand minds can change but a message would have been nice. Oh well the lads in pub got to perv over the Mrs "
the worst part is not knowing.......... Thinking omg am I /we not attractive...... Did we say something....... Is it here we're meant to be meeting........ Then realising it's tomorrow night........ Bugger me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
The worst bits are the wasted excitement, so a high followed by the big low of being left hanging. I can cope if I get an excuse even if it's bullshit as at least they've had the decency to inform me they ain't coming. It's the hanging on and not knowing that gives me rage.
Then the dented ego and frustration, coz I've wasted electric, time, make up, and energy in getting ready. Plus financial cost if travelling. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I have been stood up twice. My very first planned meet didnt show and i stood outside a pub for 30mins in the pouring rain. The seconds time i was more annoyed as had travelled some distance by train only for him not to show.
Was it the same chap?
No. Two different men. Not good for ones self esteem.
Completly their loss, when I (Mrs) had a single profile before I met G, I was stood up and then got a message to say I looked hot sat waiting for him he had even followed me home!
Now that would freak me right out. I don’t understand why someone would do that "
Some very strange people out there! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We were supposed to meet a single woman on Friday evening, but she called Polly in the late afternoon to apologise as her daughter had decided to come over for the evening. So a night in front of the fire for us. Then our planned visit to another couple to watch the boxing (and have fun) had to be cancelled as Father-in-Law turned up unexpectedly. So another night in front of the fire. Now our afternoon meet today has just been cancelled because their daughter is sick. We know they are not "standing us up" as they have genuine excuses, but we are beginning to hate families!!!! lol"
We would have understood if we would have got a message to say couldn't make it. We have to plan our meets due to having a family, luckily despite being left out in the cold we were able to get back locally and enjoy a few drinks! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"The worst bits are the wasted excitement, so a high followed by the big low of being left hanging. I can cope if I get an excuse even if it's bullshit as at least they've had the decency to inform me they ain't coming. It's the hanging on and not knowing that gives me rage.
Then the dented ego and frustration, coz I've wasted electric, time, make up, and energy in getting ready. Plus financial cost if travelling."
we had a gut feeling something was a miss but we had arranged the meet and wasn't not going to show up! The outfit and toy purchases won't go to waste but yes the frustration is highly annoying! Nice profile by the way |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'll never understand why these people do it. If you have been chatting and getting along which leads to a meet why do they feel it's necessary to stand people up and not prewarn the person.
It rude and selfish behaviour in my book and the person they've stood up has dodged a bullet but found out in the worst way. "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
The responses are markedly different when a couple or lady post these threads..
The folk who say his loss ... the guys lost nothing no time no effort he had no intention of meeting = no loss
Delete.block.report...
if it's the first time see if there were any red flags(I'm sure I read you said you were wary ) trust your gut instinct put another check in place ..if it's happening a lot to you ..change your selection process add some checks and balances. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"The responses are markedly different when a couple or lady post these threads..
The folk who say his loss ... the guys lost nothing no time no effort he had no intention of meeting = no loss
Delete.block.report...
if it's the first time see if there were any red flags(I'm sure I read you said you were wary ) trust your gut instinct put another check in place ..if it's happening a lot to you ..change your selection process add some checks and balances."
We agree, although not sure why you would report them?
We had a gut feeling something was a miss but the time and place had been agreed, so we were not just not going to show up. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
"The responses are markedly different when a couple or lady post these threads..
The folk who say his loss ... the guys lost nothing no time no effort he had no intention of meeting = no loss
Delete.block.report...
if it's the first time see if there were any red flags(I'm sure I read you said you were wary ) trust your gut instinct put another check in place ..if it's happening a lot to you ..change your selection process add some checks and balances.
We agree, although not sure why you would report them?
We had a gut feeling something was a miss but the time and place had been agreed, so we were not just not going to show up."
You can report them as no shows..I'm not sure what purpose it serves however it's a feature on the report page so I'm guessing admin monitor.
If I'm unsure even after time and place have been agreed ...I'd have made further checks. And Your gut instinct is generally right.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"The responses are markedly different when a couple or lady post these threads..
The folk who say his loss ... the guys lost nothing no time no effort he had no intention of meeting = no loss
Delete.block.report...
if it's the first time see if there were any red flags(I'm sure I read you said you were wary ) trust your gut instinct put another check in place ..if it's happening a lot to you ..change your selection process add some checks and balances.
We agree, although not sure why you would report them?
We had a gut feeling something was a miss but the time and place had been agreed, so we were not just not going to show up.
You can report them as no shows..I'm not sure what purpose it serves however it's a feature on the report page so I'm guessing admin monitor.
If I'm unsure even after time and place have been agreed ...I'd have made further checks. And Your gut instinct is generally right.
"
Sounds a bit harsh! Not sure what other checks you can do? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have been stood up twice. My very first planned meet didnt show and i stood outside a pub for 30mins in the pouring rain. The seconds time i was more annoyed as had travelled some distance by train only for him not to show.
Was it the same chap?
No. Two different men. Not good for ones self esteem.
Completly their loss, when I (Mrs) had a single profile before I met G, I was stood up and then got a message to say I looked hot sat waiting for him he had even followed me home!
Now that would freak me right out. I don’t understand why someone would do that
Some very strange people out there!"
strange but true |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Ultimately its their loss, if stood up a quick post on here and you can generally get 20 men offering to fill the void or get to a club and play.
There will always be idiots who bottle out at the last minute. There will always be those who talk a big game but cant play for peanuts.
Take it as their loss and move one from it. Time is a precious thing especially when you have kids, work and a life. So if someone wants to let us down, they wont get a 2nd chance but we will make the most of a night off one way or another |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
