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By *rBiggz_bunny OP Man over a year ago

skegness

you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

8/10 if I’m not interested I just ignore the message. It’s not rude to ignore a message. Do you reply to all your junk mail?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to reply. Then they would reply. Sometimes asking why, sometimes being abusive. So now I don't. My profile clearly states a no reply is a no thanks.

At the end of the day the result is the same, I don't want to converse or meet with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to reply. Then they would reply. Sometimes asking why, sometimes being abusive. So now I don't. My profile clearly states a no reply is a no thanks.

At the end of the day the result is the same, I don't want to converse or meet with them. "

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

OP. Why have you not replied to these people ? Very rude ! Sometimes ladies get far too many messages that they cannot keep up with them. It takes a while to reply to everyone and then men start asking why not and get abusive . So if people don't reply, it means that they are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP. Why have you not replied to these people ? Very rude ! Sometimes ladies get far too many messages that they cannot keep up with them. It takes a while to reply to everyone and then men start asking why not and get abusive . So if people don't reply, it means that they are not interested. "

Exactly. It’s in the Fab FAQs

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

When are fab going to introduce a standard thanks but no thanks button, You could group a load of messages at a time and with one hit reply to them all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

tip of the day.... I will carry on ignoring rather than get a message full of abuse about how I think I'm too good for this site....

if you don't like it don't send messages

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By *bonynivoryCouple over a year ago

market harborough

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

Oh I'm sorry, I just have all the time in the world to reply to every single junk message

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

It isn't just as easy to reply.

The following is from fab FAQs

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

Seeing as you're only looking for females, I'm guessing you reply to all the gay and bi guys that ask if they can suck your cock with a polite response and answer any further messages equally as politely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why is the title 'contradictions?'

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Exactly. It’s in the Fab FAQs

Just for curiosity , did you read my message ?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

Trust me, ppl are not that easy or polite, and no in my own experience they don't leave you alone.

So thanks for your little pearls of wisdom, but I'll carry on ignoring these ppl you speak of, and avoid the barrage of abuse that comes with trying to explain why they're not my type

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If after 3 weeks its bugging you that much dude I suggest it's not the site for you.

good luck tho.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Tip of the day read the FAQs when you join a site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

If someone replied..... “ you’re not attractive and I would never sleep with you “ ....would this make you feel better ?

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By *iffaWoman over a year ago

wherever

Na I’ll stick with not replying because I just don’t want to

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Nah. Delete. More final than an ignore.

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By *vilgasamWoman over a year ago

The dot in the i

Nah, it’s my choice wether I reply or not, some I do, others I don’t, what’s that old saying, ‘my attitude is based on how you treat me’

Have you seen some of the messages some people send?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When are fab going to introduce a standard thanks but no thanks button, You could group a load of messages at a time and with one hit reply to them all"

Bloody Genius idea...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"8/10 if I’m not interested I just ignore the message. It’s not rude to ignore a message. Do you reply to all your junk mail? "

agree, I’d spend half my life replying to unwanted msgs otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dude you kinda shot yourself in the foot with this post eh read the fad faqs it does state a no reply means no interest i do sympathise with u i send alot of messages out and dont get a reply but hay thats the way the cookie crumbles here i take the hint and move on no point dwelling on rejection enjoy what fab is besides put yourself in a single woman in fabs shoes would you reply no thanks to every person who messages you hmmm i doubt it

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

I misread this as contractions.. thought someone was having a happy event

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

Because I’d rather channel my time and energy into speaking with the people I am interested in than justifying via endless messages why I’m not. Or responding to abuse.

Especially when I’m clear what I’m looking for and get ‘I know I’m married/have a huge beard/heavily pierced/miles away/60+/only 5 ft but...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

Lol I'm sorry but we have done this got abuse for it on many occasions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If everybody did actually reply, you'd probably get fed up sorting through them all. There would be thousands right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If everybody did actually reply, you'd probably get fed up sorting through them all. There would be thousands right?"

True, considering most people that message have even read our profile why would we reply to them as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am I the only one who finds it amusing that you've all replied to the OP?

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By *ewrocksWoman over a year ago

button moon

No. I'll use my time how I want to. I'm not going to waste it by responding to messages from guys who clearly haven't bothered to read my profile.

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By *rBiggz_bunny OP Man over a year ago

skegness

i apologise to the ones that litterally get 100s of messages... in all honesty, i didnt know it was that bad

i can see why yous dont reply, its to my undsetamding that if theres 100 messages you dont get to see them all.

what about the ones you actually read tho?

i like the person that said it clearly states in her profile. good idea

apologies again girl's

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

No, YOU have a think and read the site rules and faq section. I think we are all getting fed up with repetitive entitled threads like this. People run their profiles how it suits them. Get over it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time

No, YOU have a think and read the site rules and faq section. I think we are all getting fed up with repetitive entitled threads like this. People run their profiles how it suits them. Get over it. "

Yes, we are! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When are fab going to introduce a standard thanks but no thanks button, You could group a load of messages at a time and with one hit reply to them all"

Good idea

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Now, I strongly suggest to reply and keep replying to every poster on your thread so you aren't being rude to us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you reply and then decide to put filters on in the future (which would normally stop these people from messaging) they can still message as you have spoken to them in the past so answering hundred of men a day would let them all get through the filters! Pointless

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"When are fab going to introduce a standard thanks but no thanks button, You could group a load of messages at a time and with one hit reply to them all

Good idea "

No as it would only give them something else to start whiny threads about lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When are fab going to introduce a standard thanks but no thanks button, You could group a load of messages at a time and with one hit reply to them all

Good idea "

People still wouldn’t be satisfied though. We didn’t type the message ourselves, which means we put no effort in. We may as well ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do try to say no thank you most of the time. Its polite but at the same time I don't have time to say it to everyone. I'd like to think you think no response means a simple... NO THANK YOU op

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you are reading profiles and meet all their requirements, then send a nice message and still don’t get a reply the only reason must be they don’t find you attractive. Would you like to be told that?

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

And the award for today's please give me closure thread.

My tip of the day op delete your sent folder that way you've no idea if it's read deleted unopened. Concentrate on your inbox that way you get to decide read reply read ignore read delete.

Another tip.. if you're swamped with folk messaging that haven't read your profile are outwith your preferences .. use the site tools.. message filters gender blocking ..then search for those you seek.. after all you know better than the profile description you provide as to whom you seek.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And the award for today's please give me closure thread.

My tip of the day op delete your sent folder that way you've no idea if it's read deleted unopened. Concentrate on your inbox that way you get to decide read reply read ignore read delete.

I’m not swamped with messages at all, my filters work well. I ignore because too many times I’ve had abuse for a polite rejection, or men trying to convince me to give them a shot

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"If you reply and then decide to put filters on in the future (which would normally stop these people from messaging) they can still message as you have spoken to them in the past so answering hundred of men a day would let them all get through the filters! Pointless

That's what the block button is for

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

That's what the block button is for

If profiles were actually read by people, particularly men, we wouldn't need filters or blocks would we?

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"And the award for today's please give me closure thread.

My tip of the day op delete your sent folder that way you've no idea if it's read deleted unopened. Concentrate on your inbox that way you get to decide read reply read ignore read delete.

I’m not swamped with messages at all, my filters work well. I ignore because too many times I’ve had abuse for a polite rejection, or men trying to convince me to give them a shot "

OK.. so the site tools are working

those that are saying they get swamped perhaps they should apply the filters .

FYI.. I've not suggested anyone need reply for whatever reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's what the block button is for

I personally find the block button rude and guys would hate being blocked after a polite message. Also, I might converse with these people in the future, for example off the forums so I don’t want to block everyone I’m not attracted to. I save my block button for those that truly disgust me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And the award for today's please give me closure thread.

My tip of the day op delete your sent folder that way you've no idea if it's read deleted unopened. Concentrate on your inbox that way you get to decide read reply read ignore read delete.

I’m not swamped with messages at all, my filters work well. I ignore because too many times I’ve had abuse for a polite rejection, or men trying to convince me to give them a shot

OK.. so the site tools are working

those that are saying they get swamped perhaps they should apply the filters .

FYI.. I've not suggested anyone need reply for whatever reason.

Oh I know!!

There’s just plenty reasons why people wouldn’t reply, I’m just lazy half the time

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

That's what the block button is for

If profiles were actually read by people, particularly men, we wouldn't need filters or blocks would we?

Well in the imperfect internet world we live in it makes sense to use them.. as a description is open to interpretation. obviously in the real world we don't need to lock our doors or cars ...because everyone respects our boundar...oh wait ..yeah we do. Cause some folk just don't care.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

I do this as i wouldnt like it done to me.

However even after ive made my apologies and excused myself

They still persist in sending messages and i have no option but to block.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

That's what the block button is for

You choose what tools you use and how ..folk that are swamped and complain about it..the site provides tools to reduce the volume..if folk choose not to use them ...their choice

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Am I the only one who finds it amusing that you've all replied to the OP?

Am I the only one who finds it amusing that the op hasn't replied to any of the posters on his own thread?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And the award for today's please give me closure thread.

My tip of the day op delete your sent folder that way you've no idea if it's read deleted unopened. Concentrate on your inbox that way you get to decide read reply read ignore read delete.

I’m not swamped with messages at all, my filters work well. I ignore because too many times I’ve had abuse for a polite rejection, or men trying to convince me to give them a shot

OK.. so the site tools are working

those that are saying they get swamped perhaps they should apply the filters .

FYI.. I've not suggested anyone need reply for whatever reason.

I find the filters useless. I don’t want to block all men I want them to read my profile and message if they’re interested. I don’t care if someone is not verified or a newbie as everyone has to start someone. I don’t care if they don’t have photos on display as long as they attached one to their message and I have absolutely no interest whether they are a site supporter or not (plus I can’t use this one as I’m not!).

I’d like to see filters for size, body type, distance they are from me or that they have filled their profile not just three words such as “fill in later”.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And the award for today's please give me closure thread.

My tip of the day op delete your sent folder that way you've no idea if it's read deleted unopened. Concentrate on your inbox that way you get to decide read reply read ignore read delete.

I’m not swamped with messages at all, my filters work well. I ignore because too many times I’ve had abuse for a polite rejection, or men trying to convince me to give them a shot

OK.. so the site tools are working

those that are saying they get swamped perhaps they should apply the filters .

FYI.. I've not suggested anyone need reply for whatever reason.

I’d like to see filters for size, body type, distance they are from me or that they have filled their profile not just three words such as “fill in later”.

Filters for body type wouldn’t work. One persons ‘curvy’ could be another persons ‘slim’ or the complete opposite

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes messages get missed so I often send a second but mention that I’ve slready messaged and accept if they weren’t interested the first time and always consider a delete a no thanks.

Also due to how barren my inbox is I do actually take the time to messsge back the gay or bi men to thank them for the interest but no thanks

The amount of messages women receive there’s not enough hours in the day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time "

Were you wagging a finger at us when you wrote that, and peering sternly over a pair of spectacles.

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By *rBiggz_bunny OP Man over a year ago

skegness

delete! thats probz one that works tbf lol

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By *rBiggz_bunny OP Man over a year ago

skegness

"you know ppl, its just as easy and more polite to reply with "sorry your not my type" rather than just ignore it, then wonder why ppl get persistent and moan about it

tip of the day "just reply" and majority of the time they will leave you alone.

trust me, ppl are alot easier to understand that, rather than just being ignored!!

have a think before you do it next time

Were you wagging a finger at us when you wrote that, and peering sternly over a pair of spectacles."

no it wasnt that at all. tbh, i never realised yous get 100s of messages a day.

sorry if you thought i was being a c**t haha (i am kind of one tho)

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By *rBiggz_bunny OP Man over a year ago

skegness

the filters thing is a good idea,,, or an automated response wpild be good i suppose. would stop abuse mail that yous all receive

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By *entish79Man over a year ago

Glasgow

"8/10 if I’m not interested I just ignore the message. It’s not rude to ignore a message. Do you reply to all your junk mail? "

I can kind of see both sides. Women must get so much mail, that to reply to it all, even with a quick ‘no thanks’, would be a neverending task.

But to be fair, it’s not quite the same as replying to junk mail. Junk mail is unsolicited. But women on here are kind of saying ‘I’m potentially interested in meeting guys. If you like what you see, send me a message’.

I suppose to a degree it depends on how inviting a profile is, and how decent the message is. Although even then, maybe not if volume of messages just trumps everything else.

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By *rBiggz_bunny OP Man over a year ago

skegness

the filters thing is a good idea,,, or an automated response wpild be good i suppose. would stop abuse mail that yous all receive

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By *entish79Man over a year ago

Glasgow

"I used to reply. Then they would reply. Sometimes asking why, sometimes being abusive. So now I don't. My profile clearly states a no reply is a no thanks.

At the end of the day the result is the same, I don't want to converse or meet with them. "

No reply meaning no thanks is fair enough I think. But it’s difficult from the guy side to know if a no reply is a no thanks, or if the message just wasn’t seen, because Fab only displays the first X messages, so messages can fall off the bottom and remain unseen quite easily if women are getting a lot. At least, that’s my understanding.

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