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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?
No i see them as cheating fuckwits
Charming."
Oh i forgot the  sorry |
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By *uckymoo OP Man
over a year ago
Mid-Cheshire |
"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?
No i see them as cheating fuckwits
Charming.
Oh i forgot the sorry"
Oh thats ok then 
Seriously what do you really think, stop messing about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?
No i see them as cheating fuckwits
Charming.
Oh i forgot the sorry
Oh thats ok then
Seriously what do you really think, stop messing about "
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By *uckymoo OP Man
over a year ago
Mid-Cheshire |
"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?
No i see them as cheating fuckwits
Charming.
Oh i forgot the sorry
Oh thats ok then
Seriously what do you really think, stop messing about
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That’s a shame because I really fancied you til then  |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?
No i see them as cheating fuckwits "
Not all attached guys are cheating fuckwits tho ...just saying lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?
No i see them as cheating fuckwits
Not all attached guys are cheating fuckwits tho ...just saying lol "
They could still be fuckwits though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not. |
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By *uckymoo OP Man
over a year ago
Mid-Cheshire |
"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not. "
Ohhhh ive got a new hotlist favourite in the making |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?
No i see them as cheating fuckwits
Not all attached guys are cheating fuckwits tho ...just saying lol
They could still be fuckwits though "
Hahaha sooo very true |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I sometimes get the impression attached ladys are given more kudos."
Nope... if you are playing away and in essence cheating I don’t care if you are a man or a woman, you’ll get the same answers from me...  |
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By *uckymoo OP Man
over a year ago
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"I sometimes get the impression attached ladys are given more kudos.
Nope... if you are playing away and in essence cheating I don’t care if you are a man or a woman, you’ll get the same answers from me... "
Which is a thumbs up? |
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"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not. "
Quite agree, everyone has their reasons for being on here, right or wrong, no-one had the right to judge unless you know the full story. |
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By *uckymoo OP Man
over a year ago
Mid-Cheshire |
"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not.
Quite agree, everyone has their reasons for being on here, right or wrong, no-one had the right to judge unless you know the full story."
As there are so many attached people on here, some honest ones and some who just lie. Wouldn’t it be easier to have a filter on a profile. Yes I know this relies on honesty but at least attached could have the opportunity only approach people who were open to them.
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"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not.
Quite agree, everyone has their reasons for being on here, right or wrong, no-one had the right to judge unless you know the full story.
As there are so many attached people on here, some honest ones and some who just lie. Wouldn’t it be easier to have a filter on a profile. Yes I know this relies on honesty but at least attached could have the opportunity only approach people who were open to them.
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That's the thing though, seems to be more lies told than truths  |
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"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not.
Quite agree, everyone has their reasons for being on here, right or wrong, no-one had the right to judge unless you know the full story.
As there are so many attached people on here, some honest ones and some who just lie. Wouldn’t it be easier to have a filter on a profile. Yes I know this relies on honesty but at least attached could have the opportunity only approach people who were open to them.
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I'm confused. Are the "honest" attached people telling their partners they are on here looking for fucks with randoms?
If not, they are also liars aren't they? |
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By *uckymoo OP Man
over a year ago
Mid-Cheshire |
"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not.
Quite agree, everyone has their reasons for being on here, right or wrong, no-one had the right to judge unless you know the full story.
As there are so many attached people on here, some honest ones and some who just lie. Wouldn’t it be easier to have a filter on a profile. Yes I know this relies on honesty but at least attached could have the opportunity only approach people who were open to them.
That's the thing though, seems to be more lies told than truths "
Yeah but some lie because they are judged, far easier being open abd honest, the honest ones wouldn’t get penalised this way and tbh its much more efficient |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?
No i see them as cheating fuckwits "
Ha hey don't mince your words |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not. "
exactly this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes they’re more complex as can’t meet at weekends, evenings without notice etc.
Plus you run the risk of a irate partner finding out and contacting you. Especially if they aren’t open about being attached.
Too complicated for me. |
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The bottom line is that there's roughly fifteen men to every woman on here, so the odds are already against the chaps. If you say you are cheating, the odds will decrease further.
Hence the rational decision for the cheating man is to say he is single. Assuming he is only looking for a quick fling, he's unlikely to be found out.
As for morals, the men in question are by definition lying to their nearest and dearest about something very important. They are unlikely to have moral qualms about lying to strangers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think you'll find both married men and women on here OP. Everyone has a reason for being on Fab.
Personally, I don't want to judge anyone or call them names and will respect their reasons for being here. It's their choice. And their relationship, if they have one, is their business. After all, I'm not here for an affair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm married and playing away and i don't see the advantage in keeping that fact quiet. I can understand why some people have a problem with this but if they do does it really need to be commented on? There are plenty more unattached candidates on here. Just pass us by and go after them instead. |
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"I'm married and playing away and i don't see the advantage in keeping that fact quiet. I can understand why some people have a problem with this but if they do does it really need to be commented on? There are plenty more unattached candidates on here. Just pass us by and go after them instead."
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
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"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not. "
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"I'm married and playing away and i don't see the advantage in keeping that fact quiet. I can understand why some people have a problem with this but if they do does it really need to be commented on? There are plenty more unattached candidates on here. Just pass us by and go after them instead."
There are many women who won't meet cheaters.
I am not aware of any women who won't meet people who aren't cheating.
Hence by admitting to cheating, you are reducing your already low odds of meeting a woman.
Hence, morality aside, the rational thing for a cheating mam on here is to lie about it.
That doesn't apply to cheating women as they will still get far more offers than they can cope with even if they admit to cheating. |
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"Sometimes they’re more complex as can’t meet at weekends, evenings without notice etc.
Plus you run the risk of a irate partner finding out and contacting you. Especially if they aren’t open about being attached.
Too complicated for me."
Exactly what I was going to say. Had a bad experience once with a guy who wasn't single and wasn't very bright or discrete, got a load of grief from his wife. |
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"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?
No i see them as cheating fuckwits
Charming.
Oh i forgot the sorry
Oh thats ok then
Seriously what do you really think, stop messing about
That’s a shame because I really fancied you til then "
Haha. Did you really? |
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"Seems I'm the minority, I prefer attached less stalking and hassle, if they cheat on the partners that's there problem not mine "
So what you're saying is that you met a guy and because he was single stalked you?. From that i'd guess that he'd of done that either way and probably says a bit about you're choice of men as much it says about him being a twazerk . Do a bit of background check as i've never stalked anyone. Must be very time consuming at the very least. Never mind how sad he must look |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm married and playing away and i don't see the advantage in keeping that fact quiet. I can understand why some people have a problem with this but if they do does it really need to be commented on? There are plenty more unattached candidates on here. Just pass us by and go after them instead.
There are many women who won't meet cheaters.
I am not aware of any women who won't meet people who aren't cheating.
Hence by admitting to cheating, you are reducing your already low odds of meeting a woman.
Hence, morality aside, the rational thing for a cheating mam on here is to lie about it.
That doesn't apply to cheating women as they will still get far more offers than they can cope with even if they admit to cheating. "
I'd rather put honesty first than get laid under false pretences. If that reduces my odds of getting a meet then so be it. I see no problem with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems I'm the minority, I prefer attached less stalking and hassle, if they cheat on the partners that's there problem not mine
So what you're saying is that you met a guy and because he was single stalked you?. From that i'd guess that he'd of done that either way and probably says a bit about you're choice of men as much it says about him being a twazerk . Do a bit of background check as i've never stalked anyone. Must be very time consuming at the very least. Never mind how sad he must look "
did I say a guy ? I'm just saying I find attached people don't hassle or stalk you as much I'm sure some married folk to do but for me it's the singles |
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"I'm married and playing away and i don't see the advantage in keeping that fact quiet. I can understand why some people have a problem with this but if they do does it really need to be commented on? There are plenty more unattached candidates on here. Just pass us by and go after them instead.
There are many women who won't meet cheaters.
I am not aware of any women who won't meet people who aren't cheating.
Hence by admitting to cheating, you are reducing your already low odds of meeting a woman.
Hence, morality aside, the rational thing for a cheating mam on here is to lie about it.
That doesn't apply to cheating women as they will still get far more offers than they can cope with even if they admit to cheating.
I'd rather put honesty first than get laid under false pretences. If that reduces my odds of getting a meet then so be it. I see no problem with that."
That's fine and what you do is obviously a matter for you, but I have always found it strange that people deceiving their partners should make a big thing about. "honesty" on here. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I sometimes get the impression attached ladys are given more kudos.
Nope... if you are playing away and in essence cheating I don’t care if you are a man or a woman, you’ll get the same answers from me...
Which is a thumbs up?"
Nope... it means that if you can’t be honest with the person in the world you profess to love more than any other, then why should I believe you would be honest to me..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do ladies and couples see atteached guys as a Safe option if they need no nonsense, discreet meets?"
no. I won't meet them if I can help it as I know what it feels like to be the woman that's cheated on.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not. "
^^^^Most Definitely This
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyway im off before poochie starts on me as usually the case
Laters
Poochie isn’t even here?!  
Ohhh here she is.....
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I’ve just landed back from San Francisco, not really in the mood for games.  |
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By *uckymoo OP Man
over a year ago
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"Anyway im off before poochie starts on me as usually the case
Laters
Poochie isn’t even here?!
Ohhh here she is.....
I’ve just landed back from San Francisco, not really in the mood for games. "
That’s boring i’ll behave myself then. |
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By *uckymoo OP Man
over a year ago
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"Anyway im off before poochie starts on me as usually the case
Laters
Poochie isn’t even here?!
Ohhh here she is.....
I’ve just landed back from San Francisco, not really in the mood for games. "
I am only teasing you btw. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyway im off before poochie starts on me as usually the case
Laters
Poochie isn’t even here?!
Ohhh here she is.....
I’ve just landed back from San Francisco, not really in the mood for games.
I am only teasing you btw."
Let me get home and have a few drinks and I will be back on form!! |
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By *uckymoo OP Man
over a year ago
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"Anyway im off before poochie starts on me as usually the case
Laters
Poochie isn’t even here?!
Ohhh here she is.....
I’ve just landed back from San Francisco, not really in the mood for games.
I am only teasing you btw.
Let me get home and have a few drinks and I will be back on form!!"
Can’t wait
I can just imagine the passion between us when we finally get it on
Safe home sweetheart mwah |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyway im off before poochie starts on me as usually the case
Laters
Poochie isn’t even here?!
Ohhh here she is.....
I’ve just landed back from San Francisco, not really in the mood for games.
I am only teasing you btw.
Let me get home and have a few drinks and I will be back on form!!
Can’t wait
I can just imagine the passion between us when we finally get it on
Safe home sweetheart mwah"
and then he woke up...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm married and playing away and i don't see the advantage in keeping that fact quiet. I can understand why some people have a problem with this but if they do does it really need to be commented on? There are plenty more unattached candidates on here. Just pass us by and go after them instead.
There are many women who won't meet cheaters.
I am not aware of any women who won't meet people who aren't cheating.
Hence by admitting to cheating, you are reducing your already low odds of meeting a woman.
Hence, morality aside, the rational thing for a cheating mam on here is to lie about it.
That doesn't apply to cheating women as they will still get far more offers than they can cope with even if they admit to cheating.
I'd rather put honesty first than get laid under false pretences. If that reduces my odds of getting a meet then so be it. I see no problem with that.
That's fine and what you do is obviously a matter for you, but I have always found it strange that people deceiving their partners should make a big thing about. "honesty" on here. "
I understand that you might consider this somewhat hypocritical, in a way i agree. However, i don't see it as being that different to lying about height, endowment or whatever else people choose to say in order to get a meet. |
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"I think you'll find both married men and women on here OP. Everyone has a reason for being on Fab.
Personally, I don't want to judge anyone or call them names and will respect their reasons for being here. It's their choice. And their relationship, if they have one, is their business. After all, I'm not here for an affair."
This
People are far too quick to judge on situations they know nothing about, that in its self provides an excellent filter.
I'm sure there are both married women as well as men on here, and they will have their reasons I'm sure.
People's private relationships and situations have nothing to do with me, I'm just here for great sex, not to find the love of my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you'll find both married men and women on here OP. Everyone has a reason for being on Fab.
Personally, I don't want to judge anyone or call them names and will respect their reasons for being here. It's their choice. And their relationship, if they have one, is their business. After all, I'm not here for an affair.
This
People are far too quick to judge on situations they know nothing about, that in its self provides an excellent filter.
I'm sure there are both married women as well as men on here, and they will have their reasons I'm sure.
People's private relationships and situations have nothing to do with me, I'm just here for great sex, not to find the love of my life."
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't judge why or who is on here. What I do care about is being told the truth upfront.
There are people who don't want to be involved with those cheating and they should be given the information to be able to make a choice, whatever choice that is! |
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"I don't judge why or who is on here. What I do care about is being told the truth upfront.
There are people who don't want to be involved with those cheating and they should be given the information to be able to make a choice, whatever choice that is!"
Exactly my opinion. |
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"I'm married and playing away and i don't see the advantage in keeping that fact quiet. I can understand why some people have a problem with this but if they do does it really need to be commented on? There are plenty more unattached candidates on here. Just pass us by and go after them instead.
There are many women who won't meet cheaters.
I am not aware of any women who won't meet people who aren't cheating.
Hence by admitting to cheating, you are reducing your already low odds of meeting a woman.
Hence, morality aside, the rational thing for a cheating mam on here is to lie about it.
That doesn't apply to cheating women as they will still get far more offers than they can cope with even if they admit to cheating.
I'd rather put honesty first than get laid under false pretences. If that reduces my odds of getting a meet then so be it. I see no problem with that.
That's fine and what you do is obviously a matter for you, but I have always found it strange that people deceiving their partners should make a big thing about. "honesty" on here.
I understand that you might consider this somewhat hypocritical, in a way i agree. However, i don't see it as being that different to lying about height, endowment or whatever else people choose to say in order to get a meet."
Really, so saying you are six foot when you are actually five ten is morally equivalent to deceiving your partner into thinking they are in a monogamous relationship with you, when you are actually fucking random people off the Internet?
I've said it before, but one level I have no big issue about cheaters, what gets me is the crap excuses and equivocations. At the end of the day you think your personal sexual satisfaction is more important than honesty between you and your partner. At least be honest with yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Jesus. Not everyone is here to fuck everyone off the internet! Some people I’ve spoken to are just here to chat, some not. Why are people even bothered? Wish I had the time to worry about everyone else’s personal life! The post about the woman having 5 blokes shoot their load all over her face nearly made me throw up my bloody Frosties this morning but I managed to not comment! |
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Totally agree with the filter idea. It would mean I wouldn’t message people who are clearly not going to be interested.
"Can definitely see why people would and to be honest when I’ve chatted to married ones I’ve found them nicer and more respectful. Just my opinion. And people should quit with the married man bashing. There’s stuff on here that turns my stomach but I don’t decide to give my opinion on it if it doesn’t affect me. As long as people tell you their situation what the hell does it matter? Your choice to meet them or not.
Quite agree, everyone has their reasons for being on here, right or wrong, no-one had the right to judge unless you know the full story.
As there are so many attached people on here, some honest ones and some who just lie. Wouldn’t it be easier to have a filter on a profile. Yes I know this relies on honesty but at least attached could have the opportunity only approach people who were open to them.
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"I'm married and playing away and i don't see the advantage in keeping that fact quiet. I can understand why some people have a problem with this but if they do does it really need to be commented on? There are plenty more unattached candidates on here. Just pass us by and go after them instead.
There are many women who won't meet cheaters.
I am not aware of any women who won't meet people who aren't cheating.
Hence by admitting to cheating, you are reducing your already low odds of meeting a woman.
Hence, morality aside, the rational thing for a cheating mam on here is to lie about it.
That doesn't apply to cheating women as they will still get far more offers than they can cope with even if they admit to cheating.
I'd rather put honesty first than get laid under false pretences. If that reduces my odds of getting a meet then so be it. I see no problem with that.
That's fine and what you do is obviously a matter for you, but I have always found it strange that people deceiving their partners should make a big thing about. "honesty" on here.
I understand that you might consider this somewhat hypocritical, in a way i agree. However, i don't see it as being that different to lying about height, endowment or whatever else people choose to say in order to get a meet.
Really, so saying you are six foot when you are actually five ten is morally equivalent to deceiving your partner into thinking they are in a monogamous relationship with you, when you are actually fucking random people off the Internet?
I've said it before, but one level I have no big issue about cheaters, what gets me is the crap excuses and equivocations. At the end of the day you think your personal sexual satisfaction is more important than honesty between you and your partner. At least be honest with yourself. "
I give no reasons, make no excuses nor equivocations. I think perhaps you need to look at the comment that says you have no issue with cheating. |
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I haven’t read the thread (I’ll skip back later and have a skim) but I’m assuming the general theme is that they should be tarred and feathered.
My view? Any attached person whether male or female, married or not (as it’s not just marrieds that can cheat y’know! so can girlfriends / boyfriends / fiancés / fiancées etc) should disclose their position either up front or early in any correspondence so the other party can make an informed choice about who they want to meet! It’s not rocket science!
To answer the OP properly though - I think you can get dramarama with anyone whether married or not! Marital status does not necessarily influence whether they’re a ‘safe bet’ or not!  |
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"I'm married and playing away and i don't see the advantage in keeping that fact quiet. I can understand why some people have a problem with this but if they do does it really need to be commented on? There are plenty more unattached candidates on here. Just pass us by and go after them instead.
There are many women who won't meet cheaters.
I am not aware of any women who won't meet people who aren't cheating.
Hence by admitting to cheating, you are reducing your already low odds of meeting a woman.
Hence, morality aside, the rational thing for a cheating mam on here is to lie about it.
That doesn't apply to cheating women as they will still get far more offers than they can cope with even if they admit to cheating.
I'd rather put honesty first than get laid under false pretences. If that reduces my odds of getting a meet then so be it. I see no problem with that.
That's fine and what you do is obviously a matter for you, but I have always found it strange that people deceiving their partners should make a big thing about. "honesty" on here.
I understand that you might consider this somewhat hypocritical, in a way i agree. However, i don't see it as being that different to lying about height, endowment or whatever else people choose to say in order to get a meet.
Really, so saying you are six foot when you are actually five ten is morally equivalent to deceiving your partner into thinking they are in a monogamous relationship with you, when you are actually fucking random people off the Internet?
I've said it before, but one level I have no big issue about cheaters, what gets me is the crap excuses and equivocations. At the end of the day you think your personal sexual satisfaction is more important than honesty between you and your partner. At least be honest with yourself.
I give no reasons, make no excuses nor equivocations. I think perhaps you need to look at the comment that says you have no issue with cheating."
Well you said cheating was no different to lying about your height, which seems to me to be an excuse via minimisation.
Like I say, what gets me is not so much the cheating, but the stories people tell themselves. Anecdotally, I reckon the majority of "single" men on here have unknowing wives, partners or girlfriends and we've certainly played with guys we were pretty sure we're in that position
Our policy is don't ask, don't tell, which on one level is in itself a moral abdication. |
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"Jesus. Not everyone is here to fuck everyone off the internet! Some people I’ve spoken to are just here to chat, some not. Why are people even bothered? Wish I had the time to worry about everyone else’s personal life! The post about the woman having 5 blokes shoot their load all over her face nearly made me throw up my bloody Frosties this morning but I managed to not comment! "
You've commented now...
To answer the question, someone started a thread inviting discussion. Some of us are interested in the topic of discussion. It doesn't mean we are "worried" or we want to interfere in anyones personal life.
One might just as well ask why you are worried about people who have negative views on cheaters.
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"For people who go to clubs and randomly fuck anyone....do you ask their marital status first??"
As I said I try not to. If I talk to people first then I will try to find out but people lie. I won't with knowledge help someone cheat |
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