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By *rlo67 OP Man
over a year ago
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I have a day off tomorrow and am making the most of it. Tinder coffee date at lunchtime, fab meet in the afternoon, POF drink date in the evening.
Some ethics advice please. I would be happy for the Fab lady to know everything but not the Tinder or POF 1st daters. Is it OK to do multiple dating and not disclosing? If anything serious came from a date I would stop. |
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"I have a day off tomorrow and am making the most of it. Tinder coffee date at lunchtime, fab meet in the afternoon, POF drink date in the evening.
Some ethics advice please. I would be happy for the Fab lady to know everything but not the Tinder or POF 1st daters. Is it OK to do multiple dating and not disclosing? If anything serious came from a date I would stop."
Unless you’re planning to try to get the tinder and pof ladies into bed straight away too - I can’t see an issue? X |
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over a year ago
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I take it they're first dates. If so imo you're just networking socially. I can't imagine there being any cap on that. So knock yourself out and don't feel obligated to disclose everything. It's none of their business... yet
If you've been dating three women at once over multiple dates that's probably a bit naughty |
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"I have a day off tomorrow and am making the most of it. Tinder coffee date at lunchtime, fab meet in the afternoon, POF drink date in the evening.
Some ethics advice please. I would be happy for the Fab lady to know everything but not the Tinder or POF 1st daters. Is it OK to do multiple dating and not disclosing? If anything serious came from a date I would stop."
Do you think the fab lady will be more accepting of multiple dating? I wouldn't automatically assume that.
If I was your evening date and knew th st you'd met someone for coffee at lunch and someone else for sex in the afternoon it's unlikely I'd date you again. So I'd say keep quiet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say, how would you feel if it was done to you?
Me personally I wouldn't like it done to me"
I'd be totally fine with it. You could have several first dates before and after me. Why should I get upset if anyone doesn't make any special provision for me before they've even met me? We could be entirely incompatible.
I'm totally comfortable that it's ethical dude. You're just socialising... and there's no cap on socialising imo |
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However, I would say it's likely to be a waste of your time. Whilst I think it's a great idea to bump into as many potential dates as possible in a window of time. These should be brief encounters that allow you to quickly sense if chemistry is likely to be there.
When you actually go on a first date it is much better to give that date your complete focus or else it may fall flat. There is a tempo to getting into someone, a dance that you can't really do whilst running around trying to do the same dance with others.
If instead you approach each date as a potential success, maybe even allowing for the possibility that it may lead to wild frenzied sex, you can give it much more focus |
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While in theory I don't think there's an issue with juggling a few dates/ meets if they're at an early stage and no need to disclose, I'd be a bit less than impressed at block booking the diary like that. What if the first one is great and you want to spend a bit longer than anticipated with them? Or the Fab meet ends up in the bedroom? Of course you're unlikely to tell the third woman but it feels a bit off to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Perfectly fine OP. Just keep it to yourself on the meets , no one really wants to hear about other meets I find . Out of sight out of mind .
I do that sometimes multiple social meets in a day. My coffee shop must think what an earth I am doing 
As long as you have prewarned the meets about timing , I would just allocate suitable time for each and enjoy your day
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"While in theory I don't think there's an issue with juggling a few dates/ meets if they're at an early stage and no need to disclose, I'd be a bit less than impressed at block booking the diary like that. What if the first one is great and you want to spend a bit longer than anticipated with them? Or the Fab meet ends up in the bedroom? Of course you're unlikely to tell the third woman but it feels a bit off to me. "
What I was saying but more succinctly put |
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"While in theory I don't think there's an issue with juggling a few dates/ meets if they're at an early stage and no need to disclose, I'd be a bit less than impressed at block booking the diary like that. What if the first one is great and you want to spend a bit longer than anticipated with them? Or the Fab meet ends up in the bedroom? Of course you're unlikely to tell the third woman but it feels a bit off to me.
What I was saying but more succinctly put "
Succinct maybe but not as beautifully x |
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"I have a day off tomorrow and am making the most of it. Tinder coffee date at lunchtime, fab meet in the afternoon, POF drink date in the evening.
Some ethics advice please. I would be happy for the Fab lady to know everything but not the Tinder or POF 1st daters. Is it OK to do multiple dating and not disclosing? If anything serious came from a date I would stop."
Wouldn't bother me in the least. A day if is a day off, time is precious.
I'm presuming all of these dates are in the early days and you've not agreed to be exclusive, so go for it and fill your boots.
Not everyone feels the same as me tho, so I wouldn't feel the need to tell them about each other.
Have fun. |
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"I have a day off tomorrow and am making the most of it. Tinder coffee date at lunchtime, fab meet in the afternoon, POF drink date in the evening.
Some ethics advice please. I would be happy for the Fab lady to know everything but not the Tinder or POF 1st daters. Is it OK to do multiple dating and not disclosing? If anything serious came from a date I would stop."
Personally i do it not on dating sites. but i will have dates with people unless it becomes exclusive.
and if they did ask i would tell them |
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I'm the opposite actually. A fab meet has no business knowing if I am going on a date to find a girlfriend later or not.
However I would tell someone that I was meeting to potentially date as a girlfriend that I was sexually active, maybe not that day but very recently. |
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"I have a day off tomorrow and am making the most of it. Tinder coffee date at lunchtime, fab meet in the afternoon, POF drink date in the evening.
Some ethics advice please. I would be happy for the Fab lady to know
everything but not the Tinder or POF 1st daters. Is it OK to do multiple dating and not disclosing? If anything serious came from a date I would stop.
Do you think the fab lady will be more accepting of multiple dating? I wouldn't automatically assume that.
If I was your evening date and knew th st you'd met someone for coffee at lunch and someone else for sex in the afternoon it's unlikely I'd date you again. So I'd say keep quiet."
What she said lol |
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"However, I would say it's likely to be a waste of your time. Whilst I think it's a great idea to bump into as many potential dates as possible in a window of time. These should be brief encounters that allow you to quickly sense if chemistry is likely to be there.
When you actually go on a first date it is much better to give that date your complete focus or else it may fall flat. There is a tempo to getting into someone, a dance that you can't really do whilst running around trying to do the same dance with others.
If instead you approach each date as a potential success, maybe even allowing for the possibility that it may lead to wild frenzied sex, you can give it much more focus "
Good point. It's not against the letter of the law but maybe against the spirit, I doubt any of them would get your full focus.  |
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By *rlo67 OP Man
over a year ago
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They all got my full focus. Ordinarily I would have been flagging by the third one but - I was her first date since she was widowed and had made a big effort with hair/makeup/clothes/accessories so she got my A game and enjoyed herself.
The three ladies and I had a good time. No one was hurt or let down. |
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"They all got my full focus. Ordinarily I would have been flagging by the third one but - I was her first date since she was widowed and had made a big effort with hair/makeup/clothes/accessories so she got my A game and enjoyed herself.
The three ladies and I had a good time. No one was hurt or let down."
Glad all went well.
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"They all got my full focus. Ordinarily I would have been flagging by the third one but - I was her first date since she was widowed and had made a big effort with hair/makeup/clothes/accessories so she got my A game and enjoyed herself.
The three ladies and I had a good time. No one was hurt or let down."
out of curiosity will there be any second dates  |
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By *rlo67 OP Man
over a year ago
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One of the dates had a mutual attraction and an immediate agreement to meet again.
The other date had no spark and a quick exchange of texts had a friendly agreement not to.
The Fab meet went well and will be repeated ; unless any dating develops into a relationship (when I suspend Fab activity) |
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"One of the dates had a mutual attraction and an immediate agreement to meet again.
The other date had no spark and a quick exchange of texts had a friendly agreement not to.
The Fab meet went well and will be repeated ; unless any dating develops into a relationship (when I suspend Fab activity) "
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