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Married and looking for same

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So I see that quite a few profiles (!) will not meet with married guys (whilst making no mention of married women, but that's a different post for another day!). These are couples and singles profiles, I've yet to see any guys profiles that have the same restrictions. Guys in couples profiles - what is it about being in a couple that suddenly reverses the polarity of your moral compass?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not "

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not "
I’m with you on this one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case"

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married is fine as long as it’s with the consent of your partner, otherwise I’m not happy with the guy’s idea of consent. Just my opinion. And I’m not perfect, I still have a fwb who I met before I had formed this opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A cheating wife is seen as someone a bit naughty.

A cheating husband is scum.

I think it's to do with different ways of thinking, women tend to be more empathetic to the wife and family who would be hurt whereas guys have a kinda "one up" mentality when fucking some else's spouse.

Even looking at the singles looking to meet couples, there are so many more guys looking to share than females are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not "

Way to go on the generalisations, you really have a high opinion of men don’t you ?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

Way to go on the generalisations, you really have a high opinion of men don’t you ?!"

It wasn't a sweeping generalisation tbf..

I have a high opinion of men that i like that arent married and arent looking to shag their way through the site ..

Thanks for your question

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Married is fine as long as it’s with the consent of your partner, otherwise I’m not happy with the guy’s idea of consent. Just my opinion. And I’m not perfect, I still have a fwb who I met before I had formed this opinion "

I'm kinda thinking without consent - your classic cheating. Frowned upon by so many on here, but by whom? It's MF couples I'm aiming for here - female preference or male?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

Way to go on the generalisations, you really have a high opinion of men don’t you ?!

It wasn't a sweeping generalisation tbf..

I have a high opinion of men that i like that arent married and arent looking to shag their way through the site ..

Thanks for your question

And, in all seriousness, what exactly is wrong with wanting to shag one's way through the whole site (apart from the impracticality!) Are you making a moral judgement on men for wanting this (a fairly basic evolutionary imperative)?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

Way to go on the generalisations, you really have a high opinion of men don’t you ?!

It wasn't a sweeping generalisation tbf..

I have a high opinion of men that i like that arent married and arent looking to shag their way through the site ..

Thanks for your question

‘Most men’ is a sweeping generalisation, I’ve no interesting in shagging my way through the site and I suspect the majority haven’t either, it’s only desperados who would shag anything when the opportunity arises.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day. "

He wants to hear from attached men not single men who have a loving relationship with their hand

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not I’m with you on this one

Mr or Mrs replying here? Very interested to hear which!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not "

Well I won't shag anything with a pulse, I'm not desperate and I'm fussy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

Way to go on the generalisations, you really have a high opinion of men don’t you ?!

It wasn't a sweeping generalisation tbf..

I have a high opinion of men that i like that arent married and arent looking to shag their way through the site ..

Thanks for your question

I don’t get this either. I’m not looking to “shag my way through the site” as essentially I’m looking for a means to an end so a few fwbs suits me fine as I don’t have to deal with the admin. But the whole, swinging is about swapping, no? And I’m not going to judge anyone’s tastes here, as I’d not really like them to judge me.

Apart from the guy who sent me a non-consensual fantasy 8 page story as a hello.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day. "

So would I, and to be honest I'm so much better at it! Dons tin hat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day.

He wants to hear from attached men not single men who have a loving relationship with their hand "

Every man in the country has a loving relationship with his hand, you mentioned men as a collective unit.

You were also taking the moral high ground like you usually do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I also take offence to the generalisation that just because we are married and play alone that we are cheating some of us including myself have permission to play alone. But we all seen to get tarnished with the same brush!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

We don't knowingly meet married/attached men even with permission. That's Mr N's choice as well as mine. We're both straight so don't meet single women but if we did we wouldn't meet them if they were married either.

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We don't knowingly meet married/attached men even with permission. That's Mr N's choice as well as mine. We're both straight so don't meet single women but if we did we wouldn't meet them if they were married either.

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life. "

Exactly a you always see in profiles "no married men" but you never see " no married women"!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day.

He wants to hear from attached men not single men who have a loving relationship with their hand "

I would like to hear from all to be honest but men in couples intrigue me.

But I have to say gotcha to you - no married men is quite specific on your profile but there is a mention of interest in bi females but no specific exclusion of bi married fem. Is it ok for women to cheat on their partner with you? What if they were a FF couple - would cheating be ok then?.

I ask the question because you obviously haven't thought of it - what does that say?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life.

Exactly a you always see in profiles "no married men" but you never see " no married women"!"

Yep. I'm not sure that there's much point getting worked up about it, its not going to change any time soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day.

He wants to hear from attached men not single men who have a loving relationship with their hand

Every man in the country has a loving relationship with his hand, you mentioned men as a collective unit.

You were also taking the moral high ground like you usually do. "

I was taking the stance of a single woman who, despite stating on her profile that she is looking for unattached men, regularly gets messages off men from couples profiles asking to meet 'as the wife is taking a break from swinging'...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life.

Exactly a you always see in profiles "no married men" but you never see " no married women"!

Yep. I'm not sure that there's much point getting worked up about it, its not going to change any time soon "

I never get worked up about anything, was just stating a fact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life.

Exactly a you always see in profiles "no married men" but you never see " no married women"!

Yep. I'm not sure that there's much point getting worked up about it, its not going to change any time soon "

You're right that it's not going to change - I'm being devil's advocate really, I just want to highlight these double standards. And they are double standards - as a previous poster said, cheating wife naughty, cheating husband scum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life.

Exactly a you always see in profiles "no married men" but you never see " no married women"!

Yep. I'm not sure that there's much point getting worked up about it, its not going to change any time soon

Oh don't forget the cheating wife that states no married men lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I also take offence to the generalisation that just because we are married and play alone that we are cheating some of us including myself have permission to play alone. But we all seen to get tarnished with the same brush!"

Well i read it twice but nowhere on your profile does it state that you are a) married and b) on here with permission from your wife! No wonder you get tarnished!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life.

Exactly a you always see in profiles "no married men" but you never see " no married women"!

Yep. I'm not sure that there's much point getting worked up about it, its not going to change any time soon

All men are bastards.... standard

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not "

Is that because men have the ability to find beauty and attraction in everyone whilst females can't - just a thought

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well i read it twice but nowhere on your profile does it state that you are a) married and b) on here with permission from your wife! No wonder you get tarnished!"

Simple life fact, data in profiles is not safe or private so I chose to not put private information online but should someone ever decide to have a chat I will reveal some info.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day.

He wants to hear from attached men not single men who have a loving relationship with their hand

Every man in the country has a loving relationship with his hand, you mentioned men as a collective unit.

You were also taking the moral high ground like you usually do.

You never mentioned that, you said that most men will shag anything with a pulse. Nice back tracking, a few messages from a few married men trying there luck doesn’t qualify as most men, it’s a very small sample size, there’s a lot of men on this site.

Night X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life. "

You say that's Mr N's choice as well - call me Mr Cynical but i very much doubt it! I don't think Mr N gives a flying fuck. He will tell you that of course he agrees but he really doesn't. Mr N, if you strongly disagree with what I've said please feel free to set up a single guys profile that Mrs N can't see and PM me. I'm waiting with baited breath!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

Our profile states we won't meet either half of a couple without having met both together previously. That is my (LB) rule as P doesn't care one way or the other and has fucked married guys before we got together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

Well I won't shag anything with a pulse, I'm not desperate and I'm fussy."

I'm sorry, I read this wrong. Well I actually read it right if you want to be picky (lack of quotations). Funny how grammar can change a sentence from meaning

"No, that's not true. I'm not a man whore."

"No. I won't shag anything with a pulse. Toys and corpses for me only please."

Ha ha ha.

I'm not picking on you, I just found it highly amusing.

"Well I won't “shag anything with a pulse", I'm not desperate and I'm fussy."

There. All fixed. Thank you for the smile and mild amusement, I needed that today.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

Is that because men have the ability to find beauty and attraction in everyone whilst females can't - just a thought

Pretty much fucking nailed it! The whole 'men'll fuck anything' trope can be swiftly reversed with this rather positive statement! There is, of course, a sort of lower bar though. Harsh but true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day.

He wants to hear from attached men not single men who have a loving relationship with their hand

Every man in the country has a loving relationship with his hand, you mentioned men as a collective unit.

You were also taking the moral high ground like you usually do.

Night X"

I often see on men’s profiles that they are looking for single or attached women, you rarely see that on a woman’s profile. Mainly women state they don’t want to meet an attached man. Not ALL but many men are not fussed from what I’ve seen.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life.

. Ok, I won't continue this debate since you are starting from a point of not believing me.

Enjoy the rest of the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My last 3 lady’s who I’ve got chatted two all of them were married and none of them admitted it but it was so obvious day meets and not talking at nite between certain times etc,just little things that stand out I pick up on it’s laughable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only been on here a short time but most couples are only interested in the female partner even though their profile says looking for a couple

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

Open swinging, polyamory, ethical non monogamy. Cool.

Cheating, infidelity, dishonesty. Not cool. Regardless of gender.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day.

He wants to hear from attached men not single men who have a loving relationship with their hand

Every man in the country has a loving relationship with his hand, you mentioned men as a collective unit.

You were also taking the moral high ground like you usually do.

Night X"

I'm now wondering why you are getting so butt hurt on behalf of (most of) the men on here, married or otherwise..

Im guessing it's a social experiment on your behalf to see how it feels to get offended on behalf of others... #sussed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day.

He wants to hear from attached men not single men who have a loving relationship with their hand

Every man in the country has a loving relationship with his hand, you mentioned men as a collective unit.

You were also taking the moral high ground like you usually do.

Night X

I'm now wondering why you are getting so butt hurt on behalf of (most of) the men on here, married or otherwise..

Im guessing it's a social experiment on your behalf to see how it feels to get offended on behalf of others... #sussed"

That was along time to come up with that, how many drafts was that ? Well done on missing my point again.

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By *UNANDNICEMan over a year ago

Basildon

Hiya guy's and what about if your in a sexless relationship and you don't want to have affair like going out on the pull on here we know what is what and that is why we are here.please forgive me if I'm out of order.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who really cares?

Fuck who you like!! Who cares if anyone is married or attached? It's sex!!

If you don't like it, don't do it.

I don't fuck judgie people on their moral high horse. I read their profile, if it says no married women I don't message them. If they haven't read mine and message me, I block them.

Get on with whatever you're doing and let others do their thing!

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"Who really cares?

Fuck who you like!! Who cares if anyone is married or attached? It's sex!!

If you don't like it, don't do it.

I don't fuck judgie people on their moral high horse. I read their profile, if it says no married women I don't message them. If they haven't read mine and message me, I block them.

Get on with whatever you're doing and let others do their thing! "

Loving your sassy style Ms H x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Open swinging, polyamory, ethical non monogamy. Cool.

Cheating, infidelity, dishonesty. Not cool. Regardless of gender. "

Totally agree with you your spot on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't mind cheaters as long as I know the situation beforehand and then can make my own judgement if I want to meet or not.

I won't take the moral high ground as I've cheated myself in the past.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who really cares?

Fuck who you like!! Who cares if anyone is married or attached? It's sex!!

If you don't like it, don't do it.

I don't fuck judgie people on their moral high horse. I read their profile, if it says no married women I don't message them. If they haven't read mine and message me, I block them.

Get on with whatever you're doing and let others do their thing!

Loving your sassy style Ms H x"

Thank you

I don't like a lot of what goes on on this site but I just stay away. I don't come on the forums moaning about it and waging my finger at people.

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By *herrySnickersWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

"Who really cares?

Fuck who you like!! Who cares if anyone is married or attached? It's sex!!

If you don't like it, don't do it.

I don't fuck judgie people on their moral high horse. I read their profile, if it says no married women I don't message them. If they haven't read mine and message me, I block them.

Get on with whatever you're doing and let others do their thing! "

Agreed. I’m not here to judge. Enough people out there to find a scenario that works for for you. The optimist in me wishes everyone could be honest...but life and relationships can be complicated, not everything is black and white - there’s lessons and learning in everything. Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

First rule of Fab : don’t take anything anyone says on here initially at face value!

Not everyone who says they’re single (Male or female) are ...

And not everyone who says they won’t meet marrieds (again male or female) won’t ... trust me on this!

And why do people cheating on their boyfriends / girlfriends / fiancés / fiancées on here always seem to get away Scot-free?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't mind cheaters as long as I know the situation beforehand and then can make my own judgement if I want to meet or not.

I won't take the moral high ground as I've cheated myself in the past. "
Some people are hypocrites, some people generalise, some people don't care,some people have no sense of humour, some people cheat,some people have sex no questions asked, some people make moral judgements but aren't moral and some people are scarey. The plain fact of the matter is this is life, this is a website for meeting people some would say to have sex but sex is life whether you belong to this website or that website it's life we exist because somebody had sex, nobody here has the moral high ground, do what you want when you want it's your conscience

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm looking to get married..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

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perv

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

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you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words "

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

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By *ethany10Couple over a year ago

falkirk

This is true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

"
you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

It's only words.. And words are all I have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

It's only words.. And words are all I have

To take your heart away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

It's only words.. And words are all I have

"
nice eyes......... Action

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

It's only words.. And words are all I have

To take your heart away

Na na na na na na na

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

It's only words.. And words are all I have

nice eyes......... Action"

Thank you, it was a fun shoot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

It's only words.. And words are all I have

nice eyes......... Action

Thank you, it was a fun shoot

"
was it now should I need to know more?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

It's only words.. And words are all I have

nice eyes......... Action

Thank you, it was a fun shoot

was it now should I need to know more?"

No, I don't think so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

It's only words.. And words are all I have

nice eyes......... Action

Thank you, it was a fun shoot

was it now should I need to know more?

No, I don't think so. "
Ha........ Damn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm looking to get married..

you can't say that on here they are the devil's words

But I thought I was allowed to speak my mind

you can but be mindful they are the devil's words

It's only words.. And words are all I have

nice eyes......... Action

Thank you, it was a fun shoot

was it now should I need to know more?

No, I don't think so. Ha........ Damn"

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Who really cares?

I don't like a lot of what goes on on this site but I just stay away. I don't come on the forums moaning about it and waging my finger at people. "

My view too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

Right back atcha - how can you? It's not the case with me (anecdata alert!). I'd really like to hear some honest thoughts from guys in couples whose profiles exclude married people - is that your preference or the female half of the couple?"
we exclude married or attached males because in our opinion it’s not swinging if their spouse doesn’t know about it’s adultery . Of course they all come out with the bullshit that their not happy and in s sexless marriage . Not interested their not using us to cheat on someone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So I see that quite a few profiles (!) will not meet with married guys (whilst making no mention of married women, but that's a different post for another day!). These are couples and singles profiles, I've yet to see any guys profiles that have the same restrictions. Guys in couples profiles - what is it about being in a couple that suddenly reverses the polarity of your moral compass?"

Perhaps it's because they understand how it would feel to be cheated on and they don't want to be a part of that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry,

I’m married and my missus doesn’t know I’m on here.

I thought it was a site for people who enjoyed sex.

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By *rank n BettyCouple over a year ago

Not meeting

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

Are we talking married and playing with consent or cheating?? We will not meet cheaters because its not fair on the partner who is unaware that they are being cheated on.

Frank

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry,

I’m married and my missus doesn’t know I’m on here.

I thought it was a site for people who enjoyed sex."

Don't be silly. Go to the naughty corner you bad boy! Hang your head in shame you cheating bastard!!

This site is for people who enjoy sex but not the forums. The forums are for judgie people who don't meet and if they do, it's social all the way!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry,

I’m married and my missus doesn’t know I’m on here.

I thought it was a site for people who enjoyed sex.

Don't be silly. Go to the naughty corner you bad boy! Hang your head in shame you cheating bastard!!

This site is for people who enjoy sex but not the forums. The forums are for judgie people who don't meet and if they do, it's social all the way! "
Ha that's quite a judgemental statement

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry,

I’m married and my missus doesn’t know I’m on here.

I thought it was a site for people who enjoyed sex.

Don't be silly. Go to the naughty corner you bad boy! Hang your head in shame you cheating bastard!!

This site is for people who enjoy sex but not the forums. The forums are for judgie people who don't meet and if they do, it's social all the way! Ha that's quite a judgemental statement "

Glad I’m not the only one that noticed that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Admin people would not create a forum section on this site if they wouldn't want people to chat.. whatever topic it might be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who really cares?

I don't like a lot of what goes on on this site but I just stay away. I don't come on the forums moaning about it and waging my finger at people.

My view too.

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple over a year ago

dukinfield

So! Let’s talk numbers!

single males on here, they massively out weigh single females.

So for the sake of argument let’s simplify it

1000 single men

100 single women

https://www.trustify.info/blog/infidelity-statistics-2017

22% of men admit to cheating

14% of women admit to cheating

We could roughly bump them numbers up with those who don’t admit but I can’t quantify them.

So that’s 220 men and 14 women who are cheating on their partners. Although it’s a sweeping statement you are statistically going to have a “cheating man” trying to meet you than a “cheating woman” messaging you (even smaller number when 85% of them don’t message out as they’re bombarded with offers all day)

Amplify this by the numbers of Fab members and the “no married men” statement becomes applicable purely on the Numbers of message revived by couples.

Personally we wouldn’t meet any married people who weren’t playing without permission.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are double standards where men and women are concerned both on fab and in "real" life.

Exactly a you always see in profiles "no married men" but you never see " no married women"!"

I see 'no married' quite a lot on couples profiles so referring to both male and female I would assume. Depends how many profiles you look at I guess. I see no married men on female profiles as I assume they are looking for just men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

That's an interesting question.

And now that you've mentioned it, I've never seen a couple's profile that stipulates no married women.

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By *ugga MannMan over a year ago

Heathrow

"Who really cares?

Fuck who you like!! Who cares if anyone is married or attached? It's sex!!

If you don't like it, don't do it.

I don't fuck judgie people on their moral high horse. I read their profile, if it says no married women I don't message them. If they haven't read mine and message me, I block them.

Get on with whatever you're doing and let others do their thing! "

You got it bang on xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who really cares?

Fuck who you like!! Who cares if anyone is married or attached? It's sex!!

If you don't like it, don't do it.

I don't fuck judgie people on their moral high horse. I read their profile, if it says no married women I don't message them. If they haven't read mine and message me, I block them.

Get on with whatever you're doing and let others do their thing! "

Have you seen many couple's profiles that say no married women?

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By *iss LovelyWoman over a year ago

Here and There

I don’t judge people on whether they’re married or not, each to their own, everyone has their own reason for being here.

I do expect my preferences to be respected though. So if I state on my profile that I’m not interested in meeting someone who is married/in a relationship, I mean it. The problem I’ve found with SOME men (no experience with women) is that they are not upfront and choose to keep it a secret, sometimes even when directly asked. And I find that completely unacceptable.

We base our decisions on what we do/don’t want to do on the information we have. If I found out that I’d slept with an attached man purporting to be single I’d be furious because had I have known I wouldn’t have done it. I don’t want someone to steal sex from me by lying, which is effectively what pretending to be single to a person who doesn’t meet attached people is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you know the partner has given consent? Serious question.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Open swinging, polyamory, ethical non monogamy. Cool.

Cheating, infidelity, dishonesty. Not cool. Regardless of gender. "

Well that's 70% of the site gone....

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By *andWCoupleCouple over a year ago

Luton

With so many of these types of threads it comes down to preference and that's the end of it.

OP ... if a profile states "no married men" and doesn't mention women, so what? Are you a married guy cheating on his wife and whining because you're being excluded by certain people? If not, why are you bothering raising the issue?

There are so many injustices in this world that are more worthy of discussion.

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By *D40Couple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not I’m with you on this one

Me too! I very often tell the Mr he could do with raising the bar a little...

Mrs _d40

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By *y favourite knickersCouple over a year ago

doncaster

I'm the female in a couple and we will meet married people. Both male and female. I think the issue I have and I know a few others who have the same issue is the liars. If we ask if your married it's so we know what we could potentially be getting involved with. If the person then lies about their status (and yes people's) it becomes glaringly obvious then that's simply a shitty thing to do. We have spoken to guys pretending to be women. Guys pretending to be part of a couple and of course guys pretending to be single. Most people just want honesty and transparency. So to the OP are you open and honest about being married??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not "

Yup the pulse is deffo important

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By *oftandGentle2Couple over a year ago

leeds

Pretty sure if a single guy does not want to meet a married woman he WILL state it on his profile, just as you say, single women and couples state it on theirs, personal preference!

There is no “reversed moral compass”... people put on their profile (when they can be bothered to fill it out) what they are looking for, and in some cases what they are NOT looking for.

I’m confused as to why you posted a thread that seems to suggest single women and couples have different morals than single men.... if you have a PREFERENCE not to meet married “people” then surely that’s a good indication to those said married people that this profile isn’t for you.. simple!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Pretty sure if a single guy does not want to meet a married woman he WILL state it on his profile, just as you say, single women and couples state it on theirs, personal preference!

There is no “reversed moral compass”... people put on their profile (when they can be bothered to fill it out) what they are looking for, and in some cases what they are NOT looking for.

Not quite so simple - i'm getting at the fact that the profiles that don't meet married men are all couples and single women but extremely rarely are they single men. Do men reverse their moral compass when they're part of a couple or is the preference down to the female of the couple? And the secondary point was whether the same preferences against married people was also applied to women?

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By *oftandGentle2Couple over a year ago

leeds

Pretty sure if a single guy does not want to meet a married woman he WILL state it on his profile, just as you say, single women and couples state it on theirs, personal preference!

There is no “reversed moral compass”... people put on their profile (when they can be bothered to fill it out) what they are looking for, and in some cases what they are NOT looking for.

Well, I can’t reply for the married men as part of a couple as I’m the female speaking, our “Male” meets are MY preference, after all, I’m the one in the middle that’s being bonked by both men, so I’m the one who has to have the connection... everyone is different and shouldn’t be judged on their choice of partners “marital status”. we will meet, and have met married men, again personal preference... I do not expect to be judged by anyone for the fact that we do meet married “people” same as no one should be judged for NOT meeting married people....

again... it's down to individual couples/singles personal preference where married men OR women are concerned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats because most (not all) men will shag anything with a pulse...attached or not

To be fair, and to take all due account of your reply, bollocks. That's not the case

You asked the question so how can you know what is or isn't the case

She doesn’t, she’s making wild assumptions based on no evidence. I’m pretty fussy and to be honest If there’s no attraction I’d rather have a wank, then get on with rest of my day. "

The evidence is from being a female on the site.. the things guys say and offer out if desperation.. and its most of them, but not all as mentioned

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people are too quick to judge...we all have our reasons for being on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are too quick to judge...we all have our reasons for being on here "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are too quick to judge...we all have our reasons for being on here "

Everyone judges. It's human.

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