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Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?  |
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over a year ago
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Same as any one else she brings home ,but I know for a fact when our daughter does hubby will be having a quiet word in his ear ,hurt her I’m gonna hurt you lol |
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over a year ago
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"The same way as any other friend they bring home.
Chat be friendly and make them welcome.
Nita"
Exactly
He might be the nicest lad in the world,you don't want to frighten him off.
He might be a total scuba,in which case,do you really think he is going to listen?
Your daughter will make mistakes in her life,and she has to be allowed to make them to mould her future life. |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
You can give him your rules to make you feel better but they won't count for a thing, he's a horny teen and will only be thinking about fingering and fucking and very little else.
I'm assuming your teen is of legal age or different rules apply in which case threatening to break his legs and castrate him is fully acceptable  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talk to him. Just explain to him. Hurt her in anyway. And you will hurt him. Other than that, they will both do what they want to do. No matter what advice you give. I’ve had all this with my 3 daughters. |
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over a year ago
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I have three older boys and my youngest is my only girl. I dread the day she starts showing an interest in boys. At least the poor buggers will have three older brothers to get thru before they get to me tho. |
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You need to suss him out first. Intuition not interrogation! He might actually be the perfect boyfriend. But if you feel any concerns, you need to talk to your daughter, not him. Good luck. I have 3 daughters  |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
mum plays good cop
dad plays bad cop
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How old is your daughter? Mine just turned 16. No way would I allow some smug horny teenager to lie his way into her underwear.
Come on we all know what young teenage lads are like these days. Like the gent above said, all they want from girls is find the quickest and best way to finger and fuck them.
I have teenage boys too so I hear it from both sides. It's not pleasant to hear but this is the reality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most teenage boys know their intentions are far from pure. They can pull the wool over girls eyes. But he'll be shitting himself that you'll bust him. So maybe be easy on him but then just take a brief moment to look at him seriously when no one else is looking, point to your eye, then point to him. He'll shit himself enough at that as is haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
Depends on whether you want your daughter to comply with your wishes or not...
Don't be reading him the riot act, just chat to him like you would with anyone..if you start going on saying you can't do this and that it will probably be the last time you see them both in your house...
Treat him with respect and hopefully that will be repaid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She’s sweet 16.  "
Jeeze  I feel your pain.
Just don't trust a word he says. Harsh but fair! Your barely legal daughter is all you need to think of. That lad may or may not care about your daughter but he does care about sexual activity with her now he has a girlfriend. It's all he'll be thinking about! You must remember what 16 yr old lads are like! Little has changed.
When I overhear my 17 yr old son online using his PlayStation talking with his friends, it's usually about girls. A certain girl from school who has big boobs apparently. Anyway, I was disgusted to hear him talking what he'd like to do with that girl then laughing his head off! I assume his online friend was saying the same.
I brought my son up to respect women. Yet he's still a hormonal teenage lad with his brain in his scrotum!
I feel if you respect that lad, he'll use it against you to charm you like he's doing so with your daughter. I'm afraid for the sake of daughter, it's best to keep your eye on him and be doubtful concerning his intentions. |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
How old is your daughter? X |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
How old is your daughter? X"
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
First thing I’d do is ask him if he’s got a condom .
If he says yes , ask to see it and if it’s all good , tell him you’re glad he’s sensible and the ice will be broken . If he hasn’t , kick him out and tell him you don’t want him seeing your daughter until he’s sensible enough to have protection .
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
How old is your daughter? X
16"
Awww , well I’d just treat him as you would a friend. Be welcoming, but give them space. Get a feel for him and how he reacts. X |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
First thing I’d do is ask him if he’s got a condom .
If he says yes , ask to see it and if it’s all good , tell him you’re glad he’s sensible and the ice will be broken . If he hasn’t , kick him out and tell him you don’t want him seeing your daughter until he’s sensible enough to have protection .
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I'm not so sure about that,heavens they may not actually be at that stage yet and just popping around for tea,their daughter may be a bit mortified as well. I think we have to give our teenagers a bit of credit,yeah they're just a hormonal creatures at that age especially boy's,but we have to credit them with a bit of sense.
Op just be friendly to him,she's not running away to marry him (hopefully) and teenagers being teenagers they'll have split up in a few weeks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How would gou expect or want your Son to be treated ?"
I’ll second that. I’ve brought both my children up by myself without any any help from dad (or minimal) or no grandparents. I have brought them up to respect woman (son) and their elders. They have manners and social awareness. I’d hope my son gets treated kindly in future by his GF mum dad. And not like he’s some mad boyfriend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She’s sweet 16.
Jeeze I feel your pain.
Just don't trust a word he says. Harsh but fair! Your barely legal daughter is all you need to think of. That lad may or may not care about your daughter but he does care about sexual activity with her now he has a girlfriend. It's all he'll be thinking about! You must remember what 16 yr old lads are like! Little has changed.
When I overhear my 17 yr old son online using his PlayStation talking with his friends, it's usually about girls. A certain girl from school who has big boobs apparently. Anyway, I was disgusted to hear him talking what he'd like to do with that girl then laughing his head off! I assume his online friend was saying the same.
I brought my son up to respect women. Yet he's still a hormonal teenage lad with his brain in his scrotum!
I feel if you respect that lad, he'll use it against you to charm you like he's doing so with your daughter. I'm afraid for the sake of daughter, it's best to keep your eye on him and be doubtful concerning his intentions."
You say you brought your sons up well ... so i presume you put just as much effort into bringing up your daughter well
Maybe you should put a bit of faith in the way you have brought her up to mean she has the ability to think for herself, to have her own opinions and be a good judge of character ... surely demonising boys and sex to a girl of legal sexual age will just serve to undo the good work and any honest relationsip you have just now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be there for the day she dumps him.
You ask 'why'
She replies 'omg he was so needie'
You the do the Dance Of The Parents Who have Taught that Child Well'
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
First thing I’d do is ask him if he’s got a condom .
If he says yes , ask to see it and if it’s all good , tell him you’re glad he’s sensible and the ice will be broken . If he hasn’t , kick him out and tell him you don’t want him seeing your daughter until he’s sensible enough to have protection .
I'm not so sure about that,heavens they may not actually be at that stage yet and just popping around for tea,their daughter may be a bit mortified as well. I think we have to give our teenagers a bit of credit,yeah they're just a hormonal creatures at that age especially boy's,but we have to credit them with a bit of sense.
Op just be friendly to him,she's not running away to marry him (hopefully) and teenagers being teenagers they'll have split up in a few weeks. "
I agree! If anyone subjected my son to that I’d be a bit annoyed. I wouldn’t dream of asking if his/her daughter was taking similar protection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We didn't need to do the talk to my daughters boyfriend her big brother took him in the garden first I must admit I couldn't help but earwig and have a giggle to myself |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
First thing I’d do is ask him if he’s got a condom .
If he says yes , ask to see it and if it’s all good , tell him you’re glad he’s sensible and the ice will be broken . If he hasn’t , kick him out and tell him you don’t want him seeing your daughter until he’s sensible enough to have protection .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She’s sweet 16.
Jeeze I feel your pain.
Just don't trust a word he says. Harsh but fair! Your barely legal daughter is all you need to think of. That lad may or may not care about your daughter but he does care about sexual activity with her now he has a girlfriend. It's all he'll be thinking about! You must remember what 16 yr old lads are like! Little has changed.
When I overhear my 17 yr old son online using his PlayStation talking with his friends, it's usually about girls. A certain girl from school who has big boobs apparently. Anyway, I was disgusted to hear him talking what he'd like to do with that girl then laughing his head off! I assume his online friend was saying the same.
I brought my son up to respect women. Yet he's still a hormonal teenage lad with his brain in his scrotum!
I feel if you respect that lad, he'll use it against you to charm you like he's doing so with your daughter. I'm afraid for the sake of daughter, it's best to keep your eye on him and be doubtful concerning his intentions.
You say you brought your sons up well ... so i presume you put just as much effort into bringing up your daughter well
Maybe you should put a bit of faith in the way you have brought her up to mean she has the ability to think for herself, to have her own opinions and be a good judge of character ... surely demonising boys and sex to a girl of legal sexual age will just serve to undo the good work and any honest relationsip you have just now "
Exactly what I was trying to say  . I wouldn’t dream of giving a boy (young man) down the banks or have you a condom talk. That to me shows I’ve no faith in my daughter to 1. Choose wisely or 2. Take responsibility for herself. Why should it lay on males always ( referring to above post) |
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"The same way as any other friend they bring home.
Chat be friendly and make them welcome.
Nita"
Surely it can't be that easy can it
Oh yes it can!
Why fathers have to get over protective about daughters I have no idea.
So make him scared and her uncomfortable and they won't come round much anymore, just resort to having sex in dodgy alleys and cars or maybe his and you don't get to see them.
Or make them welcome. And make him look forward to meeting you.
Presumably you've already taught you're daughter how to be responsi le, take care of herself and aboit contraception?
If not you've got problems ahead. |
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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
make yourself scarce, make him welcome, be cool |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
First thing I’d do is ask him if he’s got a condom .
If he says yes , ask to see it and if it’s all good , tell him you’re glad he’s sensible and the ice will be broken . If he hasn’t , kick him out and tell him you don’t want him seeing your daughter until he’s sensible enough to have protection .
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To be fair , I had the chat with my daughters boyfriend some ten years ago now . I’d already had the contraception chat with her , and felt it was important to chat with him too . You can’t be too careful . |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
First thing I’d do is ask him if he’s got a condom .
If he says yes , ask to see it and if it’s all good , tell him you’re glad he’s sensible and the ice will be broken . If he hasn’t , kick him out and tell him you don’t want him seeing your daughter until he’s sensible enough to have protection .
To be fair , I had the chat with my daughters boyfriend some ten years ago now . I’d already had the contraception chat with her , and felt it was important to chat with him too . You can’t be too careful ."
IMO, it’s a bit too full on to be doing this. |
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By *ullpa72Man
over a year ago
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I think you have received some good advice .just keep cool and be there when she wants to talk . as a widower and father of three (all grown now)I will just repeat a couple of proverbs .keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer.doughters are god's revenge on men for being men. Keep calm and happy fabbing |
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Reminds me of the time the wife says teenage son is having some friends over for a sleep over Saturday night on the same weekend she is away visiting her mother. any Saturday evening son turns up with 1 mate and 2 girls for the sleep over. I thought oh crap missus has dropped me in it this time anyway I said boys sleep downstairs girls sleep upstairs.
I watched tv in the bedroom and left them alone in sitting room for the evening eventually girls came up and went to bed and boys stayed downstairs all good so far!
2am dog needed to be let out in the garden so I slipped my jeans on went down to kitchen and let dog out, while i'm standing there waiting for dog to come back the 2 girls came down stairs and started to open the door to where the 2 boys where sleeping I popped my head round from the kitchen and said are you girls lost, toilet is the first door on the right outside your bedroom we don't have any facilities downstairs.
the went very red and rush back up to bed I didn't sleep anymore that night. |
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Been there too many times!! Usually I make dinner and we chat around the table. I’m usually warned not to ask too many questions
It always goes well! Our kids hate how much their friends all like me |
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"Reminds me of the time the wife says teenage son is having some friends over for a sleep over Saturday night on the same weekend she is away visiting her mother. any Saturday evening son turns up with 1 mate and 2 girls for the sleep over. I thought oh crap missus has dropped me in it this time anyway I said boys sleep downstairs girls sleep upstairs.
I watched tv in the bedroom and left them alone in sitting room for the evening eventually girls came up and went to bed and boys stayed downstairs all good so far!
2am dog needed to be let out in the garden so I slipped my jeans on went down to kitchen and let dog out, while i'm standing there waiting for dog to come back the 2 girls came down stairs and started to open the door to where the 2 boys where sleeping I popped my head round from the kitchen and said are you girls lost, toilet is the first door on the right outside your bedroom we don't have any facilities downstairs.
the went very red and rush back up to bed I didn't sleep anymore that night."
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
First thing I’d do is ask him if he’s got a condom .
If he says yes , ask to see it and if it’s all good , tell him you’re glad he’s sensible and the ice will be broken . If he hasn’t , kick him out and tell him you don’t want him seeing your daughter until he’s sensible enough to have protection .
To be fair , I had the chat with my daughters boyfriend some ten years ago now . I’d already had the contraception chat with her , and felt it was important to chat with him too . You can’t be too careful .
IMO, it’s a bit too full on to be doing this. "
That’s cool |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
First thing I’d do is ask him if he’s got a condom .
If he says yes , ask to see it and if it’s all good , tell him you’re glad he’s sensible and the ice will be broken . If he hasn’t , kick him out and tell him you don’t want him seeing your daughter until he’s sensible enough to have protection .
To be fair , I had the chat with my daughters boyfriend some ten years ago now . I’d already had the contraception chat with her , and felt it was important to chat with him too . You can’t be too careful .
IMO, it’s a bit too full on to be doing this.
That’s cool "
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"The same way as any other friend they bring home.
Chat be friendly and make them welcome.
Nita
Surely it can't be that easy can it
Oh yes it can!
Why fathers have to get over protective about daughters I have no idea.
So make him scared and her uncomfortable and they won't come round much anymore, just resort to having sex in dodgy alleys and cars or maybe his and you don't get to see them.
Or make them welcome. And make him look forward to meeting you.
Presumably you've already taught you're daughter how to be responsi le, take care of herself and aboit contraception?
If not you've got problems ahead. "
This |
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over a year ago
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"Zip tie him to a chair in the basement, bright light, white noise should do to start.
Now you’ve made him feel at home ask him what his intentions are towards your daughter.
Good job we have boys "
I shall do that to your boy should he meet my daughter |
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"Zip tie him to a chair in the basement, bright light, white noise should do to start.
Now you’ve made him feel at home ask him what his intentions are towards your daughter.
Good job we have boys
I shall do that to your boy should he meet my daughter "
He would know how to get out of the zip ties |
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"Zip tie him to a chair in the basement, bright light, white noise should do to start.
Now you’ve made him feel at home ask him what his intentions are towards your daughter.
Good job we have boys
I shall do that to your boy should he meet my daughter
He would know how to get out of the zip ties "
I would be worried at her choice of boys |
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"Zip tie him to a chair in the basement, bright light, white noise should do to start.
Now you’ve made him feel at home ask him what his intentions are towards your daughter.
Good job we have boys
I shall do that to your boy should he meet my daughter
He would know how to get out of the zip ties
I would be worried at her choice of boys "
It’s when we start removing the fingernails that you need to worry about |
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"Zip tie him to a chair in the basement, bright light, white noise should do to start.
Now you’ve made him feel at home ask him what his intentions are towards your daughter.
Good job we have boys
I shall do that to your boy should he meet my daughter
He would know how to get out of the zip ties
I would be worried at her choice of boys
It’s when we start removing the fingernails that you need to worry about "
Oh god, I need to take her acrylics off |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
I would subtly interrogate him with him knowing |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
Get to know him and build your own relationship with him. Your Daughter is learning something new, just as you are.
Show trust and respect and you should get it back, when you don't, have a word.
Until then I wouldn't say anything, just watch she doesn't change due to him. |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it?
Get to know him and build your own relationship with him. Your Daughter is learning something new, just as you are.
Show trust and respect and you should get it back, when you don't, have a word.
Until then I wouldn't say anything, just watch she doesn't change due to him."
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By *ediMan
over a year ago
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"I think most teenage boys know their intentions are far from pure. They can pull the wool over girls eyes. But he'll be shitting himself that you'll bust him. So maybe be easy on him but then just take a brief moment to look at him seriously when no one else is looking, point to your eye, then point to him. He'll shit himself enough at that as is haha "
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Trust that you have given your daughter the ability to think for herself and knows how to use the word "no" ...... i feared for my daughters first boyfriend more than i feared for her
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"I think most teenage boys know their intentions are far from pure. They can pull the wool over girls eyes. But he'll be shitting himself that you'll bust him. So maybe be easy on him but then just take a brief moment to look at him seriously when no one else is looking, point to your eye, then point to him. He'll shit himself enough at that as is haha "
And most 16 year old girls are not exactly passive passengers on that journey! The girls want to explore as much as the boys do.
Anyway, to answer the OP - how you seen bad boys 2? |
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
Offer him a drink and something to eat and be friendly. You want him to be comfortable in your home. Ask him a few questions about where he stays/his family/ how he's getting on at school/work. Show him your nosey but friendly. Don't let them go upstairs either. Livingroom or kitchen only and when they leave say what time she has to be home for. Be nice but just put it out there that you have bounderies x |
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over a year ago
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"Our teenage daughter is bringing her first boyfriend home to meet us on Saturday night. Obviously I feel like sitting him in front of a spotlight and interrogating him as well as giving him an unfriendly warning about my rules for dating our daughter! You lot in forum land are normally fabtastic with your advice. How would you handle it? "
Switch on the "Who is near" function on Fabs on your phone. If a profile pops up "within touching distance" then you may need to have a word |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How old is your daughter? Mine just turned 16. No way would I allow some smug horny teenager to lie his way into her underwear.
Come on we all know what young teenage lads are like these days. Like the gent above said, all they want from girls is find the quickest and best way to finger and fuck them.
I have teenage boys too so I hear it from both sides. It's not pleasant to hear but this is the reality."
hasn’t this been this case since caveman times? some lads will always be lads and if the girls didn’t give it up it wouldn’t happen so food for thought,if it’s mutual why the hell not we’re all doing it just got older. |
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Make him feel at home tell him the stories about how she keeps you awake at night with her snoring, how she still wets the bed, about her false teeth and her smelly feet, show him her bedroom, give him beer and cake lull him into a false sense of security then kill him when daughters not looking of course  |
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Be nice to him. I brought a boy at that age home and my dad and 4 brothers wanted to kill him. Only reason he got out alive was because my mum was there. I'll say it again, be nice |
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"Be nice. If you make her feel embarrassed or that he isn't welcome she won't bring any others home and that'll be worse. "
Just think back to when you were a teenager and look at it from that point of view.
Be welcoming and pleasant but realise that he may not last - nothing worse than a Mum that is forever talking about the nice boy you used to go out with.
I find the best way to discourage a relationship with someone you really think is horrible is to be really friendly and treat them like one of the family - your daughter will want to get rid of them as quickly as possible |
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Aah thats a massive step for both of them,they are respecting you by visiting, think about how nervous he is and how she must love you to introduce him in to family life. Be kind and be just like you would with other friends.
My son and daughter still havent introduced their other halves to their Dad and it's been 6 months... underdtand why though. |
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Just be nice to the lad, no macho bullshit as it doesn’t accomplish much, your daughter will either be mortified or angry that you don’t trust her friends or her judgement, plus if he is a bit dodgy I would rather have them at home than wondering the street doing who knows what who knows where.
Also don’t forget bad boys are exciting so you push him away and she will chase after him even harder, just be sensible |
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"Reminds me of the time the wife says teenage son is having some friends over for a sleep over Saturday night on the same weekend she is away visiting her mother. any Saturday evening son turns up with 1 mate and 2 girls for the sleep over. I thought oh crap missus has dropped me in it this time anyway I said boys sleep downstairs girls sleep upstairs.
I watched tv in the bedroom and left them alone in sitting room for the evening eventually girls came up and went to bed and boys stayed downstairs all good so far!
2am dog needed to be let out in the garden so I slipped my jeans on went down to kitchen and let dog out, while i'm standing there waiting for dog to come back the 2 girls came down stairs and started to open the door to where the 2 boys where sleeping I popped my head round from the kitchen and said are you girls lost, toilet is the first door on the right outside your bedroom we don't have any facilities downstairs.
the went very red and rush back up to bed I didn't sleep anymore that night.
That's funny."
And sad. Sad how many parents forget what being a young adult is like and how much nicer and safer the warmth and welcome of their own home would instead of backs of cars. |
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By *anditMan
over a year ago
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Got four girls and id want to break any guys legs who come near them. But sadly you cant and they hve to make their own mistakes so all i can do is be supportive nice to them and be there when im needed. |
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I’ve just come home from work, walked through the door and my daughter has vacuumed up throughout the house, even tidied her bedroom!!! I wondered what’s going on and she’s now told me that the boyfriend is coming round tonight instead of tomorrow. |
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Would I be right in thinking this is dad posting
I soooooo feel your pain my daughter started something with her 1st lad about 6 months ago maybe a bit longer. He lasted well following me chasing the little cunt round the Trafford centre car park not to long. He hit her but think he'll think twice before trying to hit me again. The 2nd lasted a little longer and seemed ok at 1st but her brother chased him off in the end but as yet I've not found out why so yep guessing it was bad. It's nightmare young lads are pricks and young girls are so gulable.... |
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"I’ve just come home from work, walked through the door and my daughter has vacuumed up throughout the house, even tidied her bedroom!!! I wondered what’s going on and she’s now told me that the boyfriend is coming round tonight instead of tomorrow. "
well make him feel welcome at least if they are at your house you can kind of keep an eye on them. And get your daughter that if he messes her around her dad will teach him some manners.
or get her dad to what happened to me when I was 16, she went upstairs so I was stuck in the living room with her mom and dad, he came and sat next to explained quiet calm and politely there won't be any fucking in his house and if I do anything it will be him fucking me
I said later to her your dad seems nice, she said no he's a nut case. riiiight will urm see you around ok |
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"I’ve just come home from work, walked through the door and my daughter has vacuumed up throughout the house, even tidied her bedroom!!! I wondered what’s going on and she’s now told me that the boyfriend is coming round tonight instead of tomorrow. "
Win win, invite him round every week, the housework gets done for you |
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Treat him with respect. Let your daughter know that you're there for her no matter what, but give her the space and respect to make her own decisions and mistakes. Be there, and be safe to turn to, if anything goes tits up. Don't make her choose between him/ her judgement and independence, and you (/the wrath of Mum and Dad). She may not choose you if you don't. I say this as someone whose parents did their best to drive everyone away and protect me well beyond what I needed. The only people they drove away from me were themselves, and being much older I wish I'd had safe, supportive parents to turn to rather than harping morality police. It would have saved me some mistakes and pain. |
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