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How to get out of a funk

By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

Love life is in the toilet (fellas only want me for what I do, not who I am). Fallen out with friends after I defended another (work related). Saturday, a neighbor threatened me, smacked my phone from my hand whilst filming and keyed my car (police involved).

I'm a tough broad but feeling pretty damn emotional at the moment.

How do you get out of your funk?

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By *onny69sMan over a year ago

Donny

I feel your pain..

I tend to just have beer or several. Doesn't work long term but it's a good at the time..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get the Funk Out

https://g.co/kgs/8Cf9jF

Some time away just for you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm afraid I don't have any pearls of wisdom to share. I generally just muddle through, and hope things are brighter on the other side.

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By *olgateMan over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I got double teamed by family this weekend one starting an argument and the other using it as an excuse to have a go at me. When I finally stormed out of the room I’m told I have anger management issues. PERHAPS IF YOU HADN’T SPENT HALF THE EVENING TRYING TO PISS ME OFF I WOULD NOT HAVE ANGER ISSUES!

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Get the Funk Out

https://g.co/kgs/8Cf9jF

Some time away just for you?"

Aww Extreme! They were like a less credible version Red Hot Chilli Peppers

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By *horecruxCouple over a year ago

SE4

You need a game changer !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahhh... feel for you. Just dust yourself down. Ignore all negative people just cut them out of your life. Sending tiger hugs to you xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just muddle through and hope for the best ... Not good but I don't really know how else to deal with it.

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By *cousesubsallyWoman over a year ago

Somewhere out there

"Love life is in the toilet (fellas only want me for what I do, not who I am). Fallen out with friends after I defended another (work related). Saturday, a neighbor threatened me, smacked my phone from my hand whilst filming and keyed my car (police involved).

I'm a tough broad but feeling pretty damn emotional at the moment.

How do you get out of your funk?

You’re not in a funk, you’ve got a lot of shit going on. Let yourself be emotional about it, it’s better than bottling it up x you’ve identified that men are after you for the wrong reason... don’t let those ones in - there’ll be someone there who appreciates who you are, just wait and don’t sell yourself short.

I usually find a disagreement with friends is easily solved with a conversation and/or a few drinks, good friends often fall out. If they can’t take you defending someone and voicing your opinion, maybe they weren’t as good friends as they seemed to be...

With the neighbours as well you sound like you’ve got it on all fronts at the moment, go easy on yourself xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can sympathise op, in a bit if one myself. Having ex troubles and got the police involved now. Be kind to yourself, treat yourself to something decadent and take time to get past this. Sending hugs x

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Get the Funk Out

https://g.co/kgs/8Cf9jF

Some time away just for you?

Aww Extreme! They were like a less credible version Red Hot Chilli Peppers"

I tend to walk the dog and grumble to myself.

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By *rsSBWoman over a year ago

toy town

Some times helps to step away from everything and everyone . Maybe a few day away, different town , even different country, helps and resets things and your frame of mind.

I really hope things get better for you soon

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

Good friends will always come round in the end. Give them a little time and ask to clear the air?

The Police thing was the right thing to do and it must feel horrid when you have to live next door to someone there is an open issue with. I wonder would it be worth moving. (I know you shouldn’t have to but for peace of mind) it’s horrible falling out with neighbors and feeling uneasy going in the street etc. I wish you well.

The men thing and this is the controversial bit. You seem to be very down on men all the time (green arrow and my crazy memory) perhaps look inward and subjectively on this.

Treat yourself to a break away somewhere different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get really fucked up, go on mad one and lose a couple of days.

Tends to sort me out.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

Go to a gym that does boxing, strap on some gloves and pound the crap out of a punching bag, you'll soon feel better.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

Got anyone you can call and scream at?

I have, I call him up and tell him I need to vent. He gets coffee, listens to me effing and blinding, verbally nods occasionally and hangs up. Makes me feel awesome.

How do you feel at the moment? Would crying help? A bit of ‘it’s not fair’! Calling everybody a cunt?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get really fucked up, go on mad one and lose a couple of days.

Tends to sort me out. "

I did that the weekend before last in Brum! Whilst it was good to let off steam, I'm not sure that my liver has forgiven me yet

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'm a tough broad but feeling pretty damn emotional at the moment.

How do you get out of your funk?

Sounds a bit happy clapping, but write a list if all the good stuff you have to be grateful for ie roof over your head, money in the bank, pet gerbil, whatever.

Concentrate on the positives rather than focussing on the negatives.

Yes shit things happen but so do a hell of a lot of good things we just take for granted.

Change your focus .

Hug of support

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By *tonMessCouple over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I go for a good stompy walk.

Then come home, meditate/chant and clear my head ready to start again positively. I take each negative thing and turn it around to positive or disown it. No room for negativity in my life.

After all that I tell myself "I'm strong and will beat this", I do something nice for myself, this could be something as simple as a nice hot shower after my walk or painting my nails or listening to some favourite music in the car.

After all that, I go do something nice/kind for somebody else... Buy a cup of tea for the homeless guy at at station, help a neighbour with their shopping, even just complimenting a colleague on their weightloss or how they are dressed.

Just end it all with lots of smiles.

Be kind to yourself always.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get really fucked up, go on mad one and lose a couple of days.

Tends to sort me out.

I did that the weekend before last in Brum! Whilst it was good to let off steam, I'm not sure that my liver has forgiven me yet

Oh my body hates me for a week afterwards but my mind is a bit clearer.

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I get really fucked up, go on mad one and lose a couple of days.

Tends to sort me out.

I did that the weekend before last in Brum! Whilst it was good to let off steam, I'm not sure that my liver has forgiven me yet

Oh my body hates me for a week afterwards but my mind is a bit clearer. "

Worked for Gazza...oh hang on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people have given some great replies here and I’d only be expanding on them so instead here’s a huge hug op, if you need to vent I’m sure anyone here including myself will happily open their inbox for you to let everything out, shout, cry or both, things will get better eventually, pinky promise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get really fucked up, go on mad one and lose a couple of days.

Tends to sort me out.

I did that the weekend before last in Brum! Whilst it was good to let off steam, I'm not sure that my liver has forgiven me yet

Oh my body hates me for a week afterwards but my mind is a bit clearer. "

Well... the morning after the morning after my mind was starting to clear

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By *rAdventurousJayMan over a year ago

Kent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get really fucked up, go on mad one and lose a couple of days.

Tends to sort me out.

I did that the weekend before last in Brum! Whilst it was good to let off steam, I'm not sure that my liver has forgiven me yet

Oh my body hates me for a week afterwards but my mind is a bit clearer.

Worked for Gazza...oh hang on"

But would you be happy if I turned up with a fishing rod and a bucket of KFC?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Avoiding drama.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a tough broad but feeling pretty damn emotional at the moment.

How do you get out of your funk?

With the neighbours as well you sound like you’ve got it on all fronts at the moment, go easy on yourself xx

That's great advice, especially about the friends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope you feel better soon OP.

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

"The men thing and this is the controversial bit. You seem to be very down on men all the time (green arrow and my crazy memory) perhaps look inward and subjectively on this. "

For the record, I'm not down on men all the time. All my friends are men. I love men. I may generalise on the behavior of some but I'm a sex worker as well as swinger. There's only so much entitlement, arrogance and dick pics a girl can take before feeling dispondent.

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

And thank you all for the good advice.

I tried getting out of it and got blasted all weekend. Have cried a river and tried to talk to mates about it but as my pals are men, they're not the best listeners.

Think I'm going to take myself on a holiday to Morocco to clear my head a bit

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'm a tough broad but feeling pretty damn emotional at the moment.

How do you get out of your funk?

You’re not in a funk, you’ve got a lot of shit going on.

Yea, I went to the Doctor and asked for some talking therapy once, 'cos I ticked all the boxes for clinical depression. At the end of 6 sessions the therapist said 'God if I had all the shit you've got going on, I'D be depressed!!'

Sounds like you need to take a few days out of life, get away maybe, go on a retreat?

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By *olgateMan over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"Get the Funk Out

https://g.co/kgs/8Cf9jF

Some time away just for you?

Aww Extreme! They were like a less credible version Red Hot Chilli Peppers"

You mean prettier version

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll usually turn off my phone for few hours and watch few of my fav movies