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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
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"Differently maybee, very intensely but is it real on line? Nothing like the real thing I geuss."
It can be. My bestest friends are those I've met from here, gone from online to in person, yet due to distance we rarely see each other in the flesh yet talk practically every day |
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
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No, I don't. I think you have to meet at least once in person or its possible to be very badly hoodwinked |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Differently maybee, very intensely but is it real on line? Nothing like the real thing I geuss."
I know, and that’s what I though (sometimes think).
But there’s evidence (above already) that you can form a strong friendship by just talking and not necessarily have to be in each other’s company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
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Oh yes...definitely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
No, I don't. I think you have to meet at least once in person or its possible to be very badly hoodwinked "
Just once? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. Alot of people in real life are only capable of simple sentences and bland conversations about "love island" or "Jason statham".
Or men who go "eyyy yeh football boxing yeh" but they don't understand either sport. |
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
No, I don't. I think you have to meet at least once in person or its possible to be very badly hoodwinked
Just once? "
At least once is what I wrote  .
I think it's very easy to maintain a false persona on line and also very easy to find a person attractive if you can't immediately get to meet them.
For me personally I would need at least one in person meeting before I became friends in the real sense of the word. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm relatively new to the online meeting people thing and I find I'm finding it easy to be chatty and get to know people but there is still and element of holding back on my part, I'm very aware I don't actually know them.
I know I myself am different online, I'm much more cheeky and flirty and I think that awareness has my guard up and until I am in someone's company I won't let it down completely. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Only if they're open and honest with you."
Okay. So the years I’ve spent getting to know my friends and now, after more than ten years, I have a real bond. I hurt if they hurt, or worry when they worry.
Can this be said for some of your online friends you’ve grown to form a friendship with, who you’ve only met once (or twice) and only been in contact for 12 moths maybe?
How quick can trust build up? |
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By *rReyMan
over a year ago
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
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Nope, my online world is very restricted and none emotional, eww that sounds bad. What i mean is i don't share the same. I am a people person, which is why i prefer social meets to get to know people not just chats online. |
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"Only if they're open and honest with you.
And there's the rub.
mind you people aren't necessarily open and honest in real life. It's just easier on line
Easier to lie on line that should say. "
I was going to add that about it being easier to deceive online but then i have been conned irl also so wasn't sure. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
No, I don't. I think you have to meet at least once in person or its possible to be very badly hoodwinked
Just once?
At least once is what I wrote .
I think it's very easy to maintain a false persona on line and also very easy to find a person attractive if you can't immediately get to meet them.
For me personally I would need at least one in person meeting before I became friends in the real sense of the word. "
Do you have to be attractive to be your friend?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do you get verified by someone ifpeople wont meet until your verified ??
Asking for a friend ??"
What’s funnier is, meeting someone and you cant verify them if they’re not verified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do think being online allows people to adopt a more outgoing and expressive persona than they might have on civvy street but isn’t that what makes it so marvellous? I mean, there are very few friends or acquaintances I have outside of fab who I could discuss anal hooks, fisting, felching or the merits of different types of canes with....except perhaps my old RE teacher!  |
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"Only if they're open and honest with you.
Okay. So the years I’ve spent getting to know my friends and now, after more than ten years, I have a real bond. I hurt if they hurt, or worry when they worry.
Can this be said for some of your online friends you’ve grown to form a friendship with, who you’ve only met once (or twice) and only been in contact for 12 moths maybe?
How quick can trust build up? "
Based off experience the amount of time spent together will help build a bond quicker, the more you have in common also.
Some people i've never met and have had a bond with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I "met" someone online 4 years ago, he has since become one of my best friends and I tell him things I dont speak to my real life bffs about and vice versa. We also message each other pretty much daily even if its just a daft gif. I dont message anyone else in my life daily.
He is also insanely hot. Which is nice |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"Only if they're open and honest with you.
Okay. So the years I’ve spent getting to know my friends and now, after more than ten years, I have a real bond. I hurt if they hurt, or worry when they worry.
Can this be said for some of your online friends you’ve grown to form a friendship with, who you’ve only met once (or twice) and only been in contact for 12 moths maybe?
How quick can trust build up? "
One or two only. I don’t let many people get that close to me anyway on here and irl. Self preservation really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ohhh, I'd love the opportunity to get to know someone online. My wife has an online friend (we've met in the past)
You could consider online as a soft and safe starting point into adult fun.
That's exactly how we met my wife's online friend/occasional lover. |
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"Only if they're open and honest with you.
And there's the rub.
mind you people aren't necessarily open and honest in real life. It's just easier on line
Easier to lie on line that should say.
I was going to add that about it being easier to deceive online but then i have been conned irl also so wasn't sure."
Yeah me too when I was younger. I don't know I think I have a deep mistrust of relationships that develop on line. I think there's a temptation to get close and intimate very quickly without the social rituals involved in off line friendships. I think those rituals help you suss out the possible liars a lot of the time. |
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
No, I don't. I think you have to meet at least once in person or its possible to be very badly hoodwinked
Just once?
At least once is what I wrote .
I think it's very easy to maintain a false persona on line and also very easy to find a person attractive if you can't immediately get to meet them.
For me personally I would need at least one in person meeting before I became friends in the real sense of the word.
Do you have to be attractive to be your friend? "
Not physically no, you do if you want to be my lover though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
No, I don't. I think you have to meet at least once in person or its possible to be very badly hoodwinked
Just once?
At least once is what I wrote .
I think it's very easy to maintain a false persona on line and also very easy to find a person attractive if you can't immediately get to meet them.
For me personally I would need at least one in person meeting before I became friends in the real sense of the word.
Do you have to be attractive to be your friend?
Not physically no, you do if you want to be my lover though. "
But...... if they wanna be your lover have they gotta get with your friends? |
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"Only if they're open and honest with you.
And there's the rub.
mind you people aren't necessarily open and honest in real life. It's just easier on line
Easier to lie on line that should say.
I was going to add that about it being easier to deceive online but then i have been conned irl also so wasn't sure.
Yeah me too when I was younger. I don't know I think I have a deep mistrust of relationships that develop on line. I think there's a temptation to get close and intimate very quickly without the social rituals involved in off line friendships. I think those rituals help you suss out the possible liars a lot of the time. "
I've 'met' a few nice guys from foreign countries on game sites and became friends with them, they had no ulterior motive.
But if you wanted to be a liar and scammer i think online is the easier way to do it. |
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"Only if they're open and honest with you.
And there's the rub.
mind you people aren't necessarily open and honest in real life. It's just easier on line
Easier to lie on line that should say.
I was going to add that about it being easier to deceive online but then i have been conned irl also so wasn't sure.
Yeah me too when I was younger. I don't know I think I have a deep mistrust of relationships that develop on line. I think there's a temptation to get close and intimate very quickly without the social rituals involved in off line friendships. I think those rituals help you suss out the possible liars a lot of the time.
I've 'met' a few nice guys from foreign countries on game sites and became friends with them, they had no ulterior motive.
But if you wanted to be a liar and scammer i think online is the easier way to do it."
Years ago Boots started an online forum. I can't remember what it was called now. I chatted to people from all over the world on it. One young lad in particular chatted to loads of women and we all gave him advice about his difficulty meeting girls etc. He eventually met a nice girl and in the fullness of time they became engaged. Some women became heavily emotionally invested in this guy and were sort of mother figures to him. Turned out it was all bull shit. Some of these women were deeply upset by it and very hurt by the deception. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
No, I don't. I think you have to meet at least once in person or its possible to be very badly hoodwinked
Just once?
At least once is what I wrote .
I think it's very easy to maintain a false persona on line and also very easy to find a person attractive if you can't immediately get to meet them.
For me personally I would need at least one in person meeting before I became friends in the real sense of the word.
Do you have to be attractive to be your friend?
Not physically no, you do if you want to be my lover though.
But...... if they wanna be your lover have they gotta get with your friends? "
Boom. Right there.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only if they're open and honest with you.
And there's the rub.
mind you people aren't necessarily open and honest in real life. It's just easier on line
Easier to lie on line that should say.
I was going to add that about it being easier to deceive online but then i have been conned irl also so wasn't sure.
Yeah me too when I was younger. I don't know I think I have a deep mistrust of relationships that develop on line. I think there's a temptation to get close and intimate very quickly without the social rituals involved in off line friendships. I think those rituals help you suss out the possible liars a lot of the time.
I've 'met' a few nice guys from foreign countries on game sites and became friends with them, they had no ulterior motive.
But if you wanted to be a liar and scammer i think online is the easier way to do it.
Years ago Boots started an online forum. I can't remember what it was called now. I chatted to people from all over the world on it. One young lad in particular chatted to loads of women and we all gave him advice about his difficulty meeting girls etc. He eventually met a nice girl and in the fullness of time they became engaged. Some women became heavily emotionally invested in this guy and were sort of mother figures to him. Turned out it was all bull shit. Some of these women were deeply upset by it and very hurt by the deception. "
Conmen / women are not entirely what I’m talking about. That’s a different thing altogether.
But mainly my question was how much of a ‘true’ friendship can be formed, and how strong that can be built up online.
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"Only if they're open and honest with you.
And there's the rub.
mind you people aren't necessarily open and honest in real life. It's just easier on line
Easier to lie on line that should say.
I was going to add that about it being easier to deceive online but then i have been conned irl also so wasn't sure.
Yeah me too when I was younger. I don't know I think I have a deep mistrust of relationships that develop on line. I think there's a temptation to get close and intimate very quickly without the social rituals involved in off line friendships. I think those rituals help you suss out the possible liars a lot of the time.
I've 'met' a few nice guys from foreign countries on game sites and became friends with them, they had no ulterior motive.
But if you wanted to be a liar and scammer i think online is the easier way to do it.
Years ago Boots started an online forum. I can't remember what it was called now. I chatted to people from all over the world on it. One young lad in particular chatted to loads of women and we all gave him advice about his difficulty meeting girls etc. He eventually met a nice girl and in the fullness of time they became engaged. Some women became heavily emotionally invested in this guy and were sort of mother figures to him. Turned out it was all bull shit. Some of these women were deeply upset by it and very hurt by the deception. "
I don't invest a lot in people unless i want to, that way it doesn't matter if they are liars. |
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"Only if they're open and honest with you.
And there's the rub.
mind you people aren't necessarily open and honest in real life. It's just easier on line
Easier to lie on line that should say.
I was going to add that about it being easier to deceive online but then i have been conned irl also so wasn't sure.
Yeah me too when I was younger. I don't know I think I have a deep mistrust of relationships that develop on line. I think there's a temptation to get close and intimate very quickly without the social rituals involved in off line friendships. I think those rituals help you suss out the possible liars a lot of the time.
I've 'met' a few nice guys from foreign countries on game sites and became friends with them, they had no ulterior motive.
But if you wanted to be a liar and scammer i think online is the easier way to do it.
Years ago Boots started an online forum. I can't remember what it was called now. I chatted to people from all over the world on it. One young lad in particular chatted to loads of women and we all gave him advice about his difficulty meeting girls etc. He eventually met a nice girl and in the fullness of time they became engaged. Some women became heavily emotionally invested in this guy and were sort of mother figures to him. Turned out it was all bull shit. Some of these women were deeply upset by it and very hurt by the deception.
Conmen / women are not entirely what I’m talking about. That’s a different thing altogether.
But mainly my question was how much of a ‘true’ friendship can be formed, and how strong that can be built up online.
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Well in my example many people thought they were building a true friendship, except one. It was a sham.
I think it's possible but one should be wary. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Online friends can be fickle Bee. "
So can real friends. I’ve a few examples where you thought you were close, and Bam, they throw something at you that brings it into perspective that it wasn’t what you thought it was. |
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I’ve known most of my friends for more years than I care to remember. They’ve held my hand, wiped my tears, poured me into cabs, answered the phone at 4am when I just needed someone to listen, shared great moments, let me pick them up when they fall and most importantly they’re just a hop, skip and jump away in most cases.
Some friendships originated here and it makes them nonetheless valid. Only due to the short length of time and infrequency of seeing each other stops us from becoming as close as described above. Some people I could be close to keep knowledge of the site a complete secret to everyone in their lives which I find is a big obstacle to true friendship. I’m not a dirty secret!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve known most of my friends for more years than I care to remember. They’ve held my hand, wiped my tears, poured me into cabs, answered the phone at 4am when I just needed someone to listen, shared great moments, let me pick them up when they fall and most importantly they’re just a hop, skip and jump away in most cases.
Some friendships originated here and it makes them nonetheless valid. Only due to the short length of time and infrequency of seeing each other stops us from becoming as close as described above. Some people I could be close to keep knowledge of the site a complete secret to everyone in their lives which I find is a big obstacle to true friendship. I’m not a dirty secret!
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You talk a lot of sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
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oh yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve known most of my friends for more years than I care to remember. They’ve held my hand, wiped my tears, poured me into cabs, answered the phone at 4am when I just needed someone to listen, shared great moments, let me pick them up when they fall and most importantly they’re just a hop, skip and jump away in most cases.
Some friendships originated here and it makes them nonetheless valid. Only due to the short length of time and infrequency of seeing each other stops us from becoming as close as described above. Some people I could be close to keep knowledge of the site a complete secret to everyone in their lives which I find is a big obstacle to true friendship. I’m not a dirty secret!
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Surely it's the site that is their dirty secret, not you. x |
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No. Although talk to people online can never get the bond that get from physically meeting and talking. Find many people chat to online first then meet are different people.
Understand that you can be a different person online. More confident and forward. But like the person to be the same in Irl.
Some friends never talk to online and due to family and work do not speak in a while. But when do meet for a drink and night out the bond stronger then ever.
Personally found never really be friends with people that never meet Irl. Just friendly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....getting to know all about you.
Do you think it’s possible to get to know someone online more than your friends your actually in contact with in real life?
Do you feel or ever felt you have/had a closer friendship with someone who you see less than others because you speak to them more online.
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by best mate iv met only once |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I have a few people I've met on-line, including from here, that I consider just as good a friend as any of my "real life" friends. In fact, as those from here know a lot more about my sexuality than my real life friends it could be argued they were more close than the real life ones.
So yes it is possible - although like any friendship they've built over time and that has been where the "genuine" factor comes in and trust and respect grow.
Sure it's possible that some of those on-line friends aren't all they seem but the same could be said for real life friends - as the old saying goes you find out who your true friends are when the chips are down. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think it can be, yes. Normally I'm very good at compartmentalizing my life but there are a handful of friends where I don't have to. I dryhump their WhatsApp frequently and talk on the phone far too often and haven't met yet. But they know all of me and accept me for who I am, even when I am being a petulant, bitchy sort.
Meeting online initially gave us a freedom in what we said but now the friendship has grown and adapted and does so daily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Meeting online initially gave us a freedom in what we said but now the friendship has grown and adapted and does so daily."
Yes, this is what I found too |
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