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Do you have a "one that got away"?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm in deep thinking more- hence why I'm awake at 5am 
Do you have a guy or girl that you always wonder "what if"?
I dated a guy 15 years ago and he was the only person that I've ever really had butterflies for, and literally melted about. We split up because I moved away, and briefly got back together 11 years ago but circumstances meant it didn't work out (I had a young baby). I've always thought about him and never had the same floaty butterflies feeling with anyone else. My best friend says that he is my "one who got away".
So who else has one of these? Tell me your stories! Did it work out or were you always left wondering?
I am going out for dinner with mine next month  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Awww, I really hope things work out for you.
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Thanks peach time and circumstance still isn't right but I do love catching up with him once a year or so and who knows what will happen in the future?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you think he has the same feeling about you ? "
Think so but just all the circumstances aren't right for it to go any further right now. Plus I can't give up toyboys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. It was about three years ago, we met, dated, both stupidly shy and neither of us was brave enough to tell the other how we felt. He ended up meeting someone else, got her pregnant within 3 weeks of meeting so that was the end of that.
We lost contact, I just found it too upsetting. I got d*unk a few months back, and ended up messaging him to tell him I wish I could have told him back then, but I really really like you and always have. .....
His reply ? I always thought we'd end up together.....I wish I'd told him. So now, I'm always brutally honest with my feelings because I've seen the consequence if you don't. They become your one who got away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had crushes that I still think about from time to time and wonder what would've happened if teenage Rach wasn't such a coward
But not in terms of someone I've actually dated. I think I might be for someone else though, he contacted me out of the blue around 3 years after our last contact "just to see how I am". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I remember a girl that ‘finished with me’ when I was younger. It was a very short lived dating thing, but, I never got an explanation or saw her again. I got told through one of her friends. That left an odd feeling. So yes, she felt like ‘one that got away’. ....
Anyway, FAF? |
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Yep!
Met when I was 23,and my eldest son was 8mths old he was at Uni, and he drank in the bar I ran.
Dated for about 2yrs.
Then he was moving back to Canada, be wanted me to go with him, I wouldn't as didn't want to take my son away from his dad & family.
I cried for weeks after he left.
We're still friends, have always stayed in touch, regularly chat via Bookface these days.
He's now a big time TV producer, won loads of major awards, got married a few years ago to a wonderful lady & has a beautiful daughter.
I'm so happy for him, but part of me has always wondered, what if..
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Yep I have one but I didn’t realise it until it was too late. As the saying goes, you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.
I fucked up and made what I consider to be the biggest mistake of my life when we split up 10 years ago. Part of me will always love her until the day I die.
I’ve no idea where she is, don’t have a number or any social media for her. Que sera sera. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Awww, I really hope things work out for you.
But yes, I think I've met the one that'll get away.
Circumstance etc. Brutal but honest."
Maybe in another life |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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Jesus do I what. Slipped through my hands like marmite slides out of the jar. Have never been the same since wondering , dreaming , salivating at every thought, the questions. What if? What would it have felt like? What would it taste like.?
Luckily for me many years later I did eventually catch up and boy was it worth it. The soft pastry , the drizzled soft sugar I will never let another yum yum pass me by again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm in deep thinking more- hence why I'm awake at 5am
Do you have a guy or girl that you always wonder "what if"?
I dated a guy 15 years ago and he was the only person that I've ever really had butterflies for, and literally melted about. We split up because I moved away, and briefly got back together 11 years ago but circumstances meant it didn't work out (I had a young baby). I've always thought about him and never had the same floaty butterflies feeling with anyone else. My best friend says that he is my "one who got away".
So who else has one of these? Tell me your stories! Did it work out or were you always left wondering?
I am going out for dinner with mine next month "
Yep I have one that got away and you've just made me remember her damnit |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Cancer took mine away from me 2yrs ago ... met on another swinging site .... perfect relationship ... 18months in problems develop ... 2 yrs later he’s gone .... I’m totally heartbroken and will never get over losing him after 2 shit marriages he was my Prince Charming ..... "
I'm so sorry to read this. Hugs to you xxxx |
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By *i1971Man
over a year ago
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Yes. Only a few years ago. Went out several times to various
events & walks etc but as I'm useless at reading signs, wasn't sure how she felt & neither of us said anything about our feelings. Drifted apart. See her every now & then through work & chat, but still get that "feeling" that there could have been more. Both still single so who knows ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.
Ive allways been drawn back to him , recently realised that he hasnt actually got what i need to be happy.
I was with him since i was 13 , we kept gravitating back to each other whenever we were single untill this year when i decided it was just not meant to be. |
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Yep, the girl I was with when I was 25/26, it was an intense and very passionate relationship, she was absolutely stunning and we just clicked. I've honestly never felt like that with anyone else and doubt I ever will again unfortunately she'd already signed up to go and work abroad on cruise ships before we met so we had an amazing few months together before she went, made all sorts of promises to wait for each other, but after a couple of months out there she'd met someone else and moved to New Zealand with him when her contract finished. I was heartbroken for a long time and still get a twinge every now and again. Last I heard she's not with him now but is married and still out there. |
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"Got Bruno Mars on thinking of all these sad tales 
He wasn't even a spunkbubble out of his mam's arse when I met Simon Bates, so there  "
But he says it how it is
Unlike this Simon Bates you speak of |
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"Cancer took mine away from me 2yrs ago ... met on another swinging site .... perfect relationship ... 18months in problems develop ... 2 yrs later he’s gone .... I’m totally heartbroken and will never get over losing him after 2 shit marriages he was my Prince Charming .....
I'm so sorry to read this. Hugs to you xxxx"
Thank you ... it now makes me think live each moment and say what you need to ... life is too short xx |
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I dated my best friend of 6-7 years when I was younger, after almost a year she went to university whilst I took a gap year to work then I was going to one near her. I was going to visit her a few times a month and we was planning life after university and whatnot and I was full on in love. 2 months into being at university she cheated on me and I found out the day before my birthday, we swiftly split up. Ruined me for quite a long time and gave me a few trust issues, I always think what would have been if I hadn't taken a gap year but as I've got older I've realised if she was willing to do that then it would never have worked |
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"Got Bruno Mars on thinking of all these sad tales
He wasn't even a spunkbubble out of his mam's arse when I met Simon Bates, so there
But he says it how it is
Unlike this Simon Bates you speak of "
See now, things were a bit different back in the 80's, Rap was in its infancy, mobile phones were only for the rich(and they were the size of a small family car), Simon Bates played heartfelt tunes across the nation on Radio 1 to people who were genuinely interested in this sort of shit.
I know this isn't what the OP is on about, but why tread over old ground? |
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Yes, we dated for a while a long time ago, the chemistry was amazing but life got in the way and we just didn't get chance to see each other. Then he emigrated far far away. I saw him once when he came back for a wedding and he basically told me he considered me the one that got away, and mutual friends have said they think we missed a trick. I do wonder at times where we'd be now if we'd dated a year or so later. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I have a guy, we couldn't be together for various reasons but we were both broken hearted when we had to end it. That is over 4 years ago now but I still think about him most days.
Just wasn't meant to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah yes. One I chickened out of taking a chance on.
We met online through a shared interest back in 2006. I happened to be taking a week’s holiday near where she lived, and she suggested meeting up for a day.
We did, and it was a truly amazing day. We totally clicked and got on great, talked non-stop about absolutely everything. She was gorgeous as well, and in hindsight I can see that there were clear signs she found me attractive, though I lacked the confidence to be sure of that at the time.
After an astonishing twelve hours together spent talking, eating, laughing, having fun, we said goodnight. We hugged and she kissed me on the cheek and pulled back just slightly… and there was a long pause where I know I should have leaned in and kissed her.
But I didn’t.
Biggest regret of my life. Because I’ll never know if that could have been amazing.
We talked for a while after that, but it fizzled out as longer distance friendships often do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, most definitely. I had a fling with a girl I was on a live in training course with 17 years ago, it went on for about 10 weeks, we fell in love but both went back to our own lives afterwards. Had no contact for 12 years and then after we had both been married, separated (our marriages ended within 2 weeks of each other) I contacted her and we met up, ended up seeing each other for 3 years but due to her being the girl o had the affair with I kep her secret for too long and she got fed up of waiting. I’m divorced now and I’ve told the ex wife about her, I’ve told the other girl that I’m free to marry her and I’d shout it from the roof tops but nothing. I live in hope that she’s the one that comes back rather than got away. We were perfect together but life got in the way. |
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"I had crushes that I still think about from time to time and wonder what would've happened if teenage Rach wasn't such a coward
But not in terms of someone I've actually dated. I think I might be for someone else though, he contacted me out of the blue around 3 years after our last contact "just to see how I am"."
Definitely, I was 17 and didn't think I was pretty enough for him I was a coward he gave me plenty of opportunity to say something I didn't still think about him every now and then x storm x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t look back, you’re not going that way.
Might get that tattooed on my arm so I can remind myself!
If you get it done in Chinese writing, make sure it doesn't say, I Want A Gang Bang "
Ha ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes she got away due to lifes routes but she came back and now shes my wife..and she says the butterflies never left either hihi..so we acted on it as it doesnt happen often you meet your soulmate.. |
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Yes, after 7 years of friendship and flirting we took things further but i wasnt looking for a relationship at the time. 4 years of amazing fun times and he found someone and fell in love. We stayed friends until the gf got jealous and banned contact. Think about him most days and wish i had told him i wanted more before it was too late. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, after 7 years of friendship and flirting we took things further but i wasnt looking for a relationship at the time. 4 years of amazing fun times and he found someone and fell in love. We stayed friends until the gf got jealous and banned contact. Think about him most days and wish i had told him i wanted more before it was too late. "
Write him a letter x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was the one who got away and she has a new partner a new life and it’s all better than I could give her but every few weeks she messages me and tells me how hard it is for her to move on and how it will never be the same as what we had and I know she’s right....it’s all a bit shit really |
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"Yes, after 7 years of friendship and flirting we took things further but i wasnt looking for a relationship at the time. 4 years of amazing fun times and he found someone and fell in love. We stayed friends until the gf got jealous and banned contact. Think about him most days and wish i had told him i wanted more before it was too late.
Write him a letter x "
He has moved and i dont know where to. He messages me once a year and i was hurting to much to reply previously, im hoping to reply to the next one. I dont want to message him out of the blue in case it causes problems with his partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, after 7 years of friendship and flirting we took things further but i wasnt looking for a relationship at the time. 4 years of amazing fun times and he found someone and fell in love. We stayed friends until the gf got jealous and banned contact. Think about him most days and wish i had told him i wanted more before it was too late.
Write him a letter x
He has moved and i dont know where to. He messages me once a year and i was hurting to much to reply previously, im hoping to reply to the next one. I dont want to message him out of the blue in case it causes problems with his partner "
There are two lines you can take
1. Just send a friendly text
2. Suggest a FFM with his partner |
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"Yes, after 7 years of friendship and flirting we took things further but i wasnt looking for a relationship at the time. 4 years of amazing fun times and he found someone and fell in love. We stayed friends until the gf got jealous and banned contact. Think about him most days and wish i had told him i wanted more before it was too late.
Write him a letter x
He has moved and i dont know where to. He messages me once a year and i was hurting to much to reply previously, im hoping to reply to the next one. I dont want to message him out of the blue in case it causes problems with his partner
There are two lines you can take
1. Just send a friendly text
2. Suggest a FFM with his partner "
I tried number 2 when we were all friends and got rebuffed. Considering she banned all contact between us i dont think any text could be seen as friendly and i dont want to get him in trouble. Ill just wait for his yearly message and hope i see it when it comes in. |
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