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I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
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Lol your only 40. I didnt meet the love of my life until i was 41. I started the menspause at 50 which gives you a few years. Plus all the other stuff just happens over a period of time. You dont just wake up old and knackered. Even if you wait till the menapause has past your still going to be getting older every day |
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"For God's sake woman you're only 40! 
Just enjoy life and if you meet the right person they will accept you and love you "warts n all".
Nita"
As above,
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She took the words out of my mouth,
Just enjoy yourself |
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"For God's sake woman you're only 40!
Just enjoy life and if you meet the right person they will accept you and love you "warts n all".
Nita"
Yeah, but there are lots of women who hit the 'pause around my age. It's not an impossibility. I hate the thought of finding myself in a place I wasn't expecting (with another human) and nature impacting negatively. I genuinely question what's the point? |
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What you need to do is get rid of the dog and start a collecting loads of stray cats, Don't forget to mumble random words when walking about, It also helps if you don't wash your clothes for a few months,
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"For God's sake woman you're only 40!
Just enjoy life and if you meet the right person they will accept you and love you "warts n all".
Nita
Yeah, but there are lots of women who hit the 'pause around my age. It's not an impossibility. I hate the thought of finding myself in a place I wasn't expecting (with another human) and nature impacting negatively. I genuinely question what's the point?"
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?"
...Should we just put the blue screen around you and do the decent thing?  |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?"
Its finding someone who wants the good, the bad and the bits we try to throw away... Someone who can both accept and enhance who we are.
You are a very attractive woman, intelligent and witty. The kind any half decent man would jump at now, let alone in another 10, 20 years.
Personally if i lived closer id be trying to persuade you on a date if i knew you through here or not. |
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"For God's sake woman you're only 40!
Just enjoy life and if you meet the right person they will accept you and love you "warts n all".
Nita
Yeah, but there are lots of women who hit the 'pause around my age. It's not an impossibility. I hate the thought of finding myself in a place I wasn't expecting (with another human) and nature impacting negatively. I genuinely question what's the point?"
I don't really think when you hit menopause has any impact on whether a relationship is worth pursuing.
It's going to happen sooner or later and you shouldn't allow it to get in the way of what or who you want to do in your life.
I've been pre-menopausal for many years and don't let it stop me. I get hot flushes a lot and my cycle is no existent...
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Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off! |
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"Lol your only 40. I didnt meet the love of my life until i was 41. I started the menspause at 50 which gives you a few years. Plus all the other stuff just happens over a period of time. You dont just wake up old and knackered. Even if you wait till the menapause has past your still going to be getting older every day"
I hear what you're saying, I just worry I'll be an inconvenience ya know? |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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I didn't meet Cheffy til I was 43... I'm now 48, I have a mental illness, I'm menopausal, my joints click and creak, I'm overweight and I found out 3 weeks ago I have type 2 diabetes! Jesus, I should just wobble my way to the knackers yard now! But he loves me just the way I am.
40 is young... Relax and enjoy life, what will be, will be. |
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"What you need to do is get rid of the dog and start a collecting loads of stray cats, Don't forget to mumble random words when walking about, It also helps if you don't wash your clothes for a few months,
That should scare of any potential partner "
I'm not a cat person, unless they're dog-cats. I like dog-cats. The ones that greet ya when you get home, and treat you like they actually like you, rather than like what you can do for them! |
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I never felt old until I joined this site! The amount of messages I get saying something along the lines of 'are you really 40?!' or 'you have a great body for a 40 year old!' I know it's meant as a backhanded compliment but it always leaves me feeling a bit cold. Apparently anyone over 40 is meant to be knackered and worn out!
Not yet, OP, not yet.
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"Lol your only 40. I didnt meet the love of my life until i was 41. I started the menspause at 50 which gives you a few years. Plus all the other stuff just happens over a period of time. You dont just wake up old and knackered. Even if you wait till the menapause has past your still going to be getting older every day
I hear what you're saying, I just worry I'll be an inconvenience ya know? "
Life and love goes on menopause or not.
None of us become an inconvenience simply because of a natural occurrence that comes with getting older.
We only started swinging at 40 and I reckon we have more fun now than ever. Don't let unfounded fears hold you back.
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"For God's sake woman you're only 40!
Just enjoy life and if you meet the right person they will accept you and love you "warts n all".
Nita
Yeah, but there are lots of women who hit the 'pause around my age. It's not an impossibility. I hate the thought of finding myself in a place I wasn't expecting (with another human) and nature impacting negatively. I genuinely question what's the point?"
I didn’t meet mr until I was just approaching my 51st birthday, and I’m just starting the menopause. He accepts me for all I am. And he’s no spring chicken so we’re getting older together x |
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"What you need to do is get rid of the dog and start a collecting loads of stray cats, Don't forget to mumble random words when walking about, It also helps if you don't wash your clothes for a few months,
That should scare of any potential partner
I'm not a cat person, unless they're dog-cats. I like dog-cats. The ones that greet ya when you get home, and treat you like they actually like you, rather than like what you can do for them!"
Nah peach, you're right, wait till you've got no teeth left and give a gummy one.  |
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?...Should we just put the blue screen around you and do the decent thing? "
Fuck it, send me the way of Old Yeller |
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"You’re still young, when you find the right one they’ll love you no matter what. Plenty of years ahead of you, the best is yet to come x
I do hope so Ange. Xx"
You are a beautiful person don’t forget that lady, any man is going to be very lucky to have you x |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I never felt old until I joined this site! The amount of messages I get saying something along the lines of 'are you really 40?!' or 'you have a great body for a 40 year old!' I know it's meant as a backhanded compliment but it always leaves me feeling a bit cold. Apparently anyone over 40 is meant to be knackered and worn out!
Not yet, OP, not yet.
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Its a copy and paste...I think I get the same ones |
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"I never felt old until I joined this site! The amount of messages I get saying something along the lines of 'are you really 40?!' or 'you have a great body for a 40 year old!' I know it's meant as a backhanded compliment but it always leaves me feeling a bit cold. Apparently anyone over 40 is meant to be knackered and worn out!
Not yet, OP, not yet.
Its a copy and paste...I think I get the same ones "
Usually from men only a few years younger, the swines.  |
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?
Its finding someone who wants the good, the bad and the bits we try to throw away... Someone who can both accept and enhance who we are.
You are a very attractive woman, intelligent and witty. The kind any half decent man would jump at now, let alone in another 10, 20 years.
Personally if i lived closer id be trying to persuade you on a date if i knew you through here or not. "
I do know I'm in my prime, I've not felt this happy within myself for as long as I can remember. Probably just the whole "how long before shit goes wonky donkey?" monster creeping into my thoughts. |
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"Lol your only 40. I didnt meet the love of my life until i was 41. I started the menspause at 50 which gives you a few years. Plus all the other stuff just happens over a period of time. You dont just wake up old and knackered. Even if you wait till the menapause has past your still going to be getting older every day
I hear what you're saying, I just worry I'll be an inconvenience ya know? "
Erm.. what me grandpappy said to me
was turn your weakness into your strong point (he never has,was too busy getting his fingertips all yellow on fag ends & dreaming of his next beer away from the missu'S) but you get my point |
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?
Its finding someone who wants the good, the bad and the bits we try to throw away... Someone who can both accept and enhance who we are.
You are a very attractive woman, intelligent and witty. The kind any half decent man would jump at now, let alone in another 10, 20 years.
Personally if i lived closer id be trying to persuade you on a date if i knew you through here or not.
I do know I'm in my prime, I've not felt this happy within myself for as long as I can remember. Probably just the whole "how long before shit goes wonky donkey?" monster creeping into my thoughts."
I think quite a few people feel that way at 40...the trick is tell the monster to bugger off 'cause you're having too much fun
If you can...
Nita |
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"For God's sake woman you're only 40!
Just enjoy life and if you meet the right person they will accept you and love you "warts n all".
Nita
Yeah, but there are lots of women who hit the 'pause around my age. It's not an impossibility. I hate the thought of finding myself in a place I wasn't expecting (with another human) and nature impacting negatively. I genuinely question what's the point?"
My 'pause started when i was 40 and i started swinging at 46..it sent my sex drive soaring so i had to do something..
Now its all over and I'm still here so maybe an early one would be good for you too..provided you sail through it like i did
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"I didn't meet Cheffy til I was 43... I'm now 48, I have a mental illness, I'm menopausal, my joints click and creak, I'm overweight and I found out 3 weeks ago I have type 2 diabetes! Jesus, I should just wobble my way to the knackers yard now! But he loves me just the way I am.
40 is young... Relax and enjoy life, what will be, will be."
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"I never felt old until I joined this site! The amount of messages I get saying something along the lines of 'are you really 40?!' or 'you have a great body for a 40 year old!' I know it's meant as a backhanded compliment but it always leaves me feeling a bit cold. Apparently anyone over 40 is meant to be knackered and worn out!
Not yet, OP, not yet.
Its a copy and paste...I think I get the same ones
Usually from men only a few years younger, the swines. "
Yes!! Bad fucknuggets not good fucknuggets. |
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"I never felt old until I joined this site! The amount of messages I get saying something along the lines of 'are you really 40?!' or 'you have a great body for a 40 year old!' I know it's meant as a backhanded compliment but it always leaves me feeling a bit cold. Apparently anyone over 40 is meant to be knackered and worn out!
Not yet, OP, not yet.
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Hey wait until you hit the big 50 and nobody wants to let you message or contact them anymore that really is shit. I chat to a 60 year old lady on here and she echoes a lot of what you say but she has a wicked sense of humour and is more fun to chat to then many other people on here |
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I know what you mean,but then I am 51 and not your age. I'm trying to find a relationship,but being at the early stages of the menopause it's not a great time for me to be looking for a man. Besides I feel like I'm getting too set in my ways and can't see myself sharing all my life with someone again.
You're not my age so none of that is irrelevant,I liked my early 40's (apart from the divorce thingy) and felt pretty good.
You need to look forward to anything or anyone who springs into your life and grab it with both hands. You look great with a personality to go with it,this is your life take whatever comes your way.
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"For God's sake woman you're only 40!
Just enjoy life and if you meet the right person they will accept you and love you "warts n all".
Nita
Yeah, but there are lots of women who hit the 'pause around my age. It's not an impossibility. I hate the thought of finding myself in a place I wasn't expecting (with another human) and nature impacting negatively. I genuinely question what's the point?
My 'pause started when i was 40 and i started swinging at 46..it sent my sex drive soaring so i had to do something..
Now its all over and I'm still here so maybe an early one would be good for you too..provided you sail through it like i did
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Fingers and toes fucking crossed! I think I worked it out. I think I worry that before they really get to know the me I am, the psycho 'pausal me may creep in and they ain't prepared to hang about for the me me to come back because they don't know the me me properly yet. |
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"What you need to do is get rid of the dog and start a collecting loads of stray cats, Don't forget to mumble random words when walking about, It also helps if you don't wash your clothes for a few months,
That should scare of any potential partner "
I have six cats..... I wash my clothes at least once a year.... Nice and crusty and I'm not muttering..... I'm talking quietly so as the goblins don't hear it they pinch my thoughts..... I've never had a problem... I embrace my uniqueness... And the itchy bits |
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"I know what you mean,but then I am 51 and not your age. I'm trying to find a relationship,but being at the early stages of the menopause it's not a great time for me to be looking for a man. Besides I feel like I'm getting too set in my ways and can't see myself sharing all my life with someone again.
You're not my age so none of that is irrelevant,I liked my early 40's (apart from the divorce thingy) and felt pretty good.
You need to look forward to anything or anyone who springs into your life and grab it with both hands. You look great with a personality to go with it,this is your life take whatever comes your way.
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I wouldn't want you to think I was trying to turn ya if I gave you a big squishy hug. Thank you |
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"What you need to do is get rid of the dog and start a collecting loads of stray cats, Don't forget to mumble random words when walking about, It also helps if you don't wash your clothes for a few months,
That should scare of any potential partner
I have six cats..... I wash my clothes at least once a year.... Nice and crusty and I'm not muttering..... I'm talking quietly so as the goblins don't hear it they pinch my thoughts..... I've never had a problem... I embrace my uniqueness... And the itchy bits"
Sis? |
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You're over thinking things and sending your own head up your arse. We're 40 and as you say, you feel great so that will show so they will love you warts an all. |
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I got no hope hit 40 this year so far hit the peri menopause, no sex drive, lost my marbles, got glasses and a set of false teeth lol I feel more like a pensioner lol may as well give up now x |
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"You're over thinking things and sending your own head up your arse. We're 40 and as you say, you feel great so that will show so they will love you warts an all. "
Me? Overthink?
Never 
Yeahhhhhh I do have a tendency to do that at times. Oddly enough only when I'm thinking about myself. I give other peeps awesome advice |
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"I got no hope hit 40 this year so far hit the peri menopause, no sex drive, lost my marbles, got glasses and a set of false teeth lol I feel more like a pensioner lol may as well give up now x"
But aren't you relieved you're getting it all out of the way? |
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"You're over thinking things and sending your own head up your arse. We're 40 and as you say, you feel great so that will show so they will love you warts an all.
Me? Overthink?
Never
Yeahhhhhh I do have a tendency to do that at times. Oddly enough only when I'm thinking about myself. I give other peeps awesome advice "
Smell what you're cooking. What would you say to you? |
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"I got no hope hit 40 this year so far hit the peri menopause, no sex drive, lost my marbles, got glasses and a set of false teeth lol I feel more like a pensioner lol may as well give up now x
But aren't you relieved you're getting it all out of the way?"
I will let you know when I hit 50. I can't complain have had a good innings lol |
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?"
Get a life my dear. In the nicest possible way xx.
I have all my own teeth. I dnt have grey hair. I have no fillings. I do amazing slut drops on the dance floor. I walk 3 miles a day. I go to the gym 4 times a week. I fuck like 30 yr old I'm told and sometimes they can be.
My point is you are a young lady with masses of time on your hands enjoy my lovely xx |
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?"
I'm 50 and understand your thoughts and concerns, I realise now that I will be alone for the rest of my life and have almost come to terms with it, apart from on "down days"
BUT, you're still young and an attractive young lady, so if you're open to it, you still could find "the one" x |
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I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next ! |
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"For God's sake woman you're only 40!
Just enjoy life and if you meet the right person they will accept you and love you "warts n all".
Nita"
I agree with this! I’m 57 and a singleton so lady you have 17 years on me!! |
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"Lol your only 40. I didnt meet the love of my life until i was 41. I started the menspause at 50 which gives you a few years. Plus all the other stuff just happens over a period of time. You dont just wake up old and knackered. Even if you wait till the menapause has past your still going to be getting older every day
I hear what you're saying, I just worry I'll be an inconvenience ya know? "
At your worse you’ll still be worth it to the right person.
Besides what do you want? Dont you think there’s some person out there who’d feel priveldge to stand by your side ... even if it’s with a cold flannel for those flushes |
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?"
They’d be lucky to have you I reckon!  |
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I've never thought about the menopause aspect of growing older in terms of forming a new relationship.
But what does worry me sometimes is the thought of potentially being quite lonely as I grow older - as an only child and most likely not to have children now. Obviously it's a case of forming strong friendships as you go through life but it's there as a concern - as someone else said, on the down days. |
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?"
yes wait until you've got the blue rinse |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next ! "
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person! |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person! "
Look at you!!!! I'd say they would welcome any potential doom, and quite rightly so ! |
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"I've never thought about the menopause aspect of growing older in terms of forming a new relationship.
But what does worry me sometimes is the thought of potentially being quite lonely as I grow older - as an only child and most likely not to have children now. Obviously it's a case of forming strong friendships as you go through life but it's there as a concern - as someone else said, on the down days. "
It's just something that popped in my head. I almost feel like I'd be saving a potential soul from drama!
I'm not afraid of being alone, I am afraid of being injured and dying on the floor in agony with nobody to find me. |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Look at you!!!! I'd say they would welcome any potential doom, and quite rightly so ! "
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"Oh god you've just made me so depressed, I'm newly single , same sort of age, I was hoping life really does begin at 40. Now I feel doomed!"
Lol try not to despair. x |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person! "
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist.
Can I suggest that you try and talk to some women who had positive experiences.
Growing older isn't a negative experience unless you make it so.
I think its really sad that at nearly 22 years younger than me you're giving up on what you want out of life until all the loose bits have dropped off .
Also anyone you partner up with will be growing old along with you.
Go for it, life is short. |
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"Oh god you've just made me so depressed, I'm newly single , same sort of age, I was hoping life really does begin at 40. Now I feel doomed!"
Oooops
Like I said, I'm happier now with me than I've been for as long as I can remember, it's just the thoughts that sometimes twist my noggin up. |
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Bloody hell woman you are only 40 that means you have at least another 20 years plus of life in you before any partner has to think about putting you in a home.
We have enjoyed growing old disgracefully and intend to continue the trend for many years to come  |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist.
Can I suggest that you try and talk to some women who had positive experiences.
Growing older isn't a negative experience unless you make it so.
I think its really sad that at nearly 22 years younger than me you're giving up on what you want out of life until all the loose bits have dropped off .
Also anyone you partner up with will be growing old along with you.
Go for it, life is short."
I'm very aware that myself and hormone changes really don't get on. She turns into a mini beastie born of the spawn of Satan himself. |
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"Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off!"
I find imperfections on others endearing |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist.."
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life! |
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"Bloody hell woman you are only 40 that means you have at least another 20 years plus of life in you before any partner has to think about putting you in a home.
We have enjoyed growing old disgracefully and intend to continue the trend for many years to come "
Disgracefully is the best kind |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life! "
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"Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off!
I find imperfections on others endearing "
Even the dangly old man balls and random hairs growing out of our ears |
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"Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off!
I find imperfections on others endearing
Even the dangly old man balls and random hairs growing out of our ears "
Providing they're attached to someone spesh. |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist.
Can I suggest that you try and talk to some women who had positive experiences.
Growing older isn't a negative experience unless you make it so.
I think its really sad that at nearly 22 years younger than me you're giving up on what you want out of life until all the loose bits have dropped off .
Also anyone you partner up with will be growing old along with you.
Go for it, life is short.
I'm very aware that myself and hormone changes really don't get on. She turns into a mini beastie born of the spawn of Satan himself. "
Why not have a chat with a sympathetic gp now? |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life! "
that was my mum. She was 40 one day she was having periods and then they just stopped and that was it |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Show off! "
It's important to realise it's not a problem for everyone....I might lose my car keys more but that's really the only kind of thing...oh and it's harder to keep the weight off!  |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life! "
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period. |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist.
Can I suggest that you try and talk to some women who had positive experiences.
Growing older isn't a negative experience unless you make it so.
I think its really sad that at nearly 22 years younger than me you're giving up on what you want out of life until all the loose bits have dropped off .
Also anyone you partner up with will be growing old along with you.
Go for it, life is short.
I'm very aware that myself and hormone changes really don't get on. She turns into a mini beastie born of the spawn of Satan himself.
Why not have a chat with a sympathetic gp now?"
Not a bad idea, especially as I should have had my 40 and over MOT back in November. |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period."
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope! |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Show off!
It's important to realise it's not a problem for everyone....I might lose my car keys more but that's really the only kind of thing...oh and it's harder to keep the weight off! "
I can't remember words and I have a lot more hairs on my chin. |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Show off!
It's important to realise it's not a problem for everyone....I might lose my car keys more but that's really the only kind of thing...oh and it's harder to keep the weight off! "
I just know I'm gonna gain 30 stone in a day and wake one morning with a full beard! |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist.
Can I suggest that you try and talk to some women who had positive experiences.
Growing older isn't a negative experience unless you make it so.
I think its really sad that at nearly 22 years younger than me you're giving up on what you want out of life until all the loose bits have dropped off .
Also anyone you partner up with will be growing old along with you.
Go for it, life is short.
I'm very aware that myself and hormone changes really don't get on. She turns into a mini beastie born of the spawn of Satan himself. "
i have bi polar there is some evidence to suggest it can become worse in menapause
Mine did. My mental health got set back by ten years but with the help of professionals and medication im getting through it. Menapause isnt a life or death situation |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!"
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Show off!
It's important to realise it's not a problem for everyone....I might lose my car keys more but that's really the only kind of thing...oh and it's harder to keep the weight off!
I just know I'm gonna gain 30 stone in a day and wake one morning with a full beard! "
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Time to share some truths about female hormones and most GPs hasn't got a clue.
Most women have an imbalance between progesterone and oestrogen, being low in progesterone especially if you used contraceptives. A way of restoring this imbalance is to use progesterone creme (bio-identical) and when the pause start making known use oestrogen patches (bio-identical) + progesterone capsules.  |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for "
Well if that's all that happens to me, I'll be no different to how I am now! Xx |
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"Time to share some truths about female hormones and most GPs hasn't got a clue.
Most women have an imbalance between progesterone and oestrogen, being low in progesterone especially if you used contraceptives. A way of restoring this imbalance is to use progesterone creme (bio-identical) and when the pause start making known use oestrogen patches (bio-identical) + progesterone capsules. "
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist.
Can I suggest that you try and talk to some women who had positive experiences.
Growing older isn't a negative experience unless you make it so.
I think its really sad that at nearly 22 years younger than me you're giving up on what you want out of life until all the loose bits have dropped off .
Also anyone you partner up with will be growing old along with you.
Go for it, life is short."
Was going to say this. Once I got my contraception sorted out my main menopausal symptom has been a massively increased sex drive. Either the sex or the hormone changes (or the Yorkshire air) are giving me BETTER hair and I feel fairly stable mood wise.
Since 40 I had my second child, took a second Masters course, moved to an area I love rather than biding time in a region I disliked, separated, fallen deeply, albeit briefly, in love etc. and I don’t feel I’ve been packing things in by any means. There have been plenty of shitty things too, but they haven’t been age related. There is still plenty of life to live at 40 and I would have thought you will make the most of it! |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for
Well if that's all that happens to me, I'll be no different to how I am now! Xx"
 I know this is a serious thread but you're making me laugh.
You think you've got problems,I looked down at my legs today and my knees are getting wrinkles |
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"I just know I'm gonna gain 30 stone in a day and wake one morning with a full beard! "
Look on the bright side, you might be able to get work as a Brian Blessed lookalike. |
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"One day i was in the bath and looked down at my nipples and they werent there they must of dropped two inches over night"
Yeah but pregnancy can do that too.. |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for
Well if that's all that happens to me, I'll be no different to how I am now! Xx
I know this is a serious thread but you're making me laugh.
You think you've got problems,I looked down at my legs today and my knees are getting wrinkles "
It started coz I was just thinking is all. I know I'm a fucker when I'm due on, can't take any kind of contraception due to it sending me fucking doolally. Like I could stab some cunt it the eyeball with a cocktail stick sent like a spitball from a maccy d's straw just for the crack.... I'd cry about it if I really did do it and probably turn myself into the police, throwing myself down in a meteorological toddler tantrum whilst proclaiming "I deserve to be locked away from all life form.... I'm not right in the brain" kinda thang.
So to say I'm concerned about forthcoming changes in my hormones is a very real thought! |
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"I just know I'm gonna gain 30 stone in a day and wake one morning with a full beard!
Look on the bright side, you might be able to get work as a Brian Blessed lookalike. "
Now that would be dandy! |
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"One day i was in the bath and looked down at my nipples and they werent there they must of dropped two inches over night
Yeah but pregnancy can do that too.."
This is what happened to me. They grew massive and then deflated taking my nipples with them |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for
Well if that's all that happens to me, I'll be no different to how I am now! Xx
I know this is a serious thread but you're making me laugh.
You think you've got problems,I looked down at my legs today and my knees are getting wrinkles
It started coz I was just thinking is all. I know I'm a fucker when I'm due on, can't take any kind of contraception due to it sending me fucking doolally. Like I could stab some cunt it the eyeball with a cocktail stick sent like a spitball from a maccy d's straw just for the crack.... I'd cry about it if I really did do it and probably turn myself into the police, throwing myself down in a meteorological toddler tantrum whilst proclaiming "I deserve to be locked away from all life form.... I'm not right in the brain" kinda thang.
So to say I'm concerned about forthcoming changes in my hormones is a very real thought! "
I just googled "does pmt mean worse menopause symptoms" theres information there that might help |
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"What you need to do is get rid of the dog and start a collecting loads of stray cats, Don't forget to mumble random words when walking about, It also helps if you don't wash your clothes for a few months,
That should scare of any potential partner "
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?"
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?Wait till you get to my age,you will mature like a good wine do not worry"
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for
Well if that's all that happens to me, I'll be no different to how I am now! Xx
I know this is a serious thread but you're making me laugh.
You think you've got problems,I looked down at my legs today and my knees are getting wrinkles
It started coz I was just thinking is all. I know I'm a fucker when I'm due on, can't take any kind of contraception due to it sending me fucking doolally. Like I could stab some cunt it the eyeball with a cocktail stick sent like a spitball from a maccy d's straw just for the crack.... I'd cry about it if I really did do it and probably turn myself into the police, throwing myself down in a meteorological toddler tantrum whilst proclaiming "I deserve to be locked away from all life form.... I'm not right in the brain" kinda thang.
So to say I'm concerned about forthcoming changes in my hormones is a very real thought!
I just googled "does pmt mean worse menopause symptoms" theres information there that might help"
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for
Well if that's all that happens to me, I'll be no different to how I am now! Xx
I know this is a serious thread but you're making me laugh.
You think you've got problems,I looked down at my legs today and my knees are getting wrinkles
It started coz I was just thinking is all. I know I'm a fucker when I'm due on, can't take any kind of contraception due to it sending me fucking doolally. Like I could stab some cunt it the eyeball with a cocktail stick sent like a spitball from a maccy d's straw just for the crack.... I'd cry about it if I really did do it and probably turn myself into the police, throwing myself down in a meteorological toddler tantrum whilst proclaiming "I deserve to be locked away from all life form.... I'm not right in the brain" kinda thang.
So to say I'm concerned about forthcoming changes in my hormones is a very real thought!
I just googled "does pmt mean worse menopause symptoms" theres information there that might help
I'm gonna peep through one eye."
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for
Well if that's all that happens to me, I'll be no different to how I am now! Xx
I know this is a serious thread but you're making me laugh.
You think you've got problems,I looked down at my legs today and my knees are getting wrinkles
It started coz I was just thinking is all. I know I'm a fucker when I'm due on, can't take any kind of contraception due to it sending me fucking doolally. Like I could stab some cunt it the eyeball with a cocktail stick sent like a spitball from a maccy d's straw just for the crack.... I'd cry about it if I really did do it and probably turn myself into the police, throwing myself down in a meteorological toddler tantrum whilst proclaiming "I deserve to be locked away from all life form.... I'm not right in the brain" kinda thang.
So to say I'm concerned about forthcoming changes in my hormones is a very real thought!
I just googled "does pmt mean worse menopause symptoms" theres information there that might help
I'm gonna peep through one eye.
Quick before your eyesights diminishes and you can't see it "
If I start running away now do you think it'll catch me?!
I shall give the world fair warning when the implosion is likely |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for
Well if that's all that happens to me, I'll be no different to how I am now! Xx
I know this is a serious thread but you're making me laugh.
You think you've got problems,I looked down at my legs today and my knees are getting wrinkles
It started coz I was just thinking is all. I know I'm a fucker when I'm due on, can't take any kind of contraception due to it sending me fucking doolally. Like I could stab some cunt it the eyeball with a cocktail stick sent like a spitball from a maccy d's straw just for the crack.... I'd cry about it if I really did do it and probably turn myself into the police, throwing myself down in a meteorological toddler tantrum whilst proclaiming "I deserve to be locked away from all life form.... I'm not right in the brain" kinda thang.
So to say I'm concerned about forthcoming changes in my hormones is a very real thought!
I just googled "does pmt mean worse menopause symptoms" theres information there that might help
I'm gonna peep through one eye.
Quick before your eyesights diminishes and you can't see it
If I start running away now do you think it'll catch me?!
I shall give the world fair warning when the implosion is likely "
seriously though. If you do suffer that bad with pmt as someone said it might be worth chatting to a doctor now to see if anything can be done for damage limitation. I do know women who have had the coil fitted to help them through the menapause |
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"I'm 40 next, a grandma, and feel better about myself than I ever have. I'm certainly not the slimmest or most attractive physically I've ever been, but I like me and I know me now, and I could never say that when I was younger.
If a man is with me then lucky him lol, and if he doesn't think so too, onto the next !
I'm happy with who I am now for the most part. I do wonder though whether I'd be imposing impending doom on another person!
Menopause isn't always bad. Some women still have regular periods in their early 60s according to my gynaecologist..
Yeah I was regular as clockwork until one day I wasn't. I never had a hot flush in my life!
Nor l but it's frowned upon to say you've had an easy menopause. I think I was about 58 when I had my last period.
I'm pleased for ya. Gives others hope!
I know some women suffer dreadfully and I empathise. I do think menopause would be feared less if there were more positive stories but nobody seems that interested in women who get a bit more hairy and can't remember what they went upstairs for
Well if that's all that happens to me, I'll be no different to how I am now! Xx
I know this is a serious thread but you're making me laugh.
You think you've got problems,I looked down at my legs today and my knees are getting wrinkles
It started coz I was just thinking is all. I know I'm a fucker when I'm due on, can't take any kind of contraception due to it sending me fucking doolally. Like I could stab some cunt it the eyeball with a cocktail stick sent like a spitball from a maccy d's straw just for the crack.... I'd cry about it if I really did do it and probably turn myself into the police, throwing myself down in a meteorological toddler tantrum whilst proclaiming "I deserve to be locked away from all life form.... I'm not right in the brain" kinda thang.
So to say I'm concerned about forthcoming changes in my hormones is a very real thought!
I just googled "does pmt mean worse menopause symptoms" theres information there that might help
I'm gonna peep through one eye.
Quick before your eyesights diminishes and you can't see it
If I start running away now do you think it'll catch me?!
I shall give the world fair warning when the implosion is likely seriously though. If you do suffer that bad with pmt as someone said it might be worth chatting to a doctor now to see if anything can be done for damage limitation. I do know women who have had the coil fitted to help them through the menapause"
I will talk the the quack. I'm generally an angry little shit when I'm due on and I'm sensitive too, but that's nothing compared to when I've used hormonal contraception, especially the injection. Jesus I was evil. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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My dear peachy - you know what I think - quit worrying about ifs and maybes and embrace the fuck out of the here and now - enjoy the wild ride ahead and deal with anything else as it comes.
Anyone who is half decent will want to be with you for you regardless of what may or may not happen - don't live to regret not jumping at the chance of the true happiness you deserve due to the overthinking monster getting in the way. |
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"My dear peachy - you know what I think - quit worrying about ifs and maybes and embrace the fuck out of the here and now - enjoy the wild ride ahead and deal with anything else as it comes.
Anyone who is half decent will want to be with you for you regardless of what may or may not happen - don't live to regret not jumping at the chance of the true happiness you deserve due to the overthinking monster getting in the way."
Oh the opportunity hasn't arisen, I was just thinking aloud is all. X |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?
Its finding someone who wants the good, the bad and the bits we try to throw away... Someone who can both accept and enhance who we are.
You are a very attractive woman, intelligent and witty. The kind any half decent man would jump at now, let alone in another 10, 20 years.
Personally if i lived closer id be trying to persuade you on a date if i knew you through here or not.
I do know I'm in my prime, I've not felt this happy within myself for as long as I can remember. Probably just the whole "how long before shit goes wonky donkey?" monster creeping into my thoughts."
Wonky donkey is just life... Im 40, going bald and the aches of an adrenalin filled teenage years are starting to creep in.
I have full on peter pan syndrome.. Im not growing up unless i have too! And even then its optional.. I have fun days and days when i have to do the adulting thing.. As long as you are smiling, that is all that matters  |
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"Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off!
I find imperfections on others endearing
Even the dangly old man balls and random hairs growing out of our ears "
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Yesterday has gone
Tomorrow never comes
Today is all we ever have
If you make today what you want it to be then that's all any of us can do.
Worrying about a future we can't see Peachy...why bother. Just live for now and hope that what comes our way is meant to be x |
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"Oh god you've just made me so depressed, I'm newly single , same sort of age, I was hoping life really does begin at 40. Now I feel doomed!
Oooops
Like I said, I'm happier now with me than I've been for as long as I can remember, it's just the thoughts that sometimes twist my noggin up."
It'd alright, great meet with a younger man and I'm golden again.
It's funny how these things sneak yup on you. |
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"I find myself questioning what the future holds.
As most of you know I'm a singleton and a proper one at that, not a pretend one. I worry that if I were to become not a singleton, that it wouldn't be very fair on that person.
I mean with the menopause in the not too distant future, probable tooth loss and all the other knackered body parts that aging brings, is it just selfish? Yes they may get a couple of decent years out of me, but would it be better to get all the yukky stuff out of the way and then wait until my twighlight years to consider sharing my warts n all?
What are your thoughts?
Its finding someone who wants the good, the bad and the bits we try to throw away... Someone who can both accept and enhance who we are.
You are a very attractive woman, intelligent and witty. The kind any half decent man would jump at now, let alone in another 10, 20 years.
Personally if i lived closer id be trying to persuade you on a date if i knew you through here or not.
I do know I'm in my prime, I've not felt this happy within myself for as long as I can remember. Probably just the whole "how long before shit goes wonky donkey?" monster creeping into my thoughts.
Wonky donkey is just life... Im 40, going bald and the aches of an adrenalin filled teenage years are starting to creep in.
I have full on peter pan syndrome.. Im not growing up unless i have too! And even then its optional.. I have fun days and days when i have to do the adulting thing.. As long as you are smiling, that is all that matters "
I'm very much a big kid, don't like adulting unless it's sexual!
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"Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off!
I find imperfections on others endearing
Even the dangly old man balls and random hairs growing out of our ears
Oh yes that’s fabulous isn’t it - the day your balls drop for the second time and your barber spends more time on your eyebrows, nose and ears then he does on the rest of your head - happy days "
I was being a spanner and letting the meanie thoughts in for longer than they were welcome. I do that sometimes. |
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"Yesterday has gone
Tomorrow never comes
Today is all we ever have
If you make today what you want it to be then that's all any of us can do.
Worrying about a future we can't see Peachy...why bother. Just live for now and hope that what comes our way is meant to be x"
I totally get that darl. But I do get the sense at times that I don't want to burden others. I'm just being honest. Sure, it would be ace if things worked out how we want them to (whatever that may entail) but my inner demons sometimes have me pondering.
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"Oh god you've just made me so depressed, I'm newly single , same sort of age, I was hoping life really does begin at 40. Now I feel doomed!
Oooops
Like I said, I'm happier now with me than I've been for as long as I can remember, it's just the thoughts that sometimes twist my noggin up.
It'd alright, great meet with a younger man and I'm golden again.
It's funny how these things sneak yup on you. "
Completely! One minute all is well and the next a slight thought turns into contemplating what's left of your life, and how things could seem dandy, but are a wolf in sheep's clothing. A bit like tax credits, they benefit the here and now but will bite you in the butt come the new tax year! |
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Im the opposite i dont dwell on whats to come but i do on whats already passed thats what gets me down most i remember the good things but know history rarely repeats the way i remember it but dwell on it anyway |
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"Im the opposite i dont dwell on whats to come but i do on whats already passed thats what gets me down most i remember the good things but know history rarely repeats the way i remember it but dwell on it anyway"
It could be a shred of the past creeping in. I've got scars and demons. As shit as they are they're "safe" because you know them. They act like a barrier to prevent you making the same mistakes again, even though making those same mistakes is highly unlikely. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off!
I find imperfections on others endearing
Even the dangly old man balls and random hairs growing out of our ears
Oh yes that’s fabulous isn’t it - the day your balls drop for the second time and your barber spends more time on your eyebrows, nose and ears then he does on the rest of your head - happy days
I was being a spanner and letting the meanie thoughts in for longer than they were welcome. I do that sometimes."
I thought you and that skull had had words about that!! |
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"Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off!
I find imperfections on others endearing
Even the dangly old man balls and random hairs growing out of our ears
Oh yes that’s fabulous isn’t it - the day your balls drop for the second time and your barber spends more time on your eyebrows, nose and ears then he does on the rest of your head - happy days
I was being a spanner and letting the meanie thoughts in for longer than they were welcome. I do that sometimes.
I thought you and that skull had had words about that!! "
We did. Maybe I need to smash it in some kind of rebirthing ceremony? |
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over a year ago
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"Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off!
I find imperfections on others endearing
Even the dangly old man balls and random hairs growing out of our ears
Oh yes that’s fabulous isn’t it - the day your balls drop for the second time and your barber spends more time on your eyebrows, nose and ears then he does on the rest of your head - happy days
I was being a spanner and letting the meanie thoughts in for longer than they were welcome. I do that sometimes.
I thought you and that skull had had words about that!!
We did. Maybe I need to smash it in some kind of rebirthing ceremony?"
So long as you don't try and properly re-birth it |
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I grew old at 25. It still hurts! You know, I’m old and crabby too and only a little older than you so I know exactly what it is to have one foot in the grave already! The past was tough. The future’s gonna be tougher! But you know the best way of trying to reverse the aging process is to say ‘Fuck’ as often as possible. Then actually Fuck as often as possible! It’s the best therapy! |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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I wish I was 40 again Peach. Make the most of today, live in the moment because before you know it you will be a fossil like me. Make time for the things you like doing or embrace a new challenge ( I only started cycling two years ago). Believe your worth it because you are. x |
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"Stop the negative waves, find someone and grow old disgracefully with each other, then you can fall apart together, remember us guys also have our problems and bits falling off!
I find imperfections on others endearing
Even the dangly old man balls and random hairs growing out of our ears
Oh yes that’s fabulous isn’t it - the day your balls drop for the second time and your barber spends more time on your eyebrows, nose and ears then he does on the rest of your head - happy days
I was being a spanner and letting the meanie thoughts in for longer than they were welcome. I do that sometimes.
I thought you and that skull had had words about that!!
We did. Maybe I need to smash it in some kind of rebirthing ceremony?
So long as you don't try and properly re-birth it "
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"I wish I was 40 again Peach. Make the most of today, live in the moment because before you know it you will be a fossil like me. Make time for the things you like doing or embrace a new challenge ( I only started cycling two years ago). Believe your worth it because you are. x"
The very last line you wrote. That's the key isn't it. Really believing you're worth it. |
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over a year ago
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"I wish I was 40 again Peach. Make the most of today, live in the moment because before you know it you will be a fossil like me. Make time for the things you like doing or embrace a new challenge ( I only started cycling two years ago). Believe your worth it because you are. x
The very last line you wrote. That's the key isn't it. Really believing you're worth it. "
Yes it is. Its not really about how we look its how we think we look. I have found exercise makes me feel better about myself so due to this I have more confidence. Age is just a number! Im also very single and have been for 10 years so I know what you mean.
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"I wish I was 40 again Peach. Make the most of today, live in the moment because before you know it you will be a fossil like me. Make time for the things you like doing or embrace a new challenge ( I only started cycling two years ago). Believe your worth it because you are. x
The very last line you wrote. That's the key isn't it. Really believing you're worth it.
Yes it is. Its not really about how we look its how we think we look. I have found exercise makes me feel better about myself so due to this I have more confidence. Age is just a number! Im also very single and have been for 10 years so I know what you mean.
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I'm growling because I thought I'd let go of the negativity of a very unhealthy and damaging relationship.
To those who feel it acceptable and in some cases enjoyable to mentally abuse and crush the self worth of those you supposedly love....Just don't. It has a long and profound effect and I hope you all rot alone. |
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over a year ago
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"I wish I was 40 again Peach. Make the most of today, live in the moment because before you know it you will be a fossil like me. Make time for the things you like doing or embrace a new challenge ( I only started cycling two years ago). Believe your worth it because you are. x
The very last line you wrote. That's the key isn't it. Really believing you're worth it.
Yes it is. Its not really about how we look its how we think we look. I have found exercise makes me feel better about myself so due to this I have more confidence. Age is just a number! Im also very single and have been for 10 years so I know what you mean.
I'm growling because I thought I'd let go of the negativity of a very unhealthy and damaging relationship.
To those who feel it acceptable and in some cases enjoyable to mentally abuse and crush the self worth of those you supposedly love....Just don't. It has a long and profound effect and I hope you all rot alone. "
As a sentient being you are wonderful and deserve all the joy and happiness being alive has to offer please don’t let anyone or anything detract it from you |
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"I wish I was 40 again Peach. Make the most of today, live in the moment because before you know it you will be a fossil like me. Make time for the things you like doing or embrace a new challenge ( I only started cycling two years ago). Believe your worth it because you are. x
The very last line you wrote. That's the key isn't it. Really believing you're worth it.
Yes it is. Its not really about how we look its how we think we look. I have found exercise makes me feel better about myself so due to this I have more confidence. Age is just a number! Im also very single and have been for 10 years so I know what you mean.
I'm growling because I thought I'd let go of the negativity of a very unhealthy and damaging relationship.
To those who feel it acceptable and in some cases enjoyable to mentally abuse and crush the self worth of those you supposedly love....Just don't. It has a long and profound effect and I hope you all rot alone.
As a sentient being you are wonderful and deserve all the joy and happiness being alive has to offer please don’t let anyone or anything detract it from you "
I'll give the bleeder a bunch of fives if I ever pass him on this mortal planet again. That's a lie, I'll smile and wave, then laugh all the way to the happy factory. |
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"What's a slut drop Ebony "
Hahaha I questioned it when my girls said I do a great one.
It's doing a very naughty dance and lowering very quickly to a crouching position and shaking my booty lol |
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