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Do you think this site is better suited to older people?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I ask this because I’ve had various messages from people telling me that I probably shouldn’t be on this website.
What’s the general consensus around young people being on this website? Be brutally honest.
P.S when I say young I mean 18-21 years old
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It isn't anything about this site or the next one, people's general opinion is that the age group you mention is way too young and inexperienced to enter the lifestyle and that means swinging with couples. You can meet singles anywhere and on specific dating websites. Generally couples will be older and may even have children in your age group.
That said, it's nobody else's business what you do. The club scene will probably afford more opportunities to meet couples if you are confident and courteous. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It isn't anything about this site or the next one, people's general opinion is that the age group you mention is way too young and inexperienced to enter the lifestyle and that means swinging with couples. You can meet singles anywhere and on specific dating websites. Generally couples will be older and may even have children in your age group.
That said, it's nobody else's business what you do. The club scene will probably afford more opportunities to meet couples if you are confident and courteous."
Yeah that does make sense. I can understand why it would put a lot of couples off.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You are more than welcome here.
Like all forums, it helps to have a thick skin at times. That sometimes develops more as you get older.
Good luck!"
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No, I don't think it's better suited to older people. I think there's a mid range of say 35 ish to 46 ish where people have much more success than others. Those of us at the older and younger ends of the scale tend to be slightly marginalised.
As for people telling you you shouldn't be on this site, who died and made them God? Ignore people who tell you what you should or shouldn't be doing, they're usually wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"One thing I would say (immediately doing what I said people shouldn't lol), don't make yourself too vulnerable.
Good luck."
Thank you for your comment. That’s very true. I appreciate the your response. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would agree with the club comment however I do know that for some clubs the rules are 21 and over so you would need to check for individual club rules."
Yeah I’ve noticed that too and that’s again a good point. Rules are rules but I think it’s a shame though because some of us younger people are quite mature.
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Hi OP and welcome.
I don't think this site is particularly suited to any age, it just so happens that more users on here are 30+ rather than younger.
For many of us swinging is something we decided to explore at a later stage - I was over 40.
When I was your age I was busy going out with my friends and trying to meet people in pubs and clubs. That doesn't mean it's the right or only way though. Things were very different back then and it was the only option for us.
Please don't get too disheartened if you struggle to get replies or if people tell you that you are too young. Most men struggle to get replies purely because there are just so many men on here. As for the age thing, you will be too young for many people on here. Many people have children or even grandchildren your age so wouldn't deep comfortable meeting younger people.
Your inexperience will definitely put some people off. Just try not to let the knockbacks upset you.
Good luck OP |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi OP and welcome.
I don't think this site is particularly suited to any age, it just so happens that more users on here are 30+ rather than younger.
For many of us swinging is something we decided to explore at a later stage - I was over 40.
When I was your age I was busy going out with my friends and trying to meet people in pubs and clubs. That doesn't mean it's the right or only way though. Things were very different back then and it was the only option for us.
Please don't get too disheartened if you struggle to get replies or if people tell you that you are too young. Most men struggle to get replies purely because there are just so many men on here. As for the age thing, you will be too young for many people on here. Many people have children or even grandchildren your age so wouldn't deep comfortable meeting younger people.
Your inexperience will definitely put some people off. Just try not to let the knockbacks upset you.
Good luck OP"
Thank you for the detailed reply Yorkie and I understand why my age might be an issue to some couples or women. It’s totally and utterly understandable.
Thanks for the luck haha |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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Well OP, you sound a very nice young man and there will be some who will meet you. I would say, still go out with your mates, rather than relying on this site , to meet people. I wish you luck  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well OP, you sound a very nice young man and there will be some who will meet you. I would say, still go out with your mates, rather than relying on this site , to meet people. I wish you luck "
Thank you! I appreciate the kind words. I’ll definitely still go out with my mates |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"definately more suited to us older more experienced members rather than the influx of 18 year olds there appears to be lately "
Thank you for taking the time to reply and I do understand where you are coming from. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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AHH sweetheart... This place is for anyone who is over 18 and wants to be here, don't listen to anyone saying you shouldn't be on here.
But the mother in me wants to say slow down and don't be in such a rush to pop your cherry. Save it for somebody special, you can't ever get it back once it's gone.
There are some very 'odd' people on here, just be wary and think about what you are doing. If it seems to good to be true it probably isn't true.
And one last note, you will need a thick skin and confidence and self esteem a mile high. Don't let the site make you cynical and jaded before your time. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Well OP, you sound a very nice young man and there will be some who will meet you. I would say, still go out with your mates, rather than relying on this site , to meet people. I wish you luck
Thank you! I appreciate the kind words. I’ll definitely still go out with my mates "
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"AHH sweetheart... This place is for anyone who is over 18 and wants to be here, don't listen to anyone saying you shouldn't be on here.
But the mother in me wants to say slow down and don't be in such a rush to pop your cherry. Save it for somebody special, you can't ever get it back once it's gone.
There are some very 'odd' people on here, just be wary and think about what you are doing. If it seems to good to be true it probably isn't true.
And one last note, you will need a thick skin and confidence and self esteem a mile high. Don't let the site make you cynical and jaded before your time."
What a lovely response  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"AHH sweetheart... This place is for anyone who is over 18 and wants to be here, don't listen to anyone saying you shouldn't be on here.
But the mother in me wants to say slow down and don't be in such a rush to pop your cherry. Save it for somebody special, you can't ever get it back once it's gone.
There are some very 'odd' people on here, just be wary and think about what you are doing. If it seems to good to be true it probably isn't true.
And one last note, you will need a thick skin and confidence and self esteem a mile high. Don't let the site make you cynical and jaded before your time."
Thank you for the kind words and I know, I’m in no rush at all to pop my cherry, it’ll happen with it happens. I appreciate all of the advice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP you are more than welcome on here. Not everyone will play with someone of your age but you have every right to be on here and enjoy it!
Good luck x"
Thank you for taking the time to reply and yeah I completely understand that not everyone will want to meet an 18 year old. |
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